I Don'T Fear Hair Loss (Full Episode) | Goodman Factory Podcast

The hair type movie is that basically it would be like how mine is on the sides. It was just tattooed on yeah, so it looked like that tattooed, you know what you know, what anyone that's got them, so I think I've seen some celebrities of it. I can't I can't name any right now off the top of my head, but I'm sure I've seen it. No one in your circle has ever had anything done. Oh no, one in my close Circle. No, I don't know that yeah there's a few yeah yeah. What the tattoo or the the hair transplant I've seen the hair transplant a couple. Football managers look at the beach laughs if they ever watched this, though you know what I don't I I I won't judge him man as long as the man feels good in himself. After he's done it, that's all that matters as long as he he's happy cool, it's his life. I think I'm not a judge. Welcome back to another episode of the Goodman fat tree, I'm here with two of my brothers. Today, we've got good man. Rizzy we've got good man Mac we're here to touch on a topic that can affect all of us, but at the moment has only affected me um and it's um something I've done a video about recently talking about hair loss. So I bought my two brothers in who don't have the issues that I'm facing right now, just to talk about it. We'Ve had so many people comment, um a lot of interaction on the posts that have gone out. So we thought let's go into a bit more depth and um and yeah. What do you mind saying like in terms of let's just jump into it right in terms of going boards? Is there something you think about? Is it something you worry about? I want to say daily, but it's not it's. I don't think it's that deep I'll be honest but um. It is something that I feel like us. Men do think about, especially if you're, if you've got a full head of hair and a lot of your friends. Don'T or if you start to see, thinning and all the rest of it but um it's always at the back of my mind, yeah yeah, like especially when, every time I go Barbara there's times, I've noticed It's Getting Thinner here. Even great hits the great thing. I'M not too, that's that's a little bit of a stress for me, but the boarding thing, because I went bored early back. I'M talking that it first got highlighted at that 21.. Oh you're dead. It got highlighted at 21. I was I was in the you know. What it was the corner started to go. Yeah black see, I've noticed that yeah I've noticed the corners are like are pushing back, but what I did was I just I just went on Google on this Google, like what do I actually put like to encourage hair growth? I'Ve done exactly the same thing seriously. Yeah straight away: yeah Rosemary peppermint oil, peppermint oil, yeah there's another one called mix mix um. Is it minoxidil minoxidil? That'S it! I never use that on my um, my Corners because I felt like apparently the hair falls out first and then it grows back and I couldn't risk. I think I noticed that because I used it, I used it in the corners. I didn't see a difference that within six months, yeah kind of like encouraged growth, so it actually works. I was going to say: minoxidil apparently does that, but they've done an experiment on like peppermint oil and rosemary oil and apparently has the same effect of less side effects for the random that really want to maintain you're going to start using Rosemary Rosemary the blessing. With this, yeah is you're able to just Google go on YouTube and that I didn't we're talking 15 years ago. I didn't have a platform that was talking about it. I didn't have the option of like obviously Google was there, but it weren't, like the information went there. It was literally um. There was a company in London Victoria, Belgravia, hair loss center right. That was like. That was like one of my first choices. I was like. Let me go there, so I went there and you go in there and you're waiting and you're sweating as it is because you're like and there's bear man going in and out and and then I had my appointment. So I got and they're looking at my head and they're like yeah yeah, we can, we can help yeah. So what they said is we can't bring back the hair. That'S gone because at this point it was that thin. It was thinning out black all over, like that. We can't bring back the hair, that's gone, but the hairware is starting to thin even more um. If you take the lotion and the tablets, you can bring that back and hold on to it. So I was that. Okay, cool it was, it would have been about three bills a month yeah, it would have been it was. It was expensive, but the worst part was the side effects whether it can affect downstairs. What hmm? No! It'S, not that new, because it reduces your testosterone. It does something yeah yeah, that's that's what I think. That'S what I draw so all right, all right. So if I bought it to you, man not yet - and I said I said you can take a dip downstairs - yeah but maintain the hairline or all of it's got a goal. Wow I'll shave it off myself. What, if it wasn't guaranteed it was like it could happen. So if you take this, if, if you take these tablets, yeah there's a 30 chance that it could have fit down there. But you know, if you don't, there's a hundred percent chance that hair's going. I still wouldn't do it yeah I'll, be the Unlucky person. I always say that for 