How To Be "That Girl" In 2022 | The Secrets To Leveling Up Ft. Ali Grace Hair

So we're just gon na get right into the video okay, so we're gon na start with um, let's start by defining. What is that girl like? I feel like a lot of people been talking about. Oh, that girl, that girl, so we're gon na define it for us. So for me that girl, like you, know that girl, like she just has her life together. She seems like she's just put together. You never see her stressed she's, always dressed up she's. The ideal version of you, if you know but like i don't know, okay like when i think of that girl, it's just that girl you want to be like you want to wake up early. She just has her life all the way together. She'S not stressed she's, not like she's, just the one like i don't know yeah for me. I feel like that. Girl is basically what she said, but, like you know, the girl that you always you know used to save on your pinterest like exactly that girl, like you know the girl that you always look up to as a young girl like i just want to be that Girl for myself, like i want to be my own inspiration, my own version of her your version of her. You feel me just but put together, so i feel like with all the technology and all these new techniques and the way to live life. I'M like it's very much attainable for me her and you period. So it's not that girl in this, like forced perfection, type of thing more. So how can you be the ideal version of yourself and it's also like the per the girl you want to be you? Don'T have to be that girl, everybody else wants to be. You got to be your own version of her. So when people be like, oh, that girl trend is toxic. I really don't see how, in terms of just make it what so you don't want to wake up early. Then that's not your version of that girl. You don't want to eat certain foods or it's not accessible to you. Then that's not your version like be your own version. I feel like that, girl being that girl. It'S like continue, you're, always evolving. It'S not just like you became her and that's it and we definitely reached that status in 2021 before, like the realization, like you're starting to mm-hmm. I definitely want to just like up it in 2022, exactly so yeah. So, in order to give y'all some insight like we could tell y'all like things we started doing this year, that i feel like kind of helped us get closer to being that girl. We just plan on continuing it in 2022.. What would you say? Gabby is like the first thing. I think the first thing we started doing this year is really investing in ourselves in terms of like higher end things like makeup hair, like you know, just always looking for new products, always looking for new techniques and stuff like that yeah and even like investing and Traveling, we've we've gone a lot of places this year and it's just like. We just realized like there's just so much to life than where we live and where we go to school, so investing in that has really helped with like now like, i know the life. I want to live. I know what i want to do with it. Let'S start now, you know, i don't believe you have to wait until the beginning of the year to start something exactly like many people. They need that reach like yeah refreshing. It'S you know brand new slate type of thing yeah, so i definitely get that honestly. I feel like people be capitalized. They'Ll tell you oh yeah, with your makeup: it's not about the product. No it's about the technique, but baby. You could be blending all you want, but if the, if the it's la pro girl, it's not working, it's not working. Concealer was 99 cents, you're gon na get 97 nine cents worth of. Actually. Okay, so really invest in yourself. The thing is, you can make the most out of that, but it's like sometimes investing itself. It'S just it's just it just shows you it's like you're, basically putting in like no, i deserve the best i deserve it's like you know. You don't have to settle, especially if you do have it. If you have the means for it by any means, and i think it's also like it kind of helps you work harder like okay, you want this lifestyle, you want these things. What can i do to get there instead of thinking of? Oh, i don't have it. Oh, it's not accessible for me. Okay, you got to think. How can i get this life that i want? You can't think about the fact that you don't have it. You got to think about. How can i get it? Do i need to put in more work? Do i have to get another job? Sometimes you have to you know. You'Ve got to put the work in mm-hmm, so it's like people, you just can't be stuck in that victim mentality, so i would definitely say trips, especially for like, and even people think trips have to be to like bora bora domestic traveling is literally the best thing. I'Ve ever like yeah like going to different states and just see how they live their life, especially we come from a small, smaller type of state, exactly to go into like bigger states like it's really it just helps. You see like wool like yeah, it's just a vibe and you don't have to think. Oh it's only for influencers. It'S only you know like it could be. For you too, you just got ta decide, that's what you want and i feel like a lot of y'all. Be like in denial with the things you want, you don't really want to go for it, because you don't think you deserve it, but you do because if you didn't, you wouldn't want it. So i think in 2022 honor your desires, if they're good and figure out how you could get closer to them because, like you, got to think how many years are you going to live with the same desire, the same will to travel. The same will to be that girl and just never be it. How many years are you going to keep setting goals that you never reach like