Girl Chat! The Best Preplucked Wig I'Ve Tried So Far! Bleached Knots Wig Hairvivi | Pocketsandb
- Posted on 13 November, 2020
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Hey guys welcome back to my channel if you're new here my name is brittany, and if this is your first time stumbling across one of my videos, i do focus on fashion, beauty and lifestyle. So if that seems like something that you may be interested in, please think about clicking on that subscribe button. If you enjoy the content, of course, also, if you're already a subscriber go ahead and click on that notification bell, i upload twice a week tuesdays and thursdays and sometimes i'll, put out a bonus video on sunday. So i don't want you to miss any of them in today's video. I am going to be applying this unit and i'm loving it. This unit is from hair vv and they are our sponsor for today. So we love that and you guys know i have worked with hair vv in the past um. I have about two or three units from them now, and they are one of my favorite companies to work with when i apply my own units at home because they make it so simple. You guys the units come already bleached. The knots are bleached. The hairline is perfect, it's already plucked, it's colored styled and everything you just kind of have to touch it up and tweak it to your own head in your face shape, but other than that it is the most low maintenance units i've ever tried, because it's already Done and today girl, i didn't have to do anything but add like a few little curls, but i wanted something super laid back and um just kind of like effortless, but i'm also loving this like chocolate, brown, color, okay. So let's go ahead and get into this unit also, we do have a little bit of an advice portion. One of my supporters emailed me asking what would britney do in regards to i'm not gon na get into it too deep until we get into it. But it's about having kids or the pressure of having children before a certain age, enjoying your accomplishments while being single and having the pressure of possibly like being married being in a relationship and things of that sort, and you guys know i've been there. So i can't wait for you guys to get into this portion of the video, so if you're interested then stick around all right, so i went ahead and cut the lace off and i cut quite a bit of the lace because they like to do like a An interesting hairline and my hairline is more straight, so i went ahead and just cut the lace, and this is what we're looking like. So you can already tell it looks super natural like i don't have to do anything, but i am going to adhere this down. Just because i'm probably not going to feel like doing my hair again - and i don't know if i want to wear it straight or curl it - i don't think it has any layers per se, so i could straighten it out. I really should have dyed this black. I'Ve been dying to do like a jet black look, but we'll see, and also you will receive a rat tail comb. I love this rat tail comb in particular because it has the metal tip and it makes it so easy to apply the unit, especially if you're, using like the got to be glue, you're also going to get an edge brush. I don't know if i'm going to do any um baby hair today. They also included this band guys and i had never seen one of these, but i think this is like a no slip type of band that you can put in there. So if you did not want to glue this down or adhere it down with like gel or anything, um it'll help it not to slip back. Of course, you also will receive an adjustable band, which i love these elastic bands, because the adjustable thing is just so secure, love that - and you also get this um fly away, tamer, which i've never seen. One like this. This is like a mascara wand. So usually, i use like a fly away. Tamer stick um but we'll see, but i usually don't have to because you know here. Vivi always just has like an amazing hairline and no fly aways like it's always just laid to perfection and yeah. So let's go ahead and apply the unit and then i'll come back and we'll get into the advice portion. It'S fake hills, originals, all right guys. So i went ahead and tied it up. Really quick, as you saw it was super simple super easy um. I just want the lace to kind of you know melt into the skin a little bit more, but while we're doing that, let's go ahead and read this email that i received okay, y'all, so it says: hey britney, i hope all is well with you. I would like to touch on being over 30 with no kids. I am in my early 30s and i am single i recently purchased a home and since then, friends and family are asking, when will i be married and have kids? My brother even openly expressed that i should not have purchased a home without being married. I ignore the comments, but sometimes it gets to me. I feel like i'm doing something wrong. It'S not like i'm not meeting anyone. They just aren't worth my time and energy. These guys hardly work or have ambitions and most are living with their mother. I just can't so i guess she just wants me to kind of talk about this, because you know i am in my 30s as well with no children, i'm not married um, even though i do have a boyfriend, i mean i'm still single according to paper. You know we're not married or anything so um. Here'S my thing, first of all, live your life on your own terms. People are really good at projecting right. So society says that you know you should be married by this age and you know you need to have kids by 35 and though that may be a societal norm. It also does have like some health um issues and risk. You know attached to that as well, but women these days are having children in their late 30s and 40s with no issues um. But if you have always wanted and dreamed to be a mother, i think that is something that, yes, you should um think about, but not worry yourself, sick about, because everything happens in the right timing right um. For me, i don't mind being a mom and i think that i would be an amazing mom, and i know that i would adjust my life to be a mom, but let me backtrack a little bit. One reason why i feel like it's so important to try to plan your children as much as possible is because a lot of us we grew up with amazing parents that did any and everything that you know we needed. We didn't have to want for much um depending on your circumstances, i'll just speak on mine um. You know i didn't have to want for anything. You know my parents did everything that they had to do to make sure that i had a great education to make sure that you know i felt, loved and etc, etc. However, i do feel like a lot of our parents. They kind of just rolled with the punches. You know, i'm not gon na say that i was a planned pregnancy um, but i mean my parents were together and everything you know. They'Re married um have been together for years. So it's not like you know. It was terrible, but that is definitely an adjustment to make when you don't plan out children and if you're not ready to adjust your lifestyle. I don't believe in changing completely when you have children, but that's another topic, but if you're not ready to adjust in order to accommodate a child and to make sure that you are raising a child and not just you know, having a a kid um. I think that you don't need to worry about it. You know, i don't know your circumstance, you didn't really say if you wanted children or not. I think it's time to take this off, because this is going to be the quickest wig ever guys, but um yeah. You didn't really say, like you know, you wanted children or anything, but i'm assuming you do but you're not pressed