30. No! Yes, I don't think it's. What did you think? No? No! No! No! No! No! No! No! No! No! I was actually. I left them more depressed because I was that rare, like I'm, not sacrificing that so this is it now that and then the next step. I remember seeing this cricketer this this old white cricketer on TV late at night doing this advert for it was that infrared it was that infrared hair like they could bring it back through infrared yeah. So I was like all right cool. Let me go look into that, and that was that four four grand yeah crazy and I was like no it's too there's nothing that yeah. That'S when I got more depressed, because it was that rare there's, no hope that you see when you're holding on to all right, there's this and there's that it was that there's no there's no hope so then depression that I literally started to get a bit more Depressed and I was having my my eldest at the time - and I had the clothes on top that so it was that hair was everything to me yeah. So then, when you know, I've always said this losing something is different, because people are a lot of women. Commented and spoke about um women, changing their bodies or something like that and men going to get hair transplants and they almost compared it and I'm like if a woman's changing her body she's trying to get something she's never had before for man's trying to get his Hair, like done he's, trying to get something back that he wanted yeah. I feel like it's too different things, but when you manalac go into The Barbers or or whatever as you're getting older as well, are you, like you, mentioned you're, noticing your hairline going back? I'Ve I've noticed it going back in the past in the past yeah. I'Ve managed to revive it now so, but do you think sometimes that's just where The Barbers push the head on back a bit? No, I actually noticed it. I noticed. I know I saw the difference. I was a bit worried. The hair was filling in the corners 100. I noticed basically, so I've got two two stories. Basically, I had the same thing about the corners and the hairline not going back as quick. So, there's that, but then also I've realized a recent right in the center. My hair is thinning and it's making this like end Shake. So I would have the McDonald's Double McDonald's thing on my head: no, it's not M for for McDonald's. It'S M for millionaires whatever storms literally, but I'm having that thinning in the middle, and I don't know what's going on see for me. Like I said, Corners went back and then I'm in a barber chair, a different Barber cut in my hair and he can see the back. I can't obviously see the back yeah and I just remember him trimming trimming and he was there. Oh you're, starting to thin loud like loud, I swear I had to like. I knew in it. I was like oh yeah, it's probably just the the products I'm using as if like. If I just stop using the products, it's gon na come back, but then I left there and I was like no it's real now in it like since he's announced it. It'S a real lack, because you can't see the back. A lot of people focus on the corners, but I think naturally, as you're getting older, your hairline isn't going to be as strong. Anyway, you look at a young boy, he's 14, 15 and you're like the hairline's crisp in it solid bro. I can't even see that scalp, but when they get a low haircut I can't see nothing. Obviously, so I was gon na say you can use enhancement or the the spray and the paint and all the rest of it. But some of these man, natural hairline, is so solid. I don't understand like I want to ask them: no is it the genetics or is it just like? Well a lot of it's the spray dogs that spray that you know The Barbers are spraying on the head. Now, enhancement, yeah, it makes it look a lot more makes your your lineup looks sharper. So that's one of the things I wanted to touch and do you think there's more pressure on like the younger generation when it comes to like looking fresh with your hairline and haircuts, because now you see it on Tick, Tock, there's like Barbers and the hairlands. So on point and everyone's trying to get this perfect shape up yeah yeah, but to me not everyone's got that hairline, so I almost, I think it was. I think I think it's the same pressure, because I remember when I was young um. A lot of players in my school um were obsessed with the idea of having like a the perfect hairline. So I think this history repeats itself. Every generation young people always feel like. Oh, I've got an extra my hairline's intact and then, as you get older, you realize you know things change yeah I was gon na say I saw one of your posts about trying not to get too attached to your your hair. Your hair is not you per se, but I still feel like, especially as a young man. I don't know if you remember that stage where probably mid-teens or late teens, where you just wanted to grow your hair. For no reason it wasn't even neat, but you just knew that that was your. It was almost like a Mane. You just wanted that hair on your head in the summer. You didn't care in the winter. He didn't care just wanted hair in your head and it was massive but um, but I get your point. I get your plan about not being attached to him, because if it goes, then what you have to almost reinvent yourself, almost or Reef refund yourself, if that's even a word, like obviously