Unprofessional Af Hairstylist Ruined My Wedding Day... **Receipts Included**

It was ghetto, it was ghetto. It was ghetto can't make this up can't make this up morning of my wedding. She texted me at 5 00 a.m. Talking about myself, foreign as y'all could tell by the title, I'm already hopping on here to talk about some ghetto experiences with y'all right, there's, more ghetto experiences that have currently happened to me today, like present day um, but it's okay. We move we're gon na make it past it, I'm happy to be with my beauty game, so I hope you guys enjoy this video. I don't even got my like a wine set up and stuff going on. It'S cool, though, because I just want to get this video out to you guys, honestly. That was another ghetto situation that happened. I thought I was gon na, get a video approved to go up today, but yeah the video didn't get approved brand once more time. So here I am trying to make sure I stay on my consistency, train with you guys, so hopefully I get this up to you guys and um. Hopefully it's not too late by the time. I get this up to you guys. My dookie braids are duking. It'S no Focus yeah, so I'm gon na go ahead and actually take down my hair. I really could use some self-care, so yeah, let's get into this game all right. So on today's ghetto operations, as y'all can tell by the title, I am going to be telling you guys about my wedding. Hairstyle situation gone wrong. My wedding hairstyle is basically almost ruined my entire wedding. Thankfully it's nothing but good vibes, positive energy surrounding us. That day other than this situation, so the day was still beautiful, and you know God made everything work out, but the ghetto I will not be disclosing any of the hair stylist information or anything I actually intentionally did not tag them in the wedding content that I Recently posted on Instagram or we kind of recently posted on Instagram, because they certainly aren't highly recommended by me you're about to find out, because I got receipts and everything as to why and I just don't feel like they deserve to be credited in our vendor list Of the people that helped us accomplish such a special day in our lives, because she real life, almost our whole operation, up with our ghetto operations and and the crazy thing is y'all a lot of y'all know I don't I don't um, let people touch my hair. The only time people touch my hair, though, is braided faux Locs, that's really it like cornrows, french braids, that type of stuff and then um, it's rare, but this is probably the last time to be honest because of this reason - or it won't be for a very Long time until I find somebody truly reliable, but on the wig tip, I've only gotten my hair done by like a wig hairstylist twice. One was for my 26th birthday and I did a late night Vin session some years ago on that, because she's basically scanned me out of a thousand dollars, guess who just tried to do the same thing on your girl. These hairstyles out here are frustrating, and I know a lot of you guys can relate because in the last video event session that I kind of had about a hair stylist, a lot of people were saying they've had similar experiences. I even have girlfriends cousins, family members that just have trash ass experiences with hair stylists, even random, strangers I'll see on social media honestly, just that industry. I don't want to generalize, because I think I think I haven't experienced them really, but I think there's a select. You handful of profession, know timely considerate, just nice good, Positive, Vibes, hair stylist, I don't know who they are, they are but fingers crossed. I do want to believe in my heart and soul that there are a select few and that this is not the masses, but I will say is the majority. I just believe that, because I've just heard too many horror stories, experiences and it's frustrating because you spend so much time like your hair - is a form of an investment and when the person that you're giving this money to as you're investing in yourself, when you don't Get that service and that quality that you you're paying good money. It'S just the experience is just very frustrating, let's get into it, so I have receipts and whatnot. Let me pull them up matter of fact. Y'All really understand how ridiculous this situation became, and you know what the I will have to take partial accountability on the fact that there was red flags from the beginning. I would say that I like either ignored, or I just try to be like a nice person that tries to support black businesses, especially black women. I will always try to put my black Dollar in a black business before anywhere else, and if the business is good, I'ma ride with them, I'm not even gon na look elsewhere. That'S why y'all see the same makeup artist with me. That'S why you see that I use the same Decor people picnics in the shy they did my Bridal Suite. They did our engagement party, they did our Valentine's Day and seven year anniversary shoot. We did our picnic, like I rock, with the same black businesses that give me the quality, the professionalism that I want and expect. So the people that I stick with are people that are high quality, deliver all the time, love working with them. Good energy, Positive Vibes. Anyway, so where do we start well, first and foremost, I found this hair stylist on Instagram I was debating for a while what my wedding hairstyle was going to be. I don't know that's kind of like one of the biggest deals of the day next, in line, at least for me other than my dress. The same level was my hair. That'S everybody's gon na be looking at me. You know a lot of uh supporters were wanting me to rock my natural hair wanting and expecting me to rock my natural hair, and I obviously did give it thought, but also natural hair. Let'S be real, you can't always guarantee it's greatness. Sometimes I love my natural hair and it's actually a big reason why I made sure to incorporate it. During my wedding Journey, like my batch trip I gave High puff, I gave a little Sleek puff. I gave hair out. I rocked my natural hair and then my honeymoon in Jamaica. I made sure I rocked my natural hair for that too. Just because I I it was a rarity to see um a black one, at least for me. I couldn't really find much black women content um during the wedding process of them rocking their natural hair and even my like um