Unpopular Opinions? Colorism, Transgender Women, And Black Girl Hair

What'S up my baby daddies and welcome back to my channel today, it's gon na be kind of a different type of video. I'M gon na be doing a get ready with me and Nasri. Is my mole had a chitchat get ready with me, because I have a lot of things I wanted to talk about, but I kind of didn't want to make a whole bunch of different videos talking about it, because I wasn't trying to turn my channel until, like One of those problematic channels that you know it was always talking about race and stuff like that, because there's a few that I really like, I am Aloha Empress, Chrissy Paris, Milan, even though me and her don't get along. I really like her content, I'm the type of person that just because I don't like you doesn't mean that I can't like your content, but I like the stuff that she produces and I still show support. I still come and do whatever, even though me and her went back and forth in this heated brawl also queen shoma, I watched her too every now and then the other ones that I spoke about before they kind of post their things quicker like in the moment. I am the low ho post like three videos in the day. Sometimes she can go up to like five. To be honest, you should post a lot in a day, Chrissy's super quick, that's because she doesn't show her face she's, just kind of like a voiceover parents. Mallanna'S, quick as hell to cuz, sometimes she does voiceovers yeah. You know just a lot of channels like that, so I don't normally do a lot of this talking I want to and I do a lot of it on Twitter. So if you guys want to see what I have to say and things of that nature, I'm gon na go ahead and put well my Twitter's or all my social medias are always down below check down below. If you want to see what the hell I'd be talking about on Twitter cuz, I feel, like I say, what's on my mind and type it and go about my day, like I've only been on Twitter for a few months, like obviously, I've had a Twitter since, Like 2009, but I never used it ever actively, so I'm at anger on there. I'Ve been there for 10 years, but I never used Twitter like that, like I just had it and then all my stuff from my Instagram I would like send to my Twitter. That'S that's it today. I kind of wanted to voice my opinion about a few things that have been bothering me. I kind of felt like I was being bullied into silence today. I'M gon na be speaking about a few things that may trigger people, and I understand it's: okay, we're humans. We all get triggered. I get triggered by some things that people say and it's okay for you to speak on it. If you want that's what the comments section is for, please be respectful, because when people disrespect me, I get really disrespectful too. So I don't want you guys to think that, because I'm a youtuber, I don't have the to call you out your names or say things. That'S the note below the belt, because if you say something that's below the belt to me, or at least, if I feel like it's below the belt, I'm getting below the belt with you, too baby I'll, try and be respectful. Because if I want to say something completely crazy to you, I probably just block you and then we don't get to interact anymore, but I understand that this is gon na, be that type of video. So that's just why I'm giving these four warnings ahead of time. So I'm gon na go ahead and get into it. I'M gon na be putting my alley pearl hair on I'm just really getting into frontals. So bear with me, I'm not that good at it. You know, but I'm trying. Okay yeah, I used to be a hair. Stylist, but I stopped doing here like exactly when frontals like blew up - and I was just like well good thing - I'm not doing here anymore, because I do not want to learn how to do that. But now these companies are like please we want to send you a friend, so I'm like alright, so I have to get into it, but I know they're not gon na last through the summer, because I sweat a lot. So this thing don't work in the summertime. Once I put that wig on, I got like a hundred degrees hotter in here. Oh hell, no, I had open a window wet I've seen a lot of videos about like these unpopular opinions. I guess that's what this video is. I don't think my opinions aren't unpopular. I don't think that people voice these opinions that I have, I feel like a lot of people have them, but they just don't voice it as much because they don't want to get in trouble. They couldn't get bully, they don't get cancelled. I also don't want to get canceled I'm going to give a preface. You guys know I like to do like a pre story, so growing up. I'M Nigerian a lot of people. Don'T know that I'm Nigerian, which is weird because my name is Amara and that's a pretty common Nigerian name, but when I was younger I got bullied a lot. I got bullied a lot for a lot of reasons. At a point I was like super skinny people used to make fun of me because my knit my little knees used to knock together, but I didn't knock together, but they look like little balls like that's how skinny I was. I had a little ball knees if I could find a picture I'll insert it. Don'T laugh, don't laugh at me when I was really young. That'S when the bullying started and I was really quiet. I didn't like to talk as I got. Older people started making fun of my name, I'm Nigerian and my mom would not. Let me call myself Amara just a Mar. She wanted me to use my full name. She said: no, you have to be proud of where you come from, don't let those people bully you be proud of it, so she would always put my full name on all my IDs at school on my paperwork. So whenever the teacher will get to my name, she'll start like stuttering and I'll, be like oh she's, about to save my name until I got a little bit older, where I would just be like you're looking for Amara and then the black. Oh, no! That'S not what it says right here and I'm like. Well, that's what you're gon na call me! Okay, when I was younger, I just had to deal with the pain and trauma of being kind of like bullied. I don't like to play the victim ever like you know what I mean so yeah to some people. They might say I was being bullied, but to me it was just kind of like me building my character. These people were helping me build my character. Also when I was younger, I was a tomboy, so I was always in the Sun running around. I was the fastest kid kid kid in my school, not girl the fastest kid in my school, along with his other