about it and that's completely. That is completely fine. You don't have to be okay, you absolutely don't have to be, and you shouldn't be okay y'all. So this is what we're looking like. Of course, you know. Hair vivi always has amazing hairlines. The knots are always bleached to perfection. I mean girl. What what more is there to say? Okay, the unit looks good, there's no flyaways and i'm just gon na go through and um just kind of curly with old, faithful y'all know she's been through the wire hon. I just i can't let her go but i'ma just curl it, but real softly, because i was gon na do bone straight, but i think i want a little bit of body something a little bit different. So we'll see, i don't know if i'm going to do baby hairs or not, because i don't really need them. I do kind of need to go around here because it's a little white but that's from um. You know the got to be glue anyway, like i said, if you're not pressed about children like you, should not be worried about kids. If that's not something that's on your radar right now, you know what i mean um and honestly yeah men have a lot to do with it, but at the same time i'm just i don't get why people make it their business to tell you how to live. Your life and again people get real um funny because they don't know how other people can like live life on their own terms and not be worried. You know what i'm saying um, i think that's a thing, so it feel it's a lot of projection there um. So you don't you know, people always like to project their issues off on others, especially when it comes to friends. It'S really none of their business. Now, if it's your mom and your dad, you know and they feel like okay you're getting up there um. You know in age which early 30s is not old, but for them they're like okay, i want to be grandparents blah blah blah blah. I get it, but at the same time it's your life. You cannot live your life according to what other people want for you, because you'll be miserable. You have to live your life according to what you want for yourself, and if children is not on your radar right now, then it's not now um. You know. I hope that you know you're doing just that, like don't let it get to you, because at the end of the day, who's raising the kids it's gon na, be you right, you're gon na have to be the mom you're gon na have to um. I don't know maybe slow down, work possibly or make sure that the kids, you know your children are ready before you have to go to work. That'S one thing for me: it's like child. I have a hard time getting my own self out the door on time. I couldn't even imagine getting a whole nother body ready a whole nother life. You know, but on a more serious note, you know you have to be prepared to raise children if we want them to be literally our future and they will be and so rushing into something that you're not ready for who does that hurt not even yourself as Much as it would the child, i would think, and so that's how i look at it. You know i am blessed enough to not have parents. My parents never asked me. When do i want to have children like? Never it's not a conversation, but i think my parents know me as well. They know that you know the type of girl that they raise. I said i tell this story all the time um because i do get questions from and i won't say strangers. But, like my my supporters asking me, do i want children and stuff and i think they ask me because they're like she's in her 30s she's, not married like what's going on with that, and i always say when i was a kid. I never saw myself wagging a baby around. I always saw myself like i was six years old and we were told to you know it was career day and they asked. What did you want to be? There were kids that came in, they were stay-at-home moms. I mean just you know it was all real cutesy, but guess how i came into career day. I had on a suit. Okay, i had on a full suit. My hair was pulled back in a bun and i had a briefcase, and i just remember that vision like i would always see myself looking up at like tall buildings in the city um and that's just kind of how i saw my life and though i you Know i wanted to be a lawyer at one point and though i'm not that i still am um just living life on my own terms and i couldn't be happier like you know what i'm saying and i think sometimes we feel like we're younger too. I know that's like my thing. I feel like i'm way younger than how old i am like you know. I know i'm in my early 30s but i feel like i got a lot of time left and maybe i don't you know, but again, when god says, and even if i don't have any children, i feel like i'd, be okay with that now companionship is hugely Important to me, i definitely would like to be married, but that's not even um hugely on my radar right now, literally i'm building the life that i've always dreamed of. You know what i'm saying: living and building the life that i've always dreamed of, and i have a long way to go because i had a lot of dreams as a kid. I just saw so many things for myself and i'm getting all of those things that i always saw for myself, that that freedom to live everything and it's in such a different way than i imagined, because i thought corporate life was the only way to be successful. Um and well legally - and you know i just never imagined myself - being an influencer and being able to have two incomes and do things that i've always wanted in my life, like that's um, it's crazy! How god works. You know what i'm saying. God knows the desires of your heart and i don't want this to be a preachy video but anytime i talk about me. God is involved, that's just how it is, and so you know it's crazy how god will always make it happen. It just may not be the exact way that you expected it to be, and so i say all that to say girl. If you're, if you desire children, you will have that that desire will be fulfilled in one way or another throughout your life, and sometimes it don't always look like what we thought it would. You know i'm not saying you're, not gon na have kids that's up to you. All i'm saying is don't worry about it. Don'T worry about it. You know what i'm saying everything happens in its own time and i promise you if you live life on your own terms, you'll be the happiest you've ever been. If you live life, worrying about what other people are saying about you and when you need to have children and when you need to be married, when you need to get a boyfriend you're going to be miserable and you're not going to even be able to enjoy Those things when they do come because it's always the next thing. You know what i'm saying people will always ask about the next thing: okay, prime example - and this is so my newt in comparison to but me moving into my place right. I mentioned it. The next thing was: when are you gon na? Do the renovations did the renovations? When are you gon na get this new? When are you going to do this? When are you going to do that? When are you going to finish that room? When are you going to do you know what i'm saying it's always what's next, because that's what people see on the outside, which is fine, that's what they're supposed to do. They want to see progression, you know, but for us it's important to bask in what you've already accomplished, what you've already done, because if i was on the same trajectory as those people asking me these questions - and i know they don't mean any harm - don't take it As that, but if i was on that trajectory, i wouldn't be able to step back and say how proud i am um of myself for for coming this far a person who never thought that i could own