from the wedding tip. That was a rarity to find too, but I just personally that day didn't want to feel overwhelmed with. Like doing my hair, if it doesn't, the twist out doesn't come out right. We know y'all know about that phrase. We were talking about that in my recent reacting to natural hair, tick tocks video um like why I'm scared of flexi rods, for example, because I just it's not a guarantee for me that it's gon na come out great. I just didn't want that type of pressure during my wedding day, so that is kind of what like led me to be. Like I'm gon na put this in somebody else's hands. I have a lot else to work on and figure out that day so excited. I wanted to get away because also I wanted to do multiple hairstyles during my wedding, because I knew I was going to do multiple looks so my ceremony look was different from my reception look and then I had my first reception look was different from my second Reception, look, I did a lot. I was a bride that did the most and it would have worked flawlessly if this did not mess up the entire timeline of the day. But, okay, I'm rushing into things so anyway. Yes, fine hair, fine hairless, I scoped out of stylist tried to reach out and I ended up going up uh with her because her pictures, because that's the thing too finding a hair stylist that doesn't have filtered pictures or wig hairstylist, it's like almost non-existent. I hope you guys know these videos and reels and pictures that they are posting are most of them are highly edited either have a filter, it's some type of mask to them. They'Re not like you know the what lace thing some of the time you can't see. The lace because they are literally they filtered it out, they smoothed it out, they faked the. So anyway, I didn't get that vibe from her page. The pictures and research that I saw I ended up liking it. I was like okay, she seemed like a pretty solid Choice. Started communication through DMs, go ahead and screen record, so you guys can literally have this ex oh yeah yeah yeah. I think I can screen record because I'm again not trying to show the person's information or anything, I'm not trying to create no hate train, but this is my experience. This is when it's literally happened to me, so I have the right to talk about it. Alright, so, as you can see August I reached shot, I said: hey love. Do you travel slash? Do weddings, hey love? I do said. Okay. Dope. Are you available because I wanted her to do my bridal shower shower um hair, as well as the wedding? If the bright, the bridal shower, was really a test run right, so it was like I shouldn't commit to just having a hair stylist for the wedding day and never even getting to experience if they're actually good at what they do. So I wanted to use her for both and ask how much you charge yeah I'll be available whose hair am I doing the bride Brides like blah blah was just me what style I said at the moment. It'S just me um, depending on pricing. It was possibly going to be my mom. We didn't end up doing that. Thank you, thankfully, because that wouldn't have worked. I said I'd like my bridal shower, look to be voila, so, as you guys saw, that was what my bridal shower. Hairstyle ended up. Turning out to be, and then I said for my wedding ceremony - something like this, which is kind of what it ended up turning out to be, I said not this color, though then for the reception I'd be representing my Nigerian culture, so my hair would be something Like this um, so it was the guile g-e-l-e, my Nigerian sisters, if you could comment below like how I'm supposed to say it, because I've heard it said a few different times, and I don't want to mess that up but yeah. I was just showing her my ceremony, hairstyle that I wanted my reception hairstyle that I wanted hairstyle, because again I have the gelay on and then this was the final look that I thought I wanted for my reception. Look just my hair down said. Okay, I need to fly in Chicago on the 27th to do your hair that morning afternoon or night, I touch it up the next morning, the 28th. So I'd like to fly out that evening, you would have to take care of my flight and stay. The balance for the wig and style will be 1200. That'S for the bridal shower the ceremony. Three Styles. One wig can work a deal. Oh, so she okay, that's! Why we agreed on the two wigs thing, one for the bridal shower one for the wedding ceremony: three Styles, one wig. I can work a deal of eighteen hundred, apologies for the quality in advance um in the middle of trying to quickly edit. This to you guys - and I forgot to mention during this part that I actually ended up not going with that uh three. In one thing, I was like: okay, you're gon na charge, me 1800, just to put my hair in a ponytail with a gelay and to just let my hair down and add some more curls and at the end, it's cool, I'm gon na. Do it myself, which I ended up doing at the wedding, so I really just paid her for the one hairstyle the updo, so it ended up being the same price as that first bridal shower hairstyle the 1200.. All right, let's get back uh. Whenever you can, we can lock a deposit for both and I can block out those days for you and prep the two wigs it'll, possibly 200, each for the bridal and then ceremony fast forward. We exchange numbers. We hop on a call, I send the deposit X Y and Z, I'm also sending her like what my bridal shower. Look is going to be or looks at the time that I thought as well as ceremony. Outfit and both reception outfits just to see like these hairstyles that I think I I want for that day, would they go nice with this look like just kind of getting an opinion. I kind of do that, even with my makeup artist or whatever, like. What do you think of this outfit? You know how girls be talking and chit chatting, so I ended up booking her the flight for Saturday 27-7 a.m and it was going to land her here in Chicago, keep in mind to um she's from, and this is the thing too y'all you know I was Trying to get the best of the best for myself and my special occasion if I'm flying somebody out from a whole another state covering their flight covering their hotel fee. I didn't mind the investment, because if I was gon na get the best from somebody to make sure I looked my best on my special days, then cool to me. It was worth it anyway. Hotel confirmed, sent her the screenshots of everything booked her a