Black Women Share Natural Hair Horror Stories
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I'M not gon na see my mother literally that's traumatizing. I think black hair is super diverse. I think that's one of the things that I love most about it is that you can straighten it. You can have it curly, you can have it like curly straight there's. Just like so much to love about it, but it is definitely a process. My hair is really important to me because I think I didn't really appreciate it until I kind of got older and kind of just did whatever with it. As I got older, I you know started doing these things to make it healthier and I really just started appreciating like the hair I had on my head. Okay, so I haven't really found somebody I love to do my protective styles. Like I get box braids, and so everybody here was like just go to Instagram find somebody on Instagram and I was like yeah, it's a very normal thing. I'Ve never done that. So I was like okay, but the thing was I needed somebody who could do it literally last minute and not for an LA price. I ends up finding this girl on Instagram and she was like reasonably priced. She could take me the next day. I was like perfect great, so we're texting about it and she's like hey I'm in class. Let me text you after you know, fill it. Okay, caller said I get it a lot of the times. You know that was the hustle in school, everybody braided hair. I Drive all the way to like way in the South LA and I'm outside, of like a housing area. So I'm sitting outside of what I think is like her house and I'm like hey I'm here, I'm here a little early. You know, I don't know which one is yours and she's like. I missed the bus, I'm on my way and I'm like you, missed the bus and I was like okay well, I was like I can just come scoop. You are you close by and she's like yeah, so I went to go pick her up and she's. A child actually looks to be like between 15 17, and I was just like okay, okay, exactly I'm like it's the hustle okay, I get it like child labor, but I get it so I pick her up and then we go to her house when you walk Into the house, it's the living room, and that is where she was going to be doing my hair in the middle of like the doorway. So I'm like. Okay, I don't have any problem with that and she goes to take off her jacket and she's. Eight months pregnant - and I was just like - oh no - no, no, no, I was like now. I can't go away because she's doing this for her child and the girl was like sixteen - and I was just like this - is not only child labor. This is child labor. To a pregnant woman, I'm into that style turn out. Okay, so I wanted to get because at the time I had my hair blonde braids blonde, and so I wanted it to be on braids and I knew you could like reven. She didn't know that technique. So her sister came and was helping her figure it out and she's like no that's way too much. I'M not doing that. So I literally had to go to the beauty. Supply store, buy different hair than come back to her, so we didn't really start until like two hours after we were supposed to start my hair. Can I remember, I told you, your girls got a lot of hair. It'S right here, yeah. I know at minimum. It'S gon na take eight hours, she's braiding, my hair, and apparently it was gon na, be her mom's birthday the next day. She expected me to be out by like five o'clock at the latest, so when it's seven, eight nine rolling around her family starts coming in. I just for me my hair is really important to me because it says a lot about Who I am and the type of person that I am when I was growing up. I thought I had to have my hair look a certain way, especially before it became legal to have natural hair and not be discriminated against. I thought that to get ahead I needed to straighten my hair and the damage from relaxers was real and then once I finally had it all natural it felt like I had arrived, I had come to a sense of just meanness that felt more whole learning how To care for it the first time like right when it was all natural, and I wanted to care for it myself without going in that, took a lot of trial and error. Mostly error, like I found out the hard way when you try to lock in your curl pattern. You can't just use any moisturizer. I tried coconut oil and that locked for real it created locked curls. So almost like one step away from dreads and maybe two to three hours of combing it out yeah. I saw one lady on YouTube who had the same thing happen, but it's like really rare, coconut oil, allergy yeah, my horror story, even thinking about it. It'S just like making me like have like anxiety like all over again anyway, when I first decided that I was going to let go completely natural because I used to like straighten my hair a lot I was like I'm gon na get a curly cut. You know. I one of those cuts where, like they cut it in its natural stage, it's just supposed to be great yeah. Have your curls like flourishing in things I go, you know to a salon for with a specialist, so they said, and you know I'm she gives me a consultation, we're kind of sitting there chatting it up. You know just talking about her and I I did have some heat damage because I used to straighten a lot so like I had some heat damage around here and especially around this area. You know like from the leave out why you straighten it out all the time, so you know because they were sitting the chair, we're kind of like chatting it up. Just like talking about hair life, I get distracted. So after the cut you know we're kind of talking, I'm thinking we're on the same page. She spins me around and I'm like what did you do literally? I literally start crying cuz, I'm like I have a mower like. I literally had a mullet because she cut straight ends off around here, but then all of this, because it was straight, but