Big Chop On Waist Length Relaxed Hair. Why I Did It.
- Posted on 12 April, 2021
- Heatless Hairstyles
- By Anonymous
I did the big chop!
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Big chop on waist length relaxed hair. This video is my big chop to short natural 4c hair. I talk all about my journey with relaxed hair, growing my relaxed hair to waist length, and why I've decided to now cut it all off. I talk about my journey transitioning to natural hair from relaxed and everything that led up to this video that I'm posting today.
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Hey guys it's young okimi and welcome back to my channel. So, as you saw by the title, i will be doing the big chop today. I know much you guys, probably think this is a clickbait, because i know i've played too much. I know the past. I am i'm just thinking about it, i'm just thinking about it, i'm just thinking about it, i'm just thinking about it, i'm just thinking about it. I was just thinking about it. I did it yeah, but this is not. It will be doing the big chop and i'm excited to just take you guys along so i'm just gon na start the video and as i'm cutting. I will talk about why i'm doing this. I know a bunch of you guys are wondering so if you've never seen me before hi um, i have long relaxed hair. This is my hair. Okay, yeah y'all know what my hair looks like yeah. So now i'm just going to literally just start and get right into this and yeah i'm excited uh. This is crazy that i'm about to do this, but i have my scissors and i have my spray bottle to um wet my roots, so i can tell which part is new growth and not. I might actually need to get help because i don't know exactly what i'm doing. I think i can do it it's just like certain parts. Okay right here, i can tell i'm gon na make my first cut right. There i'm just afraid of over cutting it, but i guess it doesn't matter. Okay, i just made my first cut. Yeah definitely didn't cut that properly and then i'm gon na start talking once i feel like i've gotten the hang of it. Okay, i know someone's gon na ask if i can send them my hair on tracks, because you guys always make that joke, but maybe dm me i'm just kidding. Okay, i'm really upset because i just filmed so much and it wasn't even recording. Like that's, never happened. I'Ve always i've never not recorded something, but the devil is a liar and we're just going to continue and i'll. Try and restate everything that i said and i'll try and say it the same way, which i don't think i can because but anyways. So i was just talking about how um so now, i'm starting from the bottom working my way up to the top - and i was talking about my whole journey with being relaxed, so i've been relaxed my entire life. This is my first time really seeing my my just my natural hair, like only which is crazy, because i'm 22 years old, but yeah at the beginning, being relaxed. I just thought of that as the norm like. I never really thought that natural hair was an option. Like i didn't know, people did that, like they just didn't, relax their hair. I just saw everyone that i knew my family. Everyone just relaxed their heroes. I thought it was just the thing that girls had to do and also made a documentary if you haven't seen it yet, i'm gon na try and start like pubbing my documentary a little bit more because i worked really hard on that and i feel like it Should be shared with more of the world, but if you haven't seen it um, i made a document documentary about how not only are relaxers very prominent in like america and like in primarily white spaces, but also in african countries as well. Specifically in that, in my documentary talking about these relaxers in nigeria, where my family is from and just talking about how much of a norm, it is so yeah relaxers for me, whenever i was younger, were very much annoying. The first time that i ever thought about going natural was whenever i was starting to get a little bit more into my hair journey. When i had started my youtube channel, a lot of the people at that time. Just talked about going natural to basically just stopping relaxers so that your hair could be healthier and at that time my whole thing was that i wanted to grow my hair long. That was my main thing that i just struggled with so much as a child and not liking my hair, that's because it was shorter, and i didn't really understand why it couldn't grow like the rest of my friends and everyone else. So that was like my motive for ever wanting to go natural in the first place was just so i could. My hair could be healthier and maybe it could grow a little bit longer, but i ended up staying relaxed but yeah. I just wanted to be able to grow my hair long, that's the gist of all of that. As i'm saying right now - and i was talking about in my video that i thought i was recording, but i wasn't - i was talking about how calm i am like doing this like months back out as i was planning for this video, i was like. Oh there's. Gon na be an emotional thing like how am i gon na be feeling in the video like this is crazy that i'm actually doing this like i've actually do this like this is crazy, but um. I was talking about in the beginning of this video and the part that i thought i was recording like how, surprisingly very calm i am like this doesn't feel like anything like it feels like i'm just putting in another hair stock. Maybe it'll hit me tomorrow or something, but i was saying that and like as i was like, and i was saying that i was calm and everything and then, as i started talking about like my journey um with like trying to grow my hair long and like Being able to so my mission was to one grow, my hair long prove to people that is possible for one black people to grow hair long and to prove that black people with relaxed hair can also grow their hair long, that's possible to grow long relaxed hair. I was talking about all of that and at that point that was the part that was making me emotional for some reason, um, which i didn't really expect to get emotional over that. So maybe it's a good thing that it wasn't actually recording, because i started crying for some reason. It was like making me emotional thinking about like how i came into this space wanting like with this really really strong mission of something that had bothered me. So much of like wondering why can't my hair grow like i just wanted to be able to grow. My hair, like it's frustrating me so much having it, makes me really happy to have been able to come into the space like learn. So much because when i tell you, i've spent hours upon hours upon days upon days upon weeks upon weeks, trying to learn as much as i could about how to grow our hair. Long, like the fact that i made it. My mission not only completed that mission, but was able to share the things that i have learned in a way that has been able to reach so many people was the thing that was making me emotional just thinking about it like i actually really set this goal And i did it and now i told myself that i would grow my hair long and i would stay relaxed and stay trying to grow. My hair, for as long as i could until i felt like it, couldn't grow anymore, and i felt like my time in this space was done and i feel like now. So that was the part that was making me emotional like thinking about. Like i started this thing with this mission and i feel like i've done everything that i wanted to do, i've put out everything that i have ever learned through my own trial and error. I'Ve put it out into the world and it has been able to reach a lot of people and, like i was talking about how your dms and your comments like they really mean so much more than you can imagine like being able to help you guys, like Those things make me literally cry. The reason why it was making me emotional is because, like that was something that i struggled with heavily and like that was my whole mission like learn everything and share that information with the world. So i feel like the reason why it doesn't make me emotional at all to like be cutting. All of my hair off is because i came into this space and, like i feel like my time, like i've done everything that i set out to do, and it makes me really happy that i have done it in a way that i would have never expected Going into things so yeah, that's everything that i was saying basically in a nutshell. It was much more dramatic when i was saying it the first time, so it's okay, i'm not gon na, beat myself up about like losing that phone. Also something i didn't mention in the part that i was recording before is like. I feel like i a lot of the videos that i've made. There isn't really much more. I would have said if i had stayed making more videos, like i've literally said everything that i know in as many different ways as i can that's the reason why i kept on prolonging it, because i didn't want to leave the whole relaxer space until i feel Like i had said, every single thing that i ever wanted to say because i think, like oh there's, this video that i haven't made. Oh there's this way of information that i can tell in a way that people will will reach more people, and the thing about youtube is like those videos stay up forever like, even if i'm not still having long relaxed hair. If you're trying to grow long relaxed hair, those videos are still there, and that makes me really happy to be able to have that still there literally forever for people who still want to grow their own relaxed hair, because that's another thing i'll get into later. In this video, but i don't think, there's anything wrong with being relaxed. So that's enough! Okay, we'll talk about that. But after saying all of that i was talking about how see it's making me upset that i lost it. I'M not gon na make it make me upset, because it's okay, this footage, will still turn out good. But after i was saying that i was talking about how um it makes me really excited now, it's like i'm really really excited to have natural hair and to just do things with my hair, like i feel like there's so many things that you can do with Natural hair, i'm excited to style it and like show you guys, take you guys along this journey with me and like just do different things with my hair, like oh hair, makes me really excited like i. Just i'm really really excited for the different things that i am going to do by saying that me going nuts right now shouldn't come. Ask too much of a surprise, because i feel, like i've been hinting at it for a while. Like i don't know, i feel like let me know in the comment section if you're, that surprised, i'm sure there's still