Living In Comfort Peace And Luxury Should Be The Norm

Good afternoon y'all, how are you i see? We are here okay, so the name of this video today is going to be focused on how women deserve to live and comfort, peace and luxury, and a lot of people do not agree with that. But who cares? That'S what we're going to be talking about um, hey y'all, so a lot of people feel very uncomfortable and unsettled when women choose to live their lives in comfort and luxury, by any way that they can find how to do that. It doesn't even matter how it's done if they find a way to use their lifestyle and how, to you know in their career or their love life or their beauty, to live a life of comfort. Why are why are so many people, not on board with that? Like why do so many people get upset about someone living their best life? I don't know i'm like that's a little bit suspicious to me that people would not observe, learn and move forward to have their best life or um. You know at least be happy for someone else, uh right, it should be the norm. So in order to create the norm to have peaceful life, comfort and luxury people have to step out and do what makes other people uncomfortable until they are comfortable okay. This is why a lot of people um don't care. What other people are thinking they're going to continue to you know, do what they do, jade, who they date, dress, how they dress and hang around the type of people they want to hang around. A lot of people want to make you feel bad or guilty for wanting to live a better life, but you have to ask yourself why and you have to move on and not ponder there too long, okay, um! We deserve to live the life that we want to live, and you know the only people that stop us is us and caring too much about what other people say or think i've had so many people, um, comment or say things that just not true. In order to you know make me seem some type of way, but at the same time i don't care because i don't know who they are, and i don't talk about them, because i'm too busy living a life of comfort and luxury and um peace. You know and that's what we all have to do. I get so many i get so many uh people asking me. How can i deal with um other people and how they feel about this certain situation? My best answer is: don't don't deal with them? Hey members! Okay, sparkle sprinkle members are now j j boobsie. So if you are a member shout out to y'all um, it is not our responsibility to to care about how other people feel about the life that we live each day. It'S not our priority to make other people comfortable, that we don't know: okay um. This is why i always tell people that if you want a politically correct, genderly, correct or whatever gender role correct, um channel, this is not it especially. You know if you weren't a part of making those roles yourself. This is not that type of channel this type of channel is for women who want to live their best life, whether you're, dressed casual or in a beautiful dress, or just something really cute, and you know fashionable. You should still be able to live your best life. No matter what and you should be comfortable doing it and not making excuses. You know um and i feel like if you become a living example of living that way, then other people will see it as the norm. You know we can't look uncomfortable in certain places or nicer places or nicer stores, or even stores that aren't so nice, but you know most often aren't frequented by you know certain types of women. We should just be comfortable wherever we are. You know if, if we call - and i'm gon na really get weird and silly for a second, but if we call earth or this planet or this country our home, then we shall feel at home and do what makes us feel comfortable. When you walk into your house, you are comfortable, you sit down, you take off your shoes, you sit on the couch and you just ah you know that's what women should feel like wherever they go: luxury, comfort and peace. If, if anyone is making, you feel any other type of way get away from them, if anyone else is making you feel uncomfortable in a certain environment, don't hang around them, you know. If people are not okay with you living your best life, they don't need to be in your life, because, obviously you can't live your best life with them there. Now, i'm not talking about anybody in particular, i'm just talking about people in general. You know um, if you're not able to look at someone at another table in the restaurant, or you know across the street, doing whatever they're doing and see that they have a nice car driving nice car having nice clothes on getting ready to go eat at a Nice, restaurant, if you're not generally happy for them and you feel a little bit resentment and you're upset and you're judging them and without even knowing who they are or what they're about or what they did to get to wherever they're at then. Perhaps it's your time to level up so that you can have that too. I feel that a lot of times people's jealousy is stemmed from not having what they really want in life, and they need to figure out how to get it instead of how to tear other people down who have it a lot of people think people made something Of themselves, or got in a relationship or got what they got overnight and that's just not true, a lot of people had to go through certain things. Just like we're leveling up, we had to go through a level up to where you know we had to get our looks together our minds together our self-esteem together our environment. Together, our bravery, our courage, um, we had to learn certain things that we may not have known before. You know it. It'S there's levels to this. Obviously so, whenever you're not feeling like you're living your best life or comfortable in your life, remember how how you got here - and you know if you're still on that journey, remember what you're doing to get to where you want to go and never never stop doing. What you feel is necessary to get to where you are or to stay, where you're at don't make excuses. You know um. If you want to even take the higher road, then teach other people how to get what you got write a book. You know don't just allow people to make you feel uncomfortable where you deserve to be okay, um, because sometimes when i've talked to so many people and they don't a lot of people say well, i feel out of place. That'S because people have made you doubt