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What'S good, you guys welcome back to my channel if you're new here, what's up love, i'm kay and if you've been here before. Thank you so much for stopping back bye, alright! So today i have got a video i've never done before. I don't think i've ever done a video where i asked you guys to give me your scenarios and i answered them. I'Ve never done a video like that, but i really really really wanted to do one today if you're interested in that, do you make sure to keep on watching? But if you have not subscribed, please please, please consider, subscribing and being a part of the family. I would love to have you a part of the gang and also follow me on instagram, so you don't miss any of the polls. I'M going to be asking a lot of these interactive type of questions so that you guys can be kind of a part of my videos and yeah, and i also want to give a huge shout out to today's sponsor. Thank you to so good here for sponsoring. Today'S video shout outs are so good here because i've actually kind of had this hair for a minute. Now um, i got the hair before lockdown, but the issue is the corona thing was kind of wild, so i had to discard the packaging. I would have showed you guys how the box looked and everything and what came in it, but i literally got the hair took it out of the box washed it, and i was good. I was safe, that's basically it! I absolutely love this hair. It'S like 10. 12 inches i'll have all the details you need down below. I will have an entire description box filled with all the information you might need on this hem, so yeah without any further ado, let's hop straight into the video all right guys, let's get started. Here'S my league, here's the link that i'm going to be working with today and yeah. If you've seen this oh wow, i was like taking my photo for you if you've seen this top and this makeup before. That is definitely because i filmed my foundation routine and now i'm about to apply my wig. This is like it's times like this. When i realized how much support i actually have because anytime, i ask a question: i need help with the video you guys literally pull up. So thank you so much. I really do appreciate that, but that just means that i've got way more stuff to go through and i really really don't want that type of thing where people feel like i'm not answering their questions. But honestly, i can't go through everybody's questions, so i'm going to be reading some scenarios, a screenshot of the ones that i am going to be answering, i'm just going to first prep, my hair. I don't even have my wig cap girl. Let me get my wig cap, this hair is from so good here and it is really cool. So it's not just a normal bob. It'S got the streak on the side, this blonde streak. I thought that was really nice, so i did pick this hair up so yeah. 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I'Ve got a wig cap with me and i'm going to be styling this hair. So let's get into some of these questions and these scenarios? Okay, so i've basically just whipped the wig on my head um. I don't know if you guys can tell but the volume of this hair. Oh it looks crazy. It looks, it looks crazy, don't judge me, but the volume of this hair is what's telling me that i think it would be better if i curled it it's just very voluminous. So i don't know if you guys can tell but um from temple to temple. The wig is sitting pretty nicely and then on. The sides is where i need to put some glue, i'm just going to take a little bit of cutting and i'm going to get started with that. It'S just that much okay! So before i get started with the curling of the hair, i am going to read out our first scenario. So, okay, i'm not going to say who sent in which scenario um, because i did promise that i'm gon na keep you guys anonymous. But the very first one says so. I recently broke up with some guy for someone who i've loved for a good three to four years. We both feel the same about each other. The thing is he's taking his time to make me his and his only and now things are awkward over text. He says he's waiting to see me face to face, but with this pandemic i don't think i'll get to see him anytime soon. I want. I really want him to be mine. Okay, so you saying that you've broken up with someone for someone else who you've been in love with for three to four years, but the pandemic is stopping him from making you his pandemic. If you look at me, not even catholic, what wait girl, let me read this again to make sure no girl wait. I read it again and wait so you broke up with someone so that you can be with someone who you've loved for three to four years. Right but you said you know that he feels the same way, so you guys clearly have spoken about this thing. It'S not the pandemic base. Sorry to tell you, but it's not a pandemic. No, not only not one of the two. No it's not the pandemic. If you and him have known you guys, like each other for three to four years but he's blaming the pandemic, i was if it wasn't for the fact that you guys have known each other for a long time. I would have said: no, maybe he's not making it official, because this is just lockdown love. Lockdown love is a real thing. You know, no lockdown. Love is a very real thing like when somebody is just pushing it. Just because you know hotels like you can't go out, you can't do what you normally do. You know, so i was gon na say that, but now you're saying that you guys have been have been well aware of each other's feelings. For three to four years. My babes, it's not that when a guy doesn't want to make things official, he will find every excuse in the book like that's. Why pandemic like? Also, okay, i