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Hey guys, it's your girl, dd and welcome, or welcome back to the channel. I hope you guys are doing well. Thank you so much for tuning in so i am back with another reaction. Video. This video comes from the daily wrap-up crew podcast. If you have not checked them out, go over and check them out and support their channel, so we're going to jump into this video. This video is about child support, so we're going to chime in on this clip you guys, let me know what you think in the comments comment like subscribe. If you like what you see so, let's go ahead and jump into the video. What are you talking about? Next yo, i think you'll play that video for me, so i decided to take my son's father off with child support because it was causing turmoil in our co-parenting relationship. Recently, you know i looked up a few places for him to get his cdl so that he could possibly start his own trucking company or he can even carry lows and make money for himself. What i decided was you know what britney? Let me change my mindset. Let me help him help us take care of our child and that's co-parenting, i'm not a mother. I see nothing wrong with the video i actually covered this video but um. It was interesting to see that they had that same clip so um. What do you guys think about what she had to say about the co-parenting and taking her her child's father off of child support? What do you guys think about that? Do you think more women should do that, or does it just depend on the situation so y'all? Let me know about that, but let's continue yeah. I don't know, explain the question real, quick, so basically she's saying that um, the baby's father me he wanted to start a business and she took him off child support, so she could help him help them. You know i mean so he could have the money to invest in his business and basically you know i mean become something you know so how y'all feel about that. Well, you know we're gon na come to you this. This is your time but the question, but the question is: should more women be open to co-parenting instead of just automatically going to child support? That'S the question yeah and i think that's the question i had i have as well. So should more women just try to work it out with the child's father and not just be so quick to throw them on child support um? What do you guys think about that? Do you think that that's something that more women should do, or do you think it's you know they should just rely on the system to get the uh the child support? What do you think? Let'S continue? Yes, absolutely i mean i feel like i never want to go to a courtroom with the person that i obviously loved at one point. Well, some people, you know, but like the person that i want to share life with the person that i share a child with, i don't want to go to court like we should be able to handle this. You know from person to person just because like to me, once you have a chat with somebody: that's family hurry, that's family! That'S how i look at it. You know so it's more of like all right how as family, how do we work this out right? So i do believe in child support. When co-parenting fails, if co-parenting fails, then you know we got to because really child support is for the child. So if we have to go to court to make sure my child is taken care of and not only just taken care of to make sure you can see your child, because the court will petition you to see your job right now. I agree with her on that, if you find yourself in a situation where the co-parenting is not working and whichever party is not doing what they're supposed to do as it relates to the child, if they're not spending time with the child, if they're not paying, you Know doing their part, whatever you agreed upon, if they're not doing that and and they don't want to, then i think that's when the child's support should be enforced. But if you, if you can co-parent, i think the first line of action in my opinion, should be trying to co-parent and work things out between the two of you. Then, if that fails, if there's just no resolution, if y'all just can't work that out, then you have no other choice, but i think if i i think some women don't even try to do that, they go straight to the child support. But i think that if you can work it out, if y'all can come up with an agreement and it works, go that route first and and avoid this the system. But if you can't work it out, then the system, in my opinion, would be the better option. But let's continue, you got ta pick your child up every sunday, like the court will petition that. So if i have to go to court to make that official, then i'm gon na do that because that's what my child needs, but that's the last resort resort like. I got ta go through every like i got, ta go to your mama house and knock on the door like what's up cause, i'm gon na tell you i'm taking something out for it, so let me know what's going on like i just feel like you know It becomes child support is a lot like you're taking it like. I i've seen if i was the let's say if i was to take my i let me just say well how much i spend a month on my child 3 dollars a month right. That'S just on living expenses, school food hair, all at thirty, two hundred dollars, thirty, two hundred right. So if i'm doing that by myself, how am i going to take care of me? How am i going to take care of everything else? If i feel everything fails right, but i do believe going back to the family unit just because we're not together doesn't mean we're, not family. I want to see you do well. I don't disagree with what she did, but i would put something in writing. Okay, we're you're off child support; great we're, not legally you're, not you're, not really. You don't have to do this anymore. I think it's very difficult when it comes to children and i think that's why a lot you see a lot of men now saying: listen, they don't want to have children. They don't want to get married because they're trying to avoid all of the drama that can possibly occur, but i think when you have a child, it's definitely it's in the child's best interest that the parents work it out. I think the parents have to be stable. Minded enough to know what to do and how to handle what's best for the child. So if, if you can work this out between the two of you make it happen, you know and just keep it as pope, aesthetic as possible for the child's sake. I think that's what's best if the two have the child's best interest at heart, you should be able to come up to some type of solution to make it work. You know without having to involve the courts and all of that, because when you do that, then it seems like it creates a much bigger problem. I don't know it just seems like more division involved. It just seems like it's more of a divide in my opinion, and i think it affects the children the most because when the parents are getting along, if that child support check doesn't come through, it's all hell. You know on the woman they're gon na