How To Get Thicker Relaxed Hair | Make Your Hair Look Thicker & Increase In Thickness

This first tip is the most important, accept your hair for whatever state it's in, except your hair, for what you were born with just accept your hair, and when this comes to me, i'm gon na give y'all a personal example of what i mean by this. So i, like i told y'all i was born with fine hair. I it's genetics. My mom has fine hair. My mom has also suffered from alopecia. My dad has fine hair. My dad is also bald so and other members of my family. I can't i don't really know about my dad's side of the family um, but specifically a lot of members of my mom's side of the family. Have that fine hair and they all have beautiful hair on both sides of my family. But it's fine and i happen to inherit this fine hair gene and i just had to accept that. You know what i have fine hair and it is what it is. So if you was born with fine hair or maybe you weren't, born with fine hair, maybe you did something to your hair. Yes, you did stuff to your hair. I don't know what you did. I don't know what you did girl, but you didn't think your hair out, okay, you didn't thinned it out. Now it's thin and stringy. It'S lifeless accept it because i have also been there as well. I have been there. You guys see today, which i think that my hair looks very thick, very healthy, very beautiful, but it was not not always looking like this okay, it wasn't um and specifically, i had a turning point with my hair at the beginning of the year like i want To say, january february, my hair looked the worst that it has ever looked in a long time, and i really had to just come to terms with what i had did to my hair and just accept my hair for what it was love, my hair, for what It was and just know that i was going to put in the work to change it and that's exactly what i did every single week. I worked hard to research products that will work well on my hair. Try products that work well on my hair watch. Videos get information get on google, i did whatever i could do to just better the state of my hair, but i first had to accept that i had i had effed my hair up. Okay, i had f'ed it up. I had messed it up. Okay, it was, it was not cute, i'm gon na. I i have showed you guys the transformation from february to now. So i've showed you guys check out other videos if you want to see that um, but even when my hair was longer because um i want to say, like maybe october of last year, my hair had gotten down to like right here, but it just it wasn't Thick, okay and i'm not one to hold on, i am not one to hold on you - can ask anybody that know me. I i'm quick to cut stuff off quick with the quickness and hair hair ain't, no difference! Okay! If i don't like it, i'm cutting it off and my hair was just not as thick as i wanted, so i had cut it to light right here and anyways. Now i cut it again because i still were happy with it, but now i'm so happy with that i've been putting in the work, and i think that you guys should do the same thing if you were born with thin or fine hair, or maybe something happened To you, maybe you caught um, you know, maybe you had alopecia or something and out there's two different types of alopecia there's traction alopecia, which is something that you cost. You cause that from pulling your hair too tight, okay or there is just alopecia where your hair just falls out. Okay, you have no control over that both both you kind of don't have control over, because um traction alopecia. Yes, you have pulled your hair too tight from braids ponytails whatever, but you have no control of the hair growing back, because this is permanently damaged so either one you just got ta accept that and um like i said. I think this is important because it allows you to really just love what you have love, what you're born with accept it and take the steps to make it better moving forward. The second tip that i have for all my fine hair girlies, my thin hair girlies. Don'T use products that weigh your hair down. Okay, this should be a no brainer. This should be a no brainer, but some of y'all don't seem to get it. Some of y'all don't seem to get it, and i don't get why. Why are you using products that are too heavy? Why are you using products that weigh your hair down? Why are you using products that make your hair look oily? Why are you doing it? Why are you doing that to yourself? It'S your fault, it's your fault, but you here today, so you gon na, learn you're gon na learn to stop doing it and i'm a trust that you're gon na do it more, but stop using products that weigh your hair down, and i had to learn this. I had to learn this the hard way. This is one of the earlier lessons that i learned um from trying to get my hair back to a state that i liked and i'ma just say this. Everything is not for everybody. If you watch a lot of my videos, you know that i wear my hair down. I want to say 99 99.9 of the time i wear my hair down and because i am a relaxed girl that wears her hair down. I do not put moisturizer on my hair throughout the week. I do not put oil on my hair throughout the week. I am not, and i am not going to okay, and that is because i wear my hair down. I have fine hair. My hair is going to look stringy. My hair is going to look oily. My hair is going to be a mess. Why would i do that to myself? Why would i do that to myself and why are you doing that to yourself? Why are you doing that? Stop okay! Stop now hear me out. If you have no interest in wearing your hair down, then this whole video, maybe not the whole video, but some of these things might not apply to you. Okay, some might not apply and some might not