How Journaling Helps With Alopecia & Confidence! | Wigs For Kids

God grant me the serenity to accept the things. I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. You know repeating that to myself was very helpful. Confidence and self-affirmation is so important when you have a broken mirror. Let me explain what a broken mirror means. A broken mirror is the psychological level within you on how you look, how you feel and Emily's here to share with you our weeks for kids family, how, through her journey of hair loss, alopecia and how she was able to continue to build her confidence up through Journaling and through really seeking within, I want you to share what made you get to where you're at now out of college in a career. But you went through some tough times through the high school years and even before. So what? How did you get the confidence to be who you are today? There was a huge you know hit to my my self-esteem when my hair had fallen out and I felt extremely insecure, which just you know I won't do. I don't want anyone to feel that way. Ten percent, what happens to you, ninety percent, how you react to it? So I knew you know. I can't just you know sulk over this for so long and need to have Solutions. I realized that I had been talking pretty negatively to myself, which you know affected. How I saw myself. I was looking in the mirror, the broken mirror, as you say, and it kind of also affected. How others saw me as well. You know they could tell like that. I just wasn't as confident I started to journal was one of the main things that I had done and I you know would write in the journal, the things that I wanted to believe about myself and that I did believe so. I would write I am beautiful. I am confident everything that has to do with you know insecurities just to make just to make me feel better about myself. Somebody would say well, you're, just writing things out um, but when you Journal and to look into a real mirror and to speak out those words, psychology teaches us as well as spiritual consciousness, is that that begins to record, because we're thinking I've heard the numbers. 30. 000 thoughts a day and 50 000, whatever the number is there's a lot going on, but 80 of it is usually is negative on a normal human being. Who has no challenges except the normal day-to-day life, but now lose your hair going to school. The challenges of life itself relationships you really have to re-record and re-record and re-record not just like once and that's why I think people fail, they try it once uh twice right, it didn't work. The repetition is very important, just like an athlete and you had to work out continually practicing and so that you get better and better saying the first day that you were, you know gymnast or uh. You know a cheerleader was not the end, all right right. So now, how did you do it on a day-to-day basis? Was there a time every morning was there? What were you doing right? So I think, especially if something bad had happened to me during the day. I would want to journal about that and I would start to write something negative and I would say how can I twist this into something positive, so you know say my eyebrow had wiped off and I had gotten embarrassed instead of being super down on myself about It I just kind of say I'm okay with who I am this is this is who I am. This is what has happened to me, that that is out of my control, and then I can, you know kind of do some research or prepare some tips. For me on like how I can make sure that doesn't happen again, if I'm not comfortable with my eyebrow, you know we're getting wiped off, but there would be no reason for me to be down on myself about a situation like that, because that that was who, Who I was - and you know I didn't - have eyebrows and it is okay to not have eyebrows it's okay to not have hair, it's something I couldn't control so then I would also you know: do my daily prayers and instead of um being down on myself there. I would I would still thank God I would say you know thank you for how fortunate I am for the things that I do have and just kind of just keep that positive. Affirmations going Steve coming, um wrote the book, many books or books, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and he talks about the paradigm shift and the paradigm shift is where I'm thinking this way because of circumstances situations it's real, but I can. I have the power within me to change how I see that you said it earlier in this program and it's so important because there's also a quote that comes from Philippians. It says think upon these things, but it starts that sentence starts with. Therefore, it did just told about all the problems and circumstances that took place and Paul's life was writing this, but therefore he says think upon the things that are good, please and perfect, and we can all find that I've worked with people that have cancer. I'Ve had people that have had you know Burns and all kinds of other issues that have come to see me in my private practice and it's amazing for the ones that succeed have that Paradigm. They if they have to fight the battle every day and then the substation, but this journaling helps you go through an incredible Dimension that is greater and explain to us. Also diary and journaling are definitively very different, although people put them in the same category. Yes, yeah, that kind of isn't something that I thought about, but I do have like a separate kind of thing, like a diary saying whatever I want, but in my journal, I'm being very thoughtful about what I'm writing down in there with the Positive Affirmations. You know something that will make me feel better. If I need to want to look back and read it or you know lessons, I've learned, yeah, that's ministering to you. Yes, exactly so yeah. Also in my journal, I would write down the Serenity Prayer. If does anyone? If anyone's ever heard of it, it's God grant me the serenity to accept the things. I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdoms know the difference. So just you know repeating that to myself. Um was very helpful because I needed to accept the things I couldn't change and I could not change the fact that I didn't have hair, but I needed to have the courage to change the things I can. You know I could get a wig. I could microblade my eyebrows. I could do whatever I needed to do to make me comfortable, but I couldn't just make my hair grow back, which is out of my control, but the things that I can control. That is what I wanted to be doing. The things that made me feel good about myself, one of the books that I've written out of the Journal of book that I wrote but also the book. I call metamorphosis it's about an ugly caterpillar that transforms into a beautiful butterflies. I wrote it because of a child that I watched go through what you just said. I mean Right Touch Me deeply, because I watched a child go through that process. Many of them, you know with weeds for kids, but I watched them feeling like they were the ugly caterpillar. So I wrote about that and then a beautiful butterfly tells them about this journaling and about the repetition of affirmations for themselves, looking in the mirror and then the blossoming of the Cocoon and they became a butterfly. And I think that that's what you're talking about. It'S really taking charge of your life yeah, taking control of what may be a lemon at the moment, but you're turning it into lemonade and journaling gives you the ability to really navigate through the waters right yeah, and I also want to point out that I don't Owe it all to journaling my confidence that my parents, you know, helped me get a therapist which I know is kind of a popular thing these days to have a therapist us, especially for parents? I think it's important that I was never going to say. I need help, but it was pretty. It came apparent to a certain point like I need someone to talk to and if my parents didn't know how to talk to me, they they were very great. I'M very grateful that they not had had forced me into therapy, but they had suggested it and we they were. You know they were just very nice about easing me into it and like saying like this, this may help you and it did. It helped me a lot being able to have that extra person to talk to, and it's so important, because again some parents loving you and loving compassion. They are hurting so bad for you that you're going through and they're. Probably their perception of what you're going through is even greater than what you're going through, but in turn, that perception makes them sometimes limited on the ability to really give you the ear, because sometimes you just want to talk right yeah I did, and I was never Going to say, please put me in therapy because I'm stubborn, like that, so when they had approached me about it, I felt comforted that they were doing something to help me. You'Ve got a lot uh to kind of digest from this particular episode journaling and that beautiful career give it that one more time the the um, the Serenity Prayer yeah. God grant me the serenity to accept the things. 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