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Okay, so some people wanted me to weigh in on the sin versus care was in debate because Harrison said some things about sins. We'Ve - and you guys know how I feel about we, even a couple of you guys, wanted to know how I felt about the situation and how I thought about you know pro black women wearing weave, and let me first say that I felt both ladies had some Good points in their videos, I'm just going to be honest about that. The two videos I watched anyway, I didn't watch both responses from both. Ladies only watch like one response from sin and one response from charism and while I would never defend Terezin and you know all of the intellectual, what I feel is intellectual dishonesty that she she spews on her channel and that comes from a lot of her followers. As it pertains to you know, swirling and white men and how I do feel a lot of them have a white knight complex when it turn when it comes to white men and in terms of black empowerment, I would definitely take a million sins over. You know. A million charisms, I'm just going to be honest, but I do want to correct sin on something: okay, being pro-black is indeed a mentality. It is a lifestyle, but it's also a look. Okay, it's also how you present yourself to the world and if you are Pro black, you should be concerned with your image. You know whether that be your hair, how you dress everything it does translate over to your appearance, it's not one or the other sister. It is both - and you know I'm not doing this - to get a response from Cynthia or care resin or stir the pot. I don't have any beef, you know YouTube beef with either of these. Ladies, but this is something I do feel - needs to be addressed within the pro-black sector of the community, because I do see a lot of we wearing militant sisters all over YouTube. You know they're on dr. Boyce, Watkins channel. There are a lot of black women who talk black. They talk about this program stuff, but they have non black women's hair on their head 24/7 and that to meet you guys is like it's like black people should have a code of conduct, and that is something that should not be allowed. You know if you, if you appoint yourself as this speaker, you know this Pro black speaker or whatever. I just feel like you know the the fake hair like that, you know the European fake hair should not be allowed. You know, and let me make something clear: I don't think that hair extensions are weave and when I say weave you guys, I'm talking about European looking hair like straight weave, okay, um, I'm not saying they're bad per se. You know I just feel like they're they're. Okay, if they're like worn every now and then you know maybe for a protective style or if you just want something different, you guys know. I straighten my hair two or three times a year. I don't straighten it that often, but I do straighten it every now and then you know sometimes you you do want something different, but if you're wearing white women, hair brazilian hair, Persian hair Asian hair on your head 11 to 12 months out of the year, if Nobody has ever seen your hair you'll, barely know what your hair feels. Like you know, I'm going to question that I am going to question that now. I understand like permanent hair damage, you know being an issue like traction, alopecia or some some other ailment - that causes you not to have hair or causes it not to grow back or whatever. I understand that being a reason why a woman would want to wear a weave and cover that up, but if you are truly in love with your blackness and you'd like you're, preaching blackness, you know why not wear if you have to wear a weave. Why not wear a weave that is a similar texture to your own like? Why is it always straight? You know um, if you're uncomfortable with your hair 24/7, because obviously, if you cover it up 24/7, that to me says that you are uncomfortable with your hair. That reeks of self-hate - and some of you guys are going to disagree with me up and down about that. But look you guys there's no way around it. Okay, if you are a pro black woman who not only loves her blackness, but you know, understands the dynamic between racial groups. You know if you understand that you know we are literally paying the college tuition of some little Asian child Asian families. Okay, making them rich with our weave money are billions of a year on weave money. You know we're empowering another racial group who doesn't give a about us in addition to you know giving non black women their validation because they feel like we want to look like them. You know, after knowing all of that, why would you be caught dead on camera? In person or whatever talking black, you know with fake European hair on your head and as much as sin, you know seems to despise white people or evil evil album noises she calls them. You know you would think that she would not wear it and again I don't dislike sin, I'm just I'm just pointing out the obvious, and let me tell you guys - and I've said this before on my channel when I was becoming conscious. We'Ve started literally looking weird to me like it started, looking horrible, it started looking out of place to me and this is actually wearing it for years and years. You want to talk about being bald-headed, you guys listen. Five years ago I had one inch of hair in the front and notice. I said in the front. It was different lengths everywhere else, like my hair was just so bad. Just to give you an idea of how bad my was now, I've always had really thick hair. You know, and I have a lot of edges and sideburns and you know neck hair, like I'm a hairy person, so I was one of the lucky ones and I was able to grow it back. I was able to grow back a full head of hair, but I had a serious natural hair journey. You guys like it's, been such a life-changing experience, but - and you know you go through different emotions and you go through different. I don't even know how to describe it, it's just so weird emotionally, it really is for me. It was anyway, and I've heard of you know other black women having that experience as well, but nothing says self-love more than exemplifying black womanhood, you know being the of what that is, and you know being the opposite of what society says. It'S beautiful like being pro-black. You should want to be natural, like you should feel obligated to being natural, and you know that is you know pro blackness. That does include your appearance and that does include wearing your hair, natural and notice. I didn't say it's the only thing that qualifies like you know: it's the only ingredient of self-love right, it's not the only thing, obviously, and and someone you know who is natural, could still hate their blackness right and they just don't bother with we. For whatever reason, my sister is one of them like she, you know she doesn't particularly love her hair, like I do. You know she's not wearing it as a statement of her blackness, you know, but she just finds we've to be uncomfortable and