Mom Faces Backlash For 5 Yr Old Lace Front Wig Install
- Posted on 12 September, 2021
- Lace Front Wig
- By Anonymous
A 5 year old girl has went viral after her mother posted a video of her receiving a lace front wig install. Many felt as though it was inappropriate and blamed her mother for allowing her to get it done. In this video, we will discuss how black women weaves culture and wigs contribute to the low self esteem of young black girls and women such as what Deyjah Harris stated about not liking her hair texture, and some solutions we can implement to correct the obsession with having "flawless wigs" and not embracing natural "4c hairstyles(4c now A1)".
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I'M sorry this has to be addressed. How how did this become this become this become? This video has made its rounds on instagram. It has went viral on twitter. You had some people who had no issues with the hairstyle and i want to read you some of those comments. So someone said i see no problem because the wig is in a child, appropriate hairstyle. Someone also said it's a wig, not that big of a deal. It'S actually funny another person says she looks beautiful. First of all, y'all don't even know why she has on a wig, raise y'all kids, how y'all want to and stop coming for people regarding how they raise theirs. I'Ve seen kids with this exact hairstyle with their own natural hair. So, what's the problem hairstyle or the fact that it's a wig, however, you definitely had a lot of people holding responsible, the mother who decided to allow her to get that hairstyle and them saying that it wasn't age appropriate. So someone here commented - and they say i'm curious as to why they didn't just use her real hair. For that hairstyle. Oh well, lace is a lot to upkeep and plus doing hairstyles with her real hair will help her love her own hair. So another person responded and say you can avoid heat damage and excessive manipulation, while utilizing protective styling like braids and wigs. Also her natural hair would probably be just as much upkeep. I understand the last point you made trying afro, textured, wigs or extensions would be cool for black girls, so somebody commented here and said: y'all put in lace fronts on kids now and another commenter said unless my child suffers from alopecia had to undergo treatment. That leads to hair loss, she's too young for lace. Wigs, and someone said this is what a normal person would say. Yes and in the video she looks somewhere around 10 or so, and that just shows you sometimes even regardless of the style, how a child having a wig in general ages them in my opinion. Obviously the girl looks young, but she looks a little older with the wig on and, unfortunately, you had some fools out here, crowning the little girl saying that she looks like an auntie saying that she looks like loretta divine and there's nothing wrong with loretta divine, obviously, But the girl is not anywhere near that age, but again it just shows you how wigs, regardless of how they're styled, are really not appropriate for children and what made me more so feel this way was when i went to the stylist page and here's what she Said she said: hooray baby is five. It'S my baby, og birthday. I love how smart you have become. I pray you become more smart, more sweet and more blessing dad and mom growing excellence. Baby mommy. Oh thanks for always choosing their company. This is the stylist that did the hair and, as you can see, the girl is only five, so i was able to locate the mother's page and because the mom has received so much backlash. She has privated her page. She created an instagram page for her daughter as well. She also privated her page, but her business page is still open. So her mother has a hair, business and she's located in nigeria and she has a retail business and she also does like deliveries. So she does bundles frontals, wigs all types of weave. She often utilizes her daughter og to install these wigs onto her so that she can model them, but something else that i noticed is that she will typically give her these wigs for her birthday. So this wasn't the first birthday that she gave her a wig and in this one you can see it was her birthday again and her wig is long. It is not age appropriately styled in my opinion, but even outside of her daughter when she was four giving her a wig installation. She has another daughter. That is only two and she also gave her a wig frontal installation for her second birthday. So for those of you who are saying that this is not that big of a deal and who cares when on earth, is it ever appropriate for a two-year-old to have a lace front wig? I understand and i'm already prepared for some of y'all say it's not your business. Who cares it's her daughter, but we're talking about children here and even if you look at the girl's facial expression in the first video again, this is not the first time she had on a wig, but she doesn't look happy. She looks like even when she was smiling that you could tell they were telling her to smile, but just look at her eyes and just look at how uncomfortable she looked. Maybe she just didn't like the style or i don't know she felt like her head was too tight or something but either way a weave, never belongs in the head of a young girl and that's my opinion and i'm sticking by that and already know some people Are going to ask, maybe the daughter has some sort of health issues. I was on the mother's business page and she was posting some reviews from customers. You can see on one of the text messages that she was showing. She uses her children as her wallpaper to her text messages, and i can see the young girl og and you can see her in her natural hair and she had little braids. But you can see there. The girl clearly has hair simply gives her these installations to promote her company, as well as to style her for events and the girl does modeling and things like that, and i just want some of you guys to think about something. Knowing how that tension, some of the chemicals that they're putting in these wigs and weaves, that studies have shown, is taking our hair out and causing health elements. The toxicity levels of the weave, bonding glue and the chemicals in them and also think about the strength and how they can even cause hair loss and thinning in adults. Imagine what that would do to a five-year-old, let alone a two-year-old and how delicate their hair is and how fragile their hair is. Putting this weave bond on their hair, all these chemicals that they're inhaling all this tension, that's being placed on their heads, they are going to grow up to become dependent upon louise, and it won't even be because of their own volition. At some point. What'S going to happen for those you who regularly put wigs and weaves in your kids hair, unfortunately you're going to put them in a position where they're going to be dependent upon the wigs and weaves, because their hair cannot sustain all of that long term. And this just kind of reminds me of what happened with porsche's daughter, her daughter was only one and she added like braiding hair to it, so she had these long braids and even then, i'm not one of those that feel like. Oh well, you know it's the texture of the hair. I don't care about that when it comes to children, i don't believe that children should ever have any sort of extensions, clip-ins, wigs