Omg!! Tender Head And 4C Hair Styling Struggles| Help
- Posted on 13 July, 2018
- Hair Styling
- By Anonymous
It’s that time again. Wash day for Sydney’s beautiful natural 4c hair. As you can see pictured above...the shrinkage is sooo real. I’ll take shrinkage because it’s a sign of healthy hair. Ok so I had in mind one hairstyle but it involved a lot of sections which I need a comb to get the task done. Long story short...I’m doing cute , quick and easy styles for her hair until the end of summer. It’s too hot to hear crying all day I know some patents will understand some won’t!!!
So today guys, i am going to style, sydney's hair, and this tutorial is just about the blues of a parent that have to do 4c, hair on a tender headed child. So, first, as you can see, she does not like the comb whatsoever and especially if you like, to do parts and braids well, braids that require parting, and, of course, that's. One thing i always wanted to do with my child is do like cornrows with beads attached, but i could never do it because she hates the hairstyle so make sure you detangle the hair before you do anything else for see hair. You can detangle it and if you leave it out, it will become tangled again so try to section it off and get it as um neat as possible. The first style i had in mind i was going to blow dry her entire hair. I was going to section it off and do section by section and don't get me wrong sydney. She has beautiful hair. You can tell the help of 4c hair when it has a lot of shrinkage and her hair does have a lot of shrinkage. So i don't want to make this video, like i'm bashing, my child's texture of hair, because i love my child. I love her hair, but it's hard to style when, like i said she is tender headed and she has 4c hair, so anything is going to be a problem. Ok, so i was going to section her hair off in smaller sections and blow dry it because i wanted to do cornrows like small cornrows and put beads on it, but, like i said she does not. She doesn't like me doing anything to her hair, as you can see like i'm holding it tight, so it won't hurt her and she's still crying and she doesn't want me in her hair anytime. She sees a comb like anything that looks like a comb she's going. She doesn't want it in her hair. So after that i stopped i had to think of another style, so i got the water bottle and i just sprayed it in her hair, so it can revert back to her beautiful. It me be so now. Plan b, keep her hair in its natural state, then take the comb. I'M sorry. I can't do anything without a comb. Take the comb and outline the perimeter of her head and just make a braid and her. It annoys me because her she has the perfect hair for braiding and she doesn't like for me to do that either. So i took my blue magic, coconut coconut oil conditioner, and i greased her scalp with that, and i also ran it through her hair just to soften it up a bit more. You can do that after you braid, because i know for some people um putting oil in the hair before you start braiding. It doesn't allow you to give a good grip, but for me either way it's cool um. Look at that! She'S allowed me to do it because i'm not it's just the comb she's, just so afraid of the freaking comb. If you guys have any suggestions, i mean i like to part hair. I like hair, to be neat the sections of hair to be neat, but with her i cannot do that. I can i got to get in where i fit in and that that part that is a reflection of where i fit in with the comb. So i operated each side and um. I bought them to a point at the back. I didn't attach the hair, i just let them be free, two individual braids and then i am going to just go ahead and put her hair in two ponytails and each ponytail. I'M going to take each braid one braid from the back and attach it to the ponytail and i'm going to detangle her hair, some more and also i'm going to add my favorite products to her hair that help me with styling and detangling guys. I thank you for watching um. I hope this helps some mothers out there with hair. Like my daughter sydney's, i just want to show you some easy hairstyles for tender headed girls or boys who do not like combs. Look how cute her hair is already look at the texture beautiful now, i'm going to take the cream of nature, moroccan oil and i'm going to spray that throughout her hair on both sides. Whatever i do to one side, i'm going to do to you to the other, so i'm going to take that and i am going to create some shine once her hair is dried. You will see the shine come through. That'S what we all need in our hair to make it look nice and healthy. Now i'll put her hair in the ponytail. I wrap the band around about three times, because you don't want it to be too tight that the child cannot function. So i'm taking a section of hair, i'm detangling it with the wide tooth comb and i'm just two strand twisting it all the way down, and i put four twists on each ponytail and i took a bobby pin or a hairpin, and i attached it to the Bottom of the hair, as i um gathered it together and then i tucked it under with the hairpin and whatever i did to this side. So so so you
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Tiara Fisher: When I tell y’all....I have so much anxiety doing my baby’s hair today. My head just started hurting .....I have a whole spill about this....I think we need a support group for moms with tender headed children.