high-maintenance, and you know ridiculous. You know I'm saying so, but she she idolizes white women but where's, her hair natural. You know she's, not pro blackhat, all she has mostly white friends. You know she thinks my brother and I are way too militant. So, yes, you know some some of the most white worshipping buck, dancing Negros, they wear natural hair and I agree with Cyn on that part, but for everything we represents as a militant black woman as a pro black black woman. You should not want to wear it. The desire and my opinion should not be there. Okay and listen. This is something I also want you guys to understand. There are varying degrees of pro blackness. Okay, like everybody, is not going to be at the same level or everybody's not going to be passionate about the same things. You know what I mean like I'm passionate about colorism right, everybody who is Pro black, doesn't give a about colorism. You know they think it's stupid, they think it's unimportant. They think there are more important things which there are right, but you know really in the grand scheme of things. Colorism has to be addressed when you're talking about pro blackness and it's the same thing with hair. You know, but there are varying degrees. You know there are things about me that one might say are Eurocentric right. I love law, hair on a woman, for example, you know whether its natural or weave or you know, kinky or straight or whatever. I personally think that you know women look more youthful with long hair. You know - and I also hate the stereotype - that black women can't grow their hair. So you know I always respond positively to you, know black women with natural hair or with long hair, and some might say that I'm conditioned to think that way. You know, even though, yes, you can find African tribes, where women were their hair long and were their hair in various styles and added. You know animal hair to it, but you know because we've been so used to you know seeing bald-headed African women in magazines and on TV. We think that you know that's what you know. An authentic African looks like African woman, looks like and we have to to go, bald or wear our hair, very short to honor our African roots or lock it up or whatever you know, and I'm not there yet, but just going to be honest, you know, I'm Not there and I love loose hair. I love the variety it brings, but maybe my preference for long hair is rooted. You know and self-hate. Maybe that part about me is whitewashed and you know I'm sure my trolls are going to have a field day with that. They'Re going to be running around talking about Chrissie self-hating, because you know she, she admitted that she's Eurocentric. You know y'all gon na twist in some kind of way, but I'm saying that to say that there are indeed varying degrees of programming. And you know it's just going to take black people a while to really break all of that down and to rid themselves of that and, like I said, people are going to go hard in the areas that they're most passionate about right and the sad truth about It is that you know Pro black black women they're, not making the connections and as it pertains to black hair and it's something that they don't think is that serious and in the grand scheme of things. Yes, there are more important issues in the black community. Absolutely you know, and if you're helping the black community - and you just happen to wear we - I mean what's more important right. We know the answer, but this is something that black women need to think more critically about in terms of how we feel about ourselves, how we want to represent ourselves not just to the world but to the children that you're raising, especially your little girls like what Message are you sending to them if you're walking around constantly with with a non black woman's hair on your head right, and we need to think about it critically in terms of how, in terms of where we are spending our dollars in terms of the message that We'Re sending to non black women - and you know again some black women would say well. Who cares? You know non black women. They try to look like us to bla bla, bla, bla, bla, yeah, ok, but it's your black ass who's out here, losing okay you're, the one taking a tail and self-esteem you're, the one taking an L and black beauty promotion, you're the one constantly being told that Your hair is ugly being whitewashed in the media. That'S you that's not non black women and it's not entirely your fault. It'S in fact most of it isn't our fault as black women, but why would you perpetuate it? Why would you do that? It doesn't make sense, lose the weave. Ladies okay, and I know some of you are tight right now: y'all mad you're gon na go off on me in the comment section, but free yourself lose the weave. You know, learn your hair. It'S so many resources out there for you available. It'S at your fingertips, learn your hair, learn to love. It put your fingers in it every day. Do it you know, love it, and just it'll is so good for you on so many different levels, mentally physically, spiritually it'll be good for you lose the weave. So that's all I have to say about this. Let me know what you guys think in the comment section and I'll catch up with you guys. Next, video
Comments
Happy Happy Joy Joy: I definitely understand why Chrissie does her videos faceless. Among her own personal reasons, doing videos faceless is good so people can focus on the message and not the look of the person saying it. Sadly, once you show yourself in today's world, here come the judgments about your looks rather than what message you are sending out to people.
Natalia: "We are literally paying for the college tuition of Asian children", Is an incredibly powerful and truthful statement! When women began wearing weaves and wigs while the majority of other women were still wearing their natural hair, it looked very different and some could argue that they looked odd. Now, that a large number of women have chosen to forgo weaves and wigs in favor of their natural hair, the opposite has occurred and it is a beautiful thing.
Alexandra M: At first I disagreed with you on this argument, but the more I listened with an open mind I can't even argue with you. You are absolutely right. Hair for women has always been seen on a global scale as a reflection of femininity and beauty. Black women embracing our own natural hair textures is a symbol to that world that not only says, "we are enough", but that "we are beautiful as we are." Natural hair is a powerful statement to the world and to ourselves. Going natural was one of the best decisions I ever made!
sunnysideup: Ive honestly come to the conclusion that a lot of black women just straight up dont know how to do their own hair
R M : i remember when my 17 yr old daughter BEGGED me to go natural in support of her going natural. i stopped relaxing my hair and never went back, i ain't easy. but teaching our BLACK DAUGHTERS THAT Y-E-S THEY A-R-E BEAUTIFUL IS NECESSARY. COILY HAIR IS THE SH*T.