or lace frontals any of that in their hair. But in this case her mother wanted to go viral and that's exactly what happened so she could have utilized a girl's natural hair to achieve the style, but she didn't want to do that. She wanted to promote her company in the process. This is why so many black girls have identity issues, wasn't deja harris just complaining that she doesn't like her natural texture. She has the texture of her dad's hair and you had some people that were empathizing with her, but other people was like. Oh so basically you feel, like you know your light skin, so you should have a certain hair texture and i kind of agree with that because on one end there are a lot of darker skinned black girls and women, and typically our hair texture is on the Kinkier side so with deja being light her having her father's hair texture, she doesn't really feel like it matches the hair texture that she feels she should have, because, as a lighter skinned woman with her sort of phenotype, she feels as though that looser textured hair would Probably better suit her, because that is typically what we see with women who are mixed or biracial and are on the lighter side. She also probably feels that way, because her older half sister, she has the hair texture of her mother, who is biracial, even though deja to me is a tad lighter than zomi when she was saying this is why she goes out of her way to compliment girls, Who have four hair? I just felt like it comes from a place of pity. Like you poor thing, i know what you're going through. So let me just give you this compliment and it's very much so normalized in the black community that black girls grow up to be these women who don't like their hair, and then they go on to have these wigs and they're slicking them down, laying them down With the baby hairs - and this also is a reason why so many black women are wearing these bonnets, nobody even makes a correlation with that. You guys don't just wear the bonnets, because, oh i was tired and i just didn't have time to do my hair. No, you have been conditioned to believe that, if that hair is not of a certain silky texture, if the baby hairs ain't slayed, if your hair ain't a certain length - and it doesn't have the body way - peruvian 79 - you're not presentable - that you need to cover it. So then you go into the world and you wear these bonnets, not realizing that you felt as though your hair, not being quote unquote done, was going to bring more attention to yourself, but the bonnets itself is bringing more attention to you, though. The reason why you're even wearing those bonnets is because what exactly is occurring in this situation, you have been taught as a young girl that you need a lace front, that you need a wig that your hair just wasn't enough. So i fully understand why there are women like deja and other black women who just feel out of place with their naturally kinky hair, because they were never taught to embrace their own hair. And this is why a lot of us who don't necessarily want to constantly wear the wigs or weaves or you still might wear the wigs or louise, we just say you know what forget it forget trying to learn about my natural hair forget embracing it. I'M just going to get a relaxer, they get these relaxers and these texturizers and you think that it's a coincidence that you go inside the beauty, supply store and you see these perm boxes or the relaxer boxes and it's young black girls on them. Why do you think that they did that? You think that non-black people are unaware that you don't have a great relationship with your hair. They hear you online when you were dragging gabby douglas and how her hair was and that you were calling her hair, quote-unquote nappy and you were making petitions out there against blue ivy. All these people are aware of this. They see it so they say well, if she's gon na hate herself, i'm not going to engage in any sort of media promotion that is going to uplift her i'm going to commodify her low self-esteem, and this is why the hair care industry, especially like the weaves And the frontals and the wigs is a billion dollar industry and of course, it isn't your fault. We all know that this is by design. However, not much is being done to try to eradicate this problem. Nobody is really trying to correct this behavior, which is why more people would feel comfortable. Just saying things like: oh, who cares? It'S? Not your business then actually analyzing. Why we're doing this? How this is harming us in the long run and how this is going to continue to be a generational curse plaguing black girls who grow up to be black women? That don't like the way that their hair looks. Something else that is another problem is they're. Just some of us who, outside of not liking our hair, we just don't know how to care for our hair. We don't have the education that we need to learn how to care for our hair, whether it's relaxed or even natural. So because some of us don't want to take the time out to learn about our hair and we might be ashamed of it, we would just rather throw on a wig, and i know sometimes it's not all, because you just don't like it. Some people would prefer the wigs for convenience. You know y'all love to say it's protective style and all that, but it goes past just being protective styling if you legitimately just have a problem wearing your own hair and naturally having an aversion to it. That is where it becomes problematic, and that is definitely what we are seeing, and this also makes a way for the teletypes and other non-black women to feel as though. Well, you don't like your natural hair and although we talk about black men pedestalizing them, we also need to be honest and see how we pedestalize these non-black women by wearing hair that emulates their hair. It looks like their texture, some of you guys can say. Oh, a race doesn't have a certain texture, they don't own it or they don't own, a certain color of hair. I get what you're saying, but typically when you see women with straighter hair, they're non-black. Typically, when you see women who have blonde hair, although white women will bleach their hair blonde a lot of the time majority of the time, the blonde kind of matches their skin tone and those textures better fit non-black women than it does us, and it also lets Me know that we are dependent upon the looser textured hairs, because even when you do wear wigs, if you are going to wear them, i rarely see us wearing wigs that match our texture that are kinkier textures. So this is why we need to just be mindful of how we are also contributing to their positive promotion by wearing hair and indirectly, whether you are intending to do that or not, but you're also uplifting these women by making them feel as though they're prettier and In some cases better, all because you are constantly obsessing and wearing hair, that looks like theirs and they know that that is a trigger point for you and for those of you who will claim that you don't care. I need you to analyze your hypocrisy, because i literally made a video where i was talking about mike epps and his daughter and how somebody photoshopped his daughter's hair to look straight, even though she has like curlier hair. Her hair was photoshopped and you guys were in shambles about that going in, and so, if you can go in on something like that, where uh image was just