Long Beautiful Grey / Gray Hair

Hello friends and thank you for tuning in to the gorgeous gray movement, youtube channel. I am here with a special guest all the way from mexico, carla, thank you and welcome hi. Thank you for having me. Yes, oh my goodness, i've been following her for a while. Look at her hair. Oh my goodness talk about inspiration. If you women are sitting on the fence, your hair could look like her hair. You just have to be patient right and the cool thing is. We just don't know what your hair will look like until you dive in and figure it out a couple things about carla um. You can find her on instagram. She has a huge following, i think, you're just close to hitting that 70 000 mark. So there's a lot of women and probably some men that are following this beautiful woman um. So you can find her at silver girl and then mx of course stands for mexico and she's. Not she lives in mexico and she's, a mama bear she's, a wife, uh and, of course, she's a silver hair advocate, and you will see the beautiful digital content that she does create and, of course, a lot of companies are after her for endorsements, for what she Stands for - and i know that you were just talking of how very picky you are because it has to be the right thing for you to use, and you know so follow her and find out what her favorites are um through instagram. But thank carla. Thank you for being here, um, i'm to dive into the first question and uh the first question that we always have with women uh carla. Why did you go gray, silver um? Why did you let your natural hair color come in because, obviously you know you have been silver for a while, because that does not happen overnight, right yeah. So let's dive into that question. Why the heck did you say yes in a world where we're supposed to hide our natural hair color? I was completely tired of dyeing my hair every it had to be every 15 days. You know because it would start to show, but even on the third day of coloring, you could start seeing like the silvers here. So it was going crazy. It was uh itchy, my head was itchy all the time and my hair was dull lifeless. It wouldn't grow like long, even though, if i tried to it would break, i was losing a lot of hair and i was completely tired of that. So i started like looking for inspiration, another woman and obviously i wanted to see younger women to imagine myself. How would i would look with my natural hair, even though i really didn't know how it was going to grow out too? I mean you, can you can see just like the roots on the front and the sides, and you can imagine how it looks like, but you never know what how it's going to be. I remember asking my husband at the beginning like please: can you take a picture of the back? I want to see how it looks so that's that was basically i was. I was really really tired of the of the keeping up with my colored hair and the dullness of my hair, so i found the courage to do it and try it, and my thinking was always like. If you don't like it, you can always go back to coloring. I love that. So, at what age did you decide to ditch the die? How old were you? I was 42 42. Okay awesome, because that's a big question that women have well. It looks good on you because of you know your age or you're over 50, but you started at um, so talk to the um, the the wonderful women that are going to watch. This is uh. What was your transition and how did you manage through it because, like your hair, i don't think the viewers can see how far down it goes, but it goes down. It'S like yeah. It'S really really long. It'S really long! So yeah, let's go through your transition journey and how long it took you to get to where you are today. Yes, what i what i thought was because i had naturally dark hair. I used to dye it darker, like not completely black but pretty dark. So i was really scared of the transition and looking like the white side and the dark side. So i went to a professional to do a bleaching and i wanted my hair gray like instantly like. I think we all do and she even though she's an expert and one of the best ones in mexico uh she decided like okay, let's do it, let's try it and during the process that took like the whole day, my hair couldn't resist it and it broke. So i ended up with my hair here, so i came out with a yellow horrible color. She wouldn't do anything more and told me like you have to wait one week, so we can do another thing. Don'T wash it don't do anything. So it was a a really difficult process and an expensive one too. So the next week she tried to do another small bleach and my hair was gray and it lasted three days. Gray i mean trying to achieve gray is not easy. It'S it fades. It goes to yellow again, so my hair was like extremely extremely damaged. I couldn't do anything because it would like even smell, like burn. If i tried to use any heat tools, so it was like a difficult process. There'S no shortcut to growing out your your gray hair, so what i did was i started to grow and then cut grow and cut, go and cut until i think it took almost a year in order for it for me to have it here like completely natural. So it takes a long and from that to the lung, i think it takes another two. So it's two for transition and two more for growth, although it's not as long as i have it it it is, it was really long when i started my my account. It was the beginning and it was already long, but then, after growing the account uh, i started to grow a little bit more, my hair, but i think this is the longest i will have it like. Sometimes i i want to cut it and sometimes it's like now. I let's enjoy it a little bit longer yeah, it's gorgeous, i mean i love pixie cuts on women. I love, i mean different lengths and the different styles that happen. I love long. I love just that. You know whatever you feel great in go for it right. So i know for me: um, i kind of went through the same journey as you carla, but i was warned there was a beauty blogger that i followed and she ended up wanting to do exactly what you did and she had long long hair and she lost Half of it she had her video and she had clumps of her hair and she did the same thing. Don'T do this, please don't do it and um, and so when i took it to my hairdresser, she's like oh, we can't do this overnight. This is going gon na take maybe six to ten months for us to slowly, because i was probably dark like you right, i see our eyebrows right, dark eyebrows to match our dark hair and so same thing. It took me about 10 months to that last appointment where i sat in the chair for seven and a half hours to do all of that stuff and yeah within a week. It started to fade and i was like what i just spent all this money. It never warned me that it was going to fade and then i'm like the whole point of me going through this, was not to have to see my hairdresser every two to three weeks and i was like i have to see you every week. Wait. Is it like there's no shortcut? No, no. So people ask me all the time. Would you do it differently, so there's my question to you carla. Would you do it differently if you had a choice to start all over, i think i