Dark Skins Can'T Wear Colorful Wigs Like Light Skins?

We don't think that getting attention from black guys gives you a status of some sort. If you get attention from the white guys, no, you do have the status more than if you get attention from black guys as a man. I'M gon na have to respectfully disagree with that. Well, as a woman who gets attention and who grew up in a white culture more than a black culture, i'm gon na tell you that getting attention from black guys is not a badge of honor. If you're, white, okay and i'm white, you are right. Yes, hey guys, so i wanted to come on here, because i've been getting this video sent to me by a lot of people, and this video involves a three trash bag carrying struggle dusty, who made a typical colorist self-hating post, which we commonly see from black men. In these social spaces - and this post was responded to by a black woman on tick tock and it's the tick tock video that's been making its waves on social media, the shade room picked it up world star, hip-hop picked it up, so it's definitely going viral and To be honest, despite that, i just didn't want to talk about it, because at the end of the day, sometimes i really get tired of trying to talk to black women about black male psychology and listen. I understand that my reach is not as great as i want it to be. I would like to be in a position to where i'm touching more women, where i'm affecting more women, because at the end of the day, i understand very well what the issue is. And while i would never say that black women are perfect and you're going to hear in this very commentary how black women are contributing to the issue, however, the biggest issue within our community is black men. Black men are literally going around complaining about themselves, but projecting it on women, from colorism in the community to violence to crime, to ottawa, like children to single mothers to poverty. Those are all issues that are being caused and perpetuated by black men, but black women are helping to maintain it. We live in a black male, worshiping culture, where we are seeing now more than ever, a rise of black men profiting off of disrespecting and demeaning black women. Now i told you guys that black men tend to be very delusional. They think we live in a society absent of other men, so they act as though other men are not observing their behavior and unfortunately, black women also act as if other men are not existent in society, because they seem to think that black men's behavior is normal And we know this because, although black women complain adamantly about black men's behavior, we still treat them as, if they're not engaging in this behavior. We allow them to control everything from our self value. Our perception of ourselves to our perception of our counterparts, not understanding or realizing, that this is a group of derelict men whose opinion should be taken with less than a grain of salt. Whenever you have your everyday, run-of-the-mill struggle dusty, who can get on social media and rise to fame and prominence because of his demeaning and degrading of black women, which black women and black men alike, love to see they enjoy it? They call it entertainment, not understanding the damaging effects is gon na have generations from now. That'S when you know we live in a toxic community, and this is not how other people's communities function is that to say that they're perfect? No is it to say that they don't have issues, no it's to say that there's a general understanding on how men are supposed to act and, although you have like feminist movements, although you have these different type of movements, it doesn't really affect whether their men are Functioning and behaving like men, but this is something that black women fail to understand, and so what it does is it allows dusty behaviors like this to continue to be perpetuated, and i keep talking about black women's self-esteem and trying to get us to understand how our Self-Esteem and the value that we place on black men, the control that we give them that they don't deserve is what essentially helps them to continue to have the power to demean and degrade us. So y'all i've been on this hair care journey and, i'm sure all of y'all know a huge part of that is finding the right products for your hair and it actually took a little bit for me to do this. I was introduced to a company called everything. 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If you want to contribute, you can email me. The email is in the description box and it's also pinned to the comments section and if you haven't already done so subscribe to the channel thumbs up the video, if your trash bag, banded and you're triggered you can thumbs it down. If you haven't already subscribed to the channel, please do so when you do subscribe, don't forget to hit the notification bell and subscribe to all notifications, so you will know every time i go live and when i upload new content so listen. I first want to show you guys this post here, because this is the post that this trash bag bandit named j hound posted on to his facebook, and i don't even really believe that his name is j hound. I think that this is just his trash bag. Name and we'll get more into that later, because we know black men like to pretend that they are somebody that they're not they live in a realm of fantasy and delusion, where somehow there's some cloud that they have, where somehow there's some social importance that they have. Where somehow there's some desirability that they have beyond the stereotype, that's placed on their body parts, and they would like to cling to that. So you have this man running around here on facebook. Here the dark skinned black man with some raggedy braids that he should have got replaced a long time ago. He claims that he lives in dubai, but i'm thinking if he can't even afford to get his mattress off the floor if he can't even afford to get his hair redone, he probably can't afford to actually live in dubai. If you guys don't know, dubai is very expensive to live in, you can't just go live in dubai, and so no matter where a black man lives he's going to be on the bottom of the social totem pole, where he's relegated to attention-whoring antics in order to Have some relevancy because a struggle bandit isn't just going to be seen as somebody worthy of listening to by other people in society, so what he has to do is he has to engage in attention-wearing antics and the main way that black men like to obtain attention Is to either sit on dj, vlad's couch for free and express their self-hatred or, if you're not relevant enough for dj vlad, to want to talk to you if you're, just a mainstream trash bag bandit, then that mean you'll just sit up on facebook and post