The Perfect Curl Doesn’t Come In A Bottle

When caring for your own hair, technique and patience are two important things to remember. However, finding the right products for your hair are also important for creating the best regimen.

You read lots of product reviews, ask for samples at numerous stores, and even compare different reviews on numerous blogs. Then you find yourself purchasing the products you have read about and others you just happen to see at the beauty supply store. Now that you have all of these products…how exactly are you going to use them?

I had 28 products at one point: 2 clarifying shampoos, 3 sulfate-free shampoos, 7 leave-in conditioners, 2 deep conditioners, 9 oils*, 5 styling products. To me, this was literally a problem, but I couldn’t help myself. I had a tendency to go down the hair aisle when I knew I needed nothing, but went down anyways just to see if there was anything new out.

Sometimes this trip would take about 45 minutes of my grocery shopping time! I would even purchase certain products multiple times that I knew didn’t work for my hair (like Crème of Nature and natural Argan oil*), because I wanted them to work so badly.

I subscribed to a few beauty boxes just to hope and pray I get something that would help my hair do ‘something.’ I would spend lot of money and time trying to figure out what works best for my hair.

Even when I considered my hair to be very healthy, I would have no idea which product helped my hair to retain the length nor the health. On the other hand, there were times my hair would thin out and I had no idea what caused it. My regimen was not consistent whatsoever.

I’m here to share that the ‘perfect curl’ nor ‘hair growth’ doesn’t comes directly in a bottle. There is no product that is going to speak sweet things to your scalp to make your hair grow 1 inch in a week or 10 inches in 3 months. You would see commercials with products that would ‘grow’ the actress’ hair and do magical things as well, when all of that is just fairy dust…not real.

The product may make your scalp tingle for a bit or make your eyes all googly from the featured ingredients on the bottle, but then you are left with nothing but empty pockets because you spent your money on disappearing glitter and gold.

Truth moment: at one point in my hair journey, I would search for products that would ‘fix’ and ‘mend’ my split ends. These products would claim that they would keep split ends at bay and would literally fix them. At the time, I did not know how to read ingredient labels and didn’t know what my hair liked.

All I cared about was fixing my split ends so my hair would retain length. Well, I’m hear to tell you that knowing how to read ingredient labels and knowing your hair (texture, density, porosity, moisture/protein balance) is very important when choosing your hair products.

Personally, my hair is fine with low density and silicones do not work for my hair. Most of the products I tried to ‘fix’ and ‘mend’ my split ends were full of silicones, which weighed my down and caused unnecessary tangles. Needless to say, I cut inches of hair instead of learning that all I needed was to trim the split ends. Yes, everything that glitters isn’t gold.

The perfect curl doesn’t come in a bottle. You cannot purchase a ‘twist out’ or a ‘perm rod set’ directly in a container for $17.99. It’s all about your technique and the set regimen you have for your own hair to create the styles for you.

As long as you have a cleanser/cowash, moisturizer, oil, styler, and satin scarf/pillow case you are on your way to saving lots of money and creating simple, beautiful styles!

Additionally we have to remember that everyone has different growth rates, curl types, and different products that work for them. When you are gazing at the fabulous naturals and curlies on Instagram and Youtube that you take into account that the things that they do work for them.

Be inspired, but no need to watch the video over and over again to write down exactly what they did for their hair. I suggest you keep a notebook on styles you would like to try, products that worked and didn’t work for your hair, and regimens used to see what really works for your own hair.

Don’t be ashamed to have many hair products in your arsenal. However, make sure you read the label to know exactly how to use them (don’t guess) and read the ingredients to make sure that they will work with your hair.

Here’s a secret…the real regimen is all in your fingers with lots of patience, effort, time, and love. The sooner you accept this simple equation to achieve healthy hair, the more you will realize that the perfect curl doesn’t come in a bottle.