don't know your situation right and i'm not promoting for you guys to not social distance, but people have made plans hey like when you really want to see somebody you make a plan in this pandemic like restaurants are open now you know like i'm, Not saying don't social distance or stuff like that like, but honestly, if you've been social distancing - and this was like one visit - i genuinely don't see how you're not seeing the people in your life that wants to see you. You know, if we're all being honest, you've seen people you've, seen your cousins you've seen your friends you've seen your man like you've, seen people so have a pandemic; maybe okay, maybe he's in another province, or something like that. Okay, shout out that i hear, but here's my thing guys when a wants, you a wants. You like stop making excuses and stop having them make excuses. It'S the truth, like it sucks the fact that you know like. Sometimes you have to understand that people can do stuff, but sometimes they just don't want to do stuff for you. That can hurt that can really hurt um, because everybody has the ability to do something for the person that they want and the person that they, like. A lot, but this harsh reality of it is that sometimes people won't do things, because it's you they don't have an issue with doing things like i'm sure, he's seen his other friends, but because it's you he's gon na say, oh pandemic. There'S no way, there's no guys. Regulations are so hard to stick to and i'm not. Obviously, i'm not saying to you go ahead and like go see everybody you know, act like life is normal no, but i'm just saying like if lockdown started in april, are you telling me that household shaky high one hustle take it? No but yeah, i'm just saying guys like sometimes it's a very harsh reality to figure out or come to terms with the fact that people can really do things, but the problem is doing things for you. So someone said a past toxic relationship affecting a new relationship. Okay, so some wise women once told me that don't open a door when you haven't closed another, and that is that on period, if you know that you come from a very rough situation for the love of yourself, try not to rush into something else, because as Soon, as you see, or as soon as you realize, the fact that this new relationship, it's it's suffering the consequences of what happened to you in your past relationship nine times out of ten is because you actually haven't taken out the time to actually heal. I know people in my real life who moved on because they had taken so long to heal, like, for example, their last relationship was like, maybe three years ago and they're. Just like it's been three years. I have to move on. Don'T do that, no matter how much time has gone by if you haven't healed, you haven't healed even if it's gon na take three four five years. If you haven't healed, you haven't healed. You know what i'm saying: um also just jumping into a relationship, because you need to jump into a relationship or you need the support to someone else or you're so used to being in a relationship that not being in a relationship kind of gives. You anxiety, um stuff, like that. You know i'm obviously giving context to something that was like one sentence, but i'm trying to like obviously give you guys as many scenarios as possible as to why you'd be in a situation like this right. Of course, there's ptsd. Of course like, even if you fully healed - and you fully discovered yourself and you've gone on your journey, ptsd is always gon na be there. But if it's fully affecting this new relationship, you haven't healed and that's so, okay, it's literally it's fine. If you have not healed, you have not healed it's not by force. It'S not my force to get into a new situation syndrome and you're, just like. Oh my god like i need to be in a relationship. I'M such a relationship person. People know me to be in a relationship. You know all these things. If everything about your healing process has everything to do with everything else, except you and your true true healing, i think we all know when we've really healed. We all know when we're really ready. You know so yeah. I just think that these types of things always happen when you've rushed a step in this process. You know - and you you haven't been fully honest with yourself because, what's meant to be will be so if it's not feeling right, it's probably not. It'S probably not right, you're, probably not ready for this relationship girl and that's also, okay, just saying yes, i'm not ready for a relationship, i'm actually not ready for a relationship, because i'll just be wasting my time and yours, that's! Okay! That'S fully! Okay! That'S like such an okay thing, in fact, if more people were to admit that so much can be avoided if more people just admitted. Oh, you know what i'm actually not ready for this and i'm not gon na lead you on, because i haven't healed from my past traumas. Do you know how much we'd avoid do you know how much do you know how much rubbish we would all avoid if people were just honest with themselves? Okay, so this one's a bit long, i actually want to take a break and read it to you guys. This one i read last night and it was actually kind of interesting - it's just a little long, so listen so hi kay. So i dated this guy from 2018 to early 2020 and we started dating in my metric year and i was 18 and he was 24.. We broke up on the first of january um because i found out he was cheating at a new year's eve party that i didn't attend. People send me pictures of him being busy with other girls. He spun me a fantastic story. I forgave him and we got back together, um and then she says i