modified, how could you look at something like this? That'S not just a modified image. This is a young girl, five, whose hair has been installed with chemicals and wigs and weaves. How could you look at that and just say: oh it's not that big of a deal like that's a bit of hypocrisy like we're not completely lost like. We definitely can't combat this through being one honest with ourselves about how we got here. We already know the origins why beauty standard. We know that. But we are allowing this to persist by some of our actions and one way that we do that. I kept bringing up the fact that, when it's like a birthday because even for the mother's birthday, she'll have her hair in a wig too, which she typically wears away, but anytime there's some sort of special occasion or event. She typically gets the children's hair done in a wig or weave, and that to me is setting them up to not like their own hair or not be able to embrace their own hair and love their own hair, because you're indirectly teaching them that. The only time that their hair is quote unquote, nice is when it's like some event and they have a wig in they're, going to associate like a happy time or them looking good is when they have a wig and that's when they have a birthday. So we kind of have to be mindful of things like that to not only give them wigs or even outside of the wigs, let's even say, you're straightening their hair. Some parents will straighten their daughter's hair for special events. I'M not saying you can never do it, but if every single time it's a birthday or a graduation or some sort of milestone - and you always straighten their hair they're - also going to not associate their hair with being appropriate for those type of events. So we just need to be vigilant of doing that, and something else that i noticed is: if you only compliment them when their hair is in a wig or when their hair is straight, they are going to hate their hair as well, so if they have in Braids or they haven't a naturally kinky afro or they have in some sort of i don't know, ethnically textured, hair or even let's say, they're wearing a wig and it's kinky textured. If you don't complement the texture, that mimics or emulates their hair or their natural texture. They'Re also not going to like their natural texture, and they will have identity issues with their hair so again, something to look out for and even in terms of them, independent of their hair complimenting. It reminds me of this video that i posted on my instagram, this asian woman, that complimented this young black girl and she was making it a point to let her know it's not just your hair that i find pretty like you're pretty. That is extremely important. You know something made me really sad and like it just kind of made me think, because i saw a little black girl today, no she's really cute. She has a cute dress on and everything. So you know i told her. No, like you look so pretty and then she'll say: oh thank you and then she start touching her hair and say yeah. My mom just did my hair today and i was like uh no, like you were pretty like not your hair. I mean your hair's really cute too, but you are so pretty and then i laugh and i just feel like a lot of black girls like they get compliment like usually it's because of their hair or they think their hair make them pretty. I just feel, like you know, you're, not hair you're, pretty regardless, like, if i say you're pretty, i think you're still pretty, even if you're bald uh, it's just my opinion. Like i don't know, if i was right or wrong, i just celebrate seeing these mothers taking the time out to do their daughter's hair they're, not doing all these extra extensions in their hair they're, taking the time to properly detangle their daughter's hair moisturizing, it braiding it Doing that with their natural hair is just more than enough for me, but as the woman stated, that should not just be their only concern, you should tell them. Yes, you are gorgeous with your hair regardless, but also letting them know as a person and something else that we need to stop doing is calling their hair negative names or good hair. The term good hair should have been abolished a while ago. Some people have an issue with the name nappy, but i think that when you say nappy it's in the way in which you're saying it. In the context of saying the word nappy, if you're associating happy with ugly that's a problem, you're calling it bad or when you're about to do their hair, you're, just huffing and puffing and you're yanking it and making them feel bad about their hair. They will start to do the same thing. So just be cognizant of that. If you're confused just look up tutorials and go to pinterest, there are other different places that you can go, that you can learn about cute hairstyles, so that when these girls grow up to be women, they're not going to be on twitter, like what we saw where Y'All, embarrassing yourself, talking about braids are not a birthday style yeah! That'S because, as girls most likely were having straightened hair for their birthday or they had a wig thrown on for their birthday, and they never felt as though braids were appropriate for any celebratory event. Because did you give them braids? Did you teach them the beauty of braids there's so many different ways? You can style hair for their birthdays? You can do some braided updos. You could do a braided bun with some ribbons. You could do an afro puff, throw in some berets, or that has a tiara with their natural hair, but if you only feel as though a relaxer is good enough or a wig is good enough, that's all they're going to feel at their worst. They are going to be spending thousands of dollars into another community that most likely don't like them, don't care about them, and it's just utilizing and monetizing the fact that you did not instill in them how to love their hair. It is such a liberating feeling to be natural, especially when you have type 4 hair, be mindful of the type of company that your kids are keeping and what sort of media that they're consuming. Because that also could happen if you taught them how to love their hair and they're consuming media. That shows women that are mixed, looking and don't have the texture that they have yeah they're going to have identity issues. No other community has this unique challenge that they're in where they have so much adversity against them. So many different ways that they're dehumanized and when it comes to beauty it's like this, has plagued us for a while and it's time for us to be released from those shackles. Let me know what you feel about the girl in her hair. Have you seen the video do you feel like weaves are appropriate for a child? I know that there are some children that are sick and, of course, i'm not talking about those children who have to wear wigs, but i'm talking about children who have no ailments or anything going on. You just have a mother that might be a tad vein and feel as though her daughters need wigs and weaves at five and two: are you okay with that? Please make sure you like this video comment, subscribe and share, and i will talk to you in my next one: bye,
Comments
Plastic Buddies: I was SHOOK at the compliments I got when I started wearing my natural hair... Took a min to get used to the look but I feel flawless in my natural state and more insecure with obviously fake hair.