yourself or make you feel like you, don't deserve to be somewhere or have what you have and that's not true. If you have it, you deserve it. If you're there you're supposed to be there. Okay, if you are comfortable, then you know, if you feel like you, can be comfortable, then get comfortable um and if you're, if you're a jealous type, then you need to level up and figure out how to get where you want to get in this world and Um, a lot of people don't realize that sometimes, when they're, not even uh paying attention that you know, someone could be really just who does she think she is or who does he think he is or who do they think they are or why does? Why do they buy that for their children or why do they do that? Because they can? And that should be enough reason because they choose to because they're comfortable enough and peace and at peace enough to do those things for the people that they love or for themselves. You know it's not anyone's place to um. You know judge what other people are doing because they don't know their circumstance and how they got there or what they're doing to keep themselves there um and yeah, usually, if you're jealous of someone it's an indication that you want to be more like them or have The things that they have - and it's only going it's only gon na backfire. If you resent them, you could be learning from them. Instead, that's why my old videos always to say i'm not ever gon na block the jealous people are the haters because they need to learn, and usually i win over all those people who were once haters and they become loyal subscribers and they learn how to get. What they want and what they deserve in this world and they get ahead and have the things that they never thought that they could have and living luxurious life and comfort and peace like they deserved. So i know that you know. I know that, so that's why i don't take offense to anyone who who may come across jealous or who may come across upset or don't want me to feel comfortable or don't want you, ladies in here, to feel comfortable with your decisions. Your standards, it's not our fault, you know um that we have standards, it's just what we choose. It'S, not our fault. We chose to live better than we were living before. You know it's our choice and you know they always say you know. I kid around a lot like. I have comedy sometimes, and i kid around a lot. You know i laugh, i make y'all laugh, but you know i seriously know that if there's someone that i absolutely do not agree with or do not like or do not, you know feel that they're going to benefit my life or is doing wrong. I won't give them the time of day. I won't watch or hear what they have to say, because why it's a waste of my time - and i know a lot of you, ladies - are on um social media and youtube. You watch so many other people besides me, but i don't so when you guys always tell me what what do you think about this or this person? I don't know most of the time who they are unless they're brought to my attention or plastered all over social media. I won't know who they are, because i'm too busy living my life and just helping other women get to their next level. Um, i'm not one of those people that do that. Unless you know you guys are a lot of you guys, try to push and egg other people on towards. You know making a comment towards this person or that person and to me, if i don't really know them, my opinion doesn't matter anyway. You know what i'm saying your opinion can't matter about someone. If you don't personally know them, and so it's just like when someone asks me about a celebrity that i don't know, my opinion is irrelevant about that celebrity because i don't personally know them, so it only holds value um to that person. That asks me if they choose it to have value. Oh sparkle, sprinkle. Thank you for saving your life. She wore. You will forever be grateful for you. You will be ever free grateful for me. You had the most positive impact on me more than anyone else. In my own family, sprinkles from sprinkle spread quicker. I try um well, i'm glad that you feel, like i saved your life, but you saved yourself baby. All you did was take the advice that was given, listen and you put that into action for your own life. I'M just here to share that info: okay uh, but sprinkle sprinkler. I appreciate that y'all know my birthday coming up so i'll. Take that as an early birthday, gift, sarah's sparkle, all right, um! You said it's sad that people in their family can be haters, but you see, i always see things on two different sides because to me like i i use i take words and i say what they really mean. Like i read between a lie. A hater is someone who wants to be like you, because you can't there's a hater is someone who is upset because they can't be in your position, but i don't think a hater can be something that is bad. It'S just someone that needs to learn and observe you a little bit longer or you know, maybe, if they're unable to achieve what you've achieved or do what you do then um they need to use that time to uh, maybe learn or admire someone who can help Them get to where they are trying to get, but i don't think that haters are a bad thing. I think that they're, just you, know, upset with themselves more than anything, so i don't see that people hate. I think people are just not happy with who they are and they need someone to take that frustration off and if you're already at peace, if you're happy and you live in comfort and luxury, then it's not such a hard blow. You know it's not such a hurtful thing, because you know exactly why they're doing it, there's no question in your mind like oh, my gosh, why are they doing it? You already know why? So you don't have to sit up there and think about it all night. You can just say: well, you know, you know a lot a lot of times. You have to be uh, you can you can act humble, but in the back of your mind you were like shoot. If i wasn't me, i'd be mad too, but at the same time you have to you have to also say well i'll teach people how to get to this level and even higher or to the level that they want to be at. So there should be a different way to handle things um. You said the problem is how you become like that, though um like what like comfort and peaceful and doing what you want to do living your life, you listen to yourself and you stop hearing what other people think you