Straightening Your Curls For "Special Occasions" Don'T Do It! | Biancareneetoday
- Posted on 19 April, 2019
- Curly Hairstyles
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#CurlTalk Topic of the Day: Straightening Your Curls For "Special Occasions"... why you really shouldn't waste your time... let me explain...
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Let'S talk: hey girlfriends, I'm Bianca nein. You want to be on grenade today and today. We'Re gon na have a little bit of a curl talk and today's curl talk. Discussion has been inspired by this post that I found on Instagram. That reads: please stop straightening your child's hair for special occasions. It'S sending them the message that when it's time to look special, you need straight hair, and that goes for grown women too. You will look just as beautiful with your hair in its natural form. You'Re welcome. Kissy-Face preach this message is so important if you guys already follow me on instagram, you probably saw this post. You guys are leaving me hundreds of comments. So it's getting a really good response and I'm kind of just like amped up today, as you might have seen from my Instagram story. It'S if you guys recognize what I'm wearing just wear those days, but I thought we should further the conversation here on YouTube. For my YouTube fam, since you guys are much larger than my Instagram fam, not that I'm saying you guys need a really come over to Instagram and kind of even out post number to be great but story. Oh yeah, you really should follow me on Instagram, because that's where we get deep into all these topics that I can't always respond to on YouTube, and you should be watching my stories every day so uh follow Manton is beyond corny, so we can take a relationship To the next level, so let's talk about straightening your hair for special occasions. What are special occasions, your own wedding, attending someone else's wedding, prom winter, formal homecoming, maybe your birthday, maybe something at your job. I don't know whatever excuse you guys like to come up with. I don't do that now. Obviously it's your hair, you could do what you want, but that's not the problem here. The problem here is that little mindset of okay - this is now more special because it's straight, maybe more beautiful, because it's straight. That is a toxic mentality that lives in the subconscious of your mind and it just grows and grows and grows and a growth because of society, the Media, maybe your co-workers, maybe people making fun of you at school. All those things add to that negative thought and that just grows inside of you until the point where you just hate the curls that are growing out of your head and then you're like 20 30 40 years old. And now you have to big chop and cut off all of your hair and start from scratch and just start to learn how to love your curls like. Oh, it's just so much work that is rooted at a young age. So that's a message to maybe someone that has straight hair that has curly kids or maybe you are the person struggling with rocking your natural curls, and now you have kids that have curly hair and they're looking at mom with straight hair like well, I want hair, Like mommy and you're pressing your hair every day to obviously you are a grown woman. You probably even watching this video because you're not about to take advice from some random girl on YouTube, but it is encouraging and inspiring for them to look up to someone. They love that also looks like that. So, if you have straight hair, I'm not saying go out and get a perm, but you know subconsciously. Kids are growing up looking for role models and that's why I love when there's curly, kids in cartoons or curly characters on TV shows or in movies or in magazines, or an as the more that a kid grows up in the environment, to where they look and Can relate like someone else; that is what you need to surround them with, so you really just have to start instilling that confidence in who they are with their natural hair, so that doesn't stick with them as they grow up now for us, older people, let's talk About weddings now my husband and I dated for for making of my husband, yes darling, I am hungry. What do you feel like? I don't know what do you feel like anyways, my husband and I dated for four years, and then we were engaged for one and throughout that whole time. He'S always seen me like this curly hair, big hair. Why would I all of a sudden, on the most important day of our relations, try to straighten my hair and then look like someone that he's never seen before when I have straight hair people literally, don't recognize me, one of my closest friends literally walked right past Me, oh, oh! No! Not! Today, you don't see me so yeah. I want him to look at me and recognize me and know that that's what he's gon na be looking at for the rest of his life now for those of you in school. When do you want to straighten your hair for prom homecoming winter, formal, okay, I just posted a video on really cute curly hairstyles that you could wear to prom or winter formal or wherever you're going, and it's really easy to do so so I'll make sure to Link that video up here and down below so you have to check that out, but storytime I actually straighten my hair. For my winter formal, I didn't do a good job. It was like that fluffy straight, not like bone straight, because I like to dance and then I therefore would sweat the back of my curls. Well straight hair was getting wet. Therefore, I was starting to transform okay. My straight pieces were like I was like the Hulk, but turning back into my curly natural form, so I ran to the bathroom and I was like mortified. I just remember I kept staying in there. I was just so embarrassed. You don't want to sweat out your street hair when it's curly, it does not matter. No one could tell I literally remember thinking like maybe I should just dunk my head in the sink