make sense. But if you are a relaxed girl that likes to wear your hair down and you plan on wearing your hair down, you need to stop um putting oils and moisturizer on it throughout the week, especially if you have fine hair. Maybe if you have thicker hair, you can get away with it. You can get away with it and your hair can take a little bit more oils and moisturizers. But if you have little bitty tiny skinny strands, meaning you have fine hair or if you just don't have a lot of hair, you don't need to be doing that. Okay and let me show, let me show you what you use. Let me show you how to reach real quick, don't mind my bottle. It'S a little beat up, but get you a serum. Get you a serum, and this is what you need to use when you want your hair to have like um a little bit of shine. A little bit more light to it, use this um but stop putting so much um oils and moisturizers on your hair. If you wear your hair down and you are relaxed and you wear your hair in a wrap state where you wrap it at night, you shouldn't have to um oil, your hair and moisturize your hair anyway, because with you doing that wrapping motion at night, you are Naturally, distributing the oils throughout your hair by just brushing your hair and wrapping it around at night. I do not wrap my hair at night, so sometimes my hair can feel a little bit drier sometimes, but when it does, all i do is um use this. If i have to apply it to my ends, wherever i have to apply to all, i do is use this, but i really don't have that problem sleeping with the satin scarf kind of takes care of that. But yeah, please be careful of the products that you're using on your hair and even if you're, not moisturizing, and sealing your hair throughout the week. Just be careful of the products that you're using during the styling phase, like your leave-in conditioner, your heat protectant. All of those should be lightweight products, because you don't want to use something. That'S going to make your hair sticky, it's going to make it hard to blow dry when you flat iron it it's not flowy. It'S oily and weighed down you've just defeated. Your purpose like i have no worries. You'Ve defeated your purpose, so please stop using these heavy heavy oils and products. If you're natural, you can get away with it. If you have thick hair or if you have coarser strands, you probably can get away with it, but us fine, haired, girlies us thin, hair girlies. It'S a no! Please stop number three! The third tip that i have for all my fine haired girlies, my thin haired girlies, is to keep up with your wash schedule, keep up with your washing schedule. Now, for me, as a fine, haired girl, i have to wash my hair every single week every single week. I cannot miss a week. Some people don't wash their hair every week, and that is completely fine. But if you are a fine hair girl, if you are a thin haired girl and you wear your hair down or you're wrapping your hair at night or you're, applying any type of product to your hair, i would say: give your hair the chance to start over Fresh at the end of the week, give your hair chance to just be rid of all of those products that you have applied throughout the week or just all of the natural oils that have just been distributed throughout your hair. Give your hair a chance to start fresh, and you will see how much thicker your hair feels. How much fuller your hair feels. How much more body your hair has how much movement you're at my hearing movement, because i just spray spritz on it. But how much movement your hair actually has you will notice such a difference. So please give that a try, even if you could just a lot an hour or two of time to just wash your hair, get it washed and then maybe the next day you flat iron it. I used to do that when i didn't have that much time. It doesn't matter just make it work so that you can find a way to wash your hair every week, because this goes back into the last tip that i gave you if your hair is just weighed down just from your natural oils. It'S not gon na. Look its best, it's gon na start to look stringy, it's gon na start to look lifeless and it's gon na start to just look thin and it may not it may you may be making it look thinner than it is just because you're being lazy and not Washing it so just try washing your hair once a week if you're having problems with your hair looking oily with it, looking way down, try that and get back to me, and let me know if that were because this worked for me. The fourth tip that i have for all my fine haired girlies, my thin haired girlies, is to bump your hair when you flat iron it now i used to be there a girl i used to be there. A girl used to just boo bone straight boop, no curl boop. We done that. That used to be me. Okay, i used to not add no no bump, no curl, no flip. No, nothing just straight straight down is what i used to do and my hair would be blowing in the wind okay. This is when my hair was a little bit longer. My hair would be fluttering and blowing in the way. Yes, they would be. Yes, it would be, but baby, it just looks so lifeless, okay, it just it just looked so lifeless and now i'm taking much better care of my hair. So my hair is a lot thicker than it was in those days anyway, but i wish i would just go straight down. Okay, i i wish i would just boop and be done. You need to add some bump. Okay, you need to add a little swivel to the wrist. You need to put the razzle dazzle, okay and just add a little bit of curl. Now how my hair is thought today, maybe a little bit much, but some of y'all may be a little bit much. Maybe you don't want all these curls and flips and waves and things: maybe you don't okay, but