My Daughter Cut Her Hair After I Said No |Dad Blames Me |Mom Chronicles

I have a story for you guys today that involves a mom, her 10 year old daughter and some scissors. I'M really curious to hear you guys, thoughts on this one, but we're going to get into the story and you'll hear some of mine. So the post reads: my 10 year old daughter wanted bangs for a long time, because a friend of hers recently had her hair cut and had bangs cut and it ended up being very cute. My daughter has beautiful hair it's very long, but it's thin. I have my cousin, who is a hairdresser who actually has an area of focus on kids, haircuts, consult, and she said that if we cut bangs into my daughter's hair, it wouldn't look right due to how thin her hair is. I normally let my daughter have a say in the choices she makes regarding clothes and hair, but on this one i put my foot down because i know it won't. Look good and she's going to wind up unhappy. My cousin also uploaded a photo of my daughter to face app and showed me what she would look like with bangs and it just wasn't a good look, i know face app, isn't 100 accurate, but it was pretty close in this regard. So let's stop right there. Let'S stop right there. I can definitely see where the mother is coming from, but, as you guys know, i have two daughters, one actually just turned 11 and she is very into her style. Her look and if she came to me and wanted to get bangs, you know or experiment with her hair in different ways. I would be open for it like if she wanted bangs and i personally didn't think she should get bangs. I wouldn't impose my thoughts on how the bangs would look on her. I would let her experiment if she didn't like it, we'll just switch up her hair. You know what i'm saying we would just do some braids or put your hair in a ponytail, so the girl's out like. I don't think that i would just say: no, it's not going to look good no now now if they wanted to perm their hair or dye their hair, both of those involve chemicals. I would say now: nope you can make that decision when you're older, but as far as like cutting uh fake hair color, like extensions not like tracks, but you know like color, braiding hair. I would be open to it and my daughter actually has expressed to me that she wanted to try just different things for her hair, so yeah totally open to it, but i definitely want to know your thoughts. So, let's get back into it day before yesterday. My daughter told me she was going to take some alone time in our bathroom y'all already know, y'all know where this is going right. It was only after she been in the bathroom a while that i noticed the scissors i keep in the kitchen were missing yeah. I should use some kitchen scissors, these are big meat scissors and then i heard her in the bathroom crying, so i made her open the door and she was hunkered with her back to me sobbing, and i saw a hunk of hair in the sink. She had watched a tick-tock compilation of people cutting their hair. Oh my gosh tick-tock, oh, that is the word lord. I have seen so many people try to give themselves bangs on tick tock and it's just no. It'S just not the way. It was not good results. The hair doesn't lay flat, she cut very unevenly and she cut too short using your index finger place, the tip in the center part and go down to the first bin and that's how short she cut. I really didn't know what to say, so. I made sure she hadn't hurt herself with the scissors which she didn't. I looked at her hair realized. I wasn't going to be able to even it up myself, so i caught my cousin who came over and made the cut even but it required cutting shorter and now her hair is effed up. My daughter is mortified and doesn't want to go into public. Now she keeps begging me to fix it, even though i've explained to her and my cousin explained it can't be fixed. So i told her this is what happens when you don't listen? Okay, i mean actions, have consequences right. You made the mistake yourself: you hid in the bathroom because you knew it was wrong. You have to live with the consequences and wait for it to grow. The daughter definitely shouldn't, have snuck away and cut her own hair, even though she was told not to okay. Um, but i think i would have handled this situation differently. Like i already said, i would definitely let my child, you know, begin to experiment with different things whenever like when it pertains to her look, but i think for me personally, i would have a talk with my daughter and tell her you know. I know that you really want to experiment with your look and try different things. You are definitely in that age, where you become a little curious and you want to try different things and express yourself in different ways. So i would definitely encourage that. I would tell her that it is a permanent decision, at least in the meantime, until it grows back and of course you wouldn't know if you hate it until you get it, you get what i'm saying so the daughter could have gotten her bangs professionally cut and She could have loved it, you know what i mean or she could have hated it right, but i don't think that's the end of the world. You don't have to be stuck with bangs, you hate you get what i'm saying you just got: ta be a little creative. You got ta, be a little creative um, but i would definitely say that it was wrong. You should not have went and did that. I wouldn't let her um like go to school or just go out in public with her hair and a style that she hates. I definitely wouldn't encourage that there definitely would be a consequence for her actions in regards to her sneaking away and doing something behind my back that i told her not to do so. I would be more hurt and give a punishment um. Just off of that aspect, my husband says i'm being very cold and unsympathetic and that our daughter is 10. She didn't know any better. I definitely think kids are going to make mistakes, we all make mistakes, but she was just learning and doing what kids do and kids will learn, and sometimes it's the hard way. You know what i mean. I feel that she knew exactly what she was doing. She and she did she just really wanted them to dab on bags. Like hey, well, look i'm gon na. Do it myself. She knew exactly what she was doing and that it was wrong. Hence her hiding from me my daughter, hates the bangs says my cousin was right, that it wouldn't look good. So if i had taken her to get it done, then she'd be blaming me we're at a stalemate. So i pretty much shared my point of view, but let's let's go to the comments i among almost every girl. I'Ve ever known in my 65 years, has done something like this once in their lives, my cousins, my friends, my daughter, you live, you learn. She won't likely try anything like this again and it will grow out just see if your cousin can keep it trimmed in shape, while the bangs catch up to the rest of her hair. If you've taken her to a salon, she would probably be just as unhappy with the way it looked and it would have grown out. Okay. So that's one of the comments, so someone said thin. Hair can absolutely have bangs and look good. Take her to a good professional stylist, also it's her hair. She isn't your property. If she asks for bangs, you should have taken her to a stylist and let her get her hair cut. I 100 believe your cousin was backing you up my dad hated. My hair short, but it's my hair and i was able to have the stylist cut it. However, i wanted she's going to remember this forever. You should be fostering her sense of bodily autonomy, not teaching her that she needs to submit to the styles. You, like someone, says please don't say that to her. You are silencing her inner voice to make decisions by her own. It'S like taking away her self-confidence, so she will always have doubts about her own feelings and thoughts if someone doesn't validate or prove it first, that will affect her more than the mistake of cutting her hair, it's okay to make mistakes, but it's how we react to Them and how we deal with them, correct them or solve them or change our approach to them. Sometimes, mistakes and failures are hidden opportunities in disguise, like i said i feel like, even if she did get the banks professionally cut and she hated it. It would just be a lesson learned. Okay, i don't really like how i look in bangs and you just move on. It'S honestly just hair and i wouldn't try to impose my opinions on their clothing. Their hair. I mean i'm gon na say if your outfit a little tacky, but if you like it baby, i love it. So anyway, that's just a few of the comments, but i definitely want to know what you guys think are you for it? Would you let your 10 year old or your child in general, whatever the age, would you let them make decisions regarding their hair? Would you would it be a certain age that you would allow them to start? You know experimenting or are you like nope, you can have the same when you are out of my house. Let me know in the comments and we can chat down there. Bye