Why I No Longer Go To The Hair Salon

Okay, so for this video I am just going to be going into the reasons why I do not go to the salon to get my hair straightened anymore um. I personally have not been to the salon in about seven to eight years um and it wasn't a great experience, my last experience, which I'll get into, but I just want to share that as to why I don't go, and I really don't see myself going um And yeah, that's basically what I'm going to be talking about. Okay, I just want to put a little disclaimer. This is just me talking about my experience as to why I don't go to salons. This isn't the only reasons. This is just some of the reasons that I decided to include in this video. By no means am I trying to speak badly about stylists or beauticians, or you know, what have you um if you are one or if your auntie is one your mom is one and they're great. That is awesome. I am so happy for you um, but I also want to put out that I'm not looking for a salon, I'm not looking for advice in any of my videos, I'm just simply sharing my experience, so I just want to sit out there. I'M not looking for advice, nor am I giving advice. I just talk about my experiences so for me for anybody who doesn't know, I have been getting my hair straightened from middle school, like sixth grade all the way to like maybe two years, past college. So that's probably like 20, three or four um, so I have not been getting my hair straightened that often since my like mid-20s, but before that it was real consistent, I did it all the time. It was just a thing. That is just something that I did, but I have not always had the best Salon experience. So there are multiple reasons as to why I do not go to the salon or why I just stopped going. I don't really know what the salon environment looks like now, but these are things that happened while I was there and I just didn't like it, so I have a little list because I know how to lose my train of thought very easily. So one of the reasons why I don't go to the salon or why I stop going to the salon was or is was, is that um they use too much product for me they would love to try and get my hair bone straight, even though I don't Like bone straight hair, they would love to try and get my hair bone straight, because it's so thick and people saw it as a challenge and a lot of the times. The way to do that is to put a lot of Grease. That'S one of the ways that they would try and get my hair straight is they would put a lot of product now. I didn't like that very much because, as a child uh Middle School in high school, no middle school, elementary school and middle school, I wore uniform and my uniforms very basic white collared shirt in Middle School. It was black pants, but I think elementary schools, blue pants. But when I was at elementary school I didn't have a problem with the collar of my shirt being dirty. But when it came to Middle School, my collared shirt would like be brown and just because they would put so much grease and product in my hair that, even though it was washed at this point, it's dirty by the time they finished draining it. It'S dirty - and I didn't like that - also because it didn't blow in the wind it didn't do any of that it was just stiff and greasy, and I did not like that and then also the amount of heat. Now I haven't been a stickler about heat, maybe until closer to the time of me, not straightening, my hair as much but um, they still did use a lot of heat for them to be using all that grease and that heat. It was just a lot going on and I it was ultimately damaging my hair, but they continued to use it anyway. Now those two pieces lead me to one of the things that I hated the most they didn't. Listen to me like. I didn't want a lot of heat. I didn't want a lot of product and me the type of person that I am and also people in my life think I'm very. I may think that I'm combatic, but I'm combative, just because I got smart remarks to the dumb stuff that they say, but I'm actually not. I don't go back and forth with people, I don't argue with people I'm if I'm at a restaurant - and I don't like the food, like I'm - I'm kind of quiet in that aspect. So when it comes to my hair, especially as a child, I was even quieter. I wouldn't speak up as much. I was shy, so it was just like if I say it and then you don't listen like I'm, not gon na be rude or disrespectful, because you know people are adults, but it was also very like. I don't want this and it would drive me insane because they would do my sister hair the way she wanted it, but just wouldn't do mine and we're not wearing like three four years apart, but whatever that was one of my struggles too. They just don't listen to my requests, I don't want bone straight hair, I don't want heligares and even though they would use heat. I wasn't too panicky about the heat when I was younger or even in high school, more so College. I think I started to become a little bit more aware of it, but when it was like high school and middle school, I wasn't that concerned about heat, because I was also doing my own hair and as many passes as it took for me to get to My liking is what I would do um something else I feel like at times it could be quite scissor happy as well as I can be too, which is one of the reasons why I don't really wear my hair straight um. But for me it was just like I wasn't as pressed about it when I was younger, but as I started to get older and wanted to kind of retain more length or just do different things, they would still cut my hair and I wouldn't lose my mind Over it because my hair grows back, it's not that big of a deal, but it's not something that I would like now um. Another reason: why is the price so some of the prices that they charge in people today, which people think is absurd? They was trying to charge me back that I probably was like in Middle School. My hair was not as long still, I guess, thick in people's opinion, but it definitely wasn't as long. I think they're in middle school or, like maybe my first couple years of high school, maybe my freshman and this lady want to charge me 110 to get my hair straight now. This is at a time that people are charging like 50 bucks, so that was just absurd and was like no we're good like no thank you, but people which always try and charge me an arm and a leg because they say about my hair was long which