Asian Mom Straightens Natural Hair For Biracial Kids

Samawie: the fact that they live in korea and she has never strightened her kids hair before speaks volumes on how she teaches them to love their natural self.

Addison Mae: no micro aggressions here at all. y’all love to reach, it’s just a mom trying to treat her child to something they’ve never done before it’s so genuine and you can tell.

Efe Martins: That was extra as hell. The mom did fine and you aren’t one to judge.

Kayla Marie: When you said “you have straight hair, what do you mean you’ve never done this before?” Some/most Asians have NATURALLY STRAIGHT HAIR so maybe she hasn’t done this before

Alteori: She's a phenomenal mother. I've been following them for a while. She does try her best to help them embrace their roots. Her husband is African. She sometimes we'll ask the community for help on how to do different and new things with her daughters' hair. Also, she is Korean. Many Koreans and Chinese straighten their hair. Sometimes a straightener helps you get a specific look and not all Asian hair is bone straight. (Oh yeah I was tense the entire time because she didn't use heat protectant. To be fair a lot of Asians end up damaging their hair because they don't know themselves about heat damage. When I was younger my mother did not understand the concept of putting heat protectant on my hair.

Mai W: It’s her daughter, she has the right to give her different experience. Stop judging

S. McQueen: I did not like some of your reactions/comments at all. How close-minded of you to immediately start accusing Lily of micro-aggressions because she didn’t start straightening her hair in the back. She’s learning and she is a wonderful mother. Learning takes time and strangers attacking you about YOUR family without reaching out to help is NOT helpful.

Kalee c: “You have straight hair, wdym you’ve never done this before” if her hairs straight she doesn’t need to straighten it

Lucy Haworth: I dont see anything wrong with this video, she clearly loves her kids and she didnt damage the girls hair and it made the girls feel good about themselves which I think is the most important part. People should stop hating on her she did a good job and is a good mum :).

Lizzy IHopeWeMeetAgain: You seem kinda prejudice towards her for simply being asian / not being black. Calling an interaction between a loving mother and her kids triggering and that having those two kids was too much for her (even if you "took it back") just because she isn't black? I hope you learn some empathy, then you might find that some of your perceived micro aggressions are actually something completely different. She probably didn't start out straightening the hair at the root because she never used a straightener and didn't want to burn or scare the kid.

Sequoya: I feel like it's not any of anybody's business judging these kids or their parents efforts.

Gwen: I've been watching Chizi AND Lily for many years now. I'm very shocked by how Chizi is thinking. She's not a black mom, and even only now did black moms learn how to do hair. She's trying, not everything is a ' micro-aggression', she just doesn't have experience. I don't understand how you can be triggered by every little thing she does like this. They're HER children, who are half of her so how can you be so judgmental of their own mother.

CRYING ONOIN: This girl is reaching. She is an amazing mom and she isn’t being micro aggressive towards her own daughter. You’re the one being micro aggressive towards Asian women as you fail to understand their culture and their point of view on hair. Little mama can embrace both ethnicities. Shame on you.

k b: i love how people without kids love being in parents business, if yal don’t start minding yo own

Bianca: "Why are we exited to straighten our hair?" I would imagine that it's also because you get to see your true hair length that normally would shrink into coils

Out of The Hat: I don't know, your vibes in this video felt uncomfortably a little microaggressive to me. You seem very judgemental of the mom herself having naturally straight hair, of the mom who normally keeps the kid's hair natural doing a one time beauty treatment, and just of an Asian mom being not good enough for her biracial kids. I normally love your videos but I got some problematic vibes here I hope you look into yourself and see if there is any problem with that especially with such heightened levels of prejudice against Asian people right now.

Wilhelmina Welbie: She did her best. The ppl shaming her probably don’t even take the time to do their kids hair because they’re up on YouTube judging other ppl trying to learn new things. Good job mama Lily, I’m sure you’ve learned what to do for next time. You and your girls are beautiful ❤️❤️❤️

Mo mo: Shameful to see you made a video where you are truly being passive aggressive towards this mother. You throw out a so called compliment then immediately criticize her efforts. It’s clear that this is obviously not the norm for her, she is still learning her daughter’s hair. Be kind, build people up and not tear down their efforts.