something of my own without being married without having someone Help me everything that i've done everything that i have i've done it myself, and what i've come to realize is that the life that we see a lot of the times or sometimes the life that we see others living they've, had help they've had a husband help Them they've had their parents help them. They'Ve had boyfriends help them and some may say well. Why not me? Why come i didn't get help, but i don't look at it like that. I look at it as a huge accomplishment. I didn't need all that. I have the support that i need, but i did not need someone to come in and and help me and sweep me up off of my feet in order for me to live the life that i want to live, and it's important for me to bask in That and pat myself on the back every now and then you know what i'm saying and you should do the same thing and anybody out there, ladies, if you're out there and you're listening to this. I know this is a hair, video honey and, yes, we are serving - let's not forget about her, but bask in your accomplishments. Do not live your life on someone else's terms, because when you're watering, your own grass yeah you're, not i'm sure, you're not out there telling other people how to live. I don't do that either, because i got so much going on here that i don't have time to tell somebody else how to live their life now, for my friends and my family, when they ask for my advice. Of course, i set aside that time right. We set aside that time we make time to speak to our friends and family and to converse with them about maybe something that that they're struggling with, but i don't spend my time. Okay, i don't spend my time telling people how to live a life unless asked, and you should not do that either girl you should be. You should only live your life. The way that you want to do not allow. I know it's a little bit harder when it comes to parents and i've never experienced that. So it's a little difficult for me to like speak to that, but girl, these friends honey. Why why? Why are they worried about when you're having a kid when you're getting married? How does that benefit them other than maybe a possible? You know double date if they are even married, if they even have children, maybe a play date. But in the grand scheme of thing, how, in the grand scheme of things, how important is a double date or play date with children when you're thinking about bringing a whole nother life into your life, whether that be a man, okay or whether that mean be a Child you can get rid of a man, you can't get rid of a child, and even if you do, you will steal the mother to that child. You know what i mean, so it's just like um at the end of the day, they need to mind a business period right. That'S how i feel um, but i know that so many of us struggle with that. I know that you know and it's it's difficult. I think, because people going back to like those questions that i receive all the time, i feel like people ask me because they see how i'm living my life and they're like. Is she coping with this? Is she struggling through this like we are, or does she not want kids at all and i get why it can seem just confusing or like how is she working through it? You know people are looking to you, maybe for answers like how does that life? What does that life? Look like because you're traveling a road that not many choose to travel right? There are so many people who stay in relationships just to not be single, so many people who make babies to keep relationships like come on. It'S just. It gets real toxic and it ain't even worth it. If you're happy, you say that you, you have a good job. You know you're, making good money. You just bought your first home and again buying a home is for you. It ain't got nothing to do with kids and a man you still got. Ta have somewhere to live, and for me i don't. I know i can throw money away on clothes and shoes and accessories, and all of that - that's just you know it's the libra in me, but one thing i could not do was throw money away on an apartment for some reason and even cars like i don't Lease cars or anything um, that's a whole nother financial conversation there. I think it is. Let me just say: sometimes you can't lease a car and it's perfectly fine and you should, but i couldn't lease a car for the lifestyle that i live. You know what i'm saying and be paying this amount of money for two years, knowing that i could have been paid, the car off and it'd be mine. That'S just that's just how i look at things so again. Girl keep living life on your own terms. Don'T be worried about other people and what they have to say about how you're living your life and what you need to be doing or when you don't. Let other people put you on a timeline, because, throughout each step of those timelines, you'll be very, very surprised. At how many people fall off, and it's only you left at night with the baby or up at night with a man, you don't want hello, okay, so that's my thoughts on that. What do we think about this hair y'all? So this is what let me um scoot y'all back. This is what i ended up doing. I just did like soft curls. How do we feel? I think it's cute, just something soft. You know um. I think i'm gon na go through and add a little bit of baby hair. Let'S do that now. You need my sharpie please for me all right guys. So this is what we're working with. After all is said and done, and i'm loving it. I had to turn my lights all the way down. I don't know what's going on with my lighting tonight, but i don't need it. Okay, i didn't. I didn't ask for it um, but absolutely loving this unit. You guys know how i feel about hair vivi. I'Ve worked with them several times before check out my hair playlist for other hair vv units, and they have so many units on the website. You guys, if you are looking for something that is super low maintenance. This is the brand for you. They have units that come cut, colored um. The knots are always bleached to perfection. You get that elastic band, so you don't have to adhere it down. But if you love it like, i do you probably want to keep it on for a couple of days. So yeah, thank you so much hair vv for sponsoring this video also. I hope you guys enjoyed the advice portion of this video. I kind of just spoke on the subject um, but i know that so many women, my age even younger, may be going through this and older. So if you have gone through this or you have felt a certain type of way about, you know not having kids at a certain age or not being married at a certain age, put that down below. Let'S talk about your experience as well, i love when you guys email me um, you know asking me: what will britney do? I feel like we really connect, and especially in the comment section, so i would love to know like if you are dealing with this as well. Do you feel guilty? Are you just living your life girl you're, not worried about the people like? What are you or, let's say, you're, past 35, and now you have regrets for not having children younger. Maybe i don't know. I would love to hear your thoughts so anyway i'll go ahead and link this unit down below. It'S super easy super low maintenance and that's all girl. So anyway, i will talk to you on my next video bye you'll, be my don't like this baggy jesus
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NikiJ08: Sis... I'm over 40, not married with no kids. I was focused on my career. No pressure, what God has for me it is for me
Toni B: It’s such a Beautiful thing to see women young, thriving and allowing God to live through them. ☺️ love your channel!