Monifa 360: Her hair is thick like mud, it's absolutely beautiful. My youngest niece hates her hair being done it's a battle ❤
TaShonda Lewis-Taylor: This is my exact struggle with my 4C 5 year old. On top of the fact I don't know how to do hair. I've tried several products and nothing is a magic bullet. The only time she didn't scream her head off is when I put a softener in her head. But, her edges were thinning and I wasn't sure that was or wasn't the cause. So hoping to get them back, I was going to let her softener go and just 2 strand her all summer. WELL SHE CUT HER HAIR! UGHHHHHH So now I had to cut it shorter and I already struggled with styling it long. So her texture is back to the above PLUS it's shorter. Sigh. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in this. Some people laugh...it's honestly not funny.
Carolyn Candrea ,smith: Thank you so much for this video. I am a white mom of a beautiful, strong-willed, tender-headed, 4c 3-year old and sometimes I think the problem is all ME. I've invested a ton of time and energy to learn how to care for her hair (an ongoing process!), but so many YouTube hair videos leave me feeling inadequate and defeated. Like yours, my daughter also HATES combs and will scream just at the sight of one. Detangling is an ordeal and I swear sometimes I'm worried the neighbors will think I'm torturing her. I've also had days that I started with one style in mind but have to change course and do something more simple. Thank you for being real about the struggle!
ahub87: If she gets older and is just as tender headed be sure to make sure she doesn't have sebhorric dermatitis. She's my hair twin and this was my mom and me every time she did my hair. As I got older it never improved. I just thought I would have to be tender headed forever. No matter how I got mu hair done or who did it, I'd always have that 1 tear from "Glory" rolling down my cheek. Anyhoo I read a naturalista's article on her struggle with being tender headed and as an adult she was diagnosed with sebhorric dermatitis. So I decided to get checked out, although my scalp was never flakey like the pics...well, I too had sebhorric dermatitis but a very mild case of it. I started using TSal shampoo along with my regular shampoo and it made a difference. I did however have friends who were tender headed at a young age as well and just "grew out of it" so they same might happen for her. Howeer, if she's much older and is still this sensitive, I would get it checked out. Also thank you for calling your daughter's hair beautiful and letting her keep her kinks. You acknowledge the struggle of caring for 4C hair without shaming her for having it. Unfortunately a lot of parents don't know how to do that.
Takisha's Age-Free Beauty Zone: The struggle is so real!! I just finished doing my daughter's hair. Thanks for the confidence booster. I feel like a hair failure. I hate that it hurts her so much! She's 5 almost 6 and it's not any better than when she was 3. I swear I've tried everything! When I take her to a professional it's even worse. And the young lady that braids her hair occasionally now is so patient. It's just a horrible ordeal. I know when my daughter is being dramatic or over the top and I can honestly say that she's not exaggerating. It truly hurts her. I can't relate at all. My head is as hard as a rock. And even as a child I never had pain with getting my hair done. I'm sorry I'm venting, I feel like crying.
Adenika Pippen: Ugh.. I feel like we could sit and talk about 4C hair kids for hours! lol.. My daughter is 4C as well and while she doesn't mind me braiding it, it is absolutely a hair texture that requires more time and patience. I will say the one thing that helps with detangling my baby's hair is Jane Carter Solution Curl Defining Cream. That cream is MAGIC in her hair!! The tangles slip out so much easier. I add it to her damp hair in sections and it helps reduce detangling time quite a bit. Please give it a try and let me know if it helps. As far as parting, I don't know if you wear nail tips, but maybe a kiss nail with the slight oval shape that you can glue on and pop off may help. HA! I know it's outside the box but hey.. Thanks for your videos and good luck/good job Mama!
justhere: This was literally me last night my mistake was leaving her hair loose, in two puffs for a week ♀️ Your baby's hair turned out great and she is absolutely beautiful You got this girl!
faithnhim1415: Thank you for posting this! I literally just finished my daughters hair and I felt so discouraged and frustrated! I feel sooo much better now that I know it’s not just me lol
B Thompson: Lord I feel the struggle! My child's hair tangles soooo easily and if I try to part it, she acts like I'm killing her! I want her to rock a natural puff but I'm scared it'll lock up by the end of the day lol
Ellie 💋: My daughter has 4c hair as well. She’s 18 months and I had never dealt with 4c hair before, so I kinda didn’t like her texture at first because it’s very hard to work with and her hair gets very, very dry. It does not hold moisture for nothing in the world, but I’m getting use to it and your videos are giving me hope.