and just have wet curls for the rest of the dance. I was so mad at myself for straightening my hair, and I don't want any of you guys to have to deal with the Hulk transformation on the dance floor. Another important thing that is so important is like media and TV and movie. That'S why I get so excited when I see a curly hair actress in a show or curly kid cartoon or those curly, hair, kids books that I found that I did a full video on and someone like Viola Davis, winning was at an Oscar and she wore Her hair, like big into afro um, it's Viola Davis, can rock her fro and that's good enough for the Oscars. I think your hair currently is good enough for your cousin's wedding. What do you say? Oh about that, someone else's wedding? If you are a bride, I know it's your day and you're gon na get what you want, but it's kind of insulting to ask your curly bridesmaids to straighten their hair. I know you want them all to look the same, but there's probably a good chance that your curly friend is a different ethnicity than you. So I mean if she's, black and you're white she's not the same, but it's just kind of a hard-ass. You don't know what she's been going through with her curls. She might be trying to transition, and this one time of her straightening. Her hair could set her back. She literally might have to miss the rehearsal dinner because she's gon na have to go home and straighten her hair. So if you are in that situation, maybe you're the bridesmaid watching invest in a straight wig they're, amazing, your throw them on. No, he damaged easy, peasy and then you're like yeah. I just reading my hair for you and it's like a done deal. I am a strong advocate of wearing a wig over straightening, your actual curl pattern. If you're someone that likes to switch up their hair every now and then that's fine, I have no problem with that. Maybe you're straightening like once a year because you just want to whatever what I do have a problem with, though, is that if you're straightening it because you don't think you're beautiful if you're straightening it for a length check girl, if you don't just pull that mess Down look length check three you're straightening, your hair because of someone else, because people are bullying you at school because your boyfriend is telling you you look better we're straight here, but that's a story. That'S a whole other can of worms. I think we have time for you're doing it to get a job. I mean that's something you know really have control of. I don't know if you even really want to work in an environment that would literally not choose you because of your hair. That'S kind of a red flag and environment. I personally wouldn't want to work in, but you know I'm not really in the corporate world, and this is your dream job and that's what you're gon na have to do to get the job. Okay, maybe you'll get the job, but are you gon na straighten your hair everyday for work? No, no. That seems seems a bit much it's over. All the more of the story that I stated in my Instagram caption is that this is not a straight versus curly thing. I have no problem with straight hair and I love rocking a straight wig that you will actually see in this weekend's video, but I do have a problem with the Battle of you versus your self-love. If you do not love the hair, that is coming out of your head and you think that the only way you are going to succeed or look beautiful or get hired or get a boyfriend whatever is, if you have straight hair, that is just incorrect. That'S just a really negative way of thinking that I don't want you to fester in ever or for much longer. I know curly hair can be complicated. I know it gets frizzy, but that's why I spend so much time making videos every single week to help you guys and I'm not the only youtuber, obviously there's so many great natural hair bloggers that have wavy hair, similar hair to mine or curlier hair. That will give you their tips to help you succeed. Let'S keep this curl top going. Let'S expand the conversation to the comment section down below 1. Did you wear your hair, natural or curly for your wedding? If you did it, do you wish you did if you're going to get married, do you plan to if you are someone in school who has prom or homecoming or whatever coming up? Are you going to keep your hair curly for the dance? If so, tell me why, if not tell us why, if you are bridesmaids in someone's wedding and you kind of dealt with this situation of a very adament bride about straightening, your hair, how did you handle the situation, leave all your stories and comments below, so we All could help each other out, so we don't continue to stay into a society that is making us believe that only straight hair is beautiful and or better. We must stop this cycle now, so that the youth of this generation can grow up with more confidence and more education on their hair, instead of growing up with relaxers and low self-esteem. If you are new to my channel welcome, I hope this was an eye-opener for you make sure you give me a thumbs up and subscribe. I have so many videos to help you guys. If you are new to your curly hair journey, I have a curly hair. 101, video - I have a big chop, video I have the best it conditioners video. I have how to find a good curly, hair salon video. I have a hair styles. Video everything you need to know is pretty much in my curly hair playlist. My videos are here to help so once again make sure you follow me on instagram @ ms biank Renae, so you guys can get daily tips throughout the week. Watch my Instagram story, so you can get the behind the scenes on what's going on in the curly hair community and I hope to see you guys next time, thanks for watching young coronae today,
Comments
Sam Hart: I like that she doesn't feel the need to put straight haired girls down to lift curly girls up. That's how a lot of people have handled it, so Bianca is definitely a breath of fresh air.
