Black Women Should Stop Wearing Fake Hair And Go Natural?! L Random Conversations

All right um, so lately I've actually been feeling really funny about going to into beauty supply stores and for so many reasons for such a long time. You know like I always do like fake hair and stuff, like that. I don't really wear out my natural hair and someone actually brought this up to me last year, saying like how come you? Never, you know where your natural hair and it's not something I've actually had to think about like in my in my entire life. I'Ve always like done my hair if you either had an embrace or I've had like you know, weaves and like crocheted my hair. So ever since that conversation with that person, I've been just been really thinking about a lot about hair and just thinking about you know why. Why exactly don't I wear my natural hair? Why don't I just you know embrace what God had given to me. I got you I mean, I think, is that it's just like for me. I started relaxing my hair or my I should say my mom relaxed my hair when I was 8 just because I was always screaming, because I have really thick hair yeah, but I was always always always screaming just every time when she got put a comb through It because, at least at the time I was very tender headed and my hair like because it is very thick and overall pretty strong. It would be like really thick for, like from 8 through now, I'm 24. So all that time for 16 years, like I had thick but relaxed, hair, yeah and everybody was always jealous of it and every time I worked down like white people, black people, everybody would be like wow. You have so much hair on your head. Why don't you wear it down? More often yeah, like again, it's maintenance. I just I wear my hair in a bun all the time. It'S a dress because it's convenient, but then when I always wear it up, then people will say: oh, why don't you just go natural if you always wear your hair up, because it's the equivalent of wearing it short and yeah, but I just can't get I'm so Used to having long hair freaks me out to cut it short and then it's just like hard to think do I want. I want convenience, but I'm also scared to have short natural hair. At the same time see times, I'm always jealous of other people's facial structures. Like their bone structures, where they wear and that's what yeah natural hair looks so pretty of so many people and because of their face exactly but like I get it sure boy yeah. Sometimes I look at other people with natural hair. I'M always so amazingly, it looks so beautiful on demo, I'm just like how do I get? How can i I feel like one of my issue is styling, my hair? How do i style my hair because I'm so used to having like that? You know the convenient here where I don't have to do too much to it every morning, but at the same time, I'd rather box braids at least twice just for when you do crochet, you can get the same style famous, exactly wrap it at night, yeah hook Up and you're done, but like just um recently, I've been feeling just like this new awakening in me, where I'm just like I kind of want to rock my natural here. I kind of want to be like my true, authentic self, because God made our hair. You know like it's, not something for us to be, you know ashamed of which a lot of people are not, but I do feel like society has made. It seem, like our hair is lesser than other hair and I feel like that's kind of like messed up. Our mentality and I do the same time. Here'S the thing like Society will tell us that and yeah. It takes work and it's hard because we're also used to like the European standard. Above you wake up, you're Russian. You go exactly and like yeah. It takes time, but technically we can do our own washing yeah. We can definitely deal with that. It takes time, but is it not the best hairstyle when it's done correctly? It'S not one of me natural hairs about it's. Just it doesn't make sense. It is a society and like no offense to other here, but I do feel like our hair is very unique and I remember someone making a video on YouTube. Think talking about how our hair is kind of like a crown when you wear it and kind of like comb it through, you can see kind of how it's like a shape of a crown, and it makes us seem really like. That'S what makes us special and different sheets us from other people from other races as well, so after what she said that it kind of like it made me think about a lot of things like wow. First of all, our hair is shaped like a crown when you actually like kind of um like when you went almost like when you would come home royalty and then. Secondly, I read somewhere where it said that our hair was made because we originated from Africa. Like all you know, black a lot of black people are, if not all of them originated from Africa and our hair was kind of texture was made to protect it from the Sun. Since there are a lot of Sun in Africa, so it made it seem very unique because they just thought God created our hair me protection our skin for protection that was protecting from the Sun as well as why we have so much melanin in our skin. We were built to serve to survive and it just makes it it kind of brings a strength in you like wow, like it sounds so beautiful and unique, in a way that you know you're you're kind of different from other people work. Well, actually, that's my thing, which is what, like I'm thinking? Okay, so and it's like one of those thing where it's like no offense to other races, but for black people. It'S just like it used to be way back when that it was black people who were the entertainers. But now it's like you're noticing like if you look there's this amazing group on YouTube, called 1 million dance studio. It'S a Korean group and there are amazing dancers, but it I remember I was talking with one of my roommates and she was saying. Are you kidding me? It'S just like. Wasn'T that supposed to be a black thing like? Wasn'T it black people who were supposed to own dancing? But I was like: wasn't it black people supposed to own singing mm-hm? Then it came back to our bodies. Everybody would always make like people have stories for