raise hell like where's the child where's, the money you you dad, beat you this and it caused more more problems that way. So it really boils down to the two individuals being grown-ups and really responsible people to make sure that they make the best decision for the child. I don't know, i just went off on the tangent but y'all. Let me know what y'all think, but let's continue or you don't have to pay this amount. So what you pay? Well, you can, i don't know you still have to contribute, but i don't even want no word. I don't want you telling me. Oh, this imma give you this. No we're writing this out. Okay, we're not using core, but i'm gon na sue you, if you don't do what you got ta do, but it's like at that point. If you're trying to help him better himself and then help himself to help you yeah, you can't really expect him to always give you money, because you can't expect that, because, if you're allowing you can just commit personally, i feel like you can't expect that, because you Can'T especially take care of the child. It'S your kid! No! What i'm saying is there's more to taking care of a child than just money. Like yeah, i mean like every everything fathers shouldn't be just like only excluded to them, providing money, there's other things that a father is important. 100. I and i agree as well, but in so many relationships the fathers are reduced just to money to the child. It'S not just about money. It'S about time. It'S about relationship, it's about the things that they teach them things that they learn from their fathers. You know that's important, it's not just about how much money you can give it's much deeper than that, because the children are at the end of the day. Those children don't really care about the money they care about spending, time with their building relationships and creating memories and things like that with their parents. They don't really care about the money that comes with it and if they have everything that they need, they don't really care about anything else. Mothers are more than just how much you can provide. If men went around saying you ain't a good mother, if you can't pay a certain amount of money, women will feel some kind of weight. So you got to think about that, but let's continue a lot of women just yo. He give me money. Give me money, give me money, but let's i when i had my daughter right and let's say week, one i realized i was parent, a mind you he was right. Next to me, we was you know we were in the same household. A mother is always parent. A when a child goes on the street and if their hair not done if they look in a mess, what people say. Oh your mother, make you come out. The house, like that nobody's saying, where's your father, no one's saying that and not saying not discrediting what a man does. But, but let me just chime in and the reason why you hear that a lot is because there's so many single mothers. They don't expect the father to be in the household. So that's why that they say that, because they don't think that there's a father around it becomes the norm that people just don't they automatically assume that there's not a father around. So that's why they say that in my opinion, but let's continue the world a mother is parent, a right because we are the nurturers we're the ones who are connecting the dots. You know we're the ones that we're the monarch of the family. We'Re connect, we're we're. Keeping the glue the man is a foundation but we're keeping it together. You know what i mean, so, yes, it takes a lot more than money 100, because you got these rich people who still complaining about like look at blac chyna. What is she saying? Some [ __ ], like listen to 40 42 000 from one [ __ ] for another 40., no they're, not giving it to her can't convince me a child is worth that much money. No, no, absolutely not! No! No! No! No! No! No! No! You know what i just found out recently. I found out that these judges get a percentage of child support, so this is why there's an incentive for them to get the most out of it because they get yeah. They get it and listen. And i'm not surprised to hear that, because in some states - and i just recently learned this - that in some states, if you've been the the caretaker for that child, if you've been in that child's life, even if you're, not the biological, father and you've, been the father Figure then they can put you on child support. You don't have to be the biological father. If you've been the the father figure in that child's life, they can put you on child support, that's crazy, so it seems to me there is an incentive for this to go down the way. It'S happened where it's going down, so you really have to be careful out here who you're making babies with, because you don't want to be in this situation who you involved with and if they have children and my god, if you, if you are there around the Kids and you could be paying for child support for all the children. That'S there baby, but let's continue, i feel like the child. Support like the percentage is pretty high. I'M not gon na lie, even though it does take a lot to take care of a child. I do feel like i'm thinking about from my side. If someone wants to say yeah, you got ta give 20 25 of your check to do like you know to your child, even though you've seen your child every other day or maybe you're picking up your child. Every day from school - and i still got to take 25 of my check and give here, even though i'm active, if you're active, there's no need to be on child support right, yeah area um, just to stick to the facts, i think that, if a father is, Is present in his child's life? Should he be placed on child support and the answer is no, he should not be, but there are a lot of fathers who are still on child support, who fully takes care of their their children and are present in their child's life and is still on child Support but let's continue, i watched that video several times and um. He was not starting his own business. She you did research that i mean i've just seen that video, but i've seen that video several times and what she stated in that video was that she decided to take him off child support because it was hindering their co-parenting relationship. So she did her own research. So he could possibly get his cdl, so he can possibly own up um open up a truck and then so he wasn't even there. Yet he wasn't he his ambition. Wasn'T there his accountability for himself wasn't only there. So my whole thing is to myself is it was you were on child support because he wasn't doing [ __ ], so i'm i'm being the mom? Well, let me just say this: if he was on child support, so he was required to pay child support, but she, the the mother of that child, realized that that was hindering their relationship, their co-parenting relationship and she took him off to lend a helping hand to Help him so that he can possibly get something better. I hate when people say this ambitious. Oh he's not ambitious enough. Maybe there's just some [ __ ] in the way that is causing