5 Life Lessons Learned In My 20S + Crazy Storytime! | Chit Chat Grwm Ft. Lavy Hair

Put something inside of it for killing me off: hey everyone, it's the stream of Simone here and welcome, and welcome back to my channel. I am going to be installing this new wig from Labby hair. Thank you so much to Labby here for sponsoring today's video, I'm just gon na jump right into it, sent me over this 22 inch, Brazilian body, wave, lace, frontal, wig and a color four. I believe it's a brown I'll have all the details down in the description box below on the wigs, along with the website and everything for Lobby hair, it's a very wide frontal, there's Combs inside and then adjustable straps, I'm not a pro at installing hair. I'M actually practicing, I'm not really getting ready to go anywhere. I'M just getting ready to film this video in this video today, while I'm installing the hair and after I install the hair, I'm going to be talking about life, lessons that I learned in my 20s because I just embarked on the 30s okay, I just stepped into 30 Hood, so I braided up my hair already and I'm just gon na crisscross and put on this wig cap. Okay. So it's gon na be quick and easy. Hair is very soft straight out the packaging, but check out the color really loving this brown. It looks so natural, so I'm just gon na crisscross, the straps. That'S already here a quick fast thing that I do another quick thing that I do is add Foundation powder. You could, of course, bleach your knots when I'm ready to really like customize customize, I'm gon na go ahead and bleach my knots, but for right now I'm gon na go ahead and put my Foundation powder own hair, because it's quick fast and I'm not really going Anywhere, so if you want your knots to be seamless, I would definitely recommend bleaching you're, not just by me crisscrossing crisscrossing it right here. I am able to secure it with the comb and you see it's like stuck down to my head and then I did go ahead and do my eyebrows in a brown feeling very natural to me. I have a very big forehead, so I do tend to bring my wigs down a little. I already slicked back my hair with mousse. I definitely want it to be in front of my hairline, I'm going to be using adhesive spray by even or Evan. However, you want to pronounce it so I have two the active extreme hole and then I have sensitive. I do have sensitive skin, but so far it doesn't really irritate me because I've used this alone before I've discovered the sensitive, but the last spray sometimes can irritate me. If I like, use too much or get too close, I am going to literally just spray around my head forever dripping. I'M gon na take my little miniature blow dryer that I got from BaByliss Pro. It'S a travel sized one because I don't have my full size blow dryer right now, so this doesn't have a cool and I'm just gon na use my comb to kind of slay it to stick where I want it to be. This would be great for, like a day, cut my ear tab. So, okay, I cut my ear tab, so it can go right over it, like a diet, good job. I can start talking now about some life, lessons that I've learned in my 20s, okay. So the first thing you don't know everything when you think you know everything. You really don't know everything and when I'm talking about things here it definitely can be advice, but it's more so coming from my own personal experiences. So if there are things that you want to list down below and also share with us you're more than welcome to - and I might do a part two to this depending on - if that's what you guys want - because I think I just have way too many things To talk about so I try to like chop it down to about five major things and I have more major things. I even have a lot of story times of things that happen to me when I was younger. I didn't listen to my mother a lot. One thing, I would say is listen to your mother. If you have someone you look up to someone, that's never really stirred you wrong. I know everyone doesn't have like a present parent or a present person. Someone that's looking out for their better good in my case. Was my mom for the most part, listen to your mother, your parents, they care I'm gon na put some more just down, so let me put on this head tie all right, you guys. So this is what I came up with. I just gave myself a nice little swoop and um over here needs some work, so I'm gon na be using some mousse, because the texture of this hair is very very light. I tried to start plucking. I'Ve noticed with like colored hair like if it's blonde or brown, if you look, it will just be like non-existent. So I decided not to do that. I think I'm just gon na do that nice we be wavy. Look, I decided to just go ahead and just use moves because it looks cute. It looks very cute, so this is how it's looking on me. It'S very long, 22 inches it's past my past, my waist and how it looks in the back very beautiful. I would recommend curling mousse for this hair texture. I just slicked this down with mousse and I got it to be pretty straight. I didn't add any any heat or anything like that, so I'm just gon na let that kind of air dry, because I want it to be more voluminous, so make sure you check out the link below because Lavi hair I'm loving this color, my fiance really likes The color on me, so yeah um, definitely going to be testing out more wigs, so look out for more wig videos. For me going back to what I was saying in regards to my life lessons I listened to my emotions. A lot kind of just went off of how I felt when I was younger, and this was from my early 20s throughout. I learned the hard way with a lot of things, and