Super Smart Chick: I'm 32, single, no children, just bought my second home.... my immediate family doesn't give me any flak. Strangers, associates & distant family have a lot to say though. But I totally agree with you Brittany... worry about your own life & just block out what others think & say. I think those close to me don't give me a hard time, cause I have never been a "traditional" type of person. They know me & they know I'm walking in my truth.
Lifestyle of Stacy B 💕: Love this chit chat. I have 3 boys and I get the question all the time “how on earth do you do it?”. Especially when I join my zoom calls in a blazer and make up. I’m like what? Am I supposed to look like crap because I’m a mom? Umm no. I always answer the same “with Gods grace”. My plate is full yes (I work full time also) but my heart? Even fuller! They are my world! I agree with you, never rush things. And we all have to follow our own path. You are a great success story.
Miss_D_46: Same as you, having children isn’t a big deal but companionship/being married is so much more important to me. If children happen to come out of that union, so be it - it will be a blessing. Enjoyed this chat. I feel like I needed this as a personal reminder to really enjoy each phase of my life.
Venessia Randle: I love this video Brittany. Even tho I am married, I don't get married women who sort of marriage shame other women who are unmarried or who may not have kids. I'm 37 and my Husband and I lost both of our babies (stillborns) and honestly we are used to not having that additional responsibility now and likely won't have kids..if we do there is so much more I can offer children now that I would not have been able to offer them when we were expecting before (not even just material things but being whole and healed as a Mom). Before marriage I finished my education, started my career, and was a made woman in every sense and refused to marry unless the man could add value to my life. Proud of all the ladies taking their time and not letting society dictation if/when they should marry or if/when they should have kids. I'm still currently working on personal and professional development as well as ensuring that I keep my individuality so I won't get "lost" in my marriage that's another thing a lot of women forget. Keep doing what you do we love to see it!
tnellams702: And then there’s the married girls in their mid 30s who can’t really decide for sure if they (and their spouse) want children but you know the clock is ticking ♀️. I feel like if we don’t start trying by next year then realistically it may get to where it’s too late. But I’m not ready, sigh...
Andriana Glover: I really enjoyed your commentary on this topic. I am 28 years old and I’ve been married for 2 years and I am constantly pummeled with questions about when we are having kids by my peers who have children (not my parents...they know what’s up lol). The fact that we don’t have children yet is by design, not happenstance lol. We are enjoying our freedom, each other, and the fruits of our labor.
A Davis: Came for the hair, left with a WORD hunny yasss , I'm almost 40 no kids, no husband and I don't have any desire to have kids, my husband will find me one day
Taylor: I’m 29 and as I get older I’m not sure if I want children. I wish people would stop creating the narrative that you have to get married and have children at a certain age. Like you in my business...don’t do that!
mrsnatadair: Your hair looks beautiful and so natural! I’m 42 and married with an adult child and I absolutely agree with you, take your time and let things happen naturally. Enjoy your single years and your years with no kids! No stretched out body! No wife and mother responsibilities! One day you will remember those times so fondly. Let God take the wheel and enjoy every season of your life. Bask in your accomplishments, live life on your own terms! I love the message.
kc marie: There's also alot of jealous people because you are successful and focused on your careers and can travel and do what you want without taking care of a bunch of kids. I'm 35 and have 1 toddler and I'm done lol. Being a mom is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. There is nothing wrong with waiting or even not have kids. There's to many parents that don't want that role and the kids grow up with a lot of problems
B Amour: I swear you’re my friend in my head!!!! I’m in my early 30s, no kids, no man and my own house all to myself and I love it!! I especially LOVE that comment about wasting money on rent!! I’m currently paying mortgage and rent due to a cross country move and I’m trying to move back IMMEDIATELY!!!! This rent thing ain’t for me, it’s a waste of money!!
Sanna Anna: Loved this conversation. I'm the same age as you Brit and I'm focused on becoming a renowned corporate and commercial Attorney. I just celebrated 5 years being called to the Bar and my career is not where I envisioned it as yet so that's my focus. I am very comfortable having a child in my forties because I want to enjoy my career, create generational wealth and enjoy life with my partner because a child is a life long commitment that I need to be ready for. When persons ask so when are you getting married or when are you having children, the answer is when I'm good and ready. Some persons are genuinely concerned and I would listen to their point of view based on their own experiences but at the end of the day, I have to live my life. And I am sure as hell happy that I dont have a child during this pandemic. So to each their own.