Valeria x: For me it's not like 'i'm gonna straighten my hair on a special occasion cause I look prettier'. It's more like '99'9% of my days i wear my natural wavy hair, so let's straightening it today to look different'. And yes, I tend to do that on a special occasion (birthdays, weddings, proms...), but because it's when I have plenty of time to get ready. I loveeee my natural hair, but why not change my hairstyle from time to time? Idk, i get your point but i like changing my hair
Samantha Stickling: My 3yr old niece has curly hair, I decided to embrace and work with my waves for her...she tells me all the time "you have curly hair like me" makes me so happy....
Charnique Morgan: I'm honestly never going to straighten my hair because I prefer my curls, the heat damage will never be worth it.
C. F.: I am the special occassion. I NEVER straighten my hair.
Jilarie A Santos Santiago: True! As an undergrad, my professor once marked me absent cause "he was looking for his favorite Brocoli".
elf¡elikeselfie: this is soooooo true!!! I've been rocking my natural hair for about 5 years now (the best choice evveerrr) - previous to that for years I destroyed my hair with heat - had an important meeting to attend at work and someone had the nerve to ask if I was going to straighten my hair to look more professional - so I made sure to pick it really big that day and sat right in front of this person!!!
Luna Rivera: Getting married in July, going with my natural curls. I’ve come too far in my curl journey to back down now. (I shaved my head to remove years of damage from bleach, dyes and heat. It’s healthy and beautiful now, and there’s no way I’ll ruin that.)
msditto: Saving folks from ruining their hair for Easter.
Lilly Yarney: Truth that perception is so damaging no pun intended. Being told your curls aren't special or professional is self damaging. I could have saved my hair so much heat damage and loved my hair if that perception wasn't instilled in me in a young age. Thank you Bianca for talking about that.
mspyglass: "because you boyfriend is telling you to-" KICK HIM TO THE CURB
FormerlyknownasPonti: I love that the biggest message here is self love. You can do what you want with your hair, and that's fine...but if you do it for reasons that are really just outside influences, then you don't love yourself. And that's a heartbreaker. We all deserve love from ourselves and from those who surround us (family, friends, etc.) It shouldn't matter who you are, what your background is, your genetic makeup, or what kind of hair you have.
Agalaxywithin: Love this message!! Wish someone would have told me this when I was younger. Let's make sure and pass this message along to our kids!
Divine Oneness: You can have straight here when desire doing it in a safe way without damaging your curls. Curls still in it's place growth still going health still there. Sometimes ppl want verstile hairstyles and not always curls or curly style. Doesn't mean they love themselves less or there hair less. Some of us take extra precautions and not do it every single day.
The Kimchi Taco: I straightened my faux hawk for my wedding and regretted it. My husband loves my curls and he’s the one who actually found your channel for me. You’ve taught me so much about curl love and now I pass it on to my babies. Having mixed curly hair was always a struggle and now I feel both armed with knowledge and free to bounce buoyantly! Thank you, hun.
Safiya Raheem: Just playing devil's advocate, people usually will style their hair differently from its normal look for special occasions. Curly hair people will straighten and people with straight hair will curl it. With that said, I totally agree that we have to be careful with the messages we send to young people about loving themselves the way they are.
Fabiola Osorio: This is the story of my life since I was like 8. Now I'm 27 and I just had my big chop and rocking my curls. My grandmom and my mom both have curly hair and they are having a hard time seeing me with curls because they have straightened it for the majority of their lives and that's what they taught me, that is how your hair "looks good"
Meriah Brown: This video got me in my feeling! I’m going on 6 months without straightening!!
Rachel Pitts: Thankfully kept my hair curly for my wedding. Took me 10 minutes to do a beautiful updo haha added some blingy clips to the sides and done cause personally, curly hair is way easier than trying to tame this mane. Loving the curls since '05
Mirfrancis Villa: AGREE ! On everything EXCEPT... i prefer straighten my hair one time a year over color/bleaching or getting anything chemicals! I find it is much less harming than getting my natural color out♀️
Anne Riley: PREACH!! In high school I straightened my hair every day. It did just as much damage to my psyche as to my hair, if not more. Wouldn’t wish that hell on anyone.
glass egg: Thank you SO much for this video!! This is what I tell my mom all the time I literally have to beg her not to straighten my hair for occasions. My natural curly hair is special and elegant enough for anything!! (And yours is too)
Ravenclaw S: Hey I just wanted to say that you’re videos taught me how to STOP ruining my curls and to embrace them. Thank you for that, I don’t think I’ll ever forget it. Also, do you recommend a specific conditioner, I haven’t found a good one yet.