so many of my mistakes could have been avoided. Had I had not only have listened to my mother used to like what was buying a feeling at the moment whether I was sad or happy or excited or driven to do something or persuaded to do something. The mistakes that I've made taught me a lot. Obviously, but I felt like a lot of things could have been avoided and a lot of things like I literally didn't have to even go through, but obviously it made me the person that I am. The second thing that I would say is the life lesson that I learned in my 20s. These people are not your friends all of these people, whether they're at work or People You Meet throughout your life, they're, not really your friend. They may feel like they're, your friend. They may act like they're, your friend, but they're, really, not your friend, I've lost. So many friendships, I've gained friendships really quickly, and I believed what I was feeling. I believed what I was seeing and I believed what was told to me at my big age right now of the age of 31 years old. I don't have any friends. My friends are probably just my family or my fiance. I don't have any friends, I'm my truth. Only friend, really, hopefully one day I'll find a friend or a true friend. I thought I did. I think I mentioned a couple months ago, a video that I had a new friend that fell through the cracks. I don't know what happened. I don't know if my judgment is off but clearly as I've gotten older I've learned to listen to the red flags, pay attention to the signs. I don't got time for foolishness. I don't got time for the drama that certain people bring into your lives as you get older and you start to be around more mature people, nine out of 10 times you'll, probably have better friendships. Sometimes I wish I had a friend I'll, be honest with you, but the friends that I thought I had are actually not really like that caring, you know, they're, not caring. Some of them were very selfish. Some of them were self-centered, some of them used me. This wasn't really good for me. I should say I will pour my all into a relationship and I'm like loyal. You know and I'm real, but you don't always get that I would say Choose Wisely. I wish that I would have chosen wisely to not put myself around certain people. Friends, wise everybody's, not your friend, everybody is not your friend and sometimes it could be believable. It could block your blessings in certain ways to sometimes you don't even know so number three. A third life lesson don't rush into having kids I having children. If you're new to my channel, I have a daughter, one child, my four-year-old daughter Mila. I love her dearly. I do not regret her. That'S not what I'm saying some people that's what they want to do. Some things happen, life happens, accident happens, and this is not to say. Oh just focusing on oh get married first, because you can get married at a young age and have kids and still things could not work out. What I'm trying to say is that in your 20s, there's so much things that you need to do or like set up your your life for when you get older, so that you can be comfortable financially stable, put together, whether that be with a partner or by Yourself, so that when you're getting your 30s and your 40s, you could be more relaxed and you can enjoy your child and not having to be working nine to five and you know Finding Ways and Means to figure out what to do with your child. Or you know just have money to like take care of your child, I'm just gon na be real. I had my daughter at the eight I got pregnant with her at 26 and had her at 27, even at that age, age like in my later 20s. I feel like if I would have even waited a little longer, because I wasn't as established as I wished. I would have been so if I would have set up myself and not switch my Majors so many times in college. I would have graduated a lot earlier. Had a degree and finished school and probably would have got a career with in my field, or at least aimed towards that all right. So I did migrate to the dining area. To finish up married before having a child is definitely something that I would have wanted to do. But um, like I said, marriage doesn't always mean things are going to work out, so I would say to be established financially mentally your maturity levels, because not because you can have a child means, you should have a child and I know not. Everyone wants children, but this is for those who want to and are thinking like. Oh, let me like rush and do it, but of course, when you have your child younger, you know you'll also be young at the same time as their they grow. But then it's like, you know, being more mature. Sorry, I was waiting for Bay to leave, be a chore and like establish, can happen more so happens like as you get older. So the fourth line life lesson I learned in my 20s - is to sort for Financial Freedom or Financial Freedom should just be a goal. I feel like a lot of people in their 20s and in their teens or just 20 years to say, are not really focusing on their finances. If anything, they're splurging or their parents are still paying for things, and that makes sense. But as you get deeper and deeper into your 20s having a savings, a good job or even a career, if you're able to do that at a very young age, it's something that I wish that I would have focused more on. It was always so hard for me to find a job that paid a really high rate the highest. I believe I found in my 20s was like making 15 an hour, and I thought that that was a lot I mean, obviously back before it probably was decent but living somewhere. Like I