boy. I can still remember his name because he was like my biggest competitor and his name was. I was also really good at spelling, so I was always unlike the spelling bees and stuff like that. I don't know. I was just a weird kid, a weird, a different kid, not weird, but just what what is what is this? What do you like, whatever your different, so because of that I was pretty chocolate when I was younger. I was dark-skinned when I was younger, obviously not dark dark skin, but I was pretty dark people used to make fun of me for that. When I got home, nobody saw it as a problem, but whenever I was at school, people would like make fun of me. Like oh you're, dark-skinned this one girl actually beat me up because of it. I actually ended up beating her ass. This story time is gon na kind of lead into my problematic issues. Okay hold on. I never knew that my skin complexion was an issue as a child until the kids around me, black kids, only I never got teased by white kids. I wasn't friends with a lot of them: they're just kind of scared of black kids, so they don't really bully black kids, but I'm sure they bullied the other white kids Tech thing. I know a lot. People are gon na, like the comparison that I'm gon na make right now, but I'm gon na make this comparison, because I want people to understand where I'm coming from when were younger, we were made fun of our skin complexion. That'S a situation that both african-american kids can relate to, and black kids can relate to because there were some black kids who have made fun of their with their color or NB OS non-descendants, non descendants of slaves or versus ad OS. These are real things, I'm not being problematic. These are real things. The ad OS are African descendants of slaves and then nd OS are non descendants of slaves, but what they're? Still black and they're still living in America, African kids were made fun of and the dark-skinned kids were made fun of. So the African American light-skinned children probably will not understand the issues that I'm gon na be bringing to the forefront right now. You guys had issues, but they weren't the type of issues that the black kids or the African kids had to deal with. You know what I mean. I see a lot of YouTube channels, kind of bashing Africans and whenever they're bashing Africans is not just Africa, the whole continent of Africa, it's normally Nigerians, and I don't think that they understand that. There'S a lot of other countries in Africa that no one cares to talk about because they're not as successful as Nigerian. I have to defend my people whenever I see people trying to come for us telling us to change the way. We speak things that we say and how we say it. It'S kind of offensive. I don't know what it is, but it kind of disgusts me when I see people trying to bash Africans or Nigerians. Let me just say Nigerians because I don't see any platform ever bashing any other type of African and I don't see Africans bashing, African Americans or black Americans there's this thing that black Americans like to say about African Americans and they like to say that we think That we're better than them - and I'm not gon na argue that I do believe because I'm the type of person that's gon na, keep it real okay. I do believe that Africans or Nigerians believe that they're better than African Americans, you heard it here. First, Nigerians do believe that they're better than african-americans, but Nigerians also believe that they're better than Kenyans, they're better than Ethiopians they're better than white people they're better than Asians. Nigerians also think that they're better than Ghanaians people from Ivory Coast, people from the Congo, people from Jamaica Nigerians, think they're better than everybody, and I don't think that's a bad trait. I feel, like that's kind of the reason why we excel at what we're doing, and we don't worry about how other people feel about us. It'S been instilled in us from childhood because when those kids weren't making fun of my skin complexion, that was never an issue with me when those kids were making fun of my name called me mariachi and calling me all these crazy names like cockroach African booty scratcher. You guys hear that all the time I'm saying that I smell like Africa, asking me all these stupid jokes be talking to me and cliques, even though that dialect is from a country that has nothing to do with my country. It just kind of like put into perspective, or at least gave our parents something to balance us with. So when we came home complaining about how we're being made fun of our parents would say all those kids are stupid, they don't even know different parts of Africa. Like they don't even know that your language is different, like they go, ask them to do some research or stuff like that, and we will go to school. We want to say we want to say nothing, we'll just write. Oh, they gon na make fun of me again, I'm about to tell them to go. Read no books with the Flex. I can get jumped hell. No, those are the type of things that our parents told us to keep our esteem up. All of this was instilled in us. Yes, we do feel like we're better than other people. Our parents raised us to be that way. You know what I mean and I don't think, there's anything wrong with it and you don't see us bashing anybody else. I just wanted to kind of dead that situation with the Africans versus blacks. You guys think that we're out to get you and we're not we're literally out for success, we're just out here trying to get success period. We'Re not worried about nothing, see all the people. Talking about us, I see people trying to tell us like. Oh you can't say the word Akata. It'S like girl, there's no way you're gon na get into the heads of a Nigerian and tell them that we can't say something or can't do something, because people have been telling us that we can't say or do things for our whole lives and a lot of People try to tell us that our trauma that we don't have the same trauma that African Americans have and I'm just like you guys - are tripping because our trauma comes from the opposite side. Black Americans were stolen from the land, now imagine being somebody's mom and some pirates pull up on the shore and take all your kids, like you know, all your healthy kids. That trauma is going to be passed down from generation to generation as well as a matter of fact. The trauma is still in Nigeria. It