it's, not a vibe, so you got to make yourself get to where you want to get to right now, we're just i'm just sectioning out the baby hairs before i cut them. So yeah i'm doing um, so i did. I curled, like my sideburn and this temple run and then i'll see what else i'm going to do, but i'm trying to like position it like i've said in multiple videos like i try to have them be symmetrical on. Each side yeah as for me, i didn't pluck that much, i'm so against plucking. This yeah, i don't know why, but if you're getting the desired results. This is all that matters to be honest to an extent we're always like telling each other like. Oh, we saw this person on instagram or tick-tock and, like you know, we just look at their life and, like it's, become inspiring so basically using your inspiration as motivation, not as a like hindrance like dang. I wish i could. I wish i could no it's like. Actually using it to fuel your desire to be yeah similar or your own, like you know, we've said this before, like really surrounding your social media, with things like how you, like, you know how you want to be, you know what i'm saying like that. I feel like there's, there's so much influencers now, especially like black influencers there's, so many people like and not everyone's the same there's different types like for those who you know don't want to do the traditional makeup, hair and stuff, like that. There'S definitely other people that you could find inspiration from so yeah there's a lot of victim mindset, i'm not even going to hold you like i'm here we're here to tell you all the things people aren't going to tell you y'all see black influences, advancing y'all, see Black influencers buying having luxury apartments, expensive cars and then y'all want to go black influencers lost related ability. I don't like that. It should be motivation. You should be proud of them. Why are you basing people's relatability on their material things? You should relate to me because i'm a human and you're a human, exactly you know what i'm saying if you see these influencers doing big things and that's what you want to do too, that should be relatable to you if it's not relatable to you, there's influencers That are doing the things you want to do. Don'T see social media as a place of unrealistic standards. Sometimes it is you create this. You create the standard, so stop um, but also it's everything is a balance and everything is the mindset you have towards it. You can't have the mindset that everything good is unrelatable unattainable on. You know what i'm saying just because you don't have it just because you don't have it. You got ta think if you really want it. How am i gon na? Get it exactly because you have to realize these people were normal people chilling in their house before, and they decided to do something with their talents. It'S all self-sabotage! When you make yourself pretend you don't want the things you really want, because it's easier to fail, because you never tried than to feel because you actually try. You know if you're willing to give up the first time you're tested, then baby, you never really wanted it. It'S about driving it's about power, it's about death. I think what also helps is just having a clear image of the girl you want to be and to me, i've been utilizing that a lot lately like yesterday, i had to bleach and pluck this wig and you all. All i wanted to do was go to sleep, but i had to think no. I got to get this video done. We have to do this. This is the girl i want to be. I want to do up influencer. This is the life i chose. This is the girl i want to be so. This is what i have to do. If you don't have a clear idea of who that girl is to you doing, things might seem ridiculous. Yeah buying the makeup might seem like you're wasting money or it might even be punishment yeah. But if you know like wait, i'm working towards being someone i want to be then everything you're doing will make sense to you. You know, and it only has to make sense to you letting go of the perceptions people have of you and you know being who you want to be perceived as okay, so letting go of. Okay, everybody wants me to be a doctor. Have you? No, if that's not what you want to do, baby, don't do it. Please don't because it's like okay, like yeah you're, making money but you're doing something that you're very unhappy they're doing like you know, i feel like being that it girl, like being that girl. It'S about being happy like you're, the happiest you can be being all around happy with the decisions you make like every decision is. Yours, like i chose to do this. You know you're not here by chance, like you literally chose to do it you're working hard at it. One thing i hate is putting all my effort into something that i do not like, and no i don't care. You know what i'm saying like, because you could tell, and my thing is being that girl is all about having a higher quality of life. You want the financial freedom because you get to experience higher quality, but again it's what it is for you. So for us, it's financed yeah, that's what i want you know and you got ta. You got ta, be okay with wanting that, because i think honestly y'all as black women, that's exactly what they don't want us to have. They want black women to shut up and put in the work and still not succeed. Black women are killing it, but i just feel like when you start doing a bit more than your peers when you start making a little bit more money than the people around. You they don't want to see that. So that's why you really have to have a like a clear vision: you're going to lose friends, you're going to lose people. People are gon na hate on you, but you just got ta know the goal