Hair Weave Took Black Men Out The Home: Giving your kids European/Asian hair on their birthdays like a gift is a recipe for self hate issues.
Nicole: As a black mother, I feel it’s imperative to teach our daughters to love themselves…from the skin tone to the hair texture, all aspects of being a black woman should be celebrated from a young age to ensure these values are secured into adulthood
Elle Bee: Self-hate is what we have been taught. A few weeks ago, my aunt tried to criticize me for wearing my natural 4c hair. Bless her heart, but she got the business that day —in a respectful way of course. I explained to her that I feel beautiful when I embrace myself in the way that God naturally created me and told her that more black women need to accept how God made us. We compliment our creator and ourselves when we do. Also, my hair is my business. If I like it, who is anyone else to give an opinion to me that I never even asked for. If you don’t like it, take it up with God! He makes no mistakes and there are no frontals in heaven hunni. I SAID WHAT I SAID!!!!
Cosmos Adorabilis: She even dresses her like a grown up.
Self Discovery: Glueing a wig to a child forehead because for whatever reason you find her own hair undesirable is disturbing. We really need to address the collective psychosis we have when it comes to the topic of wigs. We keeping saying it’s a ‘protective style’ yet I know many women who wear wigs 24/7 all year round. What exactly are you protecting your hair from? Also If the only reason you wear a wig is to ‘protect’ your natural hair why are the wigs never in a texture or colour that resembles your real hair? Let’s unpack that. Another excuse I hear is that natural hair is too expensive or time consuming to care for. Yet these same women will spend thousands on wigs and hours installing them. Make it make sense.
Latesha Renee: People deciding what "done" hair is, is getting annoying. I don't need weave for my hair to be considered "done" .
Felicia Brown-Hudson: I completely agree. I was one that developed alopecia from constantly putting tension on my hair and wearing weaves and wigs. I shaved my hair off and started locs. My hair is growing and thriving again, it just wanted to be free. I'm 6 months in and love it! So freeing. *We are beautiful just the way we are.*
Melody Holloway: I’m a hairstylist for over 30 years. I have witnessed clients in tears due to the loss of their hair from wearing extensions, although I told them as they watch the progressiveness continue. Extensions are addictive, just like any other addiction. I believe in healthy hair and to start a child in extensions is no go, it like giving your child drugs and you know in the end it will be destructive. This lace wig on a child is the worse, unless this child is experiencing health issues. It’s one thing to need extensions but it’s sad to lose self in them God had me to come out of my extensions & to help my clients do the same. When God Is Promoting It, Believe Me Change is Coming. When one can embrace self it’s a so Beautiful. We should be teaching our children to love themselves starting from the inside
JVY: I personally was a child who was not allowed to wear weaves as a child while everyone else would have extensions, I would have some braids with my natural hair. I used to hate it… but I came to realize how lucky I was. Thanks mom
Princess Yonna ♡: Black women need to set a better example for young black girls. They have failed us.
Booberryboo: I’m glad we’re finally talking about this. We need to also take down the hold “layed edges” has on the black community. I have been chastised and made to feel inferior for not participating in it. Can you feel it? I do! It feels like black people are finally liberating themselves and I am excited to be alive to witness this with my own eyes . We are not a mistake. We exist because the universe says so and no one but the universe can say otherwise. I love you my brothers and sisters.
Niya Love: I’m remember looking at my little cousin hair with awe, though it wasn’t done. You could tell that she had a full set of hair and it was pretty thick. I recently did a big chop, so I inspire to have that much hair (I’m 4c as well). But then comes my grandma, calling her hair nappy and stuff. That really bothered me, but of course I didn’t say anything and luckily my cousin didn’t hear. But we talk about society not supporting BW, but we need to address the treatment of BW by other BW
Makeda: There is a lot to unpack here, and I honestly don't have the energy to comment in detail, as this topic is exhausting at this point. What I will say however, is that your assessment is on point. I so appreciate your thoughtful, intelligent breakdown in this video. Well done!
joy2thaworld2: I'm natural, and my daughters will be natural. We must love who we are, and who we are born to be. PERIOD.
yayadrew: Let kids be kids. Love and appreciation for ones natural hair should start at an early age.
JD VIBEZ4REAL: Nigerians are super obsessed with Wigs. You can never see Nigerians in a public place without Wigs....... Have accepted and cut my hair and am learning to Love It❣️
Lioness Beloved: Smh ♀️ this the “you can’t tell me nothing “ generation… when I have kids y’all kids can’t play with mine ♀️
Kahdijah Treadwell: I rarely style my daughter’s hair until she was about 4. Their scalp is too tender at the age. Wash moisturize and pick it out. My baby hair was out here looking like blu ivy every day, but she was happy.