stuff. So that you can get attention and you're still going to advertise yourself hatred, because this is yet another dark, skinned black man and he made a post like this silly one here talking about dark skins, can't wear different colors of wigs, like light skins, can so he's Dehumanizing women and reducing them to their skin tone. And then, when someone says black men are the white supremacists of the black community, then they run around screaming foul, as they literally sit up here and engage in the same behaviors. They have the same mentality. They do. The same thing to their community to the extent that they can that they complain that people of no color do to them. So you have black men running around here, engaging in colorism, then featurism and any other form of self-hatred that you can. I have yet, except for dusty trash bag. Youngberg who's also irrelevant to see any light-skinned man sit up and talk about skin tone. Now we know that there are exceptions to the rules, so we know that there are some lighter skinned black men who do engage in colorism, but by far - and i do mean by far it is dark - skinned black men. Most of the time when i see a man in our community speaking negatively about dark skin, it is a dark skinned. Black man and this man is no exception, and the saddest thing is: is that not only is he a dark skinned man, but he laid down with the very group of women that he's demeaning and degrading and created a dark-skinned child as well, and he chose to Put this on social media which prompted this response from this black woman. I want you guys to take a look at this video and then i'm gon na come back and make some comments on it. I didn't even go bother to go to her tick tock because, quite frankly, i'm tired of black women even responding to this and making these dues relevant, but go ahead and take a look at this video. Then i'll, come back with further commentary. J hound on facebook says dark skinned. Girls cannot wear any color wigs like light skins with a smiling emoji. I just have a couple questions for you jay. When you gon na get rid of those stale, ass, plaits you've been rocking, since you got out the poke jam when you gon na, invest in some carmax to get rid of that crust around your lips today. Why you got on high waters with stale shoes and long white socks that don't match jade? Is this your mattress on the floor? Jay terminator? I also discovered that you're a nursery rhyme rapper james, i just helped you hit 13 views. We going up jang. I will but that beautiful woman didn't do anything to me so i'll give her a pass. So why you talking about dark-skinned women wearing colorful lace fronts, their lace prints are about triple the amount of what it would take to get your bed off the floor by jay. Now you guys saw that video and listen a lot of people. Think it's funny and listen. It is funny to an extent i want to do a sidebar. Is it just me or did y'all notice that since me and my sister sat down in that sister talk and talked about the crew season podcast and talked about how they'd likely sleep on mattresses on the floor? They don't have a box spring. They can't afford a headboard or a bed frame. Now, all of a sudden, you hear a lot of people from erica mina to this chick on tick, tock, mentioning bed frames and mattresses on the floor, and i think that's really interesting, because i swear to you prior to me and my sisters making fun of this. I never really heard anybody saying it and look: i'm not tooting my own horn, i'm just saying. I think it's really interesting that now we have a rise of people talking about mattresses, on the floor, but get this i'm not complaining, because i think these men struggle ways do need to be pointed out. They want to run around here talking about their high value, but at the end of the day, they're sitting there waiting for that next stimulus check to hit their bank account just like they claim that you are, they were getting mad when that unemployment benefit ran out Too so you so the trash bag way of life needs to be pointed out, but i do think it's funny how i didn't hear about the mattresses on the floor before and then when i pointed it out when erica minnow was saying, and then i asked if It was a coincidence. Some people said that it wasn't, but some people said that it was, but now i'm seeing more and more in tic tac in youtube videos and on social media posts. People talking about the mattresses on the floor and the need for these struggle. Dusty'S to afford a box spring and a bad frame before they try to deem themselves high value, but in any event, you have this black woman here who feels compelled to respond to this, and i just really don't understand why black women continue to care. Look. I get that you know when you get on tick, tock or youtube or whatever you're a content creator. So you do want to talk about certain things that black men are doing, but what i'm seeing the most of is black women coming on here, flocking to post, where black men are sitting up here, using them as a means of getting popularity, because we know that The main way for black men to get popularity or notoriety or anything, is to demean and degrade black women. They don't really possess any intellect they really don't possess any ability on their own merit to really get attention or notoriety. So what they'll do is they'll. Try to go viral by demeaning black women's skin tone, her hair, her facial features or any other characteristic that lets. You know that she is black and this dude is no exception, because what happened is this black woman did a response and granted? I think her response was great. She pointed out a number of different things, but what it does show is that, at the end of the day, she cares about black men's opinion, and i don't think that black women should do that. The only reason why i'm talking about this is because somebody sent it to me, multiple people sent it to me actually, but so she makes this video. This video goes viral. It hits the shade room, it hits real star hip hop it's all over facebook. It was on twitter, a lot of people were commenting on it, and so her video went viral, which now gives this man attention a man who was otherwise irrelevant because nobody was paying attention to him or his struggle. Braves most black men are sitting alone, wallowing in their own self-hatred, trying to figure out ways to promote themselves. This dude is a struggle rapper. He claims he's out in dubai, trying to get attention. He wasn't getting attention. His music is trash and being ignored by everybody until this woman's video goes viral and the reason it can go viral is because of the overwhelming response from black women. Now you see some of these comments that i'm talking about, where immediately