is a very young country. Most African countries are very young as in the their independence very recently as recent as 60 years. I hear black Americans saying if you guys, love Nigeria, so much go back to Nigeria. Let me explain something to you and I want you to understand. I don't want you to be defensive about it. I want you to understand where I'm coming from white people stole our people from our land right and they brought our people here to build up America. That'S just facts. That'S just history! Now we're in a day and age where we can fly in airplanes and come over here and reap the benefits of your ancestors. Just remember that your ancestors are also our family members. You know what I mean. There are extensions of people who went through some from our land. Okay, people try to say: oh go back to Africa, it's like our country is so young and we don't have the help of slaves to build up our country. The way America did so when we're looking for opportunities and when we want to become great. This is where we come, and I'm gon na need more black Americans to understand that this country, even though they say like they, try to call all the other country. This country is too very corrupt and it's been independent for so frickin long and they have the help of slaves to build it and they sold the land from people. You know what I mean. This is a country where people come to build their dreams and you guys live here and you guys own this land. So I just kind of want to put some fire in that ass to take advantage of what's yours and this land is yours, you can't believe everything that you see. You can't believe everything that you read. You have to know to do your research. You have to know that there's no shackles on your feet or hands anymore, although there are some figuratively, like through the system and like all that find ways around it. You know what I mean, because these Nigerians that come here that a lot of youtubers like that, like this, they are taking an opportunities from black Americans they're black, just like you, so black Americans, saying that kind of like negates everything that you guys are fighting for. Saying, like Oh Africans, are coming from Africa and stealing our jobs. Everything that you're fighting for is negated when you say that, because it's like but they're black, so how? How because of their names? No, because when they see our names, they can't read them either. But just a mental, the mentality is different. I should see a lot of african-american youtubers, like african-americannot black American youtubers, trying to bridge the gap between the two ethnic groups. There'S a lot of things that made us be spoken about that aren't spoken about and when they are spoken about, they aren't spoken about in a way that people can understand and come to an agreement on like the black culture versus the white culture versus the african-american Culture, these are all very different cultures, that kind of built one culture on the same land, along with the Hispanic culture, the Hispanic American culture and all these other things. You know what I mean they kind of like have melted into this one big culture and I feel, like people are still stuck in the ways of like something being one way and never changing, but they don't understand that things are constantly changing. We'Re constantly building our culture, black American culture is centered around hip-hop hip-hop is only around 25 to 30 years old. You try and tell me that your your culture is 25 to 30 years old. Well, all those people that have been around you for those 25 to 30 years have helped influence your culture period. I'Ve always been the type that when I felt bullied, I would like you know fight back. I want to just let people bully me into doing anything and I feel like that's the way Nigerians in general are raised even in Africa, like you're, taught to respect your elders and fight for yourself with that being said, I want to move on to a different Topic this one might be the most triggering which I'm afraid of because, like I said, I'm the type of person that doesn't like to be bullied, but I feel, like I've, been bullied away from talking about this particular topic. Like so many times. Every time I sit down and make the video I'll be like no you're gon na get canceled. If you are a part of the LGBT community, I want you to listen to me, understand me and then let me know how you feel. I don't want to argue. I don't want to go back and forth, I'm speaking as a black african-american woman, so I just want you guys to remember that and take that into consideration. I want you guys to understand that my thoughts do matter. Your thoughts differ from mine. It'S! Okay! That'S! Okay! That'S perfectly fine. We can still live on the same earth. We can still love one another. Whatever you are, I don't give a damn. Okay, if I like you as a person, I like you as a person period, but one thing I don't like is appropriation. I don't like to see these girls in blackface. I don't like to see white women who don't have to deal with a black person's struggle being able to take on our skin complexion, but not have to deal with our oppression if black people weren't oppressed, I want to give a damn. Everybody be black if you want to be black, it's flattering, but the issue is that our system is still very oppressed and very racist. Racism and oppression mean the same thing. A lot of people don't know the definitions of these things and they're just loud and wrong and just screaming from the top of their lungs and just wrong as hell. Don'T know what the hell they're talking about before you speak. Please do Google I'm gon na speak on the LGBT community, specifically focusing on the transgender, I'm speaking about male to female transgender, because I can't speak for men, so I am NOT gon na speak on female to male transgender. So I'm just speaking on male to female transgender. Okay, if you do consider yourself transgender and you do feel that you're not in the right body, I do not want you to think that I'm bullying you at any point of this video. I just want you to kind of hear me out: most women will tell you being a woman, isn't as fun as it may seem, and I can understand how like looking at women from a male's perspective can can seem fun because I see people make these comparisons. On the internet all day every frickin day, and I'm just like what