Kayleigh: PreachPreachPreach "You vs your self love!!!" Gave me chills! I'm not married yet but I have been with my partner for 8 years, if I ever straightened my hair for our wedding my partner would look at me sideways and ask me where my sense went! Self confidence is the most beautiful thing you can wear, it's a cliche but it's the truth. Its soo important for our baby girls to grow up feeling beautiful. Lets not pass on the ugly thoughts and behaviours of previous generations to the one coming up now xx
Carmen I Garcia: PERFECT TIMING FOR THIS VIDEO!!! Prom/graduation season is coming up ♥️ I’ll be graduating from college and I’ll be wearing my natural hair
Ale24 M: I just came back from the easter party wearing my hair naturally.... feelin' PROUD!❤ Update: my granny said that my hair looks cute while when i was yunger (=dry brushed / badly straightend curls) she always told me to do something about them
Kiana Winford-Mitchell: I came to this conclusion a few days ago. I want to wear my natural hair for my wedding. Wedding style tutorial??? Needed!
Roshna Rach: After watching this.... I'm definitely going to be a rebel and actually gonna start rocking my natural hair for all " special occasions". PLEASEEEEE DO MORE CURLY HAIR STYLES FOR THESE OCCASIONS.
L H: This is a timely video for me since I have an event this weekend, I just straightened half of my hair and hate how it looks after being curly for so long. So I'm taking this as a sign to lay off my flat iron indefinitely
Jasmine Cagurangan: I like how my hair looks when it's straight and when it's curly. I don't straighten it much because I don't want to damage my curls. I feel so bad when someone compliments my hair when it's straight
Kara: It’s so sad to me that curls are still seen as a “less professional” hair texture. SO messed up!
Kayla: To be honest this video is so true. I grew up around more white people so I thought I had to Straighten my hair to look good. I had graduation photos the other day and I straightened my hair. I wish I could be able to rock my curls but I don't have that type of confidence yet. Hopefully in the future I will
luzdelalbasanz: This video touched the deepest parts of my afro...thank you
Marie Renee: I straighten my hair because I love it's versatility and I like getting trims when my hair is straight. But I whole heartedly agree with what you are saying. I rock the curls 95% of the time and love finding do's for special occasions that look great on my curls.
Fatima Malpica: You should do more curltalk videos!!! Growing up it was hard to take care of my curls. My mother didn't know anything about it and so straightening hair was a thing. I did it for eight more years through middle school, high school, and a bit in college. Then I found the curl community and I've done it on and off because I didn't have much knowledge about it, but after having my son I've been a year strong with my curls. I plan to get married with my curls because my fiance always liked my natural hair and even more so that it's curled much more. I try and teach the women in my family and offer to do their hair and crossing my fingers to hope they let me do their hair I believe it starts with me to teach and show the love there is in curls. I always defend my nephews curls because they are so beautiful and his mom doesn't know how to take care of them which she has curly hair that she always straighten. Her whole family has curls My nephews father wants to chop them because he thinks curls are only for girls and doesn't look good on boys. So it makes me a bit sad.
Amanda Liberato: LOVE THIS. EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS. I used to have that mentality! I’m the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding and I’m leaving my hair curly! Also, I’m getting married in October and leaving my hair curly! Being a curly girl is a part of my identity. I want my curls to be present at the most important days of my life!
Brandie Muniz: Love this. I always used to think straight meant “more polished” “sleek” “easier” , did it for EVERY event growing up. I finally just started to realize the hassle of doing it for one day and how ridiculous that was. I actually wore my hair curly for my wedding and I felt so beautiful and like my natural self. Great message you are sharing!
Isis Fernandes: I’m the bridesmaid but I’m DEFINITELY going to get a lace front no time for straightening my hair that hasn’t seen heat in almost 3 years ♀️
iiKittyDR: I’m thankful to the way I have grown, the people around me, the things I have heard, the inspiration that was—IS around me cause I have always embraced who I am.
Tina Billingsley: Preach girl, PREACH! Makes me sad that I was relaxed during my daughter’s formative years. She is now 17 and has BEAUTIFUL curly hair; but because I was straight for most of her life and just recently big chopped, she wears her hair straight everyday . I’m trying to encourage her to stop. At least she doesn’t relax her hair.