Shena Howard: You are beautiful! I love your hair! I love this video, when I got pregnant it was 21 I was walking across the stage getting my Bachelors degree. I wanted to be an attorney but with a baby and my daughter is 9 years old now, I am now 31 I have accomplished getting my Master’s degree, I’ve started a business and I am currently in school to get my Doctorate. I absolutely LOVE being a MOTHER ❤️. I say all of this to say whenever you are ready to have a child have that child. But once you are a mother it will shape you into things you didn’t even know that you can do or handle. My advice to sis is never allow the pressure of PEOPLE to make you feel decisions for THEM are a factor. I can tell you from experience I will never want to be a single parent again. I am thankful because Gods grace and mercy has kept me here and able to take care of my daughter. Stay encourage and walk your path! Continue to write your story. ❤️
A’myaih Hannah: I love this video thank you for putting this out sometimes you can feel pressured even by society to feel like you have to be at a certain place in life wether if it’s career or being a parent or being married but in all actuality it’s all in God timing and where he needs you to be at the moment. And it’s nothing more refreshing as a woman to see another young woman thrive in their life their business and be independent by themselves no life is greater than the other both life’s wether you choose to be a parent or not are still great lives and I don’t think people realize that at times thank you for shedding light on this topic as a 22 years old it is refreshing to hear
Glam Nerd: I needed this chit chat more than I am able to express!! This was sweeping right around my doorstep! Man, I needed to hear all that you had to say ❤️
Shakeya Danielle: I actually have 2 kids, 10 and 2 year old. The vision that I had for my daughter was EVERYTHING your channel stands for... and her name is BRITNEY as well.
Almamommie Scott: I watch my 30 yr old son told me he is being pressured by friends. His friend was homeless with kids and of course my son thinks he is crazy he can't take care if his kids. I told my son if it happens it will happen naturally. I had my son at 28 but had my first child at 15. So I talked to my son about having his self in a good space before considering having kids.
Elizabeth Gatling: You gave the best advice to her!! I would add: When possible, move in silence. Everyone does not need to know what is going on in your life..family included. The unit is fabulous!
Q. Shippp: This is a word!! Needed this today!
Liz Akinbiyi: Loved "Anytime I talk about me, God is involved" YES! I call him Jesus Christ Girl, I'm in my early 30's, finishing up my PhD, zero kids, have a man and not looking to have kids for at least another 3 years. I'm ambitious and always have been. God knows he needs to keep this womb lively until then. Period. My advice, tell them to mind their business and live their own lives. You are responsible for you and every decision you make. They won't be in your home at 2am when the baby needs care. All in God's timing. Congratulations on your new home!
KeikoBeauty: I feel there’s so much pressure to get married and have kids (before such and such age). At the end of the day folks have to do what’s best for them. And not everyone wants that out of life! But ummm I’m on hair vivi’s site looking at a wig like I know how to properly apply one ♀️
Hanging with Miss Dee: I appreciate this chat sis even as a woman of a certain age and a mother of four. I wish I had waited to have children but do I regret them no even though at times when they were yonger Wooo Chile! Lol But at the age I am now I'm learning to live my life for me and on my terms cause I've given so much of it away and lived on other people's terms and wants! And as for the younger adults my two youngest are 28 and 30 girl & boy who don't have any kids nor any desire to do so in a hurry but if it happens then they will accept that responsibility but until then if it's in God's Will! They're are living their lives working and striving to get to the next level ❤️
herFLYness79: So gorgeous, Brittany! And you're so in point with the advice. I just turned 41. I'm not married, don't have kids, not even in a relationship right now. Though I desire those things. I use to feel some kind of way about it, especially when it comes to the pressures to live up to a certain 'standard'. If it's something you want, don't throw it away, if not, don't trip. There's nothing wrong with either choice one makes. I remember freaking out turning 30 and being in a certain situation, not even a significant other. I deal with chronic illness (a whole other topic), so it's never been easy for me to just get out there like that. I even consider myself a late bloomer. But I won't lose hope.
Eroica Chapman: I absolutely LOVE this video! You spoke a WORD and looked beautiful in the process. As women in our 30’s we need to stop letting society ideals put us in a box. Everyone is different with different beliefs and interests. Like you said if you live the life you create for yourself and not worry about what other people think, happiness will be a given! Thank you for sharing your viewpoint I know this video will touch a lot of women of all age groups! ❤️❤️
Clarissa I Don't hate on MONDAY: Girl This was a Whole Word!! Yess keep it coming. I love the conversation of just do you! We put pressure on ourselves let alone what all othr ppl have to say. When you reach the point where you realize you dont have to explain yourself to no one, you really begin to live!
ms.simone: First, this install was so effortless I forgot you even put a wig on! The hair is amazing. I'm in my thirties , married with kids and I agree others are always looking for next thing. I had my first child young and I was deliberate when it came to having a 2nd child and I was always questioned on when it was going to happen. Honey it's all fun and games until someone has to babysit ♀️.