it was like a lot more obviously from the leader, so she could've really so literally. This appears like this big. It wasn't even big enough to have a bang and then this is just regular and it's literally like a mullet. I remember calling my friend after and saying like my hair is terrible. She did such a terrible job and I'm just like crying and before I even show her. I have it like this and she's like you're so dramatic. Like I'm sure, it's not that bad show me and I go like this, and you know that lip quiver thing what people do when you're like trying, not the lab she was like doing it. I hear horror story, so I went to Arizona State and they used to have the single camp bar go where you would camp out to get the tickets for the football games. Everybody would just have tents pitched. You know just all around everybody's hanging out, and so I have you know, have my area have my space and with all my friends and this girl, like she like makes it's like really intense eye contact with me and I'm like okay hi, you know, and she, Like start running over and she's like has her hands out just like touching all over my hair, and I was like no and I did I'm a very patient person, I'm very patient, but I was like girl. We can't love like no, like you can't just touch. My hair, like that, you know and I'll she was like we really it was like. Yes, like you can't just touch my hair. It makes me think he's just so sorry. She seemed a little intoxicated, but I was just like regardless, like you can't do that, like you can't so you can write if she was shocked like and I was like well yeah like so. Hopefully she remembered that even no matter what state she was in it. Oh, my god, I had the same thing happened to me, but I was in a Korean spa like in the spa, spa part of the spa and this little old lady. It was just like you, I didn't know what to say like I froze, because you know respect your elders or something I don't know what get into me, but I was just I just kind of let it slide yeah. I know for me when people touch my hair just makes me feel like an object, not much of a person. It'S like a thing to look at like almost as if you know, you're in a shop and your mom's like don't touch that and you touch anyways. So I would just always encourage people to you know, compliment the hair say how beautiful it is, but just keep your hands down and don't touch cuz. It can make people feel pretty bad and be really surprised. I mean, I think the thing for me when it comes to natural hair is like it shouldn't. While it is in some instances, I don't feel it should be a political statement. It'S literally the thing that grows out of my head is my genetics and the way I am, but I also understand like when you think of like the Black Panther. It'S like it was very much a symbol of who they were, and you were able to point somebody out by their hair. It'S like really important for us to just be able to feel like. We can be ourselves completely like in a workplace, and if that means that you want to wear your natural hair and then I feel like that should be okay, and I just remember on my job my job search. Like you know, thinking like if I didn't get a job or if something didn't come through, like I always thought like well, how did I have my hair and it's so unfortunate because, instead of like thinking about what was I not good for this position was my Resume not strong like things that actually mattered for you yeah. We have to go in and be like. What are we gon na do with our hair, like I really like that's one of the biggest struggles for natural hair women when going on like job interview is what am I gon na do? What am I gon na show them? Who I truly am and see? If they appreciate what am I gon na talk or down so that you know they kind of, can exact envision me and their work space yeah exactly I hear you, I feel like having natural hair comes with like an Astra cup. You'Ll have a horror story. Oh yeah, where yeah I just want people to continue to celebrate and to acknowledge and enjoy the diversity of hairstyles, because natural hairstyles have just blossom in LA. I see something new, a new look like every week now of different ways that I can do my hair. Where is growing up, I never saw that everyone had straight hair, there's value here and seeing that type of just beauty and expression, and I hope that other cities get to enjoy what we have. I once you accept just like who you are and just accept like how it grows and just say like okay. This is how it is. That'S how it's gon na be y'all gon na have to take it right, or you know it is what it is. Hey. We'Ve had it and that's it:
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Ri Active: I remember at the beginning of the natural hair movement when there wasn't a variety of hair products out yet, we were using all natural stuff like produce. So, I made a mask one day with eggs and banana. I washed it in a hot shower and I ended up with scrambled eggs and cooked banana in my hair.
Nyantee A: Buzzfeed you know you can do black content outside of black history month right ??? lol
b1njjj95: Going natural was the most liberating thing I've ever done. To be able to FINALLY break free from years of self-hatred and low self-esteem, and to just be confident in everything I do was so amazing! I learned to start loving myself and standing up for myself after years of being bullied in middle school, high school and college. It just felt so nice to own my personality, learn more about myself and not be afraid to truly express myself. I stopped going to hair salons after I realized how bloody expensive it was to get a hairdo I never truly fell in love with. Now I style my hair myself and it's a lot more fun than sitting in a chair for 6 hours and hating every single minute of it.