then saw that he's been liking and commenting under one certain girls pictures and i never brought it up because i didn't want to be that jealous fussy girlfriend. I was just torturing myself because, because i'd seen him, i see him every time on the girl's page fast forward to december 2019. I wanted to quickly call my mother right to wish her a happy new year, but i didn't have air time, so i asked him for his phone. I opened it and a message popped up. It said happy new year baby. So now i'm confused listen to what she says so now she says so now i'm confused because i'm right beside him - and i don't remember, texting him - you should put the skull. Okay, i go into the chat and it's the same girl from instagram. My heart fell. I was so hurt in november i found out. I was seven weeks pregnant and it was his. I chose to get an abortion because i didn't feel like. I was mature enough to bring a child into this world. He had been pressing me to get the abortion because he wasn't ready to introduce a girl and a child to his mother, mind you, my family knew him and everything, but it was a secret at his house. I really felt that he pressured me to abort because he wanted to be in the streets, but ultimately um. The decision was mine to go through with it as usual, love to be sorry um. So he was grumbling doing the most to get me back telling me that he'll stop what he was doing with the girl. But i'd had enough of him and his lies right sharp. Then she goes on to say. Then he comes back and said that he was bisexual. So that's why he couldn't commit to me because he didn't know who he was. I was flawed him being bisexual was nothing to do, had nothing to do with the type of shitty person he was. He used his sexuality to try to get me to forgive him, then, after that he told me that he's suicidal and that he's doing drugs, and at this point i didn't care because he had done me dirty so many times. Is that wrong of me? He hurt me to the point of thinking that i'm done with dating and i'm only 19.. You know, what's so crazy about these scenarios before i even get onto her chat, you know what it is with all these texts and these emails towards the end. I always get this notion that the people that are sending me these, i'm so confused messages, always really know what to do like deep down and like from the tone of the ending and certain things and lines that people say like they know what they're doing, and They know what to do, and that's my thing about going through things, because, honestly and truly you know you know what to do. You know that this feels wrong. You know that he's lying. You know, like that's the crazy thing like even when people like are like complaining about stuff, you can hear it and even if you're, going through something and you're like oh yeah koisha this nigga's doing this, then be honest with me. If i was to give you a million rand to tell me the solution to your issue, you would give it to me. You know what to do. You know what i'm saying and what i why i want to say: stuff like that is because, at the end of the day, girls and guys, we have instincts, she had the instinct before all of the went down and before the bisexuality. She had an instinct that this had not changed. She knew it. You know, you know you know dogwashi, but, like you know it and i feel like it's, so i think it's just really can be so simple, but it's stuff like being emotionally attached to people and going through things like abortions and going through things like your first Love and like being so young, that's what causes the murky waters. Otherwise things really really could be black and white, and i say all that just to basically say that if there's one thing you should never ever ever ignore it's your instinct. If there is one thing, because that is always right, she knows what she's doing like dude. When you have a feeling about something. When you know something is wrong, when you know that i really shouldn't be forgiving, you i really shouldn't be, but let's go when you do like that. You know you know what i'm saying but honestly and truly you're dealing with the manipulator the to the girl who sent this you're dealing with a very manipulative man, very manipulative, because when people start to blame everything else, but them there's no there's no moving forward. There'S no moving forward. There'S no there's no solution here like if you really genuinely just cannot say okay sure again, no like i, i personally just don't want to be with you no um. I just want to commit like you're, not the right girl to bring home. Like you're, not the right girl for me to tell my parents about you're, not the right girl for me to respect in public. I will cheat in front of all your friends and have your friends take pictures and i'll two at a new year's eve party, because i genuinely just don't respect you if you are not able to deal with and not necessarily be in love with and be in A full-on relationship with people that tell you things like that face-to-face, but just like, be at least at least have a man or a guy in your life, that's able to just say no, but here's the truth. I have the certain feeling about you and i want to keep you at this distance, and i want to have this much access to you. Not all my bisexuality is causing me to wan na keep you at arm's length and oh no um. My mother is the reason why i don't want to fully commit dude. If you can't say me, i'm the one i'm the reason. I don't want to do this, like also it's so acceptable. I don't think guys necessarily understand that. Yes, it's going to hurt, but it's very acceptable to just say bad, like scale don't like scale. I don't know what like i don't want