are you doing like you, don't know what the hell we go through girl. I don't know how to do baby. Here'S somebody come and help me. I do not know how to do baby hair see talking about it is hard man, because I don't want to step on anybody's toes. So I'm just gon na say that I'm gon na say I'm not trying to step on anybody's toes and I'm gon na go for it, because if I started up stepping on your toes, I'm sorry and I apologize right now, so you don't have to wait for My apology, I already, but I'm just gon na, say how I feel. Okay, at the end of the day, you don't know how it feels like to be a woman. If you knew what it was like to be a woman, you probably wouldn't want to be a woman being a woman has nothing to do with hair tits ass, and I feel like that's where it's problematic for me and the way that we dress and the way That we act, our mannerisms have nothing to do with being a woman. I see a lot of them when it comes to transgender women. They kind of like make it seem as like, being a woman as being feminine and that's not all. There is to being a woman, I have issues with men who kind of like downplay our situations and they make it seem a lot easier or stress-free than what it really is. It really throws me off when I hear transgender people and or not even transgender people. Women who say just because transgenders transgender women cannot have children doesn't make them not women, and then they use the reference as like. Some women can't have babies and that hurts me to my core because, because that's a good reference, some women cannot have babies and you will never know how it feels to be born a woman and not able to have a baby as a woman. That'S an issue that is very specific to women who are born, who are women, their whole life they're thinking, they're gon na have children, okay, cuz! That'S what society teaches us there's a lot of things that you don't know and then later on, they find out that they can't freaking. Have babies. Can you imagine how that hurts somebody, whereas when you're a transgender before you even get your surgery, you know currently there's no way you can have babies unless you save sperm or unless you have a surrogate or if you adopt, and you make that conscious decision to You know, remember your genitalia or to do whatever you have to do to start hormones or whatever, and you know you know you make that concept conscious. You make that conscious. You make that conscious. You make that consciousness. You make that conscious. That'S just a conscious decision. You make that consciousness. Oh my god, I can't say it you make that conscious! You make that email. I can't say it. You make that Khans! You make that conscious this. Why can't see this conscious decision? Y'All know what I'm trying to say you make that conscious decision. Why can't say this thing decision conscious decision conscious this this then I can't say decision it that conscious conscious decision it came out to be like okay, I get it, but the women who were born women. They don't have that choice. You know what I mean. They literally cannot - and I don't think it's fair to compare yourself in that sense and I feel like that's something that men do a lot. That'S a characteristic trait of a man where you compare things that women do to what they do and they try to make. It seem as though it's not as big of a deal. I think that's not the best I just going gay and I'm bad at baby hairs young feel like just brushing them holes back. I would like for people to date whoever they want to love, whoever they want and to do whatever they want. But I don't feel like it should be forced on to me to accept your sexual preference. Is I don't care who you have sex with and I don't think anybody in the world does? If you find someone who's attracted to what you like, then you know there's so many different types of forums and websites and stuff like that, Ferg, a street and trans. Like separate and together announce into the world and the whole I'm coming out, I don't think that's. I don't think that should be even a thing. I hear a lot of people in the LGBTQ community say: do you think I want to get made fun of? Do you think I want this attention? Do you think I want this and this and that and to me it's like the answer when they ask that question I understand is rhetoric, but some I'm like yeah, because if you didn't want that attention, even if you were filling some type of way, you would Hide it. There are certain things that I don't want people to know so because of that I'm gon na hide it, because I don't want that attention. You know what I mean. It'S all bad, I suck at this I'm trying, though I'm trying yeah I'm trying. I don't think that anybody really cares like, for example, Dom. Oh, I love Dom. Oh and I liked Chrissie for a little while, but I don't know her personality just seemed fake, and indeed it was because she was like you know, put it on facade for YouTube. They both were to be honest with you. I don't like neither one of them anymore, because I'm just like both of you guys were faking for YouTube and it's like one shot. I blame the other and others trying to blame the other, and it's like y'all. Both were faking, stop trying to put the sick. Your followers on the other one like you guys, were both faking it who cares at the end of the day. No one cares about who you want to have sex with. You didn't have to make a video telling us that you're bisexual, if you would have run into a man when you started dressing like a female, because men like one girl's, dress feminine. That would have been up to you and I'm speaking about da mo, because da mo made a video saying that she was bisexual like a whole production, and I was just like what your coming out as bisexual. Like. Wasn'T it hard enough to come out as gay? Like I don't get it, but I don't want the attention, but you've got so many millions of views on that video. If you didn't want that attention, you wouldn't have put that video out there. You know. Just do you live your life, you know what I mean. You don't have to tell us, you don't have to tell us it's nobody's business, although people would like to know it's nobody's business, but your own. Okay, when it comes to transgender women. My biggest issue is the fact that it's now becoming legal for them to be in the same restrooms with us. It'S becoming legal for them to to put F on their ID instead of an M. So