do. What is necessary to get to where you need to go and you don't care what other people think that's number one, because they're not going to help you get there they're not going to lend you the money to get you there and they're not going to help. You stay there once you get there, so their opinion should not be a factor in how when and what you do to get there. Okay, so you said a lot of wicked women out there. Try to see your success and tear you down to me. Those women. Don'T try to tear anyone down they're what they're really doing when they try to tear someone who's up down is to make themselves look higher than what they truly are, because if they have to tear something down, it means they're low. So if, if anyone's trying to tear something down from below it's very hard, you know, and if that person has already gotten to where they want to be, it's so easy to get right back there because they know how to like. I said: uh you have like. Okay, y'all remember back in elementary school when the teacher would sit around and hello sprinkle sprinkle appreciate that remember for 11 months: okay, yes, that's a cute thing: okay, um y'all! Remember when the teacher used to sit and read y'all a book and show you all the little pictures of stuff in the book and the kids would learn or listen to the story and pay attention to the story. Okay, fast forward a couple decades now, a lot of people are online teaching via youtube or patreon or whatever, and the students are out here. Okay, um, a lot of people will say that you know you can't really compare that, but it is the same thing if you're giving out information and helping other people get to the next level. That is a teacher. That is an example. So if you wouldn't tear your own uh teacher down in the kindergarten who's trying to read you a book and teach you some life lessons and give you some information, so you can move on to the next grade. Then you shouldn't do that to other women or people in general, so um, it's only the bad students that do that because they know they they got issues and they you know they prepare for class and usually it's those type of students who are neglected at home Or they have issues with being bullied by other people in their lives, so they want to go and turn around and do it to someone else and so a lot of times. You can't even really be upset with those type of people, because they are probably going through something very similar with someone else there. You know, don't don't be so quick to hate your haters or judge your haters, because there's a reason that they hate there's a reason. Why they're doing whatever they're doing and for you to be the person up here and the bigger person means that you can see them and not just see them hating on you, but you can see them truly. You know it's almost like. Okay, i see what you're i see. Why and you don't get as upset as if you know the reason why or you can assume the reason why? Because you're a way above that - and you can see it so it won't bother you as much that's why you have to have a sense of like higher purpose or you got to be higher in your esteem than anyone who's going to try to hate on you. Okay, so always stay higher. You deserve to live. How you want to live, you shouldn't feel guilty for it and if other people make you feel guilty, i always say just teach them how to get there start giving them advice. I mean there's no other way to shut up a hater than to start giving them the advice that they know they want and need. Okay, um, you feel, like your confidence, comes off as arrogant. Sometimes, when people always say you ain't all that or what do you think you who you think you are not um? My answer to that is: well you you're. All that too, you just don't know it or you could be all that too. If you want it to be, you know i sometimes when people feel some type of way, because you have what they don't have, maybe tell them they have it already within. They just got to bring it out. You know everyone has what they need. They just don't feel comfortable expressing themselves like they may want to flaunt and walk around and look like they're all that, but maybe there's somebody in the in the rafters waiting to tell them they're. Not all that or maybe they don't feel like all that, because they don't have high self-esteem because they haven't done the work to get the high self-esteem, maybe someone's tearing them down. So let them know that it is okay to feel this way and if they should too period, you know what are they gon na do be mad, because you gave them a compliment. You know be mad because you rolled super high above them and told them that they can do it if they just try, like you know, like an elementary school teacher, would tell a child who was feeling down about themselves. You know so i i feel like. Sometimes we can take it personally and then other times we can say well. Why are they doing this and it could even be men like, i think, a lot of a lot of women who are living their best lives and have high standards and don't want to talk to a certain caliber of men will get. You know dissed by the men and be like well you're, not all that anyway you're ugly um. So to me the man is just a sore loser at that point because he was trying to be a contender. So i would never even pay attention to anything after after they get upset, because then it's not even relevant, it's just them. Pouting, like a child, oh drop in with detailer sprinkle, sprinkle, hey, you said, elegant backgrounds, it's just my real background. It'S your world, sprinkle, sprinkle! Speaking of luxury, do you think chanel head hand. Bags are a waste of money. The handbags are from your husband um, i think, depending on the style of the handbag, it does increase in value um. So, if anything, yes, i think those increase in value a lot of times, especially chanel. I don't know about too many other bags that increase that much in value um, that how do you ask out your ex-girlfriend's daughter without being weird: oh kristen, sprinkle, sprinkle, dye and reincarnate sprinkle sprinkles? That'S why that's how oh crystal sprinkle sprinkle kristen all right, and you know i have a quote that i have framed and i can't remember it precisely, but it says if you have to constantly tell people you're a lady, then you're not or if you constantly have To put a title on something then you're trying