if you just add just the slightest look, love being just the just the slightest little bit. It'S gon na make a world of difference, and it's gon na make your hair look so much fuller and it's gon na make. You have a lot more body when you turn your head. If you got spritz in it like i do it's gon na, be it's gon na be moving okay. So, oh i cracked myself up. Sometimes sometimes you just got ta laugh at yourself girl. Sometimes you got ta. Let yourself anyway, um your hair gon na, be it's gon na be moving okay versus with it straight. It'S just gon na be y'all get the picture like. I can't do it, but it's just gon na be hanging down and if you already have thin hair or fine hair that ain't, what you want that ain't? What you want you want a little bit of body. You want a little bit of balance. You want a little bit of razzle dazzle, okay, and this will just make it so much easier. It'S gon na make it easier for you. If you are a girly who wraps your hair, it's gon na make it easier for you to wrap your hair. It'S gon na make it so that um! Well, that's that's mainly what is gon na make it easier for for you to wrap your hair and it's gon na make it easier to style, because it's just gon na fall into place. You don't have to worry about it, just hanging straight down and just looking stringy. So if you haven't tried that find a way to add some bump to your hair, when you flat iron it, if you don't like a lot of bump, then um you don't you don't have to like you, don't start getting the curls until you start swiveling your Wrists around you, ain't got to do all that. Just bend it a little bit and that's going to just make your hair look a lot fuller or you could try um. If you're a roller set girl, you can try getting the jumbo rollers instead of like the normal rollers that you would normally use. You can get the big giant ones and those will add the same type of effect, but i really noticed the difference in the way. My hair looked, it looked fuller, it looked thicker when i just added the little bump to it, and today, as y'all can see, my hair looks pretty. It looks pretty full like i said it is pre on the thicker side for me to have fine hair because it has thickened up but um. I think the curls are also adding to it, because if i just had it just flat ironed straight down, it would just not look right and another thing that i need to go back to going back to the tip that i said with um keeping up with Your washing schedule, i keep mentioning to y'all, i'm sorry if i'm all over the place, but i keep mentioning to y'all how my hair has thickened up over time. My hair has thickened up over time and the reason why my hair has thickened up over time. Maybe you are not someone who maybe your hair is permanently damaged. Maybe you have a condition like alopecia, where you have no control over. You know the parts where your hair can grow back, like maybe your edges are permanently gone or maybe you know you have a scar in your head or you have a part of your head that is permanently gone. Okay. This does not necessarily apply to you, but if you are someone who has just kind of neglected their hair, um hasn't really been taken care of their hair. Is your fault basically that your hair is messed up? Okay, this is for you, because that was the same. Um thing that happened to me: it was my fault that my hair was looking a mess. Okay, i didn't have no condition i didn't have. I had nothing going on. I just was lazy and messed up, my own hair, so if you are in a similar bowl or if you're just trying to just you, can't get it together, you can't figure it out you just because you can't get it together. Your hair is not getting it together. How about that? That'S the better way to phrase it if you fall in that boat. What i would encourage you to do is going back to what i said about washing your hair every week. The other benefit to that is that it allows you to get into a routine and consistency with your hair and consistency with anything is important, but especially with taking care of yourself and taking care of your hair, giving your hair that moisture that it needs every week. Giving your hair that cleansing that it needs every week your scalp is getting cleansed and rid of any buildup debris, whether it's natural or products is going you're you're going to see tremendous results, i'm delivering the conditioning that your hair needs regardless that's moisture protein. Whatever you are going to see results, if you just stay consistent - and i can attest to this because personally, like i said my hair has thickened up and my hair has thickened up a lot around the hairline. So if you are on your hair journey, you're on you start doing these things that i'm telling you or you just start taking better care of your hair and you notice that you're getting a lot of flyaways or a lot of just um short hairs that are Popping up as a result of you, i'm just kind of taking care of your hair and being on a hair journey. Do not freak out about that, because that is a good thing, and that also happened to me and is happening to me right now, because my edges are growing back because i have not been wearing wigs. I have not been pulling my hair back. I have done an occasional slick style here and there, but i take those out normally within the same day or the very next day, but um because i haven't been tying my hair back. I have not been wearing a lot of edge control um. I have been wearing edge control, but i haven't y'all get what i'm saying like. I haven't been doing a lot and putting a lot of stress on my hairline. My hair is growing back around here and getting a lot thicker and i'm noticing