I Wish I Knew This Before I Turned 20! Ft. Elfin Hair

Hi guys welcome back to my YouTube channel. If you don't know who I am hi, I'm Janice in today's video I'm going to be talking about certain things I wish I was told before I entered my 20s and I'll also be sharing all the info about this hair and showing how I installed it. So keep watching now. I was very much on the fence about filming this video because I felt like I'm 20 years old. What do I know like who am I to you're given advice? 20 is not such a big age camera and then I went on YouTube and I searched things I wish I knew before I turned 20. and I didn't find any videos I found so many things. I wish I knew in my 20s things I wish I knew before I think 30. most of them would be seeing their 30s and just talking about mistakes they made in their 20s things they wish. They knew and of course those videos are very important and of course, you know they are probably way wiser than me. However, I do not think that invalidates what I have to say. I just wanted to make this video to be more relatable to younger people, because I thought like watching all those videos kind of just reminded me of listening to my parents. I couldn't relate so. Let'S get right on with the video I just put the wig on and what okay yeah, I really can't. I missed redhead judge out okay, it's been a minute and I love it all right guys before I can fully concentrate on the video. I just wanted to glue down the leaves and get that out of the way, so I'm just using my got to be I'm looking this way, because my mirror is right there and yeah. So I need to use that to dry and I know I'm looking funny. I know but just trust the process. The first thing I probably say to myself my you know: 15 16 year old self would be get to know yourself. I feel like a lot of people enter their beginning adulthood years, and they really don't know themselves myself included. It really took me some time to try and understand myself and understand these success and things that make me upset these success and things that give me anxiety. These successful things I just don't like these assets and things I do like you know these are people I can comfortably associate with. These are people I can't associate with stuff like that, and, of course this is something I feel like you would learn throughout the entire span of your life, but you can make a conscious effort to do this because, for example, for me, I certainly feel like a Lot of things I thought I I wanted to do, or I thought I liked, but not, even because I genuinely wanted to do them or I generally liked them. It was more of. I was listening to the voices around me and that is not always a bad thing, but we are the product of our environment and I really really believe that the people around us are meant to guide us and not shape us, and that decision belongs solely to You because it's your life and at the end of the day, if you're unhappy well babe, that's on you, alright, so I've started cutting the lace and it's just this portion, something to cut it off and you can go ahead. I'Ve cut the leaves off and I'm just going to tie that down. Whilst we wait a bit. My next point is life is about trial and error as much as we have all the advice you know around us as much as we have all these resources and people giving their opinions, and this is right. This is wrong and all those systems in place you are still going to make mistakes and don't be so hard on yourself when you make these mistakes because they teach you already teach you what not to do the next time - and I just feel like especially when You are going into your early adults years when, for the first time in your life, you're taking full responsibility of yourself you're, an adult like illegally you're, an adult it kind of puts a little bit pressure on you yeah. If I mess up that is on me, I just remember that life is really just about figuring it out. As you go, nobody has the answer from the get-go and says: okay, this is the solution, and life is perfect. No, someone puts too much pressure on yourself to try and be perfect, so just try and get everything right. The first time. Oh my gosh, my next point is so freaking important patience is the biggest virtue. Now when you tend, when you always turn 18. However, old you are, when you start feeling that pressure of adulthood we have so many genes and so many goals, and we really tend to forget that this is not the end of the rest of our life. We still have a lot of life to live by the grace of God and we're so yeah just 20. Okay, you don't need to have everything figured out, and especially me. Sometimes I forget that, because it's like, I have all these goals and I have all these dreams and all these visions and I don't need to accomplish every single one of them by 20 years old like that, is not realistic. Don'T look at somebody else at anyone who has a house who has a car who has this start and be like? Oh, what am I doing my life? Don'T do that to yourself because listen life is about patience and a lot of times. It'S not your fault. You plant stuff, but things don't go according to plan. Take, for example, covered right call it. I feel, like put a setback in everybody's lives. For example, I plan that I had to start University last year that didn't happen because of covet, but you know was that in my hands was there anything I could do about it? So sometimes you just need to have patience and trust that all right. These are my plans, but you know sometimes there are blocks in the way and that's okay, all right. I want to go ahead with the hair at this point. Let me just create this side, part foreign, by putting some Foundation over there. Let'S heat up this hot comb, the next thing is, it can be loony, it can get very loony, and that is okay, all right. It'S fine! The people you started with me not always continue on that Journey with you. Obviously we all have childhood friends right. It'S very easy to maintain these friendships when you're at a certain age and in a certain you know, portion of your life, for example, if you're in high school you go to school every day, and you see these people every day. It'S very very easy to make friends, it's very easy to maintain these friendships, because you know you're, seeing them every single day, but when you get older and when you're kind of on your own, especially if you move somewhere else or whatever - and these are not people That are involved in your everyday life. You kind of realize that a lot of these friends that you could have sworn at the best of the best of the best you guys are not really friends. You know you are just friends in this situation. You'Re, just a school friend or you're, just people that hanged out in school a lot of times. You realize that, as you grew up with that, I don't necessarily really get along with these people. You don't need to reach the end with the same amount of people. You started with some people may take different journey and sometimes that can get lonely because they may feel, like you literally have nobody that gets you. You don't have anybody that relates to you, but I feel like it's a part of growing up and it's a part of really getting to know yourself and getting to know what type of people you like to surround yourself with all right. I'M going in with my wax stick now to kind of flatten the top of the hair before I hot comb it. The next thing, which is something I'm still trying to learn myself. You are not two girls who need