What Joanne Said Pt:2 | The African Woman'S Hair Woes| Weigh In Now!

This video, we are talking about by way of Joanne some of the complications and the things that happen on the subconscious level, as African-American women come to terms with this hair thing as she calls it. The symbols that uh Rush up to the surface and some of the difficulties that we experience grappling with the sensitivities and some of the complicated terrain uh that is, that is steeped in our historical context, as I expect her to get into as we go later. But that also is steeped into the understanding or the level of understanding that we have of ourselves as women of African diaspora. As the original woman, she didn't say that I'm saying the original woman okay y'all stick around for the video foreign and Magic's Exquisite fragrance rocks. Aromatherapy for your soul and for your love life experience that I am melanin magic Difference by going to our website www.immelonandmagic.com and purchasing your products today, you can also learn more about the. 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Thank you for supporting the channel tonight is Dr Joanne Cornwell night now last week I got a lot of commentary and I'm gon na go through that commentary to comments, probably in the next video, not this video. Let'S see how good I do trying to keep this video at 20 minutes y'all, let's just see shout out to the beautiful Priscilla shout out to cosetta. I love you coach, that I love you guys. I will cause that'll text me today. She got the samples, then she we canceled the sample and she got the kit and I told her I'd, throw the samples in the kit for her, because that has been my girl like Shay and 10. All of you, other ones, who've been out here since the beginning shout out to Armada. Where are you are made of armada are made of? Where are you Sparrow sending you lots of love so cause that asked me if I knew how to make um Sydney? Well, she called it something else, but I call it zigny, but it's also called zappy. It'S also called several other things, but it's an Ethiopian dish if you've ever been to an Ethiopian restaurant. You have had this because it's going to be either lamb or goat. Now you could put chicken in it depending upon what part of Ethiopia you're from you might. Even just do boiled eggs if you don't eat meat or you might do um even Cod. I'Ve had my girlfriend a mirror, make it with Cod, but it's that stew. That'S spicy as hell, because it's got better Berry in it and you cook it. I made some a big pot of it. Whenever I make it, I make a huge pot of it. I made a big part of it uh this past Sunday, not today, but less has been that long yeah, it's been that long and whenever I make it I'll make a huge pot, okay, this deep, so that I can freeze it because, like spaghetti, the flavors just Intensify also, you don't want to do this all the time. Y'All because is spicy and you got ta sweat the onions, you don't saute the onions, you sweat the onions and it takes about an hour hour and a half to just sweat the onions. So you take it. I cook mine, outside there's, no way I could cook it inside, because you light your house up. It gets in your hair. It gets in your clothes, it's going to get a little bit in your your stuff. Anyway. Sometimes I don't smell, but if you ever smell people from East Africa and they smell like onions and then from Ethiopia, it's going to be because of the zigony. But Ziggy is oh, it's Hollywood. It is so delicious, so shout out to cosetta. I'M gon na give her my family recipe. My nana Sophia is like 20 24 women. I talk about this on my other channel. Y'All need to come over to Butterfly transformations. It'S not a religious Channel come over to Butterfly transformations but um. I used to belong to the old Coop. I did that, maybe three, I guess, four years, it's a money group. It'S based on the premise that, back in the day, those women were so dependent on their husbands in that part of the world that they didn't have money to do some of the things they wanted to do. So they would start taking money from their groceries and other areas of the family budget that the husband gave them to go. And you know the money was earmarked to go to the store and get the mom's groceries. So you shave 20 off the top. Until you get enough money to join a women's group, a coffee boon, oh Coop group and um it just carried over to this country. So I love it because it's like 20 24 women we all put in sometimes it's 400. Sometimes it's a thousand a month. Okay, you stay in the old Coop until you get all the money and then you continue until the cycle completes. So we pull straws to figure out who's gon na get the money. First, It's a Wonderful way to save money. If you have trouble saving money, but also it's an interest-free loan, so let's say, for example, there are 24 women you're the first to get that money. It'S 12 Grand right, let's say you're, putting in 500 to 12 000. You get your 12 000. and over the next two months, two years you continue to put money in, but you get your 12.. So let's say you want to invest in a business or you want to get some pallets of goods shipped over from China so that you can start selling out of your trunk, I'm joking or in a store somewhere. You have the the the capital to do that. So it's a wonderful way so, each month we all get together and whoever's month it is or yeah to to to get the Bounty or to get the booty. Then you everyone descends on their house, and everybody has a dish that they have to bring. But the host has to set the house up, it has to be beautiful. You got to have that unseen before the burning you got to have