Donut palwasha: It’s her daughter not yours, no hate but you’re not the one who’s supposed to be judging. And also, just because it’s was her first time that was amazing!! I’m so proud of her.

Ileana Zen: She's just doing her best for a korean mom of two black girls, I've been following them for years and the girls hair have grown pretty long

奈賈: Some of ya be tripping so hard on kids that ain't ya own, like their mother did her best. Unlike the father that didn't try to help at all.

Briana: I’ve been watching Lilly for years she’s literally the best mom ever. She always affirms her kids beauty and raise them to love their skin hair and culture. Their hair grew that long, healthy because she takes care of their hair well and DOESNT straighten it that’s why she doesn’t know how . She also doesn’t want straightening their hair to become routine because she also worries about them liking it more than their curly hair. When they were younger and she was still learning she asked the black women in her life and area to help her style and take care of their hair. She’s always open to learning and suggestions she isn’t defensive and that’s why she’s a really good mom because she’s always growing

Wonderwoman: Yeah and the fact that the father refuses to teach swahili nor accepts the daughters as african (while korean mother begged him to contribute to this matter), i think she is doing the best she can do. She is both teaching and helping the girls to embrace koreanness and kenyanness of the girls. And the father does NOTHING, but to only blame the mom for not accepting his blackness. Wth. I recommend you to watch their vids. She's a good mom. I don't like how she is being judged for showing only small part of their lives.

Banessa The Ba’Hobo: As a biracial girl I like when my mom straightens my hair it’s relaxing and feels good so theirs nothing wrong with her mom straightening her hair if she wanted to

``ITZ CANDY: Lily is trying to embrace both sides of her blasian daughters and there's nothing wrong with her video I feel like they don't need unnecessary clout because they are actually a good family channel

Zen_Zero: I feel like the term microaggression is either used too much or is too harsh a term with "aggression" being in it, because that mother obviously had no aggression and was doing her best. Say she's ignorant of black hair, but saying microaggression in this honestly sounds more like a term that promotes division, which in turn promotes racism.

Chidinma Nnorom: The lady did well in elevating her children’s confidence in their hair. Beautiful kids.

ASMR-STORY TIME: As an Asian person I know that most Asian parents are strict and VERY harsh and so I was so happy that those beautiful girls we getting the love they deserved from their beautiful mother.

TheLawrence Homestead: She keeps saying “this is a micro aggression”..... this is her daughter.... Beautiful moment between the two❤️

Suyami The frog :3: 9:09 Keep in mind that other countries also have different search engines depending on the area so they might not have the same access to information as we would.

Melissa Belcher DP Addiction: I dont understand being critical and acting so rude toward her when she clearly states she hasn't done it before and who says what the right way to deal with black hair is. you have your opinion and that doesn't mean it's the right or wrong way to do it. She is trying and God knows that's the important part. I have biracial babies and God knows I would be very upset if someone told me what I was doing to take care of my children's hair was wrong in the critical way you are!! I show my kids that they are beautiful as their true authentic self!! To be proud of all parts of themselves and their cultures!!! No matter what your race or culture you should teach your kids to be proud of who they are inside and that beauty is skin deep and they are beautiful just the way they are!!!

Madison Chae: the mom is literally amazing. she even said in the video she wants her daughters to love their own hair the way it is. there is no micro-aggression. they even said in the videos the children were begging for her to do it. definitely did not have to be so hostile towards her. Like atleast she is trying.

Liz: I’ve been watching her for a long time and she’s done nothing but tell her kids how beautiful their hair is and how beautiful they are. There’s nothing wrong with straightening your hair. It was the girls first time getting it straight anyways, it’s not something she does regularly. Don’t know her but she seems like an amazing mother.

Nathalie Cwiek Swiercz: She's trying her best, try not to judge if you dont know. I think this is more if an overreaction than an reaction.shes a wonderful mom, you cant do everything right.