to sell something that it's not you're trying to like this is why i don't get into like high value low value. This i just say what they are, because values can change. You know what i'm saying this is why you can't put a price or a value on anything because just like a chanel bag, it increases in value and, just like, you pay full price for another type of designer bag bag that decreases in value when you bought It it was high value when you took it home. It was low value because it decreases okay. So i don't label stuff high or low, especially people, because people change according to who they learn from who they hang around and and how much they observe and absorb. And put into action so um! That'S why i don't ever label certain types of people like high or low, because you know what you where you want to be: sprinkle sparkle, um, sprinkle, sprinkle! That'S where you want to be, and i feel that you know um when we try to put these labels on people, it gets even worse. It'S like are you of this type of man? No, but i can act like one and and is that the highest your value is going to go, or why do we even have to put a value on you? You should be limitless. Your potential should be limitless darling. We don't need a limit on you, so mine should be too. You know, and i think a lot of people get into these um titles or labels because they want to feel like they've accomplished something when they really haven't, because if there's a value on one person, there's always a higher value on the next person. And so then, this high value can then become low value if you're, comparing them to someone, that's even higher. So this is why i say: don't even get into those those type of labels because they don't stay the same period. They never stay any advice for women in europe, men that are less eager to explain, stop giving it up over there for free. I keep trying to tell y'all stop sleeping with them hold out until you get what you want. That'S the that's the ruler of all the money. If you sleep with them, you can't get what you want. You want some! Could it cut it off? Women in europe stop sleeping with me until they start paying for dates and bills period. That'S on y'all! That ain't me do be like american woman, stop giving it up and if you give it up, maybe make sure you got an another one. That'S that's giving up the money. You know what i'm saying you can't you got to pick a struggle which one you want to be, which one do you want to do? Do you want the money, or do you want 50 50., stop giving it up, stop sleeping with them. European dudes tell them they can't have none, no, no money, no honey! Okay! Well, i think about the wife who didn't know she was already divorced girl. She probably was relieved sprinkle sprinkle, all right um. I don't keep up with those type of news stories like who should you date if you're 20, with not much experience, you're ready for a sugar daddy, older men? Are sugar, daddies men with money and time to spare usually are old, sprinkle sprinkle older anyway, so you know, like i said whatever it takes you to get to your comfort and luxury and peace, don't care what other people think. If that's, what you need to get there like for, like for many women in the level up group and and on the uh patreon for leveling up and on this channel, there are women who, maybe two years ago, one year ago, was working retail somewhere at somebody's Cashier and now they're living the life that they want without having to work at all and whatever they did to get there to that particular point, it was what they chose to do and how they got. There is how they're going uh uh. I guess what you say justify being able to live, that life of luxury comfort and um peace, and they now they have the time, the energy and the resources to build upon that, whatever they choose, so they want to start their own business. They can, if they want to invest or do whatever they want to do or start this or start that they can, because they have the time and the luxury and the peace. Now so don't worry about what people are going to think about. You worry about what you're going to be doing in your own future when they're still doing what they've been doing for the last whatever years you know so just stay. Oh cats are over there having a cat battle. No, i was gon na throw something out of it. They stopped yeah. I have two cats now, so sometimes they get a little truffles. Okay, now, let's see um and a lot of men are uncomfortable with how women get to their success and but in their songs. Okay, i'm just going to be honest here. A lot of men are upset with us by how a lot of women just marry or date, someone rich or have a sugar daddy, but then in all the songs that they have on blast or make whatever they're always calling us whole splits or whatever. But at the same time they want a woman like that, but they don't want her to reap the benefits of being all those things that they say that she is so what i say is y'all need to pick a struggle. Okay, either pick a struggle. Y'All, listen to good songs, about good women, doing the right thing and good men doing the right thing, and i don't i don't know if y'all are going to enjoy that type of music men. But you know remember like what you put what you put out. Don'T be mad when it looks you in the face and asks you for some money: okay, okay, don't be mad with some when they look at you in the eyeball at rent time. Looking at you crazy, if you about to ask them for anything because you know it's, it's not, i don't think it's wrong if you can get it, you know what i'm saying just like a lot of people are are upset at um, rappers or athletes. Who can make a million dollars for running across the field with a ball or throwing a ball in a hoop or rhyming? Some words together, making millions of dollars and now even billions people can be mad at that, but doesn't stop them from doing it. It doesn't stop them from doing whatever they want and being as creative as they want and continuing to get the type of money that they've been getting or maintaining it. So you know um, it shouldn't be any different with how women get their money. There are rappers that get money for calling women and hoes. There are rappers that get money for talking back trash about. You know certain people they're getting paid to do that, and you know i feel that women should be able to do whatever