going to be people that are surprised, but i feel like it shouldn't commence too much of a surprise that i'm doing this right now and left For me, if it wasn't for like making more youtube videos and making sure that i could say everything that i wanted to say, i don't think i would have um transitioned for this long. Even though see for those of you who say that my hair grows fast. I feel like my hair should be longer than this considering how long i've stretched it feels like i've been stretching for forever. But it's almost been two years, and i mean my hair is a good length. I guess, but i don't know why i expected it to be a little bit longer. I'Ve just been struggling trying to handle two textures, so i just thought it would be a lot more. The way it's been ruining my mom in my life, but the way it's been so hard for me to care for my hair in the past like year with having so much new growth has been a has been a struggle. Yeah, i was gon na say like left for me, i wouldn't have transitioned at all like i would have just shaved it, because transitioning is hard like taking care of two textures. I wasn't really able to um wear my hair and style, my hair in the way that i wanted to for the past year after this i'll post, a video on that whole thing of like how i managed to transition and not like really share it. How difficult that was for me, but it was all for a good reason. Like i'm happy, i stayed because i was able to make some pretty cool videos in the past few months that like have helped a lot of people, but i was talking about before the whole um. Now that i'm being going to be a natural person, am i joining the whole wave of like being natural and not thinking i'm better than people who are relaxed, which i feel like? Definitely not all naturals do, but i feel like there's a wave of some naturals. Just from the comments that i get from some people of like uh, why do you hate yourself? You need to come be like us, be natural start, loving yourself, like i used to hate myself too, but now i'm natural, like people saying that type of stuff, but um, it's not at all, and i don't think there's, i think, being in the space with being Having relaxed hair and being someone that is so prideful of my hair and like everything that we can do with our hair, i feel like showed that you can still choose to do certain things with your hair and then not mean anything other than what you want Decide to to do with your hair, whether because it may be easier for you, whether because you're like me and you're, just on a mission to try and grow it or whatever reason that you have like. I hate the whole attacking people. A better solution is to just - and i talked about this, but like the reason why natural hair is as big as it is right now, especially in america, and how it's becoming more of a thing in nigeria as well, is by prominent people. People you don't even have to be famous or like an influence or anything like that, but just people who other people see and look up to like it can just be your friend someone who's older than you who carries their hair proudly in whichever style that they Choose to wear it and when other people see them carrying their hair or carrying themselves in a certain way. That'S how our perception of what is beautiful and what is not is form like. I started the first time i ever um started really thinking about this is whenever i was working on my documentary, like just understanding how relaxers became a thing in nigeria and how they're not becoming a thing anymore like and the whole idea of how, like the mind, Works and just perception of like beauty is literally and what we think is beautiful is literally formed based on other people's ability to carry those things beautifully and with confidence. So a good example that i have of this that i was thinking about before, like i just wanted to get this out, i feel like it's really important, but, like i don't know, if you guys saw, i used to be into like the whole trend of like The adidas with the stripes - i remember the first time i ever saw someone wear it she's, one of my friends. She was really into fashion all of that she wore to school, and i thought to myself. Those are the ugliest shoes i've ever seen in my life. Why would anyone want to ever wear those shoes in public and then, as time progressed more people like more of the popular kids at my school? I guess would start wearing these shoes. I would see them more like on pictures of people on the internet, like big influential people come like a year later. Why am i not buying the shoe for myself and wearing the shoe and not even and looking at the shoe and now looking at it and thinking like? Oh, those look really nice, like my whole perception on how this shoe that i once thought was ugly completely changed. Just by seeing other people carry it well and like rock it and like those people, seem to look really good in it and yeah. So, like that whole, that whole thing got me thinking that and like my documentary in nigeria just got me thinking about like how our perceptions of what is beautiful and what is not are formed and how they're, just so everything is a social construct like there's. No one thing, that's more beautiful than the other. It'S just like how we perceive it and like how people who have influence are able to control what we think is beautiful, there's nothing that is more beautiful than the other. It'S just like our perceptions of it and how we are molded into thinking. Something looks just the way it's carried and how other people receive it and how that all goes into our own, like psyche of what we think is beautiful and what is not. But i say all that to say that the way of like helping other people who may be in that space of not thinking that their hair is beautiful or whatever beauty being like beauty, isn't like a concrete thing. It'S just an idea in our heads that we are manipulated to believe, which is just it's such an interesting thing to me to think about um how all that stuff works, but all that to say that we have so much power like everyday people. You simply just showing up in your natural here and rocking it proudly is what causes change way more than you attacking other people for hating themselves. Most of the time, the people that you're attacking don't even hate themselves i'll even once a day i'll see one of those i used to well, maybe not i'm natural. I won't see those comments as as much but so many people just attacking me thinking that i hate myself. I know it's coming from a good place, but it's not helping in case you didn't know now. You know, though so i'll go into my um. I guess we would call them issues of being relaxed so being relaxed, like i'm all for like if you feel that relaxed hair is easier for you. If you just whatever your reasoning for being relaxed, do you, and hopefully i can help you with whichever decision that you've made if you've made the decision to stay relaxed, i wanted to be there to help with like helping. You grow your hair and all of that, but i would get these types of comments which i don't know they wouldn't i don't know i would just feel some type of way, but like people saying like any time that i would take my hair out of a Protective style and like show my real hair people are saying, like oh you're, really making me want to go relax. I didn't want me, having relaxed here, to be a motivation for people to go out and relax their hair unless they were already having their own motivations for relaxing it. If that made sense - and i say all of that - because one thing that really something that happened like a year ago - okay, so i was um - invited for a shoot, a campaign for a company - i'm not gon na, say which company it is. But i was flown out to shoot for them and, like just basically take pictures of my relaxed hair and promote their product, i'm i actually haven't even gone back to check to see if they've used those pictures for anything um at the time i thought it'd be Like for to put on boxes for relaxers that type of thing to put on their website that type of thing um, but i haven't really checked into it, because that whole experience was just a traumatic thing. So i don't want to go back to it, but the whole thing that happened was um, and i say all this to say before to preface everything that i was very grateful for the experience like i'm not trying to complain about what it was, because it was A very amazing opportunity, but there were a lot of things wrong with it that i saw um and how it pertains to like me not really liking the whole. A big reason why i don't really like. I didn't really like staying in the relaxed hair scene. The whole thing that i didn't like about the situation is besides the fact that it was completely so unorganized but like in the emails before i would ask them like so am i supposed to wash my hair before? Like? Are you guys, gon na be styling? My hair, like let me know different things, didn't get any response, so i tried to like style my hair, but the night before i got locked out of my dorm room so like i was in the shower and then i got locked out because i was actually Not even supposed to be there because they had locked down campus and everything um to kick us out for christmas break, but i was still there and they locked me out um and i couldn't get back into my room. Long story short. I washed my hair and i wasn't able to blow out my roots before they dried, and at that point i had like five months of new growth and whenever i have that much new growth, i always like blow it blow dry it so that it can always Like just be flat and i've, i've done that so many times like i've stretched my relaxer for five six months multiple times. So it's never been a problem for me, but so all of my hair, dried without me being able to stretch it out. I literally flew the morning early in the morning and didn't sleep that night like had a final, didn't sleep at all, because i had to take down my hair. All of that stuff. Overnight got locked in my room. It was a whole mess and went to this campaign and didn't sleep like pulled a complete all-nighter, but i get there and they're not able to do anything with my roots like they said. The only way that they can get it to work is by um re-wetting. Everything and trying to comb it out, so this is why i don't go to salons as well, but they wet my hair um and they begin to style it for the whole campaign, very traumatic experience. I feel like i'm being dramatic, but i don't at the same time i feel like i'm not being dramatic but um, so she, the person, the hair, stylist