Black Women Offended, Jealous Or Just Hypocrites??! Briana Monique Hair Texture Controversy!

Hello, everyone welcome back to my channel for those that are new. My name is katya and i talk about um, hair care, self-esteem amongst black women, natural hair things like that. Those are my preferred areas of um discussion on my channel, and i decided to do this. Video because um the situation or controversy regarding miss brianna monique seemed to be right up my alley with. That being said, i also just wanted to say that i am not recording a video today because i'm moving, so i don't have an adequate space right now for filming. Hopefully i can get that going soon and i'm also almost eight months pregnant. So if i sound out of breath, it's probably because i am anyway - i i just could not resist talking about this, because i have certain opinions regarding the whole situation. That will probably differ from the vast majority of other black women discussing this topic. I feel very strongly about hair care and black hair and self-esteem and self-image amongst black women, because these are, i think, very relevant topics even up to today. These are topics that i have personally struggled with and they're just things that i enjoy talking about. So i wanted to start off um by saying that i am not african-american. I am not from the states. I am not american, and so i'm very aware that there are certain uh differences amongst black people around the world, and so my black experience will probably differ from the next person's, and this is okay. But i just wanted to emphasize that because i do think that is relevant information. I also wanted to say that um, you know my opinion regarding this topic. I do not believe that my opinion is necessarily more right than anyone else's. Nor do i feel, like other people, do not have the right to feel how they feel. Regarding this topic. I also wanted to emphasize that i am just sharing my opinion, my thoughts and trying to see where other people's heads are at. Regarding this whole controversy, with all that being said, when i came across um this video, i believe i came across her video from i think her name is queen chama. She does youtube as well and there's another youtuber. I am hello, ello or aloho. I don't know specifically, so i apologize if i'm saying those names incorrectly, but but i stumbled upon those videos - and i saw them discussing this youtuber um - i guess she's an influencer, brianna monique and how she made some very particular comments regarding her hair and african-american quote. Unquote, hair, and so i decided to kind of dive in and check it out and see what was going on, and you know see the uproar that her comments caused and things of the nature. She has already made an apology statement in her community section on her page, and so i i i wasn't going to talk about this topic, but i decided to because of the uproar that it's causing and i just don't seem to understand why exactly comments like these? Still cause such an uproar in the black community and before i continue, i do want to say that i'm aware in america they seem to argue quite a bit on race and who's black and who's, not black and who's biracial and who's too mixed to say this And who's too black to say that i'm aware um, if i'm correct, miss brianna monique is black and white, or some people might consider her uh. A black woman and some people might not consider her a black woman, regardless of whether i personally consider her a black woman or not. I don't really think matters. I i'm not really. I have mixed um feelings regarding race policing in the black community, so i'm just gon na leave it at that. I don't really think whether i consider this woman black or not means too much in the grand scheme of things, because perception is different for everyone everywhere. That you go. I also don't believe that i have the right to tell anyone who they are um. I feel like that's, that's more of a deep-rooted issue, but i'm not gon na get into that right now. In terms of her comments, you know i i did watch the clip that was circulating. I did hear the comments and i personally as a darker skinned black woman with hair texture, ranging from 3c to 4b. I do not understand why the uproar is so i just don't get it. I feel i feel as though um i feel as though the reason why there was such an uproar is mainly because she is a light. Light-Skinned um beauty influencer. If i'm correct majority of her her following or her viewers are probably black women or other members of the black community whatever, and i think that's the main reason why her comments um rendered such an uproar in her community apology, she did emphasize or mention that she Was raised with her black side of the family and she wasn't necessarily raised with her white side and so um. I'M just curious as to know where she probably heard comments like these. I do believe she probably hurt them from the black side of her family, because these are comments that um are very common, very, very prevalent uh. You know the whole um, texturism and and curly hair versus kinkier, hair and things like that. These these are not new issues in the black community. In fact, in fact, texturism and colorism within the black community, in my opinion, are like par and par whatever she said. You know to me it's nothing that your grandmother probably hasn't said to you regarding your hair, and so she's probably heard comments like these very very regularly or at least a few times in her