Overcoming Life's Trials: It’s the ASSUMPTIONS people are jumping to for me. As a parent, you have the choice to raise your kid as you see fit AS LONG AS you’re not harming your kid. The negative comments will do more harm to her than a mere wig. IT’S A WIG! Wearing wigs don’t equal self esteem issues or not living yourself. That’s madness! If her mom is a stylist, I’m sure she know how to SAFELY care for her kids hair. It was styled as a kids hairstyle not an adult. People always have stuff to say as to what’s kid appropriate or not. How do you even know this kid has enough hair to style. At first glance people judge. Theirs as issue as to when kids should get a relaxer, when they should wear braids, if wigs are appropriate, if their hair should be cut, etc. Parents are the best judge for their own kid. I bet this kid was fine until social media started clowning and becoming cruel. Even if you don’t agree, move on because you can’t judge someone else against what you wouldn’t do to your kids hair. This 5 yr old looked like a black, beautiful, princess on her birthday and then the kill joys had to come along. SMH I pray this little chocolate drop blocks the negativity and stand tall even WITH her wig.
Callipygian Venus: This year at 39 I had my daughter. She is only 4 months old but I've gotten rid of every single straight wig I owned. I want to make sure she knows I feel my hair is beautiful and i am proud of my kinks, so in turn she grows with that same love for her beautiful kinks and curls. Now I do still wear wigs and clip-ins sometimes but only 4a-4c kinky textures
Allashuwa Beatz: To each their own, but me personally, I would rather have & encourage my daughter to where her natural hair.
Mary Davis: Wow! I will be so happy when my sisters learn to love themselves naturally . Short hair, long hair, no hair! Except yourselves the way God has made you! Black woman are the most beautiful women on earth!
nisha witch: The mother clearly doesn't except her natural hair and doesn't even know how she is causing self hate in her children
Ochuko Asiafor: 5 year olds should not get lace front wigs. That’s too young. What happened to the regular natural hairstyles for kids?
Jaylynn: I don’t really agree with saying that TI’s daughter feels like she’s entitled to a looser texture because she’s light skin. I feel that’s a reach. She’s a black woman who felt comfortable enough to express the frustration she feels about her hair. Dark skin women do it, light skin women do it. All black women at one point gets frustrated with her hair. And as far as her going out of her way to compliment those with her hair texture, I don’t understand how that stems from hate. She said she understands the frustration and understand how some girls can be insecure about it and she’s recognizes how she feels and simply goes out of her way compliment them….idk I just felt that was a reach…
LINA3: Shes such a very pretty little girl. Her face is a gem. That's all I've got.
Latesha Renee: Even tho I wasn't taught to embrace my hair, I love my hair and I love all hair textures. I was never teased about my 4c hair (thankfully), but I wasn't taught how to care for it. I'm glad I know what I know now, and I'm teaching my daughter the ropes!
Gemini Genesis: The little girl is beautiful. She does look like a young Lorretta Devine.
xoarri3: i love my natural hair and seeing my curls after wearing braids. but , doing my own natural hair after awhile is exhausting and takes a lot of strength. especially when it doesn’t turn out how u want it to, it’s frustrating. i like to get my hair in protective styles to keep it growing so i’m not constantly putting a lot of tension on it by wearing tight ponytails and putting a lot of product on it. :)
ADJUSTING HER CROWN: Starting this poor child off *WRONG* already at a very young age. By the time this child is in her teens, she won't have a clue as to how to identify with HERSELF if the person who is supposed to be leading her (MOM) is starting her off in this way. A child that age shouldn't even know what a lace front wig is. I guarantee her edges will be gone just from the tension and glue alone on that baby's head before she reaches the age of 12. Just from looking at the pics, it seems like "mom" is using this child as her own personal barbie doll. There are ways you can doll your child up NATURALLY while teaching her to love yourself and to carry herself like a LADY. With all the pedophiles out here today, sex traffickers all over the internet hunting for small children, that kind of attire on a small child like that on the internet with short shorts &knee high boots is so inappropriate & a recipe for disaster. The crap they put in our food causing our children to reach PREMATURE PUBERTY is bad enough. That's clothing that belongs on a grown woman.... not a baby. Why is she trying to make this baby look older than what she is? What *REAL MOM* does that? I'm very surprised her face isn't packed with makeup.