王信希: No right for you to judge a mother’s first time doing something…especially since she did it with love, and you are here judging her and saying mIcrOaGgResIOns

Lesile Zamora: There is no micro aggressions smh‍♀️ all I see is a beautiful loving mother straightening her two beautiful daughters hair‍♀️

Ng Helpviny: They are just trying out what is like having a straight hair they're having fun, that's not permanent there's no point in judging the kids and the mom( you're making fun of it and that's gross)

Nicole Hembrick: I've followed her since she started youtube and she is an awesome mom and always trys to teach her children both cultures. She supports her girls no matter what and shows them how to embrace the skin that they're in.

Cynthia Willis: If that was her first time, she did an excellent job. The more she does it, the better she'll be.

Jhopeddyspritebottles • 3785 years ago: Lily is an AMAZING mother, she tried- maybe she didn’t get it right at first, but she’s learning.

mali 1: girl, you’re so extra.

Melissa Lauder: You definitely watch more of her content. I remember when they were younger she tried to make their dolls look more like them because she saw how much they were questioning why they don't have fair skin like mummy. Also maybe you reach out to her and give her advice. Lily is very open to advice when it comes to things related to black culture and how uplift her biracial children

Pamela Thomas: Lily is a sweet mom and she teaches her daughters to love themselves just the way they are

Shania Mayfield: African fathers can be extremely absent and sometimes even emotionless when it come to somethings. My dad is Nigerian and would not discipline us and was never mean but he would not necessarily show sincere excitement for things like this.

EXCUSE ME?: Now this is straight up prejudice, you have an underlying hatred towards the Mom just cuz of her race. Yes she ain’t black but she’s an absolute nice mom! She keeps on empowering her children for being mixed.

Soph: You know, this bothers me. Again, as always, the "blame" falls entirely on the mother because we unconsciously associate this job of caring for children with women. And the father? He is the one who is part of the black community, not her. He could talk to her wife, introduce her further into the particular habits of her race. Could she learn more? Sure, of course. She is trying, and is credited when she claims that maybe straightening her hair is the right thing to do.

Lew: you saying ‘oh my god oh my god’ when the women was literally just taking a section of her hair and running the straightener through it i-

Ketriuna Beale: Ma’am this is a reach and you know it lol . She teaches them to love their hair. She’s obviously done a great job with growing and taking care of their hair

strawberry-b0ba: *Quick note, that mother is Korean. Here are examples of three very common written Asian languages, since a lot of people confuse them: 한국어, Korean 日本語, Japanese 中国人, Chinese (SIMPLIFIED) 中國人, Chinese (TRADITIONAL)

Jess Red: She’s an amazing MOTHER WITH HER CHILD!

Aquarius awakening: "the reason I've not straightned her hair until she was 8 is because I don't want her to think that straight hair is more beautiful than her own curly hair" beautiful mum teaching her daughter to love herself" Less hate and more love ❤

fallon latu: "people dont know how to deal with her hair" for starters shes not black so why would she ? and she's trying her best and personally i think she did a great job :(

Dude: You know what I'd call a micro aggression? You always using your REAL Nigerian accent for laughs, because how Nigerians talk is just so funny, right?

Lovely Like Jas: We love Lilly she does a great job integrating both cultures. She’s also taken them to get braids before as well. Although her own hair is straight of course she’s never done it before because Korean hair is some of theeee straightest hair ever. She does know how to deal with their hair btw. This is one style thy never do. Many black moms can’t do this either and rely on salons

Valencia S: The daughters' hair came out nice. I think you being too critical.

Maeve: I mean I think she’s trying, the kids hair looked healthy before straightening but maybe she should’ve done more research before straightening it. Edit:I had to double check the chanel but the mom really does try tell the kids that they are beautiful. Her straightening their hair isn’t the norm. Also i’ve watched her blogs and it seemed like she was the primary parent as in there have been multiple periods of time were the husband wasn’t there due to work or immigration issues. I think she’s trying her best. She seems kinda disappointed her husband won’t teach the kids swahili.

Pifferz: This brings me back to the first time I straightened my hair at 12; I was sooooooo excited! That little girl reminds me of myself that day so much. ♡

naseera219: She does a wonderful job learning about her kids hair and making sure they love who they are. Love them.

zara 💫: girl let that mom be a mom, shes doing her best and the kid wants her to do it, she probably doesn't have all the knowledge you have and thats okay but singling her out and acting like shes "in over her head" is just rude okay. I used to like you but it ain't your place to stick your nose in the business of a mother especially if you don't have children yourself. all these mini rants you go on about every single tiny detail that you don't agree with just makes me so angry. That mom knows damn well what her child needs, leave it.