Taronda Wills: Thank you soooo much for this!!! I am in the same exact boat with my 6 an 8 year old. I start out with the best intentions but the I end up putting some Miss Sealie (Color Purple) braids in and call it a day. This style is cute and I will be doing this on my girls.
CAROLINE WAMBUI: This looks EXACTLY like my daughter's hair...she's 5 and very tender headed.finally got tired of all the tears,drama and the 12-hour long wash days,so i relaxed her hair,and now everyone is happy.
Ebony Larise: This is my daughter ALL DAY! And she’s 10 now, still hates the comb, braids, etc
S Williams: Never wash 4c hair loose. Place in 4 to 6 braids, pre-wash with coconut oil and conditioner, and then wash with braids still intact. Also, you are very rough. Be gentle, take your time.
XxMilky_ChocoxX: Omg my daughter is her hair twin and I STRUGGLED it literally took blood, sweat, and tears to do her hair. Until she turned about 7-8 ish and it just started to get better. She is still a little tender headed but nothing like it use to be
Shay Na'Bre: I really thought my 4yr old would be use to the comb by now. She has so much hair! Why is it the one's with alot of hair so afraid of getting their hair done??! No matter what I do she hates for her hair to be touched. Wash day is hell for us I usually end up in tears myself smh
O Riskii: Your daughter’s hair is just like my daughter’s, but longer and thicker. I needed this video and all that advice you gave. Thank you!! New subbie
Dyamanti22: Your daughter is beautiful and her hair also. My daughter has exactly the same problem (4 years of age) and also tenderhearted as I was as a child, still even as adult. What helps is to condition the hair in the shower or in the tub working in sections, completely wet and detangle it with a denman brush or a tangle teaser brush along with a wide tooth comb or flexible slighter narrow tooth comb, when it is wet with conditioner and a whole lot of coconut oil with the running water. After detangling each part, rinse and then immediately in twists to prevent curling up and getting dry and tangled. From there on, out of the shower and style the hair as desired. If the hair dries up, spray the hair wet working in sections again along with a leave in conditioner. And a towel to prevent the neck and back to get wet during styling. Hope it helps, helped me a lot... got these tips from Naptural85.
Leaving Corporate - DBIA: Your daughter is so pretty and her hair is beautiful. This is too cute, because I used to be the exact same way when I was a little girl. Sometimes I still am.
GabsJourney: I’m sad to report that my 8yr old daughter has 4C hair and she’s still extremely tender-headed. One product that works like a miracle product in her hair is the Design Essential Lavender collection. After all of these years, I found a shampoo and conditioner that leaves her hair so manageable. I only tried it on a fluke because Sally’s had a buy one get one 50% off promotion. When I conditioner here, I always put a cap on her. If I comb the conditioner through her hair when I first apply it, her hair is guaranteed to be soft and silky when I rinse it out. I also use the blow-out spray and the thermal protection cream. I will be using this product line (all four products)for awhile on her hair.
Kaela Bryant: You should deep condition weekly on a strict regimen to help soften the hair consistently... also I would try banding it while it’s wet to stretch it out that way it’s easier to style. I’m extremely tender headed and I always have been it helps
Maa ToEarth: I was exactly like her as a child. Now my daughter is just so good like I can do her whole head without one complaint. And I was out here fighting with my sister
Yesenia Gorham: My daughter is the same way!!!! It’s a huge fight to do it and then she’s thanking me after! The struggle is real though with a tender headed 4c child!
C AM: If you start with sectioning her hair BEFORE you wet it and perhaps try to use a detangling product, you shouldn’t have as hard a time..also, keep her hair sectioned from the moment you dry detangle, til you style.. even in the shower/wash conditioner process !
Kay Jay: Thank you! You definitely understand my struggle!
Latasha Davenport: Aww poor babyshe so pretty! I use to be tender headed when I was a little girl to lol
S. McDonald: OmG! This is me and my baby’s struggle lol I try to stick to French braids or 3 puffs ♀️
Faith Chandi: I love her hair!! Plus she's super pretty! My 18 month old has the exact same hair.. It's also becoming thick now.. Ohh thanks for these videos n plz keep guiding us especially on how to keep the hair moisturized and healthy
Jan Bun: You did a wonderful job on her hair. I don't think my sister ever got used to the comb -- her hair was thick and luscious like your daughter. As an adult she had very very long braids that didn't get combed often -- they got washed, and tidied up but not combed much. Her jumbo braids were beautiful. It takes much-much patience and a gentle touch to groom these tender-headed beauties.