do in New York, you can't really do much on your own. With 15 an hour I mean other places before probably but just saving, even if I was making a lot lot more, I don't feel like I would have saved, I feel like I would have been just buying a lot of clothes and shoes and hair, and all These these things that I could have saved my money and I could have done without it, so I feel like if I would have you know, finished school faster because I did graduate. I would have like had like a little bit of a life plan or just a plan in general for Financial Freedom. When I got older, a lot of things would have fell into place. You know at this moment right now. I know there's a lot of people at a young age that are doing very well on social media and making, like thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars per month that wasn't how it was before social media actually wasn't like a huge thing. Just a few years ago, trying to avoid debt is something that I wish I would have focused on in my 20s. My credit score was like 800 I'll, never forget and I qualified for a TJ Maxx credit card in my early 20s and I got it with a credit of 2 thousand dollars and I thought I was bowling and I didn't understand credit. No one taught me that there's not really a class in school for credit um, that's something you kind of have to sought out for yourself before I didn't understand. Oh try to stay below the 30 limit. You know. I thought that oh 2000, like I, could just spend the whole 2000 and that's what I did. That'S how I am now. I I literally crave and fiend for Financial Freedom and just several sources of income at my early 30s. Now that I feel like, if I would have like did that in my 20s, I would have been like just chillaxing now, but it's never too late. So that's the great thing number five is something that took me some time to realize, and that is don't trust. Everybody doesn't mean you can't trust anyone, but just don't trust everybody, and I know you may think: okay duh. No, it's it's really not a duh when you're younger or you don't really have like common sense or you're a bit naive, leave or you're more sheltered. It'S so easy for you to trust and I'm speaking self-reflection I was sheltered when I was younger if someone said something to me outside none of the times. If I couldn't see with my eyes that it wasn't true, I kind of believed them with anything that they said to me. A lot of them figured it out it out hard way and what it went. Female, there's females, that's out to get you and there's males. That'S out to get you, but then don't feel like everyone's out to get you. You don't have to feel paranoid, but you should just always have observation. Pay attention to your surroundings. Pay attention to red flags, pay attention to people, don't just trust everyone with everything trust! Your gut trust, your Spidey senses, letting everyone like in your personal space, is like a No-No. I feel like that's something that people have to earn male female friends, someone you're dating anyone into your home or going into their home, and you don't really know them or anything about them. You don't know what can happen behind closed doors, trusting anyone to just get into your vehicle or getting into their vehicle. I'M telling you there are certain scenarios where it goes over your head, because some people are just so good at tricking you and influencing you. Just being conniving a quick story time just to end this off with number five, I had a friend like, I thought I knew well, but obviously everyone has a life and you don't know all about their life and when they're not around, you lost touch with me For like a month - and it was a meal like when I was younger, I had a lot of meals, friends and like I really consider them to be friends. Yes, sometimes some of them will like start liking me and stuff. That will happen but like sometimes male and females can be friends, but it depends because there's a thin line so anyways when I was younger. I had this one male friend I had a lot of other ones, but I lost touch with them and then it looked like they had changed their number or lost their phone. I don't remember, I think I seen them somewhere and then we exchanged this number and then we were talking just regular, regular, I mean regular Douglas. Then they wanted to like go to like a lounge or something I was in. My mid-20s was I in my mid-20s. No, I was in my early, I don't remember, but it was in my late 20s like I still was dumb. It was my early 20s, so they wanted to go to some lounge or anything. So they picked me up, which is like what I did like. I went out with my friends and, like I had my own vehicle at a young age and then, like I hung out with people that have vehicles. You know so came to pick me up like nothing, and you know I've been in their vehicle before a lot of times hung out with them everything we used to talk about our own little relationship with you know, problems or whatever. He said that he wanted to stop at McDonald's to get a smoothie and I'm like okay, which I thought was so random and he was like. Oh you've never tried one of those little smoothie things and I'm like what's Smoothie King and he was like yeah the Smoothie thing that everyone's drinking I'm gon na stop by my house, really quick to um pick up something. You know it wasn't a big deal like I've chilled at his house before so I said. Okay, so we went and like I'm like. Are you still going? We there we just started talking just about dumb stuff, like we always do he's making some smoothie like mixed with like liquor. I