they want and feel the same amount of luxury, comfort and peace as anybody who's talking trash about them. Okay and then they, those men, those very same men, should not be upset when that woman wants more or those type of women actually want more and and they use you know a negative and turn it into a positive for themselves. People can't get mad, they just have to allow you know people to feel comfortable in how they maintain and keep and get their life their comfort in their luxury. Okay, don't be mad, it is what it is. If you're mad, it's because you don't have it or you can't maintain it if you did have it or that you're upset, because you can't get it for free. That'S the only reason that i could feel that anyone could be resentful about women getting what they want or living in peace without a bunch of drama and issues, and things like that. Do i already have a birthday wish list. Oh, you know what i have to make one i'll, probably post it up later tomorrow or today on my uh community section yeah, thanks for reminding me sportsman. I i forgot that i had uh did a wish list, so i might have to do another one um. Thank you. These are the level up cosmetics, lashes, darling, the vintage level up cosmetic lashes you'll need to go and get them on level up cosmetics, dot. U s, baby, not baby, don't put the baby on there. That'S just my little extra level of cosmetics dot? U s and then just type in vintage lashes in the search um. Thank you appreciate that. So you co-sign this especially the sacrifices that come to your body and mental health, bringing another human into this world, but expect to act and perform. As someone who hasn't is focused, yes, um, it's very easy to be judgmental and very picky um about what someone looks like, especially if you don't even have the money in your pocket or bank account to change what said person looks like um. You know there's a lot of picky people out there and uh things like that, but they don't have the money to even be picky. So i don't pay attention to their opinions and we already know that so um, it's it's kind of like discussing something that doesn't matter. You know what i'm saying. So if someone is giving you an opinion about yourself and they can't afford to fix it or going to volunteer to fix it, then their opinion is they're wasting their breath. Basically um. Should you show your man a picture of you and your girlfriends um? If he's asking about it, no, if it's voluntary, i will first let him fall in love with you first, so that uh, he only sees you in that photo. Okay, don't be so eager to show other women to your van and if you are that's fine, but at the same time it's also honestly when women rush to show men their friends, it's it's low self-esteem. You know like i'm, not good enough so but look at the people that i hang out with. You know they're pretty so by association. I, if i hang out with him i'm preaching right, don't do that. I don't know if that's what it could be, but i'm just saying don't rush to show everybody the girls you hang out with i'm just saying because it could just be like. Oh, you know low self-esteem um unless all of them ugly, i don't know spring spring. Yeah, if they ugly, then yeah show them off, go ahead. Y'All know i'm crazy. You said. Luckily, i don't have no friend yet there's gon na be some ghosts back there. It'S like. Do you see the apparition anyway um? What do you do if you're a man pushing for a baby when you are not ready yet? Are you married because that shouldn't even be a discussion? If you you ain't ready yet because you might not be married yet, okay, is your bank account ready yet is y'all wedding, vows already kid, okay tell him that i can't stand when women um try to uh cater to a man who ain't even putting a ring On it, that's not even the discussion and if y'all are married and y'all are financially stable, then have a have the baby. You want sprinkle sparkles, your body. If he's, if he's sleeping with you unprotected, then he trying to get you pregnant done. If not, then, oh well, the best birth control is abstinence. Sprinkle sprinkle tell them that the best birth control is absence. You be wanting the baby, then um. Oh, wait! You you don't want the baby. Okay! Well! The best birth control is oh asking about a wedding. If y'all ain't married frank smirking, so what do you do? Who do you do if you're a man push okay yeah push forward? First sprinkle, you said only time your female friend should see your man is on your wedding day at the rehearsal dinner and on the wedding date. That'S right! That'S funny, but you know that's probably unavoidable, but still let them keep their distance. You say you're 24, but you have baby fever so real. Do you have a business make that your baby? If you ain't got no business and you having baby fever, make your business your baby until you got a man that can afford a baby, keep a baby marry you and et cetera, et cetera. You know, and even if y'all you know don't get married at least make make sure his child support is able to cover you in a lifestyle of luxury, comfort and peace. Okay, otherwise, go get you a doll, go babysit! Somebody go work at a nursery, sprinkle sparkle. That'S the best thing i can tell you ain't, no such thing as baby fever. Um go babysit and see. If you still got it go see if you still got babies, baby wrap after working at a nursery all right, um, and when you see how much it costs for child care go see that go go! Do the expense go see how much it's gon na cost! You to have a baby and then see if you can even afford it, because a lot of women don't do this. They just see the cute baby and then they say: oh well, i'll figure it out. But you know what you're gon na figure it out in poverty and sorrow with no peace with somebody who can't afford to pay for the baby. If you don't sit there and do that financial math stuff, you know what i'm saying figure out, how much it costs to have a baby and whether you're able to find a man who can provide that guaranteed, because you're gon na have to stay home with the Baby at least or pay for child care you best birth patrol is: when is the wedding okay for real jennifer lewis? You feel it sure you are exactly the voice. I need right now. I hope you're having a good day, sprinkle sprinkle, hope you're having a good day too. This desperation is either a turn off or a great opportunity for taking