wets all of my hair um, because she says she can't work with it. The way my roots, and at that point i literally only had five months of new girl now that i've been stretching for this long but um she's like yeah. I can't work with your hair like this. We need to like wet it and then like see how we can get it back to being like the same texture and like straighten out the roots and everything so um we and which i understand it's hard to manage um the two textures with like my roots, Just being shrunken and never stretched out so yeah, i wasn't upset about having to re-wash it. I was upset that they didn't tell me that they would actually be styling. My hair, because maybe i wouldn't have gone through the whole process of washing it and trying to rush myself. I would have just let them wash it but anyways. So she didn't wash my hair. She just rinsed it and caught it wet um, and then she proceeds to like style it and she takes a round brush and is just ripping through my hair, literally ripping through my hair. At this point, i am just sitting in the chair, like the only reason why i wasn't too too upset is because i knew i'd, be cutting all of my hair off pretty soon anyways. So that was the only thing, keeping me from being like too too upset and so actually was blow drying, my hair with a brush and like moving the brush through and blow drying it hair all over the floor and mind you after rinsing out my hair. They didn't put back in any leave-in or any type of heat protector or anything like that. They proceeded to just go in with a round brush and they didn't try to like finger detangle, my roots or like try and detangle it carefully with a wide tooth comb. They just went in straight with a hard bristle round brush and the floor was white, so you can see every every single hair strand i've never seen that much hair fall out of my hair fall out of my head. There was so much hair on the ground and, like she saw it, everyone saw it and she started saying like oh um, it's because you just had a oh it's because she just had to protect the style in for so long. This is all just shed here like trying to make it not seem as bad as it was when everyone could see that my hair was literally falling out like there's so much hair on the floor. Like i take down my hair from my cells, i never get that much shed here and i had already lost it beforehand. So i had already gotten most of the shed here myself out. So all of that was just breakage, like my hair, was literally breaking actually was running the um comb through it, because i, like i say in all my videos, i take my time. I baby my hair, like that process, would have taken me like two. Maybe three hours what we did in like 15 minutes to dry, my hair, but, like i said i wasn't, really upset and i wasn't trying to make a big deal about it because, like they invited me she's, the professional or whatever i wanted to be like. I wanted to be. It was an opportunity that i was grateful for so i didn't want to make a big scene out of it and i just went along with it like oh yeah, it's because my protective style i had it in this is just shed here. Even though i knew it was all breakage, so she does that and then she proceeds to flat iron. My hair and mind you no heat, protect it, nothing, don't you protect it um and she told me that too she's like yeah, you see how flowy it is. It'S because i didn't put any product in it like bragging. That'S why it was so flowy um, but yeah, extremely high heat. I'M really glad that i didn't get heat damage. I really thought i would because my hair didn't revert for like weeks but yeah, so she flat irons, my hair using the hot comb. I'Ve never seen my hair that straight and so as she was flat ironing she was like when's the last time you got a trim, and i said oh, it's actually been a while like um, i wouldn't mind like if i got a trim here, because i knew That we were going to take pictures, so i kind of wanted a trim and then she was like. Oh no, your ends look bad, but it's okay, let's just let's just keep it going like move on so like okay and then so as she kept on flat. Ironing it she was like, like your hair, we have to do something about this, like this isn't gon na work like um, she was like um, your hair, like just saying like. Oh, we can't do this like we're. Gon na have to do something like we need to add some extensions in your hair, like this isn't gon na work like your hair, does not look like this photo that we need it to look like, and so the photo that so they had photos on. Each of our, like um booths of like the inspiration for the photo shoot that they wanted. The picture that was my inspiration was a lady in what was obviously a weave like 28 inch weave, like super super long blonde cut at the end weave. Obviously, my hair isn't gon na look like that like and i feel like they have they reached out to me. They saw what my hair looks like on my videos, like on my instagram things like that they know my hair doesn't look like that, like i show exactly what my hair looks like my hair doesn't look like i mean my hair looks kind of like weave, but It doesn't look like that kind of weird, like my hair, isn't gon na look like that so like as she was saying all that stuff, it kind of like started making me feel bad of like dang, like my hair. Isn'T good enough, like you blew me out here, like i thought i was taking pictures because you like the way my hair looked and you want me to like um use it to promote your brands, like that, like, oh, my hair, isn't good enough, like i started Feeling, like kind of down like going back into that place of like growing up like my hair, not being good enough all that stuff, i didn't think too much of it, even though it was kind of upsetting me and then later on, i come to find out. They put extensions in everyone's hair and at the like, and so for the whole campaign. They flew out people with the longest relaxed hair in america, literally, like the people other relaxed, hair youtubers who live in america with long hair. Those were all the people that were there and at that time i had the longest hair there and they put extensions in all of their hair. So i don't understand why she was like making it like a big deal that, like oh, my hair, just needs extensions, because it's not good enough, but their campaign so like that whole thing didn't make sense to me in the first place that you are flying out. All the people that you could find with the longest relaxed here in america and their hair still isn't good enough for the campaign like you still need to add more to it, but so she had just flat ironed. My hair and i'm like so she's gon na make my hair even longer. I don't really understand anyway, so i go back and she puts in the extensions and then so i find out that she's just putting in the extensions to make my hair look thicker at the end, because she gets on saying that yeah you have long hair but Like this, much of your hair from the end is so thin and doesn't like she i'm making it more dramatic than she was. She wasn't that rude about it, but like the way she just kept on repeating it, like my hair, isn't good enough like we have to do something like this isn't gon na work for the shoe or whatever, but so they just put in the extensions to make My hair look thicker. She said she wanted my hair to look thicker at the ends we put in the extensions right and then we go to take the picture and - and the person says, oh, that isn't it doesn't look real. It looks too thick at the ends. Like we need to, we need to um layer that down or something like if we want. She was just basically saying that we want the pictures to look real like the way that the extensions were put in my hair looked too thick at the end, so that kind of bothered me, okay, you said my hair wasn't thick enough at the end. We put it in the extensions now it's too thick at the end and it doesn't look natural but anyway, so then we get it go back and she's like okay and she's like okay, so we have to layer this down, make it look more natural. Tell me why she said: oh, but it's gon na cut. Some of your hair tell me why she wanted to cut layer down my hair with the extensions in my hair, like cut my hair, with the extensions to layer it down instead of just taking out the extension. That'S when i started freaking out like okay, oh and she's, so she was telling someone else like, oh and whenever she got that feedback she's like okay yeah, we can layer it down. It'S probably gon na cut a little bit of her hair, but she said she needed to trim anyways, so that made me upset because i was like i wanted. An actual trim like for the sake of making my hair look good for the pictures, but not for the sake of cutting off these extensions and layering layering. The extensions to make my hair look thinner at the ends and cut my hair in the process. Like the whole thing didn't make sense, so i was like no. We can't do that. I'M not gon na do that, and, and so this is when we started going back and forth and like the whole time i had tried to be like as um professional as possible and like try not to make a scene, even though i hate getting my hair Done by other people, the whole experience was just bad. She was being rough on my hair, she's making me feel bad about my hair, all of this stuff and like the whole idea of it, like the whole shoe of all you, this company, flying all these people with the longest relaxed hair literally in america and their Hair still not being good enough for the standard that they want to set for what relaxed, hair should look like, but yeah. So she was, we were going back and forth and then at that point i just started crying. I just started crying because of the stress of everything my hair falling out, not having that much sleep not having any sleep at night, and now she wanted to cut my hair for the sake of making the extensions look good, instead of like actually trying to trim My hair, for the sake of turning my hair for the own health of my hair, like it's all about the shoe and like projecting this image, i'm just looking at all of us taking the pictures and like just thinking about the whole idea. I was literally crying in my makeup so upset, and so at that point i really just wanted to go home. I didn't care about the shoot or anything like i just wanted to go home. I still took the pictures was feeling really not confident at all. We ended up not oh, she ended up just taking out a few of the tracks of the extension that i put in my hair. Instead of cutting it and all of that and we leave and i feel like, i never really got to