him or stopping him from getting to that next goal. It'S life out here a lot of times these women paint life as if it's just so easy, and especially for men like men, could just go. Do it just go, get this just go! You don't think that if, if a lot of these men could just go get it they wouldn't get in, you know. I think that a lot of times when women are talking they make it seem like it's so easy and things so simple, but when it comes to them, oh they painted out how difficult they can be and how hard they had to work and how it took Them years to get to where they are, but when there's a man he could just go, get it and it's supposed to happen tomorrow. That'S some bs baby. Let'S continue i'm now looking into these outlets for you, so you can now take care of our child. So now we can have a better co-parental relationship, because all you mad about, is being trying to find a hundred dollars getting taken out of whatever whatever, if he wasn't doing, [ __ ]. What is she getting a percentage of it whatever it wasn't that he wasn't doing [ __ ]? She said it was causing a problem, meaning they're not getting along right right in their relationship, he's mad as hell so he's mad at her, because that's the money he's getting out of his account so she's like well. Let me help him get more money. So the money can go to our child. That'S a bigger you you're dealing with a whole a different type of see. Now i thought i thought he was starting a business. It was like more like, so he didn't even start the business yeah her voice. That'S not in paper, i don't believe in child support either until my mother, my mother, never put my father in child support. Oh was he in your life, which was it was just a crazy thing right. He was in my life. That'S a whole different thing. My father's been hustling my whole entire life. Okay also, she couldn't believe him. He couldn't put him on channel and that's a lot of people's story. You understand what i'm saying, but um it was a. It was a fact. Obviously, you know you're you as the primary parent. You have to do what you have to do for your child hundred percent uh. She couldn't do that. She couldn't do that, but she didn't badger him about it either. She didn't talk down to me about him either. So i didn't have a distorted vision of my father growing up either. You know the fact of the matter when you're going back and forth with money, because you know child support obviously is supposed to be for the children, but a lot of women use it for different things when it comes to the household right and that's another thing Too, i think i think the mothers for a big part in all of this, because if the man is not providing as much money as you think he should they tend to talk bad about the man telling them telling the child that their father ain't, [, __. ] and all of these different things and they they grow up, thinking that he was just a deadbeat and a lot of times. The fathers are there they're around they're, seeing their children spending time with them, but because he didn't bring as much money. Sometimes you know it gives the child a kind of weird perspective, because they're looking at their mother and listening to their mother, saying he ain't this. He ain't paying for this any pain for that, but the child is is really having a great old time with his father coming around spending time with him and all of this. So it could leave the children confused as to what's more important, but i guarantee you at the end of the day, those kids don't really care about the money. All they care about is a lot of times being spent with their parents and the rest is secondary, but let's continue personal music and for personality. But this is what i feel like if i, if my baby father might be, if i was not a child, but if my baby father was on child support and let's say he gave me five hundred dollars - here's money for trial support and i use that five Hundred dollars and i bought a wig - no absolutely listen to what i'm saying if i am in the household, with this child seven days a week, taking care of everything paying the bills, you have five hundred dollars right. If i use it to buy a wig, you think my child's not gon na be taken care of, though you know what i'm saying so i don't know no, my my this is what i'm saying right all right, you're using his money to buy yourself, but maybe I'M paying myself back is what i'm trying to say. People look at it as it's called child support exactly, and i think the money that he's giving to you for the child is his portion to support his child, not your wig, whatever you're doing as far as support. That'S your responsibility! That'S your part as the mother, but if he's given his portion that's supposed to go to the child, then it's supposed to go to the child. You could put it in a savings account. You could put it in. You know put it away for the child, it should not go toward a wig, that's just my opinion uh, but let's continue wrong. I'M looking at it wrong, restricted to this man's income by the court of law. Right yeah! So, and have you guys heard this debate about how child support is supposed to be put on a car now, if that is it it's the same thing now, let's say all right: let's go get past, let's make it, but let's make it like this. I already that whole month i held my child down. I did everything i need to do i'm here waiting for his thousand dollars in a month this whole month, i'm paying for the school fees i'm paying for after school, i'm paying for i'm paying. All of this right now the enema to give me my thousand dollars and maybe i went and bought a wig, but guess what my child's still taken care of you know what i'm saying, i'm paying myself back. Y'All could look at it. Don'T let me find i'm going straight to the court like yeah he's given at the end of the month. I don't see it, i i don't know how you see it as i'm, not a parent, so i don't know, but i can't but to say you're paying yourself back. If you were together, you're, not paying yourself back, you just added it on whatever exactly. Why are you able to pay yourself back? Is there a way that he can pay himself back for the money that he gave you for his child? Make it make sense? No, it's not you. You should not be paid back. That money is specifically for the child, so if you've handled all the bills and you've taken care of everything, then that's his portion for his child, then that should still go toward the child, so the child that could be extra money for additional school cost or anything. That'S for that child! That'S where that should go, not a wig, not personal items for yourself, because it's not for you baby! You can't make this up um, i'm gon na leave this here. I want you guys to chime in and let me know what you think about this video. What do you think about what she's saying? I definitely want to hear from you guys that is it thank y'all, so much for watching i'm almost 200k. I hope you guys continue to support the channel and i will see you in the next one can't stop bye.