hotel in downtown Chicago just so she would be close to where I live. Instead of like I could put her near the airport, I could have put her in a little run down whatever I'm, not that type of person she lucky anyway, sent her on August 17th, the confirmation screenshot pictures of her hotel, the flights, the check-in, the uh, all The information she needed right - she never responded back. This was at 1 48 PM. I don't like y'all are gon na, like literally believe how crazy this is next day, and I waited till the evening of the next day because I'm like maybe she'll text, because sometimes I text people back the next day. Okay cool. But it's not people that is paying me money that already put a down payment or whatever, whatever, whatever anyway hit her up the next day. Please confirm you received nothing, cannot make this up the ghetto operations. Okay, didn't say anything gave her two more days right. I said on the 20th, so this is Saturday hey. Did you receive my text and confirmation for the flights and hotel I've followed up a couple times now received no response, so this would be my last follow-up. Otherwise I have to cancel please let me know now. She did hit me up a few hours later. She had had a loss in her family. I don't feel comfortable outing, her personal business like that, but she did lose a very close family member. I guess, which is why she wasn't responding to my messages whatsoever. She ended up basically saying it's been very hard for her haven't been able to do anything but still plan on coming mind you by that weekend it was going to be my bridal shower engagement party. So I was like oh my gosh, I'm! So! Incredibly, sorry, are you sure you don't want to cancel all together? I know it's a lot to process. Just let me know I was going to be completely understanding. If I had to do my hair last minute. I was fine with that, like death and loss. I I it hits close to home. I definitely understand so. I was gon na be completely fine if she wasn't going to be able to follow through with what we originally had planned, didn't say anything y'all I hit her up four days later, keep in mind. This is, I think, now, four days before my bridal shower say: hey, I'm sorry about what you're going through right now. However, unfortunately I need confirmation today on, if you'll be coming this weekend, the 27th through 28th or not. Otherwise, I have to cancel everything, require, refund and figure out something else. Last minute because keep in mind, I already gave her the 200 deposit to solidify the dates right and then I also booked the flight and also booked the hotel already. But if I'm not hearing anything from anybody, I'm not about to keep the hotel in the flight and just waste. My money like that and you need to run me back my refund for the deposit. I gave you if you're not able to follow through, with your hold up your end of the deal right. She said hey, I can let you know later I'll. Give you an answer by tonight. I know y'all see this didn't get an answer next day, hello. I never received an answer last night, so I'll need to know by 11 A.M because - and I hit her up at 6 58 a.m. I didn't expect a response by then, but I want to do it as soon as I woke up, because now you playing with me, I got two days before we said that you were gon na, come and do my hair in three days before my actual bridal Shower so either, and you guys know, even if I was gon na, do my natural hair, I need 48 hours max for my hair to fully dry so even do like. I don't even need to break it down for you guys my Naturals no y'all understand anyway. Never received an answer last night I'll need to know by 11 am today at the latest, if you're coming or not. Unfortunately, if I don't hear anything about 11, I have to cancel the flight hotel and require a refund for my deposit, 400 deposit right, because I paid her both deposits for the bridal shower engagement party and the wedding day. She just said, replied I'm coming even that simple ass answer, just it. It radiates heat inside of me because I'm like I can have sympathy and empathy for a situation like this happening, but there still has to be a level of professionalism there. Like somebody paid you money to do a service for them, so the least you can do is stay in good communication or even if she would have told me like hey, you didn't have to be specific with me. She didn't really have to tell me that somebody had passed away. She could just say it's been a rough time, but I will get back to you in x amount of time or I will follow up with you just some type of communication, because now you're playing with my money, you're playing with my time and you're playing with My emotions on a really special time in my life anyway, so she said you see, she just says I'm coming um and I let her know I'm not going to do the highlights. Originally, I thought I was going to do highlights for my bridal shower. I was like no, I want to give a little volume for the wedding, so I waited on the highlights for that and when was this conversation, so this was two days before she was supposed to come here then the day she's supposed to arrive, because she never Said anything back to that she never said anything back the day she uh she's supposed to come hit her up. First thing: when I wake up, you see 6 18 a.m. I say good morning looking forward to seeing you today safe travels and please let me know when you land, she said good morning just landed, so I sent her my address or whatever. Then she tells me she's waiting on her bags um that she has to make a stop to the beauty supply store. Do you have one near you and an address? I thought that that was really weird, because I'm like you're not coming with everything that you need. So that we can get this done, that in itself kind of blew me, but I'm like all right. Maybe she just happened to forget something because she's in a bad state right now right she lost somebody really close to her. I can understand just being forgetful and, like your mind, being on a thousand things at once so cool whatever send her an address to a beauty, supply store, yada, yada yada came and did my hair. I actually had a vlog of that that week, the prep week for my bridal shower The Experience like actually meeting her in person and stuff was cool. It was just cool to be talking to another successful black woman like