Chloe Easley: Natural hair is fine when you have it. I have struggled with cyclic hair loss for over 15 years. When I try to wear it out I’d lose it. It doesn’t grow well and doesn’t retain. If I keep it braided and crochet it thrived and was so healthy until last year. To some extent no I’ve never liked my hair. The texture was fine except I lacked density and thickness and the length was non existent l. I really couldn’t pin point why I have so many issues except for a few health reasons it’s a struggle constantly
Lakia Taylor: I love my Nappy hair and BOTH my girls are natural... one with locs also and the other with loose natural hair. The only protective styles they've ever had was braids. Both of them have hair down their back even after it being cut several times. Blk wmn are being dishonest about this protective styling excuse. No, you're AVOIDING your real hair, not protecting it
Kat Blaque: I can't imagine putting glue on my own head, let alone a child's. You know that wig was thrown to the corner of the playground anyways lol
Vitahmin B: Thank you for this!! I raised a baby 14 years who loves and defends her hair! So proud of that! Even when her dad told her her hair was nappy she still decided to wear it natural
blahface: I had been transitioning to national for 2 months and just the morning I looked in the mirror and decided I didn't want the relaxed and damaged hair/ends anymore. I would say it was an impulsive act but I had been thinking about cutting my hair for a while. My parents were definitely mad at me and there was still damage at my ends to where it was kinda covering up my curls and making my twa look bad and frizzy. Luckily I was able to shape it out but my self confidence was low and I go to a middle school and kids are so judgmental and mean nowadays . I was surprised of the amount of compliments I got, especially since they were complimenting my natural hair. I was so used to my hair being called nappy, and while my mom never said my hair was bad hair- she implied it by being rough with it as if it were a burden to deal with and never letting me wear it out freely. It was weird to be getting compliments because in the past I only got compliments when my hair was down (flat ironed or even braided up) and edges were slicked down. I need more time to get used to it....(but this is the most free I have ever been. I'm so used to having weave and stuff in my hair so it's refreshing to be able to wear it out and let it be natural and free)
Sabrina Barreau: My mother never allowed me to have a weave till 7th grade. I didn’t get braids till 5th. I got a relaxer early tho I was like 6 or 7. She loved my hair tho she just was uneducated on it and couldn’t handle it. I went natural in 2010 and haven’t gone back. My hair is mid back length and I’ve inspired many women in my life to go natural. Almost all of them around me is starting to go natural. Even my grandma the oldest racist/colorist/texturist I know have more compliments than insults for my Afro these days. I will say tho I don’t have the kinkiest hair. I would say a mixed type 4. But when I was growing it and it was short I didn’t get as much love as I do now but it was before the Afro became trendy
just shayne: side note: zonnique (tiny' daughter) and deyjah (t.i.' daughter) are step-sisters. this was a good video tho
MZCrayKray: Why do we say things like " it takes a village" then turn around and be like "not my child not my business"
Dr. Sherry Leonard-Foots: Interesting indeed! I think this baby would be absolutely beautiful with her God-given gorgeous Afro-textured hair! I think wigs for young girls are appropriate for children with cancer and leukemia or who are suffering hair loss due to other medical issues. Barring medical issues I think it could lead to low self esteem. WE ARE ENOUGH! Sweet, cute, little children are ABSOLUTELY ENOUGH AS THEY ARE! They don’t need makeup, or wigs, perfume, or other things that are the domain of grown women and older teens. I love wigs for variety. My own hair is texlaxed and 4 inches from waist length. After surviving a horrible car accident and my collarbone is no longer attached to my shoulder, I got it texlaxed to relieve the stress on my arm when coming. Most of the wigs I wear are shorter than my own hair and my hair is quite thick and 4a mostly. I also have several kinkier textured wigs that look so beautiful! I went natural back in ‘98 long before it became “fashionable.” Nothing is more important than self love!
Tracy Ahmad: This is so needed in the black community. Thanks for doing this!
Nicole Salvatore: I am not my hair I am not this skin I am not your expectations, no (hey) I am not my hair I am not this skin I am the soul that lives within
Tre' Seven: Your hair is antennas. Putting a wig over it blocks the cosmic flow of information from the universe. Love your natural antennas!
Mira M: On a high note, she's an adorable little girl. Her sleeping in the chair while getting her hair done brought back vivid memories
Sista Christian: My daughter birthday was yesterday and she rocking natural style's it's best
Sasha Unicorn: YOU DID THIS ONE SIS!!
Racquel LeVias: I used to play in my mom's wigs when I was a kid. The only difference we didn't have internet ♀️
Coily Curly: I think the real question is why so many of us are still afraid to wear our own hair and hide behind wigs and weaves calling it a protective style. She’s just treating daughter the way she treats herself ♀️
Kerri Janelle: This is parallel to relaxing young children's hair. Wigs are the new perm.
Joy Jefferson: Now you may be correct on some things that you're saying love I understand everything. What if you were brought up in the Orthodox community of Judaism as a black woman who was born into Orthodox Judaism I got married in my religion and my husband at the time said I had to wear a wig long dresses with long sleeves. I always loved my hair and I rock my hair in the house. Before that I had cancer and it took some of my hair out. So I wore wigs that mimicked by natural texture. Or wigs that actually wear my hair texture when I straightened it. I always hated when children had grown women hairstyles. There are ways to do things to a child's hair that would look beautiful no matter what texture it is Blue Ivy's hair was fine my hair can be 4c than it fell our completely and than it came back with a looser hair texture. I'm always for self- love.
Levi The Baddest: I grew up with my mom relaxing my hair every month, and my hair was super broken off and fucked up for the first 21 years of my life. A month ago I finally had enough, so I went natural and cut all of my hair off. Due to growing up with this eurocentric standard of beauty, I honestly feel really uncomfortable with my natural hair. It's very short and curly. I am scared to leave my house without a hat. But I'm also scared to wear wigs. I feel so self-conscious when I wear wigs/weaves because of all the things you have to worry about when wearing them (Does it look too fake? Is it sitting right? Are the edges laid? Etc) It's always so hot under a wig and they give me headaches too. It's so stressful!! Isn't it funny how Asian people are always running these wig stores too? Asian people are the ones with the hair that we "want", right? And they're also the ones who get to profit off our insecurities. They have too much power over us. While I personally don't see a problem with black women doing whatever the hell they want with their hair, whether it be a wig, or natural, or both, I still think we need to address the fact that it's become a huge problem, especially when it comes to young black girls who are being conditioned to hate their natural hair. I wish my mom had never relaxed my hair at a young age. It caused me a lot of pain and identity issues growing up, and I'm still suffering from it now. I'm really digging the natural movement that I'm seeing lately. All over social media, I'm seeing black women who have been natural for years, and they have long, beautiful, thick natural hair. Regardless of the texture, they always look beautiful. We gotta teach our young black daughters that they are beautiful with their natural hair, and help them learn how to take care of it too. I think the time for change is now :)
Ayita Barackin: I'm So Glad You Address This Issue, We As Black Women Should Embrace What The Most High Gave Us.
rhoda joseph: We should teach our kids to love everything about themselves, hair ,skin etc .