Cyu Hen: I agree 100% I never got how some women can say that they are proud to be black and love their blackness yet they are rocking straight hair... then they say I like to switch up my look every once ina while or I get bored too easily.... but they are always rocking the SAME STRAIGHT hair styles .....I think they are either in denial or they're confused...
BLACKest Knight: *PREACH!!! She said if you are going to wear weave why not wear the type similar to your NATURAL texture!*
Jess J: I love Cyn. But I do agree that if she had more afrocentric weaves, it would be a better reflection of her thoughts. We need to show the world that our beauty doesn't depend on copying the beauty standards of other cultures.
M C: As I am a beautiful black woman, I have to say I HATE seeing young women sporting obviously FAKE long hair weaves. Girl, if you're going to wear a weave make it look natural so I can't tell it's FAKE. . Or even better, learn how to take care of your beautiful black locks so you don't need to wear a nasty weave. Just saying...
Araba Apau: I'm pro black as hell but I do wear wigs NOW. I used to wear my natural hair all the time before. Now that I'm in graduate school and have no time whatsoever to do my own hair , all I know is wigs. But I wear all types such as Afro wigs, Straight wigs and curly wigs. I honestly just don't have time to do my hair anymore because I'm always studying and if I'm not studying I'm working or sleeping. So I think there are different reasons for wearing wigs that we also need to consider ...
Brittany Ferguson: I completely agree with you Chrissie. I was relaxed for 10 years and in January I decided after watching “Good Hair” by Chris Rock to transition to natural. For years I relaxed and since my hair was always short and thin I wore long straight clip ins. I really hated my hair but it wasn’t until seeing that documentary that I realized what I was putting in my hair. I have no idea what my hair looks like but I’m excited to see in a year and half when I cut the relaxed ends off. I also think many black women need to wear their hair out more simply because other races really don’t know what our hair looks like which causes this divide among us in the media and promotions. We need to normalized Afro hair so when it’s seen by a non black person, they don’t act like it’s foreign.
Ona Kallendorf: This is what I've been trying to say on natural hair channels: it is very important for black women to grow their *own* natural hair out and preferably very long. It makes you look feminine and it sends a huge message to the world ❤ Before our ancestors were colonised, their hair was long. Hence you hardly find vintage pictures of black women with long hair.
CocoaBananas23: As long as you're not wearing straight weave 90% of the time then yes you can be problack and wear weave. (my opinion)
Trishy: Yes. Weaves started looking so weird and almost pathetic looking when other women don’t do that nor feel the need to. I literally just don’t want to. I may wear my kinky wigs but I’m not putting no long silky ass wig on. Ever.
Ken Jasmine: I watch Cyn here and there. And it's so hard to take her serious with that synthetic doll hair. I just can't get down with a conscious black woman who wouldn't even wear a kinky curly wig at least.
T Ric: I would love to see Cynthia with Halle Berry style short hair. She would blow my mind if she did that. I also wouldn't mind seeing her with her natural hair. Either way I love her message.
Black Rose: Btw, I just read something that, well.........made me angry. A few years ago, a book called "Little black hair book" was printed over here in Holland. It was a book with interviews with black folks about their natural hair & their relationship with it. An Afro-Dutch model, who lives & works in New York, told the following story. She mostly wears her hair natural and has beautiful long hair. But when she was cast for a black hair-ad, they wanted her to straighten her hair. When she refused, they told her it was allright that she wore her natural hair, but she had to cut a part of it, because it wouldn't be realistic or believable that a black girl had such long hair.........So disgusting, really.
ThatGuyfromThe6 eh: I see my Wife's hair 90% of the time. She straighten a few times are year and wears wigs every now and then to thicken her hair... She's not even "Pro Black"
A Social Media Consumer: Excellent points. "One cannot be an African and a slave". Accepting one's African-ness is essential to being pro black. And as she says, there are beautiful weave styles that are aligned to what black hair looks like naturally. Great video.
MrFreshography: I understand many of your points but there are too many black women out there like Cyn (i.e., weave wearers) who are contributing very positively to the black community in a very tangible way for me to be disturbed by her hair. I love seeing black women with natural hair. My wife has natural hair and i'd probably cry if she went to weaves. I wish every single black woman went natural. However, I wouldn't criticize Cyn because she contributes immensely to the B.C. I know you didn't trash her in this vid and you did indeed bring up some great points (especially the part about giving millions to Asians for weave). Truth is we dont know exactly why Cyn wears weave. I would like to see her go natural though
Chamilla Robbins: I dont have a problem with women wearing weave sometimes as long as they love their real hair and themselves! black women wearing weave are not self haters.