that means it's gon na say female. Instead of male and to me, that's just laws that don't make any sense. In my mind, I'm, like I thought adults were the ones making the laws like you know what I mean not to say that the transgender woman who put that F on or who want to put that F on their driver's license, not since they're, not adults. But what I'm trying to say is you're, not a woman, okay and if you've already done the surgery and you've done all the paperwork. You'Ve taken the hormones you're, no longer a male and that's okay. They teach us that old you're not you're, not skinny, you're, not fat you're in the middle, that's, okay, that's okay or if you're fat, you're fat. You got to be okay with that unless you want to go back unless you want to change or whatever you want to do, but you have to be what you are, and so, if they're gon na put a letter on your ID, it should be the letter T and you should be proud to carry that letter T. I just feel like that's something that prejudiced people do to oppress groups and women have been oppressed for centuries. That'S nothing! You can argue, that's something that you cannot argue and as a man being born a man who wants to become a woman who literally, can never become a woman like in its entirety. You just said you know what it I'm gon na look like one on the outside and I'm gon na be one. No, that's not fair to women. That'S not fair to us. I feel like we need people to hear that, like it's, not fair, it's not fair to me that I'm in the same group as someone that was born as a man and is now a woman, you didn't your life is nothing like mine. Your life is nothing like mine and that's not me. Looking down on your life, that's me saying that you might have a harder life than mine, so you should own that you should wear that as a badge like I'm going through some some that I could never imagine, because if, if T equals after an F equals T right so, if you're a woman, that means I'm a transgender woman and it's as easy as that and it's it doesn't make any sense to me because we aren't the same. I don't know your struggles, I don't know what you go through, but one thing I do know for a fact is that man can never come turn themselves completely into a woman. You can make that you can create a fake vagina. You could put fake boobs in you, can get a fake body shape you can put fake hair in. You can do whatever you got to do. But one thing you could never do is be a woman in its entirety. You can never have a menstrual cycle. You can never have a womb, and that's now, that's I'm just saying that's for now you can never. You will never know how it is growing up as a girl. The only way that you'll know growing up is as a boy who wanted to be a girl. Is that not real? Like that's your life, that's what she went through and you went through it and a whole bunch of other people are going through that same thing. Just don't take away from our struggles to put your struggles, you know what I mean: women have our own struggles, transgender women and men have their own struggles separately, transgender men, I'm sure, have different struggles and transgender women. So it's like these are all different groups. You can't just be like, oh because there's only two groups of sexes, I'm just going to throw myself into one or the other sex, because you, technically you don't fit into either of the sexes. You know it just makes me sick, especially when I see videos of like transgender women are competing with regular women in sports or like fighting them. Like I saw a boxer, I saw a marathon runner, I saw. I saw a transgender woman on Love & Hip, Hop, saying I'll, stop you, I slap you in and the girl said you can't slap me you'll go to judge and the transgender woman was like well, it's that's female on my ID. Is that female on my ID. So you're using that as an excuse to hit another woman knowing biologically you are much stronger than a woman. That'S like one thing that can never be changed. The very obvious difference between male and female is that one is superior physically okay, and I hope you guys understand that I still love y'all and my best friend in high school was a transgender girl. Her and I are no longer friends. We just kind of went different ways in life, but my best friend was homecoming queen in my high school and I helped promote, I help hand out them flyers and I made sure that she became homecoming queen okay and she won, and I wasn't even at the Damn dance, I didn't even get to go to the dance, because my mom was so strict. That was back in 2009 girl ten years ago and I know damn sure, I'm not homophobic, cuz I'll, be the gay up I'll beat anybody up who come at me crazy. I don't go, I have no body, okay, I'll, be any of y'all up. So if I had to anyways you know, I always am in the same spaces as and transgender. I am clear so it could be queer and still be homophobic. That'S fine! If you want me to be homophobic, so bad, that's! Okay, too! I don't I've, never seen anybody say it, but it's been on my heart for the longest, and I know that my subscribers that follow me on snapchat haven't seen me talk about it a few times. I used to talk about it until I was like I'm not about to get in trouble. I started seeing everybody getting canceled for a stupid and I was like I'm not going to get in trouble for you know expressing myself and then nobody even lets you speak. Nobody lets you say. Sorry, people are like. No, we don't know what here you say. Sorry or you say sorry, you can't even get away. You can't even like say sorry and peace. Like you, you say sorry, are you still in trouble? I just stop talking about it, but it's it was still heavy on my heart, the more I saw it, the the more I kind of felt the need to speak about it. It'S obviously we're occupying the same space is transgender. Women are getting are playing the roles of women now which it took me. I don't think it's fair, because I don't think that they will ever hire a woman to play a transgender woman. You see what I mean, that's what I mean by T, equals F by F. Doesn'T equal T, so it's not the same. You won't. Let us play the roles of a transgender woman, so I don't think that it will be fair for a transgender woman to play the role of a regular woman. Thank you for what it is. People always try to put new definitions to no make your own like make your own definition we're living in a new time. You literally can make