your hair's short, so it's kind of like it's already sorted kind of thing. Like you probably like, do you have to do anything to do you spend time on your hair in the morning like the either of you really yeah I'll talk you through my routine but I'll? Let visit so so I I like condition and wash my hair like every four days, yeah, so um and all I use is honestly. I use good man beard oil in my hair. It says yeah. I rub. I rubbed the oil and like it on my edges. Um, I may use a bit of castor oil and mix it with the good man beard, oil, yeah, um mix it together and then rub it in my hair and that's it literally, but that's a daily thin oil. Then there's a daily film every three days. Let'S say because I don't actually, I don't like when my hair's got too much oil yeah, I feel like my mine is similar. I use the Goodman um beard, oil and I mix it with the peppermint and the rosemary oil. They say you should use a carrier. Oil, sometimes I use castor oils or mix it all together and just rub it into my hand and brush do rag, but I'll usually do that after the shower. So my hair is damp. You know what I saw a few comments on the pole saying that durag affects your hairline. Is that true? I think it does so. It kind of like um, reduces circulation right because these men wearing today you're having it, though so. That'S the thing. Some people wear it too tight. Some people wear it all day every day until they go into an event and then they take it off kind of thing. I would only wear it for half an hour to an hour max because you can't breathe. That'S what I'm saying yeah! That'S that's what I was saying: it's hotness, but yeah, especially around there yeah yeah, so some people start losing hair there first on the back of their head because they weren't a direct too tired or they're wearing it. For too long. You need to let everything breathe literally, so I would only wear my durag after the shower after I've moisturized or oiled, my hair and my bed put the direct on and then as soon as my hair feels dry, which is usually half an hour to an hour. I'Ll take it off. I know you're enjoying this conversation, but I'm here to remind you that this episode is sponsored by a good man: beard, oil, plant-based chemical, free beard, oil to soften and moisturize. Your facial hair order now goodmanfactory.com and use code g pod one and become a good man today. So, if you're, reflecting back on your high school self, what was the routine like? That was a lot different. I was a lot different slapped on everything yeah. A lot of petroleum based products you took out my hair. I was putting Blue Magic. Remember that books. Do you have the wax ones? You have the ones that are like thick creams and all the recipes yeah I've still got. I bet you know. They'Ve put so many parrot parabens in there, don't explain it don't expire. You could have it that thing's older than my son. I think that at least two decades old bro, like literally like so I used to grow my Afro when I was young um. So I just put petroleum-based Blue Magic in my hair and then afropomme just calm. It all out see now here's the thing here because we say products can cause hair loss yeah, but you might have just said you used to throw a whole heap on and we're in different positions, but as weight do you think there is in that in this Products are causing the hair loss. Oh that's a good question. You know what honestly I think genetics has a huge part to play in your hair and from what my dad still has hair to this day. He just decides to shave it all the time, but he does grow here. Um my mum. She I remember when she was 40 years old. Her hair was long. So I would say I get it from my parents um, but the products you use does it affect your. You know how your hair grows: yeah, yeah um, but what I still have here like this - if I was still using those products to this day, because I reckon I stopped at the right time for for the past 10 years, I've not used any petroleum-based products. In my hair, so it could be different if I was still using those products, because there is the myth of lack people that are bored. It'S, like my mom used to say like Skips a generation or like it's on your mom's side or your dad's side. There'S so many different stories about hair loss running in the family now have you heard any myths as you've grown up yeah? They normally say when, if you go, ball is because of genetics as well, but I think it does play a part in a sense. But when they're saying when they say, for example, um some people that go bored have bids is because of the genetics that um. So the hormones that help you grow beard on the same hormones that block or cause you to lose hair. I'Ve heard that as well. I'Ve actually researched that as well. Really it just starts to do this thing like it looks like wires when it tries to get that long. It just doesn't look good, but I think there's genetics do play A Part as well and, like um Rizzy said when, if I was using the same products as I was when I was a teenager or early 20s, I so much it would have been there yeah. I reckon my hair would have been gone yeah I use Esco, that's cool yeah! No, if I'd use that now I would hair decides like sizzling bro, there's no way I could use it. I would go to my my friend's brother um first got me into it because I would see