It wasn't, I don't care what people's opinion of lawn care is. I didn't consider my hair long like it was like here or maybe it was never. It was barely past my bra strap that was the longest that my hair achieved and that it wasn't always like that. So no, I didn't really consider that to be long. If that's long for y'all, that's your business, but for somebody who had it, it just wasn't long to me um. So they would try to charge me extra and a lot of money, and I just didn't like that. So that was one reason why I couldn't go to everybody and the people that I went to. You know I kind of had to go with whatever they was giving me, but even those people, because I think, did she ever do my hair. I don't know, but it was something I just didn't feel like she could manage um, so there was that they charge an army leg which I'm pretty sure people do now, at least from what I see like the the pages or the things that people say, like. Oh, my goodness they're the the deposit, the comb out fee, the using my water feed like they got a whole bunch of fees. Nowadays, from what I see I wouldn't know, I don't really go to the salon, but this room you know word on the street um. Another thing that would get me is they're, like I feel like it was like a one size, fit all approach to doing hair, and I didn't like that me, my cousins, my sister. We would all sometimes go to like the same person and I feel like they would treat us all the same when it came to the process of how they wash their hair. Now we all have different hair types, one of my cousins she's, like big she's, not even fully black uh. Well, is anybody really fully black, but she is mixed. Her mom is um Nicola hotline, so I don't know if I say right, but that's what she is. So her dad is black and my sister, her hair she's, not mixed person, I mean technically, we are, but we're not um. Well, I don't I, I don't include it, but she is her. Hair is finer and looser than mine and it's a little bit more manageable. In some people's eyes, and then my other because of her hair was short, she you could do her hair with a snap of the finger. It was cool like real, quick in and out my other cousin. Her hair is a little coarser than mine, especially towards like the root, and she still had a pretty thick hair um, not as thick as mine, or not as dense as mine, but her overall hair was more like. It was like, if we had to put it in order. She was. She comes right before me um, so you can't do all of our hair the same way, but some of the techniques and the things that they would do would be the same, and it would cause problems especially for me because it worked better for them because of Their hair type and the way that their hair was it worked. Fine. I talk a lot with my hands, but it will work fine for me not as much so, for example, the ones they will wash hair. So they throw you in a bubble. They just start going to work and tangling the hair all up and then be shocked when they're sitting there trying to comb it out, and it's not working. That method doesn't work for me in a salon because, yes, they getting into the scalp and getting everything done. But they're just tangling up my hair. I have multiple textures. At that time I had heat damage. I was kind of. I don't really think that I'm tender headed, but I just can't sit in somebody's chair who doesn't have patience and just attacks. My head, like it just, doesn't work that way, um at least not for me. I can't sit there with a smile on my face, but they would do that and then they like sit you under the dryer. All of our scalps is different, so they try and do like these ookey dookie twists and braids, and it just wouldn't work um one time it was so bad that the lady had to call my mom to come down and blow dry, my hair, because they just Couldn'T do it um and I don't know if I was crying. I don't think I was crying when the lady was doing it. I'M pretty sure I was crying by the time my mom came because for a long time I thought I was tender-headed, I'm not I'm not she heavy-handed. She got like Hulk hands like if she can braid your thoughts. It is the most painful thing ever, especially as a child. We would have tears running down our face, headaches, veins red eyes. It was all over the place um. She would swear to this day that she did not do that, but she did. But that day she had to come and blow dry, my hair, the lady could not do it and then she was able to like straighten it after and I think we got something off and I don't know you know the way people be acting. I actually don't know so that was one, and then this also leads me to my next one, which is like um people would want to do my hair. They would be like. Oh, I want to do it so thick. I want to do it like they saw it as a challenge, but sometimes when it came to and they realized it wasn't all that was cracked up to me. They would get frustrated and start to hurt me like the way that they comb out my hair or like they would just half do things, and it was just like okay. Well now, this is just making me feel bad about myself or bad about my hair. It'S making me not want to get my hair done, so that was something that I experienced quite often like people would just start attacking my hair, ripping my hair with a comb because they're frustrated, and it was just like as a kid. As I said, I was kind of quiet, I'm vocal now, but I'm not like I'm not gon na go back and forth with you. If anything, I just leave or I'll go somewhere else like you won't see me again, like that's more so the approach that I take, because you can't argue with a fool um so yeah they would get aggressive and frustrated and just attack my hair, and it would Hurt - and I did not like that very much, and that was one of the reasons why they ain't gon na see me again and then last but not least, this was probably the last time that I went to the salon um. It was the last time that I went to the extra Salon I had people like who were cosmetologists beauticians. I don't know what the proper terms are, but they had their license and they cut my hair like outside of a salon, and it was just like we've had an event or something, and I let a couple people cut my hair, but other than that. No, so this was so. This is annoying, because this was the last time that I got my hair done. I was in college and my friend she went to this lady. She also has