Grwm: Black Women And Hair, Interview Season, Match Day Updates!

Hey guys welcome back to another video. Thank you so much for tuning in we ended a little different environment. You know we have to switch it up right, quick, but we're so happy that you decided to join us today. You know i have to ask: how are you feeling this morning well this afternoon or evening morning, where every whatever time it is where you are, have you looked in the mirror and tell yourself that you're beautiful? If not stop this video go ahead and do that and then come right back and we get started yes. So in this video we're going to be talking to you guys about black hair and like our journey in medical school as pre-meds and now doing residency interviews like how we kind of like navigate that experience and we're also going to be straightening our hair curling. I'M going to trade in my hair, i'm going to be using the curling wine with some special products that were shipped to us from duvall. 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So much we could talk about we'll talk about just like being black women in the medical field going through medical school in our hair, because, first of all it changes so much for us like one day we'll have braids the next day, we'll have a wig. The next day, i'll have my natural throw out like it changes, but it's hard to keep up with your hair when you're in school you're studying like 12 hours a day like you're, going you're in rotations on your clerkships and you're working weird hours, you're working 24 Hour shifts like it gets hard and then now transitioning to interview season. Well, we wrapped up energy season that was like a whole nother ball game with our hair and like our headshots, so we're just going to talk about like what we've done throughout these four years. Um to take care of our hair to make sure that we maintain healthy hair during that time and just like protective styles that we use as well. And so honestly, i was in the market for a curling wand and then, like god, just put it on their heart, yeah and so um, because i've been getting into wigs again lately, just because it's easier and it's like i'm trying to make get my hair healthy Again because stuff orange just to grow out and my hair was kind of going through it, and so i'm just trying to like come back from that, and so i want to get back into like wigs and a lot more protective styles. And so i was like. I love the way my hair looks when it's like long curled, my natural hair, as well as like with wigs and stuff, and so i was in the market for a long curl, and so we have one so we're gon na do a little unboxing. I have the wand curler the neck, it has the straightener. I have been using my old flat iron since, like middle school, so i haven't had, i haven't, bought a new flat iron in a long time. So you know this was a perfect timing for me as well, so a little unboxing, it's really cute so like it comes like this and it's kind of looks like you can't just see it's like sweat, slides out, it's really big and sturdy, and they have the Black um ironing rods inside and it has pink and black green instructions. And then mine comes with a little glove because y'all know when you use these curling wands like it's hot and then like you, have to grab the hair after you're finished. And then, if you don't have a glove you're going to bring your hands first, this is really crazy. So we plugged in our devices and we're gon na just hop into the video. So don't forget our promo code for seventy percent off of your own products is choco doc, chocolate stocks right. There you'll see it so yeah um, let's get into it. Let'S get into it. I put my glove on y'all. It'S so cute, though it has like the ball on here. It'S nice, i feel like i'm going into surgery, okay, so first off, i probably got into wigs when i was like too young to be doing getting into wigs. My mom always wear wigs, like literally all the time, and so i remember telling her like. Oh my god, i want to lie and she was like yeah. Don'T ever ask me for lace wig again, and so then you know when i got to college um. I was really for me personally like a lot of black girls. I wore my hair relaxed for the longest time and then i just got tired of it and i started doing like you part wigs, that's how kind of transition it's like getting weave in my hair and so from there from you part wigs. I finally did like the big chop like with like bathroom scissors like or not even bathrooms, like projects scissors, it was like not. This is usual yeah. All that all that that's what i used to cut my hair and so from there. What did i do so? I was scared to get a closure because for me personally, i was like oh was natural. I don't really like how it looks back then i personally didn't feel like closures. Looked that natural, it wasn't going to be my thing um, and so i'm that person when i'm like hell, bent on something like it's not gon na work. For me, i just don't do it, but when i got the big job i had to transition from you part wigs to closures, and so i got into that. I learned how to make my own wigs um. My friends in college taught me how to talk, so it was like go on youtube and find a video that talks about how to make a wig, and so i started making my own wigs. I would just buy the um, i would just buy the bundles and the closure and speak for myself. That'S how i pretty much save money and i got into wigs. I felt like my natural hair. At that time it was giving me twa. I didn't really know how what to do with this. I just kept it in wigs for so long, and so i just got obsessed with wigs. So that's why i'm have some it's just so much. It'S so much easier to me um to handle. I feel like natural hair is not hard to handle necessarily like my