Zinnia: Looking back on this video I see how in denial black women are about weave. Black women will defend all day long to wear hear that was cut off of someone else's head. It's very sad.
Bria Mendez: Im a medium skinned mixed girl. Ive always loved that im part black. My blck side however u say it. I think it makes me beautiful , white features arent beautiful to me. I think im unique looking. I dont try to be more one way than the other. Ill always stand up for darker skinned people becuz yall are beautiful to me and these videos make me wanna cry tbh. Just be u be unapologetic be beautiful be yourself
MISSed Bandwagon: I honestly don’t like hair because it‘s something that defines you so much as a person and I hate being judged for anything that isn’t my personality.
WoahhItsMonica: Ok. I was on the fence because I'm guilty of wearing weave as protective styles since I went natural. But I get what you're saying. Whether the think so or not it sends a message that you don't like your hair. If you wear weave 90% of the year it's a problem. We get that there are exceptions (hair loses, growing out hair) but most women don't have those reasons. My natural hair comes first but I'll always have weave to protective style.
Write On: We must do better with our hair. Covering it up with wigs and weaves using the protection style excuse or its too hard to maintain, ,or saying I can wear wigs and weaves all the time but still love my hair is ridiculous. We all know deep down inside we have a love hate relationship with our hair because its what society has taught us to do for centuries. We'll never accept our hair if we continue to make excuses to why we can't accept our hair.
Mysasser1: now the money part is where I'm with you 100%!!!!! now if we are manufacturing weave and have a monopoly on it do you but until then yeah, it's got to stop.
AmajAlex: I wear my hair natural I get more compliments from white men, when I wear it straight, more compliments from black men
Shenette: I agree 100% with you on this Chrissie! I love Cyn and watch all of her videos, but I hate that she wears a weave. She doesn't agree that it sends a negative message to her videos, but it does. I know people say it's only hair, it's only hair... shut up! it's not only hair. If it was, then it wouldn't be the billions dollar industry that it is. You wouldn't have men in toupees and women in weave if it was. We have learned to hate ours and it's time we turned it around. I still watch Cyn's videos, but have to agree to disagree about the weave.
wilwinent: we got dreads cornrows braids with beads updo fros freedom Rolls do all kind of shit out here there's absolutely no reason our choices are endless
Sandra Smith: Natural hair works for me.i workout, up early, and yes, pro black. i cant stand fake hair. i feel with my natural hair, people take u more seriously, because my hair is not an issue..if u feel wigs, weaves, work for u, more power 2u, but i love my natural look. thanks Chrissie.
Raven Soto: So my mom had been relaxing my hair since i was young by request from me. Seeing how she did her hair. That ruined my hair by the time i was 16, so i made a change, stopped using relaxers and heat for six years. i got my first full sewin this summer as a protective style and it did the job. Hair is so complicated in the black culture lol i can't even wrap my brain around it.
TheGanation: I've never had a weave and most likely never will but I would never tell someone else not to
Jeunefille Camerounaise: I felt that! 5.34. SO TRUE!!!! I STARTED HATING WEAVE LAST YEAR.... IT JUST DIDNT LOOK RIGHT TO ME.
TaelurAlexis: I listened to your video as I was getting ready for work right now and I looked at myself in the mirror. I've been rocking this fro for a long time, I wanna see over a year now and I have to say that I agree with you wholeheartedly. Im siding with you but still have respect for rCyn's pro-blackness. We all define pro-blackness in our own way. I choose to embrace my brown skin and not bleach, wear my hair natural. The natural hair journey is a self-care journey more than anything. It's taking the time to feed and nurture your hair, loving the roots that make you unapologetically and beautifully black. Im one of only 2 at my retail job that rock their natural hair. I will say that I've become interested in natural hair wigs and that I grew up wearing braids from a VERY young age but it doesn't emulate or appropriate white culture which is a good thing lol. I've been wondering what my brand of pro blackness is. I wanna say it's a mix of self-love/colorism and educating our people on our history so they can feel empowered about who they are. Your video really has me reflecting about a lot. Great video
californication751: Couldn't agree with you more. Thank you for being so objective and balanced, especially with regard to how some usage of extensions is fine, particularly for protective styles. Your video's very much appreciated. Too often, people lump any wearing of it as negative, even when only textures similar to our own are used, and even when such is only used sparingly. I've found such blind generalization to be very detrimental, especially when people are policing and demonizing the activities of others who might actually be very balanced in the way they celebrate and wear their own natural hair (without extensions) much of the time, while choosing to keep it healthy and growing with extensions/protective styles that still emulate their natural hair, during their chosen hair rest periods.
CURLtureUK: Totally agree especially regarding the point about weave looking weird once you start to wake up. I literally can't look at it the same way as an ex-weave wearer. Good point about seeing short haired African women in the media as well.
catsrus2012: You are absolutely correct. My daughter is biracial, but her hair is kinky like mine. I had long glorious natural hair before she was born, but I damn sure make sure she sees my kinks so that she sees how fabulous our hair is. Black women don't need weaves. Our hair is easy to maintain.