Jessica Forsyth: My best friend and I got married a month apart. She has straight hair, and spend a good $300 to have her hair done for her wedding. I left mine natural and did it myself (because no one else can do it right ) and I don't regret it one bit. Best decision I could have made. I still felt comfortable and like myself on my wedding day!
amdp2121: I've got my grad ball coming up in june and i'm actually so pumped to style my hair because I'm gonna wear it curly and I know it's gonna look lit. I might finger coil to get more defined ringlets but honestly for these events so many people with straight hair will attempt to curl their hair and loads of girls wish they had textured hair like ours so the curls stay in place. I think us curly girls are lucky we can get heatless curls and hair we can easily manipulate to get different styles without all that heat damage.
Rachel Schafer: I love this! We all need curly-role models! I remember looking up to Christina Yang from Grey's because I loved her curls! I did wear my hair curly for my wedding! It was 3 months into my transition, so it was pretty frizzy still. But I wore it up and had awesome volume!
danielle clyatt: Yes! I was told my whole life that I had "crazy hair". I straitened my hair every day when I was in high school and into college. I love seeing people embrace their natural hair. I haven't straightened my hair in 5 years and I'm never going back!
Mc Hobbit: When people say that I always feel like "So, you are saying that curly hair cannot be glamorous or appropriate for a special occasion, right?" Thankfully, I don't even look good with straight hair so I'm never tempted.
Kori Ditty: I wore my hair curly for my wedding and I was so happy with it. I want to get my mom to stop straightening her hair. Will be sharing this video with her. I tell everyone about your channel.
kalei Gordon: Started my natural hair journey in February 2019!! Used to straighten my hair everyday, for special occasions, everything. I am getting married today and am so excited to show my family my natural hair!! I've learned to love it and I love to wear my hair out. Being an inspiration for my younger sisters, other women, and little kids I see means the world to me❤❤
Kenosha Tannahill: Wow! Such an important video. I straightened my hair so much growing up. At some point in college, I started reading and learning to live my best curly girl life, and I've come so far. I now have two curly daughters, and it is my favorite thing in the world to hear my daughters tell me that their curls are poppin'! They even tell me when my curls are poppin'! I know this to be true, but I don't often think about how everything I do and everything I say about myself is teaching them how they view themselves. Thank you for the reminder!
Livi Smith: Love this! I straightened my hair for homecoming, but I washed the next day because I love my curls. I was thinking about prom and suddenly this vision of how I would look popped into my head: baby pink lace gown, subtle but glam makeup, and big curls -MY curls. It was a gorgeous thought and I'm determined to wear the look in my head
Frantz Fudoshian: I'm so happy you brought this up because when I first followed you years ago, I noticed you wore your natural hair to your wedding and all I can think about was Bianca had the MOST BOMB wash day that day of her wedding because it was FLAWLESS and has inspired me to rock my curly hair for everything, I always look back to your wedding whenever I think about special occasions and how we are beautiful natural and that special occasion is for us, not the other way around.
Heather Bowden: I love how passionate about this you are. It's truly inspirational. <3
Irene: Honestly I use to straighten my hair for “special occasions” but I refuse to do it anymore. Plus you gave us some beautiful curly hair do’s. I am also looking into getting a straight wig
Isa Marie: I felt this on another level lbs. This was me for so long. Proud to say I am 4 years no heat & graduating in 15 days. So excited to wear my hair natural!!!!!!
J P: So. Much. YES! I used to do this, I'm so glad I saw the light and now have not straightened my hair in years
Hattie McClain: Preach it curl teacher,, this video is absolutely needed right on time well said agreed I haven’t straighten my hair in 10 years, I love my curl and watching your videos have truly helped me to style and take care of my curly hair,, I have the same curl type as yours same length, , thanks sweetie you’re so beautiful God bless you and you family, Renee I was thinking about rollers setting my hair for my birthday may 6,th and let it air dry this would be my first time lol can you comment on how to do it ,, thanks so much sweetie,, ❤️❤️we love
Kelly Castañeda: FINALLY! Thank you so much for this. My confidence for my natural hair grows everytime I watch one of your videos. Please keep making videos like this, and specially about curly hairstyles because here in Mexico we need some Bianca-wisdom every now and then. Love you so much!
Jill Maranto: I just wanted you to know that because of you, I was inspired to wear my hair naturally wavy today for a special occasion when I normally would have straightened it. Also, because of you recommending nym mousse, my hair actually looked really pretty and I’m glad I did it! Since my hair is wavy and still has a lot of heat damage, it’s unpredictable and doesn’t usually look pretty but I’m glad I wore it natural today and I feel like I’m gaining more confidence to always wear it in its natural form.