express how upset i was with the whole situation, because i wanted to talk about it, but i wanted to do it after the shoot. So i wouldn't start crying and messed up all my makeup because i felt like i i was trying to be an adult and as professional as possible and then so all of that happened and then i remember getting back to my hotel room and then i just Started bawling uncontrollably, like i've, never told the story either to like anyone. So this is my first time talking about it um, because it was a really great experience. I felt bad for being so upset about it. I just started bawling like super super super upset about like everything and at the time. I couldn't really understand why i was crying so much. I don't know if you guys ever just cry and you're like okay. The thing that happened wasn't that bad. Why am i like? Am i overreacting to this like? Why is this hitting me so much so after that whole experience, i left. I literally this sounds really bad, but i couldn't stop crying until i fell asleep. That day, like it was that bad um, and i even so that was the that's the straightest my hair has ever been so. This clip that i always show in my um youtube videos of my hair. Like any time that i flat iron, my hair, i tried to get a clip of it so that night i was like i have to get a clip of my hair. So all you see is the back of my head. But if i turn around - and i still have the video of me like turned around i'll - show you that but literally bawling, but i still have to get the footage and you can't even see the whole thing of social media. You have to be careful. What you see like there's other sides to it, like that you don't see but anyways so like in that whole situation really really upset. Couldn'T really understand why i was upset and i went back home and i couldn't look at my hair again. I just put it up in a protective style and it felt really bad about my hair, like it not being good enough this and that - and it wasn't until like a few weeks, almost like a few months later, when i started reflecting on everything and i it Hit me whenever i saw a picture of my hair again because, like i said i put my hair away, i didn't want to see it again. I just felt really bad about the whole situation, not feeling good enough all that stuff, and i saw my hair a picture of my hair, and i was like my hair - looks good like why. Why am i? Why have i been feeling bad like not wanting to look at my hair thinking? My hair isn't good enough this and that and it just the whole thing just got me thinking of how much i didn't like the idea, so i started to understand why i was bawling so much. I guess it like triggered my inner child of like my hair. Not being good enough for a certain standard like okay, i've done all of this. I have come all this way and my hair still it wasn't good enough to um, promote this campaign like the way she was just talking about my hair bashing, my hair, saying that my hair was this and that and like the whole idea of us, posing for These pictures and trying to sell the idea of what hair should look like and like like what i said before, of how beauty is, how beauty is defined by these types of images, of like people being projected things that are fake, that they won't even tell you That it's fake, like the pictures, um the relaxed hair boxes and all that stuff. It'S all fake, like it's all fake, trying to mold our hair into this picture. This literally this image that she showed me of a lady with long weave like trying to replicate that to fit this standard of what they wanted to promote as beautiful straight hair, to promote their relaxers and sell more relaxers and more relaxed hair products. The whole idea of it just like didn't sit well with me, and that was when i really realized like. I don't want to be a part of so another part of the reason why i stayed relaxed is because, since i'm one of the few people who are relaxed, that means i get, i get first hand at certain opportunities that are for relaxed people. So i wanted to stay relaxed, so i can stay getting those opportunities if that makes sense, since um there aren't that many relaxed people, i can be one of the few that gets to represent the black relaxed hair community, but with campaigns like that, i realize that That'S not something that i want to do to be a projection of an idea of what your hair should look like and that being something that you should strive for. If that makes any sense, because even for me it was unattainable and like yeah, i don't know how to or that as eloquently as i wish, but the whole thing was just not a good experience for me. I'M really really bad, i'm multitasking, so i'm gon na continue with everything and i'm just gon na speed it up. Maybe what i just said will be voice over and then i'll come back at the end yeah. That was just a little story time that i've been meaning to get the opportunity to tell it didn't really have anything to do with my actual decision to go natural. I was already in the process of going natural by that point, but i feel like it was still related to this video because staying relaxed for the sake of like getting access to certain like modeling and campaign opportunities stopped being a motive for me wanting to stay Relaxed if that makes sense, but i feel like this story still is important for other reasons, even if it's not necessarily a part of the reason why i went natural, a big takeaway that i got is the fact that, like try to collect some of the hair, Maybe i'll keep this as like a souvenir or something. I don't know the fact that, like you, can literally kill yourself trying to run after certain goals and like images and try and achieve certain things that, like like it's so easy to see certain things and be like. I need to get that. I need more. I need more and forget that what you have right now is perfectly fine like whether you have really short, relaxed, hair, really short natural hair, really long, whatever it's just really easy to look at or other things or be told. Other things are what you should be and forget that what you have on yourself is fine enough, but yeah. I don't want to get too like cheesy or anything, but that was just something that i realized like even me. There was still more that i could get. There was still an aspect of not being enough so like just remember that i guess there will always be more. It can be really easy to forget that what you have on your head is perfectly fine um, but yeah. So i just wanted to say that, and thank you guys so much for watching this. Video like this has been a crazy. I don't know i'm interested in seeing what the reaction will to this video will be, but yeah. Thank you guys for coming along and yeah. I love you guys. My journey with relaxed hair generally makes me really happy to think about it's just a nice feeling, knowing that i went in and did everything that i wanted to do and helped a lot of you guys do the same and yeah. I'M just excited and the future looks good and i'm just i'm excited um, so yeah. Thank you guys so much for watching. Oh, my goodness.
Comments
Saint Clement: I just wanted to say thank you. I felt super emotional watching this video. It doesn’t matter to me if your hair is long or short, relaxed or natural. Because you’ve taught me so much about my 4c hair than anyone in my 21 years of life. You’re right my hair is fine the way it is, I don’t need anyone else telling me my hair should look a certain way. I am who I am and that’s all. Thank you so much for what you’re doing. You’re truly an inspiration.
Hairlicious Inc.: Mission complete - I totally get that!! Congrats on your Natural Hair Journey, Seun
Hilda Orwa: It really is sad what happened to you Seun, . I'm going through the same right now. After nurturing my hair for 4 years, it grew thick and long, and I was 1 inch to waist length until I went to a salon stylist yesterday. I had already detangled my hair when I arrived but through her obvious lack of skill she removed my sections and re- wetted my hair and the washing left it so tangled. She started yanking my hair with what was a step from being a rat tail comb. I told her she was hurting me and that I she should use a wide-tooth comb on my 4c hair but she refused. I tried to leave but she had already done so much damage. She ripped off about 3 inches of my hair. Clumps of my hair were all over the floor and I was so traumatized. To make matters worse everyone in the salon started commenting about it. I left there feeling humiliated, violated and I felt very lesser than. I got home and said nothing. I tied my hair up and I didn't want to look at it. I had to cut so much of the yanked pieces and my hair is now at my bra strap. I'm so happy for these comments because they're making me realise it wasn't my fault and I've learnt never ever to let someone determine my worth like that. And I've also decided never to let anyone else touch my hair.
GEMINIANGEL19: I love your videos because it was a break from the “creamy crack” judgement. You challenged the stereotype of relaxed hair can not grow. I tried to grow my hair natural and realized it’s not for everyone. I love myself. I love the skin I’m in and relaxed hair will not change that . Thank you ♥️ Thank you so much for your tips and I’m looking forward to your future videos or your change.
Marie-Ann Adae: You know what I realised? Since you managed to understand your hair and kept it long and healthy in its relaxed state, I'm excited to see how it flourishes in its natural state It took a lot of care and patience to grow your relaxed hair that long, and I'm sure the same principles apply to natural hair
Shandi: I've gone natural to relax to natural again. I too wanted to prove to people that black girls really can grow long hair! Yes, you can definitely grow hair both ways. Whichever you chose is perfectly fine! I really dislike that people try to shame us for it. Anyway I've binged a few of your videos about your hair journey and the protective retention method as well. I look forward to watching the rest of your journey.
Shannon Ebony: I appreciate what you said about everything being a social construct, especial ideal beauty standards! You get it. Relaxed or natural, you’ve made an impact just by sharing your story. I’m sorry to hear about your experience working with a certain brand. I’ve always said there’s a HUGE difference between a stylist and a hair care specialist. Yes, you can be both - but that’s rare and THEY ARE NOT THE SAME. Achieving certain styles should not come at the cost of healthy hair and no one should ever make you feel otherwise.