these little flyaway things like all around the crown of my head, and i'm attributing that to just me noticing that my hair is growing back a lot and getting a lot fuller in Those areas so, if you're someone who messed up your hair, don't give up stay consistent, find products that work for you and keep trying, and you will notice the change and once you start noticing that change the first sign of that change is you'll start seeing little Tiny hairs poking up everywhere. That is not breakage, that is you being on the right track and your hair actually growing back and with that being said, i think it's important to avoid styles that create a lot of tension on your hair, because when your hair is finer or thinner, it has A tendency to snap a lot easier if you ever see a girl that just wears her hair back in a ponytail all the time she doesn't have any breakage. You know this girl is just living life wearing a ponytail every single day. Maybe she has thicker strands than you and maybe that's why her hair doesn't break, but i me personally, i went through a phase where i was pulling my hair back almost every day and sleeping with it like that. I can't do that. I i can't do that. I can't do that with my hair being relaxed or natural. My hair will snap off and break like. I can't do that. So that's why i say over and over and over - and i mention this a lot in my videos. Don'T don't do that to your hair, like wear your hair down? Let your hair breathe, find styles that you like that. Allow your hair to be free that allow your hairline to be free and not constricted, and not even just your hairline, your hair period, if you're constantly wearing your hair in ponytails and using the small ponytail holders that is creating tension on your hair strands. Not just right here, but on your hair strands and in the nape as well even the way. You part your hair um these little things that we don't even think about that. We don't even realize that we're doing over time, if you keep doing it over and over and over you're gon na notice, that your hair is thinning out, especially if you have fine hair. If you constantly are wearing braids and constantly snatching up your edges and just snatching up your hair, if you're constantly putting your hair in a ponytail and slicking down your edges and using rubber bands or small ponytail photos, you're constantly just snatching up your hair and creating Tension - and you cannot do that if you have fine hair, you guys ever noticed like back in the day the girl and even now like. But i just noticed back in the day because i don't know what i'm saying back in the day. But i went to a predominantly black high school and all the girls that used to have these nice updos, because when i'm kind of old a little bit, but when i was in high school, the thing was like those um. I don't know what you calling them. Humps them humps y'all. Remember the humps i'll see if i can find one and put a picture in it, but um the thing was them big, humps and then the ponytail and then a bunch of like pieces coming down. That was the style when i was in high school. That and just updos like updos, were the thing when i was in high school and the crazier your updo was, or if it has some some colors in it or if it has some spikes. Oh, you was it okay, and i used to want my hair to be like this, so bad. I used to think them. Girls was it okay, i think they was it walking around with these spikes and they humps and they uh waves and ponytails. I used to think they just eat. Okay, my hairstylist couldn't do it. She couldn't do all that. She had give me a hunt, one time and it was lopsided. So i asked for no hump no more because i was just like what is the point. What is the purpose of the hump if the hump gon na be off center? Just give me my blow out just give my blow out, and so i would just go once a week get my little blow out my my business. My hair was my hair. Was pretty long in high school? It was long and it was thick and it was healthy and it was beautiful and i was relaxed. But i had began to notice that the girls who i thought was all dead with their humps and uh things and spikes. I began to notice this was the girls that they had. No hair them was their girls, that they had no hair, and i don't think they had no hair because they weren't born with no hair, because they were bald. I think they had no hair because they was constantly snatching it up. I think they had no hair because it was constantly gelled down. I think they didn't have no hair, because the hair couldn't breathe without its stuff. That was on it. That'S not that's what i think, and even today like this is not always the case. This is not always the case. I'M not saying that if you wear your hair in a ponies all the time, if you wear um uh people, don't wear the humps no more. But i'm not saying if you wear your hair in a ponytail all the time or if you wear your hair in a wig all the time, it's just gon na snap off. No, i'm not saying that. But for me it's like that. Okay, but um. I began to notice that did y'all notice, that and even today like even today, not always, but i noticed a lot of girls that wear a lot of wigs or a lot of girls that um just wear a lot of wigs. I noticed that their hair is not always par. Okay - ain't, not always up apart, underneath it's struggling a little bit underneath the edges, ain't always intact. Now this, like, i said this ain't always the case, but from what i have observed from a lot of times and from myself, people's hair don't be looking right up under all this stuff. Sometimes, okay so give your hair a break, especially if you have fine hair except your