your own definition your own space, your own apps. No, I'm going to say we all got the same opportunities and another thing that I don't like is when we try to compare transgender women to being black, you guys are oppressed. You should know how it feels and it's like we're oppressed for a whole different reason. They never went to an island full of gay people and transgender people and took all the game transgender people over to their country to build their country, and then they put rules in place that transgender and gay people cannot work in the fields that they're working in And transgender and gay people get in trouble easier or get longer sentences and other people do you know that transgender white transgender people, white gay people still have a higher advantage over black people in America? Like that kills me, you want to compare anything to a black person. It has to be something that you're literally born with something like one arm or two heads or Down syndrome. Something like that, then, that group of people that have that issue have to now be marginalized and ostracized and oppressed. Okay, that's the only way you can compare something to black people, so I just want to get that clear, like stop, stop trying to match your struggles with black people struggles like it's never gon na be the same, and I just wish more people spoke about that I'Ll be looking at comments like they really think that we have the same struggles. No, we know you have struggles, we have struggles, but they are nothing alike and you know it. I can't talk and do my hair and Michael like when I was younger. I always wanted to be a boy and that's facts until today. If you ask the man that I'm talking to right now ask him how many times I say I wish I was a man I wish I was a man, I'm always saying that I wish I was a guy like I used to say it when I was Young, like I still say, don't ill now the difference between somebody wanting to do something and actually taking actions on it is what differentiates different human beings. You know what I mean like. I want to take the actions to become a man, because, although I wish I was a man, I don't know the struggles that man deal with, although I wish I was a man I feel like, I would be a damn good man. I don't know the issues that men have to deal with. I always hear transgender women say like some up to regular woman like one like I said earlier about: oh some trans, some regular woman can't have kids like that's up. Why would you say that about somebody and then also some of them will be like you're, just mad cuz we're perfect. We look like dolls they're women made in the image of what everybody wants, a woman to look like they're beautiful. You know what I mean I'll be like you're just mad, because we look like you, but we don't have to have periods like and I've seen stuff like this, which is the reason why I started like thinking about it. I'M like wow in the black culture and I'm not comparing races, I'm comparing situations within a group of people, okay, so in the black group of people, you don't see us saying like um to other bye who oh haha, that's why you're oppressed like? No. You know. That'S how you know that we're not different, because we can't really can't be in the same group of people and be like hey. Well, that's why you have to go through this and I don't like you know what I mean unless you're in a different group, most transgendered women, because that's what I'm speaking on don't even know the struggles that transgendered men go through. I feel like women are much more accepting of it all this stuff, we fight for it. A lot more than men would for transgender for women like being born a woman and trying to become a transgender male. That'S another situation that a lot of people don't talk about. I know it's a lot harder because I go to the same gym as a transgender boy and he or as a transgender man, and he always comes to our bathroom still and I act. I was like well, I was like, aren't you transgender and he was like yeah and I was like so how come you don't go to the boys bathroom and he was like well because boys they be looking at me, like I'm crazy, and I just don't feel Like dealing with it, women are more accepting blah blah, and you know stuff like that. If that's the type of stuff that being born a man, you don't have to experience like the aggression and all that type of stuff is completely different. I kind of want to leave this topic because I feel, like I spoke on it enough and my lifting I did all of that and still mmm, oh, my god, I'm gon na go on to the next side. Actually, I'm gon na just finish this side and then come back cuz. I got some more to talk about um, but I want to start my makeup already. I'Ve been talking for too long wooden toe makeup, oh yeah. So while I was doing the side of my hair and I've distracted, I started watching YouTube and Tasha K. I don't know if you guys follow Tasha K, but she went online trying to ruin everybody. She grabbed lovely tea right by her jail down. We her should be jumped out in the same way my shouldn't be jail down. She grabbed that said. Yeah Tasha games not playing no games. She went in on the Daily Mail. She went in on cardi B, I'm halfway through baby girl. Some are we haven't get through this, so I can finish this this car to be driving us too much. It'S too much. I love cardi B to dad, like I loved her personality and like everything she stood for, but that incriminated, the out of herself down yeah, we're the ones who set the bar man we're the ones who set the bar. If you get too big and you set some senior pastors problematic, you can get into some big ass trouble. That'S that's just what it is we're the ones who set the bar. I ain't been doing no canceling. I don't be cancelling nobody. So you know I'm saying I am about to be like uh-uh that this this DAP, because low-key it's none of my business. Okay, I have some to deal with in my life that I'm dealing with in my life I'm more worried about our community as a whole. Then I am about, like all the drama that's going on, so that's reason why I'm talking about when I'm talking my mom know if, at the end of the day, all that matters is love, then you shouldn't put a restriction on it. Okay, that's what I believe and I've never been the type to follow the crowd. So is this the wrong color, I don't know yeah. I'Ve never been the type to just follow what