Awilda Jimenez: Bianca: your on point. This coming from a much older woman, who is still working on accepting my naturally curly hair.
Momma Bubbly: I straightened my hair at a hair salon back in November and it took that one time to cause so much heat damage .. especially in the right front side for some reason. The growth coming in is so beautiful and defined. Im cutting my hair lil’ by lil’ but I was upset I took 5 steps forward and 3 steps back by doing that. Thanks for all the tips Bianca!! ;)
Arlayna Nesbitt: I wore my hair curly for my wedding, 6 years ago this Saturday, for the same reason you said. My husband actually walked pass me when he came to pick me up, when we were dating, because he didn't recognize me with straight hair. He said, "oh, I was looking for curls." This is such a good video. Young girls need to realize that what they were blessed with is good enough, even if it is different from someone who they may find beautiful. Differences are beautiful, from skin to hair. That also goes for girls with straight hair who want to perm it for curls.
Leah B.: Oh my gosh this is so amazing! When I began rocking my natural curls last year I decided I would only straighten my hair twice a year. And I would save them for "special occasions" as if my curly hair wasn't special enough to be rocked. ♀️ Well I'm happy to say I've straightened my hair once in the past year. And the 2nd time I wanted to straighten it I decided against it and rocked my natural curls. I felt just as beautiful with my curls as I do with straight hair. New mindset! Woo-hoo!!!
Yaribel Mejia: I just started transitioning 10 months ago, and now that my hair is actually curling I've never been more confident. Yes it's harder to maintain but it's so worth it seeing my hair flourish. I'm a sophomore in high school but I'm having my sweet 16 soon and no I'm not straightening my hair. My mom keeps trying to convince me to straighten it for these special occasions but I say no. The day before my birthday was when i first started transitioning so a year natural will be the best birthday gift. I love being everyone's brunette Goldilocks
T. Johnson: I’m pretty certain I will never straighten my hair ever again! I spent most of my life using relaxers, weaves and wigs. Last year was the first time I decided to wear my natural hair and I absolutely love it! ♥️ (and my daughter is now wearing her natural hair too).
Christina Colongne: I wore my hair curly for my wedding ❤️. My sister wanted to straighten it for me saying it would look better, but I made it clear I was rocking my curly hair. No regrets here, I looked and felt glamorous with my curls. :)
Brionna: I am getting married in August, and I was going to straighten my hair. This video was definitely sent from the universe for me to see. Thank you for the wake up call! I will be wearing my natural hair for my big day ❤️
Mattea 27: I went to homecoming and winter formal with my hair straight, and by the end of the dance, my hair was frizzy and started to curl. LOL I have an upcoming prom and I am planning to wear my hair natural! I am really starting to Love my curly hair thanks to you❤️ Thank you sooo much for making curly hair videos. They really made/make my curls POP!!! Keep up the good work❤️
Nikki Lopé: I'm guilty of this, I straightened my hair for my wedding and looking back I really wish I didn't... And honestly its so true that when its "Special" its straight, and its so deep rooted in us sometimes that even now I have to check myself when there is a "special occasion" coming up. It definitely takes time get past that negative way of thinking.
Smile and Waves: Thank you so much for this! I recently straightened my hair for a baby shower and I ended up regretting it. I didn’t look like myself and for the last month I have been rocking my natural 2c hair. Although my hair is not nearly as curly as yours I enjoy your videos and advice so much :)
rainbowyahi: As a mom with a daughter of very curly hair, it broke my heart when she would be told by her dad and step mom that her hair was ugly and they would straighten it against my wishes. She’s old enough now (and sassy enough) to tell them no and rock those curls all over the place- even at birthday parties, holiday events and family photos.
Mimi Lewis: Proud to say I haven’t straightened my hair in a year and a half!! Y’all gonna get all these curls and melanin!!!!!!!! ♀️
Jackie Torres: That winter formal #hulktransformation definitely happened to me multiple times at dances lol! Wish I had the confidence to rock my natural curls back then!
Monica Harmon: That's me! 49 years old and trying my best to embrace my curls! I did the big chop 2 years ago. I'm still trying to figure it all out because where I live I can't find someone who specializes in mixed woman hair. Thank you for your channel, I'm obsessed! Lol
Kaity Jay: Everything you said was literally me! It wasn’t till I had my daughter and someone told me “how will she love her hair if you hate yours?” And ever since then I haven’t straightened it. I feel so empowered by my hair.