your tiny little coffee cups. Already the boom station has to be set up because we all sit what they call a fatty saludi, which is the sofas that are low to the ground. That'S what you see me sitting on in the UC commercial. When it comes up, it's not a commercial, but it's a it's a tutorial or an explanation, video, but you you hear you see me sitting on that low red sofa with the artwork behind me, that's similar to that very low to the ground, but you have it In your biggest room in the house, you got all these women in here everybody's dressed up everybody's layered, with these fragrance oils, these these these these you're in your best you're made up. You know it's it's fun, because it's a it's a time to just woman time. All the kids come, but they have stuff to do for the kids. If it's at your house, you need to make sure the kids have a place to run and all of that there's tons of food. You sit down and you're responsible for boom and Boone is when you take the coffee beans, the raw coffee beans - and you know the best coffee beans in the country in the world come from Kenya and Ethiopia. You have to roast them first, when it when it came to being at my house, I was under serious pressure because I'm not even Ethiopian, even though I can pass for one and they love me like I'm one and I'm the only African-American in the whole group. I better tell y'all like it's a lot of pressure, because coffee is like a big thing: coffee's like somebody's coming to your house, and you want to welcome them. You bring out the before, like mine, is called Beto Ali. My my Tunisia is empty and boy, even though I call it what I call it on on iron melon, the magic it's baked till I leave the house of Ali, so this is all of it's huge, it's big and it is a it's a privilege to be Invited to someone's house for for for boom, so you're gon na smell, um, you're gon na smell those fresh roasted coffee beans and you're roasting them. You can't be burning them. They'Re, gon na be popping around. You got your ginger in there, your your cardamom in there. Your cinnamon in there and when they're done you pour them on this handmade thing. That looks like a pot holder. I can't think of what the name of it is and you pass it around and it goes in front of the person and they just to keep it out here, but they with the coffee beans, everybody's checking it out making sure it's. Okay, it's going all the way around now, it's time to grind it up, to put it in the job, which is a clay pot. That coffee pot looks like this, so it's a circle with an opening here. So it looks like this. I'M not gon na like this and it's Clay, and so they cook it with a lot of clay. They cook not it, but they cook with a lot of clay and so a lot of um. The food is has that flavor imparted, but it will shoot up out of there if you don't time it right, you don't watch it just right enough that water, when it starts heating up on that little portable gas stove that you're sitting on the floor in the Living room with all these, these beautiful people around you being at the spotlight trying to get this right because it's an awful thing, if you don't, my nana had to help me as soon as I was very nervous, got to keep track of what everybody wants, because It'S like waiting tables. When you go to someone's table, you have you're serving a party. You have to remember what everyone wants. Okay, I don't do sugar. I want two teaspoons of flour: no cream. I need soy milk. I mean and you're getting this right, you're lining it up on the tray you're passing the trail around so that everybody can get their stuff, but you smell that the zikni is always the feature item and Nana taught me how to make the is it Nana Sophia. That'S who I named Sophia after and believe it or not. They said my zigni was better than the majority of all of the other women who were actually Ethiopian and they are very competitive. Ethiopian women are very competitive. They compete with food. This is what my girls told me: you know who that in the mirror, those are my robot, my road, Buddies and uh. Oh, my God that family has rescued me and has been there for me through. I don't know what love them to death, but uh. My my zigni is just that good, so I cosetta contacted me today and she was asking me about that because of something I was referring to on the butterfly transformation channel. So I'm definitely going to send it to you guys that time and if you all, are interested in knowing how to make oh see. Please put in the comment section and one of these days. I will show you how to make my own see and all you need to eat it with is in jarrow, and I also uh. I don't know because that if you've ever had um, I can't think of the name, but it's it's ground. Chickpea, flour sauteed with onions and tomatoes. You eat that within Jared too, and it's a great accompaniment to um the Sydney but y'all. Let me know either way it's the stew with the meat in it that cooks for a long time, that's very spicy and, like I said, it's called a lot of different things depending upon what part of the country you're in all right, we're just going to get Through the practice today, because that is enough to actually talk about so let's talk about it, and this is something you can all relate to in this way. We'Re gon na get to know Miss Cornwell, because many of us have wanted to have uh, more in-depth understanding of who this woman is. Who has been a Trailblazer and a Pioneer and someone that I know we all respect, but someone that many of you love to hate, I'm joking. I hope it's not hate and many of us who have some concerns about the brand and would dream and wish that these