Crissy Gomez: This is how my daughters hair is and it’s been such a struggle for me. I try different products and try to style it but I’m not very good at doing hair. On top of that, she screams when I touch her hair. I wish I knew how to do more styles.
Prisla Em: Your baby has some beautiful, thick hair! You are doing an excellent job mom! My younger sister was like her as a child, even to this day at thirty plus years old she has problems with combing her hair! She is very tender headed! When she was little, mommy used to put a whole drawer of knick knacks in front of her to keep her distracted while she combed her hair, that was the only way she could get it done! I hope you'll find something that works for you and your little sweetheart! Great video, thank you for sharing it with us!
Khara&Olly XOXO: My daughters hair is exactly the same ... i go through the exact same struggles every time im ready to do her hair but with a little bribery and my patience i manage get through it lol. I feel you gurl!What moisturiser do you use ... still struggling to find one that doesnt leave residue ..
Sophia Wilson: My daughter has the exact same hair, so I feel your struggle! I used to be able to do cute simple styles but now she is 11 and wants something a bit more stylish and "trendy". I love doing braids but she really likes it STRAIGHT which I will not do. How often do you get to trim her hair?
MoniMeka P: Such a cute hairstyle on a beautiful little girl!
ImOnlyCamille: What works for me is detailing before you wash. Then braid in about 8-10 braids dry. Wash/condition hair while those braids are still in. Towel dry then take one braid section out at a time and it should be easier to come through. Blow dry with come dryer and there you have it. Let me know if that works.
Sheal Elaine: Omg my daughter has the same hair and it’s so long and after a while it gets frustrating and I was feeling defeated cause I’m like why do we have to go through this every time , I made sure not to make her see I felt that way cause I wanna make sure she loves her hair and knows there’s nothing wrong with her hair it’s just me having to learn how to manage it ! But just watching videos of girls with the same hair and moms with the same struggle makes me like ok this is something we all go through lol
EyezUp: Great job mommy! The style is beautiful!!
Sharita Johnson: Yes thanks for this video. I go through this with my daughter as well. I’m doing two strand twist for now I want to blow dry it soooo bad.
Ms Ladiie: Thank you for the video.. Finally someone I can relate to. I always asked for help and people act like they dont know what I mean or refuse to help! Very helpful and thank you again!!
TCatt86: Woooooo. The tender headed struggles. My son's hair is 3b and 3c and I deal with similar issues. He cries on wash days. Winces when I'm doing the daily styling. wash days are exhausting. I'm like you. I don't even worry about parting. sometimes his braids be all loose. lol. We in this struggle together.
DJ Locced and Fit Fowler: I have the same hair type and understand the struggle.. Awesome job.. Beautiful
Hello Jaxs: What a little cutie pie she is. Bless her heart and yours too mommy. You did fantastic.
Nia Simone: I have 4c hair and I was so tender-headed as a Child lol so I know her pain
loreal Jones: My daughter is the same and has the same exact hair I have to do her hair soaking wet and keep spraying it just to do any style
Petria Ruple: Thanks for sharing i thought i was the only one my daughter is 6 and is so afraid of combs i have been doing twist outs since she was two
Sound Reign: I had to look for a video like this cause I have nerve damage in my left arm and hand so I have lots of difficulty detangling my hair the way I used to prior to the nerve damage so I (without even thinking about my past life of my mom and other people doing my hair) asked my mom to put my hair in chunky two strand twists. I let my mom do my hair yesterday and the roughness and tension omg, it brought so many memories growing up with rough combing and having such a hard time retaining length and I barely had any edges and broken nape area. I mean I understand that we got to look neat, but all that tension, ripping through my 4c natural tight coils like a mad person using a fine tooth comb and squeezing every bit of edges into a cornrow is super unnecessary and so unhealthy. Am 32 now, but it took me until I was 24 for my hair to become healthy, stop breaking and recover from balding in my edges and nape area. Am glad your focusing on the health of your babie’s hair and not putting so much tension on her scalp, she will thank you for it when she gets older when she doesn’t have to struggle with baldness in her early adult years like I had to struggle with. Your baby is sooo cute
Latasha Davenport: OMG!! I remember sitting between my mother's legs as she combed, brushed and braided my hair. I would cry as I sat in my little chair watching TV lol..Braids are a great style for tender-headed children.. Use great detangling products whether washing, conditioning, or styling use products that are water-based and help your fingers or wide tooth comb glide through the hair to prevent your daughter from crying through detangling sessions. If shampoos are leaving her hair in dry tangles, then try a gentler brand or a cleansing conditioner. Try styles that tend to last longer. Distraction buy her bubbles or play her favorite song. That's my suggestion I hope that it helps!