The Wandering Panda: I straightened my hair for my wedding. I still struggle with loving my curls, but your channel is helping. Thanks!!
Yva S: I’m transitioning from straightening my hair all the time to embracing my natural curl pattern and your videos have helped me so much! Thank you! My fiancé is white and I’m biracial, he loves my natural hair. We just went to a wedding. Over the holidays I was still straightening my hair so when his family saw me at the wedding there definitely was a reaction to my curly hair, mostly encouraging. We’re having our first baby in July so I love your advice about modeling love of my curly hair for my child and surrounding him with media that reflects him. Anyways, thanks again!
Tara Southwell: Love this so much! I straightened my hair for years because my mom has stick-straight hair (her father is Native American and her mother is white) and I only had her example on how to care for my hair. It wasn't until my middle child started puberty and his curls really tightened up that I started researching natural hair. I thought my hair was wavy because I had mistreated it for so long, but come to find out, as its gotten healthier it's actually very curly (not sure how curly, because I'm still transitioning), and now random women ask me, "How do you make your hair look like that?" What I find interesting is the "make" part. Before, I had to fry my hair into submission every day to achieve a consistent look, but now my answer is: "I don't 'make' it do anything."
Judith Mayela: Just was about to go to the hairdresser to straighten my hair for a wedding Thanks to your videos tips I am loving my natural hair everyday. Great video!
Bryony Diaz: I was literally talking about this with my mom yesterday. My grandmother (from Dad’s side) has always...for all of my 27 years, has INSISTED on me straightening my hair. Because all her life, she had the way of thinking that she had to straighten her curly hair in order to be attractive, look “professional”, make her husband happy. She’s worried that me not having straight her is playing a part in me being single. And the worst part is that she wants me to straighten my 11 year old sister’s hair. I’ve always politely told her that I just can’t let my sister grow up thinking that straight hair is better than her curly hair. She’s already at an age where she is struggling with confidence and all that fun preteen stuff. I’m not going to make it worse lol. Thank you for this video, I wish it were in Spanish so I could “low key” share it with my grandma and have a nice talk about how I wish she loved my hair as much as I do. And not to send me straighteners for my birthday anymore lol. Oh, I only straightened my hair 3 times. And it was 3 times too many. I love my curly hair
Tiarra B.: Ok. Here’s my take...if my hair texture was like yours Bianca, I’d rock them everyday, all day. But they’re just not♀️ For me, I use special occasions as opportunities to straighten my hair to get a new look. I actually feel more confident with straight hair at certain times and for certain events. Does that mean that I have self image problems, I’d like to think not. That’s like saying those who wear makeup aren’t comfortable in the skin they were born in and low self esteem is why they want to “make-up” a face that’s not their own. I say, if you’re going to be a fighter for loving yourself the way you are, let’s not start and stop with hair. Let’s also include makeup, for example. I’ve heard people say that they can’t leave their home without putting makeup on See what I mean? That’s arguably a huge problem...even if it’s ‘natural’ looking makeup, it’s still not the REAL you. It’s been my experience that everyone doesn’t place the same importance on hair and that’s OK. Some may feel like if I get heat damage I can cut my hair and grow it out again. No big deal. It’s not the end of the world. Everyone isn’t concerned with length. As women, we will always feel insecure about different parts of our bodies. Just love who you are as a person; flaws and all That’s just my take on the topic Thanks for posting this video!
Amanda Olsen: I've straightened my hair only once in the last 5 years because my hubby asked what it looked like. We both agreed natural is better. Let's just say it was an experiment that won't be repeated ever again. Besides it's easier to stay curly than spend all the time and effort to straighten. Thank you for this video! Much love girl!
Nat Sampson: Thank you so much for this message. I have struggled with that most of my life. It took me tens of years to accept my hair due to put downs at school. I still am trying to accept it.
A Kreeger: I absolutely love that you said that you wanted him to recognize you on your wedding day!! I feel like this about my hair and eyebrows. I don't want to do so many changes that I won't recognize myself in pictures. Thank you so much for this!!!
Stephanie Corbett: I have a job interview coming up and I was recently asked by a close friend what I was going to do with my hair for the interview. I said, "Well since it's attached to my head, I plan to take it with me." Then I gave them this look that said, "I wish TF you would suggest that I straighten my hair." And they left it alone.
Lisa Shaffer: I love my curly hair, took me a bit to get it to where I want it but I am there now. With that being said, for my wedding my hair was straight. I really have no regrets, I loved the way it looked. My husband loved it, but he does loves my curly hair more. When I got married, I couldn't find a stylist that knew how to style my hair curly. Maybe it was more of me settling idk. I look at my wedding pics and I am still happy with how I looked.