life, especially if she um was raised with her black side of the Family as a black community, you know when it comes to hair and hair type and hair texture, and things like that. It gets very touchy because um, you know we're coming from a community. That'S really we're coming where what i mean to say is we're a community. That'S trying to to to love ourselves and find authenticity and and find value in ourselves find things in ourselves that we initially were not um shown or not encouraged to find especially black women. And so i i can understand when comments like these are made, and you know comments like what miss brianna monique had said what they're when they're made and how they can trigger people. I'M i'm fully aware of this. However, i don't i just don't understand why people are so upset, because it's to me she didn't say anything that you know. If not your mother hasn't said to you, your grandmother hasn't said to you, or maybe you haven't thought yourself. I know i know countless of black women who would do anything anything to have a three textured hair, a three type textured hair or a two textured hair. If you're familiar with the the hair typing system, that's most commonly used um, you know, type 2 is like wavy and type 3. Hairs are on the curly side and type 4. Hairs tend to be more coily or kinkier, and, and so 4c hair would be the uh. I guess you could say the kinkiest coiliest type of hair and whereas type 1 1a would be the straightest and um. I know so many black women that would love to have hair like miss brianna monique, and i think her only issue or her. Her main mistake was saying it out loud because it's there's nothing that she said that i haven't that. I hadn't heard before quite regularly. In the black community, amongst other black women, am i saying her comments were not distasteful out of timing and inappropriate? No, i i. I do think that she she um, you know she should have double checked or you know she should have really considered before following through with her comments, especially after she said, you know, don't take this the wrong way, because people will take it the wrong way. Um. The next thing you know that i wanted to touch on was the fact that she was raised with her black side as she mentioned in the community post and so comments that she has heard and discussions that she has had with black women in her family. She probably felt very comfortable or very entitled to discuss as well, because she was raised with that side of the family and and integrated into that side, and she does consider herself a black woman as she stated in the community post. So she probably doesn't understand why the need for such an uproar, because she's just saying what other black women have been saying to her in her family. So for me personally, i do not necessarily, although i do agree, her comments were a little bit distasteful and for someone that has such a large following, she probably should have. You know chosen her words a little bit more appropriately, but i just do not see the need for such an uproar, because this thought process this this, the texturism in the black community, is so prevalent. It'S so common. It is so it's such a regular smegular thing. I just don't see why people are so surprised. As i said my only i think her only fault was saying it on camera. I don't think she said anything that other people haven't heard within their families on a regular basis. Now. Does that make it right? No, it doesn't make it right, it doesn't mean it's appropriate and it doesn't mean that we don't have to fix these things in the black community, but i'm just saying the the people are acting like oh wow. I can't believe she said such a thing. It'S nothing that your grandmother probably hasn't said. You know, your grandmother has probably said, textures comments to you. You know it's just your grandmother wasn't recorded and posted on youtube now. The next thing that i want to address um are black women's responses to her video and um. You know i, as i said before, i i have opinions that i think will not align with the majority on youtube and that is okay. I also have opinions that might not necessarily align because i'm not african-american, so i don't necessarily have um the same black experience as somebody who is living in the united states of america, but with that being said, i'm kind of disappointed in a lot of black women's Response to um miss brianna monique's comments, because i you know i was going through different channels, different videos and you know, reading the comments and i was seeing more bullying than constructive criticism more bullying than you know, thoroughly processed thoroughly analyzed. You know, arguments or points concerns. I was just seeing dark-skinned black women or black women in general bullying this this woman, for her comments, and i i i do not see the reason why we as black women feel that bullying mixed race or lighter skinned women that you know integrate themselves or attach Themselves to the community, i do not see why we still think that bullying them is going to fix the problems or pushing them out of the community ostracizing them. You know quote-unquote cancelling them. It doesn't necessarily make sense to me, especially not in the era of youtube, where majority of pro-black women platforms are pushing black women to divest and date outside of their races and marry outside of their races, which would obviously lead to having more children. That might possibly look like ms