Ro Wise: You are the reason why I decided to go back to relaxed hair! after cutting my hair twice to try the natural journey. I am proud of both journeys! So happy to have found and figure out what my 4C hair loves! Natural wasn’t fit for me atm in my life reason why I went back relax. I am so happy for YOU!!!! Being able to experience BOTH!! You WILL LOVE THIS JOURNEY IT IS THE BEST! To find that renewed bond with YOUR HAIR!!
mirian nwadike: Hi, seun. I'm Nigerian, and I have been silently following you for a long while now. I wasn't surprised at all because you have been giving hints about it in most of your videos. Well, you have done one thing: To lay down the Principle of hair growth especially in relaxed hair . I'm proud of you! I used to think that my relaxed hair couldn't be long.You taught me a lot on relaxers and all. I know one thing for sure that you will still apply the same principle to your natural hair , and achieve the same results too.I'm looking forward to your 22-inch natural hair!.I'm excited because you will be my plug for natural hair growth,and natural hair sister too.(I had to cut off my relaxed hair cause it was falling off). I love how confident and daring you are! @seunokimi
Avz Jay: If you can grow your relaxed hair long you can DEFINITELY grow your natural hair long! You challenged me when I first started watching you and I thank you for that. Why did being natural mean so much to me for Black women? The reason I went natural was after getting really bad chemical burn. I only got relaxed by a hairdresser but my scalp hurt for so long. I thought "this can't be good for me" so never got one again. I had never looked at the ingredients. They are scary! I respect you as a researcher and as my sister. This mission of yours is beautiful blessed one, regardless of where you chose to take it ❤️
Jamie Grace: Sis. I am so proud of you, so thankful for you. It’s so beautiful to hear your earnest and genuine heart, setting out with such a beautiful goal. And getting to watch your journey AND see you REACH and EXCEED your goal!! You’re so beautiful whether natural or relaxed, and the big chop looks good on you! Signed, An excited subscriber, note taker and Instagram friend, haha
Jo A: You made me feel confident and more knowledgeable about growing my relaxed hair. Thank you so much. I'm glad you're gonna get to represent our natural hair sisters. Will be an interesting journey for sure
♡BUNNY♡: Listening to you describe your experience with that hairstylist made me cry... Thank you for telling your story♡ There are so many toxic hairstylists out there that try to make you change everything about yourself. They broke me down for years telling me to dye & straighten my hair because my natural hair didn't quote go with my face. I'm now chemical free, but it's an adjustment- and sometimes I still hear their voices in my head. But I finally found a hairstylist who doesn't tell me to change my hair, & she works with what I have- it's changed my life for the better.
YouTube Addict: I wouldn’t normally sit and watch such a long video but I’m so glad I did. You have no idea how much of an inspiration you are to me Seun! Since following your channel, I’m now doing long term protective styles and my hairs been the longest it’s ever been! Hearing your story really moved me too. You should be so proud of yourself for not only your achievement with growing your hair so long but being so young (I had no idea u were 22!) and having so much wisdom! Everything you said about societal standards and knowing that you are enough really touched me. May God bless u and I can’t WAIT to see your new natural videos!! Well excited
Wonder Jackson: That was definitely J E A L O U S L Y on her part!!!! You and your hair is gorgeous!!! Always pray for each opportunity that God wants you to have because every opportunity is not a good opportunity. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
MochaxMatcha: So whoes excited for all the "growing my NATURAL 4c hair to waist length journey" videos?
I am Darvit: Not gonna lie, this is very emotional... but not in a sad way like I thought it would be. I'm so happy to see you embracing your natural hair! I think the dark, shiny, curly hair is absolutely beautiful. I quit bleaching, dying, toning, and straightening my hair about a year ago, to embrace the crazy waves, curls, silver and white whatever naturally comes as-is to just be me. Beauty is subjective in society but also with some people on an individual basis. To me, personality and soul is what makes someone truly beautiful. You are a really beautiful, sincere and joyful person with a good heart and infectious charisma... I can't wait to see how your journey progresses! If you are able and willing to do so, please do some videos on caring for & styling natural hair! ^_^ I feel like there is so much more for us all to learn from you! <3 Edit: Please don't feel bad about protecting your personal boundaries from the people that didn't have genuine concern for you. That situation is on them, not you. Let your light shine & let them deal with their jealousy and unkindness.. they'll have to answer for their actions eventually. :)
Ogxmdi: awww your videos did help me when i decided i wanted to go back to the creamy crack after 8 years natural and this just goes to show that hair is versatile and it's all a fun journey that we black folk shouldn't be policing. cheers to new things, Seun ❤️
Apara: This is awesome!!! Like you, I went natural after being relaxed my whole like without seeing my natural hair (I'm 35). I never liked my relaxed hair but felt like I had to. It wasn't as successful as yours, I could not grow it at all, and it was breaking excessively. I was also having really bad scalp issues. When I stopped relaxing, all my problems went away. And the growth, is crazy!!!! I didn't know my hair could grow. Again congratulations on your big chop. I'm a new subscriber, and can't wait to see your journey (since I just did the same 6 months ago).
Naomi Monae: It’s crazy you said that in the beginning because I’m currently going through this now . I had someone ask me “can black women grow their hair long”? And it pissed me off because other races and our OWN genuinely don’t think we can grow our hair past shoulder length . I’m now on a journey to prove people wrong about us not being able for grow hair . So I totally get why you started your journey! Happy you were able to prove people wrong and now start fresh
LaToya Ebony Hair: I saw your documentary when it came out and it was so powerful. I knew this was coming (you said so lol!) and I’m so excited for you! You look beautiful either way, but I particularly love hearing your thoughts and seeing your journey. ❤️ Side note: I wish some of these hair stylist would properly educate themselves on various hair types and states instead of pretending they know what they’re doing and insulting the customer...*sigh* I’m sorry that happened to you.
Dawanna Killer13: When you said people carry their natural hair pridefully, that’s literally why I went from relaxed hair straight to locs I don’t regret it! Nearly 2 years loced.
Karma's Peaces: Hi Seun, thank you for sharing. I must admit. When I first went natural, I was grateful to the Natural Hair community for the advice and knowledge. It was all so helpful...Until it wasn't. There are trolls in the Natural Hair community that want to segregate naturals from relaxed hair, mixed hair, and straight here. Then they want to judge anyone that isn't natural. The goal is not to shame, but to educate. Thank you for shedding light on the realness of it all. Kudos
Uma Abde: Wow this video gave me chills. I am relaxed and I do it for myself. Natural or relaxed it’s all about making yourself happy.
Dance Ballet: Your beautiful and they were jealous at your shoot!! Keep your head up Queen, never let your crown fall. Congratulations on your new journey. So many girls can relate to your journey so thank you for sharing.
africanbeautifulgirl: Make a wig out of your relaxed hair! If anyone ever asks if its your hair, the answer will always be yes :)
Keepin It a Buck With Briel: I started crying with you because I completely understand where you’re coming from in being young and feeling like it was something wrong with me or really thinking I was lacking by not being able to have straight hair… I grew up with relaxers too and just understand you so much. Thank you so much.
0kitten00: I had waist length relaxed hair. So I get you. I have been natural for a while now and I am about 6 inches from waist length. If you decide you want to grow it long again in its natural state you definitely can. You have a beautiful’s. And I have picked up and watched a couple of your videos off and on throughout the years. Congratulations on meeting your Mark, and much success on your next mile stone
TheLongRun _: I remember crying in the shower when I was transitioning in college 11 years ago. It hurt detangling the two different textures. I agree, if I had to do it again, I would have just cut it off and wore wigs.
Divine Izeg: Hey. I’m in love with your content so far and now it feels like I have an actual 4c hair sister, it’s been frustrating on these natural hair streets. Excited for more to come, you always do fantastic research. It feels like I’m on this journey with you, I cried about my hair two days ago, why my natural hair doesn’t look like the ones I see or how people’s own are, I’m so emotional and I love you and I pray your channel gets more healthy love and support
Adriene Williams: I wish for my sistas that they learn that whether they are relaxed or natural that they ARE enough. I’ve been natural for almost 12 years but I don’t think I’m better or more black than my relaxed sistas. Hair is so personal and I think however a sista chooses to wear her hair is HER business.