like. I don't know what, like. I don't think guys understand that you can just say scale dog like like. Sometimes i genuinely think that especially people like this, i think they're just addicted to the attention and they always find the right people. You know they always find the right person to give them that attention and that and that no, but you know like they, always find the right people to give them that that back and forth, if that makes sense, they always find somebody who's, not self-aware enough to Just say: oh no, he just doesn't want to, and these types of guys always find the type of girl where, even if you say to her dog fool she'll, always be like no ways. I still want you, they always find those type of girls and that's why it's just a cycle. It'S just a cycle. You know like it doesn't end. Basically, what i'm saying to you, sis is, you know, you know, you know you knew about the girl. You knew that the girl was a factor. You knew you knew, you knew, i'm not blaming. You obviously like i said there are certain things like emotions and feelings and experiences, and we've been through so much that will cause you to stay longer than you should have and that's understandable. But i'm just saying at the end of the day you knew and at the end of the day you know what to do that. Man, like i don't think you guys understand the difference between someone who wants you and someone who doesn't somebody who wants you makes it so clear clear as day. I also can't blame people because it's not like you just go into the world and you experience a flood of people showing you what it is to be wanted and like desired and loved things like that are very rare. We'Re in a world where guys do what they want to do. Girls do what they want to do. Nobody really shows intention, like that. You know so it it. It'S not surprising that a lot of people don't know how that feels, because that's a very rare emotion, that's why finding the one and all of that is so idealized, because it's such a rare thing you know so, at the end of the day, when you do When you do find somebody who really really loves you and who really really wants to be with you, especially a guy guys, a girl for me, in my opinion, girls, don't show it as much or as easily. But when a man wants you, a man wants you and a man is willing to do whatever trust me. When a man doesn't want you, you know when a man wants you, you know he can lie to you and do and that's my thing, here's my thinking. I think here's my thing here, i think, stop listening to men, listen, stop listening to men and start looking at them. Don'T listen! Don'T when they talk, don't watch what they do. That'S clear as day clear as day this girl could have avoided this whole situation and she stopped listening to this guy. Don'T listen to men, they're, actually they're. So every single man is so guck at acting when he doesn't want you. He acts that way like he can tell you everything to try get into your pants and do all these things he can try. If there's one thing, i've learned, it's that you don't listen to, they can say and do all they want to do with their mouths. But when it comes time to act, that's where you've got them, they can't fake it for long. They can't what he's saying what he's doing are so different, and that is enough for you. That is enough to show you what's up. You know, like i said you will know when a man wants to be with you, because he will act that way. That'S it that's it. Some men can act longer than others, but at the end of the day they crack it's like these days too. They just crack easily as two months two months: they've, cracked, we're making it harder than it actually needs to be just watch, how a acts and how he moves. And you have all your answers because they will talk for days. They will talk for days, but when it comes to actions and like actually showing me that you want to be with me completely different, it's like two different chains. Really, if we're being honest and this girl says hi kay, i'm a 21 year old and i'm repeating my third year of a four-year degree show i just realized - i do not love and i'm not passionate about what i'm doing. This has affected my marks, because i can't even find the motivation to study the thing. Is i'm still trying to figure out what i love and what i'm good in this is really stressing me out, because it seems people have figured out what they want to do with their lives and working on their goals and achieving them. I feel stuck stagnant and unhappy would appreciate some kind of advice for a person in my situation. Here'S my thing about it. I know you know when essay celebrities give body motivational speeches they always just like um yo. If you don't have a figure out between your form, trust and believe uh you're, basically, if you don't have it figured out by 22 21, if you haven't made your first million by 25 you're. Basically that is not. That is not true. That is not true. We are alive for too many years for us to have it figured out at an early age and that's why i genuinely lowkey hate the school system, because you kind of have to make a decision and be decided about what you want to do by 18, because Not even by 18, by grade 9, because those subjects that you choose are like what you're going to be doing, and then you have to make a decision on the rest of your life at 18 when you're about to take a four-year course and yeah. You can't do this again, you can't be 25 going back to varsity, that's a waste of time and that's weird bro like there is no there's no formula like there's no formula. I know it's obviously not in the grand scheme of things when you're alone at night. In your bed scrolling on instagram, it's not very comforting to hear that it's okay and it's going to be okay and you will have it figured out and it's not comforting because girl. What are you talking about? I need a burger now. I want a birkin right now. I want to graduate right now i'm seeing people graduate. I want to graduate right now and i want to be happy with what i chose. First of all, here's what i will say at 18 and that how old are we in grade 9? 