Ashley Morton: My natural hair story is me trying to avoid those people in the mall at the kiosks that sell flat irons. I had been natural for about 5 years and hadn’t put any heat on my hair in like 2 years. I was walking through the mall trying my hardest to avoid the girl at the kiosk but being the pushover that I was I decided to be nice and humor her and listen to her little sales pitch. I was about to leave but she somehow convinced me to let her straighten a little section to show me how well the flat iron worked. She was a black girl herself so I figured it would be ok but boy was I wrong. At the end of the week it’s wash day and the section of hair that she straightened did not revert back. I even tried to do a protein treatment hoping to save it but it remained bone straight. She must have had the heat turned up to the highest setting. ♀️ I ended up just cutting that section of hair off. Luckily my hair was a decent length and the damaged section was kind of towards the back underside of my head so it wasn’t noticeable. I was so mad at myself. My instinct were telling me not to let her touch my hair but I let her do it anyway.
Tyra Smith: My hair horror story: When I was 15 I got a weave that was super tight and I had a dull radiating pain in the middle of my head. I asked my mom if could take it out and she said no because she paid money for it. The pain persisted, and then maybe a week in it started to get really itchy and whenever I would scratch the area red flakes would come out. Three weeks later my Mom finally let me take out the weave, and as she was taking it down she screamed. In the middle of my head the weave actually split open my scalp and I had a wound there. I went to a salon the next day and they refused to treat me because of the open wound. To this day, almost 10 years later, that area is still extremely sensitive and the hair there grows in a different texture from the rest of my head. Maybe a year or two after that incident I attempted to get another weave, and I actually had a panic attack at the salon and had my mom take it down the next morning. The next school day was the first time I ever wore my natural hair to school though and I got a lot of compliments . I have never gotten a weave after that and never will.
JVWriter90: Also consent, please don’t run up to strangers and just touch them without their permission. Especially hair, a lot of people don’t realize it but hair is so personal.
Ashley Morton: One of my friends started calling me “Mic” as in microphone when I first went natural. I had a twa. He said I looked like a microphone because I was long, skinny, and black. Some also thought it was funny to put pencils and paper in my hair or gently tug on it to see wether or not I would be able to feel it.
Ally_A: I'm white and I never wanted to believe that people just touch curly hair from strangers. But my best friend has a beautiful afro and people were touching her hair a lot. Thats incredibly rude, I still cannot believe that anybody would think thats okay, it's not. The only time I'm touching someones hair is after I asked and when I'm friends with this person.
Enn Vee: 1. Can we get a "women share their positive natural hair journey story" video? 2. Can we get a video with different hair patterns? 4b 4c...not just 3b 3c 4a :) Thanks buzzfeed! Edit1: the amount of ppl who dont know type 4 hair...WHEWW
Lovecraft: I have nothing but respect to everyone with afro-textured hair. Its insane how people react to it as if its something crazy when its just what comes out your head, the same as anyone else's. Natural hair is so gorgeous, it can be made into such beautiful and complex styles, or left curly and free, its awesome. I am a non-black mixed person, but when i was a literal child of 14, strangers would grab my hair because it was all the way to my butt, curly/wavy. They would pull it from behind me and ask if it was real. I had people constantly touching me without me knowing bc when your hair is that long you dont feel much unless they pull. It was a nightmare. No one ever respected my boundaries or ever apologized when i told them not to do it. From a YOUNG AGE. I cant imagine the struggle for a black person who has "unbelievable" hair to people. When people do that, its like youre a doll or a toy. Youre not a person. Never touch anyones anything without permission, and if you dont effing know them, dont ask either!!!!!! Its CREEPY. Some people might not mind it but Id rather no one ask and make lots of people uncomfortable instead of just hoping the person youre asking isnt bothered.
Tiona K: “Before it became legal to have natural hair” the audacity of this sentence is throwing me for a loop smh ♀️
tsahai851: I really want to know how the first woman's hair looked
Matyas Nora: Watching this made me sad and happy at the same time. You go ladies. I have to admit, for the longest time I was completely unaware of the stigma that comes with natural hair in the black community (mainly because the part of the UK I used to live in, thankfully, people never made a thing out of it, and I personally always appreciated individuality on every level). I'm sorry that to this day there are women being stigmatised for their natural hair and some even might lose job opportunities, which is absolutely bonkers. People shouldn't feel entitled to do such things. But then again, it is a sad world we live in.