Drinkthedamncocoa: These comments are doing backflips and shoki to defend weave. Funny because most of your followers wouldn't hesitate to trash a black woman that does a lot of work for her black community but is in an interracial relationship when you could make the same argument that black people dated out before slavery etc. Just as it is a contradiction to be preaching pro-blackness ( as in pro-blackness in the spirit of Garvey, which is distinct from someone just being for their blackness, which is just a matter of self-interested sense) and dating out it is a contradiction to be preaching this and wearing Asian/Brazilian weaves and wigs. Just like we cannot separate the history colonisation and slavery from IRR, though we know people do genuinely find love and kinship in these relationships, we cannot separate the history of white beauty standards that have lead to black women hiding their kinky hair. The Egyptian argument is intellectually dishonest. This evidence is fairly recent in comparison to the history of us wearing weaves; there is no proof this was even widespread in Egypt as the evidence mainly comes from wealthy mummified women (since when do the wealthy represent the majority?); we are of West African ancestry and there is plenty of evidence of their hairstyles, which embrace our kinky textures; you cannot claim Melanesians with blond hair as 'black people have blond hair too' when you do not claim anything else from these people apart from their hair and DNA shows they are closer in relation to Asians than to black Africans; there may be black women with straight hair but if that isn't YOUR hair then what has that got to do with anything? Let's be real. Many black women defend weave because they want to wear them AND have the power to look down on other black people that don't measure up to pro-blackness. For me if a black woman is doing great work I don't really give a damn about her hair. We can do what we want. But I'm done with the denial and the hypocrisy of people who only defend weave because they fear being subjected to the same dragging and judgement they happily preside over others.
Afree: I've concluded that black Americans don't know what black/Africoid features are.
Donna Eltina Nash: so here's my take...I love Cynthia G and watch her videos religiously because I love the content she puts out and I also admire her strength and don't give a darn way of presenting her information. However I really wish she would stop wearing the Evil Albinoid looking weaves. I've never gotten it and even once I commented on one of her videos raising this same issues and I was chewed up and spat out by not only her but by all her other followers. Needless to say that experience scared the life out of me and left me feeling confused as to what really is the truth . who or what are we to take seriously??? I am a firm believer in do as I do and not do as I say but ignore what I do? there are many of us out here who feel the brunt of white supremacy on a daily basis (am a nanny who works for a white family) and we are searching for role models and support to help uplift us while we deal with our struggles in a white supremacist world. so we are left confused and mind boggled when the people we look up to for empowerment confuses us by distracting us with the kind of hair we choose to wear. I love weaves and had to go through a process of difficult mental weaning from European type hair . I still wear weaves especially in the winter when it's cold and I get sick easily but I try to be mindful by only choosing kinky or tightly coiled styles as I can no longer allow myself to do the European type of hair. As for Kristelyn I've never even been able to watch an entire one of her videos because she just irritates me and her message is counter productive in helping me and my personal struggles as a young black woman I racist America. so long story short I prefer Cynthia, I think she's naturally beautiful and I would love to see her if not with her real hair, at least with more Authentic African looking hair. Is that too much for us to ask??????
Caryn Gayfield: Chrissie I was waiting for you to address this subject and so glad you did. I think you did a good job talking about this issue. It is like anyone with hair or physical features outside the cultural norm is made to feel bad about their looks. I made the point on the comment section on another of your videos how Asian women have surgery to correct their slanted eyes. This is the same monster rearing its head of self-hate just a different racial group.
corey thomas: i am kinda on the both sides here do i agree that natural hair should be valued yes but let not use this subject as a tool to question someone pro blackness either and i really do feel like the hair is a topic but not to a point that people should use that to question people and to cyn defense in her past videos she stated that she buys her hair from a black owned business so, now that creates a different discussion
LittleEva: Dear Chrissie, I'm an old lady. I grew up in the 60's and 70's. I remember going from relaxed to natural hair. It was so wonderful to wear an afro. Watch one of those old "Afro Sheen" commercials that they used to show on Soul Train. I look AWFUL with bone straight hair, I always have. I had long hair but the older you get, the better you look with short hair, I personally like long, curly, kinky hair. Also, the older I get, the straighter my hair gets, so I have to relax the front, but from what I've seen, weaves mess up your hair, pushes your hair line back.
Raina Ama: I cannot say I agree with you that pro blackness is a look. I think looks come into it but its not defined by how you dress or wear your hair. Its solely defined by your mentality in my opinion. But as per usual another great video from you.
SportsFan_9630: I agree with you 100%. Outstanding video. When you said that being natural made you look funny at weaves. I have the same experience. I can't look at women with relaxers or weaves or even imagine myself with a relaxer (never wore a weave). It just looks funny to me, too---even when I straighten my hair, which is about once a year. Also, I don't think that wanting long hair equates to a pro-European aesthetic. I think we all should know by now that black women can and do grow long hair. And we know that natural hair grows to amazing lengths, too. Long hair is not exclusive to European, Asian or non-black people of color. I hope we know this.
