How To Be Confident W/ Gray Hair | Sunita'S Grey Hair Interview Representing Indian Silver Sis

If you want to see something that can come out of this gray hair journey, how you could really transform into who you are your authentic self, then you're gon na love, this interview, something that can come out of this gray hair journey, how you could really transform Into who you are your authentic self, then you're gon na love this interview, my name is i'm from south india, i'm across chennai and settled down in luxembourg for 20 years and i'm 44 years old and more pretties. When did you notice your gray hair start to come in in my early 20s, like 21 or 22, i started seeing my grades very few, just one or two strands and not much. You can say some white and then the black goes down like this. So it is viewable very quick clearly, because in between the black hair, you can see the gray there one or two strands. It was in early 20s, and this is so important for the gray hair community to know because many people think it's just when you get in your advanced years, that you gray, but from many women that i speak to. It happens in the teenage years or early 20s. So, just if you're watching this and you're greying you're not alone, did someone inspire you to go gray or what made you make the decision to go gray and actually, when it turned around 40. I wanted to stop the using the chemicals on my hair, so i was thinking like. Why should i use something that, against my nature, and so i started to look for instagram and pinterest pictures so that i can get along with the transition journey, but i saw all of the international sisters, but not my wife, like indian sisters. So when i saw anjana from sparkling silvers, i got like wow she's there somebody's there to encourage us, so i immediately messaged her and she said yeah i can join the community and then through her. I found this third sister's community. So i should i'm always grateful for her without her. I don't have been here. Thank you, anjana. You know somebody's gon na be saying. Thank you to you because it starts with one person and then another person. Does it and you never know yeah, that's the more. I recently saw someone reply to my message saying that you uh that's in writing. You inspired by angela, but i inspired by you because your inspiration to everyone, but so when i hear that so my god, okay good, it goes to show how important representation is. You know and sharing our journey we may be shy, but by coming outside of our box we can help to inspire. You know other women. How did you go gray? I went cold turkey, so my pose from the beginning. I would let it grow just like that. I didn't want to do anything going to the salon to change with the highlights for nothing: no chemicals just cold turkey. I went from i started from the pixie like you this way from here and then let it grow and to let the grape grows together. With my hair, when you decided to go gray, did you get support and if you did, who was your biggest supporter? I have to tell the truth. I didn't have any support from anyone, not even with my family. They were all against it. They said you're. Very hang, you should look and then your husband - and this is not your right age - you can go after 60. for first time when i went for one year and then everybody was doing me a pressure that why did you go? Why did you do they? Don'T look good on you suddenly i went back to doing the chemicals again and then after one to two years i started that. No, i i'm going to do this for me not for anybody, it's for me, so i spoke to them. I said i'm very strong in my decision. I'M going right now. So please no comments from you, so i got support from myself. I said: hey, you have to go. You have to do by yourself, that's awesome, but i'm also proud of you for reaching outside of your local and your family and saying you know what i'm going to find a tribe. I'M sure the silver sister community welcomed you with open arms. You are a delight on instagram you're, very warm, very supportive of other people's pages, so you fit right in because i know the pain you know when you don't get any support you you feel that so i always see i stand in the other person's place and I think like if it was me, how will i feel so many newbies are there. I just go there. I just mention them. I tell them, you can do it, you rock the loop. I keep supporting them, it gives them some spirit. You know the positive spirit on them like i can do that you let people know for sure. This is what i'm doing. I don't want to hear it, but did you still get some feedback from negative feedback from people from my family? I didn't get anything from my colleague i bought someone people. She. They told that you have to start coloring your hair, it's like! Oh really, i didn't have mirror at my home. I didn't see my hair, i mean. Do i need a color. You don't need to tell me, i know that, because i'm being more than few months, not coloring my hair, so i know that what i'm doing so she said she was asking me the next question. Why am doing this? I said i'm doing this for me, i don't want anything because i don't want to hide behind any chemical behind anything, and this is me this is my real hair. You can accept me, or just i think that is so powerful, because a lot of people - that is the first thing they think about what are other people gon na think. When i hear stories like yours, it shows that we can survive other people's comments. We can survive other people's negative feedback when you yourself are like this is what i'm doing this is me. I love that this is me, even though this is what you decided did you have any emotions that came up as the gray was coming in or things that you struggled with, or no no, because when i do when i decide to do something i make up My mind very clear that i'm gon na get a decision would be negative. Things would be happening around me, so i should accept it. It'S like when i went to the pixie cut. Also it was the same. I had a long hair, so i know it's a big shock after when i go for the pixie cut. I need to accept all the negative things like waking up with them with the hair like here and there you have to quickly fix it up and you will not have a flawless hair like this and like