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DeeDee: Should she buy wigs with support money?
Peter Peter: My friend got put on child support because the mother listened to her friends and she ended up getting $125 a week. She was denied WIC because how much the father was making. For listening to her friends she had to move out of the apartment because she couldn’t afford it and move in with her mother. My friend was paying everything for the child. Clothes food insurance rent. The only thing the mother had to pay for was the electric bill cable and her phone. She listened to her friends to get more money. All that money has to go to the child. She isn’t working. Most men make sure their kids have everything. It’s the women that make it difficult. Especially when you have a ratchet mother and friends. Now she doesn’t talk to her friends anymore and ignores her mother. How do I know, she calls me 20 times a day crying. That’s what you get for not listening to me. $125 a week is nothing. That’s 5 hours of work. He works 15 hours a day 6 days a week like I do. For shits and giggles I went to court to find out how much I would have to pay for child support. It came out to $342.19 for my twins they are 10 months old. Formula costs $17.54 a can, 5 cans every 3 day that’s 10 1/2 cans a week = $192.94 diapers 36.49 baby wipes $6 clothes about $35 a week baby food about $50 a week. That’s $320.43 a week - $342.19= $21.76 none of this included taking them to the hospital using gas. It also didn’t include the co-pay for the doctors visit the shots or vitamins that they take. If she bought a wig with the child support, I would call child services. They don’t play.
AntonioArts: “He’s not Ambitious enough!!” I’m sorry but if he’s coming through, paying the CS, making sure the kid ain’t got a need left for nothing and actually spending time with the child. What does being ambitious got to with it?? Some people don’t wanna be rich, some are happy with just working a 9 - 5 and as long as they can take care of what’s needed I don’t see the problem.
Back-N-Action Model Collections: Child Support is illegal, in contradiction with everyone's rights.
Coach Cook: Fortunately both of my children's mothers and I have worked out our issues without using child support and it's made our co-parenting relationships better and I was able to raise my kids and not have the pressure of having the state on my back. Co-parenting works when both sides have the children's best interests in mind! I am grateful for both for them for being mature enough about the situation.
Mecha Isaaczilla: If the money is for the child, there’s no reason at all for the mother of that child to be using it on herself. The last girl that spoke tried to pull ever excuse out her ass to justify it.
daryl richardson: She helped him, because the CHILD SUPPORT CASE was hindering the LOAN & BROKERING process. They do not PLAY. She wasn’t ‘helping’ him, she was HINDERING his ADVANCEMENT & simply got out of the WAY!!!
Patrick Calvary: She was sounding reasonable until the pay myself back. Wait what? You're being a parent and want the father to pay you back? That's silly to me
jay jeter: Just went through this with my 17 year old son being brain washed by his mother i could literally see from his conversation that she had drummed this into his head it literally looked like she wrote a script for him
Cee: I understand her wig statement as someone who pays child supporting voluntarily (not court ordered), we agreed on an amount I should pay, and I do not monitor what she uses the money for because I know the amount I pay is less than my child actual expenses. However if I was court ordered to pay an amount I thought was unfair, hell yeah I'd be pocket watching, and clocking every item purchased.
Single_Dad: How would she feel if the father goes to buy the child clothes, shoes, etc. Then takes from the child support to "pay himself back"? Smh.