Olyvia Still: i didnt notice how uncomfortable i was with own hair until i took my weave out for more than a weekend. i really did not know i was uncomfortable because i literally never had it out. then when i did have it out i wore headwraps most of the time. i didnt take selfies anymore when i used to take them every single day. i couldnt take it so for 2 years i wore a weave 99% of the time. it wasnt until my ex pointed out that we'd been dating all that time and he'd never seen my hair that i realized. i really had a holy shit moment. i havent had weave since september last year and its the longest ive gone since i started wearing it. i hate weave now to be honest. its so silly and beyond that its unsanitary. other races really do think that we find them more attractive because we wear their hair. im still learning because i am currently relaxed and dont think ill go back natural again because when i was natural it was so much work. i have a family and job and busy life in general so right now i just cant. but i will never go back to weave. i hope other people realize how shitty it is and stop giving our money to people who hate us.
prioritize first: long hair is not a Eurocentric feature. you are not self-hating in that respect.
Karma: Years ago I felt like almost all dark skin models were bald headed,short haired or wearing extensions/weaves,there was no in-between
Coilykinkchick: As much as I love my some Cyn! Yes, she brings it and I support her 100% in her journey to empower us Africans...I do wonder why someone so beautiful stands so strongly behind that processed hair. If her hair underneath is straight like her wigs then I get it, but if her hair has a kink, coil or curl she, IMO should mimic that in her protective styles bcz yes it does make a statement and a bit contradicting to her passion. No, no one HAS to do anything they don't want, yes, she has a right to rock what she wants. She's very pretty and her knowledge and boldness in her word makes her extremely beautiful (no homo) BUT she seems to be very uptight when the discussion of her hair comes up. She doesn't have to wear her own hair, but there are textured weave hair that mimics our textures even in straight(er) styles. Ulovemegz channel is ALWAY rocking textured/coarse/kinky even soft textured (bcz everyone is not in the 4 b/c family) styles she wears LONG, braid out, flat ironed, twist out etc. however it looks like what many African hair textures look like with beautiful range of variety. There's companies like knappy hair (krshairgroup.com) that cater to US! No your hair choice doesn't make you more conscious but it does make a statement and a powerful one. Like a badge of honor and acceptance. When I chose to return to natural it actually empowered me honey chile! Lol! Still love Cynthia she's definitely a plus to black women and the movement✊
Marhaba Mango: I completely agree with this. Weave started looking hella weird to me when I started to become more conscious.
Boujee 38: Cyn is very educated, and brings white supremacy to the light. I didn't realize how weak my black people were when it comes to racism and religion until I started watching Cyn. I am for anyone who is for uplifting the community, the hair should not matter.
robbie patrice: I feel spiritual in an odd way after my hair washing days
Psalms119: I can agree and relate to you on the longer hair comment. I am 2 years post my big chop and now that my hair has grown longer. I find myself loving my hair more. I personally like longer natural kinky hair. The reason I like longer hair is because I have 4c hair and all through my life i have never had longer hair when my hair was relaxed. For me and this is my opinion if you have 4c hair it shows that you did a lot of research and put in effort to learn to grow your hair. Overall it shows discipline and knowledge and overall personal growth.
Lakitha Goss: I agree with you 100%. I have natural hair that is worn in a faded cut. I have been told that I hate being black because I wear makeup daily.
S G: I literally just discussed today that I never wanna wear straight weave and I only wanna have it matching my 3c texture or just something that resembles my hair even if it's a 4c afro idc it's still a fro, and it's what my ancestors got so imma embrace it. Nothing wrong with wearing curly hair too but I prefer the curls to be in a fro, simply because my hair when taken out looks like a fro not loose, flat curls.
April Harmony: This is one of the few videos by Chrissie that I agree with 100%. There's "no such thing as a halfway crook". Either you are or your not. You can't have your cake and eat it too
I'm Akosua: I have a dream that black women and girls will never perm their hair again.
MADPunkyHeartLESS: I completely agree with your points, Chrissie, and everything you said is exactly what I've been scared to share publicly for a while. I never understood how some women can be pro-black and rock 32" Brazilian weave, or even wear colored contacts with bleached skin. Like, I really can't take those people seriously, talkin' about the motherland and being pro-black when they're rocking someone else's hair. Now, I can understand if women want to go for a different style, are too busy to keep up with their natural hair, or have a condition that they're trying to cover up. If that's the case, then I'm not complaining about that. But like you said, if they wear weave 11 out of 12 months in a year and never let their hair breathe in between, then I think it's a bit ridiculous. I wear my hair natural all of the time, and this is the first time in 2 years that I've worn box braids. I can't wear weave all of the time because I usually end up feeling depressed if I have it in for too long. Wearing it for too long makes me feel like someone else -- like I'm not being my true, natural self-- and I always end up taking it out and letting my hair breathe for the rest of the year. I've never had, and am too afraid to try, a sew-in, and I usually stick to box braids.
Sava: Great video as usual sis! I wonder what's your take on pro-black men's hair as well.
mimi boyd: Thank you. I agree.We as black women have beautiful hair.....
Darylifill Ifill: ain't nothing more sexier can a black woman with her natural hair thank you all for that
luwakw01: omg i am with u 100000000 percent! i can't mess with eurocentric hair textures, but I need length! Natural looking wigs alllll day.