would. I would probably start like uh toning down my hair to a lighter color and then just grow it i mean, i think, right now, it's more more easy to be outside and have the roots and and the declination line that everybody talks about. I think it's more natural now to see it. I mean six years ago, at least in mexico, there were no one letting their gray hair grow. Like people would look at me and they wouldn't be like negative, but their faces, you can tell they were like. What are you doing? Why do you want to do that to your hair and uh? It will probably make you look older, and even though you know they don't want to hurt, you is what society has taught us, that gray hair is only for old. Ladies and now they all say like now, you were right, like you have beautiful hair and the most common thing i get is like well, a good looks on you and i'm always like. Well, you don't know how it's going to look on you i mean you have to try but yeah. I think i would. I would try a different approach just for my hair to be a little bit healthier than what it happened like. It was completely horrible. Yeah yeah i and i i love women who are brave enough to just go cold turkey and have the white and then the black, and that you know that i know that transition is a little bit hard um but yeah. Oh, my goodness, so tell what are some of the benefits that you have found um going um to this beautiful color. Well now my hair is fuller. I have more hair than i used to. It doesn't fall as much as it's used to, because i mean we all lose hair, because there is a life for her hair now and i don't lose as much hair as i used to when i used to colored it. The softness of the hair and it's like you, returned to the hair you had when you were a kid just another color that that's what i always say like my hair is really really soft uh. This is my natural. Like straight hair, i i tried not to do much to it. Although i love you know curling, i try not to do it as often to keep it uh healthy. So that's the thing like having again coming out of the shower and just let your hair hair air dry. I would never been able to do that when i was coloring and it's something i can do now. That'S amazing - and i think that's just so great for women to hear because often times again, they don't think about the healthy hair that comes with it um. I know when i was uh going through that stage where i had all of these crazy little like hairs, and i said oh, my gosh like what's happening. She goes nicole, that's all new growth, that's not breakage. I thought it was breaking. She goes. Your hair is getting like she goes, you want, you think you have thick hair now, just wait! You'Re going to have thicker hair and it's true, i'm getting always new growth here, you too, and i let them like be free, like just crazy right, yeah yeah, so yeah for women, like the health that you get like my hair grows so fast. I just got my hair cut like four months ago like to, like you, know, uh. You know a sleek cut like that, and it's like just in four months. It'S like it grows so fast, it's so thick um and it does grow faster right, faster with all of the chemicals that we're doing to it so yeah. So that's great and so um as you. You know, move forward and women are looking at you now. You know: what's what advice do you give women when they are, you know sitting on the fence and they're thinking about it, but they're, not sure, what's kind of your advice is um, a mentor that has gone before them? I think that if you are already considering you have this urge to do it, so i always say like: do it just try it? If you don't like it, you can always go back. I mean it's going to take just a couple of months to start to see how it works and probably on the the three first months, are the most difficult ones, because you don't see much progress. But once you get like a bit of a of a growth and you feel you're here you you feel like you want to go for it and you go for another month and then another and when you realize it you're already done, i mean i know it Is a long journey, it is uh, it takes a lot of time, but it's a time when you you learn to love yourself again. You learn to love your image and how you look and you get brave and and don't care what others think, because it's something you're doing for yourself. I think it's one of the few things we do for ourselves without bothering what ours think so, just like go for it. I love that advice and um as we close off. I am. Did you change your clothes, your fashion, your colors did that change for you yeah totally. Now i usually i mean today, i'm in black, but usually - and now i work like bright, pink or colors. I would never do before because it didn't look good with my skin. Now i find that even you know, makeup has changed now i can use different colors and i can go with uh, pastels and bright colors, so your color scheme on clothings accessories and makeup, it's open to much much more. You know diversity. So that's great! I love that well, how fun is that for us too? It'S almost like our front. Half we played with you, know a different image and look and now our back half we get to repeat and give birth to a whole new us right like that's what it is. I would have never worn a color like this um bright blue, my daughter. Oh my gosh, i love that color on you and i've been doing bright greens and great pinks like you and yeah. It'S fun, it's like it's almost like it brings the child like in youth, we're going to have to rebirth and saying this is who i am this is me and then i don't know i feel more childlike. Is that crazy? No, and i also think that we get braver and - and we really embrace who we are - it's, like, i always say it's empowering yeah, although all those months it takes for you to grow, your hair is part of a process of loving yourself and knowing that you Can do whatever you want and also like it comes in an age where we are more uh. You know confident in our own skin, so we realize that time is going by and if you don't enjoy the moment, it's not going to return. So i think that also is a big big thing that plays in this journey of growing and being confident in who we are and what we do and what we want to to enjoy. Yeah yeah, oh such great words, i could talk to you for another half hour about this subject. Um. I just want to thank you for tuning in from mexico uh to be with me today. I just loved your story. I loved your journey. I loved your. You know words of advice and, if you guys are inspired by her story again, you can follow her on instagram, silvergirlmx and uh. Get inspired by you know what she's up to, and you know i always say that when we're going through a transition like this, we need mentors. So this can be one of your mentors um to lean into and be courageous. So, thank you again, carla for turning in you guys have a great day. Everyone, thanks for tuning in to the gorgeous grave movement on youtube channel and, if you like, more of these stories, make sure that you just um subscribe, i'm to hear more of our silver sister uh stories tuned in from all over the world. Thank you. Everybody good afternoon,