TheThriftQueen: Thigh high boots on a 4 year old… Call me old fashioned I guess
Unique King: I get the outrage but I also want to start a kid-friendly wigline. A LOT of kids are turned down from Locks of Love because they don't have alopecia including cancer patients. So yes let kids be kids, but also kids can be cruel sometimes and pick on other kids. People are quick to forget not everyone is blessed with a full head of hair. Not sure what's her case could care less she's adorable and I just hope this was asked for not forced upon her.
Beth’s Bubble: All so true!! Self love is absolutely beautiful. Everyone should practice this!
Katelyn Nordby: Very informative and eye-opening video. Thank you so much for caring and taking the time to create such great content. It's imperative women and men hear this within the black community, but white folks as well. ♀️❤️
Katisha Dogisha: That’s so interesting I’m pretty light and I have 4c hair. I notice most dark black girls actually have looser textured hair still curly or kinky but definitely looser than mine.3c-4b but I love my 4c hair! My daughter has 4b Hair and I tell my daughter her natural hair is so beautiful she’s crazy about her hair. That’s the way I want to keep it
UhOhSteenky: It’s not even about the weave . It’s about the little kid thinking that she’ll only be pretty when she got fake hair on and not like her real HAIR
Daisy Dweh: She’s too cute ❤️
Shaniqua Jeffers: They tell me that I look too "womanish" when I have on weave,but when I wear my natural hair,I suddenly look unprofessional to them . people were always making fun of my skin,hair and body.
Mimi 2hyphy: She looks beautiful with the hair, I bet her hair is growing extra long underneath that wig. If she had alone is or a health issue no one would say anything lol! I would be more worried about the outfits mothers put their kids in
ItsJess Guys: I cut all my hair off, and learned how to love my hair again. Just get you some bomb braids once and you will thank yourself later ❤️❤️❤️
Angie: If the baby girl doesn’t have a condition where she’s losing her hair, then she shouldn’t be wearing wigs. She should be taught to love her hair as is before exploring wigs and lace fronts… Maybe a fake afro puff would’ve suited her better so she can still appreciate natural looking hair. She’s adorable tho☺️
Issa Secret secret: I didn’t get my first sew in till college. Even when it came to braids it was always my natural hair and natural hair only growing up. My mom def spoiled me hair wise (doing hair masks and etc) which just really made me put a lot of pride in my real hair -silk press or curly you gotta love the hair growing from your scalp. doing wigs on a child would make them believe that they only can slay with fake hair and etc. not the way to go
Р. O.: On another note tho, that installation is
LaDonna Reese: The compliments from your own community is so KEY ️. Honestly, I believe I got more likes on my Instagram pics when I had a straight-hair wig on. When I had my natural hair, I don't get as many likes or compliments. It's very few and far between. I'm Rocking the crochet butterfly locks and I LOVE them, but I still am self-conscious about it not looking formal enough for a gala or dressy event
Winter 🖤: This texturism crap is crazy. I'm chocolate complected and my hair is so soft and wavy, it'll make the ocean get in its feelings. It does get on my nerves sometimes b/c my hair doesn't hold braids well. All healthy hair is good hair. Embrace your uniqueness, ladies.
Hussi Petty: This is just sad! The fact that she dresses her like a adult is weird too
Queen B29: Teach your little girls they are beautiful at all times with their hair
Lola Ladybug White: I went back to relaxers after years of being natural. I'm done with all of it. To me natural hair is easier. I'm ok with having thick hair. I don't really do wigs right now. Protecting my hair line. My kids play with my wigs. I'm not really worried about straightening their hair. In my opinion little kids don't need extensions in their hair. Growing up too fast
Serena Atkins: People are sick! And they sound so proud of what they've done!
Love child #One Love: Thank you sister! that was truly needed ❤❤❤
Jo Rosie: My child made me stop wearing wigs so much. He started referring to them as "my pretty hair" and it open my eyes to how much kids take in ...even when it's in a playful manner. It may seem harmless, but at this age you have to pour self love into your kids and lead by example.
Over It: I'm so grateful to be born in 1974 by a natural haired Mother. She did hot comb or press our hair once every 2 weeks for church when we became around age 12 ish, but relaxers weren't allowed until we got a job. I've been natural for 43 of my almost 48 years. I have a head full of thick afro hair with baby hairs and edges. So does my 25 year old daughter. She actually thanked me for never putting chemicals on her hair. I was natural before it was popular and bw were the ones who tried to put me down, but now at almost half a century old...my hair is paying me back for not putting it thru those many hair trends that took countless bw hair out. This is too much what some people will do to promote a business or get views. It unsettles me.