advantage. That'S right, drop in with d taylor because and go babysit. That'S all i can tell you. Why would a guy show you other pretty women to validate his bank account that he can have a pretty woman? I would just rather see his bank account. Okay, because you you, okay, that i you can have you know the prettiest bank account in the world that will get my attention pretty women. They don't get my attention. If you showing me pretty women, show me your pretty bank account. Sir. Show me that bank account, because i don't know, let me see some money, that's pretty. You know he's trying to score points with you, which you can't score points, if you're not showing no money, you're, not showing your ability to provide and protect and take care of a woman. You, you can't show me no other pretty women who you don't have them. Some other people's girlfriends or wives. Okay, is it safe to date, multiple guys in the same city where roster dating men? Do it all the time you think men go out of town to date, different women? Are they just comfortable right where they at you see? That'S what i say you need to get over it like women, if men do that, it's fine when women do that! Oh my god, they're going to call you everything! They'Ve already been calling you in them songs. So, who cares get your money date, your date, whoever you're going to date? If you feel like you want to be uh in different places, then that's up to you, but i wouldn't care. If you don't have no ring on it, we ain't committed. Then you better figure out how you gon na take me off the market. If that's what you really want, because i'm not gon na sit around and if you see him why you're out, then that goes to show you he's doing the same thing you doing so? Who cares you better switch your wig up, so he don't spot you. Maybe you can get away with it with the dim lights, i don't know um, you say you don't want to go out and run into the next, what they a totally different type of man who goes to different types of places. That'S very easy, be a different type of woman that likes different types of places. You know what i'm saying like one man gets the bougie woman. Another man gets the other type of woman who likes to do different things. Okay, i will not run into each other. If y'all aren't doing the same, if y'all don't have a lot in common with the other at that time, during your act, you took advice from me when you was dating your boyfriend and y'all are now married for five years. Oh my gosh congrats see, i think i've been on here for a long time. Well, congrats make sure make sure you keep doing what you're doing, because it's working! Okay, and so that's that's why i don't really get upset when a lot of like a lot of men um, who you know, say that women don't deserve this. Women don't deserve that pay for your own stuff um. Those type of men are what i always say. Aren'T the standard of men that y'all are going for anyway, so to me they're, just in the rafters watching you, you know date, the type of man that they are not y'all have to remember that an opinion of said random man does not count if they are Not your standard okay, they are not your standard, so whatever is coming out their mouth, don't matter baby they're, just watching on the sideline. Okay, so don't even take it personally, just be like roll eyes, keep moving like if you, if, if an opinion of a dusty dude affects you then are you? Are your standards really high enough to get the type of man you are trying to get or attract the type of man that you're trying to get if you're uh he said? What'S a dusty somebody on the sidelines that get you know when, when the when the main players are playing or when people are, you know on the stage and the the side contenders or whatever you know how you know you get off the sideline. You dust off. Your shoe, you know, and they get a little dusty back there because they're not in the game and they're, not on the stage they sitting in the rafters, judging the actors and judging the sports player, and they can't act north nor play a sport. Then the dusty's. Okay, they feed ashy, they have no lotion on they look dusty. Okay, you said a dusty is a scrub. Exactly dusty. Is the scrub he's dusty? Okay, you know how like, when you have something for a long time sitting on a shelf, and you don't use it because you know you got other better stuff and it's sitting on the shelf and they get a little dusty they've been sitting on the shelf too Long so they dusty, because they can't get no dates. They can't get no women to take them seriously. They can't do nothing. They too busy trying to make coffee dates and can't nobody's showing up to the coffee date. They can save that they love four or five dollars and nobody want to use a little four or five dollars, so they have to stay on the sideline. So that's what a dusty is someone that can't afford to make a comment. All right, okay, hi now, like i said, like the the label. Dusting is not a permanent label because anybody can level up. But when you say um, you know if i say level up, there's no limit to that any any level you any level you ascend to is a higher level and so on and so forth. Okay, there is no sky. There'S no limit to how far you can go. This is why i say whatever you feel like: that's where you want to be, and sometimes leveling up is not a financial or a uh. It'S how you feel most comfortable, most peaceful and most luxurious, and it is to be enjoyed at those levels. So, for example, if, let's just say someone just leveled up and got their first apartment right, enjoy that level, okay enjoy being alone in your own apartment, decorating. It your next level could be a bigger apartment or a house or whatever, but we need to enjoy the levels that we're at and we don't need to put labels on where we were trying to get, because we could get higher than that. If we wanted to what, if your highest goal was to find a man with a good government job like some of y'all, used to be talking in the comments long time ago, what if that was y'alls version of level up and then think of who you're dating Today or who you have in your inbox today, once you have been upset with yourself for limiting yourself to just something like that, so never put limits or labels on how far you can go because that's an issue and that's what a lot of people want you To do they want to keep you in a place because as soon