really. So we also noticed you have to make strategic decisions. Yeah you got ta move, slow move, but also like yeah immediately move slow, but be vigilant, very vigilant. What that is. That'S the word of the year, vigilancy, we'll think of something and we'll just do it right away. Oh, let me tell this person yeah, we'll just tell you and then it'll really backfire on us and it's like this all could have been avoided. If i just waited 10 more minutes, bro just 10., you know what i'm saying if i looked at it from a different, you know aspect it's literally like so once we noticed that we started like wait when something happens. Instead of being quick to tell quick to move when we're slow and intentional, just like we've literally seen like the results of being slow yeah, i actually don't even think i'll ever move as fast as i was moving, yeah saves. You embarrassment saves you conversations that you don't need to save you drama, because you want to be that girl, you don't need drama. You literally just need peace and prosperity like peace and love, okay. By being very vigilant making sure every decision you make was thought out and it's what you want exactly because i feel like we have control of our destiny and stuff like that. But granted things do happen, but it's like for the most part, you are in control of your life, so it's like being that girl means you're, making all the decisions that are gon na benefit you in every way and serve you. Yes, also don't procrastinate decisions that need to be made. If you know something in your heart, you know you don't want to do something. You know you want to do something. Don'T wait for a sign. Don'T wait for everything. You know what i'm saying. Don'T procrastinate the things you know you want in this life, you know stop giving it one more year stop singing next year. One thing we've learned these past couple years is: life is not promised things change, new policies become, and now we're stuck in our home. For three years: okay - okay, so just you just literally, cannot wait. There'S not really started deeping like this one life you get one life yeah, you actually will move very different. I think i read a quote that said to say tomorrow is to take for granted life because who told you you have tomorrow. I told you who even told you you have tomorrow, so you're wasting the precious time god gave you today, because you think you have tomorrow, i feel. Like god knows, this life is fired so he's, given us certain abilities that we can't explain such as your intuition and your gut and when it talks baby and you don't listen, god will actually show you he'll actually be right. If god doesn't want you to go somewhere, if he doesn't want you to be around people, he will literally remove you or do things so that you will literally not do it again. That'S one thing: we've learned last year: i will never not listen to my gut. Things are going bad, like things are just strategic like just all at once, and your time like you know when things are really going about, like this ain't never happened before me. Gabby started deep in, like even in the beginning of the semester, we'll go out of our way to be somewhere that we just really did not have, and it's like, we know, what's gon na happen at these places, but it's like first, the fear of missing out Literally forget all about that who cares if you're not there, don't care if you've done all these little parties, they don't wait. A turk they're not going to be there regardless if you're there or not. So the fear of missing out has really like dropping that and that's how it is be more fearful of missing out on your destiny, exactly dreams and nightmares. You know your life is a nightmare. Oh my gosh, it's bad bro! Now, once you start realizing that all these little little things that you're gon na take into the real world - and i feel like if you're in college - this is the best time to practice all of this time. So it's like we're literally about to graduate and everything is now dawning on us, so we're trying to these last five months jessica, we're gon na be working hard, hey yeah, like there's a lot of things. We'Ve learned this past year, but now going forward. We want to definitely get more closer to god, yeah like when you have that strong connection with god, and you like it's like he talks to you and you just see him and hear him in everything that you do and he'll tell you how to move like. Do this don't do that you know, like your life, will just start being better yeah and just like easier to navigate, because you have that guidance and he'll. Give you like that discernment, like okay, this friend, isn't good yeah. This decision is not you know what i'm saying like you'll just be a better person. I feel like the times that i'm closer to god are the times i experience like the most growth, the most positivity in my life. How do you get closer to god? Making more time for god, you know very much in college, it's easy to just like burn up and go oh, my gosh. So i need to really get into the habit of waking up, and you know you're giving me yeah giving my day to god, because it's like being able to go out and come back was a blessing, because so many people thought that you because people a lot Of people they go out and they end up in the hospital okay. So for me to do it every day so willing like so freely, it's like you actually have to thank god for that. Even the fact that you woke up, like i remember, like my pastor, used to always say like you, people woke up and they woke up in hospital beds. People woke up and they couldn't walk. You know what i'm saying with you. You got out of bed, you jumped on your phone and you're like yeah