his head have these crisp curls yeah and then I was like oh what'd, you put in your hair and he's like. Oh do Esco. He was a couple years older, but he was a barber like, but in the estate barber in the estate so um I would literally after school, go around there to get my haircut and I'd be there from like seven I'd, be there till about midnight. Still one trim because it would start stop he'd go DJ for a bit on the side he had turntables. It was like this maneuf. I was getting a trim there yeah, I'm gon na, be there for hours like and um yeah. He put. I remember he put um Esco one and there was times when I would do it myself, but that stuff would burn that burns. If you leave it in too long as well and I'm not gon na lie. Sometimes I leave it in just a little bit longer. Yeah just to be like you know what I just wanted, yeah that might play that might be a huge part to play to the hair loss. No, because this is what I see you know, this is where my idea of like the myths just go out. The window yeah when it comes to products is because most people put products in their whole head yeah, but you're only ever going to lose hair. On top right, no one loses their hair around the sand. So if it was the products, then you'd lose everything. So why is it just because I think that is male pattern, baldness, that that is when men go bald. It is on the top. So I don't think it's product related. I personally think it's genetics. If you've got it, if you're gon na lose it you're gon na lose it I'm I'm still, I'm still not a believer in that bro. I can't lie it's a mix of many fingers, many factors, but one thing that we've not mentioned is stress - stress also plays a big part too. I think in a way, is, I think, with stress it can speed up everything, yeah, definitely yeah illnesses, hair loss. I think, if you're on a path to it happening, stress will just pick up speed. You know you know, what's crazy I've. Actually, there was actually a point where I started losing hair um in the middle of my head, as in your crown yeah like I had a bold patch like there was a a patch where there was literally no hair growing, and that was a time when I Was like I was I was I was so stressed out, but I noticed that I'm losing hair because I'm stressed out so that becomes alopecia. Doesn'T it that's like a form because I've had patches in my bed right when I've gone mad when I've been mad stressed, I've noticed like it's normally on the same side as well, it'd be like a lat patch and I'm like damn like imagine. I don't know why we didn't even speak about um stress first actually stress play is a big part when I wasn't sleeping enough there's a lot of things going on in my life and then the corners started to go that same middle thing, Vegeta. Everything else is, you know what I mean everything's like shape, but this thing that this board patch I have when when I comb my hair back yeah, it's it's I feel like it is related to hormone stress and all the rest of it. But when I, when I'm stressed - and I have a lack of sleep yeah, it messes my hairline straight away and then my bed feels thin or wiry. I can tell the difference straight away. So if I have two consecutive days of no stress and good sleep, everything goes back as normal. It'S so weird, but it's real it's real. I feel that stress is a major, a major factor, but it's also something that we don't. Probably we could probably do a whole episode of stress in itself, but, like are you when you men feel like you're getting stressed, are you already putting steps in place to prevent that or is it when you see the effects stress is having on lack your hairline Or your beard that your then back, you know what I need to fix. This yeah often come me personally, sometimes I'm very reactive and sort of proactive. So I won't prevent the stresses only when I'm in distress that I realize that okay, I need to do something about it, but I wish I was more proactive to be fair yeah. I think when I was younger, I used to just get on with it. I wouldn't know that that was stress because, because you hear about the feeling - stress stress stress, but it's like what is stress, but then when you're affected and you see the symptoms, then you're like. Oh, so that's what my body does when I'm stressed out. But now I know my body I feel like I've mastered my body now, so I can feel stress coming. I can feel it in my dreads at certain. Certain areas of my body feels tense and then I start putting that self-care practices into place so like to prevent the stress and that's and that's key, so you have to know your body. You need to know yourself. I think that's very important. Another thing I want to touch on how how important do you feel that diet is when it comes to that your hair, maintaining good, healthy hair, so that diet plays a key role, I'm sure it does 100 yeah yeah. Have you noticed anything? Have you noticed anything about yourselves full stop when obviously there's there's the easy one which is weight gain yeah, but if you're just going through a phase where you're just eating a Madness, do you feel like you, you can visibly see the effects it has on yeah. Definitely, what kind of what kind of things do you notice in your sauce like, for example, if I'm, if I'm being reactive again, and I see my hairlands thinning and all the rest