Sindiswa DotCom: I love this video. I have always been indifferent about having kids. My focus has been on enjoying/building my dream life. I have zero regrets and I am so proud of what I have accomplished so far. More successes to come :)
Ms Jksn: I love these Girl Chat videos! It’s good to listen to different perspectives ❤️
Ms Jksn: I’m in my early 30’s and I’m always asked the question when am I going to have kids ♀️ it’s annoying lol and I prefer to be married first personal preference. I was focused on my career in my 20’s and doing well for myself. I’m trusting God’s timing! Thank you for this word today ❤️
Letice Arthur: Sis this was a whole WORD! A WORD! I learned very quickly that i had NO desire to have kids in my 20s. I was just recently blessed with my first and I’m in my early 30s and I’m so glad i planned it. Like you said, you have a trajectory for your life and what you want things to go. Ppl need to stop acting like being single is a disease and having kids makes you full. Neither will if you’re not happy with YOURSELF. Love you for this conversation, you’re legit one of my good girlfriends in my head haha.
Zee Jones: Loved the advise. I experienced the same pressure in my early 20’s and in my 30’s family, friends, and acquaintances gave up on asking when I was going to get married and have kids. Now one relative had the nerve to assume that the reason I don’t have kids now that I am married , is that I couldn’t have any and I should consider adoption. I was in shock, not being able to have children was news to me. Since my Gyn never informed me. I just don’t have children yet. There is a such thing as protection. But yes, people project their nonsense onto you and sometimes I feel like they want to put you down and make themselves feel better.
Chenese Henderson: Hi brittany that was perfectly said her brother was soooooo wrong for telling her that this is not 1950 women do work and make a life for themselves and that unit is everything
_JennEm_: BRITTANY!!! I did the same thing. For career day I came in with my moms suit (pinned in the back) and briefcase. I was a lawyer! I was 6 or 7. Thankfully my parents never pressured me about marriage or kids. I was always taught to be able to take care of me.
Don_Tastic: You are so right about people always seeking what’s next. I’m engaged now and the day I got engaged people started asking if we picked a wedding date and I was like I thought I would just enjoy this for a while.
Tamika Whitehurst: Great advice Brittany! Your purpose is far greater then you know. Keep in mind, everyone does not have a family that leads by example or are in a position to help if needed. Sometimes family and friends can be your biggest challengers in causing you to feel guilty (if you allow them) on what you've accomplished and/or that your missing out. Continue to keep God first and keep shining Sis.!
Temple Fuel: Chit chat time lol. I love it It’s this big emphasis on being in a relationship ... and not enough on being GENUINELY happy and good WITHIN nowadays . At this point ( because I know things can change LOL) I’m OK with or without having children . However , I do want marriage at some point .I’m good and learning how to enjoy this life God has given me . It’s all a balancing act. I realize the age factor if I do decide I want children , but I know what’s for me is for me and God will work it out if I’m a “late mother “ I refuse to obsess over what i can’t control . ... and I love this unit on you,. Super pretty and natural And your career day story is so me... I can never remember “dreaming “ of being a mother ..family etc. It was always about success in one way or another . Another part of that is how you grow up and what you see too..... SO many good points you said here .. Sorry for being so long winded
Sweet Doc: I am 40(phew finally said it out loud), in my head I'm 29 still. But I cant agree with you more. You get a degree and people ask when you're getting the next, you have kids and people ask when you're having another. I'm not married, in my life I thought I would be married by 26 and have 4 kids by now. Guess what none of that happened. I do have 1 but that's all I can handle! What is the rush for children. Being a good parent is so important and you have to be present for them. Spend some time to know yourself, travel, learn skills, do nothing, or do everything! You will never have that headspace again, once you have a baby it's like a 24/7 reel playing in the back of your mind and your headspace will never be the same. I can go on....
Michelle Maloney: Such a timely and relatable chat as at times i feel the pressure coming from myself and get somewhat anxious. I however have literally seen a girl child in my future and with God i am confident that it will happen. P.s. you slayed that wig!
Rose Nt: Amazing hair and so much truth spoken ... loved everything about this video ♥️♥️
Shanique Cummings: Preach Sis Brittany, love it “God is involved when it comes to talking about me.” Great advise overall, really enjoyed.
Gene: Love the hair. Love the topic. Thank you for the advice. I am 40yrs young I have a 19yr old and I've been asked when am I having a next child. I'm like I dont want no more kids, I'm contented and happy and working on accomplishing my dreams I had on hold while raising my son. Do you guys at your own pace and time. No one will be up while your baby's crying at nights or with that annoying man that just don't act right. Libra ⚖ in us.
Bell A: Loved this video so much Brittany! First off, the hair is bomb. Second, the word preached is on a whole 'nother level. I was looking for the collection plate to pass! I'm 30, homeowner, no kids or hubby (just BF). I would love to be a mama but I know God will put that in place when it's time. My mom bugs me from time to time about it but I'm good at ignoring LOL. Thank you for that! <3
Tyeisha Berry: You said this so graciously! I couldn't agree more, I'm 25 shaping the future I want for myself and at times people try to intrude asking why or when are you going to have kids etc also. And I'm like that isn't at the top of my radar. I live in my OWN bubble and not up to societies norm as well. I strive to be a strong independent woman and create the life I WANT and if God places these things in my life okay but if he doesn't also OK! Thank you for this great answer ❤️
Jacqueline Alexander: Great talk very inspirational, I am 48 with 1 child well he is 26 now but it was unplanned so I found myself in a situation where I had to put my dreams on hold. I am now finally enjoying the career that I chose instead of just trying to survive. I have never been married and have been beating myself up over it because of other peoples opinions like what happened to so and so he was nice and you need to stop being so picky and whatnot. But you know I have seen a lot and even though I am 48 I will live my best life until the right man can compliment my life in a positive way. I could say so much more but I love your chat about this. You even helped someone so much older than you understand life a little better. Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
morningkisses: Great video! My concern is how so many think validation is in having a man. Companionship is great but not something that happens just because others want it for you or even because you do. Who just wakes up and says "I want a relationship" and it just happens? No one! I've been asked the same thing. And regarding children, we have to stop assuming because a woman doesn't have children is simply because she doesn't want any. It's rude and insensitive because fertility issues are real, young or mature.