Tiffany Marquez: I started my hair journey last year, and it was very hard in the beginning. I wanted to give up so many times, and I was soooo frustrated with my hair, but I kept using my devacurl products, deep conditioning once a week, and within a month I started seeing a difference. Seeing some of my curls come back, gave me the motivation to keep going. It's been more than a year since I started my journey, and I will never straighten my hair again. Growing up, I was taught I had to wear my hair straight for special occasions. So for my prom, friends and family weddings, graduation, my hair has been straight. I remember for my college graduation, my hair become a frizzy mess because it started raining ♀️ It did not look good. I remember putting my hair up because of how bad my hair looked. I have a wedding to go to this summer and I can nottttt waitttttt to rock my curls!!! I'm sooo incredibly happy with my hair. I love them, I take care of them, I rock them every day! Of course I have bad hair days, or get lazy, and wait an extra day to wash my hair, but I love my hair, and I don't plan on straightening my hair when I get married.
Kristina and the German: I wanted to straighten my hair for my wedding. My (now) husband of almost 13 years vetoed that idea. His word spoke volumes. He said he wanted his bride to “look like the beautiful woman” he loves. Yes, he’s a keeper!
Nadeige Singh: 6,5 months ago I found you on YouTube and have been heat free and Curly Girl proof ever since! Thank you so much for all your tips and amazing videos. I ever get married I hope I will be rocking my natural curls
Aime: I've never been one to straighten my hair because I've always loved my curls, but anytime I had to "dress professionally" for school or anything job related such as an interview I would straighten my hair. It was rare when I'd straighten it, but I was in the mindset that it was more professional to have straight hair, now I just make sure my curls are popping!
T. T.: Omg thank for the video. I needed this! I'm struggling with this right now. I can't shake the idea that sometimes I feel that certain looks, look better with sleek or straight hair. I honestly don't want to straighten my hair anymore. Probably should work on styling my curly hair different ways or wigs just to switch it up if I get the urge.
Stephanie McCone: I love my curls! Going natural was definitely one of the best decisions of my life. One of the things I love about my natural hair is the versatility. I wear my natural curls about 90% of the time. But occasionally on the other 10% of the time I enjoy wearing my hair straight. I have fine hair but lots of it that presses straight well under 400 degrees. With that being said I find nothing wrong with natural haired women celebrating the versatility of their hair. I've also never had any issues with curl pattern not returning to normal. It's all about personal preference. And of course frequency. If your a woman who straightens your hair every 1-2 weeks or so on at 430-450 degrees then yes you will destroy your curl pattern. It's all about moderation and only using the temperature needed to straighten your hair type. And of course general good hair maintenance. Ok I'm stepping off my soap box lol.
Emma F: Thank you so much for empowering us curly girls I haven’t straitened in over a year and I also have been wearing it curly to special occasions I just make sure that my curls are in point on those days.I used to straighten it only to then use the curling iron to create updos.
Sara Knight: I wore my hair curly for my wedding and couldn't be happier about it! I haven't straightened my hair in like 4 years and I am so much happier with my natural hair!
Rhonda Denis: I don’t straighten my hair for special occasions. I couldn’t agree more with this message.
Dawn Smartt: I wore my hair curly on my wedding day! Literally took me 2 min to pin it back and I was ready to go! ❤️
KT: Yes I love when I see a curly girl in a commercial! This message is so on time! Team curly all the time unless under a wig!
Dragon dog champion 🦮🐉: I’m going to prom with a curly hair in a updo ♀️
NotToday.: I used to straighten my hair because I thought I looked better. I’d get it chemically straightened and all that. My mom didn’t know how to care for my curly hair when I was young so she kept it short and poofy! I got picked on for it. About 4 years ago, I finally learned how to care for and style my curls and I haven’t straightened it since! Now that I’m older, I can appreciate my curls. ☺️
Nneka Wiltz: I appreciate you making this video. I've been natural for 10 years now and it always annoys me when people feel that you can't be just as beautiful for a special occasion wearing your own natural hair in a natural/curly (unstraightened) style.
Scarlette Savoy: Imma keep my hair curly for home coming next year because i love it and feel the most confident when my hair is curly.
Cami Perez: I'm getting married next year and I've decided to wear my hair curly. Wearing it straight didn't even cross my mind actually, I'm not fully me without my curls. Thank you for the video on hairstyles btw! I'm going to take the first one as inspiration for my wedding