LaReginaPatrizia: I agree with 98 percent of what you say but it's nobody's business if they have never seen your hair.
Sherly: Chrissie keep up the good work those of us who get it get it, and the ones that don't get it will probably never get it
Shirene M: I agree sis! I like to switch it up with faux locs or braids every now and then... but 90% of time I wear my natural hair. My daughter is 7 and has extremely thick, kinky hair (but very long too)... and although it is alot to manage, I promised myself that I will never perm her hair. However, if she later decides, when shes a teen, that she wants to perm her beautiful natural hair... I can't stop her, but I will forever promote "natural hair", as my own mother did. Great vid!
Dojah Bantu Nysut Netrket: I believe Cyn will give up her weave one day shes just not ready yet she hasn't reached that level of consciousness but I really feel she will one day let the weave go
mylifestylemadesimple: Who cares! I'm natural and proud but if I decide to wear a wig/weave straight, curly or afro weave for however long I want, it's my choice! if somebody has a problem with that, that's their problem! My hair does not justify if I'm, "BLACK ENOUGH!!"
robbie patrice: I have a good friend who NEVER took a break from wearing weaves. (personally I have NEVER worn a weave, but I personally don’t care what other people want to do with themselves.) And I never understood that, and her hair really isn’t healthy. And I remember senior year she asked me how is it growing and etc. like girl, I keep it moisturized and keep away from the heat but my lord
y2k keziah: i wear my hair out natural most of the time and i straighten it every now and then and get weave maybe like once or twice a year?? i dyed my hair silver last year so for a while i HAD to get weaves, braids and wear head wraps all the time because i was too scared to do a big chop because i've had long hair most of my life. (i didn't do the big chop till recently.) i really think that if YOU haven't seen your real curly hair in more than a year you are still having dysphoria about your race. there's nothing wrong with wanting long hair, it's a sign of good health and self care, in my opinion.
Smoothie Bowl: I’m at the point where I used to ALWAYS wear weave and then I started wearing my natural hair so I’m starting to gravitate back to weave and I feel like convicted and embarrassed.. I love my natural hair honestly truly but it’s literally so much work lmaooo like i can’t run to the store real quick cause i gotta take my braid out down then when i come in the house I gotta rebraid my hair like it’s a lot of work. I’m looking for some good 4c brand clip ins though so please drop suggestions and not her given hair.
gmcmim1: Long hair to me is not a Eurocentric thing. So many black women have long hair. Been having it. But when they started perming it that's when they went bald. And that is also where the stereotype came in that we can't have long hair. I don't mind weaves every now and then. There is a YouTube named 22nd Century Natural woman with hair to her hips. Beautiful black woman.
zan752000: I totally agree, as long as your wearing what looks like your own texture hair, but you do need to wear your natural hair if your pro Black.
Chanell Rice: When I see women with weave I feel like they not aware and not conscious . I was natural for 6 years before I started my locs and it does change the way you see things . You weed out certain men , and it just makes you love yourself and most real men worth dating likes natural hair . When my locs were short and it was cold I would throw on a wig . I would not talk to men who would approach me when I wore my wigs because I got more attention when I wore wigs and I didn’t like it .
Stephanie Louis-Charles: Chrissie - I do appreciate your posts and your honesty.
Angela Hill: As someone who participated in forums circa late 90s early 2000s to successfully promote natural hair and black beauty, I politely disagree with what I perceive to be categorization of black women by hairstyles. I feel that black people, women in particular, should remain as free as a bird on how they appear aesthetically. Prior to the 21st century's version of the Natural Hair Movement, black people were often characterized as militant if they wore their natural hair and adopted African norms (i.e. Black Panther Party). It was as untrue then as it would be now. I prefer the diversity in our image because it is a true representation of who we are. If i.e. Condoleeza Rice decided to loc her hair today, she can do so because of her hair's ability to loc without being thrown into a pro-black category. If I decided to cut the locs I have had since 2009 and wear a weave, I can do so without anyone questioning whether or not I am still Kemetic. The i.e. Vietnamese man is not patting himself on the back and claiming to be "pro-Asian" when he picks up his food using chopsticks (respectfully). He just simply eats his food in peace. With regards to funding other communities' college education- well the opportunity is and has been there for black people to sell weave, wigs and other beauty products...as well as for black people to buy from other blacks. https://officialblackwallstreet.com/black-owned-beauty-supply-stores/
Shehinah Wilson: I'm black and I find 4c hair hard to manage so unless you have my hair type or unless you gonna comb my hair every single day do not tell me that I cant be pro black and wear straight weave. I wear my natural hair the majority of the time so don't be coming for me in the comment section.
SWEET JUNE: I hear you, but I say it does not matter what her hair looks like, I focus on her message. We are not our hair. I like to wear quick weaves sometimes for style and convenience, but I also like to wear it natural and extensions, it has noting to do with how I feel as a black woman, and I'm very passionate about the black community.
richiexp2: Ha! this is my favorite video so far, well done Chrissie!!
CocoaBananas23: When I went natural weaves started to look weird to me too lol. The long ass 32in weaves and blonde weaves lawd are an eye sore.