that. So it's so. I made up my mind when you go and pray. Yes, mindset is very important. Yes, what made you decide to go from the long did you know from the beginning that you were going to cut your hair or what made you know how to cut? No, i i like, i like the hair transformation once in a while. Like i go well, two years before i went to pixie cotton tear i let it grow until here and then year and then here i just cut it back again, so i keep changing my root for every six months like that. So when i had my long hair, i went like this once again uh six months before i cut it short like this, and i was like it was so usual look. I wanted to go a drastic change, every everything with my gray hair, so i thought. Okay, let me go for things like that. The moment i saw you come up on my feed with your short haircut. I said. Oh, my goodness, it's something about short hair. That puts your face out and you get to see your face more and it just fits you so nicely. How do you feel now that you cut your hair very confident? What'S the difference between when you were growing it out and because you kind of that kind of made, you go all gray overnight. Yes, you have a freedom, you don't need to uh every two weeks. You don't need to go and search for the box to color. It after after doing this all the work, hard work inside and in two three days you see a strand white strand here and there's like oh, my god not again now do you find when you first started grain, like you have more gray now than when you First, stop dyeing your hair! Yes, yes, do you find that you did anything different with your fashion or your makeup now that you're gray? No, i i might say that i'm hearing a lot of series nowadays with the with the big sea and with the grays, because especially for the indian woman's, they feel like this gray, hair or the style i make with my hair. It goes for the western costume. It'S not that you can drop with your sarees. That'S why very often i post pictures with my sari with my jaws and everything so that to show them that gray, hair can be done in your series. Also, i think that's a beautiful thing. You'Re able to show women of your culture that you can still stay true to your heritage and your background, even with your gray hair that it's not just a western trend, we all go gray, no matter what culture and you do it so beautifully like with your Videos, like i think you had one where you showed different colors. Yes, yes, yes, i make it especially for the gray hair, because people think gray, hair with the other colors will not match like only like black or some dark colors. So i want to especially make the video for matching with every colors when you go gray, the right way to go gray is the way that works for you, and i love that you did this, because it also proves that you could change your mind. You can decide one minute, you know what i like this and then the next minute to cut your hair. What is your favorite thing about being gray, i feel more confident and strong and i'm being myself, what are the benefits? Besides confidence that you gained from the gray hair journey the benefits, i should say that you don't need to think about coloring. First thing, you know, that's special stress. You have always like two weeks when you go for the work. When you see your gray hair on the sides like, oh my god, i need to hide it. I need to cover it. That stress is not there, so that's a big benefit for us. Secondly, when i go nature, the hair is so good. It accepts the nature. Now - and it helps us to grow very good like it, it's not falling a lot like before it's very, very thin like before, so that nature is there. So i'm really happy and the benefit is that it's natural many can find that their hair does better when they stop dying. Also when you're going gray, you might have a second thought why i should i'll go back to color, so think about your hair. You know the dye enters into your scalp, so it changes your skin. That was interesting that you mentioned that, because i remember when i was getting relaxers to keep my hair straight when it was time for the relaxer my face would break out, but the moment i got the relaxer my skin did better, so your skin can react to The dyes and things that you get in your hair as well to those not just any woman, but specifically what advice? Would you give the woman in your culture about going first thing i will say strong ones, you are doing it for you for nobody else. I have to ask permission: i need the approval of someone. No, you decide. If you want to go grey, then you make up your mind strong and then you go great because it it gives you a strong thing. When somebody gives you a negative uh comment, or something like that, you're very, very strong, in giving back the reply, like i'm doing this for me and normal negative comments, if you don't decide it by yourself, then the negative uh comments will affect you. You'Ll feel like guilty like what are i doing is wrong. No. Secondly, the journey is very slow and don't compare or compete with anybody. You are unique, your silvers are you when you go for going gray, never forget to take pictures or video or slow motion, even if it's one strand or two strands never mind take a picture, because i did that from the beginning of my post. You can see. I did some slow motion, videos, normal videos and then after one year, when he started to post together with the collage it's nice to see. I enjoyed my video myself, so it's really nice to see one year of journey how it was so. Please don't forget to make your journey with the pictures and videos, i'm so so happy that i got a chance to interview the lovely sunita. I love to hear from you guys what you enjoyed from sunita's interview. I really appreciated the points that she brought. The biggest thing that i got from your interview, my take away is the confidence i like that. You made a intentional decision. You decided for yourself first. This is something that i want to do you communicated that to those that were around you that look. This is a decision that i'm making and even when someone gave you a comment, you were grounded in your decision and i think that that is beautiful, and i love that you said the confidence grew because, like i said i saw it. I feel like