concerns would be acknowledged this book - I I don't know how I got lucky to have it whenever I bought it, because it was a discarded Library book you can't find it anywhere, unless maybe you buy it from someone used or whatever but um in this book as we go through this book each week, I do two videos every week you know one of my videos will be related to some aspect of Sisterlocks for the next few weeks, the other video will be related to this book. Shout out to, I think it's, the lovely Brittany who left a comment about wanting to tune in on a weekly basis, so to make it easy for you all. The thumbnail will be the exact same that it was last week. I believe I had a black background and a pink line, a little trimmed uh Pink line on the video thumbnail. It will be the same every week, except the color of that line will change. That'S how you will recognize immediately without having to read the thumbnail. Oh, this is one of those videos make sure you watch it. Okay, we want to get a six because we're going to discuss this in dialogue about this, because we had some stuff. In last week's video we kind of took issue with, and some of you left some wonderful comments which I definitely want to talk about. So here we go. Here'S the book. Okay, that hair thing whole thing teaching is what I do. This is the practice. It'S not just an occupation. Really! It'S in my blood everything I learned. I try to master well enough to teach others. Maybe this is just a way of admitting. I'M lossy that's interesting because, through the grapevines of the grapevines of the Grapevine Through the Grapevine someone said someone who's close to her, never mind, that's that's not nice! That'S not! I just know that my love of teaching is grounded in my love for learning. I learn from everyone around me all the time. It'S a great way of life, no argument there. In my academic life, I learned a lot from other teachers a while back. I got a lesson from one male colleague that seriously tripped me out. We were talking about ways of helping students understand symbolism. Without making the discussion too abstract. We both agreed. They needed a better understanding of the systems of meaning other than language that we use to send and receive information, like gestures, facial expressions, type and color of clothing, Etc. All of a sudden, our discussion took a surprising turn. My friend's next example nearly knocked me off. My seat he'd been lecturing about how spoken language is not the only way we communicate. There are other systems of meaning that can speak louder than words. To make this point, you turn to a woman who he turned to a woman who wore her hair in a way he felt was unusual. He singled her out by asking her what words was she wearing on her head now, wait till you get what the lady looked like y'all. What word do you wearing on your head? I know I ain't wearing, I'm I'm I'm I'm natural. I am from the African diaspora in the beginning and the original people I am beautiful. I am wonderful. I am on my spiritual journey. My hair communicates that I am me I am the best part of me. What does your hair communicate about? You put it in the comments I froze he continued, but I was no longer with him. My imagination race, through my worst imagined scenario, the only African-American in class wearing a so-called ethnic hairdo or a down to the waist weave finding herself. Suddenly the object of unwanted attention, I thought of the many times in my life. I had felt humiliated about my hair because of someone's offhanded comments. How many silent immune humiliations have our women endured over the years in this way, clue what we women go through over our hair? Like that's in all caps, I wanted to scream, but didn't it's everywhere. I thought I let my friend go on about how thought-provoking and effective this teaching approach had been, so he singled the lady out who had a weave. She said all the way down to her waist. I didn't know they were wearing weave that long back. Then I see him now down to pass the butt I'm like. Okay, we used to wear weeds when I was wearing them to make it look like your hair right, so you definitely wasn't gon na. Have it all the way down there, because then tomorrow you know tomorrow tomorrow, but today you might have it all the way down here and then tomorrow you might have on the short fix it up a little short different cup. So you're not trying to hide your more taking on a Persona and you're expressing your artistic um creativity, I guess, but back then, when we wore them at least when I used to do them, because I used to do hair weaves. I did them in college and I did them in here in high school and I should put mine in all the time and between those and and uh individual braids. That'S how I made a living in college and waiting tables too, but um at that time. We wanted it to look like our natural hair. We wanted it to blend in so you didn't. You would not have hair all the way down here, because then everybody would know you definitely had a weave on so today. I guess it's different y'all. Tell me how it's different today, what do you think about how it's different today and why people do it or if they are just wanting to embrace creativity, or do they want to give a more realistic depiction of their creativity by keeping it in alignment with? What is more realistic? What do you think so anyway, um? Oh, I see the sisters rocking the blind hair and it's so beautiful. I think I just I have line here in high school, but I even after that I had issues with blind, but I love to see the sisters now with the blind. It just looks so beautiful, but we can do