Special K: My problem wasn’t even her taking the $300 it’s the fact that she’s using the $300 for a wig, and BW be the first talking about “lEt’s BuIld BlAcK wEaLtH” how are we supposed to do that when you out here spending $300 on a wig, there’s a whole lot that you can save or use that money on that’s actually productive, put in your child savings account for the future, use it at a savings for a house, a car, or savings for your child college tuition, and in my honest opinion that’s the reason divorce is so high in the black community, women don’t like to be told what to do with their money or better yet even your money, they don’t want their spending to be controlled and that’s why majority are looking for a man that makes 6 figures or more.
legalize pidgin: Any woman that says "my child" instead of "our child", RUN fellas!
DJx79x: She sitting there with another person’s hair on her head and the first example she can think of is buying a wig. These moms really instilled in these black women how to hair their own hair.
Jay P86: I’m glad they are being open about how some spend the child support money.
Open-Minded Skeptic: Watching how my friends went through with babymama drama and child support court, I invested heavily in condoms. I've been married 11 years and we'd rather be aunt and uncle then send the kids back to their parents. Freedom to move when we want to move.
Jay P86: Systematic child support should be the very last resort. Going through the system is a huge risk, because any error can put someone in jail. I’m glad I did not have children out of wedlock. I have to be married to start a family
badassdahn: Stay MGTOW fellas. She said “a mother is always parent A” The court doesn’t care about men Children don’t care about the money.. the most valuable thing you can give your child is your time with them. But these women don’t understand that they are selfish and ruin a man’s relationship with his child.
Timothy Skaggs: Both parents have to be reasonable. There are so many unreasonable parents in the world. A man is paying a certain amount and then the man upgrades a part of his life: a new car, new job or new house. The woman wants to renegotiate the child support amount. Men have to make sacrifices for their children mothers have no idea about. Many mothers make unilateral decisions that cost money and expect men to pay for "her" decision.
Justaguynamedme: Why do so many women speak as if the child is only theirs? Even when the father is positively present in the child's life.
woodiemarv: Child support is the child's money not hers. It should be tracked better to ensure its spent on the child not the parent
Marc Cruz: Some single moms will walk around with their hair & nail’s done with new sneakers while their kids look shabby & uncared for.
Alfonso Gary: Situation: wife leaves husband for having another woman pregnant at the same time. She finds a boyfriend but puts her ex-husband on child support to ensure their child is taken care of. The story gets deeper but I recommend using, not abusing, the courts.
wittafa: I love my child but the worse decision I ever made in my life was having a child with a woman
Insurance Agent: She's not paying herself back. She's offsetting the expenses she already spent on the child. For example, if she had the child support debit card and childcare expenses totaled $3200, the $500 or $1000 would just offset what she's already spent. Paying herself back was just a bad way of explaining it. The expenses exceed the financial contribution from CS. I'm a father. Money is important because of the resources it provides but involvement and presence is just as important.
Christopher Nemeth: It comes down to miscommunication. Most women operate covertly and look to bail out and swing to a bbd. Some men should be on child support(bums what have you) but a couple has to communicate properly to hammer out a deal that works. Most couples split up and go to courts rather then do that work.
Moody Africa: For us Muslim, Child support is fair. First a man is legally bound to take care of the children if those children were conceived in a marriage and if the wife and husband separate then the man is bounded for child support base on his income. HOWEVER: If a child was conceived outside marriage then that child cannot take the father last name, cant inherit from the father and the father cant inherit from the son/daughter, The child cannot call the man his father and neither the father can call the child his son or daughter. Muslim man greatest achievement is our children to have that, we have to follow the rules, marry a women, then have children with her to have the privilege of having our own kids and being able to take care of them and be in their lives. Most Women in Islam are very protective of their wombs, they are those who just give it away but a good muslim women would not let you even touch her hand before marriage.
Reed: CS is not monitored or controlled. She can spend it on whatever she wants. Who’s going to stop her?
steve opoku: Didn’t realize I was dating a deadbeat mom ♂️♂️ she spent more time having fun chilling with her girlfriends and getting drunk than spending quality time with the little boy felt so bad he was only 9 and dad doesn’t come out of jail till he’s 16 ♂️♂️ God save us
Jack Harris: These kids turn 18 and don't have $10 in the bank. my kid is 25 and his mother is constantly calling po mouthing about her financial problems. I ain't sympathetic because she took me through H3LL.
