Gray Hair Transition Tips

Hi everyone, I'm Roxanne Coles and welcome to my channel today, I'm going to talk about three steps that helped me transition through my gray hair period, and actually these three steps are valuable, no matter what transition you're going through. So I want to share them with you, because I found them to be helpful when I was thinking back on that period of my life. When I, when I transitioned now, I made a video on it and it is a story of how I actually went from long hair short hair. I just chopped it off, but that's a whole other video and please watch that one. If you're interested in my personal story of transitioning - but I didn't mention those three steps in that video I've been thinking about it again lately and I realized it kind of comes down to these basic steps which are really helpful for every transition you go through. So the first one is actually to ask yourself what it is that you value in your life. What is important to you? What is he central to have at that time that I was going through my own personal, great transition? I was a single mom. I had two children to raise and I was very concerned that I might lose my modeling job because at the time there were no gray hair modeled, because this was this was decades ago. So I was concerned, I lose my job and I thought well, if I cut my hair, I would have to go back to school, maybe to get another degree in something to be able to have an income. And yet, when I looked at what for me at the time were were essential what things were essential and what it was that I valued. I realized that it was my my time, my money and that I, if I had gone back to school, I would have used up my time and money to get an education in something and at that time I wanted to stay home with my children. That was another thing that I valued. So if I was in school, I'm going against the two things that I valued, which was staying at home with my children and spending more time and money to get another job when I needed a job quickly to to have the money and the time back. So, knowing that those were my priorities, that was essential, helped me get rid of the fluff, get rid of what wasn't essential and focus on what it was that I valued. It was scary because I did not know at the time that I would still be able to continue. Modeling. Like I said there were no gray hair divisions. There wasn't even a community for which I could get support for transitioning to gray my gosh back. Then they didn't even have hair color to help you turn gray yeah. It was a different time, different era. So when you know what it is that it that it's valuable to you, it gives you clarity of mind. It gives you a certain power and strength to to realize this is this is important. I value this, I'm going to stick to it. These are my values. Our culture has so many distractions. There'S a lot of fluff in our world to veer us off course. So to speak, and you know that shiny object syndrome - and I think you might agree that time is very precious, valuable, fleeting and it's even more essential to stay on track with what it is. That'S important to you. Otherwise, you might spend so much more time doing something at the end. You realize what is it I just did. I don't even remember it wasn't even that important. It didn't bring value back to me or to anyone else. You know when you clarify, what's important to you: you begin to live more of your authentic life and you begin to have more clarity of mind and you are able to actualize your dreams and obtain your goals. So, there's quite a few benefits from knowing what is necessary for your life as far as what it is you value in keeping that very front and center, it gave me the desire to go forward, even though I was stepping into my fear I was fearing. I would lose my job and yet I got to the point where I realized. My values were extremely important to me and it gave me like, I said, a certain inner strength to go forward. Even though I didn't have the support I knew I was doing something right for me and lo and behold it turned out great it's interesting when you let go of something it gets replaced with something that's better. So I never knew that, even though I was going to be letting go of my modeling career, I never know that. I never dreamed that I would be in vogue at 61 years old interviewed quoted with my name next to my picture, not once but three times in one year phenomenal phenomenal, and I really believe it is because I stayed on my own authentic course. You see how this could reverberate into other topics: other transitions in one's life, rather than just the gray hair. This brings me to point number two, which is to be open, relinquish. What you think you are in control of I thought I was in control of my modeling career if I looked a certain way which was having the dark hair, and I let go of that. It was really scary because I didn't know what I was getting into or what what would become of it, but I relinquished it. I realized I, I really don't have control over over what it is. My looks bring me, but I have control over how it is. I want to feel see the difference, so I was actually holding on to this false sense of who I thought I was it was actually holding on to nothing. It was just a false sense. It was fabricated in my own mind, that's why I think point number. Two is is, it is, is is important because you need to be open to possibilities of say, for example, and new you be open to something that you haven't seen yet or heard yet or thought yet. But it can't present itself to you until you're in the right space, the right space, meaning they you know, but do we see receiving something that you haven't even thought possible kind of works that way you know you have to let go of something to get something And then point three is to trust trust. I suppose it's very challenging for a lot of people, because they it's it's kind of nebulous. It'S not concrete. It'S almost. You know in another dimension like what is it that you're trusting it's unseen. It can be felt inside of yourself this this knowing of trust, but it can be a very scary thing to step into and embrace because of those reasons. Somehow, for me at that difficult period that I was in years ago and and having no one really did turn to for support, I turned inward, so I guess you could say I've trusted my my gut. I trusted my my inner voice. I justed my instinct. I really believe that your instincts never mislead. You they're always there to help guide you. If you listen, if you take a moment to try to get a sense of a feeling by listening, I don't actually mean a voice. You know the kind of voice you hear and your ears, I'm actually talking about a something you feel inside a certain knowing that you that you sense inside that you that you sense this is the way to go, and when you put all of that together, this Scraping away the non-essentials and sticking to what you value and being open to new possibilities to a new version of yourself and trusting that it will be okay, trusting that the universe has your back, that? Yes, you do need to plan, you know and when I trusted that things would be okay as a single mom. Of course, I had to be wise and frugal and plan, but things did turn out. Okay, I actually took my experience as a model and opened a modeling school and I counseled teenage girls how to build their self-esteem. I had that for 10 years so that fit into my definition of what I valued. I was able to utilize my job and my knowledge and - and it brought me back my time so I could spend with my kids and be available to them and make my own schedule, and it brought me at the income I needed to to make a living And like like, I said, these 3 steps are so helpful for any transition. You go through because transitions are can be difficult, scary, unknown, uncomfortable, not familiar, and it takes some guts really to get yourself through it, and you might agree that this world today is kind of not and we are going to get through. It remember what is valuable to you: get rid of the fluff focus on what is essential, be open to new possibilities in your life, trust that they will come and that you will be cared for turn to people that you can support turn to people that can Support you you're not alone, feel that support feel that love trust that you are also guided towards what to do next. That'S that instinct, I'm talking about that's that inner voice, that never misleads you, and I must say when I did decide to go gray and it started to grow in. I never felt so empowered. I never felt so capable and I never felt as authentic as then, and those are incredible qualities to help you move forward to get you through turbulent times or through any transition. When you take those steps to empower yourself and make you feel like you are capable, then you become capable and you are empowered, and I wish that for you and I want to offer you a free report, it's on my website. If you join the mailing list, it's about secrets to beauty and some of those secrets are about cultivating the inner beauty, because when you do listen to that inner voice, it washes over you a certain peace and a beauty and equality. So this report might be a beginning step. There are more tips, there are 5 tips, and this video gave you three so already. You'Ve 8 tips ahead towards a new transition to get you through and if you're interested in even more there is a e-book on my website for sale. So please subscribe, so you won't miss any more pieces of advice. From my experience, that's what I can offer you now and I'll be offering more in the future. So please subscribe so you'll stay tuned and be updated and not miss my my upcoming offerings. I love you. God bless you bye for now.