when a black man says something to demean it or disparage a black woman. She automatically gets on here in attempts to disprove what he's saying and to prove to him differently, and that just means that you really care about what he thinks. Now, if you guys go to this dude's facebook page and you go to the post and i'm not going to show it now, because i don't want to put anybody on blast who didn't intend to be on a youtube video. But all over his post is a number of different black women posting their pictures and different colored wigs. These are dark skin black women trying to prove to him that they can look just as good as these quote-unquote light skins and see. This is where black women, dark-skinned black women, particularly, are going to have to check their self-esteem, because we just got done talking about a colorist video or a so-called colorist video by the baby and no net gotti, and it was dark skinned black women complaining that they're, Not being degraded and called [ __, ] and hoes in his videos - and i didn't understand that, like the type of representation that dark-skinned black women want - is something that i don't understand now i get that most of the color is vitriol is directed towards dark skin. Black women, obviously only a fool who's trolling would say that this was not the case. What i don't understand is why dark-skinned black women are seeking. The validation from the very color is self-hating black men that they say that they don't really like. If it's his attention that you want, then just say you want his attention. Approval and validation, but what's lost on me is why you would care about the opinion of a man that you said you feel have self-hatred. I have to say the same thing, because i'm telling you if you go look at this trash bag. Bandits, facebook page right now, you're going to see a bunch of dark-skinned black women posting images of themselves in this do comment section trying to prove something to him and all it's really doing is giving him a fake sense of clout, because this dude is all on His facebook bragging about the number of friends we cross he's getting bragging about his music talking about how he's going to make a dusty comeback all off of the attention that this woman got for responding to his video and so black women don't understand how? Just by giving him a response, you're validating him now he thinks he has some false sense of clout. He'S posting up how to access his music he's talking about how he's going to start live streaming bragging about the amount of views that this video got on the shade room in world star hip hop so he's finding a way to capitalize off of this, and in A black male worshiping culture he will get further than this black women will, even though it's her video that went viral, she was responding to his comments. So now he's riding the wave of popularity that she got just for responding to him and it's a problem and see this is what black women don't understand. This is the setup. This is the trick bag. This is the okie doke, because at the end of the day, this man went out and procreated, not with a light-skinned woman. He went and procreated with a dark-skinned black woman. Yet he's the same one who sits up here and makes a derogatory comment so that he can get some attention and so that he can promote his music. All he wanted was the attention you can go, look at his facebook and see that that is what he wanted and now he's getting it, because the low self-esteem of black women and the need for dark-skinned black women to get validation from dark-skinned black men. It'S what's fueling this, and he knows this. He shouldn't have been able to post this statement at the nobody and then get to trend on the shade room and world star hip-hop, just because he made a demeaning and disparaging comment towards black women. It'S like black women. When are you gon na understand that this is the way black men are trying to rise themselves to some type of social relevancy? They don't have any. They can't make money without you, they can't exist without you, but they know that you've been socialized to be a black male worshiper. That'S why they can say this and then get hundreds and thousands of dark-skinned black women to jump into their comment section and prove something to him. I wish i would try to prove something to any black man other than the one i choose to sleep with. I'M not doing it because to me, i'm not looking at all of them as if they're some kind of kings, no they're, not. I have a very poor perspective of black men and it's because the only perspective black men want society to have to about them is a poor perspective. But this bothered me and a lot of people wanted me to talk about it and the comment that he made. Doesn'T bother me because this is a typical comment that black men make. I already know, they're, wallowing and self hatred. I already know what they're doing. What bothers me is the fact that i'm starting to see how much validation and acceptance dark-skinned black women actually want from dark sea and black men, and you can't say that you don't because if you really recognize that his colorism was a byproduct of his self-hatred, you Wouldn'T want the very same color as self-hating men to represent you in videos. You wouldn't be jumping in their comment section proving to them that you can look just as good as light-skinned women. You will see that the way that he is elevating himself and making himself feel more desirable and, like he's a man, is by pitting you against light-skinned women so that you guys will compete against each other, so he can feel better about himself. It'S the same thing. They do when they come wave access to these snow, bunnies and stargates in your face. Why do you think they're doing it they're doing it so that they can look and feel better about themselves and until black women realize what the okie doke is and recognize this setup you're gon na continue to be demean. Disparage integrated and black men will continue to benefit and capitalize off of the black male worshiping culture. That could only be perpetuated by your desperate need to seek validation and get approval from men who can't even give themselves validation and approval. But you guys, let me know what you think about this: have you gone to this dude's facebook page? Have you seen the comments on there? Have you seen his numerous posts bragging about the amount of attention that he got whatever you think about this get in the comment section and let me know like comment subscribe share. The video when you do subscribe, don't forget to hit the notification bell so you'll know every time i go live and when i upload new content. Thank you. 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