Losing Confidence In Your Natural Hair? Try These 6 Tips To Excite You Again

Going back to relaxers is out of the question for many naturals. I mean, please! The creamy crack is a thing of the past, there’s no need to second guess that decision.

Weeeeell that’s just until your hair decides to be very uncooperative and you have tried everything 3 times to get it to behave. Then the unthinkable happens, your wheels start turning and now you may be considering a relaxer as your only option.

You used to be so excited about your natural hair and tell others about how they would love having natural hair too but truthfully, you are starting to lose a little confidence.

All the bad hair days, uncertainty about what products to use, excessive hair shedding, single-strand knots, and getting bored/irritated with your natural hair can and will put a dent in your hair journey, trust me we all go through it.

What you need is a plan of action starting with acknowledgement of the things that typically trigger your loss of confidence.

What’s making you lose confidence?

It may not necessarily be bad hair days or uncertainty on what products to use, but it could be negative feedback from family and friends.

They are the main people in your life you would think would be in your corner, but sometimes its the ones closest to us who seem to always have something negative to say.

You might also lose confidence in your natural hair because you are in the awkward length stage or believe that your hair is not growing and never will grow.

Maybe you just got burnt out on how to care for your own hair and are tired of trying product after product without achieving the results you desire. You are just plain tired of natural hair.

Once you have identified your triggers you can try these 6 tips to get you excited about your natural hair journey again.

1. Remember why you started

Go back to the beginning of your hair diary and read a few entries to inspire you to get yourself back on track. Re-discover why you went natural in the first place.

Did you lose your hair to chemicals? Is being natural better for your health and lifestyle? Did going natural change your perspective about hair and beauty? Do you love big afros?

Read your hair goals and positive feedback you gave yourself at the beginning of your natural hair journey. Help yourself be your own inspiration by learning and believing in your natural hair again.

2. Look at past photos

Check out your old pictures, you know, the ones before you went natural or at the beginning stages of being natural. You may be surprised to realize how healthy and thick your hair actually is now as compared to then which could truly shock you.

If you do not have any pictures, start taking photos of your hair journey and get very creative about how you take them. Your pictures can inspire someone else which in turn can get you very energized about your own hair.

Additionally you can compare your pictures every few months and see that your hair is getting better as you continue to care for it. Looking at your photos will not only motivate you, but this will revive the spark of excitement you initially felt for natural hair.

3. Join a meet up group, hair care forum or a social media group

Sometimes we need that support group to fill in the void of the family and friends who are giving us negative feedback that might make your confidence slip.

Relevant meet up groups, hair care forums and Facebook groups all have that same main interest; natural hair. They promote positivity about curly, coily, and kinky* hair, which is exactly what you need; for them to root for you when your confidence is a bit low.

4. Create a vision board

Evolve your goals from paper and make an admiration poster that you can see daily. This will remind you of the goals that you would like to reach one day.

Make this project by using a cork board or poster and printable pictures. Once you have created this with all kinds of inspiration, put it somewhere to remind you of your own personal goals.

If you are more into carrying your vision board around, create a board on Pinterest for daily inspiration. Seeing is believing, so if you see your vision board full of hair goals daily, this will put you in a position to be excited about your natural hair again.

5. Make your own hair products

Hey! Less commercial means healthier hair for you. Sometimes we need that drastic push to get excited about something, so create your own hair care products.

Check out different YouTube tutorials to learn how to blend herbs, oils*, and juices for your own hair care regimen. Get to know what works for your hair by trial and error so you can know what to put in your hair products. Being a kitchenista will not only allow you to create your own hair products but you will have fun doing it.

6. Take a break

There is nothing like a long term protective style that will make you miss your curls coils and kinks. If you are at an awkward length and in a style rut at the same time, you could try a protective style like, crochet braids, box braids or Marley twists.

After a few months of having your hair locked away you will start to miss your hair so much, you will find yourself with just as much energy as the day you did your big chop.

What do you do to gain confidence with your natural hair?