Mailyn Amaro: My curl pattern changes with my hormones and when I was young my curls were really tight and people treated me like a petting zoo. People are so ridiculous thinking that it is acceptable to invade one’s personal space like that.
Lauren O: My hair horror story is the time I decided to give myself a haircut. I was 5. It was the dead of night. In my room. Lights out. With kiddy scissors. And NO mirror. Think about it.
adi: Watching buzzfeed and not knowing anyone is a strange feeling. I only vaguely know destiny and she's not even first gen buzzfeed cast
Kristen Alexia: I remember getting my first texturizer when I was 12. It was burning like crazy and I was sooo very shy, I kept quiet but after a while I couldn’t hold it in.. so I quietly said “excuse me, it’s burning”. And of course, she says “yes, few more minutes” fast forward, my hair ended up super straight and beautiful but y’all ..... MY SCALP WAS COMPLETELY SCABBED!!!! It was very traumatic. My mom never took me back there, thankfully. I ended up going natural 4 years later and I absolutely love it. Our hair is very versatile. It’s so fun to learn about your curl pattern and to try new products
vaibhavee jadhav: Omg I can't stop looking at this girl in black tee and denim. Her highlighter game is so on point!!!
champslim: The same woman has been braiding my hair for 20 years. I trust no one else. I went natural 4 years ago and I loved it. It has been a journey lol. I fell asleep with wet hair and trying to comb it the next day left me in tears. It took me 4 hours and my mom had to help me
Natanya T: hilarious story about the pregnant girl and her mom's birthday party!
Ange N.O.: Destinee's story sounded like my annual summer summer braids in the 90s...minus the teenage pregnancy.
Imani Monay: A YouTuber that goes by “IAMTREAH” has a whole natural hair horror story series on her channel! It’s addicting to watch lol.
Luckie Jinx: Between my hair and my birth name I'm never sure if the reason I didn't get a job is because I wasn't properly qualified or if my name/appearance got me dismissed ♂️
SameOleClift: BLACK WOMEN ROCK!!!!!!!
A. C.: I'm hispanic with 3a hair and I'm in my mid 20s just learning to love my natural hair.
JC LOVE: When someone even reaches for my hair my head automatically leans to the side I just can’t... it’s a natural instinct and then they apologize
Katrina Storm: Okay I've recently started to love my natural curls again and I feel like this spoke to my soul. So much Black Girl Magic and I am so here for this
Salimah inspires: I was at a club and I went to the restroom (we have alll had a club restroom encounter) this women decided to come pet me like a poodle . Why does this always happen to me
lovemyslowee: I want to see the mullet
CC _isgreat: I appreciate this video. However, I still feel that 4C hair is underrepresented in the “Narural journey” on YouTube & social media in general. I’d like to hear from them.
Vanessa Reyes: I’m Latina with curly/ waves/ thick/ puffy hair AND THE PART WHEN THEY TALK ABOUT HOW SHOULD I DO MY HAIR FOR THE JOB INTERVIEW.. maaaan i feeelt thaaat
Zoey: I remember back in 9th grade- 10th grade(the beginning of 10th) I wore my hair natural and people at my school(small school) loved it so they loved it so much they gave me a nickname and it was Poodle because my hair was so big and fluffed out. My mom husband(my stepfather) loves when I wash my hair and pick it out because my hair it's so big fluffy and I show him and he gets happy then he gets mad when I cover my hair (I like my hair cover but he don't, like my hair short but he don't) He said that he wants me to be proud of my natural hair and stop covering it up because it's too beauty to be covered
Bobbi Holmes: My friend Jackie would braid my hair and she would actually teach me how to just simply put her hair in a bun. I loved the fact she was comfortable enough to let me do it and it she loved that I actually wanted to learn.❤️❤️❤️
Aaliah Gregory: I tried to give myself a "curly cut" and I straight up gave myself a mullet
M Peace: This is why my hair is a) only in braids and b) my mom does my hair
Gina Agopian: Natural hair is the most beautiful ! No matter what the texture ❤️
Diana A-Y: Ooofffttt I’m ready - got my snacks on the bright side omg these women and their hair yes this is Black Girl Magic!! Our hair is amazing!!!
Laylah Liwaru: I agree with Destiny with the political aspect of wearing natural hair. I just want to add that natural hair is only a political symbol because we were systematically forced to not wear our hair. It's not our fault it was politicized.