hair is not hard to manage at all. I feel because it's a lot it's time consuming when you're late or like on a night shift or tired. You don't feel like tired, 30 minutes, not even talking about twisting the hair. You have to untwist it in the morning for it to look nice or look presentable, and so i mean under this wig i have mini twists in and it's been a lightsaber as far as my lazy butt lucky my gutsy like yeah, i i like wear natural Hair all my life, well, i mean it was relaxed. I got ta relax when i was like nine, but like i never wear weave, i never wore braids like nothing until i got to my senior year in high school and it was for prom and i was like ooh. I want a little weed, so i had like a half selling, and that was the first time i ever wear. One ponytail really excuse me, but yeah, so i've always like preferred my natural hair, even though, like it's a lot more work, that's just like my go-to and what i'm most comfortable with, but going to like college and stuff, and you have a little less time and Then you know like you're, you're growing, you're evolving. You want to try different things like i'm going to get into wigs and weeds. Well, i didn't get into ways until i think it was like the end of college, but i was wearing like sew-ins all the time and i was wearing braids. That'S when i was watching youtube heavy and i was like i'm broke, so i'm going to learn how to do my own hair, and so i learned how to do like marley twist and braids and stuff like that. So that was more my go-to um and then i feel like i really really got into wigs in med school, because time is even more limited and i was like okay like i don't. I can't do this so like yeah. So that's when i really started wearing wigs um but yeah, honestly, whatever you feel comfortable with, i feel like you should do you don't have to stick to one thing. Definitely not! I feel like for me personally. I never experimented with color and still with my hair, but i always had marley twisting braids or something else. Besides my natural hair for the most part - and so i don't know, i didn't really think that it was a big deal to always switch up your hair until i got to medical school honestly, so it wasn't to medical school. Everyone was just like. Oh, you have a new hair into that sauce today, i'm just like yeah. This is my movie like what i'm saying like i wake up, and i want to be curly today and i do that in college. No one ever questioned it because all my friends are doing the same thing, but in medical school everyone is a little bit different. I had met new people and they weren't, i guess, used to the switch up, and so that's what i kind of felt like. Well, i got ta stay in tintos out in the decision that i made to you know, wear my wigs so that, after a while people started asking me to like make them to make the wigs and all that stuff, of course like that comes with its own Set of issues, because in rotations you are, amongst other people, other people of different backgrounds who are not as familiar with that transition in your hair or the difference in your hair from 24 hours and so like. Sometimes they would confuse you with somebody else. Somebody else always have the same skin color. You know i'm the next black girl, i mean be the nurse in the unit or the patient caretaker or whoever it's just like. I would speak to you every morning, but because my hair was different, you didn't know who i was just frustrating my face looks the same to me anyway. I never. I really wore makeup on awards, like i probably can count on my hands. How many times i wear makeup and it's probably because i had a patient presentation to do or like um, some type of presentation outside of the hospitals. I never wear makeup to work so i'm like i look the same, and this is pre mask time period. So i'm like, what's up like yeah, that's like one of like those things that, like people don't understand that you have to go through and it's just like frustrating it's something that you would never think you would have to go through and like experience. But like it's frustrating at times and it's upsetting and it's like, i literally see you every day and because i switch up my hair this one time you don't know who i am but oh my gosh. Oh my gosh, it's like how you eat your hair girl. So fast, oh, my god did you do that to yourself like yeah, you know yeah, it's hard not to take things personal, sometimes, but people really like actually clueless. Yes, that's true too, at the end of the day, just do what you can to educate the masses and you know, move on yeah, keep it moving, but yeah so um your girl's, not straightening her hair. Before doing this, so it's going to look like real natural. Looking i'm just adding like long curls to it, but if you wanted a more like sleek look, you could straighten this out first because it had like has curls in it and then do the curling wand. This is really not a hair tutorial, but just for hair, and then i always protect y'all's hair, whether it's your real hair or your weave, you pay for it, so protect it. If it's human hair, protect it use heat protection, she's right i'd, be lazy. I don't think i even own the infection to be completely honest with you. I probably damaged my natural hair trying to blow it out one time, but this is pretty good. Like the heat, the distribution is pretty even on this and um. It really has a really long cord, which is nice because we're a little far back yeah. It'S actually really helpful and it swivels. That'S true for me, i feel like y'all, can see my hair. I usually wear this wig very curly, not very girly. I usually put curls in this wig, and so for me, going from the straight looks like it's shortening very well. I personally like with this specific wig. I got it