everything. Okay, everything comes from us. Every woman on the face of the planet comes through our mitochondria, so we have the look Style, no size lip size, eye, color, even blue and Hazel, for every group of people on this planet. So if you have access to an African woman and a woman of the African diaspora, you have access to any shade any body shape any color, any texture hair. All of that isn't that beautiful to be the original woman. I think it's beautiful, I think we're lucky. I do so honestly, I don't remember growing up with a hair complex, but I know that that's something we can associate with our people. I mean my parents were part of the the Black Power movement. Actually, my dad was a part of ram the revolutionary action movement that gave rise to the Black Power movement. So you know what kind of house I grew up in so here we go as he talked. I tried to calm down. Maybe he hadn't been insensitive in any way. I might have asked him about how the woman reacted to being singled out. Maybe he pulled off his classroom illustration, just as I would have done with consideration for the person, not just the passion for the subject of discussion. However, weariness got the best of me. I was tired of feeling I always had to teach others about being African-American and female. What if he was one of those people who just doesn't get it? I just didn't, have the energy to cope with that possibility. Fortunately, my weariness passed, my friend was still talking and I re-emerged into our conversation. My brief departure from reality into the world of hair anxieties is something our women experience regularly. Now I made a blanket statement just a minute ago, and I said I don't remember experiencing any of that, but let me think about it, because I do know that when I left this public school system before I opened up my own School while I was not Wearing individual braids fast forward some years when I got these, I do remember thinking I had an easier time with this style because I'm self-employed uh, I do remember a feeling of a sense of restriction with regard to what we could do with our hair professionally. I can say that um I have to get back into the mindset of where I was when I was wearing hair weave, because I also remember I let it I let my hair break my braids stay in for a long time. My box, braids didn't take a matter when I took them out. I washed it instead of combing it and it went down like this. It was so bad. It took me a day and a half to try to comb through it and I couldn't get all the way through it. So I went through the phone book and I found this lady and I went for her to do my hair. She untangled it with a rat tooth comb little piece by a little piece. She put a hair weave in and um. I love that it looked nice, it was me and I think I went to her two more times. I believe I paid a pretty penny for it at that time I might have paid 175 or maybe even 200 for it, which was a big deal back there back then, in 2000, let's see Neymar was born in 19, probably 2000. and um. I remember each time I needed it was getting ready to say retargeting, you needed it redone. I would go back and I remember all the hassle I was going through and I think I made it twice two times and the third time I was doing something to get ready for my appointment, doing something with the hair I was being concerned and all of A sudden I had an epiphany and something said you get ready to pay somebody to sew somebody else's hair in your hair. Now, when I say that today, it's not so shocking, but in that moment at that time I said it two or three times to myself. I said you can really pay somebody well that money money, so somebody else's hair in your head, and at that moment it seemed insanity Insanity. So, instead of going to her, I drove across town and went to the mall across the street, which happened to be Cameron. Mall at that time, off of Candler Road in South Dekalb in the South Atlanta uh in the Metro Atlanta area - and I told her to cut my hair and I told her - I wanted to cut like Meg Ryan. So it was one of those cuts where, with a few flipped ends, all I had to do was do like this, and I had this really cute look and I never went back to weaves again after that. It was just something that to me at that time. No longer made sense now, I'm gon na do it again today, because I'm in a different part of my Evolution, it means something different to me now than maybe it meant then, but uh. I know one thing I would never do anything was gon na cause. My hair to break, and even when I was doing those weaves, then I always braided the hair underneath and sewed it in and that's how I kept my hair very healthy. I hear these lace slot wigs pull people's hair out. If you know anything about that, put it in the comments please so here we are right here, a word, a wrong word, question or glance can fill us with confusion, anger and embarrassment without our ever really knowing why, yes, I guess she's saying like if somebody says You know um what happens to your head when you swim or how often do you wash your hair yeah. I could probably remember something like that along the way or people just kind of looking at your hair and looking at it as if it were a foreign object or something, or that it was somehow needed something different than what their hair might would need. How do you wash it or do you wash it? I mean I'm making these questions up, but they're real. My personal Victory had against sustained me. I had come to terms with my natural hair or the words I was wearing on my head. So what words are you wearing on your head? Words, I'm wearing on my head? The words she wearing on