successful in her industry, successful in her Lane. I love to see women, especially black women, winning so just hearing about her different business ventures and plans. She was thinking about doing for her brand and XYZ as we're moving into the next phase of this ghetto operation, something that uh when she was here doing my hair for the bridal shower engagement party that we talked about. She was saying like she takes constructive criticism. Well, if her client or something doesn't like she wants them to communicate it to her X, Y and Z. So I decided that I was ready to take off my wig. I felt it starting to like pull on my edges and slide a little bit, and I personally, when I do my own wigs, I pretty much take off my wigs every night y'all because of the tension that it has on our edges. A lot of women's edges thin out and bald because they allow the tension to continue happening and - and I don't know if they think nothing's happening in the process. But it is anyway September 6th. I sent her a text right because when it was time to take it off - and I got picture receipts for you guys - the ghetto operation was at an all-time high, granted what she was doing. My hair. There were certain things I'm like hmm, I don't know this. Doesn'T really feel right like when she was sewing on, in particular the back of the wig to make sure cure. It was kind of like a really ghetto like situation, going on like just looping it pulling it through tugging. So it's kind of pulling back there in the kitchen area, I'm knowing the little beady balls from it being tight start to, and I did try to say something she actually. I remember I forgot she hopped on a phone call for quite a while when she was doing my hair. So when I tried to tell her like hey, this is gon na pull it a little bit. She didn't hear me like, didn't, acknowledge it and I'm like dang. I don't want to be rude or you know I just don't try to. I don't try to do too much, so I let her have that I just kind of tugged on it to kind of make sure it didn't completely rip my kitchen out anyway September 6th hit her up, I say hope all is well. Since the last we spoke, I just wanted to give some feedback and follow up on some things with you, since the wedding is quickly approaching. First, I absolutely loved how you styled my hair for the bridal shower. It was a hit and turned out beautiful, which it was it turned out gorgeous I loved the way I looked. However, I know you said you like and appreciate constructive criticism, so I do want to vocalize a few issues. Slash concerns I have in order for the wedding experience to align with my expectations. My main problem was honestly: the takedown experience the tracks you glued to the wig cap. That was already on my head seeped through and got stuck to my actual hair, which is a major problem for me, because a massive part of my career is my hair and its health. Is it not y'all? She glued my and you know what, when she was doing it like something in me, kind of was like hmm. I don't know about this, but I don't know I just I think I just gave her the benefit of the doubt like there's no way a professional hair. Stylist would put my hair in that type of wrist because I used to make wigs back in the day. There'S videos you can check out on my channel and whenever I would make wigs in particular the glue method, you always glue the tracks on the mannequin head. You never glue it on your actual head. Well, unless you want your hair up, which I never wanted to do so first I'd always put a plastic bag trash bag over the mannequin head, because I almost didn't even want to abuse the mannequin head. Okay, then I will put the wig cap over it. Then I would glue the track without a doubt. It would always seep through and when the wig is fully dry and I pull it off of the mannequin head. Guess what stuck the plastic bag because it got glued, so it's kind of wild. I don't know. Maybe I thought she was using some type of special wig cap that, like there's just no way she would be gluing tracks to a thin wig cap that would seep through to my hair, but but she did so. I sent her the picture receipts even a video. So make sure I play this video for you guys right here here, the ghetto operation. I could not make this up y'all. I cannot make this up and it genuinely hurt like I could not just pull it out and I'm like am I going to have to cut my hair like yeah, so that was the whole thing sent her the pictures right. I said it's very painful to detach and there are still some that remain stuck in my braids at the moment. Additionally, I didn't care for the way the wig was sewn into my hair. It was all over the place. It took a long time for my fiance to find the parts that was safe to cut, which was also true because it was the ghetto operation back there. It was no pattern to it, it wasn't, it wasn't neatly done at all. It was just a rushed job. It'S like it's all over the place took a long time. I also feel like, if I'm paying that much money, so I I make sure I speak up for myself. I said I also feel like if I'm paying that much money for a wig and install it. I should be able to reuse the wig again, but by the time we were able to cut it off, the wig was basically a wrap because again remember she charged me like 1200. For this whole, so the wig her styling it and then me getting her flight in her hotel was a whole different price. So this was a pretty pricey experience and for you to charge me for a wig, I can only wear one time for about a week. So yeah there's nothing. I could really do about what that experience was for me. What was done was done, but all I could do in control was making sure I gave proper feedback so that this didn't happen again for my wedding day right. So I proceeded to say for the wedding day: hairstyle I'd like to go about the install process way different, so one my hair will be properly protected and two I can reuse the wig again. If I want. I also wasn't a huge fan of the glue because I don't do glue y'all know I don't do glue. I ain't never done glue with my wigs. I use freeze spray like I don't. I don't like that. I have my own conspirations about the glue, but I'll keep that to myself anyway. So also, I wasn't a huge fan of the glue. So if there's another way, we can install the wedding wig without glue. That'S preferred because she had did the uh the stocking cap