from this company aliexpress and i feel, like the i feel like it's longer than i expected it to be, but um it's fuller on the top, which is why i usually have to curl it, because when it's curled to me personally looks better but Um yeah, have you had any body ever comment on your hair like oh, it's, not professional or um, x, y and z. No, the thing is: i've had people look at me crazy, but they've never said anything because i mean like my natural hair is pretty big. So if i wear like a puff, it's a puff, you can see me coming yeah and when i wear my puff on the wards like people, look they like stare but also it's i don't know. I also like made me feel good, because i had this one instance where, like i was on the wards, and i think it was a nurse who like saw me and she could stop me and she was like yes she's like i love that she's like never Stop wearing your hair, like that, i love it and i was like you know. It makes me feel good because, when you're surrounded by people who are not of color and who don't have like the same haircut and like their hair, is straight and like or in this style that you really can't do or don't want to do. And you come in with this big fro you're, making a statement but like you're, literally just being yourself, yeah and so to have somebody just like affirm that, like it's okay to be you and wear your hair, the way you want to like that was dope. So shout out to you, sis yeah, i feel like for me. I personally, this is just my personal opinion. I don't like the attention that i give it on my afro, because when i, when i put my hair, i don't even even do it to make a statement. I do. I think it looks cute yeah exactly i mean it's like people think that it's um more than what it is sometimes, and i don't no one else. Has that like no? No, no one else has to worry about that with anything when they do their hair and it's like. Sometimes i don't want to have attention on them most times. I don't like attention on me so, like i'm just here to become the best doctor that i can be exactly so. Okay, i need to do smaller sections yeah, i'm trying to like this actually looks like this is my actions and i didn't even straighten them beforehand. Oh yeah and i got me a little headband with y'all yeah i mean if it had been. This thing is nice. So if you haven't, if you like, wigs but you're, not really fooling around with the lace thing like you, don't want to always have to lay your lace or, like you, don't know how to layer, lace, they're like a frontal closure, whatever try you a headband wig. This is my first one and like y'all. This is life because you can like have your hair showing in the front. You don't have to have your hair shown in the front. You can just have it completely covered with the headband and you just throw it on and go like it's so nice and it looks a lot more natural to you in my opinion, so and then like this one is kind of like a water wave. I don't know what it's called, but then they have like straight. They have like yaki texture, they have like more kinky textures and they make like either from 3a to 4c hair. So you know check them out yeah and they have them everywhere. I don't remember where i got this away from, but i can put it in the description box. If anyone is interested, i got this one from ygwig. So i'll add that to the description box, but but um yeah, i just i don't really try to make it save me every time like just be in the background and do my work and go home as far as like residency, not residency, medical school interviews, i Um pretty much wore a wig similar to this and just curled it like just to have myself feel a little pretty and then pinned it back. So it could be out of my face because i'm someone who touched my hair the entire time, i'm talking to someone just like this just yeah just to like, do something with my hands, and i didn't want to do that. So i just kind of pushed my hair into the back whenever i started interview season, but i never wore my hair natural during interview season, because at that point i didn't want to style my hair, because i felt like i was waiting until my hair was a Certain length that i was comfortable with to start styling it out in an afro, so i wasn't even like doing twist outs or anything like that for the longest time for medical interviews. I again i wasn't like i've never been like. Oh my gosh, i'm a wig. Wear every single day testing like if i wear wigs i'll, do it consistently for like a week or two and then i'll get bored so and i'll go back to my natural hair or like i'll put in braids or twists or something because i did my own Hair, so it's easier for me to switch it up, um so for med school, i'm more comfortable, i'm more comfortable in my natural hair, and so i just had a slick back bun, very slick back. I had my little donut in the back and i put my hair over it and i had a nice little sleek bun and that worked for me. It was easy for me because i can just wrap my hair at night and then be ready for my interview in the morning, and i wouldn't have to do much. You can like lay a little baby hairs if you want to in the morning and like going through your day, not for residency. Sis was like yeah. She was like, i said, i'm no, no, i'm confident yeah, i'm grown like i'm more like aware of myself and is sure of myself, so i was like i'm going to wear my hair. However, i want to wear my hair. So in the beginning i have my natural hair like in a twist out and a washing gum, and then i was like i'm a little bored with this, so i put in braids well, i had twists, i had like long twists and they were colored like it. Wasn'T like great, it wasn't like pink or blue or anything, but it was like not my natural hair, color yeah. It was like the um like a light brown right