Just Renee: you can be snatched and PRO-BLACK, just my opinion... you don't have to look like you didn't try, getting dolled up and pampering yourself is feminine and fun, however I do agree with the natural hair thing, locs can be fun and feminine too!
hannah60000: @Chrissie I disagree. Pro blackness doesn't come in various scales. The thing is not everyone that proclaims to be pro-black is actually pro-black. Many are black aware, support the BC, for black empowerment, socially aware (whatever that means), etc, but not pro-black. To be pro black is hard in the west, hence most should say they aspire to be pro-black (many will never achieve this though). You can't be pro black if you don't put black first simples. That's why we black folk don't end up getting anything done! We're lost in the mix, because we don't have standards or codes. For example, an anti-black colourist or colourism play downer isn't pro-black. This includes so-called "one-droppers" and so on.
Rhaxma: Thaaat's great, but I've been wearing my qt lil fro' out and now I'm ready to protect it for the winter under a nice lace front sooooo; My thoughts on ladies wearing weaves and wigs 24/7? A lot of the hair review channels on youtube run by black women are some of the best parts of my day when I watch their vids. Idk if you've noticed but theres way more positivity in the wigs/weave tuber community compared the the social/political discussion black tuber community... There's no people trying to start useless beefs and video arguments. Its an interesting dynamic. I think that's where the appeal is too! Some of the pro-black channels I've subscribed too have a lot of negative commentary in contrast. Still trying to find a healthy balance...
Esayas Semere: I am from east africa {eritreea} and proud member of team cyn. Just keep going cyn ur channel is growing and the hate is increasing. Prime indicator u are on right track.
Trina Hill 💜🦋💜: love this video...i agree love everything about you black woman!
Jokoya: If someone’s weave looks bad they need a better stylist
Uniquely Vickie: Black women should be proud of their natural hair but we shouldn't assume that all black women have kinky or curly hair. I grew up in the 60's and couldn't wear an afro because my hair is fairly straight on top and the rest wavy. My would by afro wigs just so she could be a part of the black and I'm proud movement.
Angezah: I remember one time I got a 4b textured weave in a salon and all the other stylist were looking at me crazy and talking so much shit about it lol
K V: its amazing to me that black women are constantly under attack and yet we will have to defend our choices. we are just trying to survive in a world that is not for us
Sandra Cabrera: We trully blessed to have beautiful beauty no matter what people might say to anybody you are beautiful women or man god bless every one one love for everyone
Peach Quartz: Yep youre saying the image of you reflect who you are and how you feel about yourself and your kinfolk. Having your natural hair is fine. Weave is fine especially if its reflecting your own hairtype or type that is similar to your own. But im not caring about any texture. But it does affect a person how they feel about their hair type. That is insecurity. I do agree. I think its sad. Because asian culture and others outside of white hairtypes altar their in white texture
Hottie L: I love your videos you're very real and honest but girl I am never given rid of my wigs
Afrobabe: Long hair isn't necessarily a European beauty standard. So you're in the clear. Now I've seen drop dead gorgeous bald black chicks (@imcrystals and @jennevam )that have made me want to shave my hair off. But I won't because I too have a preference for long hair and will be growing mine down to my lower back. Nonetheless you're spot on about pro-blackness and weave. The most distinguishing feature of blackness is our hair and It sends a far more powerful message of self love when natural. Image is a very key component.
Tonya M: I unfortunately wear weave for work. I'm a bartender and unfortunately I get more tips in weave than in braids or natural texture. As soon as I'm done with school I'm switching back to natural
SapphireNinja98: I agree... to a certain extent. I think that the celebration of kinky natural hair needs to be normalized and de-stigmatized. However, it's easy for someone with a full head of long kinky natural hair to say don't wear weave. But what about those people who have short afros and/or no edges? Should they be forced to embrace their hair and face the ridicule from the black community?
Ann: Chrissie, I hear you on pretty much everything but the hair. The hair that all it is hair. If it make a woman feel good then thank God for that. It just hair.
A. G.: She is so right
linda brown: This is an old video but new to me.......Just look at the sheer pleasure the weave wearing ladies seem to get from playing, flicking and touching their straight wigs and weaves. It's evident that they prefer the fake hair to their natural hair.....the vloggers with the straight, long hair just can't seem to keep their hands out of it (lol).
Forever Simgirl: I disagree. Your hair shouldn’t define who you are and your beliefs. I don’t see why wearing weave and braids is an issue to everyone. It’s a protective and unique hairstyle. Why should it matter to anyone what the next person has in their hair? People are just getting pressed about everything now adays. I think it’s just annoying that some people go out of their way to bash someone else over some hair. Whoever doesn’t like weave should just stay in their lanes, and let people live their life.
Cindy Morgan: I love Cyn and you. Do I like kinky hair better than straight? Yes, I think it looks better. But women should be allowed to vary their hairstyles and we should focus on he larger picture. Cyn brings so much to the community with her courage and intellect. Re: her hair I think she will come around and if she doesn't then who gives a hoot. None of us are 100% consistent.