method, which required a whole bunch of layers of glue just to get the stocking cap like and blend that with my skin tone. To make it look like fake scalp and then apply more glue over that to then put the wig on top right, so it's just a ridiculous amount of glue so yeah. That process was painful as well and I'm pretty sure I have pictures of that. I said not sure if glueless is possible or smart, since we obviously don't want the wig falling off during the turn up. I'M talking about my wedding, but I'm pretty set on avoiding glue at all costs. I followed the steps you told me to do when taking it down. She said: put olive oil, olive oil and a heated blow, dryer use heated blow dryer and olive oil and it'll loosen the glue and it'll come off. That'S what she says she's as simple. As that said, I follow the steps you told me when taken down, but it still hurt and messed up my edges a bit, which is the main reason I never use glue. So please, let me know your thoughts on how we can best go about this for the wedding and then I said. Lastly, I'd want the wedding hairstyle to be more Fuller and dense, like 180 to 250 density. My hair, stylist and wig wearers know what that means, because my bridal shower wig, it was pretty thin like it was pretty like not giving my hair and I wanted something I like full hair. I like baboon, I like volume, so I was like I just don't want nothing flat and like skimpy, so I made sure to communicate that as well like just so wrong same page, I said so. If tracks are necessary again, they need to already be a part of the wig before applying it. To my head, I tried a sandwich in college. I took this learning difficult conversations course right, Professor taught us how to sandwich method where you have to have a difficult conversation with somebody sandwich them. So you kind of say something nice. You say you know the nitty-gritty part that you need to get off your chest and then you finish off with like something nice, so to speak. So my final thing was other than that, though I'd like to say, I was satisfied with my overall experience. I just have to be very cautious of how my hair is being handled by others, because I've worked so hard all these years to get it to the level of Health that it is now. So I hope you understand and get where I'm coming from and that's what I left it. You know it was another red flag when she came to do my hair and it was in the blow dry State. I was already washed and blow dry when she got here. She was like. You must not wear wigs, often because your hair is healthy and I remember it kind of catching me off guard like so. My hair shouldn't be healthy or like, and I was like well yeah. I do my hair myself and that is probably the key as to why it's healthy anyway. She said that she was going to respond back later. She said she was going to spawn back in 10 minutes because she was driving when I sent all this right, I said, sounds good just want to put everything out. There then go from there thanks for letting me know, guess what y'all no mother freaking response! No! No, no so next morning was this even the next morning or a few days later, bro three days later, because I hit her up with that September. 6Th three days later, I said good morning never received a response from my messages the other day. So I'm following up, she didn't say anything back that day that next day in the afternoon she tried to call I picked up. I don't know there was some type of disconnection until she just text me hello, I said: hey, I answered dot dot dot. She said you did sound like a voice. Hey you rich is blah blah, so we hop on the phone call discuss things. I don't even remember what the girl said verbatim, but she kind of I think she kind of apologized about like the glue thing and just the way the wig was put together, because my thing is, I don't want something that just looks good externally. It needs to be an overall well put together experience so yeah anyway. She calls, I reiterate again, yeah no glue for the wedding that ain't. My thing reassurance me: yeah, okay, cool all works. So then they were pulling up on the wedding pretty soon here and to book her a flight for the wedding. Now I wasn't going to book her another overnight situation, because I just didn't see the point in it. I was just like fly you out early the morning of the wedding and then actually you know what's funny on the phone call. She had said that she wanted to kind of get to experience the wedding a little bit. So could I get her a later flight, because at this point she knew that we were gon na, do traditional white ceremony type of thing and then going to the Nigerian attire and she wanted to see how that was all going to play out blah blah. So I sent her some flight option times where she would land here around 9 00 a.m and then she would leave from Chicago around 8 PM. So she could kind of be here the full day so send her those time options. She said: yeah, that's fine reconfirm to make sure all her information was correct. She said yes, it's correct, send her the confirmation picture that everything is booked. I said your flight is book girly. Both flights are American Airlines. All that stuff right. This happened September 10th, didn't say anything back September 14th I sent her a picture of this is actually kind of one of my inspo pictures from my wedding. Hairstyle anyways sent her that picture as well as another one. I said I don't want the roots in the front to be blonde. Definitely want them black, just kind of explaining overall what I was wanting and looking for guess, who didn't say anything until September 20th, five days later, five days later, so now we're about 10 days. From my wedding, oh and actually, the reason I hear from her five days later is because I followed up, I said: hey just following up - never received a response from last week and we had 11 days left, so I'm gon na play you guys what was said. Hey, my dear I'm sorry, I didn't get back to you um, yet please do know that I did promise that this weekend the wig would already be uh, styled and everything. So yes, this Friday, I'm working on it and by Saturday I should be sending you pictures and videos of what I come up with. So I'm like okay, cool you're gon na send it Friday so September 20th was Tuesday. She was saying she was gon na work on the wig Friday. Send me