Jessica Ropchock: One day like 13 years ago, I was sitting home and didn't feel good about myself and I decided to flip through every channel and see how many channels had people of color represented at a quick glance. Literally just flipping through stopping for just long enough to observe what was on. Out of 70 something channels only 3 had any representation of people of color. And only 1 was a female. Then I thought why am I trying to be something I'm not. Within days I disconnected my cable tv and completely stopped putting relaxers in my hair. It still took a year for me to do the big chop because I was growing it out lol. And in that time I saw "Good Hair" documentary by Chris Rock. I felt my beauty but I was still scared to be seen by other people. When I started working outside of my house at a restaurant with my fro, people would ask to take pictures of me and tell me how beautiful it looked and I think it was more me finding my power as to what people found beautiful. I admire you for sticking with what you wanted to and doing this chop because you wanted to.
Emani Chaney: Such an inspiration Seun! I’ve been trying to decide if I’m going to go natural or put relaxer back in my hair. Just know I am with you on this journey. Black girls rock
Trisha Smith: CONGRATULATIONS!!! I’m so happy for you, doing what YOU want to do!! The lil fro is soooo cute omg!! I was surprised to see the notification but not overly shocked. I am sorry about your photoshoot experience, and know it’s okay to feel the way you did! It was completely valid! From being upset about it to feeling bad about feeling upset! But! Congratulations once again! I’m excited for you and your continuing hair journey!!
Nice Juju: I understand now! Your hair, relaxed or natural, is beautiful. Straight or coily, it doesn’t matter, because what’s important is how confident you feel. Thanks for this video, it has opened my eyes on the complexity of the representation of black women’s hair, and how important it is to support their choices :) love u <3 (Btw you are so pretty)
Shantae Jenkins: Sounds to me like the lady was jealous of your beautiful hair....for a person to constantly find a problem or constantly make it seem like your hair wasn't good enough...she was mad her hair wasn't that long.....long hair or short hair...your absolutely stunning and im rocking with you on this new hair journey‼️
Olivia: Beautiful! you looked gorgeous with your natural hair! Congratulations on your new hair journey! I’m in the process of transitioning right now, hoping to make the big chop by the end of the year definitely nerve wracking but I know it’ll be worth it. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Danielle M: LOVED LOVED LOVED THE video. I struggled to grow my relaxed hair and wish I’d stumbled onto your videos before Corona quarantine. I’d been considering going natural but never did because I thought it was too much work and my hair wouldn’t grow long relaxed so it wouldn’t grow long naturally. However, my last relaxer was February 2020 and after a couple of months I was like okay this is the time. I loved the feel of my natural curls and I’ve started making my own oils and creams. My hair is strong and healthy. I liked your Nigerian style with the rubber bands and look forward to seeing your new natural journey and videos. I don’t think you were too dramatic. Black women have long had a strong connection with our hair and it’s connection to our beauty. Relaxed or natural and it’s an emotional thing. My husband was the one to strongly support me on this journey and I hope you receive comments personally and through your social media to support you on yours. Negative comments, eh people can be rude but that’s on them. Keep doing you boo!! ❤️
Pretty Girl Keke: i will never forget you. Thanks to you my relaxed hair is mid back. Wish you the best for the future, you were a true inspiration to us all.
Brooke Arnett: Now you can help us natural girls grow healthy waist length hair!
Dee Speaks: Sorry for the trauma you had to go through. It makes me really sad to hear that bcs you put so much love and attention into your hair. I’m glad that you’ve made a positive out of the situation and wishing you well for your natural hair journey ❤️
Bijyo: Congrats. I went from relaxed mid back length hair to twa. It was a trip having short hair for the first time. Just enjoy the journey and novelty of it and discovering what your natural texture can do. I don’t miss all the blow drying and flat ironing I used to do. My hair is already back to the length it was before I chopped and yours will be too before you know it. Have fun experimenting with styles and finding the perfect products for your texture ❤️
BobaNina: Omg!!!! This is like perfect timing because I am finally going to try being natural and I see that you're doing the same thing LOL I can't wait to do this journey with you haha I'm currently transitioning from relaxed to natural I feel like this is going to be interesting good luck on your girl can't wait to see how your hair is going to look
Fatimahs Files: First time watching your videos, I’m so sorry you experienced such a traumatic experience at the salon. You seem so down to earth and genuine. Relaxed or natural, you’re still beautiful as many in the comments have already mentioned! Excited to watch your new journey!
mycha: Girl trust me. If you had long thick relaxed hair. Your natural hair is going to be even better.
Simyouna Jacobs: You are such an inspiration and when I first stumbled across your videos I didn’t know you were relaxed. I was excited to see your journey and it encouraged me to grow my hair out as a natural. I love your humbling spirit and so sorry about what happened to you on that shoot. Stay strong don’t loose who you are and I will definitely be following you on this new journey.
Sun's Flower Creations: I'm so glad you came to this place of acceptance on your journey I've been natural my entire life and still enjoyed your videos. But now I'm soooo excited to see what you will do next in this natural hair space ✊ You have massive influence and I love to see you use it this way. This was so moving!
Boluwatife Sobande: I decided to start transitioning in October '20 and I've having issues with cutting off the relaxed part. Seeing this video has convinced me that IT'S TIME! My hair is currently in a protective style and I've started taking little snippets off. Doing this has been giving me anxiety but I'm going to press on. Once I take down the style, I'll finish the process (Pray for me ). I've also cried. I'm glad that we'll be starting this journey together. One love from Lagos, Nigeria.
Lulu: I love how well you explain people's perception of beauty, weirdly enough I understand the message you were trying to give here, rather than in your documentary... Message: People who are confident in who they're, what they wear, rub off on other's that witness that confidence and thus causes people to want to imitate the confident person themselves in an effort to also feel confident. However, this is wrong as the actual confident person found their confidence within themselves, not other people, hence why the confident remain confident and the people who imitate the confident remain imitators until they find confidence to be themselves. @Seun do you think I got your message? Because I did and thanks for the life lesson☺️, the point is to BE YOURSELF and be CONFIDENT about it
Maaya77: The funny things is when people with kinky hair wear their hair in their natural state/true form and let it be (especially around the edges) we get dragged when we relax it ,we get dragged ...We can’t win so you might as well live in your truth and let them talk while you handle Your business.✨
The Truth: So sorry about your traumatic experience. The stylist was nothing but jealous of your hair! I look forward to following you on your hair journey! You are beautiful inside and out! Love from the UK ❤
Tamla Philpot Clayton: Oh my! You’ve had a tough time and I appreciate you sharing it with us(your “hair family “).... I have enjoyed your videos and this one “really “ touched me because I went through the same type of experience, sort of, anyway I have been natural for about 6 years and “still “ haven’t learned as much as I feel like I should have to get the healthy length I once had as a younger person (I’m 55 now)and I just wanted to say THANK YOU and I am proud of you.....CONGRATULATIONS and WELCOME to the natural hair world! Embrace and enjoy it
VoiceRenée: Girl girl girl! Let me just start by saying New subscriber here! Ok. You are beautiful. I also just cut my long thick hair that was actually (natural) a few days ago, because it started breaking due to some red permanent hair dye that I decided to try out about 2 years ago. Girl, my hair started to feel like a limp noodle it was so unhealthy my natural curls were so dry and brittle no matter how much moisturizer I put in. So I had my fiancé cut it into a short blunt cut to get rid of as much red as possible. I haven’t washed it yet but after watching your video I am excited to see what my little short Afro will look like. I was looking for someone on YouTube that I could follow on a journey of growing back healthy natural hair. I’m so glad I found you!! I don’t even know you, but I am so proud of you for doing this. Such an inspiration! Thanks for sharing
Chioma Njoku: I really enjoy and appreciate this video as well as the comments. I started transitioning to natural last year ( September 2020), after following you for some time, as I realized I had been relaxing my hair for the wrong reasons (trying to fit in, get a promotion, etc.). I too had been relaxed for most of my life. It took hearing a relative tell me to touch up my roots in order to stop looking “unkept” for me to pause and reflect. My hair is for me, not them. Thank you for being such an inspiration and for sharing your truth. Looking forward to watching your future videos.