Keva Earl: My daughter has the exact same hair, and she is tender headed as well!!!. I feel your pain. She is 11 now...she's better than she used to be..but it's still rough. LOL. Shea Moisture Low porosity line has helped ALOT! The shampoo, conditioner, and leave in conditioner. I mix the leave in conditioner in a bottle and mix it with water and that's what I spray on her hair to keep it wet while I am detangling it....which takes over an hour. Her hair is so thick! Unfortunately, I haven't found the magic product yet, but it helps. As a moisturizer I use Ajaa naturals Hibiscus silky leave in and their hair milk...I was able to get the products at the natural hair show...a little pricey...but they are really good products. As an oil, I like Carol's Daughter mimosa hair honey. (you can get a small sample of the Carol's Daughter product at some Targets for about 4.00 just to see if you like it.) I hope these suggestions help.
Bernice B: Hello Supa Natural, Syndey is so cute! I love her thick healthy hair! Great video!
Keenna Holmes: Man if this ain’t my daughter, Lord the dramaaaaa when the hair basket comes out! She’s turning 4 and her hair is the same texture just to the middle of her back when it’s wet and in the shrunken stage. I have blown it dry maybe twice just to help get it trained but it was a nightmare to get through it. I see all these cute styles and like you said it’s the perfect hair for braids and I can copy almost any style but she’s having none of it. It’s only getting slightly better as she gets older, I found some detanglers that work and we just have to fight it out every 2 weeks or so
Shakkerra Wallace: This is my exact struggle texture included.
The Social Introverts Club: Your child is my child. She does puffs everyday. I want to do braids and beads!
Essence Deberry: You should wet her hair first with a spray bottle, then detangle it with the detangler, add moisturizer and oil. Its very hard to style it when it's tangled and very painful for the child. My daughter has 4c hair and I learned those little tricks! Her hair looks great! You got this mom!
Ruby Jane: I have this problem as well. It’s the only reason my hair is the length it is. It’s long because of low manipulation. I don’t manipulate my hair because it’s way too painful. I went to the hairdressers for the first time in years to get box braids and Sat in the chair I felt as if I was going to pass out from the pain of simply parting my hair and blow drying it. I don’t know if this case is more on the extreme side but parting my hair makes my eyes stream and water. It’s almost like a nerve pain from pulling individual hairs. Does anyone else have any similar experiences to me?
ShadowWolf Mems: I'm also tender headed but I was *MORE* tender headed when I was younger. I used to hate the comb! Now that I'm older, I'm getting used to it and I'm getting a bit less tender headed. (I'm still a tender head, though).
alwaysaroundproud: I was very tender headed as a child, my mom used to give me a (kids) pain reliever before combing it. I don't know if thats recommended these days tho
1dopequeen: I have 4c hair and tender headed as well. I used to hate getting my hair done but my jamaican mother did not care!! Lol I eventually got used to the pain. Still hurts though.
gertrude etta: My daughter has the same hair type and is tender head. Doing her hair is a chore but I love it and want her to love her hair. I try to detangle very well with conditioner in her hair. After I condition if I want to cornrows I always blow dry to minimize the tangles. I love two strand twist in her hair also. Hair day is very long.
vallie: I feel your pain dear! My son's hair was so difficult t to detangle we had to cut it off. She is cute!
Renita Davis: Omg my daughter is the same 4c tender headed. It's always a struggle.
Amanda Mann: This is the cutest little girl And its so funny cause mom is like ... I can't do anything without the comb and baby girl is not with the parts ☺
Mahogany Boyd: Oh lawd! My daughter is 18months and she's already like this! She has never liked me touching her hair and its a whole lot up there the frustration is too real! And aint no braiding or touching while she's sleep, she might just kill me
SyRani L.: I’m overgrown and my hair is the same. My scalp was so happy that you didn’t keep parting over and over like my mom did when I was younger lol. Like accept what part you get and move along lol. You’re awesome.