pictures Saturday, but guess what you guys. I know y'all probably already reading This Woman's pattern. At this point right, she told me that she was gon na. Do the wig Friday send pictures Saturday? Guess what happened yes didn't hear from her didn't get the pictures Friday nor Saturday, so guess we had to follow up on Sunday to ask. What'S up now keep in mind now this is five days before my wedding, I say: hey how's the wig coming along my makeup artist is currently here and we're trying to determine my bridal makeup. I thought I'd have the pictures of the wig to show her today because you mentioned you'd, send it Saturday. I understand life, be life and then things happen, though it'd be helpful to see that how the wig looks so far to decide the appropriate makeup. So please send as soon as possible a few minutes later. She responded back and said: hey, I'm actually working on it as we speak, I'm about to go through the first process of bleaching. I had so many bookings today, I'm also today. I started I'm just doing the color first and styling it tomorrow. I'Ll, send pictures tomorrow before the day ends, so I said, cool all right XYZ. This was Sunday. I can't make this up. I have to screenshot this, for you guys too didn't get anything Sunday didn't get anything Monday, so guess who, at the follow-up Tuesday, your girl, I said, hey checking on the wig, never received the pictures or videos keep in mind y'all. This is now three days before my wedding and not only that and I'm almost getting a little bit emotional one because I Can Tell Mother Nature is coming, but two just to remember the state that I was in at the time, because all I'm gon na share Is that my whole identity was stolen 72 hours three days before my wedding bank account cleared blocked three days before at this same day, I had to hit her up that night, asking for where the pictures, where the videos, it's just kind of amazing honestly, I can't Attribute me getting through this whole process other than giving it to God. I gave it to God, and I was like it's in your hands and use your lord to God, because I can't make this stuff up like it was so much that was happening right at the end and I'm like the devil's working overtime for real for real And the ghetto operation to add, on top of that, like what you know anyway, guess who didn't respond to the next day after I said this right, so she responds the next day in the afternoon: hey I'm an ATL now for some clients, the BET Awards is This weekend I seriously will tonight I will send you pictures. I never did because I have not styled it and I also packed it in my hair suitcase because I fly back to blank to catch the flight to Chicago guess what it didn't happen. It still didn't get the pictures and videos of my wig hit her up the next morning. Hey never received dot, dot, dot, 9 46 a.m, didn't say anything 508 PM same day that Thursday, because now we have what 48 hours before my wedding day. So I was asking: have you heard this place? Isn'T looking too good hurricane wise? Let me know what you think and how we can make sure that you get here safely, because I don't have a backup plan. I didn't have a backup plan if she didn't make it whether it be because of the weather or because she's just unprofessional, ass, hair stylist. She does not hit me up till the next day now granted it's the next day at 2 A.M in the morning. So she sends this message while I'm asleep, but she said I got on the phone with the airline an hour ago. I'M able to fly the weather won't be too bad to fly out I'll, be fine. On top of that, she said, I'm just getting home working on the wig talk to you in a few hours, so that night, that Friday night, the 30th the day before my wedding the day before my wedding, she sends me pictures of the wig and then we Hop on a call because it doesn't really look the way I want the highlights aren't really exactly how I would like and then on top of that the wig was already supposed to be styled. That was what was promised to me the week prior that Friday Saturday weekend right that the wig was going to be colored and styled she's, going to send pictures to me for me to confirm if it's good to go or not, we get on a phone call Discuss discussion, I said I wanted a little bit more highlights added to it and yeah. That'S all. I can kind of remember from the phone call can't make this up can't make this up morning of my wedding. She texted me at 5am talking about my flight lands at 11 A.M. I forgot to tell you about my flight from ATL to Chicago that was the earliest. I could find she switched her flight y'all. That'S not the flight that I bought her. So not only did she not tell me she switched the flight and did not tell me to get a refund for the plane ticket that I did buy from her. She also now pushed her flight back two hours from the flight time that I had picked for her. She was supposed to land here around 8 45 9 A.M at the latest to get to Chicago by about 10 a.m, and this is the reason. This is why it's really effed up right, because we had our wedding day planned out, so that Josh and I would see each other before the actual ceremony purchase a sprinter van to take us around the city again before the ceremony. So we could, like. I didn't. We didn't want the whole dramatic first time, seeing each other coming down the aisle. Nothing about our wedding was traditional, so we weren't going to go that traditional router like oh. It'S bad luck to see the what! No so because of that ordered a sprinter van. Had our photographers and makeup artists and all these people come earlier in the morning to get stuff done so that both me and him will be dressed by noon. Keep in mind our wedding invitations, told people that the wedding was going to start uh at three, our own little circle me Josh and our wedding planner we knew was going to start at 3 30.. We know people be on CPT, so it's like okay cool her saying that now she wasn't gon na land until 11 A.M. Instead of her landing at 9am like the flight, I bought her now pushed the whole back more than two hours. To be honest, because again I was supposed to be dressed. Makeup done, hair done in my dress that actually took about an hour to get into because you know my dress was like perfectly formed to my body and the material wasn't stretchy, it's a bridal ground. So I have to account for all this