Maia Mørch: This is the most passive aggressive shit I’ve seen in a long time.

Keriting Asli Alami: She teaches that they are beautiful with their dark complexion too in her other videos

[Shafag]: You're such a judgemental person she's trying her best .

YairahOfficial: I think she’s done a great job❤️❤️ Even tho it might have been her first time she tried and it turned out great I love the way the girls had a smile on their face after seeing what they looked like ‼️

Amiya Updhaw: Lily tries hard to help her children appreciate who they are and etc

Michelle Almonte: Man I feel so sad for the person reviewing this video. It must be hard to get through life if you’re upset about sticking a comb in hair and calling it a micro aggression. You mentioned ‘never wanting to come off negative’ in your video but all you did is over dramatize this moms desire to have a good time with her child. You are putting the hair on a pedestal. Now that I think more about this I would actually love to meet you because you must be holier than thou to find so many criticisms of this video. Good luck making it through life without being offended by someone bonding with their child in their own way and not your way!

KikiSakura: My mom (japanese women) put straightening perms in my hair since I can remember and my hair is extremely damaged, like you can tell with just a glance. But fortunately, friends with black hair are helping me regrow healthy hair

Bethany Hait: Speaking as someone with naturally straight hair, the few times I’ve used a flat iron, I’ve used it to add curl. And I’ve gone from front to back, top to bottom.

leiba mendoza: I watched their vids for yrs and she's literally a nice woman and a great mother. She takes care of her kids well and takes good care of her kids hair that's why their hair is long, thick and healthy.

Just Kim: Just because she’s straightened her own hair that she’s known for many years LOL doesn’t mean she’ll know how to straighten curly, thick, biracial hair but this channel, she does try to learn different ways to handle her two daughters hair

Major Ken: Lily is a great mom and she tries hard to treat their hair, she just wanted to see it straight for once just like me

Emm: 1 single comb in the girls hair makes you UNCOMFORTABLE?! LMAOOO

Jay Kay: Lily is a great mom who does her research and encourages her daughters to embrace their black culture more than the black dad does

Bad gurl Star: Literally me 5 years ago with my mom I'm also blasian she always flat ironed it cause she can't do curly hair but I appreciated her for trying also my hairstyles were always on point also I love embracing my Asian side with my straight hair

Praise Rae: PLEASEEE . My mom used blue magic before straightening my hair . Black women themselves just started learning how to properly care for our hair . I’m glad she didn’t relax the child’s hair LIKE MOST BLACK AMERICANS DO

its basic beth: my African mom in Africa has never done my hair it was always salon visits and if I couldn't take the pain she'd shave my hair or either I get my hair permed then it's cut and I spent years hearing my hair is hard that you can wash steel cooking pans with it from my African family in Africa and I hated it so this mom teaching her kids to love their hair by not straightening it and her taking the effort to even try to do the girls hair is just wholesome ....... am an adult and now is the time am learning to love my hair , yes I still can't even do my hair , even styling idk thank God for salons ... this mum did a goooood job

Angie♡︎♡︎: Instead of judging her maybe you should give her some advice

Serpil Aybala: What does any of this has to do with any type of aggression. She is her mother for god sake. It’s a very innocent video don’t look into everything like that please

Travel Girl: Lots of awful judgmental comments on here! They're Asian too, maybe they also want to affirm their Asian-ness too and enjoy having super straight hair like their mum. And even if they decided to keep it mostly straight, as long it was healthy, nothing wrong with that, it doesn't mean they're not "affirming their blackness". The mum is obviously doing a great job for their hair to be that long. She knows what's best for her own kids!!