help. Okay, I believe you are never too grown to need help after I turned 18 and I had it in my mind: okay, I'm an adult now yeah. I can do what I want, but I'm kidding but um, it's kind of like when you start figuring out life for yourself when you kind of get that first taste of Independence and that first taste of Freedom, you kind of forget that you still have parents. You still have people you can go to you kind of feel like like what I have to do. Everything on my own, everything is on my head. Everything is on my shoulders. I have to carry the whole world. I have to carry all my burdens. I have to carry this because I'm an adult, I'm independent, listen as much as you are Independence as much as you want all the freedom in the world. It is okay to ask for help, and sometimes it is the right thing to do. You are never too grown to listen to your parents truthfully, and I for one have really struggled with this, because I've had several situations where maybe I wanted to do something, and my dad gave me a piece of advice and said I don't think that's the best Idea or I don't think you should understand these people don't want me to live, but you know if they've been there, it's just one of the best for you at the end of the day and you're not into high school, to listen to them. You don't have to, but don't always just brush off or just stay. You know just cause. You feel like this. Is my life I'll? Do what I want, because you could save yourself from a lot of failure and a lot of heartbreak if you actually did take into consideration what your parents, or what these people that care about. You are actually telling you and I thought I I still need to tell myself that, because I also find it hard to listen when my mom and my dad says: Jenny's don't do this Jenny Center because I'm like me me I'm an adult. Let me start with the hair. I just want to flat iron it a bit all right, I'm officially done with my hair. I think it looks amazing and I love the color only once again, this hair is from Elfin hair. You find all the information in my description box below, so you guys can go check them out because they offer high quality hair at very affordable prices, and I absolutely love this one. It is very soft, so I'm very very satisfied very pleased in here. The eyes are for the hair, so, let's get along with the video. The next thing I want to talk about is it's okay to unlearn culture. I feel like, especially when we are from in Ghana. Culture is very important. We it surrounds us basically in our everyday life and everything we do and right from the get-go. Yes, we are told this is wrong. This is right. You can do this, you can't do this blah blah and I'm not saying that's a bad thing. However, I do think I see girl you evolve and it's okay, so I learned certain things that may not be right for you. It'S for, like as you grow in you gain a certain type of Independence. You have the right, obviously, to choose to do certain things or not to do them when I think back. Maybe, for example, when I was 14 and I think about my mindset about certain things and I'm just like wow, I'm very happy. I do not think like that anymore, and I was very judgmental - and I just felt like what I know is right. It'S 100 right and what everyone else is doing is wrong, because that was what I was told was right, but we are in the world who of 8 billion people, okay from different cultures. You just need to have an open mind. I can bet that if you sit down and think about one thing, for example, you're a tour when you're younger think about to really and think why do I believe this is true, or why do I believe this is wrong, and do I just believe it because Someone told me somewhere in my childhood or do I believe it, because I genuinely believe that it is right or is wrong. Your stance on certain things shouldn't be because other people told you, so it should be because you truly believe them. My next point is romanticize. Your life - and this is probably my favorite Point - all right - you are in your 20s once in your lifetime. This period is going to literally happen once when you're in your 30s or in your 40s, you most likely, you know, have a family of your own married. You would have kids you'd have permanent responsibilities, you'd have a job. You just have things that prevent you from acting Reckless. You don't have things that prevent you from from just doing certain things, because you have permanent responsibilities. These are, these are responsibilities that you can't just you know, stay out early tomorrow, so romanticize your 20s okay and joy is. This is something I'm learning so much, because I used to be so hard on myself that I have to do this. I have to accomplish this by someone 25. I have to be done with school. I have to have a job. I have to be getting ready to get married. I want a kid by 28. I want you know. I'Ve been like so yeah. It should go like this wanting that order in my life, but honestly learn to enjoy it sit back, breathe, look around you look at your life, look at how it's going romanticize it enjoy. It live in the moment as much as it is great to make decisions for your future self. It'S advisable even to you know, think of your future self and think of how you benefit your future self. Whenever you're making decisions, it should not make you neglect your presence, so you are young, you are free, go out in the world, you know travel. If you can experience. Other cultures fall in love, go through all the heartbreaks, do whatever you want and don't feel so much pressure to be perfect and live. You know, honestly. That is my opinion. Of course, I'm not telling you to go and do destroy your life, please. At the end of the day, you need to remember that you're an adult now and if you mess up that is on you, it's not on your parents, you can go to jail now. You know so don't go and do that. You know you're not supposed to because you should still be responsible, you're an adult. My next Point always remember that everyone is dealing with, especially in this day and age, with social media. It'S very very easy to get caught up in other people's lives. It'S very easy to just go on Instagram and see what someone is doing and feel unworthy or feel less than or feel jealous. Even listen. Everyone is going through something behind the scenes, I'm going through something, but I don't come on here and say it. We present our best friend we put our best food forward first, that is just what we do as human beings. We always package ourselves. It'S the packaging Always Forever guys. It is the packaging whenever you feel like yeah, everyone has their lives together. What am I doing package yourself, babe and don't let any pressure get to you? Okay, don't let the pressure get to you don't feel like you need to do more in that moment, you're probably doing as much as you can don't over stress yourself, don't overwork yourself, but also don't be lazy. I would say that when you look at other people doing things, it should be a form of inspiration to you, yeah and I have come to the end of the video, and I really hope you guys enjoyed this video and you enjoyed my two cents on things. I feel, like everyone should know, um as they are approaching their 20s or in the beginning of their 20s or honestly, whatever you are in life, I feel like I can't head to the list, so I really love this hair guys. This is gorgeous it's very pretty. It'S like comment share and subscribe and, as always I'll be back for more pictures. Peace, foreign