brianna monique. What what sense is that, in my opinion, because it doesn't fix the problem, if anything, it just lightens the shade of of the problem. It doesn't fix the problem. You know it doesn't fix texturism in the black community. It doesn't fix texturism and the mentality that that a lot of black women have towards themselves have towards other other women other hair types. It doesn't fix the problem and having light-skinned or mixed-race babies. I don't believe that's going to fix the problem. Either. Bullying, miss brianna, monique, isn't going to fix the problem either because there's so much context to her comments and - and we don't know her upbringing - we don't know her lifestyle, we don't know how she was raised. So you know she probably thought her comments were just regular kind of things. Maybe she's heard it and maybe she's had these discussions with her family members. She doesn't see a problem with it, ain't no real issue, but then she comes on to her platform and says it and boom there's there's an uproar uh. I understand that black women are upset about her comments, but i do see a lot of bullying and i personally think that the bullying is mainly because she is light-skinned. I honestly think it's because that she is half black and half white. I do not believe that the anger necessarily from the community is so much because of her comments. I think it's more so because of her race, because black women say comments like you know, textures comments towards each other all the time, but if it's coming from another dark-skinned black woman or another black woman, it's okay, but when it comes from a mixed race woman, Then, all of a sudden, you know it's it's a huge thing and um. This is something that we have to. We have to as a community sit down and talk about. Will i say that black women are jealous of lighter skinned or biracial or mixed race women? I think some are not all i think some are and i think some of them are jealous only because they don't yet they haven't yet realized their their beauty. You know their potential, they haven't really fully developed their self-esteem. So when you, when you have, i mean any woman, any woman that has low self-esteem will probably become jealous of another woman um. This is why i'm so pro-self-esteem for black women, because you know when you talk about self-esteem in relation to these, these um controversial comments from ms brianna monique. I do genuinely feel that if black women had higher self-esteem in a general sense on a wide perspective, i mean a wide a wide spectrum if black women did have higher self-esteem. Ms brianna monique's comments would not really faze as many people, because whether or not she feels blessed to have the hair type that she does. I love myself so much that i don't really give a what she thinks or how she feels, because it doesn't bother me. Maybe that's just me, you know, maybe that's just my personality, maybe that is just how i am and not necessarily um, and not necessarily how other black women are. But i do feel like there are a lot of black women who have you know a jealousy or have an animosity or have some kind of resentment towards lighter-skinned, black women or mixed-race women, and they they don't necessarily know where to channel. All of that um and comments like these, where, as i said, i do agree, it was a little bit out um distasteful and you know out of time. I do not see the need for such an uproar. She didn't say anything that black women have not already heard from other black women, especially regarding hair textures and which one is better than the other. Regarding hair texture now like, let's just talk about hair texture, miss monique aside, hair texture in general in the black community. It'S very common, regardless of what country you're from that the kinkier your hair. Is, you know it's more difficult. It'S less appealing, it's less attractive, more more more people prefer the lighter. I mean the the looser, looser curls you know: um, looser, curls hair. That'S a quote-unquote easier to take care of to manage to brush to comb, and i'm not going to to sit here and act like i've. Never heard textures comments now, as i've mentioned before my hair type ranges from 3c all the way to 4b. I believe more so 3c and 4a in my opinion, but i've heard comments um from my family, from my parents from my mother from my grandmother. I remember when my grandmother said to me that she wishes that my father wasn't didn't have a kinky hair, because my mother has a looser hair texture than mine. Her hair ranges from more so 3b to 4a. At the most. Her hair is more in the three area if that matters, but um i've heard comments like this growing up and hair texture in the black community. Well, it's it's! It'S! Nothing! It'S nothing! New! If i'm gon na be honest, these these negative opinions or negative sentiments towards kinky, hair or coily, hair they're, nothing new and so as a community. I think we need to focus more so on that, because you know i hate to say this. I already have a video talking about how i feel about protective styles, that don't look like black women's hair every. I already discussed that i have an open end discussion on my page, two videos. Actually, if you feel free, you can, if you want to go check that out but um. I hate to say this, but i don't understand why so many black women are upset that um, you know miss monique. She is blessed to have her hair type when black women all over the world, they're spending millions of