Cleaning Up: My natural hair horror story was when I big chopped because it wasn’t even necessary but everyone was doing it so I did it
Kinky Keeeks: I’m reading the comments and it amazes me how many of us went though the same natural hair “rites of passage” I’ve never felt more close to complete strangers! ✨
em studies: Is there anything more infuriating than "oOoOoOHhH can I touch your hair" Like.....you can try but you'll lose ya damn hands. This is a classroom, not a petting zoo, and I don't even know you
Kelsey: I love that we're having so many beautiful conversations about black hair. :')
Amanda Perry: I've been waiting for this and I'm glad you guys never let me down
Prescilia Lu: I’ve been fully natural for about 2 years now and I really wanted to get a silk press to see how long my hair really is, so I went to get it done by this girl three weeks ago and now I have severe heat damage
Amber Skye: I’ve always thought I had to pick a side. Either I’m going to be relaxed or natural. Being natural for a couple months now has made me realize although my hair takes more time to do it can still do the things my relaxed hair could + it’s stronger. I love the ability to have a silk press, puff or a wash and go!
FlyLeelee: These stories weren't that bad...there are stories out there about bleeding scalps, bald spots after braids and rude stylists.
Madison Mason: Destinee is so beautiful and her hair is gorgeous!
Totally Netters: I have a coconut allergy as well! I was using it while I had on braids and let’s just say I had to cut them out bc my scalp and hair were knotted on one another! 2013 was a hard season!
iamsocorny: I’ve had a relaxer so long that I thought my hair was naturally straight.. and I tried to do Bantu knots and everything, came out a MESS!!! Whew I’m happy my mom let me cut it in 8th grade. So anyways, it’ll be 2 years in March and it’s kind of past my collar bone from the back abs past my chin in the front I’m so proud of myself
Suzy M Fleur: 4C hair has left the chat.
Promise Jubilee: I am so naive, I guess. I was listening to them talk about having natural hair be an issue in the work place with my jaw dropped thinking, "who would tell a person they can't have their hair natural in the work place?!?!" I would never even imagine saying anything to someone about their hairstyle choices. It has nothing to do with how responsible and trustworthy a person you are.
African lily: I’ve always been natural but my mom always did my hair until now. Now I’m struggle to learn to do protective hair. All I can do is put it in a puff
Theythem Moritz: I didn't realize how much I needed to see this video. It never occurred to me that Black women have so much to deal with with their hair (not the hair itself but the way other people code it and approach it and touch it with out permission and judge it jesus that's awful). I'm really grateful these women shared their stories and I'm sorry people are such dicks about something as natural as hair.
Lemohang Molobi: OMG, I told my ex's mom before I even met her that when we meet she must never touch my hair, and when we met the first thing she did was touch my hair!!! OMG I was so annoyed. I literally told her that it's disrespectful...my ex was not allowed to touch my hair neither. Also in terms of work and corporate, I go to the interview with a wig, then on my first day I whip out the fro <3
Rocio LeFebre: My husband has his hair all natural and in an afro. He loves it, I love it it's been 5 years since he started growing it but gets it cut regularly he says he would never cut it. I love that he feels he can express himself thru his hair, but he also does get looks EVERYWHERE we go. Sometimes it's older people telling him that his hair reminds them of when they were young❤, but some ask him if his "hair is real," "are you wearing a wig," and my favorite "can I touch it." To which I'm usually like nope.
ch-ch-ch -chihea: I am happy I found someone who has encouraged my natural hair journey and makes me feel good about my braids and stuff. It takes at max 2 1/2 for my hairdresser to do a protective style on me (coming in with my hair blown out)
Armina Rollett: I have so much curly hair but when its straightend its all the way down to the back of my knees
SydB: I think that the term "toning it down" @ 9:47 really was telling about how "exotic" some people treat natural hair and it's terrible that something that is literally just ur damn hair is treated with any level of animosity or making anyone uncomfortable, its messed up.
Try: I'm allergic to coconut oil also and aloe. My horror story: added too much heat and now I'm nourishing my curls again. ♀️
curlystasia sara: Loved this video ! Could definitely relate 1000%
Hope B.: I just wanna say love your hair it's beautiful as is you can do so much with it! It's so sad that black females have had such a problem with hair acceptance my teenage daughter has very curly hair she is bi racial and I love her hair and have tried so hard to get her to love it too.