everybody else is doing. Okay, so to me, when it comes to love when it comes to the LGBT community about picking one sex and being like. Oh, this is me and that's what I like to me: it's crazy, because you shouldn't be falling in love with what people look like and this community that has such a vast spectrum. You should be following your love with what's on the inside of that person, not on that outwardly appearance, and you should know that, especially if you think on the outside of your body, it's not like what you want you're outside of your body to be. You know what I mean, because I'm telling you I had these issues too, if I didn't choose to make the decision to just be a woman, because that's what I came out as - and you know also I'm Nigerian so trying to change it up. It'S not gon na happen and be accepted in my community. If I was the type 2 that was kind of persuaded or encouraged or influenced to become transgender, I would have especially if I knew that the boys were gon na be accepting on the other side. It'S not about my parents on the outside, God is what put disappearance on the outside, and whenever I want a change it, I can okay. So whatever I want to fall in love with, if it comes, then I should be open to it since we're okay, with what like being able to love whatever or whoever wan na love, then I should be able to do that. It shouldn't have to be about what they look like it. Shouldn'T have to be anything like. Oh, I only like girls Eiling like boys from the heterosexual point of view and the homosexual point of view, which it shouldn't be if you're in that spectrum, it shouldn't be. Oh, I only like girls are only like boys like it should be like I'm in love with the person. You know what I mean, that's how I see it anyways, like some people, I'm not attracted to boys. It'S like you, haven't seen every boy in the world. My mind is a little bit further, like it's expanded, a lot more than other people's and I've taken that as what it is, because that is what it is. You could try and tell me no, but that's what it is. If you want to be in a spectrum you shouldn't, be you shouldn't, judge people by the way they look on the outside. I wanted to talk about this black fishing stuff. That'S been going on and how problematic it is, even though, like I said, all the other bloggers have already spoken about it. It'S poking spoken about it, they have pictures and they have all the cool stuff that I don't necessarily do I'll. Try to put some pictures in and stuff like that, because you know I'm capable of it, but I just don't want people to get used to this channel as that you know, because that's not what it is anyways not right now it might turn into that because Then was making the views and, to be honest, they don't really have to do anything but Google some pictures and put it on a slideshow. I feel like a lot of the vloggers. They they say that things are problematic, but they don't explain it in a way where people who are not in your shoes will understand people who don't understand what you're going through. They need to understand it too. So you need to take yourself out your shoes and explain it in a way that they will understand to me if I was a white person anyways, and I saw all these black girls wearing my hair. Let me say: hair that looks like mine, because technically this is not their hair. This is hair that came from someone that was mixed with a whole bunch of different races, and/or from the age of the Asian descent. It'S not Caucasian hair and I don't really know anybody who buys Caucasian hair because it's not the best grade of hair. I'M talking about durability and longevity, it's not the you know best hair and then we tell them like. Oh, we could wear your hair, but you cannot wear our in there not gon na get it they're gon na be like okay, first of all, you're wearing our hair, but you don't want us to take your skin. We like your skin, so we're gon na. Take it by all means necessary, even if that means that I'm take some melatonin shots or whatever that thing is called Patricia bright. Recently she got tan, and I am Aloha made a video about it, saying that black people know me to get tan. That'S gon na confuse them people and blah blah blah another stuff, and I was just like yeah. I get what you mean girl, but at the end of the day, like I don't think tanning is the problem tanning when it's natural and it looks like okay, I was in the Sun and it looks nice. I think that's okay, anybody can do that and I don't think necessarily that they're trying to get black people's skin by doing that. But I do think that people that are going out there and injecting themselves with things that aren't even approved by the FDA, like just so that they can get black and not I'm not talking about like, like a light-skinned girl. I'M talking about black like darker than me, black, okay, that's when there's a problem. It'S like you have to do some mental evaluation on people like that, like what is going on in your mind, what do you want being able to change your skin complexion to a race that is oppressed without having to deal with any of the things that we Had to deal with this is where the similarities of transgender in come into place, at least for me and again, this isn't comparing the black race to the transgendered sexuality, these white girls being able to change their race without having to deal with the oppression of black People and as a matter of fact, you're glorified for getting a tan, because you look black and because it's different and because, oh my god, a white girl or she got injections, illegal, dangerous injections and she looks black wow. We'Ve been trying to look like black people. This long and finally, somebody has to come along and given us the secret in the code to it. Let'S broadcast this, let's tell all these other white people have to do it: how to make these black people Matt 2019, because they've been doing it all 2019. Getting us in an uproar and at the end of the day like they don't even care, they don't even hear our screams. They don't hear our cries. They don't do a about what the we're going through Patricia bright, she's, a black woman. She went in Ghana ten. Instead of them do documentary on a black woman who got a tan cuz, that's rare, you know, I'm saying you don't see that often, instead of them doing a documentary on Iran already on an already deep dark woman getting