from when i first saw you on there to when you cut your hair. It was just like it's grown and grown, so it's been so beautiful to see myself and then now to get a chance to interview you and now have you help inspire someone else to be able to stand in who they are and feel comfortable in their own Skin, whatever culture, that is, i love that you show that gray hair is universal. It'S not just a western thing myself. It was good to see women of color, because i saw a lot of women beautiful women and i love the silver sister community is inclusive. They invite you they take you in, but it is nice for each of us within the community to make these pockets so that when somebody comes in they're like there, i am you know, i'm right there. This there's this person. So in 2019 december i went to india for a christmas celebration with my family and when my sister saw me with a gray hair, my second sister she started to comment like um. Do you think people will accept here in india, everybody's gon na stare at you? I said let them stare at me. Okay, so we went to a hotel, we were having our lunch and everybody was staring at me hair and they were pinpointing. My hair, i think my sister noticed you just said. I told you that people notice here i said maybe they saw me in instagram - i think maybe i'm famous here and she was like. No, they are. They are saying this girl is having some problem with your hair she's, not coloring, your hair. I said let them think whatever they want. Okay, but everybody's in my uh point of view like everybody's staring at me, so they have something noticed on my hair. So let them go and talk, then, after one, a few days after me and my sister were traveling in a train and we were down in store. One lady approached me suddenly behind me and she hugged me and she said you look so pretty keep going like this and she left. I don't know who was who was that lady and she just came, hurt me and whispered in my hair. My sister was there. She was shocked and she was looking at me. She said, oh, my god. Now i notice that people like your gray hair. I know she started to go agreement now, she's going right now, she's going gray. Now i was like see i inspired my sister. That'S so awesome that that's like such a beautiful story, and it shows that we also don't have to take personally when people say comments, because, especially when you're doing something outside of the norm, i can admit i was guilty of looking at women before my mom. You know she graded before me and i've seen the two-tone and i was like i don't know. I don't know if i like it, but once all of her hair came in of course, and then look at me how many two three years later, i went gray. So that is a beautiful gift from the gray hair journey to be able to inspire, because without trying you never know how it's going to turn up. So when you go gray, you will know how the break starts to come. Yes, it's a unique pattern for every single sister. Yes, it's a very unique pattern, embrace it be an inspiration to everybody, and i like that, you said to your sister: let them look at me. You know you can't control other people, you get scared. If you get scared, like people are looking at me, if you get embarrassed about it, you will not come out of your own fear. So when i went when i started to work, i had full black hair and when i went gray hair it started to confuse friends. I wasn't feeling shy because i made up my mind. I just walked like that and people staring at me. I said: okay, look at my hair like here and there yeah you want. Even more look at me. Come closer. I don't mind right. I love that. No now they know i'm totally going grey, so people started, and everybody start to say like it looks so gorgeous with this haircut with your grace, my god, what i love that we do is we give people a vision into possibility if you've never seen it before You don't know what to expect. People will look at your hair and they can get an idea that it can gray. Hair is beautiful, gray hair is not just for when we get older. I love this design. You have on your uh. Sorry, oh thank you. It'S sparkling and slowly air. That'S what you do. It just shines. Okay, thank you. You know, because of your confidence and because of feeling comfortable in your skin. That'S what shines just like that. So it's perfect when you guys look at that! That'S what you can do! Our outside i'm not going to sit here and say i mean i did make up. I did my hair, so we care about how we look, but there's so much more to us than our physical and our looks most of the women who i've met are just so beautiful inside yourself included, and so you let that shine through. You don't have to you know it's not just based on these things. Sisters need to be kind with the other sisters, also yeah, when they, when they post pictures, just don't ignore them, go and give a lovely comment so that they feel confident. We doesn't know what they went through that same day before taking that picture and posting it. So when you go and give a positive comment on a gray hair, they feel so happy like somebody's there to invite us inside somebody's there to give a positive work on that the day will change for them. Well, thank you. So much for sharing this beautiful part of you and for supporting other women and for just making the gray hair experience attractive because of how you look at it. Really it goes to show mindset, is a big key. How you, how you think about things? How you approach things can affect your experience, so take sunita's advice and if you see a woman who makes sure that's what she's doing intentionally, but if she's got her gray roots, maybe even if she's, not maybe she's, you know hasn't colored her hair. Yet - and you tell her, you look beautiful, i love your roots, that might you never know how you can make someone's day. I'D love to hear from you guys what you enjoyed, what advice that you would like to give anybody just starting their gray hair journey and, as always, we always encourage right to embrace the wings that you have, and i love that sunita said. Don'T compare your hair to others, because your hair, your crown, is unique. So you need to love that and then others will follow your lead. I look forward to seeing you guys on the next video bye, bye,