time, which is why I knew she was going to get here around 10 a.m and if I need to be dressed by noon, I was like two hours should be more than enough time. My hair was already braided down. All she had to do was apply the wig and style it a little bit and when I say a little bit, she was supposed to have started prior, but guess what wasn't styled when she came and then she also canceled her flight. Well, she didn't cancel it. She just didn't take the flight made her own flight and then the flight landed her here two hours later than what the one I bought for her. Not only that, oh, I feel my blood pressure getting up there. Calm down could y'all imagine. This is the first thing I saw the morning that I woke up from my wedding. I think I woke up around 6am or something I'm like. Oh, my God, I'm getting married today check my phone to see the time, see that the hair stylist text me and she just told me she changed her flight to an entirely late time. So immediately tell my wedding planner, like I don't know what we're gon na do: she's not gon na be here on time anyway, but first I respond and say: that's not good. I'M supposed to be done by noon with my hair and makeup your day near won't. Make it here till noon? We have a set itinerary for the day, so that throws off a lot, so she had said earlier right. She was supposed to land at 11AM. Why do I get a text at 11? 50 am saying I'm here, calling my Uber on my way to you now so did you land at 11 or not, I'm thinking by 11 50 she's going to be knocking on my door because hello, I'm here, not I'm calling my Uber and I'm about to head Your way y'all could not make this up got here around 1 p.m. Our wedding was supposed to start at three and the wig wasn't even on my damn head, yet insane Insanity right. So basically long story short. My wedding planner had communication with her from that point forward and yeah in her guide, her ass, even to the point where a a inkling of me, because it was one point um, because she was taking so long by the time she got to us and she Was putting on the wig it was, she was telling my wedding planner like this is only going to take 30 minutes. 45 minutes passes uh my wedding player's like okay. What'S going on because you know the uh photographers and videographers are there, I didn't even get to do them, and it makes me like really sad. This part makes me sad because there were so many things planned out for that day. So me and Josh we had bought the Sprinter van because we were gon na go around the city to get like Chicago. In the background of our wedding pictures, the venue was not in it was in the city, but it wasn't, and the exterior part of our venue is not aesthetic whatsoever. So it's like, if we're gon na, do City shots, and I knew I wasn't going to be doing my make getting my hair and makeup and all that stuff done for a whole another day like wedding day is wedding day. So that's why we were gon na. Do that and pop the band and everything which also was not cheap, every every aspect of the wedding wasn't cheap and her making this selfish ass decision, without even communicating it with me to the morning of my wedding effed up everything. So this is this is the part where, like again, there was an inkling of me that kind of felt bad when my wedding planner was going in on her in front of people, but the other part was like no. This is on you. You made this bed, you lie in it, but it didn't really even matter how much she was kind of bawling her out and going in on her, because what's done was done, the time was delayed. Everything was kind of messed up. My girls that got dressed with me that morning I bought them all robes green robes to kind of go with the Nigerian Independence Day theme. I had my white one on my girls and my mom. We were supposed to get those shots. You know the shots that Brides get to do like. Oh, it's, okay, it's, okay! It makes me a little bit emotional, because this was like one of the most important days of my life ever and it just did not go the way I wanted or planned at all because of this. So, by the time she finished doing my wig, I think it was about almost 2 2 15.. Keep in mind. This wedding is at three o'clock it's supposed to be, and we were even supposed to show up. The plan was for us to do the city shots and then get to The Venue at least a half an hour before everybody else, just so we're just chilling there like we're just sitting there waiting for people to funnel in for the ceremony to start literally, I Kid you not my whole day was like this because of this. We also bought the Sprinter van, because my dress was so big. There was no car or any other form of transportation that would have worked to transport me in my dress to the city, shots and X, Y and Z. Guess who didn't even get in the Sprinter van in her dress me? Because we didn't have time I had to get dressed at the venue, so I didn't get the bridal prep shots with my mom, my girls. We didn't get any of those professional shots. There was a few of me like just individually in my Bridal robe. As soon as I got my hair done, because it's like no, we got to get something for the bride. I I wouldn't have had anything anything and then guess actually, who else wrote a sprinter van with me. It was me her and my wedding planner. That'S it. The most awkward 15-20 minutes of my life, because it's just like this is your fault, and I don't even know if she really really took in the fact that you really effed up somebody's wedding day. What happened is next is even Wilder so get to the wedding venue have to rush to get my dress on the photographer is just chaos pure chaos, the photographers and videographers. As soon as I get my dress on are like trying to get those shots of me before it's time to start, but then my wedding planner is kicking my mom and everybody else out, because it's like well, the wedding is starting. Y'All got ta, be out there. It was just a lot - and I just remember feeling so anxious and so overwhelmed and as soon pretty much as soon as my dress was on me, they put the Bell on me: put the bouquet in my hands and they're like all right: let's go, there was Not even a breath that I got to take y'all before they were like all right, it's time for you to walk out again. This is something else that I can't really attribute it to anything but God's presence. I really do um God's