Minimal Assembly: I am excited that you have decided to embark on this journey. Sometimes there doesn’t have to be an “experiment” to accomplish anything with your hair, just to enjoy it since it is a woman’s covering and her glory. I’ve been natural for 14 years and just finally found styles and a routine that make my hair feel and look good. I cut off my relaxed hair in the bathroom of my college apartment, with a little bit of work study money to take a bus to Whole Foods and buy jojoba oil, rose water and Jason’s conditioner. I popped into Sally’s to get a brush, Cantu Shea butter leave-in and S-Curl. I had no idea what the heck I was doing. When I saved a little more money, I bought some Qhemet Biologics Amla heavy cream and researched heavily on how to care for my texture. I died it honey brown, then blue-black. Within 3 years my hair grew from my scalp down to mid-back with mini-twists. I started heat styling and wearing it straight a lot, then cut it into a high top taper for two years. I started growing it out again in 2019 and now alternate flat-ironed twice a year then mostly wear it in its beautiful tight coils. I hope to now grow it to shoulder length coils that frame my face. I hope this shows just how versatile our natural hair is. You have a lifetime with your hair, so take your time and enjoy. This is just the beginning of a new journey.
Mo'neefa's Lifestyle: I am so very proud of you. I always had long hair myself and I did a big chop last month for a similar reason. Believe me when I say I genuinely feel all that you said. At one point I almost cried. I could see where you would laugh when I know you really wanted to cry. I am really sorry you experienced all that. I know you are a strong woman and I am overjoyed that you took this bold step. Sending hugs your way sis! Welcome to the natural world!
Trinity Johnson: Yeahhhhh!!!! I’m so happy for you taking this scary but also exciting step! I’ve had 2 big chops over the past year and I love my hair short. It gives me so much freedom and it’s so fun! Hopefully you’ll feel this experience later on in your journey but ofcourse you will go through the other phases of big chopping your hair but you are making a great decision to better the health of your hair.
NNENNA NICK-OBIEGBU: How about "Let's grow our Natural 4c hair together" series .... Weekly episodes. From the washing, hair styles & duration. We can all follow through and all.
Vicky Musinga: It's sad that we have to explain why we want to keep our hair in a certain way. As long as it's healthy and we feel happy with the way our hair is, that's all that matters. Congratulations on reaching your goal, you're gorgeous queen
Tomia Hagens: I remember when I was a senior in high school(2004), I transitioned from relaxed to natural, alot of ppl weren’t on the “wave” of being natural. I was teased and made to feel like I was going looney because I had just lost my mother to cancer. BEST choice I ever had. Shortly after I got locs , and had them for sixteen years before I did the big chop, right before the pandemic in 2020. Love getting to know my hair all over again
반imo: It remembers me the day I decide to keep my hair natural. I was so tired to relaxe them because of the pain and injuries caused by the relaxers. Now I embrace my new style even if it is not easy to keep them sane. They keep breaking after each hairstyle, maybe more, maybe less but I love them like this. And I will never relaxe my hair till the end of my life
Mermaid Glow: First of all you're beautiful with any hair style you have, I'm proud of you for taking up on people being negative towards your relaxed hair, it was not their business, period. Everybody has the RIGHT to do with their hair WHATEVER they want. Just because people are going natural, it should not be a cult and impose anything on anyone. People that want to be natural be natural, people that want to be relaxed be relaxed, period. Oh and good hair is the hair is the hair that's still on your head, if its on your head is good.
Rhonda Gilbert: Hi, I am new to your channel! To see you chop off your hair, I am like wow, she is brave but I totally understand. I went natural last March (beginning of covid). Had a bad reaction to hair dye and my hair dropped out to like 1.5 inches. I always wanted to go natural but was so afraid of my hair type. Today I am glad I have natural hair, its not where I want it to be but I am also glad I can go along with your journey. Its so freeing not to have to relax my hair.
Shelby Steele: I have a love-hate relationship with my natural hair so ive transitioned from relaxed to natural 4 times over the past decade. Im currently transitioning back to natural but this time Im getting sisterlocks (because Im done with high maintenance hair in general). As women we are allowed to change our minds and experiment as much as we want. It is not as serious as people try to make it. As long as you're healthy and taking care of it, it will grow back no matter what you choose, so have fun with it!
Keji Sojobi: I'm two weeks late to this video and rarely comment on YouTube at all, but your experience with that photo shoot set me on fire. I feel the need to say: you were violated, and you were so rightly upset, and I am so, so sorry you went through that. I do not use the word "violated" loosely. This person not only tore down your being with her words, but ripping your hair out and daring to suggest cutting it to fit their ideal - with absolutely no prior discussion with you - was injury to your very body. I have had similar experiences, wondered if I was being "weak" by being upset, and subsequently realized that there was no weakness there - only full, albeit subconscious, understanding. I hope you have been able to realize the same, and I hope you never have to experience such violation again. Congratulations on being so wise in your youth, and here's to a fun new journey!!! Thank you for sharing. So much love to you <3
Vannellssa Aden: I have also gone back totally natural after relaxing my hair for years. I was also excited to transition. I think u look absolutely gorgeous with your natural hair. You were very brave to cut off all that length. I truly admire you. Go forward and never look back...
AstoldbyAja: I loved this video! I only started going natural in college back in 2015. Relaxers were all I knew and for a while i was fine with it until I started seeing more diversity at my college and found out I just had major hair identity issues. i didn't know a thing about my curly hair. This is my last attempt at going natural. The longest ive gone was 3 years and this year marks a year and a half at being natural. I'm trying not to be so obsessed with my hair and just let it be that. Hair. I keep a good routine and get good results from it and keep it moving lol. You are pure beauty unleashed and no one can say other wise! Stay healthy and safe out there!
Oluchi Ahamefule: I can so relate to how you feel. My hair wasn't as long as yours obviously but it was almost mid-back length wise. I had been wanting to cut it for a while not because it wasn't growing but because I was tired of it. It was such a huge deal for me for years, but I knew it was time when I started cutting because I felt so much peace. It's a little over one year into my natural journey and it's been beautiful. Can't wait to watch your beautiful hair grow! ❤❤
Daisy Flower: I can heavily relate to wanting to grow your hair out to show people that black people can grow hair. That was why I started on my hair journey also because my friends and family were telling me that my hair wasn't going to grow long cause black people just don't grow long hair and yes did I prove them wrong. But after I grew it long, I wasn't excited about it, I didn't love it and I always found myself admiring women with short hair. So I cut my hair and if someone is ignorant enough to think black hair doesn't grow that's their problem not mine
MissJasmine 33: I just found your channel and subscribed for the journey. I can relate to the change because I had waist length relaxed hair before I transitioned to natural hair. It's been 4 years for me and I still don't miss the maintenance of relaxers. I feel so free! I love it! There's so much versatility with afro hair!
Cheryl Renee: I also want to thank you so much for sharing your relaxed journey with us and I'm excited to follow your natural journey as well. I learned so much from you, not just the the science behind hair, but also what determination and passion can achieve. Your beauty will continue and I'll be excited to watch the transformation. Much love to you!
Levi The Baddest: I really love your channel. I'm gonna share my experience here, just because I'm emotional while watching this video right now.... My hair has been relaxed ever since I was a baby. I have NEVER seen my natural hair. For years I have aspired to grow long beautiful looking relaxed hair like yours in the video, but it never happened. My hair is always dry, uneven, and breaking off constantly. It looks terrible. I kept telling myself that it would get better, but there's no hope for it. I never entertained the idea of going natural, because I just felt like I would look really ugly with short, curly hair. I'm so scared of what I will look like with my natural hair. But I have to realize that there is nothing wrong with the hair that grows naturally from my body. I am clinging on to this unhealthy hair that doesn't even make me happy. Today I finally made the decision to go natural. I'm excited, but I'm also scared. I'm scared of how it will look, I'm scared that I will regret it. I'm scared that it won't grow, because I've never seen my hair grow properly. I'm scared, but I'm not going to let it stop me anymore. . . I just want to thank you for being an inspiration to me!