days of people who make of other races, making fun of black people for big lips thing, but now who's who look at all these other races. Getting these lip fillers and you have oh everybody's, making fun of like black women having big butts, even black men having big, butts yeah, but then who's getting the butt injections, who's going and getting the surgery who's, doing squats yeah and stop just to achieve what I Never live like, and then on top of that now I'm just like what is the one thing I'm like: if everybody can do their squats and get our butts if everyone can get their surgeries and get injections, what is the one thing that black people have that? No one else can take from them and it's our hair. So why not embrace our natural hair because there's you know they can always get wigs, but they can never have our hair exactly. I feel like our hair. Definitely that's you know, that's something. I'M just one of the things I've just been thinking about lately and I've also been thinking about like black businesses like instead of us, like investing in all these other. Like you know, racial groups, why don't we invest in our own businesses? Why don't we own our own products on our own beauty supply? So we can invest back into our community because, like whenever I go to all these beauty, supply stores are mainly owned by an Asian like I've, never been to a beauty supply that was actually owned by you know a black person or someone from other races, always By Asians - and I probably need to do a research on why that is the case and first of all, probably because because of what society did to us, mm-hmm, that's the hair that we are wearing South Asian hair exactly and I sometimes are resilient yeah. Sometimes I do think to myself, while I'm going in there to spend my cash when this cash can be going into the black community or wow. Like you, never know what they're thinking about us like they're like wow, these people really do not like their hair they're. Here bring buying fake extensions, because what do you really exactly know what's going on in their mind when you walk into that store, when you go into those stores, you only see black people and I feel like there's nothing against other races and I do love everyone. I do believe everyone was me from God and we need to love each other, but I do feel like racism exists more in the Asian communities towards black people. So imagine these people being more racist towards you, but they're selling these things to you. What do they accept? What exactly do they think about, and how does that make you make sure you make you look at the people. It makes you look that, like you, don't value yourself, you don't think you're worthy you're coming to buy fake hair you're coming to buy relaxers, to relax your hair, what they probably think like wow. These people have like such low self-esteem. We keep ourselves down and we keep letting people trample over us that exact black people actually accept in themselves. Imagine what we could do if we could get rid of that self-hatred. Imagine what we could do and that's not to say if you want to do another style, I'm not saying I'm against, like people wearing with oh yeah. Definitely I'm not against that. I mean personally yeah. I my scalp needs to breathe, which is why I never did. Crochet never did wigs. No, I did weave. I did have box braids. I did have senegalese twists, I'm not doing those anymore just because I'm tired of sitting down for 10 hours just to have like half my head yeah but like imagine like, if that wasn't the case like especially like of all things like, and I'm sure this is Psychologically, even for me like, I want to have long hair all the time, but you know what, if I could get past what short natural eggs exactly what if I just when what, if yeah, what Arabian or African country you don't understand how quick? I would find the scissors to a guy exactly what is longer short actual here anyway, because a big conditioned our mind to think that we all have to have long bone straight hair or even then people will say. Oh, I don't have short now literal conversations. I'Ve had with people, I don't want to have short natural hair, because I want to have the pixie cut. Do you know what the pixie cut is? Pixie cut is basically like black people that have the pixie cut. It'S either a wig or their hair straightened or relaxed so either way, you're going back to the same European standards. Okay Twiggy, who was, I only know her from America's next time out. Oh so again, a Twiggy like it she's like a beautiful model yeah but like again where's like the black person who's representing that IRA banks on that show, did you ever worry or not exactly and a lot of dis. I kind of I mean. I know our parents didn't really know any better by slightly blame, like our parents as well, because I feel like growing up like we maybe before I was a teenager, but when I was a teenager we always like did our hair and I think, maybe for my Mom, it was mostly that convenience, the hundreds - it was more of a convenience thing where she didn't really. She didn't really have time to be doing our hair all the time, but I do feel like I'm natural hair. Promoting you know. Wearing our natural styles wasn't really talked about in our home; it would just like you should do whatever is quick, so you can go to school. Get work done. Do you really talk about? Okay, um? You need to embrace your natural hair. You relaxer yeah. I mean for me personally, I know some people relax it less yeah I relaxed maybe like a once, someone digs and it's just like so like when you have that you relaxed once a month and then it's just like you just have it. So you can comb through and it is what it exactly like in Nigeria, a lot of people now wearing like wigs and weave like they're. Not as so many Nigerians like you know, relax your hair, but I do slightly see that they're changing as some people are kind of changing to more natural hair. Now because I guess maybe they're more aware now, I worry that they're more aware or yeah everyone, everyone hates America, but everyone wants to be