Abe Griggs: The first thing women do after finding out they’re pregnant they leave the doctors office and go down to welfare. Or they go straight to the child support before the child is even born. Child support is an automatic just because you have a child that’s the problem and women think that because you have a child you should be in the system and it’s not like that. And women know they’re not going to ever get that money so why are you holding it over their head just in case one day they get lucky and get rich you want yours. It’s making fathers slaves and once they’re on child support they’re not a parent anymore read the guidelines for child support you are just a paycheck you’re not obligated to do anything else except pay and you shouldn’t pay any extra play the game the way it’s supposed to be played! They want you to pay child support and be a parent at the same time they’re getting their cake and eat it too if they put you on child support just do that if they need extra money send it to child support do not give it to them. And yes more women should do this hope the father so he can leave something for his children not make him spend it in court
MadMaxx: I feel that’s why KS was telling men to stay away from single mothers due to the fact they can put you on CS without you being the biological father.
Deborah Taylor: Maybe co-parenting as husband/wife might resolve some of these issues.
Marshall duke: This is why my eternal advice for single fathers is IMMEDIATELY GO FILE FOR... JOINT CUSTODY ANDDDDDDD PLACEMENT.
Frank Griffin: Usually when people are good a picking partners child support never comes up. Both parents know what their responsibilities are.
popstarprincess123: This is why I believe child support should have receipts
Alvin Harris: She is very mature and cooperative win win for everyone involved especially the children
Magic World: She had me until, she said, there shouldn't be a problem, if I use the child support to buy a wig. She's paying herself back ?
Kamar Ahyil El: This was insane. How is she paying herself back.
Cheeks7566 E: The lady in the yellow makes a lot of sense… I can applaud her… more should really look at her philosophy… men and women
Athe ist: *_To ME, once a woman says to a court "I can't take care of this baby alone! I NEED HIS MONEY !", the court should AUTOMATICALLY declare her UNFIT and look into handing the baby over to the biological father (unless he declines the offer). In THAT case, the baby should go to either a foster family (not MY first choice) or adoption into a new family ._*
Kai Mobley: She said she gets paid $3,200 a month for her child. Idk what school this child goes to or the extracerricular activities but they did a study that shows it really costs $1,200 - $1,500 for a child (non disabled etc.) a month at best. I know for allot of women that are single mother's they use the kid's extracurricular activities as a excuse to get more money that they really most of the time waste on themselves moreso then use for what the child really needs. I would argue most of the time they bring it up the child isn't even in any of those things let alone after school. Child Support is for the Child and the Child only not YOU. There is no "Parent A" your just a Parent. Now if the Father is paying the child support off how is he a bum? Bcus I know plenty of examples of Men who aren't bums that still complain about child support and they make 50k+ a year. Hell FUTURE a full blown celebrity with money complains about child support. HALLE BERRY complained about child support
Vernon Montgomery: After being taken to court for child support, the mother interfering in the visits, and then the courts increased it without talking to me? I refuse to have anymore children, and I see no point in getting married when there's a chance I will lose everything
Linc Hayes: Call me crazy but I actually understand where she's coming from when she says if she's paying all the bills and the child is being taken care of etc and the child support is "paying" her back....HOWEVER it doesn't work that way, if she's paying for this, this, and this that's called being a parent and the child support is extra money that can be used for something else for the child and not to be put in your pocket
Ly Scott: Marry b4 you carry. Child support is ELIMINATED! R.I.P. KEVIN SAMUELS!!!
Samuel Achampong: It is a sad state of affair. RIP GODFATHER.
Brunski C.: Respect to the lady that took off her baby daddy off child support. Smart lady. Help him make more money and also have a better relationship
Lois Johnson: $3200 a month she said she spends a month on her child? That's crazy. She's capping..
William Dorgu: She was thoughtful and reasonable to help the man to help the child
Shawn Braxton: She was sounding reasonable until she considered her baby father as "family". Lady, if your baby father is considered family, please do not date. The next man is trying to start his own family and is not going to deal with your ex thinking everything is cool/family. No, your ex is not considered family. No, you do not get special liberties with your ex because you have a child together. I don't know where that mindset came from, but it no longer flies. The only contact you will have with your baby daddy/mama, is about the child. Ain't no buddy buddies. And guess what, if you don't get child support for your child, you will work. Why make the next man's life harder than what it has to be? We will just overlook you altogether.
T Lee: My mom's boyfriend used to brag to me about what he was gonna buy with my dad's child support money
ProBro Goofy: If the mother had the best interests of the child in mind, she would give the child to their fathers after 7yrs of age to actually raise the child to be a functional adult. There is an immense amount of data at this point that proves it is essentially child abuse to be raised byba women alone, that child will become an adult with every single disadvantage in life...if you love your kids, give them to their fathers.
