5 Ways You Can Help Your Boo Out With His Hair Journey

“What are you using?” “Why do you use those products?” “Is this product okay for my hair?” These are the questions you get from your friends, sisters, cousins, and sometimes even random women on the street. But what if your husband, boyfriend, or sons are the ones doing the asking?

It might be a bit weird, shocking even; I mean, when since did they take an interest in their own hair?

I never thought I would get asked certain questions from my husband regarding hair. I get everything from comparing his hair products with my hair products, to “Why does my hair feel greasy?”, “Should I use this paddle brush*?” “How can I make my curls pop like yours?” And you know what? I actually get excited when my husband asks me stuff pertaining to hair care. It’s refreshing.

It just means that he values my opinion, tips, methods, and my own hair journey. So I help him out with a few tips of my own. If you are faced with the same issue, here are 5 ways you can help your man out with his own hair journey:

1. Be supportive and open to what he wants to do with his hair 

Just like your significant other supports you on your hair journey, the long wash days, all the products in the bathroom and kitchen, and the weird tactics you do to get your hair to grow, you should do the same for him.

You might need to exercise a little patience, because this may be the first time your man is really thinking about taking care of his hair, and it might be because you rubbed off on him.

So he is really coming to you in a sincere way to ask you for your help, and men don’t usually ask for help too often, so take what he wants and needs for himself into consideration, and help a “brotha” out.

2. Don’t use your curly girl language on him

When you chat with your curlfriends about the Wash ‘n’ Go method you have discovered for the perfect curls, or why you decided to big chop, they get it; they understand everything. But your man will not have a clue about what you are really talking about until he learns the language too.

So be easy on your man; remember that he is coming to you for simple guidance for his hair, and not to engage in your latest study of climate maintenance, and how it disturbs your curl pattern. He just wants to know how to make his curls nice.

3. Help him test out products and accept the ones he likes to use

When your significant other asks you questions about the products you are using, or if the ones he is using are okay, test out the product on his hair first, then let him know your opinion.

You can give suggestions on what he can use for his hair based on what he wants to do to it. On the other hand, even though you are a curl expert and his choices in products might not be on your approval list, if it works for him, it works for him.

My husband loves using Murray’s Beeswax* Hair Care Pomade, and it makes his curls really nice. I’m not gonna shoot him down for using this product because of the petroleum in it.

If he likes it, then I love it. Don’t shoot him down over commercial ingredients. The most important thing is that he feels comfortable asking you questions.

4. Don’t get frustrated if he does not understand the “what,” the “why,” or the “how”

Your guy may really want to create a hair regimen for his hair: wash day, moisturizing, sealing, styling, everything! As you are explaining certain things to him, he may get lost in all of the tips, methods, and routine of doing things.

Keep the explanation simple, and don’t over complicate things just for the heck of it. Remember when you first started your healthy hair journey? Weren’t you frustrated and overwhelmed sometimes? So with you, he needs to just feel comfortable asking as many crazy questions as he wants.

5. Don’t pressure him or press any issues

Once he has decided what regimen he wants to follow, or what products he wants to use, that will be your time to bow out of what he wants to do with his hair. When you walk past the bathroom, and see him using a mousse you don’t like, just keep walking.

You have done your part in helping him with his interests and issues he has had with his own hair; don’t get involved, unless he asks, or is doing something that will cause him harm. Just like your man is supporting you on your hair journey, be his number one cheerleader too.

Is your man on a hair journey, and are you helping him?