a tan, they went and got a white Girl and was like, oh my god, she's getting illegal injections. Let'S promote that lets glamorize this you took on our skin complexion. One thing that we pride, the one thing that we like one thing that was given to us kind of like as and I'm sorry for all this that uh, you know this world is going to put you through. But here you go: here's some melanin and you're trying to take that from us too, and it's like come on, give us a break for women. Our pretty like, oh my hair, my makeup, my boobs, my butt, like the pretty of us and the femininity of us, is kind of like the privilege that was given to us for all the burdens that we have to face as women and the oppressions that we Have to deal with as women, let me let me break down the reason why black women, where we there's not only other black women who have really healthy hair or black women, with hair textures in the threes in the twos and the ones and the white people And black men, especially who make fun of us wearing weaves, it's like everybody, except for the girls who wear weaves, make fun of girls having weaves. What they seem to forget is that not only black girls wear weaves and I hate to say not only black girls wear weaves, because it's like whoo. What does it matter? Let me explain to you why we's became so big and why it's a piece, a huge piece of our culture, that I don't believe necessarily needs to go away. It can and I'm sure it will over time, but I don't think it necessarily needs to go away right now, at least not until society looks at us as human beings, while we're wearing our hair, regardless of if it's thin. If it's thick, if it's heavy, if it's light, if it's, whatever our hair, underneath these wigs for one me to be taken care of okay, our hair is naturally dry. We put oils in it in our hair, eats the oils everything we put on our scalp in our body, our body eats it. Okay, our bodies, I'm about to get too deep for you right now. Okay, people think that black woman, because we go for weeks and sometimes without washing our hair, that we're dirty I've lived with white people before okay, black people are here even after a month and don't stink. We know when our hair smells and we normally wash it. I'M not gon na say that's all black girls, because I've met black girls who don't know how to take care of their hair. But I met more white women who don't know how to take care of their hair than I have black women, and even one black woman don't know how to take care of their hair. They pay somebody else to take care of it. Okay, one thing that we do know about our hair that you cannot tell us about is how long we can go without washing it and without embarrassing ourselves from stench cuz. You know it as well, as I know it when a black woman walks past you, you smell that shea butter, you smell them herbs. When a black girl walks past you, she smells good, she smells divine. She smells heavenly. A white girl don't wash her hair for two days and that's because white people's hair don't absorb moisture the way that ours does it just kind of the moisture just sits on top of it and it's like a wet mop and if you guys don't wash your Hair for a couple of days it starts to smell damp. It starts to stink, y'all start spraying powder on your hair dry, shampoo. All that we don't need to do that. We'Re different we're different human beings were actually different species of human beings, so things that we do are a little bit different than you. One thing that I can't say is that I don't think I've met a white girl who can do hair like black women. Even the hair on their head, I know a lot of white girls that go to black girls to get their hair done and when Society was telling us, we couldn't wear our real hair in order to get a job we put on those white girls hairs and We turned it into something: okay, we made it, we made it this and it looks like your hair and it looks like scalp, and it looks like this, and it looks like that. We did that we did it. You guys can't work with us. If you look like that, so we we assimilated and we made it happen and this kind of adopted into our culture now you're trying to tell us to get rid of it. You'Re stupid. We worked way too hard, so many billions have been put into this industry for you to try and make it seem like the reason why people don't take you serious cuz. You got other peoples hair on your head, you're dumb. I got my hair on my head and then on top of that I got some other hair on top of my head and on top of that, the hair on top of my head still looks better than any white that you know no offense, no offense, but White girls don't like to do their, but we all want to have the same amount of time in our day. We all want to be able to do the that we want to do and anybody, including black men, because y'all get to cut your hair off. But when we cut our hair off yeah, I got an issue with it all those black girls we try to. We want to have the same amount of time in our day to do whatever the we want to do, but y'all want us to do our hair. Every day, y'all want to suspend two hours doing our hair every day. How the hell is that gon na work? No, we gon na do our hair we're gon na take care of it underneath this underneath these hair hats is what they like to call it. We'Re gon na we're gon na take care of our hair underneath the hair, hats? Okay! Why? Because we can't cut it off. We can't leave it out because will damage it. We can't get a job with it. We can't do with our hair underneath but enjoy it when we're at home or amongst our family. Our hair, underneath our hats, should be a privilege to our people, because y'all made us cover it. You made us cover our hair, so the only time that should be able to see our hair is if their loved ones or, if they're looking at it online, you shouldn't even be able to touch smell, feel it or even be able to understand our hair. This is our. This is magical. You know what I'm saying like, and I just don't understand how we allow to hurt our feelings and to try to persuade us that the that we're doing the most majestic on planet Earth we allowed to make us feel like what we're doing is wrong. That'S crazy! Whoa they don't do it to me mmm they try, but I just be like okay, you sound stupid, there's, no way that I me a black woman, an African woman, who's gon na feel inferior to anybody else. Then that doesn't sound right at least not to me.