15? That'S too young? Okay! So if you make the wrong decision, trust and believe it's okay, because not everybody's gon na get it right the first time not everybody can tell i've seen those things on pinterest where basically they say, or they tell stories about you know: jk rowling, the girl, not The girl, the lady who wrote um harry potter, i think she wrote harry potter when she was in her 30s. Like there's no timeline, i know the pressure is crazy. Um, you see people your age, doing things and being decided on things, but if you, if you just learn to be present, i talked about this in that get ready with me. If you learn and just kind of see the beauty in being present and understanding and being grateful for your journey, one thing i will guarantee you of is that a grateful heart attracts miracles. It'S if you're grateful for the fact that okay, i'm going to school, i might not know what i'm going to do, but some people didn't even get to touch third year. I know i don't have it figured out right now, but i'm just grateful that i've got this opportunity to figure it out. I'M grateful that i care enough about my life to figure it out. The external pressure of it all is really really tough, but learning yourself and not ignoring those negative feelings. Don'T ignore when you just feel like this is, might not be the right thing. You know self-dove self-carve right, and this is self-love, not self. I'Ve figured it out and i have all the answers right now: no self-doubt, like i like this, i don't like this. I can tolerate this. I can't tolerate that that has such a big benefit when it comes to choosing a career, and all of that, because you know what you can handle, you know what you like. You know what you don't like so in this time, instead of focusing on - and i always say this, if you have an emotion that you don't like, try to replace it with an emotion you do so instead of focusing on, i have no idea what i'm doing. What'S going on with my life, go ahead and think about it and think about your situation as okay? This is an opportunity for me to figure myself out and figure out what i like and figure out, um what i might be good at and what i might not be good at you know so think of things and situations like this as an opportunity for a Growth of some sort instead of a, i have no idea, i'm out of ideas. I just don't know because at the end of the day, you're going to have to figure it out, you can't be in the same predicament in five years girl you have to figure it out, it's like for your own happiness and for your own for your own Future, you have to figure it out. So, no matter what advice i give you today, all you need to know is that there has to come a time for you to figure it out. So do you want to figure it out by positively affirming yourself and saying? Okay, this is an opportunity for me to figure myself out or do you want to figure it out by okay? Now, i'm forced to actually just pick a job at this point and then you figured it out. That'S the job you're going to work at for 20 years, so every every crossroad is an opportunity for you to choose a path, negative or positive. Look at things in that, like, i obviously can't sit here and be like okay shop. This is what you should do. Um, or this is what this is, what you should study but think of every single dilemma: problem um issue that you're going through as an opportunity instead of a right, because how far are you gon na get with a like how how far you're gon na get With that, but you can get so much further. If you look at things in a different perspective, and if you choose to look at things as an opportunity and not as a dead end, because at the end of the day and whether or not you look at it as a dead end, you're gon na need To figure it out, it's not gon na solve itself. You know what i'm saying, so you can't live a life where you're constantly just going through it, because at the end of the day go we need to get this money. We need to get our lives. We need to get these experiences. We need to do all these things. You know, and it's just up to you, how you want to do that with this. I actually do want to talk about comparison, because i do feel, like that's a very big part of um. You know this issue, i get a lot of not necessarily dms, but i get comments a lot from people, my age who are just like i wish i had it figured out like you know, influencers do and you know people on instagram and stuff like that, like I'M your age, but i'm kind of not i'm kind of not there, yet i'm trying to figure it out. You know what i'm saying. I have those negative moments where i'm also comparing myself fully i'm just like okay, this is doing so good and i just feel like i'm not, but here's the thing about that. Comparing yourself takes you absolutely nowhere. No, where it's it literally, is just a stress for nothing. It sucks, like it sucks that we all compare ourselves and we literally are doing it for no good reason. There'S nothing positive that comes out of comparing ourselves, and i do it all the time. All the time i compare myself all the time, because i'm also in a very visual industry, so i can see what people are achieving and you know what that reminds me of it. When you compare yourself constantly what