as people go, walk around talking about high level is high level that there's going to be an elite level and then, where you're going to go, you then walked around and put a million. You know memes up talking about. I want a high level and now high level is low, so make sure you just say: i'm gon na go as far as i need to go or can't go or want to go. I'M gon na level. Up till i feel like i don't need a little of normal. How are you doing? Okay, sprinkle sprinkle, a dusty is a man who sleeps on a air mattress, but he mad that you getting taken on a cruise. Oh, my god, a dust is someone who got asked a mama for twenty dollars for gas money until pay days for the sprinkler um. So i have changed the culture. Everyone use term dusty and pick me across the social media. That'S funny! Well, you know as long as as long as the message is getting out there and the women are hiring their standards. I mean i would love the credit, but hey i mean they're just words that you know i spoke and became very popular, but at the same time i didn't create those words, but at the same time you know make sure that you teaching you know other women In your life - or you know, if you have daughters, get your get your standards high, get your own and don't take less than what you deserve and if you know a lot of you guys are already in a situation where you have taken less or have you Know gotten higher than you thought you would at the same time, still keep your standards high and give you know those people who need. You know that self-esteem, and you know those standards, give it to them too. Like tell them you, you can do better than that. Uh, you should dusty's are boys, usually in their 20s, but can be older, no yeah. I don't consider 20 year olds dusty's, because they're still trying to get paid. Okay, i, like a 20 year old, is just a 20 year old. If you're in your 20s and you're a man you're, not a dusty you're, still trying to figure out how you're gon na get your money, but dusty is someone who's too old to be broke. That'S a dusty! Okay! Uh! That'S a dusty! When you are embarrassed - and you have to make excuses for somebody too old to be broke, that's that's a dusty okay, you're too old to be broke, and if you're, not you know, if you don't want to label anyone a dusty, you know sometimes, if you're trying To be politically correct and nice and say: oh well, you'll figure it out, they've been figured out, they almost you know over the hill or they are a lot of them. So sometimes you just need to just be like, oh well, when you figure it out. Let me know, sometimes you can't help people you just got ta be like when you figured out. Let me know um when you figured out mm-hmm and there's a lot of men who are upset that women no longer want to build and contribute and pay half the bills or go 50 50. um with them to me, like honestly, they shouldn't be mad. They should actually be happy. They should be happy because it gives them the opportunity to be the type of man that they never thought that they could be. It gives them the opportunity to reach a higher potential than they had for themselves. If they really want that woman, okay or it will show them how much they can, they would settle in order to not have to reach their own potential okay, it will show them. Okay, well guess what okay, so you want to go 50. 50, but i don't so you don't have to go, find a woman. I want to go 50 because i'm not on that list. Okay, bye, so they either have to go find one that meets their standards. Whatever their standards are, or they have to go settle for someone and but at the same time they're gon na be looking at that woman who don't take 50 50 and trying to get in that inbox. Okay, so honestly, if a woman tells you, i don't go 50 50. I don't do this. I don't do that. If i'm with you your providing thank her because she just helped, you probably see that you could have a higher potential higher than you thought you could. Okay, all right ain't, no 50 50 around here i need women. These days need a man who know their potential and can reach it, not one! That'S gon na settle for you to pay half of anything. Okay. I can't i like to me. It don't make any type of sense and if it would be a total turn off, and it would be so um such a bad way to leave things. So don't ever try to go 50 50 with anybody. If that's not what you want, don't ever do it, because once you start it's like you have to gradually get up out of there and start giving him all the bills, and even if you accidentally got out of there, you give them give them the new bills. Okay, you didn't got some new expenses and give them right all over them. Um women went from being from illegally being able to work to running companies. In 60 years, men have been running the show for thousands of years. So why are these men lagging because, because being a woman allows you to do so much more and you know if, like i would say, if you, if you try to hold someone back it's because you know that they can out. Do you run circles around you and um, it's kind of like that, uh fable that the tortoise and the hair, where the rabbit is going off fast in the race and the the turtle is taking its time. But the the rabbit goes to sleep. Take a nap diddles around and then, when he wakes up, he sees the turtle hitting the finish line. It'S like men, took it for granted for so long that their mediocrity would be just enough because women weren't able to work, but women probably always wanted more than their husbands actually provided when it was illegal for women to work. But they just couldn't, you know, say anything: oh, i don't want to be ungrateful, except for the women who had the money and the husbands who made a lot of money, but women were like we need better than this. We don't want this mediocre crap that you've given us, so they went and ran circles around the man made way more money and got what they really wanted. Okay and the men may be a little bit resentful for that, or they may be happy about that. But at the same time don't try to wife, a woman and ask her to pay for 50, because that's not gon na, be your wife, okay, the other 50s, the other half the other 50 percent. You know somebody else is impressing. Mm-Hmm, okay, you said the answer. Is the system got you down, tell them to go, watch the matrix and see how how you can get up? Okay, tell them to fight them agents like