hair, except your hair, except how it is where'd. It hang out. Okay, let it breathe! Let the let the wind blow through your fine strands. Okay and you're gon na feel so much better and your hair is going to thank you. Your scalp is going to thank you and you are going to notice that while you was pulling your hair back and um slicking it down under that wig, when you just go, i if you just go four to six weeks of not doing that you're gon na Notice, hair popping up in places that you didn't even know your hair grew from okay, because i didn't know my hairline had came down this far so i had started until i had stopped slicking it back so much so if you're, fine, hair girly, my name is Loud she be saying i'm loud, but she loud anyways, i digress, um. If you're, fine, hair, girly, thin, hair girly, give your hair a break and just let it breathe. Okay, let it breathe stop putting in the ponytail. I challenge you to do that. If you can't do it for six weeks, do it for four weeks? Do it for four weeks where you just do not put your hair in a ponytail, you do not slick your hair down. Do it for four weeks, and i promise you will see some growth. I promise you'll see some difference and in that four weeks also continue to be consistent on your regimen as well, and you will notice a big change. The next tip that i have kind of goes in with the last tip that i have so i'm not going to spend too much time on this one, because we spent a lot of time on the last one. So this one is just to leave your hair alone, leave it alone: okay, outside of um, your weekly maintenance, where you wash it and you style it that one time leave it alone. Um take care of your hair at night, wrap it at night, wash it once a week deep condition it once a week. Do your leave-in? Do your pre-poo do all that leave it alone. After that, okay leave it alone, and you will notice from just leaving it alone, not watching it too much, not expecting it to grow, but still taking care of it and doing what you're supposed to do by it. You'Ll notice, like i said, hair, will start popping up and growing out of places that you didn't even know you had on your head. Okay, because that's what happened to me so leave your hair alone. The next tip that i have is to get a trim or cut your hair. If you need to now, i'm hoping i'm hoping if you have just been taking care of your hair, and maybe it's been a few weeks or hope it ain't been a few months. Squirrel hope it ain't been a few months. I hope it's just been a few weeks. Get make sure you're. On top of your trims, i would say anywhere from four to eight weeks. Is a good uh trimming schedule four weeks? If you have like extremely damaged hair and um, you just have very damaged hair. Maybe you should go in every four weeks to just get your hair looked at by a professional, make sure you good make sure you don't need to get nothing cut off, but i think really, if you're trying to actually grow your hair out. I think you can go every six to eight weeks and get your trim and you will be fine and you'll notice. Your hair will look a lot thicker because it'll just be a lot blunter on the end, so it'll be a lot thicker and it. This will allow you to retain more hair and it will prevent your hair from breaking off and thinning out even more because if you have a lot of split ends, not only does your hair look thinner, but it's just continuing to get thinner and thinner and thinner. As those split ends work up the hair shaft and we do not want that so make sure you're on top of your trims or if your hair is severely damaged, you might have to cut an inch or more off, but i promise you it'll grow back. I promise you you: will you may not like the results at first but um? You will gradually begin to love the results and your hair will look so much better. Y'All know i cut my hair in april and i cut my hair. So short, i couldn't put a thing into a ponytail. Okay, that's how short i had cut my hair. Now my hair can go into a ponytail. My hair is much thicker. My hair is much healthier. I think this is the healthiest that my hair has ever been. It'S not the longest that my hair has ever been, but it's definitely um the healthiest that it has been it in high school. My hair was very healthy because i was getting it done once a week, washing it every week taking care of it, and now it is very healthy, because it's very thick i take care of it every week. Y'All know what i'd be doing um, but i don't regret cutting it. I did not like my hair cutting for a shower. I don't know if i told y'all that, but i did not like my hair. I had to put on a front and act like i liked it, but i did not like my hair, i hated my hair when i first cut it because it was so short i felt like it didn't fit me um. It was just very awkward. I just did not like it and i couldn't get it to do right like, but over time as the weeks went on, i grew to appreciate my hair. I grew to love my hair. My hair started growing out. I was able to do more with it as far as styles, and my hair has just flourished ever since, so if you're scared to cut your hair or if you're scared to get those thin scraggly ends cut off. That is what is making your hair look, finer and thinner, and you need to just let it go. Let it go and you're gon na feel so much better, and that brings me to the end of the video, so i hope my fine hair girlies. I hope my thin hair girlies, i hope y'all, like my tips, and i hope that you will implement some of these. If you have not already - and i wish you much love and much success on your hair journey and i love you guys so much. Thank you. So much again for watching and i will see y'all in the next one, bye-bye