HeadwrapNCoconutOil: My daughter hair is the same way. I comb it out in the tub. I finger part it during and put twist in it as I go. Otherwise when I'm ready to style her hair it's a hassle. And she's also tender headed.
tiara rhodes: I salute you mama cause I absolutely understand I have 2little girls with same parents and one has 4c hair which is my youngest and she is super tender headed and I don’t know how to work with 4c hair type but I do my best and everyone loves the styles I do but i just go with the flow on what her hair allows lol I know sounds weird but it’s the truth !!! Mommy salute queen
Tia Johnson: My daughter is 8 years old and she also has 4c hair and is very tender headed. I experience the challenges as you. Recently, I have been discussing with her to loc her hair. It seems to be the only solution to avoid combing and continue to have healthy hair. I will be installing them next weekend. Wish us luck!
Alexis May AlexiaKenya: Could we please just appreciate how amazingly beautiful this baby girl is..she is so pretty I wish she were my baby..awww
bratt: My mom works at a salon and I help her do the peoples hair. But let me just tell ya'll a story. So basically me and my mom were giving this girl medium knotless braids, and I was parting the girl's hair and she smacked the comb out of my hand. So me and my mama went off on her and then kept going. Ya'll I could not even part the girls head. But it got worst because an employee who worked at the studio also needed my moms help. So I was by myself. So I finally got to the braiding part and she pushed my hand and I said "Look you chose to get your hair braided, I asked you if you was tender headed you said NO and if you had told the truth it wouldn't hurt but since you wanna act violent Im gonna send you like this." She had lots of patches left along with clips, rubber bands, and a comb. That was the story but let me tell ya'll something. If you ever come to my moms salon let me tell you something. I don't play, if you tell me you want your hair done a certain way I am going to give it to you. If you can't handle combs and fake hair don't go to a salon.
Shareca Murray: This is so my soon to be 3yr old hair and when I say she do not like it being comb..I've never dealt with such thick dry hair and I'm still struggling to understand it
Sherlie: Lol my little sister is the same way! She hates when I part or combs her hair!
Black Ceasar: How about putting her in 8 twist when you condition her hair. Comb conditioner through hair. Let her sit with the conditioner as usual. Rinse conditioner as usual, but put hair back into 8 individual twist, as you go. Knot Today leave-in is a great conditioner.. BTW Cocoa Curl is a great PH balanced moisturizer.
Radiant Shay: See this is why my mom relaxed me at 4 years old, and even with a relaxer I still felt pain when that newgrowth came through. 4c aint no joke lol. I'm still tenderheaded as an adult! I had to get locs in order to find peace. And if I ever have a daughter, I'm locking her hair too
Lucretia Edwards: This is the way her hair is suppose to be , all it needs is what you did to it , I don’t like to see little girls as small as her with a lot of detailed hair styles, a bunch of pulling and tugging, I did my daughter’s hair just like this , and by the time she was ready to go to school , it was way down her back , she was never act like she was tender headed or anything, but it still was more healthy for her hair to do less , and she always looked just as beautiful as the other girls, because she was just as beautiful, just like your daughter, with her no fuss hair style , what more does a sweetheart like her need
Sarah Weiler: Have you tried applying a conditioner or detangler and letting that sit for a while first? Even though I’m white and have straight hair I had a very sensitive scalp as a child as well. What helped a lot was letting conditioner or detangler do the majority of the work on the tangles before even going in. Also this sounds really weird but if push comes to shove you could maybe massage some numbing cream into her scalp before washing.
Sgfa World: You should try threading or banding method is so cute and it is stylish too! It will stretch the beautiful hair for u both
Carmen Maria: 7:43. This is what I have to keep reminding myself! And even then,I'm second guessing my products and techniques...
Fit Mom BW: You are doing a great job mommy. I love her thick hair.My daughter's hair is the same has Sydney's. She doesn't like the dryer at all. So what I do is plan how I am going to style her hair before starting then pre poo and detangle and twist in sections that I am going to style in...We wash in twist to avoid tangles and minimise shrinkage. If I need to stretch I use African threading then wait for the next day to style but if I'm lazy I just air dry moisturise and re-twist.
Angela Smith: She looked so cute with flowers in her hair.