was old enough to drink. You know I didn't drink like that. Do I drink socially, but we were going to allowance, so it probably would. I would have babysat my drink. He said this smoothie thing where you kind of like spiked, the Smoothie I'm like. Oh I've, never had a spike smoothie. I guess like a margarita, but that's like slushy but okay, so he was like yeah, I'm gon na just make this really quickly or whatever, and then we can go like pre-game and I'm like okay, I said I'm gon na go to the bathroom. I went to the bathroom came back and you know we was. He was just talking like regular. I started drinking the Smoothie like I'm drinking it and I'm like. Why does it taste like that? I'M just feeling like pieces of stuff in it like crushed ice, but, like you know, when you don't grind up the Smoothie enough and I'm just like nah, we need to go back to the McDonald's right now, because some they messed up this smoothie because, like I End up spitting out something and I'm like there's dirt in the smoothie and he's like what? Oh, my God. Oh my God, are you serious. Are you serious nothing's wrong with mine and I'm like yeah, we got ta, go back, get your money back like. I was really upset. I went and I like, spat in like the sink in the bathroom, like it tastes so bitter and I'm like there's dirt in the Smoothie like, like probably like at the bottom settled, where the straw hits he's like, where oh, my God and he was like. Look. I'M gon na give you some of mine right, so he pours it into a regular cup and then I'm drinking it and then again, like I'm, tasting the same bitterness but like now like all of the grinds is like thicker so like I spit it out held It in my hand, and I'm like nah this tastes, so nasty washing my mouth out and he's like behind me. He was like where, where what are you talking about? What are you talking about? So I'm like there's something in my hand like I spat it out. He'S like, let me see, let me see and then my mind, just like clicked like I felt like God, was there with me, no lie, but anyway I'm like he don't really have no sense of urgency. So I left him in the bathroom and I kept the piece of whatever I spat out. It looked like a crystal in my hand, so I left and, like my head started spinning I felt funny I felt weak. I felt lightheaded, so I went in the kitchen. I noticed like there was something on the counter and, like I walked straight to it like at this point I felt, like God was like guiding my feet, so I walked straight to it and then I went to it and I looked. It was like a capsule filled with stuff in it and whatever was in the capsule, looked like what was on my hand. I never seen that before, but obviously you're more than Spike the Smoothie you put something inside of it for killing me off right. So I started like Walling out and I'm like what the hell did you put in my smoothies, like I didn't put nothing in these smoothly because he walked down and seen me with the pill like next to the pill. Looking like what the hell and like I stuffed the piece in my pocket stormed over to my stuff picked up my bag. I put on my shoes real fast because, like I don't really walk around in people's house with shoes on so that's all. I, like I, just took off my shoes and he's like what are you talking about my heart started, beating I'm like oh my gosh, like I felt funny. I was scared and I feel like I wouldn't have seen the signs. If I didn't figure out that, like I would have you know, matched the like the crystal with the pillow, if he wouldn't have left it out, I still wouldn't have realized so then he started acting like I was like what is wrong with you, you're acting crazy By then, I shot out of the house ran down the stairs called my friend to come. Pick me up, because I started to feel funny at this point. Like my head felt dead busy. I spell swimming I to this day because I even looked it up on Google at the time I kept the crystal to this day. I feel like he put the what is it called the date r, a e thing or whatever they call it into my my and that was my friend my friend my pupils were dilated. I felt my head felt swimming like I had to take home my friend to pick me up, because I couldn't even like walk straight. It looked like I digested a little bit of it already just from in the smoothie. I guess he didn't get to crush it up as properly because he was rushing to sneak it in, because I was literally around him the whole time there's a lot of other things that happened to me, believe it or not. Before and after that - and I still was so dumb - I was naive - I was too trusting. I gave too many chances. I know everyone out. There is not out to get you, but using Spidey senses, no matter if it's someone you know, look at that that situation, the tranquila case with all the friends that she went to Mexico with I got most of the time. So if you want to know some more story times or some more life, lessons that I've learned just to help you out whether you're in your 20s or you know you just like to hear story times or you would love to hear some tips or whatever. Let me know down below also liking this video it'll. Let me know that you enjoyed it. Yes, this was a chit chat. Chit Chat, chatty chat, but I hope that it was informative and helpful. I don't know everything, I'm not claiming to know everything you can always share your story or your tips or lessons down in the comment section. I would love to hear it and um. I will see well make sure you hit that subscribe button and follow me on Instagram and Tick Tock. Okay, all right I'll, see you in the next one bye. Thank you.