like a light brown ombre type thing. It was cute it flattered me, so i wore that and then um. What else did? How else did i wear my hair? That'S the way i made that i meant you in right. I think those are the two styles that i had. It was either my natural hair either twist out or um a wash and go, or i had my braids and that's how that's how i did my hair. So i was like this is how you're gon na see me when i'm in residency, so i'm not gon na hide myself. So that's true, that's one thing: yeah don't come on, don't think too much about how you do your hair for your headshot for your residency interviews, because i know a lot of people were putting so much thought and initially i was too and i was driving myself Insane and i'm like it shouldn't matter what my hair looks like, so i was like i'm just gon na wear my hair. However, i feel comfortable and how i want to do it. If that's in a pro, that's in a throw, if that's in a wig, that's a wig. If that's your hair, relaxed or straight, then that's that. But i wouldn't put too much pressure on yourself to try to look a certain way or fit in a certain box. When applying to residency when applying to med school, when doing your head shots like just do what you want to do and don't think too much about it, that's my turtle, it's hard because um where we were, i guess the position that we were in the mindset That we were in applying it like talking to my mentor a couple days ago. She was like the maturity after your interview season and how you were talking before interview season is so i can. It is so apparent and i feel like it's. I think it's also because of how we view ourselves and how confident we are in ourselves and our capabilities, because there are many people who apply to places that have very conservative mindsets, who don't necessarily view afros as professional right and then the places that we applied To we were like, i have a good feeling that wherever i go, i'm gon na be tempted for who i am you know, and everybody has that privilege. But i still don't think that you should compromise who you are as a person because of what somebody else may think of you. Your boss should not be worried about how your hair is styled. They should worry about what work ethic. It works knowledge for sure, and so it's just like it sucks that we even have to make a video about this, reminding black girls not to worry about their hair and just to style. It and wear like you know, do whatever do whatever you want with you, questions like how should i wear my hair? Is this professional, like my hair, is professional period if it grows out of your scalp and it is your hair or if you buy it and put it on your scalp, like, if you add in hair, it's professional, we need to move away from this narrative that Black hair is not professional, because that's just not true yeah, but yeah, the more we talk about this and raise awareness and speak out and just do what we want to do, the less. This will be an issue yeah. So that's why we say: do your hair? How you feel comfortable doing it and, if that's professional to you, go for it yeah period? So that's essentially what that is. I personally i'm not a person to ask something: that's professional or not, probably like you if you're comfortable with it. It helps you as far as let's say that you wanted to wear pink hair to an interview if you're uncomfortable the whole entire time. Oh, should i do this hairstyle shall not, then don't wear it if whatever you're thinking about makes you uncomfortable to do, then don't wear it because for interview season you need to be as confident as possible. You don't need to worry about. Oh that's gon na be in my face, or you know this is gon na, be too uh itchy in the back of my my neck or whatever. The case may be like make sure whatever hairstyle, that you choose you're comfortable, doing you're, confident when you're on camera. So that you, whenever you're talking you're, not focusing on your hair, focusing on what you're coming out of your mouth? Okay, because that's important, that's the most important thing is shout out to our class, though like it's just being on social media and twitter instagram and seeing people's like headshots. It'S like everything like that, seeing how they're, wearing and presenting themselves during interviews like people are being 100, their selves, and i am here for it - whether that's you wearing pink hair, whether that's you, you wearing bright, pink glasses or you wearing blonde wigs, like whatever you Want to do and, however, you want to express yourself like people have been doing it, and i am here for it yeah i wore a red suit. On my last interview, oh, like i had my red blazer, i was like you know what this is. My last one, i'm gon na go out with a bag. I have my natural hair out had a twist out, and i had a red blazer so like like i'm not about to. You know silence myself or like tone myself down just to get a job for the comfort of someone else, because when you see me at work on the first date, you would be like there's some person i hired. You know what i'm saying you're going to be surprised and then my progressions come up and then i'm gon na be comfortable, so yeah, a black woman's hair, really does isn't like an instrumental part of her self-confidence enough her identity. So just remember that before you um talk about a black or comment or touch or touch a black woman is here. Let'S ask: let's talk part of about this like don't just randomly touch like it has been way too many times. I remember i was in hawaii with my mom and i had um molly twist in my head and then we were checking out the hotel about to go home back to um, houston and i'm sitting in the lobby and feeling someone tugged my hair, my mom's sitting In front of