Pamela K Muhammad: Brittany that unit is beautiful on you and your smile/teeth is so pretty. And I totally agree with you everyone doesn't have the same destiny or life style! Go ahead Sister beautiful advice!' Furthermore everyone isn't meant to have babies or be a mother and some mothers aren't good mothers unfortunately. I have to keep in real in America. Love the skin your in.
Brittany Donnet: This girls advice topic was for me as well! I am 28 years old not married and no children! I had to cut off people that constantly ask me that and honestly talk about me because I say I rather focus on goals. I want to purchase a home not set myself up! I am glad you talked about this Brit I want to see more accomplishments than focus on a family right now
Crystal DivaLevy: Great video sis! I am 36 no husband or children. I will admit i put a lot of pressure on myself to at least be married by 30, but it didn’t happen and in reality the lord saved me from heartbreak and heartache! When the time is right it will happen (just hoping happens a bit sooner then later) and kids i am neutral on, however i knew I wouldn’t have kids unless in a solid marriage! I am glad you represent the black female that has her career, her own home, and own stuff because a lot more sisters need to aspire to have their own!
Ada N: Love the video. I’m over 40 not married no kids and i am happy living life. Sometimes i do think about it but i know God’s timing is best !! Happy Friday
Monique Fraser: Thank you for this video it really spoke to my spirit, and your hair looks amazing!
fashionwhitney: I needed to hear this Brittany you have no idea the pressure from external people about having kids its getting annoying. I am married for over a year now and I love it being the two of us. Yes we want kids but we are meeting career and purchasing a home goals before we have one.
Traci Lewin: Brittany!!! Honey, firstly, I cannot get enough of this hair!!!❤❤ Next, I am 33. Have no children, but desperately want at least 1 child(Fertility Issues). I'm not married though in a loving relationship for 12 years. Girlllllll, I've been told, " The fruit that bears no fruit, must be cut down", and " I'd like to have a grandbaby before I die" WAYYYYY too much. At this point, I ignore that talk completely. You definitley PREACHED on this one!!❤❤❤
Dana Pope: Love you chit chat’s Another Quality video
Kristin Davis: Girl!! Everything you said and touched on was on point!!
MakingsOfMo: You preached in this video. I’m in my early 30s and people definitely ask about kids and marriage especially since my younger siblings have kids and married. I’m like this is my life let me live it.
Kenia Perine: You said some when you talked about celebrating yourself in the moment and not being so quick to move on to the next thing!!!!
Crystal Clear: Very powerful video! You're a very wise, classy and beautiful woman!!
Robbie Johnson: Thank you so much for this advice. I REALLY needed to hear this. Be blessed.
jay w: The chocolate brown colour and the look of this wig is sumptuous... Very inspirational and insightful talk Brittany, you are full of so much wisdom !
Crystal LaToya: Girl you slayed that hair as always . I think people are annoying and need to mind their business lol...I understand family being concerned or asking the question but not strangers. My Father always taught me to work hard and have your own so no man will think they own you. I bought my own house by myself for my 30th birthday. I also had a 5 year old at the time but I had planned on obtaining my own regardless. You are so right that what God has for you is for you and will def be in his time which is always the perfect time . Great message Brittany!
Robbie Johnson: For her brother to make the comment that she shouldn’t have purchased a home alone sounds he may be envious. I hope that is not the case.
April G: Yes, sis! You gave us a word today! Do not live your life on someone else's terms! Thank you for this!!!
LightLove: Listen, Sis!!! I’m 40 married with kids... take your time!! Live your life and whatever God has planned for you will be! And Brittany is right people put their two cents on you as if it’s okay. Do you...it is great that your living life getting what you want. Look I take my hat off to you so let me just say... CONGRATULATIONS Sis!!! Keep going
The Fashion Bandit: It’s so weird when I hear bout people families and/or friends asking them about marriage and kids. I’m in my mid thirties and I’ve been married for almost two years and no one ever brings those questions up. Sure I want kids, but for me there’s more to my life than becoming someone’s wife or mother. People need to learn to mind the business that pays them!
simplychicable: You better preach!!!! I’m here for all of it. I share the same mindset
Diona Williams: Hunteee I I have to HIGH FIVE and FIST BUMP you on this one! Well said... take TIME to BASK !!! Amen to that!
Kaila McNair: Girl, I am in the same boat as you... 32, will have my masters degree by the end of the year, looking to buy a home soon and just keep experiencing life on my terms. All of my friends have kids and I see how hard it can be. I am in no rush but am open to whatever God allows
Huni Bun: Britt, this was an awesome bonus! Omg great content and the wig is . Gurlllll I can't wait to meet and greet when COVID-19 over...
Susan Stuckey: First let me say love the hair. I do not wear wigs or weave but would love to try one. A little apprehensive because if being menopausal but anywho: I agree, she should live her life on her terms and no one else's. I once heard someone say what I eat don't make you fat ...stay in your lane and let me live my own kind of happiness.