her head is, I have come to terms with my natural hair. Okay, she came time for her natural hair, but this hair thing goes beyond individual victories and we are all tremendously weary. Thank you, Miss Cornwell, for coming to the rescue, in the way that you did not that nobody else had come to the rescue. But when you draw attention to something you might as well, it's like. You almost become the first person to do it, even though you're not because you put yourself out there for everybody to see and when people begin to talk about it and you begin to become what comes out of people's mouths. It and you're the first one to to Market something or to trademark the name, as we know, there's some discrepancy about the process, the tool and some other things chime in. If you have any insight regarding that, but miss Kiki answered that very thoroughly for us last week and I'm gon na read rebroadcast her commentary in the next video where we talk about this, but she said um In A Million Ways. We'Re reminded no matter what we do, that there's something wrong with our hair and this didn't come from us. We didn't come from a culture where we felt something was wrong with our hair. We were ostracized and we were uh in our effort to assimilate and to be acceptable. That was, that became a sort of a a uh. Y'All know what happened. It became this idea that, in order to be white is right in order to get a job or in order to be acceptable, and in some places literally, it has been legislated, which is what the dove Act is all about up, even in 20, 20 21. But it became about how close could you look to the dominant culture? We know that they're, not the majority y'all people of color are the majority but, let's just say the dominant culture in this country, I'm referring to the Caucasian. What is it that you need to do to be acceptable, and so that means, if you do, if you need to do something to be acceptable, then in your own current Natural State, you're not acceptable straight or weaved and we're pretending Braves work for some but cost Others, jobs their relationships or the hair growth around their temples and a natural wood be all right if I weren't so nappy you see. So these are all the things and this comes about when you are holding yourself uh to a measurement or standard of beauty. That is not you, that's a part of you because they came from us okay, but we were made to feel inferior, so all of that psychological, spiritual kidnapping and programming had serious side effects, but this that she brings up is more important. It'S not just them! It'S how's your boyfriend gon na feel about your natural hair how's, your how's, your man is. He is because he's used to he's being bombarded and psychologically and subliminally program that that standard of beauty is supreme, so how's he gon na feel. If you decide you want to get sisterlocks or you decide to me, it doesn't matter how he feels, but I'm just saying this, because this is politically correct and some people care about how their mates feel I care about how I feel when it comes to my Looks I have the autonomy there? I don't need to know how anybody else feels I might, I might would say something like. Oh, what do you think if I, but do I care about what the end resolution is not when it comes to this? If it comes to an investment or bringing somebody on the property to do some work with different story, but when it comes to me my body, how I like the look, something as intimate as my hair. No thank you, my eyebrows, which I already know. I get them what it do. Uh shaded! No, thank you this these. I think my my nose ring these are things I do autonomy, unilateral, unilateral Lee. So this is serious. My extensive contact with African descended women here and around the world has shown me how that hair thing has been tripping us all out in 100 different ways for many generations now she's talking about Africans. Now this is what you got to keep in context. I had to kind of hint around this. I have a book club meeting that I'm a part of here where I live uh that little 70 something year old, Caucasian lady named Karen, who I ride the bike with um. I rode the bike with last year before it got cold, she invited me and it's three black women, three white women and we read these books that have to do with interracial relations and one of her sisters. Last week said: African people don't like black people and she made the statement and she went into a long thing about it and me being someone who's married to a African man for 15 years and then had nothing around me. But African people for the last house name 25 years, didn't have really any African-American friends except the people that I worked with. Who came to my school. When I came to the metro area, all my people were African people, so I can't relate to that, and I know that that's not true, and even if it were true, there's a context to it. That needs to be understood so that you just don't think African people don't like black people and black people, don't like African people. There is a context to that. There'S a dude! So if you're gon na have an intelligent conversation about that, you need to understand. If and when that has come up as a part of a circumstance, then you need to understand the historical contextual backdrop behind it, which is too too much for me to talk about here. But what she's saying here, the other thing I can talk about when she um alludes to African women is got ta. Remember Africa was colonized and once Africa was colonized Africa, Africa was split up like a patch for a quilt, arbitrary lines being drawn. So people who technically let me just