yeah. He says it all the time. Why are you checking instagram? Well, you don't even know if you could walk bro, you don't even know if your legs are working. You don't know. Oh, my god, my eyes are working, so all you want to see is what other people are yeah. It'S so scary, like another huge thing i really want to work on is time management like lately, i've been getting better in terms of like just because your appointment is at 2 30.. Does that mean you should leave your house at two, and does that mean you should wake up at once? No, but that's literally like you know, i have so much time. I have so much time. No more of that yeah, it's the earliest to be on time. I really want to work on my money management and like my financial decisions, because the amount of money i've wasted this year - and i just feel like in this life - you have to have money and the thing is, is when you're maintaining. When you have the same amount of money, i just don't feel and like one of our like our boss, like she literally does the most to me. She does not sleep, she has multiple streams of income and she says, like she told me one time like when she's sleeping she'll literally be like how many, how much money have you made today, get up. It'S like wow, i'm sleeping i'm sleeping till 12 p.m. No, but - and my thing is i'm sleeping like i've worked like a house yeah, you know what i'm saying you don't deserve that it's that you don't deserve to be more productive, like i feel like not taking time for granted, is essential because i'm the type, if I have a 20 minute space i'll, take a nap i'll, take a break, and it's just like in that time. What could you do to better improve yourself, yeah and i feel like at the end of the day, i'd be stressed, because i wasted the whole day doing absolutely. No, it took the whole weekend off. You know what i'm saying, so it's like being more productive. It'S like, i feel like with that comes with waking up early, because then you have the rest of the day to you. Have the rest of the day to do what you do the best yeah after the work after the work is done. So i'm making sure, like i'm doing everything that i need to do and still enjoying myself at the same time exactly or even also prioritizing. I realized throughout the year like i was my to-do list had a bunch of things, and it was just like what is most important, so it's like before i even get to the most important things i'm already burnt out yeah, so also like ordering things in terms Of what needs to be done and then doing the rest later has also really been helpful. Yeah if you watch a video from 2021 like january and like now, you'll see like our makeup and hairstyle has changed a lot. First of all, no more little baby hairs. No, our makeup blush bright under eye lip liner stuff, like that. We'Ve really like been opening to like hacks, and things like like being open and receptive of like criticism and stuff like that, being tips and like not being so stuck in our ways has really helped, because it's like who knew this. Was you know, or even like say, relationships like just learning to be more vulnerable? More feminine? Not you know some magazine yeah. I got no emotion. Type of i've just really been open to like another type of expression, yeah, because even if you do something, you've always done something one way you don't know if it could be a better way, so you just won't know to try. You could decide like okay. Maybe this is not for me, that's the other way, but at least you tried, you know what i'm saying stuff like a lot of people hold themselves back because they're just so comfortable and i feel like there's no growth and comfortability exactly and i feel like it. Also goes into like knowing the type of girl, if you want you want to be so that girl version of you has a boyfriend has a lot of friends. What behavior are you doing now? That'S just not allowing you to get to that point. Yeah. Are you rude? Are you self-centered? Are you never there for people? Do you think, are you the man of the relationship? You know what i'm saying you got ta think like what am i doing to stop myself from getting the things? I really want and being honest with that and showing up as that overall, we're just gon na be more confident, more productive, more good, vibes, more everything. More like more everything you know, this life is really only have one life you really just have to enjoy it so yeah, looking forward to sharing all that with you just better content. Let us know if you notice the quality quality going up everything going up price going up. Are you done period? Don'T play with us all? 2022. yeah? As you can see, the hair is finished. It'S giving her use. Okay, big! Thank you to ali grace for sponsoring this video. Thank you so much. This is the 13x4 highlight brown color. This is the 28 inches in black. You know silky straight so you know i went for the bust down black middle part. I feel like it's just a good way to you know start the year with you know, classic yeah and i went for the you know: balayage sociology, beyonce right, you know yeah, i'm getting used to it. She loves it even like getting used to it. I think it's not my desired curl pattern, but it is something different, so i wanted to give different new woman. You know what i'm saying it was like a deep wave but yeah this. If you want to curl it, if you haven't stay tuned, i feel like if i knew how to do like the lunch with curly would get it really it's a light density. It'S not just yeah. It is light. I feel like it's very natural yeah. It'S natural, like i like easy to work with yeah easy to straighten um we bleached and plugged. 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