I Chomej: I love the look of natural black hair, it's beautiful!
Marissa Wilson: A couple of years ago, I went to a salon to get my hair braided but the stylist dipped my hair in a plastic container with boiling hot water. The container broke and scalded me on the left side of my body. I went to ER where I found out that I had 1st and 2nd degree burns. This was less than 24 hours before a major presentation for my internship. I still had to go back to have my hair finished after leaving the ER.
lib_eve8627: Love love love. All facts. I just want to wear my hair how it grows out my head without someone fetishizing it or thinking I’m making a political statement. Be kind and compliment my hair. Please don’t ask to touch though; it’s an invasion of my personal space.
lichi1244eva: Whew, these stories remind me of my own. But I love my natural 4 B/C hair and wouldn't change it for ANYTHING.
SnEAkErHEaD: destiny’s story i can relate to though as i braid hair and people can judge you a lot for age and also if the girl didn’t know how to do her style is probably because she’s only just started and probs only knows how to do box braids and simple styles!
Lolo Future: My mom advised me to leave weaves behind and have my real hair out. So my hair was such a hot mess- just putting it in a bun it looked terrible. So a coworker handed me her hairdressers business card. I went back to weaves after that.
Oluseyi Babayeju: Is it just me or is Destiny's twistout POPPING!!!
It's Makayla!: Omg I feel you on the hair thing and how people will just come up and start touching it even though I don't have curly hair it happens to me all the time!
Juan Starnotip: I didn't know I was allergic to coconut oil until I used it for the first time. I was scratching so much at work, and to make matters worse a coworker created a rumor that I had fleas...
Hayden Laver: y'all one time I was going through TSA security at the airport and one of the TSA ladies REACHED OVER THE DIVIDING WALL BARRIER and dug her grubby little hands into my head, and there was nothing I could do about it bc I wanted to catch my damn flight smh
Karly Whitehead: omg i love alllll the horror stories they are super fun to watch i can watch these for hours upon hours they are seriously the best i love this channel its funny seing there horror story's i would 10000000000 million percent suggest this to enyone whos intrested in story times . but i would ask for more child storys about there life it would make for great storys who else agrees with me ?
Anfissa Krylova: Every time I see people tell stories of how they were afraid/ashamed of their natural hair I feel like there is something wrong with this world! Like why would you make fun out of someone's given? I see that taking care of this type of hair takes a lot of effort on a daily basis so it really would've been lovely if more people could just appreciate this beauty! And not discriminate people for their looks!!
MsStarSword: I love how they pointed out that you shouldn’t just go up to people and grab their hair. I’ve had that done a lot in the past because my hair was down to mid-thigh and I always kept it in a long beautiful braid. People would always come up to me and grab my braid and start messing with it and complementing my hair and it just made me uncomfortable, especially when it was a teacher or someone else older than me, especially older men.
Christianna Taylor: I just get it done, got so tired of struggling with it. I pay to get it done My hair hates coconut oil, too, and a boy used to sneak up behind me in the lunch line and touch my hair everyday when I was in high school. I used to wear a fro.
MyMiaMyTia: I remember walking up to this white chick telling her that her hair was beautiful. It had an afro texture to it and I was amazed at how long it was and how healthy. I could tell it was all hers. Im like you go girl. No matter who you are imma tell you when you look good cause we women gotta encourage each other. But this heifer turned around and stuck both of her hands in my head and was like, "OMG I love your hair too. Girl I'm 5% black." I'm like Okay . then she proceeded to hit on me. Lord Jesus I didn't know if I should be insulted it flattered I ended up hanging out with her and some friends but later explained to her about touching other people's hair especially thoes of us who are over 5% black.
TØP Jauregui: I refuse to go so salons for a reason. Thankfully I have family members that are willing to do my hair Besides, I just hate feeling like I always have to “do something” with my hair because I have 4c hair.
Brianna and Enrique LG: I have natural hair and when I straighten it it’s a little past middle back....anywho fast forward I’m getting a fitting room for a lady and my back is turned to her...she then proceeded to PULL MY PONY TAIL there was a moment of silence and me giving her a very questionable look like “did you really just pull my pony tail??” What if It wasn’t real and my whole pony tail slid off into your hand?? What were you going to do then??? I let it go but I totally understand feeling like and object and not a person at that point.