give you an example if somebody is over here on the east coast and the the Border, looks something like a boot and then Djibouti is right above it and then to the left of it or to the east of it. No west of it, then you have Ethiopia and Eritrea. Suddenly, all of a sudden, the line is split. This way, you got this country little one, this one, this one, this one, the liner split this way and all these people are made into one country. All these people are made into one country got all these languages all these different cultures. Now you are putting a boundary around these people and putting them into a country in a way that they didn't Define for themselves, they're going to be fighting until the end of time, which is what you have seen up into the more up up into more contemporary Times so were colonized as well, so by them being colonized, they suffered some of the same oppression that that we did in this country. They had the same types of standards of beauty. They were made to feel inferior. All of these things, so the only people who thought back see that Black Hawk Down one smile is through that those bricks are not those helicopters out of the air or they got a bad rap, but the reality is they fought back. They fought back and guess who got the heck up out of there at that time. I believe I was watching that with my husband, who was Somali, so here we go. The time is now right for women moving beyond awareness. Happily, denial is also on the way out, and I believe this book was copyrighted, 97 or 96. Look at the time that's gone by and our women are ready to examine the real issues behind why our hair has been such a powerful controlling symbol in our lives. Why has your hair been such a powerful controlling symbol in your life? Why has your hair been that? Why has black hair or the black woman's hair been such a powerful and controlling symbol in your life? And what words does your hair say about you? Please please. Please put in a comment: this will help us. Oh our hair issues are kind of Last Frontier of understanding for us. We must take this step to pull free from the familiar, but often demeaning, behaviors that keep us confused about who we are now see. When you read this, it's got to help you to connect with this woman, because when we can get past the things that we are very dissatisfied with and truly only are really seeking acknowledgment for. But we burn because we're not getting the acknowledgment, we're still dealing with a sister who stepped out who struggled with her hair and threw her hair care Journey. Not only understood more about her own identity and who she is as a woman as an African-American woman. But also has given us all many more choices and and in reality, has been a part of the Forefront of what will eventually give way to a chronology. If someone were writing a book, a chronology of what we've dealt with over time with regard to our hair and is also giving way to an ability for us to embrace our natural hair, if, in fact, we didn't like other natural hairstyles, regardless of the reason it Has given us an opportunity to have a wider and diverse selection? We thank you for that sister going well, but we are not happy with the ways in which uh we feel like with all that you've done, but we are glad this is also giving rise to competition in the free market in a place into into Enterprise. In the in the marketplace, in the sense that, because of this, we now have other people patenting their processes. I think tiny locks is on the ustbo site as having patented the process. We have Miss goldilock who's working on that we have other people. I think Valencia reels, I don't know the name of the lot, but I've read it or heard it somewhere and there's some others as well. There was another lady who I spoke with over a year or two ago about a new grid, a type of grid and a certain way of doing it. But what it does is it sets the standard and he gives everybody a benchmark, so they will at the very minimum, do what she's done and then they have to give us more. So competition is always good for the for the marketplace, because it is through competition that we get the best. When there is no competition, you have a monopoly and when there's a monopoly, people get lazy and when people get lazy they don't become Innovative and Ingenuity and they don't be coming. I don't want to say Ingenuity yeah. They don't give Ingenuity and innovativeness to what they do, which which results in ultimately taking your clients for granted, and those are some of the things that you deal with today when some of your locticians complain about not getting recent videos and the videos of sisterlocks still Being from the 90s and uh Antiquated ways of doing things, Antiquated manuals, no um, uh live feeds, websites that have more information about sister locks other than what we're getting that. For some reason, the marketplace is finding inadequate not being able to plug into a YouTube channel and see Miss Joanne Cornwell continue to talk about her invention. I know she's getting older now, she's, probably in her mid 70s. I think, but there's a part of all of us. I feel that love her and respect her, whether we like her or not, is a different story, but I think I hope there's a part of all of us that love her and respect her for what she stands for and what she's done. But to whom? Much is given much is damn show required. I tell you that got ta be ready to step step to the um step to the plate, because this thing is is is: is: is uh worldwide, it's International now, so you know like she said. Our hair issues are a frontier of understanding for us. We have to