i experience when i'm like actively comparing myself is, i experience wanting to be in control, so it's like a it's like. I need to be in control, um yeah. I need to be in control. I need to get this done. I need to go. I need to know what i'm doing. I need to know what's going to happen in two years, so that i can prepare for that. I need i need to know, or if you're a christian, then i don't know if you go you're gon na be familiar with what i'm about to read you guys, but basically it's a devotional type of style that it was written in and it comes from the Book matthew, corinthians and psalm, so it's like basically like a breakdown of what is said in the bible. So i'm going to read it to you. It says: do not worry about tomorrow. This is not a suggestion about a command. I divided time into days and nights. So that you would have manageable portions of life to handle, my grace is sufficient for you, but its sufficiency is only for one day at a time when you worry about the future. You heap day upon day of troubles onto your flimsy frame. You stagger under this heavy load, which i never intended for you to carry throw off this oppressive burden with one quick thrust of trust, anxious thoughts, meander about and crisscross in your brain, but trusting me brings you directly into my presence as you thus affirm your faith. Shackles of worry, fall off instantly, enjoy my presence continually by trusting me at all times. You know what i'm saying: do you know what i'm saying like if you and that's what i was talking about when i was just like talking about being present and just enjoying whatever it is that you're going through not necessarily enjoying because certain things are genuinely not Enjoyable, but just understanding that there's a purpose here, there's a reason. This is happening and i don't need to. I don't need to worry about any of this, because i serve a living god, whose grace is sufficient, and i honestly don't know how to handle situations of like anxiety or anything like that without god, so yeah. It would be very hard for me to tell you how to do it on your own. The best way for me to deal with anxiety is to take it, give it to my father and have him deal with it, and i deal with what i see and what i can do today and what i can do about this today. So if you can make a mind map of what you want and what you plan for your life today, that's enough we'll do that today, we'll see what happens tomorrow period, because you can't come and kill yourself honestly, you can't for stresses and worries that weren't even Meant for you he's the one who knows the plan so you're, basically you're, basically stressing over a plan that you didn't make and that you don't know so. You'Re basically stressed, and you want to hack into god's brain and figure out what he has planned for you. It'S stressful, it's stressful, don't do it relax, do what you can do, what you can and be okay and be grateful that there is something that you can do about your situation and what you can do and what you're going through right now. That'S it! That'S really! All you can do because otherwise you'll kill yourself, no, otherwise, no, but otherwise you'll kill yourself. Honestly, you will genuinely like you're not going to be happy you're not going to enjoy now wow, i'm sure there's a lot of things. Yes, you're confused about a lot of things in your life, but i'm sure there's something for you to be excited about and be happy about. It focus on things like that focus on things that make you feel good. You know what i'm saying and maybe in that you'll figure out your purpose, and things like that. You know, because purpose is a very it's. A very serious thing like we all want to know our purpose, but you cannot come and kill yourself. You have to trust trust, trust, the process. You know yeah man and you're also 21 girl. It'S genuinely okay, trust me, it's okay, so yeah you guys! That'S it for me! Thank you so much for watching today's video. If i did not get to your question, i'm so so sorry um, i got so many that i just genuinely could not get to everybody's question, and i also didn't want to make this video too too long, but i do hope that it was helpful. I'M sure all of us, even i can find like a couple of the scenarios that i could relate to and yeah. I hope you guys enjoyed today's video if you're feeling the short bob with the curls. Let me know by liking the video i did once remember. The time i did the this vibe, but i think i had it like that, but now even with the middle part, i really i like this. I like this a lot so yeah. If you like this, then let me know down below and also if you want to shop this hair, i think it's really nice and different. I like the streak. I like the streak when it's curled. If you did want to shop this hair and then i will have all the details down below in the description box and yeah, i will definitely tag the company so good here. Thank you so much for sponsoring today's video, the quality of the hair, is amazing. I had washed it before and yeah, so i, like, i like this hair, i like to say i'll, be rocking it on my instagram. Definitely i need to actually top up my lip gloss, but i need to find it first so yeah anyway. Thank you guys. So much for watching and yeah. If you have not joined the family, please please please consider subscribing. I would love to have you a part of the family and also i would love to have you a part of instagram squad, i'm at kerry republic absolutely everywhere. Alright guys i'm done, and i will see you in my next video you

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V A N E S S A: CONSISTENCY ❤️

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