Jamal Simmons: It doesn't take $3200 a month to raise a child. Sounds like she wants the father to pay ALL her bills!
Arkham Knight: you pay bills or extra shit with YOUR money because that's what we call responsibility. child support is what it means.
Yo Mama: If you can’t work out a relationship just gone give it to the court and be stress free. Child support helps keep the peace.
Cold Pizza: Obviously him paying child support was affecting him being able to fund CDL school ….. She talking bout she not helping him but at the same time it’s affecting her child.
DW Maje: Where I live the agency alone collects 2% of every single payment with no cap on how much it is, a flat 2%. This does not include any other arrangements a magistrate or judge may receive. This means she's getting pimped for free by the agency because they're not even getting all the money. But they love to run down on dudes regardless.
Teena Davis: A child doesn't cost 3200 every month
Clofresh Foster: She dont spend $3200 a month on her child... Who in their right minds spends more on their child than they do their own mortgage per month?
AxxelFoley: But look when taxes come around does the mom give the father portion of the tax return...nope she keeps it and does with as she pleases
William Ray: Any parent that says it costs $3200 a month to provide for a child must live like royalty. The court should and sometimes does calculate the amount the child is due based on both parents salaries and dividing that accordingly. So if the non-custodial parent is making $4000 monthly and the custodial is making $3000 then the total being $7000 the Non-custodial parent is responsible for 4/7 of the support needed to provide for that child and the custodial parent is responsible for 3/7. Not even but fair. It is also in the power of the custodial parent to keep the costs for the child down to reasonable. If there is a cost that will cost more outside of shelter, clothing and food and other necessities, it should be subject to discussion with both parents and if the custodial parent still wants it, it should not to be considered child support. Keep in mind, the non-custodial parent should always file the proper paperwork with the court system to insure their legal rights as a parent. This enables the court to act on the best interest of all concerned including the non-custodial parent.
Bertram Attles: Women have the amazing ability to rationalize and justify anything they do. First off they get with a guy who they know isn't financially stable or has the baller lifestyle they all say they want. They were not concerned about him having ambition and all the things that they now talk about when they decided to lay down and have a baby with him. Once the baby comes now he should have all this income and ambition and baller status to pay them child support. These women have shown time and time again the child is the last thing on their mind no matter how they try to frame it. The women aren't admitting that most of them are broke and not boss chicks and have no ambition themselves. Like most of them they think they can force the man who never committed to them to all of a sudden act right. They like going to court whether they admit it or not because its a talking point for their girlfriends and we know they do everything to please the girlfriends its like a badge of honor to say I put him on child support. The kids never look as good as the mom's do with their hair, nails, lashes, bags, clothes etc. They need to stop with the capping about the extra curricular activities. All the women on that panel had so much masculine energy and they raise their voices repeatly while the host spoke calmly and its funny how the one female can analyze the video about the woman taking her child's father off child support to help them. She was magically able to break down what the women meant and didn't mean. She did that cause she is not about working with someone she is about the check and being able to control him via money cause he still don't want to be with you no matter how good your wig, nails lashes etc look.
Alan Barker: You go girl, good content, the lady at the end made absolutely no sense if she gets paid at the end of the month then why would she say that she took care of the kid for the whole month and need the pay herself back. The way I see it when he pays you at the end of the month it's for the next month..
Haterblue: You can't get a court system to make you come see the child if you pay in child support.
carlcwms: Child support money should be tracked.
EL-Skelator-Gore: 3200 a month sounds like b.s. if you spending 38,200 a year on your kid alone that kid is beyond well taken care of! That’s more then some people make in a year
Johnny Young: Co-Parenting should never fail. Put the child first. Stop thinking about yourself, it's no longer about you. And stop saying my child. The kid is a part of both of ya'll.
Vince Lorino: its always "for the child" until conveniently = they dont want the card that tracks what the moneys being spent on.... interesting....
VernonU: She pays $3200 per month for the child? I heard her say hair is a part of that. What does she spend that much money on?
Vizio Musa: $3200 per month solely for a child is cap!!! Even if you live in San Francisco, Boston, or New York, money to raise a child does not cost that much.
The Crypto Trucker: I’m a license commercial truck driver and I can personally tell you that if your behind on child support they will not grant you an license ole girl on the end of the table don’t know what she’s talking about
Islam Mujahid: Well the sista was not bashing her baby father she was helping him move forward by taking him off Child support which is a smart move for them financially
Marc Cruz: Absolutely NOT!!! because some single mom’s claim to be boss chicks so they should NOT!! be buying material things with that child’s money
LaVaughn Wills: Women tell on themselves and don’t realize it. At the beginning she said her child cost $3200 a month. Then at the end of the video said she is taking $500 to buy a wig. So the child don’t cost $3200 or the child is being shorted!