of it, I check if I'm using, like my multivitamins, I check my diet. I check my sleep patterns and also make sure I'm taking like vitamin um sorry biotin with zinc. So I like to do a lot of research. But how important is the research like because some people don't do it right? I feel like it's a key. It'S a key, let's say component in China, sometimes prevent stress, but also trying to find answers to certain things that we will never talk when we're younger. So sometimes our parents will say something that's very, almost mythical, but there's actual science behind where this happens, or that happens to your body and all the rest of it and, like you said, obviously we understand our bodies now, but um. Sometimes it may have happened to someone that you don't know, so someone might have the same thing as them to keep talking about that Center thing. So when you, Google, it and or when you try to research or do some more reading, you realize that it could be related to this this or that, and you need to do this to prevent it or you could do this to bring things back so for, Like research especially related to yourself, it's very important because it helps with the self-care it helps with prevent interest. It helps with just maintaining a certain level of does Health. Let'S call it yeah. You know the thing, though I get more stressed when there's too many options so, for example, you've mentioned 101 oils, yeah, yeah and like that, would stress me out I'd be like okay, which ones do I need when do? I need them all of this, because there's too many I'm a simple guy where's. That just tell me the one thing I need like, because I do I stress myself out when it's like. Okay, do I need this or this or this you mentioned Costa Oil when yeah - and you mentioned Rosemary, Rosemary turmeric, massive Ginger, Ginger oil as well. Apparently, I've heard that as well. You know what I would advise just making a mixture yeah hundred percent. There is nothing wrong with getting having multiple products and mixing them together. Sometimes I use like nyla's baby, which is a cream form for kids and I'll mix, that with uh Goodman bedo and Robin so you know the thing: I've always thought yeah, if you're using so many things. How do you know what's working and what's not? This is the issue. Do you know what I mean? How would you actually know that's working, you know what I do again from the research I'm joking about like and certain oils do similar things, so you don't necessarily need peppermint oil, for example, and rosemary oil. But if you want to simplify things, you can, but I like to put everything in it, because I know this will help with that, but it might not help with um the strength of my hair. This will help with the circulation but might not help with the moisturization of my hair. So if you just cross them over - and you don't have to put - you - don't - have to put too much a few drops here and like some people recommend five drops of whatever mixture you've made. But some people will literally pour the whole bottle and rub it into their beard and I'm sure that's not good for you yeah. I could never do that with castor oil. Castor oil is too thick, so it's just like just a few drops with. I actually went to the doctors when I first started losing my hair right, because that was that and what did they say because I was young. It was that to me, I shouldn't be losing my hair um and they recommend you know. Doctors is like just general win it like they don't they're, not specific. They they're not specializing in one area, so they're kind of probably Googling themselves um. They gave me think it was like a spray or it was. It was some like lotion to just to just use, but it was steroids. It was like a steroid lotion of some sort and I was using that for time and it wasn't working and I don't know what that was that was putting on. But you just no. But in my head, I'm like okay, it's recommended by the doctor. So therefore they know they know what they're doing it was a steroids. They always do that. I don't know why they um, recommend steroid sprays to hopefully increase blood flow into that area. Right, that's what it's meant to be. Isn'T it it's a reduction of blood flow into your follicles or yeah? I don't know no one's spoken about the Derma roller, so I've started to use that. On my, like my skin and my beard and my hair, I feel like it works. It helped. Well, it's scientifically proven to work. So it's everything I feel like like you're saying, because you can't really determine if it's the Derma roller or that one oil or is it a combination of all of them? You can't really tell, but you know what I strongly believe in just using a bit of everything, just use everything: it's almost like a balanced diet for yourself, yeah man yeah, because all these all these different oils have different use cases. So as long as you're using you know a bit of everything, then it sounds it doesn't matter yeah. You know one thing I realized, though I feel like I feel like Menthol stop at the moment, we're very not I'm not saying we're like women we're becoming more. Like that, when we care about, we've got to use this lotion and not lotion and all of this and we're very mindful of what we're how we're looking, but I don't always feel mindful of how what we're putting