6 Ways To Get Rid Of Hair Anxiety While Blind Dating

My friend told me she was going on a blind date. She had everything picked out: shoes, clothes, and makeup. The only thing that she was super anxious about was her hair. “What if he hates it? You know how these guys are!” She frantically quizzed me. Darn near drove me half crazy with her nervousness!

She did the big chop about a year ago, and just started to really enjoy her hair. Since she had not been dating, her hair never was an issue for any of the guys she hung out with.

She has recently started to date again. Blind dates come with their own set of issues. Her question is always the same, ‘What if he doesn’t like my hair?”

We have discussions all the time about how guys feel about our hair. What would we do if our man hated our big chop, or if he played the woman power card by saying that we don’t give a rat’s behind what that he thinks? It’s our body, and nobody can tell us what to do with it.

But what if you want to make a great impression, and you want the guy to accept you – all of you – without having to compromise anything? This doesn’t even sound like a problem a woman should have, but the truth is some women still have slight anxiety when it comes to natural hair and dating, because we are still unsure if the majority of men out there are as accepting of natural hair, as we think they are.

The other truth is you might meet one or two guys who flat out prefer straight hair: whether permed, flat ironed to death, or a weave*, that’s life!

So we can understand some level of anxiety, but we want to make the point that not everyone is going to like everything, so the onus is on you to get rid of the anxiety, and date with confidence. Here are six ways you can get rid of hair anxiety while dating:

1. Do not make a big deal about it

We know natural hair is a big deal now, but the faster we get to the part where we are so comfortable with it that it is actually a part of you, then it is easier for us not to be anxious.

You aren’t anxious about other parts of you, so what’s the big deal about your hair? It is a part of your overall appearance. On date night, you might make sure you have the right shoes for your feet, but you don’t spend all night talking about your toes, do you?

2. Be confident about your hair

This is easier said than done, and might be the very issue in the first place. Confidence gives you comfort, and it tells the person you are OK with who you are, and how you look (including your natural hair).

To build confidence, you have to get comfortable with your natural hair; how it looks; how it behaves, and what looks make you feel your best. Try a variety of styles – do not just wear a bun or a twist out. Styling your hair helps you to get comfortable with it, and will lead to confidence in how your hair looks.

3. Prepare yourself for a negative reaction

Hey, it might happen, so you might as well know what to do when it does. If he doesn’t like your hair, then maybe he isn’t the guy for you – it’s that simple.

Guys can get tricky though, because they will play nice for a while, and you won’t know how they really feel until you have invested a ton of time. You probably won’t know how he feels on that blind date either, so if you decide to see him again, know the signs. Although they might think they are slick, they aren’t – you will get a clue early on.

4. Take care of your hair

Natural hair is a part of your appearance, so take care of it. If you treat it like crap, it will start to look like crap – and that does nothing for hair anxiety.

Make sure your hair is healthy: get trims, deep condition, and protect your ends. These things naturally get rid of anxious feelings. If you don’t believe me, just try it!

5. Maybe it isn’t your hair

Sometimes we try to off load deeper issues on things that have nothing to do with the true problem. Maybe you feel anxious because you recently gained weight. Like all women feel, nothing looks right after that, and dating might get difficult -especially blind ones.

If you can identify the issue, then target the issue and see if you feel better about your hair after you have started working on your other stuff.

6. Exercise

Exercise can cure a bunch of stuff including anxiety because it gets your good juices flowing, and adds to your overall health. Don’t skip the workouts, especially before a date.

When you feel right you can pretty much knock him dead, regardless of what your natural hair is doing that night. We all know our hair won’t cooperate when we need it to anyway, but when you feel good, nothing can steal that joy.

Well that’s it. Have you ever been on a blind date, and was your hair an issue? Do dish out below!