neo and let's get it sprinkle sprinkle. Your husband knew the junk from the job. You would not go 50. Okay, um, you said you had a friend asked advice about a dusty just to go. Add him to the facebook recently uh dirty girls girl. I don't know the thing. Is you get in this habit of accepting less chasing and calling? First? Then you just can't stop you can stop if you just stop and put value on yourself. That'S like those people that go door to door, knocking on your door, trying to sell you some crap. You don't want! That'S just what it's like. If i want something. First of all, if you're, if you have your own business, you know that's not a good way to sell stuff number one number two: if you want, if you want someone to value something, you got to put value on it first and by chasing people around and Accepting less is saying that that you don't value yourself that much when you put a high price, a high standard and you don't budge the value increases like a chanel bag. That'S why chanel does not have cells sprinkle sprinkle. They don't have no coupon codes or sales. Why? Because their value increases, it does not decrease. Keep your value high as by treating yourself as you are. So, however, you feel you deserve to be treated, treat yourself that way, don't chase after nobody don't end up paying for nothing, don't do that, stop tell them! No, i'm not doing it period. You are somebody else, go get them for real, i'm, not i'm not going to do it. You'Re, not you're, not going to change me. You gon na change. How you treat me, or you, ain't gon na get a chance to treat me how about that so and don't fear losing someone, because they weren't for you if you lost them, if you got to do all that stuff to keep them, you never had them seriously. Okay, if it's not what you want, don't accept it if you went to the store - and you asked for you asked for something and they went and got it for you and it was the wrong order when you went to the restaurant and they put your food On your tables wrong, or you gon na, say something you're just gon na accept it and what, if it costs more and your bill came back twice as much because you accepted the wrong meal, then what you're gon na do you have to say? No, that's not what i asked for. Please take it back. No, that's not what i want. No, no! No! You could speak up to a waitress speak up for yourself. You love yourself more than anyone on this planet. Therefore, i will never be lonely or in need. That'S right so, like yeah, it's very easy to do. You just have to get in the habit of doing it, stay in the habit of putting yourself as priority. You know you know many people that will just eat it and pay because they're afraid to get their food spitting well, honestly, now that there's a lot of technology around and tick-tock and social media there's cameras, probably all up and through them kitchens people filming other people. You know i, i really don't think that people are actually back there spitting in food anymore and if they are, they was probably spitting it already before you even made them mad okay, um. So who i'm i'm not worried about that? You know people don't wash their hands either, so you didn't spit up booty juice. You choose spring sprinkle um, i'm not gon na worry about, because if, if something is off and it gets sent back twice and they look like it's been spit in then somebody's gon na have a problem. Okay, that's why you asked to speak to the manager, because he'll sit back there and watch the food get made. Okay, you got to be a karen on that one. You got to ask to speak to the mentor because the manager will sit there and watch your get cooked from start to finish and deliver it himself. If you act fool anyway, and you won't have to pay for the whole meal anyway, it's going to be free. You said you sweet, you speak sweetly to the manager, exactly that's what you got to do that them eyelashes from little coffins, i'm so sorry to bother you. I know you're so busy, but this is not what i ordered and i had the order that i ordered before it was so delicious. Would you please make sure it's correct this time, i'm really hungry girl ain't. Nobody gon na spend your food learn to use your feminine charm to get what you watch with no spit. You might get it free and a coupon for next time. Okay, men say single older women will be alone but die or by a dog cat. What is the reality of being older without husband or kids, ask most single men because that's how they die alone. Think about it. How many single men do you know? Are they surrounded just by a bunch of people? Are they being well taken care of? Are they having meals cooked for them every day? Do their grandkids and children visit them on a daily basis? Or you know, how does a single older man's life differ from a single single, older woman's life? You'Re? As lonely as you want to be, women have groups, they have social groups, they have churches, they have volunteer groups, they have book clubs with the main guy. They sit at a bar messing up their organs looking at women, they can't afford so which one you i mean. Don'T pay attention to dusty's i keep telling y'all a dusty opinion, does not count. Y'All y'all know like i live in the south right all these older southern women who husbands may be dead or they may be single or divorced they're, not living like that. They out here drinking margaritas, going to book clubs shopping. You know going to the beach going on vacations, they kids throwing them birthday parties or they throw in their children's parties, uh that are older, they're going out with a older children hanging out, i mean, i think it would be no different actually except some man sitting On a recliner asking when dinner is ready, spring sprinkle is dinner, ready yep in the microwave after right after you put it in there, so i don't see a difference like what, honestly, after being married for like a long time, i'm go. If i wasn't married, the only difference that i would be doing is probably going on dates. Okay, i'm still be doing the same stuff, single or married um. So who cares when men hit 50 and 60 and are single? They want to lose their minds done yeah. Once they start getting that aarp magazine, maybe trying to find hurry up and settle down, so many older men are weak, sickly and needy. The hospitals are full of them. Testicles the size of babies, heads men get on your nerves.