into our bodies as well. Do you know what I mean, what good is I'm going McDonald's every day, but I'm using good man bid oil in my hair and doing all of that you see what I'm saying this is. This is why we have conversations on health. This is why we have conversations on like mental health, because it's not only your physical appearance like we're a platform that um raised the importance of self-care, both mentally physically. So this is where we have conversations on on diet. You know lifestyle, it's not just about the the hour of parents and the products you're using to make yourself look nice, but also what you're feeling into your brain. Look by the content, you're watching the books, you're reading the films and shows that you're watching uh. It'S your overall diet, your environment, everything everything plays a part. You know, yeah everything you put in like a wrap, it's way deeper than just the products you're using on your outer appearance. What are you putting inside your body? I know you're enjoying this conversation, but I'm here to remind you that this episode is sponsored by a good man: beard, oil, plant-based chemical, free beard, oil to soften and moisturize. Your facial hair order now goodmanfactory.com and use code g pod one and become a good man. Today, I think it's important to note as well that there is the natural like we're not going to be able to slow down the aging process that when every man here and every man watching is going to get old. At some point - and I said in the last video we there has to be an element of embracing that yeah and a lot of people struggle with it like that you man's hair, it's on point I'm jealous well in 10 years time. It may not look the same yeah because that's the natural progression. Do you know what I'm saying that it's rare that you see a 50 year old with the taste hairline? There is a bit of a u-shape to it or whatever in it um. But do you feel that does does aging worry you? I don't I don't it. Don'T worry me, it's part, it's it's inevitable. Really, so I don't really focus on. Oh my gosh, I'm gon na get old. What do I do or I'm losing? I don't know I'm losing my hair or my hair's going gray and I feel like embrace it really realistically as much as you can you're trying to hold on to your hair now, for example, because we're specifically talking about hair. But I feel like this embrace the change you're you're, naturally going like you said we're naturally going to get older a solution right yeah. Why not just that embrace it! You know what I think: it's it's that thing of like people being too attached to the way they look now like over time. I think it's just part of life that you know things change. You know and you're, not gon na always look the same. No matter. You can try your hardest to, but you know life just will throw reality at you, and you know I've accepted that I'm gon na age. It'S a beautiful Journey conscious. You know, but I was surprised by a lot of the comments that I saw from men yeah. It'S no a lot of young boys below the age of 20. That said that, after watching your video talking about hair loss that they felt depressed like this watching this video is depressing uh facing the reality that one they're gon na lose here. I don't think it's. I don't I don't really perceive it as something to be depressed about it's just a lot for us. I think it's a massive confidence thing, though, like you feel better like if every man here had on certain gums, we're going to feel more confident. Guy now, yeah than if we had that, I don't know holes in our top or whatever, like it's a confidence thing yeah. You want to look your best and people naturally think if I'm losing my hair, I'm not at my best or if I've put on weight. I'M not at my best. Do you see what I mean, so I think it's a major confidence thing there, which you only really get over once you like for me anyway, once I fully embraced it black all right, I'm going boards, nothing I can do about it. Now that removing that freed me up yeah like because the process that you might have said like okay, I'm losing the corners and I'm gon na, do this and I'm gon na try this and I've got. That was that sounded like stress to me like that, because you're in that, in that zone of like I want to hold on to it as long as I can so, what do I need to do in order to hold on to it? So you just surrendered once I gave up how's that you're a free man yeah. So when I do see a certain men that I like doing the most or they're they're thinking of this solution or that solution, I'm like that, you probably that just accept it that have you ever thought. This is one of the things I thought about when I was going bored yeah just shaving off to see what you'd look like. I thought about it: Africa, Africa, okay, you know, I don't know about my head. It would give you that it would give you that sense of you know what worst case scenario if I ever do go, but this is how I'm gon na look. But you know you can grow hair, so there's the comfort of where it's going to come back for now, because I was like, I don't know how I'm gon na look. I don't know how I'm gon na look and how I look at it is you've got short hair anyway, so men out there that have short hair you're not going to look different, not that much yeah. You have a little idea of