a mess that now that black embracing it exactly because I remember when I was living in Nigeria like every adult - was wearing Like you know, they were wearing all these wigs and weaves, like you, never catch them dead with like their natural hair like it was crazy. You know it was only like the children that you would see where you say. Oh, my mom, though my mom never wore weaves. Oh, she actually she's the same as me. She only ever really did box braids yeah um, but let's when I was young, she cut her hair short and she was rocking short natural hair for a long time and then, as he grew out longer and longer, then she relaxed it again. Yeah then now she's cut it again, but now it's funny because she's the one that got me on the path of relaxing and then it wasn't until a few years ago that she started almost like begging me like yeah. Just go natural, just go natural! Exactly it's like look at how I have to like, rethink and unlearn all the things I've learned about, like natural hair and just you know, hair, wigs and Weez, because I've just been thinking all my life. Just do this hair get it done, go to school this, but I think definitely we need to like look deep and just kind of think. Okay. Why do we wear these hair? I mean God didn't give us things that we couldn't handle like. So he gave us our hair he'd, probably think thought that we, you know we could definitely take care of the word, be able to manage it, and sometimes I for depending on the person exactly and that's the thing, I'm like the same way that I have my Relying I'm transitioning now, but the same way that I'm relaxing or I was relaxing my hair and just kept wearing it in a bun and then down for special occasions. If, if like, for instance, my natural hair, the same way, I put it up in a bun. If I'm, if I'm not meant to maintain long natural hair, why don't I just keep it short, exactly keep it short, unnatural. Anything. The easiest hair to maintain is short in that natural hair, exactly pick it out in your head. I just don't know what my fear with fear is, was short and natural hair, but I think definitely would have any variable. Think it's because it questions like femininity, exactly whether. Why should that be the case. Do like I've seen a lot of people who were no? Here'S like a woman - I can you know thousand percent, say that that actually ties into society, because society does like females, they want people to be very feminine and the way that you can look at how they treat a Michelle Obama they'd stay with her toned arms. Oh she's masculine are you Michelle Obama? Michelle Obama is the strongest, but like most feminine person, ever okay. I feel good Michelle Obama, people just look for things to exactly protect she's she's. I feel like personally she's, not even the first lady yeah and people are still having issues yeah yeah, Michelle Obama's, I'm getting more than fortunately, for me, people just find things who's. Michelle Obama is one of the most well educated, his first lady in the history of American, so so so eloquent so sophisticated just and she really took his role as she took her role as first lady very seriously, and she did the best that she could so Sometimes I never really understand where all this hatred is coming from, and sometimes my people will even call her like names because of her feature like features they'll call her like a girl ad or call her all these things like. Is it because Ellis? Is this because she's black diner jealous she looks like a gorilla like who says that, just like you know the first lady first a lady nor ever and she's, not one of the most the classiest most elegant, everything she's most educated. You know it's just because of. Oh she's, like black, so automatic all of a sudden people have anything you find anything to say about her. It'S just you know what it is. It'S just a cheap shot. It'S like yeah when you were like younger and you'd, have arguments with your siblings and against the point where, like you have nothing to say so you just do something stupid. You know they have nothing bad to say so. They'Re just like. Oh, let's take some cheap shots, yeah and that's what they do. They do it to Michelle Obama. They do it to the rest. Yeah! That'S right for me like, after all, just like thinking about like the weepy other people think about us and the way we treat ourselves like I've been thinking like when I have children. I definitely want to instill in them like just being able to love yourself like the way you are being able to love your hair, the way God made it. You know like that's what I'm thinking to myself like they probably won't be able to like wear wigs and weaves, so maybe they're 18, or something like that. So they learn to know. I learned to take care of their natural hair, learn to rock that's a good way to use them yeah like yeah, here's the thing this would be like the equivalent of no offense to my mom. My mom did what she couldn't go: yeah yeah. It was the same like I do it all over gon na I'd still like. Obviously let my mom relax my hair, but the thing is that I think what it should be is like, if, if you were to work in present-day now like if it was the same thing, if, for instance, your kid has long, if it was like me, my Kid was a massively long, hair, very strong, hair, beautiful natural hair, but just can't handle it. You ask the kid: do you want it? Do you want us to comb it out or do you want to cut it and then they can either rock it short or or they get along yeah? So that's definitely like the changes I want to make. I definitely know like it was. It was mainly due to like they were really a. They were kind of brainwashed to think that there was a specific standard of beauty. But now I feel like we're all going through like an awakening as like. A black society of black community we're all thinking about different things and just questioning a lot of things like throughout history. So that's making us change the way we think about ourselves, so definitely yeah. So so that's all that we have for today. Thank you for our first pass, then stay tuned for more. Thank you.