Rise N’ Shine: You were one of my inspirations for getting a relaxer. But needless to say although I too did the big chop almost 5 months ago, I never stopped watching and following you. You have a beautiful soul and spirit. This was very emotional to watch, I am so happy and excited for you. Thanks for your transparency on your channel, all of your tips and genuine perspective. We’re going to be on our journey together sis! Can’t wait for this journey with you✨with much love, following from Arizona❤️ By the way, your crown looks amazing on you queen.
Khayr: I went natural 4years ago and my hair has put me through so much and now am back to relaxer. Everyone was mad about going natural around 2017 and I joined which I never regret. I've done the big chop and enjoyed my hair for 4 years. I am back to relaxer just this year and again I don't regret it. I think relaxer is form of make up relaxed or not as long as we are enjoying our hair that's enough and being relaxed if u know the reason does not make us less of natural or black.everyone likes short cuts and easier life style n relaxer just makes afro hair more manageable
eVaniwithaV: congratulations hun! A piece of me always hoped you would cross over! Great video!
F. U. Nosey ass stalker: Thank you for sharing this transition, from the Creamy Crack , to Natural. WELCOME TO THE NATURAL WORLD!! YOUR DOING GREAT!!! IT IS FREEING!!! I've been natural my entire life. I was made fun of or looked at differently for having curly hair. Now everyone is. " GOING NATURAL "
Ms. Safe: This video was inspirational. Your story really spoke to me and I was certainly able to relate on so many levels that you discussed. I look forward to seeing you through this new journey.
Tashi B: Beautiful! Your testimony was authentic and inspirational❤️ thank you for letting us come along your NATURAL hair journey!!!
Rosy Leveque: I'm so excited for your natural hair vids! I've been natural for 8 years and been using your protective style videos to grow my hair. My hair has grown 5 inches in 10 months from boxbraids. Keep doing you
Mimi's Craft: I remember seeing that documentary that's how I found out about your channel and started watching your contentI am living for how excited and happy you are to start your natural hair journey. You had beautiful long healthy relaxed hair and you will have beautiful healthy natural hair I'm positive will be twice as long because you do your research and you take the time out to nurture your hair. Im so ready for this journey girl
Sierra LaFaye: Proud of you girl! Looks great!
Maria: I think it's wonderful that you made the decision to go natural while you are young. I got my first relaxer at the age of eight, and didn't stop relaxing my hair until I was 42 years old. I believe as we get older the hair thins, but it thins even more if were constantly putting chemicals on them. It took me a long time to get my natural hair and scalp in good condition after relaxing for so long.
alicia marisal: I appreciate you sharing these experiences and I'm sorry they happened like that ❤ Not for nothing I'm relaxed and plan to stay relaxed but I'm totally excited for your new hair journey! I'll continue to watch as always❤
Rose Petals: Don’t let that experience with that hair lady beat you up.A lot of people will criticize you for what you have because they envy it and she sounds like one in my opinion. I bet she would pay bucks if someone could give her the quality and length of hair you had. You will always be good enough as long as you are living in what liberates you.
debsthegreat: I was just thinking how anti black the campaign seems when I realized it was a relaxer campaign. But really, everything makes sense. As a natural who hates anything related to the push of more European standards, that incidence breaks my heart. The stylist did not respect you nor your hair, and the fact that you had to question everything you knew was wrong to remain what you thought was professional is exactly the black woman's experience in this racist country.
Olivia Chukwu: No relaxing your hair doesn't mean you hate yourself. It just makes it easier for you to manage your hair
Krissy O'Connor: So sorry you went through this. I'm on my natural hair journey. Thank you for your bravery in sharing this. Got me super emotional and also gave me motivation to keep on going. Much love! ❤️
Laura Moorman: You are so brave, and amazing, and inspirational. The reason you were balling your eyes out, is because that stylist traumatized you. And then tried to blame YOU for their mistakes! I would cry too if someone with so much power demeaned me, didn't listen to me, and then tried to blame me for them pulling all my hair out and potentially burning it all off!!! I've been natural for 6 years now, and my hair has never been fuller, thicker, or healthier than it has been since I cut off the creamy crack. You're going to LOVE the versatility of natural hair! Thanks for sharing your story, and including us in your journey!
Research 4life: When you told your experience about how that women handled your hair, it resonated with me soo much. I had a similar experience, I can still recall that feeling of sitting there and feeling my hair being ripped out from the roots. Just horrible. From that moment on I kept on practising to learn to to do my own hair. It took patience and a lot of practice, but I got there. And I'm still continuing to learn my hair and what works for me. Great video!!
mrstmj34: You look so beautiful with and without your relaxed hair. You clearly know what's best for your hair because your hair was at your waistline. I know you'll be able to grow your hair in its natural state to your waistline as well. Have a safe and happy hair journey can't wait to see all your updates.
D. M. Johnson: Thank you Seun for your transparency. I'm so sorry you had to experience that. She was not a knowledgeable stylist on natural hair, hair period. Your hair challenged her and she took it out on you instead of acknowledging and needs more training. You're beautiful inside and out. Welcome to the natural hair community love.
Monique Monique: I just big chopped my 21 inches of natural 4c hair a month ago. Let us all journey together.
Jazz: This is beautiful . You did show women that with relaxed hair, that their hair can still grow looooong and healthy! I’m confident that with your beautiful, natural 4C hair you will be able to achieve the same results and will be able to reach even more women . Thanks for sharing your journey and I wish you nothing but more continued success in your hair journey ✨ I am certain that you will exceed your goals again and I’ll be happily watching as you do
Rem Holloway: When you got to the part about what happened at the photo shoot, I almost started crying with you! I’m so so sorry that happened, I don’t think I would even wish that on my worst enemy. Besides the fact that she CLEARLY did not know what she was doing, Its so much deeper than that. As you have shared you have trauma surrounding your hair as a kid... I think every black girl does at some point in their lives no matter how small; chasing after what others naturally posses. But that’s also regarding all aspects of life, and no matter who you are and where you come from; we constantly have outside influences telling us what we want, and we believe them, simply because that’s what we were taught. But as I’m now learning, we never actually sit with ourselves and question it. We accept things as fact without first doing the work and investigating. I’m happy that your doing this. If this is something that you actually want and it’s a true expression of your joy. As long as your smile comes from within, that’s all that truly matters. Sorry for the long message, I’m slowly starting to speak more of what’s on my mind. Btw you look good!
Being Dijah: I’m so sorry they made you feel that way about your hair. Kinda reminds me of when people would make fun of my acne and I would avoid looking at my face.
Lethabo Mokobake: I loved your relaxed hair journey and followed most of your tips even when I am natural, I'm so happy that you chose to go natural and I understand your reasons. Well done for doing you babe.
Cynthia Rather Walker: I am in my 50s and I tried relaxers when I was in my teens and early 20s. I have been natural the majority of my life. I LOVE MY HAIR! I don’t like other people touching my hair so I only get trims every 3 months. I don’t judge! This is my personal journey to each their own. But in whatever you do, do it in a healthy way.
Brittany Smith: Thank you so much for sharing this story, your hair was beautiful relaxed and is beautiful now natural, I am also doing the big chop and can't wait to continue to follow your videos and pick up on some tips on how to manage my hair on this journey! <3
Amanda Davis: Thank you so much for this video! I have very long relaxed hair and I’ve wanted to change it for the longest time but my mom always told me it was too pretty to cut. After watching I finally made real plans to big chop this summer
Tba: This was so beautiful to watch. I loved every minute of it and felt what you were feeling. Thank you for sharing that! you expressed yourself perfectly <3