Sarah S: These ladies have beautiful hair! ❤️
Posiepie: I once had a lady start cutting my hair then ask me what length I ended up fine but she was pretty rude
Amanda 01: Coconut oil gives me a scalp rash and my hair falls out! I definitely relate to the tangling too
Laurenslocs: Years ago I did a flat twist around my edges .. left it in for a week didn’t realize how tight I made it cause when I took it down it left a bald spot ... almost ten years later ... bald spot still there ... yes it’s not growing back lmao
Kyla Jackson: I’m a white girl. omf I love natural hair. I never knew it was political and I’m just appalled that people actually get mad or think it’s wrong to wear hair natural. If I could have hair like these women wow all gorgeous women.
Radio.Meddows: im watching this while straightening my natural curly hair and now I wish I wouldn't have straightened it
Fall H.: This is legit a horror story but a real real real experience. Wow. This just reminds me why I dont get my hair professionally braided except once every 3-4 years.
Eva Laut: My horror story is that one time, I went to a hairdresser that didn’t really know how to work with curly hair (I have ~2/3c). I needed to get the ends cut off. She washed my hair, and then she starts STRAIGHTENING my hair!! (I was maybe 13 and I was scared to tell her to stop, cause I thought that she knew what she was doing). Then when my hair was straight, she started to cut it (and not even in layers, but just straight). My hair looked like a weird pyramid when I washed it days later and the curls came back. Never went back to that place (they eventually even had to close because their reviews were soooo bad).
SameOleClift: EMBRACE THE BEAUTIFUL STRUGGLE!!
shae brady: I’m not black but I have naturally 2C hair. Where I used to live ALL the salons were owned by white women with stick straight hair who don’t know how to style or cut curly hair. So my mom set an appointment with one of the salons because I was still 15. The hair stylist told me to come in with my hair straightened... I did it anyway and she cut my hair while it was straight, it looked good straight. Then later that day I took a shower before bed, put some leave in conditioner in and looked in the mirror. I was so uneven, it ended up looking like a mullet bc she tried doing layers on me. Yea so never went back there...
Arirveo: Went to a hairstylist who claimed to black hair. She goes to straighten my hair, won't straighten at 320. She turns it up each time my curls stay and finally after burning my hair she says "why won't your hair straighten?" ♀️ took about 2 years to revert straightening damage
yacine Bah: Our hair is gorgeous just the way it is doesn't matter what others say or think. If we are happy with the hair on our heads that God blessed us with then why should we worry about what others think.
Serah Mbuchu: today i went to the salon to just blow dry my hair after 2 years and it was horriiiifffyyyiiinggg!! the lady was blow drying my hair from the ROOOTTT aaaaahhhh
SophiaStella8: the fact that they made a law about how you wear your hair is just insane, like really thats what your worrying about here?
stvssrie: Fun Fact: *They all used Cantu, it’s a type of oil that moisturizers your hair*
Kaila Moore: I personally still don’t believe in the term “Black Hair” because anyone can have Afro texture hair or 4c etc, but it’s just very rare, but that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible. Whenever I say that people will think I’m crazy or cuss me out.
Gvmnt Name: I have yet to feel a sense of me-ness because of my hair. I feel like it's a hassle and at time I miss having a relaxer. BUT my husband hates relaxer and weaves and color and basically anything that isnt my natural hair soooooo
Ruth CH: As a Spanish (caucasian) woman, I’m astonished about this video. I mean, I don’t want to doubt your words but it feels unbelievable that someone can judge you, neglect you or tell you how you can or cannot have your hair. I always thought that it was a matter of “fashion”, that you preferred to have it straight or even that it was more “comfortable” to wear it like that and never understood why didn’t you leave your hair your natural way! It’s so sad to think that it was kind of a imposition, or that you felt you had to wear it certain way in order to avoid racism. Now, I want to learn more about this topic, I feel really bad about not having a clue about this issue
Morgan V.: The stories where people run up and started touching their hair scared me. Yes, their hair is gorgeous. Yes it is. But don't be a weirdo and stroke their heads.
Rocky Rock: My hair is always in a bun because I don’t know what to do with my hair
Emily Busby: Even as a white girl with very long hair, I can attest to the horrors of strangers coming up to me and fondling my hair without permission. It’s awfully invasive and rude.
SHYLEAN🦷: Once I wanted to go natural so my mom sent me to the barber and my mom told them to cut it 5 inch short and he cut it 1 centimeter and I looked like a freaking boy.It was so shorrrrt Omfg I wanted to die Well that’s my hair story of wanting to go natural