what you're going to look like you can see your head shape like I feel like you'll, be fine. I genuinely feel because you've got your hair short yeah. No, I know what you mean. I still feel like I'm fighting for the short hair Bros now right now, yeah. If, even though you can tone my head shape from because my hair is quite low, I still thought it plays a major part in the way. I look that I won't. Obviously, I'm going to look different because I've got no hair at all. If I take it all off, I'm trying to imagine that now you know what I mean like. I can't explain it. I'Ve had my hair like very low. In the summer I had my hair low and when I looked in the mirror, I was thinking you're like an uncle. You know, grow this hair honestly. Do you feel that one of the things that most people do when they start being bored, is wearing hats? Yeah? I'Ve noticed that after that, do you think that's more in the past. I used to see it all the time. Why are you wearing a hat bro? That was me no matter what I had on feared Heartwood, even if the fitted hat did not match the color of the outfit, if that's the only fit. I had at the time that would go on my head, because it was this that fear of lack. Oh, no, I don't look, I wasn't accepting it myself and everyone was like. Oh you look once I shaved it off. I can't imagine you were here. I can't imagine you were here. Yeah people get used to it, it's about what people are used to so there's. When I cut my hair, I would always say: oh, I want to grow my hair again and some people be like what right. I don't know how you'd look with that, but when I had hair loads of hair yeah people would be would be like. I imagine you have no hair, so I think it's just you have to get used to how you look if you've cut your hair, then just over time when people get used to seeing your head like that, they don't know anything else other than how you look Now, yeah yeah, so it's always going to look weird once you do it like. Oh, I look different initially yeah, but it's just for a little moment and when I see men with like always wearing that hat because they're not confident about their hair. To me, I think that's very sad man. I think it's certain, like I said in the previous video men that are just holding on to the Lost piece of hair as well a little whatever. It is like whether it's the Como come over yeah black or I look at certain men and I'm like you know what the ones I don't like, where they've actually got hair grown out of the sides yeah right, so they go to The Barbers and they just Get it tidied up, it's normally white people yeah, but it's like they get. The sides tidied up a bit and but there's no hair on top and I'm like. Why would you not just shave it all off? I don't know. Sometimes I feel like it suits. Something. Am I am I doing well, I wouldn't say me because I'm not sure if that falls off everything's coming off yeah. Imagine that you just got the sides, but for some man it I feel like it defeats them. I think if you shave that off you'll just I the logic is you should shave everything off, because you've got no hair day and you've got a lot of hair on the side, but I feel like it suits up man. Certain man, I can't lie yeah, I'm not I'm not a fan of it. I'M not saying for me if I noticed that my hair was going I'll, go bold, that completely bold. So let's touch on that yeah. Just a few more points at what stage would you say it's time the moment I get there? How far would you let it go the moment I see the m there's another one yeah my head, so you you're rather bored like then yeah, literally you'd, rather bully than have the hairline go further back yeah, because I've seen some have you seen some of those Shape ups, where the the sidebars are up there and then you've got the little nah bro, I would say, can't cut everything off. I'M not doing this because I'll get P, you'll get people just look at you like that's bro, just take it off! It'S fine Mike! It'S fine just take it off. I don't think, there's a problem with being bold. I I know I've got a lot of men around me that are bold, that have no problems attractive in women, that's the thing and they and they feel confident in themselves which I find inspiring. So if they're, okay being bold, then then I'll be fine. Being bold. What am I losing yeah, I'm being bold, there's a leash for Boardman anyway, man, you've got your beard as well so grow your beard like your beard, is. I feel like that. Yeah, that's my that's! My worry yeah is if this went. No, no that won't go. Yeah, but if it ever went if that goes, that's stress yeah. That is that, because I've got nothing left after that, that there's nothing just armpit, but in terms of like well modern day Solutions, yeah select, there's people getting hair transplants, there's the hair tattoo yeah, I'm not gon na lie. Some of that looks convincing. It does look convincing. Is there would you ever consider any of those Alternatives? If you was going down that that route, I I personally just couldn't do it. I just think again take it off it's just too much that to me is stress those kind of extremes, not extreme Solutions, but for me it feels excessive. I just couldn't do it. I I rate myself in terms of I like to do things naturally, and I like to do things I like to eliminate any chemicals and petroleum and