Sarah Morley: Your hair looks fire in this video Chizi! How did you get the scarf to stay on like that, it looks so cute. Can you pls make a video on different looks for curly hair including scarfs ❤

Katryana OranGe: These little angels are adorable :) such a good looking family. I have red hair so I grew up being shamed for my hair sometimes esp kids but now I realize it's a blessing.

queenjoa _: Nah don’t come for my girl I’ve been following for years and she loves and helps them embrace their roots. There’s nothing wrong with straight your hair ‍♀️I got curly and did it all the time

Sandra LeQualque: I too am biracial and my hair was always a problem.. I hated it . When I first flat ironed my hair i made so many mistakes. Not sectioning,starting in the front, not using a heat protecting spray. And my hair was long and very thick.Now I just go with my natural curl and that's hard too !!! Either way it takes patience and time

Kindell Carter: I was scared, but she loved them, didn’t burn them and didn’t completely damage their hair. Lol. And the best part, they were happy. But yes, if you can take a video, you can look one up on something you don’t know how to do.

circuswannabe: I think it would be exciting to straighten your hair if you have natural curls to see the length and a new look, same way I used to get excited to curl mine.

MemeJ: Mom did a great job. For it to be her first time I think she did great. Everyone needs to stop acting like y'all didn't do a lot of trial and error with y'all hair.

Honey Covered Roses: Love love love everything about this mother and her children

Chizaram Chilaka: "Hey! How do I straighten curly HAIR." Had me chocking

Houda: This is what my mom is like when she’s straightening my hair like OMG!

Amelia Fletcher: I've been. Following them too and she really tried with yuri and dasomi and videos like urs really help her because she tries her best to embrace them and help them and to me their kenyan dad should help more cuz their hair is amazing like there was a video where she got upset cuz yuri tried to put on foundation and it made her lighter and like she liked it and it made the mom made because the dad didn't say anything and she wants hem to love their skin it's really interesting and I sometimes feel sorry for the mom but I love them tho

Angelita Miramontez: Aww I love Lily! I think she did good for her first time

nandini prasanth: I have been following them and watching their videos a lot, in that video actually the kids wanted to try straight hair, and the mom just did it for them for just that time, that's all. Actually she is a great mom who teaches her kids to be proud, happy and love their own curly hair and skin tone. So I do have to say that she is a great mom ♥️ im also an Asian and I also have curly hair like 2c 3a curls.

Snookwest West: Looked great to me especially for her first time! Someone sounds a little jelly!

Brittany Johnson: Oh, I have so much. First, thank you for saying it's all about building our kids confidence and teaching them to love themselves regardless of how their hair is. Overall, this mom did a great job, however I do agree with you about researching styling hair that is different than what you are used to. I may have missed it, but did this mom use any type of heat protector or conditioning cream prior to flat ironing? I am just thinking about the damage that can be done if none was used. I am a mother of two beautiful biracial girls and I watch so many videos about how to handle their hair. Their hair is completely different than mine and needs taken care of differently. I am never ashamed to learn new things. When all else fails and I still need help, I am not ashamed to ask for help from a stylist that specializes in their hair care or even a random person at a store lol. One thing I would like to say that some people may be unaware of is that when I do ask people for help with their hair, there are normally one of two responses. One, that person is super excited that I am asking and they are eager to help me or two, that person gets angry and rude stating I shouldn't have biracial babies if I don't know how to do their hair. The latter is rare, but it does happen more than it should. This doesn't discourage me from asking another person, but having a negative response when asking for help may discourage some from asking questions again. I would like to encourage everyone to ask questions rather than damaging your child's hair and to also be the kind person to those that ask you questions. Obviously they felt comfortable enough to ask you so please take it as a compliment and help when you are able to. I hope no one takes this comment as being rude as I simply wanted to bring awareness to an issue that may be discouraging to others. Stay Positive, Stay Blessed, and Live your Best Life !!

Simon James Bunker: She’s so positive! I love that

Africa Live Sport TV: Thanks Mommy for trying your best, you the best Momm.

Nemo Nebulous: It's interesting that her not knowing how to do her hair makes you think micro aggression, yet you seem to be unaware that a lot of time Asian hair is simply that straight naturally since you're assuming she straightens her own hair. Weird.

Lady & Lotus: I love her, she works so hard to learn and take care of her children hair she did good for her first time

王信希: You seem like the person who could call the racism card to everything

shyynelle: I love that she kept it simple- s/o to her for trying!

Tyana James: I’ve seen their wedding it’s the most beautiful mix culture wedding