Paula Darlene: I would like to add to this discussion that biracial women who were raised prior to the natural hair trend have hair identity issues also. We had to deal with the criticism of growing up and having non straight hair. Regardless of our texture or hair pattern we had to deal with the negative comments even when we tried to embrace our natural hair.
Kreeoshia Burks-Moore: On the flip side had my mom taught me the importance of keeping my hair done and dressed well, I'd have good practice as that as an adult. Having to work on that now at 29.
K. D.: I was extremely disappointed when I saw this. Every time I feel good about these conversations and us using social media to get on code, y’all pull me right back and remind me that I’m retired and y’all don’t really give af.
Simply Felisa: This woman is in Nigeria. I have learned over the years to mind my American business when it comes to other cultures and motivations behind what they do. I also learned not to use American sensibilities when discussing these issues. When I was in Nigeria, I was struck by two things. The Western influence and the Asian presence. The conversation is much bigger than a wig
Naledi Kau: This doesn't sit well with me. Most of my insecurities now as an adult come from how family members would comment on how beautiful I would look if if I had certain features. I don't know what kind of relationship I'd had with my hair and myself, if this happened to me.
Al Kahinat: The trend of not wearing natural hair styles at special occasions is really entrenched, sometimes being pro natural hair is like fighting against the tide...because when you’re enforcing from young ages that Black girls only look special or dressed up with another texture, how will they be comfortable in their identity. We’re acting like formal dresses and fancy jewellery don’t look amazing with twist outs, braids, fros, locs, etc It reminds me of how lots of us associate good things with European standards - you’re only dressy (good) enough with European hair textures Aw that Asian woman. She’s observant and I like that she boosted that little girls confidence, India Arie did say ‘I am not my hair’ ♀️
Natural Is Beautiful🌸: I always wore a weave since I was a little girl but in 2019 I started just buying braiding hair to just due box braids while trying to adjust to my natural hair I’m completely natural now and have been for 7 months now and I’m not gone lie at first it was challenging because I didn’t feel beautiful without the weave and I even had family members making negative comments about my natural hair which did not help with my confidence at all in all honesty my husband is the reason I grew to love and embrace my natural hair because he always made me feel beautiful no matter what I did to my hair and he encouraged me to love myself in my natural form. I can’t tell you how many videos I watched on YouTube to learn about my hair and to teach myself how to maintain and style my natural hair and I got say I wish I had went natural sooner I love my natural hair now and I saved a lot of money not buying weaves
Patience Hopkins: Hey mom is proud of her hair business. I think it’s just that simple. But damn she a big 5 year old. They should care more about her health
Leah W: Getting tired of the whole "protective styling" cop out. She's 5 bruh. Her hair shouldn't need that type of protection yet. And FYI, wigs actually can CAUSE hair and scalp damage too. Give that baby a chance!! And many women will say that they don't know how to care for their natural hair. Some of them actually don't, but many just don't care to. Like how do you teach yourself how to install a whole unit, cut the lace, and bleaching the knots, but not know how to do your OWN hair? There are plenty of resources now compared to before.
Gloria Valentine: Also, to keep putting wigs on top of your hair will ultimately snuff out your hair bc it cannot breathe. Pretty much like throwing dirt on top of grass which will keep out the sun & air & kill any chance of hair growth therefore baldness.
bvnny: My first thought when I looked at the thumbnail was, "Whats the big deal?". Now looking at it, I completely agree that this is a little extreme.
TOP AFRICA CHANNEL: This little girl is too young to be wearing Asian hair, this will affect her self esteem in the long run. Our girls need to understand that their hair is just as beautiful and taught to take pride in it.
Niya Love: It kinda reminds me of my Senior pictures and my year book. My mother and grandma were talking about the girls who had their natural hair out or braids, because they were suppose “to go all out”. Meaning they had to wear stuff like wigs and sew-ins.
Delshonda Kimble: Yasss need this for my daughter … ❤️❤️
Allison Walker: To each his own. The little girl is beautiful.
MsToylen: You really should be a public speaker for our community. I really love your videos
Ms.Pacheco Speaks: I spent a long time disliking what I naturally saw in the mirror because my natural state was constantly being manipulated. From relaxers, weaves, wigs, contacts, and makeup. I was so codependent and couldn't even be seen without it. I pray no girl or even guy has to go through this.
Musings of Harmony: Thank you for this video. We as black women are literally paying homage to Asian and European women by wearing their hair (especially straight, blond hair). People see this and feel superior to us because they know we carry such shame. Other races of women don't see our beauty because we don't see our beauty.
nonfiction88: Black women making excuses for hating their hair, sad
Sunny Rozmere: Honestly, ppl just need to worry about themselves Actually… usually people who always have something negative to say are usually not happy with themselves. But like was said you never know why that child has that wig on.
Nye Robinson: I just think to each it’s own. I wouldn’t do it with my daughters but you never know what a child’s circumstances will be. That can range from underlying medical conditions or just her parents having a reason to do it. Still ... not that deep until it affects your own child or you ♀️
timtim 1: Wig technology is incredible these days. They look so real
Jane Marie: First of all apparently folks have never seen a “Just for me” relaxer box because that’s all this style loos like. Only without the damage of Chemicals in the process
Latoya Scholfield: I'm lazy when it comes to my hair but I absolutely love my natural hair
T. Calhoun: A cancer patient would love this, especially the young ones. Kudos