Natalie B: My toddler has super dense, 4a/b hair, more wavy than curls. But OMG she is EXTREMELY tender headed. AND.... her hair goes down to her hips!!! Every time I comb it, it’s WW2.... for a super brief moment, I thought about installing locs or using creamy crack!. I seriously start feeling like I’m abusing her when I comb her hair ... I’ve used a TON or products, but nothing has ever given enough slip during the detangling process to comb thru easily... my older daughter (now a teen) had 4c hair as a toddler, and I installed locs, and hairstyling became a BREEZE! But I don’t want to give up on all this thick lush hair!
PrincessAfrica3: She has my daughters hair. So cute and beautiful. Subscribed
Coco 12: she’s so beautiful and i love her hair
sugarandspice: This is why my mom started using relaxers at 3 years old. ♀️
LaShon McGee: Thank you so much I am encouraged ❤️
Adrienne Johnson: Oh how I related to you so much. I have 5 daughter's an my youngest two girls ages 8 & 2yrs old have 4c hair. Actually I'm not sure about my 2 yr old but my 8yr old hair is exactly like your daughter an she's very tender headed I wish there was a group for mom dealing with children with 4c hair texture and tender head. Wash days is a struggle an I don't even bother to blow dry because of how much she cries so we usually just go with ponytails. Which isn't good because her hair locks right back up sad If anyone have any recommendations for detangling and products please share ‼️
Beansplayzzhehe😇: And u can get a detangling brush it works so well
Reina Sanchez: Awww I have twins & I deal with this all the time
Amber Bamber: My 2 year old has her EXACT hair type. NOTHING I do keeps her hair moisturized. I even put vaseline in it and it was dry the next day ♀️
Bluebxrry Mxple: I’m tender headed u don’t wanna do my hair.. I would be screaming as loud as I can and would be crying
Mz Dee: Me and my child both have dense 4C hair (and its low porosity = takes forever and a day to dry)). We are both tender headed. Me not as much anymore ...but my daughter . I rarely ever use a comb (finger detangling is my main method) but when I dol, I use a big soft/rounded wide tooth detangler comb. It is amazing for detangling (followed by parting wink wink) on days when I want to use a comb. Doesnt look like anything but it works. That and making sure to keep her hair moisturize while you work in sections. Small or big sections doesn't really matter (detangle the whole hair, still keeping them in sections, prior to parting). I use a small comb ONLY for fine tangles on the ends (or hair scissors ( I rather cut bad knots then rip her hair). After you detangle that section then you should be able to part with little to no pain( work in sections if you are able). Wish I could show you how easy it really is. I hope I am describing it well. This has been a 10 year journey and I have learned alot of tricks along the way of how to do hair on a tender headed thick haired child. To be honet the thicker the hair and tighter the coils the hair is the harder the maintence is and the more time it takes to do it ( and the scalp "tends" to be more sensitve) . Patience for you and her. I wish I could've attached a pick of the comb. I also like using Design essentials "Coconut & Monoi Deep Moisture Milk Souffle" 95% of the time. Almost the only thing I use on our hair. And if all else fails. Twists( flat or single). They are easy and gentler on the scalp then braids... for those days when your daughter really aint feelig it. Hope this helps and Good luck.
Everyone deserves To go home: Thank you. I appreciate the encouragement
lilmamagc: Pleaseeee platt her hair in about 6 section on each side and detangle them while wet (spritz with water so it is wet wet), then come back with blow dryer. Try to use the tension method first to get it stretched, then come back with the comb. When you went straight in with the blow dryer even i was bout to cry
EyezUp: Yup I can relate percent.
Mother of 2 Queens: Hey hun.. what do you do to keep her edges? My daughter has 4c hair and no matter what I do it seems like her edges are thinning...help!!
Nini’s Beauty: My life with my 1yo and I can tell my 4mo being the same. Ahh it gets frustrating
Goddess_ Leach: Have tried when she’s sleep or it’s hard like that too? Beautiful hair,,I would like to see how you clips the ends ☺️
Jayla sumpter: If you put some water on it and then use the carols daughter moisturizer (curl enhanced thing) I swear it won't hurt I'm tenderheaded i use that and leave in conditioner I'M TELLING YOU IT'S MAGIC. Moisturizer helps so so much
Tiara Taylor: I feel her I do the same thing with my hair no one can come it
Goober Fries: Great job, mom.
Micalah Fay: You should hold the part your trying to comb out and work your way up but comb it gently and when your doing it let her tell you whrn it hurts and that means she has sensitivity were she says it hurt