Cynthia Greway: Love it looks very beautiful makes you look even younger
KimChee: Preach! I love how vocal you are about God’s role in your life
Quema Baptiste: Friday food for thought. Greatly appreciated much needed. Thank you for your words of wisdom
MaKalia Z.: Sis, can we have more of this?!
Megan Daniels: Dang give the lady credit for not sitting around doing nothing.. I wanted to grow with my husband. 4/5 engagements I was one always left the relationship. She right lot not all of these men aren't on same page as we are. Need them to be on. I got tired waiting on "right" one. So 2011 I bought my house. Ten years later still inmy house. Did finally get married but was a waste time. We wasn't ready for each other. I think though he got me ready for my next journey. I'm in relationship I've never experienced before. Never thought I would find what I have now. Thing is I wasn't expecting it. Took yr more after leaving my husband. To get myself together. Body mind soul. I feel like new women. To all read this never settle keep head up. There's always new day don't let anyone get you down. Believe. Believe in yourself ❤❤❤♀️
Darlene HIll: Seriously, it’s wonderful to see and hear women with a heart after God!
LaSharon Davis: Wise beyond years, but when I was your age I felt the very same way. Very career minded, got my house built at 34. Family said how can you do that without a husband. It was built for me not a man. Keep doing you and living your life. Remember Gods timeline isn’t ours.
sheisblessed: Beautiful this video is what I needed❤️
Stacey Fulcher: Sis, thank you for the message...received ✅. The road of motherhood is filled with twists and turns and you must be ready. Stick to your truth, follow your dream, trust your instinct, God gives these gifts to navigate life to satisfy the desire of your heart.
Inger Richardson: Love this ( the advice part ) ❤️❤️❤️
sk QQ: Enjoying your videos while servicing my car. As I’m 40+ this topic is great today. I have one grown child and wish I had had 2. Also, if a disclaimer can be added at the end of the videos to help our “sisters” who may be heading towards debt. Each video is like Christina’s time. This channel is addictive.
tabithamorris90: Thank you for posting this. This was so on time. God is so good to us!
LIFEBYT: This wig is absolutely gorgeous I’m only 23 but you’re such a role model
Ebony C: Mid 30s, single, no kids and people are free to suggest lifestyle changes because it is someone else’s uterus, finances and life that changes and I would say that. The game changer for me was when someone told me I’d regret waiting too long to start a family. I realized that I would much rather regret not having children than having them and it feels less rude to stand on that, if coming across rudely is a concern.
Brittany Brown: Preach my Fellow libra sister !!!! loved this video would like it a thousand times !!!!
KimberLeigh: Excellent advice! I agree, folks need to mind their business. Everyone’s path isn’t the same. I’m in my late 40s and always get the ‘I’m surprised you’re not married’ from others. The key is not to allow others and society pressure you into their vision for you. They assume something is wrong... but they don’t realize we’re happy living our best lives, not settling to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one. Relationships and children happen in due time, if it’s meant to be.
Project SonshineTV: I didn't know how much I needed this video! So on point
favour2divine: Hi lady, listen your advice is on point, mannnn that’s why I lovveeeee ❤️❤️ya & your channel...God has a Pathway for each one of us, am happy 42 Single, I travel, I enjoy life, God has answered many of the desires of my heart, no kids not married and I am SASS....SINGLE SAVED AND SATISFIED....#period....I had to push through the community and family it never ends, when you getting married, when you having kids...I am also content if I don’t have kids am fine.....I am Completed in God and that’s all that’s matter....Blessings! Doll...
ValliVon: this hair is stunning! i need this unit!
List, Check, Done: First off, kudos to you for not assuming that the asker wants kids. A lot of people don't, including me. Marriage would be nice, but I'm not pressed about it. Single life has been great for me. I am not having kids (I'm 34) and it was frustrating to realize that people don't necessarily care about me, but about the future human beings I might bring into the world. The facts are these: I love myself and I love my life. People who try to convince me that I'm incomplete for not having kids have been cut off completely or put on a low contact diet. I've been living my life on my own terms and that hasn't failed me yet. I'm glad to see another woman secure enough to share that same message. Great video.
Trevor boyd: I actually really needed this. I tend to want my moms approval. I love my mom and everything, but she can be controlling. I need to do better at thinking/doing for myself rather than.... What does my mom want me to do.
JRENNA: AMEN !!! I LOVED EVERYTHING YOU SAID !!
Heather Smith: That Unit is the Business, it looks like your own Hair. Let your Fingers do the Magic. It really looks good on you. GIRL You did that..
It's me Shamika: Now, this is what I was waiting for. And, my job had the nerves to have me on a 2hr meeting call. Missing this (on time)
c smith: Amen, PREACH. If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans. P.S. that wig is fire. I'm 50 and the man didn't come but thank God I bought my home 10 years ago. Because if i waited then today I wouldn't have my home or my Soulmate. I would love to find my Soulmate but I don't have any regrets.
Brittany Matthews: That chocolate hair color is perfect on you!
Star: I just love you! You look stunning in this video love your Fendi shirt!
Tasha: I am divorced and have 2 kids. I was able to by my first home for me and my boys this year now that I am divorced. My life is so much more full now than when I was married. You have to do things in God's timing and live your life.
Andrea Cody: B R I T T A N Y!!! PREACH IT GIRL.