big, dense hair and, when I say thick, her actual strand is thick. My strand itself isn't thick, it's like normal. It'S not fine, it's something it's more of an in between which I believe is normal. According to some chart that I've seen um, so she has actual thick strands and she has very dense hair. Her hair in some places is tighter than mine, but you know kinky coily, whatever we called the lady and asked her if she would be able to do my hair. She said yes, she didn't ask for a whole bunch of details. I think she was kind of gauge like if my hair was like really thick. I don't really recall, but I don't remember her doing it um, because even for me it wasn't just me on the phone if it was just me, I also would have been like you know. Well, I don't think my hair is really thick um, but my friend does think my hair is thick, so she was the main one talking to this woman because she knew her um and she took the appointment she's somebody who's been doing this for years. You know she knows, she knows the route, she knows how to handle herself and her Salon um. But when I got there, I had blow dry washed and blow dry up my hair um, which you I think she was gon na. Do it anyway. But I did it myself too, because I think I might have had a style or something beforehand and I just didn't want to go and you know kind of way to the salon. So I had like washed - and I guess blow dry, my hair and I did blow dry, my hair and I put them into two braids and she was just like. As soon as I hit the door. You know we got ta, we quickly got past the hellos and before anything else happened, she was just like. Is that all your hair and I'm thinking at one point? I thought she was kind of saying like that's it like no problem, you know wishful thinking, um and I was like yeah and she was just like, and I I don't know if I asked her like. Is that not enough or something? And she basically was like it's too damn much and I was like oh okay um. So as she was doing my hair, I guess she it was more than what she expected, so she just kept complaining like the whole time like now. I got ta push all these clients back, oh, I would have charged you more if I would have known that you had all this hair. Oh and our client came out. You got away because I got ta, do it like it felt very much like she was shaming me, and I didn't like that. As you know, a black woman, a woman with tighter kind of kinky, hair um, at least I think my hair is. I don't really see much of a curl in some places. Um. She just didn't make me feel good about my hair, like at all, not saying that it's her job, but damn you ain't got to tear me down neither so it was just not a fun experience for me and I also didn't have money to like if I, If it was today - and I felt like you actually did a great job and you know I give generous tips, you know I at least bare minimum five dollars, but some places would be 20 25 and that's for like when I go get my massages or anything Like that, if you give great service, I give a great tip. I am not. I wasn't in the position to do that. I was a struggling college student. I had to scrape up the money that I had for that one anyway and I think she charged me like 90 bucks or something like that, and I was like okay, I mean she's pressing blow drying doing all that she gave me a haircut. So I'm like not the end of the world, but I think I brought 100, so I was just like I mean you can have the whole thing. I don't have any more money, but she just made me feel so small in that moment, and I haven't been back since so. That is my reasoning for not really going to the salon um other things as well. I feel like sometimes when I would talk to some of them like asking them if my hair is damaged or different things like that they'll be like no. My hair is clearly damaged. Okay, even though I have thick hair, I think I was able to slide because of like the thickness and the way that my hair would lay, but I had breakage, I had heat damage. I had all these things and I'm gon na ask these people and they would say no, so I just feel like not to say that they were educated in hair. But when it came to my hair I just became a person that wasn't just so quick to believe the things that people would say to me, and you know that was just part of it. There'S some other things too, but I ain't trying to I feel like at that point. It started to get a little personal, so I ain't gon na go down that route, but this is are these are the reasons why I don't really go to the salon anymore? I really don't see myself going to this one because I feel like it got better in a sense of the care for natural hair, but I think it got worse when it comes to the BS, so I probably really won't be going to the salon I'll. Just stick to cutting my own little hair and doing my thing um, and I also want to say this - isn't to discredit you know or to speak bad about beauticians or stylists or cosmetologists or whatever the the term is um. This is just mainly about my experience. Um and that, although I believe people give great information, it's just not something that I'm so quick to believe know if it's um, because although people are an expert in hair, I'm an expert in Camilla, so I know it works well. For my hair, I know what products I've tried, what my hair reacts to, what it doesn't. So I just go with that. Okay, a little side note um. I understand that the salon may not look the same way today as it did when I was experiencing these things um, but I'm still not interested in going to the salon. I don't really need anybody to try and convince me. You know I'm a big girl. I'M danger 30 years old. I could make those decisions myself um, but at the moment I have no desire or no need to really go to one. I am fine with the way that I manage my hair, and you know for those of you who do have a great Salon, experience more power to you or who may need a little bit more help when it comes to managing your own hair or getting the Results that you want, I'm glad that you have that option available, but as of right now I have no interest in it. Um - and I just want to put that out there, because I know that people are coming from a good place, but it's like, I can say it and they're still trying to convince me and I'm not interested um but other than that. That'S all I have. That is all that I have for this video. Thank you for watching