take this step to pull free from the familiar, but often demeaning, behaviors that keep us confused about who we are familiar, but under, but demeaning behaviors write that in the comment, what is a familiar but often demeaning, Behavior to you being ashamed when your Hair is um in the awkward stage and you feel you look too nappy or you look too black, uh and so go in and putting extensions in. Are you circumventing the process of the spiritual journey that takes place when you begin to go through this this process? I remember when I had mine installed and somehow I was naive enough to think I guess, because of the way they looked from afar, that when I got them, they were going to look the same way and maybe they would do something, but they wouldn't do what They started to do almost uh seven to months to a year into the journey they started to dread up. Well, they started to lock up. Excuse me for those who are politically sensitive, um or just would like to use another word or not. I'M not belittling that when they started to lock up and they started to look more like traditional locks. I was like, oh my God, what's going on with my hair, what's going on with my hair at the time I knew I had no intentions of taking them out, so I had to love myself so I had to come into myself and I had to have A whole nother level of appreciation of who I was and the different ways in which my beauty began to morph, and so I made a decision. I remember that day. It was a life defining moment. I made a decision and I looked in the mirror and I deliberately began to love my locks for whatever it was that they were going to do. Okay and it didn't start out that late, but that's how it ended up - and it's been through this journey that I'm more of me than I ever have and that's why I say what you do with your hair and what women do with their hair, especially black Women, it's never just about the hair. This channel is not only about the hair. That'S why sometimes uh when I put other videos up here and they get little views in the beginning. They used to bother me because, I'm, like you know, I'm not I'm not. I'M not I'm not just about the hair. How come I got all these women out here? Surely they have other knees? Surely they have the same concerns that we all women have um as women and then as African-American women as as women of the African diaspora? Surely they got a little bit of other things that they want to talk about that are deeper than the hair or J or that are as deep as the hair. So where are they? And I remember I used to be like you know, I don't know if y'all remember was back at the end of 2020. I think I did this video and put it out and it was like look I'm getting ready to take the channel in another Direction and for all y'all who are only here for the sister lots. I'M sorry uh I'll, be sorry to see you to go uh, because what I wanted to do was bring more of me on the channel, but I I am more of me now. I actually am more of me now. I follow God's guidance. I followed spirit's guidance and I'm actually more of me now and for those of you who want a different side of me or a different part of me. You connect with me over on butterfly Transformations. You connect with me back and forth, but it's been through this channel that many of you have connected with my online school have connected with me as a spiritual Mentor or me doing distance Reiki healings many of you from this very channel. So in my short-sightedness and in my immaturity and in my uh rush to judgment, I was thinking that okay hair is limiting, but hair is not limiting hair. Just is the portal or the Gateway. So the last sentence here says this: this will help us select the healthiest symbols for communicating our feelings about Who We Are Victory. Polls. That'S my symbol, y'all about who I am okay. This is the victory, pose it's a yoga pose accident. I'M thinking about the sister who reached out to me on the channel, who I dare you or yoga Zoom with and put it up here. She talked about a weight loss journey. I can't remember her name wherever you are Kudos out to you. She'S also a yoga instructor. My Hope Is that this small work will bring us closer to that understanding. So we got y'all put it in the comment section I wan na know I wan na know I wan na know. I wan na know how you feel how you feel about me. It'S going miss miss Sophie. I'M just going well miss how you feeling me Sophia confused. It'S called a purple one of my favorite movies: okay, y'all love y'all, I'm wishing you peace, prosperity and productivity. I'M wishing that you'd be in a state of plentifulness that you live passionately, that you be in your power and on purpose at all times, welcome welcome to 2023. For those of you who are on my other channel. You already know what the theme song is. Okay, I got powers super powers, okay, so if you haven't chosen your theme song for this year, you need to choose your theme song and if you hadn't gotten yourself together mentally for this year, you need a mindset shift going over to this book on manifesting your Masterpiece or going over to my channel to the other channel butterfly Transformations and see what your sister's over there talking about. I love y'all have a beautiful day, hey. Ladies, do you love the way your skin looks and feels? I know I do because I am using the I am melanin: magic, anti-aging, serum and at 50. I love the way my skin looks and feels this blend is Bomb. It renews. Revitalizes, rejuvenates, sues conditions, moisturizes tones brightens and Fades all in one step. So if you're ready to get your glow on go, get you some. I am melanin magic, anti-aging, serum