dollars to sew the same hair type to their heads and to glue it to their scalps. So i don't see what the problem is. You know i've already had you know, discussions regarding protective styles and things like that, so i'm not going to get into it too much, but um black women are literally spending their rent, money to have bundles and and and and units or whatever they're called sewn onto Or glued onto their heads that look exactly like miss brianna, monique's, hair and and if i'm going to be real with you, if i was miss brianna monique, i would feel happy as too that i don't spend or i don't have to spend millions of dollars sewing Hair to my scalp, or so or gluing, hair to my scalp that doesn't look like mine, and so you know in regards to hair texture and things like that. I'M waiting for black women - to be honest. I'Ve said this before on my channel: i'm waiting for black women to be honest when it comes to hair texture because saying that you are proud of your 4c hair or your 4a hair, whatever just saying probably i'm proud of my kinky hair, but never wearing it. Never wearing it out, and i don't mean you know you do protective styles once in a while, but people know what your hair looks like i'm talking, you never wear it out. You always have a wig weave, sew and braid something you never have your hair out. You don't want to deal with it. You don't want to comb it. You don't want to wash it. You don't want to, because it's quote unquote too much. But then saying: oh, i love my hair. I don't get it, i don't get it. I don't get it and i'll never get it and seeing a bunch of black women argue about miss brianna, monique's comments and - and you know, being uproar and so upset about her comments. All the while wearing her hair type on their heads. However, they paid for that and ordered it from some foreign country. It doesn't make sense to me either because it's not to say it's not to say that as a black community, we show any difference regarding her sentiments in our actions. She just said it out loud. We might not say it out loud, but majority of black women feel the same way. A lot of them wish that they would have a looser hair texture. I wish that wasn't the case, and i wish that it wasn't such a common thing, but that is the reality. A lot of black women wish they did not have the hair that they have and if they could, if they could come back to earth, maybe they'd still come back black, but they definitely would would pick a different hair texture. You know, as i said, i i'm. I i am not speaking for all black women. I don't. I do not believe that all black women feel the way i feel or agree with me or whatever. The case is, i'm sure there are tons of black women that love their hair and wouldn't change it. For a thing me being one of them, i very much love my hair. This is not something that i've always felt. However, it's something i had to work on, i had to develop. I had to grow into it and this channel helped me, but you know i. I won't say that all black women hate their hair, but i just want to give a different perspective because there's an uproar - and there is so much hate and and division amongst the black community. It'S so embarrassing. It'S so embarrassing and we're so quick as a community to point out other people's um wrongs and other people's. You know um faults, but we don't take a look at our own selves um. I don't think that quote-unquote canceling, miss brianna, monique or quote-unquote kicking her out. The black community, i actually think it's kind of funny um that black americans seem to think they can pick and choose who can call themselves black, i'm not going to get too deep into that. But if miss brianna monique considers herself a black woman, i i'm not offended. I don't really care because it doesn't make me any less of a black woman. So i don't really care and - and if i'm going to be honest with you, majority of people in her life consider her a black woman anyway, regardless of what you want to think. So i don't think that dividing ourselves any further is going to help. I don't think that the arguing online is going to help. I don't think that kicking out mixed race or biracial people out of the community quote-unquote is going to help. I do not think that making youtube videos um putting down women of lighter complexions or mixed race is going to make black women look any better. It'S not going to make black women as a community improve. I think that we're just trying to we're trying to uh address the issues in the community, but not the right way once again, we're trying to separate divide, remove uh ostracize people from the community, as opposed to having honest conversation um talking about these issues, educating people And coming together as a community and trying to work on these things as a community because, as i said, i don't really think that us separating ourselves even further is going to help um if anything is going to make things worse. So with all that, being my husband just walked in the room with all that being said, that was my two cents on the topic feel free to leave your opinions in the comment section below i'm always open to opinions, whether they agree with mine or they don't. This was just my take on it. I do want to emphasize that i don't feel, like my opinion, is the be all end all, but i did want to touch on this, since it was right up my alley and something that i feel like we can all. We can all relate to right now in this current time. See you all in my next video