me, so i knew it wasn't her and i'm like i don't know nobody else here. So who is this i turn around and lady. Like jumps back, i wasn't gon na eat you, but please don't touch my hair, but why are you touching my hair without what's happening here? What'S happening like what are we doing like? Am i articulate? What are we doing? Am i an animal like? I don't understand. I don't know where your hands were prior to touching my my hair. I don't know who you think you are we're strangers. I'Ve never met you in my life like it's, not the time you can act, you can compliment someone's hair without touching it. Yeah, there's like so many layers of this conversation about hair that hopefully like if you're, not a black woman, watching this video you've picked up on some gems, because it's just about education, yeah, it's not about making anybody, feel bad or, like you know, pointing fingers or You know, but it's just about educating yourself, because the more you know like the better you do. I guess we've talked about a lot of different hairstyles. You can do wigs, headband, wigs synthetic wigs versus human hair. Wigs you was putting on. I can find if you need it for like a rotation or if you need it for like an event like there's. Some really good synthetic wigs out, especially now like they have up their game, so definitely check that out. If you're not trying to spend like a whole bunch of money, um and then like, of course, braids and twists and like faux locs and you know all of those protective hairstyles crochet um when it comes to your natural hair, you can do puffs buns, like a Flat twist mini twists, many twists that have become i've been doing many switches for a very long time, but they've become a little bit more popular. Now, i'm still doing mini twists. You can blow your hair out and do the mini twist, or i just do it on my way here. Um yeah, just figure out like a routine that works for you and just stick with it and your hair will. Thank you later. Okay, what they don't tell you about fourth year, which we did a video about this, so make sure that you watch that last video that we made, but i wanted to add something today: okay, so this spring semester, we have a lot of time to ourselves. A lot of idle time: okay and i don't miss the devil's playground, so what they don't tell you is that in this free time that you have there really isn't much to do like you get tired of watching netflix, you get tired of you know, waking up And not having anything on your to-do list so to all of our 30-year students who are watching, or you know anybody who just wants to know what fourth year is like find something to do find a hobby. That'S going to keep you occupied or something travel because i mean by um by next year. Hopefully, by this year this year i'm praying lord um traveling will be a little bit more accessible and more feasible, and you know things will be more open. So a lot of people use this time to travel, travel, smiley yeah because i'll probably do some domestic stuff, but you know within reason: yeah um, but yeah traveling. I have i just it for like a part-time job, that's like kind of related to what we do and stuff. So it's not like a big burden. So some people, like you know i need some money, oh so find a job. You have a lot of time. Just pick up on hobbies, you know work out a lot more get fit, get healthy, yeah cook read, you know, just do the things that you wish that you have more time to do during med school or that you want to. You know do before you start residency and before life gets busier for the rest of your life. This is like the most idle time like when we took a gap year before this, but this is pretty much the most like quiet. Your life is going to be for a long time forever and that you decide to practice medicine. That'S what everybody keeps telling me they're like this is going to be the most time that you've ever had that you will ever have for the first time. So unless you quit, but you know for those of y'all who love medicine - and this is like your career for life - then but love buttercup, because after this they always tell us the show the show is just non-stop match day is in the month and a half Mm-Hmm well less than a month, a month and 14 days right, i'm not! I have not been having these days in my head. It just hit me today because i've been because everybody's been asking me like when it's nice and they're like oh, you know how much longer and i was like. Oh i don't have much longer yeah, so i did the math and i was like wow. It'S literally like right around the corner wow, but it's exciting. It is, oh, my goodness, oh my goodness, oh yeah and like let us know how y'all want us to do like match day and like graduation and stuff like do y'all want. Vlogs do y'all want us to, like, i was gon na say, go live um, oh, do you want us to like go live and like just prop y'all look, i guess you're thinking that too, during like it was college dinner. Yes, let us know how y'all want to be a part, because we want you guys to be a part of this moment like you've been a part of it for the last four years so like we definitely want you guys to be part of like the celebrations. So we are officially done with our look. We use the boss products, yeah they're, awesome. I like they liked it. I'M surprised, yeah same thing. These are really good. I like how big this wand is. Like i said it comes in two different sizes. This is the bigger one 32 inch i believe, but i really like it and like it was so easy to use like the cord is really long. It swivels and you can move it around and it's cute if you like, pink so yeah, i'm sure highly recommended you got the job done very well, so make sure to check them out. 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