Jermaine Burgess: My bm makes me pay ain't mich so I ain't mad but she said something last month that I didn't give her anything this month she told me if anything happens to her my son wouldn't go to me so I thought about nah she needs to either go to court or have something notarized because I still buy all his sneakers and other things without a problem but women have to much power
Warrior Captn: The child support system gives women control over a man's wallet!
A hopelessworld: 3200 included living cost, so is she charging her child rent
Heavenly Embodied: I didn't automatically put my child's dad on cs. I wanted to work things out as far as co-parenting goes. Fast forward, he only seen his kid 3x and baby is 1yr in a half and still isn't on child support. And since he didn't sign the bc, I'm not going to just so he won't have rights. Only say that because he said he gonna take my baby away and make sure I never get him back. He free to see baby if he gonna be consistent. But I blame me for why baby doesn't have a supportive father. We have gots to start making better decisions and stop being delusional.
Samurai Nelson: Well he had to have money to pay her.
21215sheek: Dee Dee!!! If I ever find you I'm dropping on one knee. No matter the weather. Kudos!!!!!
swtdrh1: It gets worse These baby momma’s would rather take or get government benefits/ handouts before they depend on that child’s father!
David Wilson: She may try to place him on support once he's making more.
second wave: She's wrong.when behind in child support they take your license. That's what the girl mean. You need that for most good jobs these days. She hearing it how she wants.
Garry Brown: i wish that more women could think like this
Loris Williams: hell no they shouldn't by wigs with my child support my baby moma dress to the 9's but got my children looking like a bunch of ragamuffins
mike pride: Wow. Priorities of some are unbelievable. When I was on child support it was trying to not be homeless. I ate once a day. I didn't want to go to jail. Some fathers would be lucky to even see their children 4 days a month. We still are considered deadbeats when Grandma is raising our children with no support because the mother doesn't give what the father pays.
Mr. Dee: At around 11:30 that woman incorrectly told the story they were debating about. I don't understand how they are missing the fact that the mother took the father off CS so he can use that money to invest in a business and bring significantly more income to the situation later. Why is that so hard to see? It's the basic principle of investing.
Samurai Nelson: Woman hold kids hostage. Thus the father is the negotiator. He has to pay every time she thinks about letting her kid out the bank to see him in his world.
Daughterof Yah: You know men need support from women too. Damn! He can’t get it from his baby momma. I’m sure he was grateful for her doing so.
teeone10: Childsupport should be abolished period.
Trenton Bonds: I think more men should go to court before the women and try to get their child.
Eric Caesar: The courts WILL NOT compel you to spend time with your child... and no matter how much I petitioned the courts they WOULD NOT compel her to allow me to co parent & allowed her to keep my child away from me..
Mike Mitchell: $3200 per month to take care of her child?????? Hell nah!
George: The solution is to avoid unplanned pregnancies through use of contraception.
Doc Green: Notice how these women speak, My child. As if the farther has no legal rights to the child he fartherd.
Calief Goode: Child Support is the child's money for the future like his college tuition,clothes,shelter,food, medical support to it is not grown person support or wig support .
Harvey Lewis: Divorce shouldn’t be so available in the first place, it should be hard to get like other countries do. But unfortunately, America makes it too available for them because of money. Family courts make too much money off of doomed relationships that effect the children later on!
Robert Frantz: Did you guys even catch what she said. She said" I'm taking him off of child support" But did you carefully the end of what she said. In lay terms she is going to put him back on when he become a success. This women is extremely selfish she is only cutting off so she cab profit bigger later. What she said yes co-parent putting him back on child support after becoming a success. Women should not put men on child support one work with him first really try no give it everything you have. Because putting a man on child support could be a death sentence for him. The sad truth DeeDee child support can't held up for being denied see said child pretty much men have no power men just get the money sucked out. DeeDee your right Here is the problem with women's Feeling get in the way because they can't be selfish. These women failed to understand its not 25% it starts form 30% all way to 50% depending on the state My where my kid is at couldn't get anything out of me because of how little I was making. If I was making good money they would make me pay 35% but 30% would go to the care giver or mother while the 5% goes to the state.
woodiemarv: No way she spending 3200 on the just the child a month. She including herself
swtdrh1: The most pitiful mindset you ever have to witness! Just think you a young woman pregnant then this grown woman tells her all she gotta do is go fill out some paperwork and the government gone give you tax free money she don’t have to pay back a free place to live and free food to eat! Who wouldn’t jump on that free for all! The government giving out free stuff all they hear is FREE!