all the rest of it. If my hair wants to go and I've been using natural products, it's gon na go I'll, just take it off yeah and, like I said um, I want people to feel confident enough to just you know what let me just take it off. I can't bother it. Doesn'T it's not that deep? You know I mean I'm still Mike without my hair. I do lack my waves um, sometimes with my d-rag, but I'm still Mike without my hair. I can still wear my durag. No one will know that I've got no hair under there. You know what I mean, but that's just me. I just think those those kind of procedures for me personally are just too too excessive, I'm exactly the same um I wouldn't do any procedure, I'll just drop the both team just go about completely. Do you know why? Because I feel like by me doing those procedures it, it shows that I'm insecure, I feel like it like. I have I've, told everyone around me that I feel insecure without my hair and I don't want to ever give off that signal into the world all right. So if it's Playing devil's advocate yeah, if you had to use one of the procedures, basically it would be like how mine is on the sides. It was just tattooed on yeah. So like that tattooed, that's insane! You know what you know. Anyone has got them. So obviously, I think I've seen some celebrities of it. I can't I can't name any right now off the top of my head, but I'm sure I've seen it. No one in your circle has ever had anything done. Oh no, one in my closed circle. Now I don't know yeah, there's a few yeah yeah, what the tattoo or the the hair transplant I've seen the hair transplant a couple football managers. If they ever watch this, though you know what I don't I I I won't judge her man as long as the man feels good in himself. After he's done it, that's all that matters as long as he's happy cool. It'S his life are people not to judge. Now I feel you, I think, he's more of the like. I said before the acceptor, like you said that accepting it because say, for example, your hairline starts coming right and you're like right. Let me get hair transplant to bring the hairline back to where it was. Okay, but now other parts start going so you've got this crisp hairline, but now the rest starts thinning, like you saw it with standard. You saw it with Wayne Rooney when man first got a hair transplant looked fresh. Everyone was like, oh my gosh, and then now, if you look at man, it's thinning all over and you have to go back for more right, yeah, but again, I think what they do with people that have hair transplants. They advise them to take the tablet and the tropical solution to prevent the restful. Finish so remember, I said to you when I went to Belgravia they said take this. It will prevent your hair from thinning. If you have a hair transplant, I'm sure they give you stuff to prevent the rest from thinning which again may affect other areas of the two I'll, probably get the um. Really. I think the idea of tattooing your head, but it looks it - looks fairly natural. I'Ve seen it it looks fairly natural, it doesn't look, it actually looks like a stubble for some people. Some people looks a bit exaggerated, but for most people it looks fairly natural. It looks like you've just shaved, your hair off fairly low to stumble level, and it does it's all over kind of thing. There is another procedure where they put hair on your head and then they tie it down. So, like a realistic level, The Weave thing yeah yeah see I can't and all of that that one is the most insane one, but just imagine that if that imagine, if I showed up today with that mentors literally, I sat on the sofa like normal right. Let'S do this here, what's going on you're like no, why are you looking at me like, but you know you know what's crazy when I see the videos of men doing it, you can see the happiness on their face. Like I'm back, I'm back. Do you think it's those guys that have lost their hair early like, for example, is it that was their their identity and all of a sudden they've lost their hair aggressively and they live football, and then we're going for the weave, I feel so loud are genuinely. But my concerned we're going to wrap up here, but my concern is that we always say we always joke as men yeah. If we go to a woman's yard and we stay over and then you wake up and she looks different. Oh yeah how she was like. Imagine if that woman, that the next time you meet her there's no hair like or or she just catches you on road one time, but I think I think, to wrap up. I think that we've all said that the there needs to be an acceptance. Definitely the confidence needs to come from within yeah like you are not your hair, like every man here, isn't a product of there, it's it's something that that is a benefit like, but I think you've got free black man here, all with good confidence. All look looking completely different um, so just make sure that be mindful as well. If you're, making jokes to people that are going through certain situations, you may be causing them more stress, so I just feel like everyone should be mindful that, as we get older, we're all going to go through something we're all going to lose something or gain something. So just be mindful of that, but, like I said previously, love yourself, love who you are and get to know yourself so yeah until next time. Thank you for listening.