presence in my dad's presence. I think that that's why I was able to to get through this because, like me and Josh, wanted to see each other before the actual ceremony, because we're best friends one and we can't like we're each other's home. You know when your person's your home and that there's a comfort there I didn't get any of that that day, the first time we got to see each other was me coming down the aisle and when the wedding stuff all comes out, y'all are able to see The whole experience you'll see. I didn't I didn't stop looking at him. I didn't look at the crowd. I did not acknowledge anybody. I literally stared at my husband the whole time because I I just was like it was such a kind of an out-of-body experience. None of it went as planned. Whole wedding was delayed. Oh I didn't give you guys a time of when we actually made it out there. I don't think I started walking down the aisle until almost 4 35 o'clock, but yeah um. I I really do attribute me getting through it honestly. As flawlessly as I did. I was a pretty Flawless ass bride. If I can't toot my own on for my identity being stolen to this hair stylist in the ghetto operations, people had no idea what was going on behind the scenes like you would never know. If I wasn't communicating that all these things were happening but yeah, God, God and my dad, I'm positive was there with me to give me strength to get through the madness of that day. Once the curtains revealed and I walked down the aisle and stuff like I was with Josh - and I was I was cool like I'm at peace again, but the rest of the day was just a rush to be honest, because the cocktail hour was supposed to be At like four o'clock reception's supposed to start at five o'clock, but again, if I'm telling you I even make it down the aisle until around 4 35, everything got pushed back and the venue didn't care. We had to be out of there. I think by 11 p.m or noon at the latest, so we had to rush the first dance. We have to rush the garter toss. We have to rush the bouquet toss. It was just a rushed experience because of this. This ghetto operation literally, I can't give it as much weight to say it ruined my wedding day, but it bugged sometimes it up it did it did, and you know what's crazy, too out of embarrassment, she didn't stay, so I even had bought that at her that Flight for her to like leave at 8pm, so she could kind of explain she knew better than that she didn't stay as soon as she had come to the venue with us and touched up. My hair after I was in my dress. She dipped with the quickness as she should so guess. What guess, what the day after my wedding, can't make this up a screenshot and send it to you guys day after my wedding, almost at 1pm sends me a text good afternoon easy! I'M hoping you had a fantastic night last night, sending love and blessings to you and Josh. I almost made me want to stick up my middle finger, also my sincerest apology for my timing and how it may have affected you. As for the payment, if you can, please sell it to the phone number or, if you can, by Apple pay, the balance is one thousand dollars. She wanted to still charge me full price, y'all, full price. It can't get much ghetto than this. It can't get much better than this do essentially ruin somebody's wedding day, at least the timeline and you're still going to charge them full price. For this ghetto ass experience it the people, people blow my mind every day. It amazes me: it amazes me anyway, I had sent the screenshot to my wedding planner. My wedding plan was like I'm gon na handle this and I'm gon na get on a call with her. So whatever that call was her next text to me was so sorry about everything in every way. I was an inconvenience to you. I'M really disappointed in myself for causing you this. I hope you can see I'm sincere about it. As for the balance, 750 is fine. It'S not fair that I wasn't on time 750.. You took off 25 percent foreign didn't say anything back. I was the ghost now right I was like, and this is the day after my wedding had some indecency for real for real you. I just think the nerve. I thought if it was me, if Rose reverse and I fed up somebody's wedding day I would have been. I would have taken that L I'm like. I am so sorry that I I would have just tried to accommodate in any way like I took the L, you don't even have to pay me nothing because up the accountability was like nowhere and the day after my wedding, you anyway, so she uh is saying Good morning, can you can I please get a response from you. I sent it to my wedding planner again, so we end up getting on a three-way call and I'm kind of just listening to them. Go back and forth my wedding planner's like no. You cannot try to charge somebody this much money and you mess up their wedding day, our wedding planner really rolled for us. That'S why I love kids so much so after this phone call. She ends up hitting me up around one like hello. Please don't forget to send the money. This is day two of me being married. I just said I won't and I sent her a screenshot of the 450. Oh yeah, that's what that's decided on the phone. She was like, okay. Well, we can do 450, but I do need to be compensated for something like I can't just blah blah, and you know what cool you brought the wig. You actually did your job like you did something, although you did it very distastefully, very unprofessional. It was a full ghetto. Operation cool have your little whatever, but I certainly wasn't gon na pay, you full price for the, so I sent her a screenshot of the 450 and then was done to her with that. But I am pretty positive that when it was time for me to take off my wig yep yep, she did it again and I took pictures and receipts because I was like Gucci gang is not gon na believe how ghetto this experience was. Unless I really have receipts for them to see that she really was a trash, ass, stylist and get this you guys, not only does she Rinky Dink, the uh sewing job in the back again, the same way she did for my bridal shower engagement party hairstyle. Also. She applied glue again. She applied the glue again after I stressed I stressed I did not want that and that it was a bad experience for me. I I can't, I can't believe this situation. To be honest, the circumstance of the situation - I don't even think I said anything back to her about that part. I was so done talking to this girl.