Blacks Girls In Blonde Hair! Highlights Wig Install Ft. Ali Grace

Listen if you haven't scheduled any vacations for this summer, yet you need to get on it. Okay time is ticking. I'M gon na show you where to get this beautiful, highlighted wig for your next trip and we're gon na get into a shop talk so stay tuned. What is going on youtube? It'S your girl, easy breezy and i'm back with yet another hair sponsor. Now this one is not new to my channel at all. So once again, thank you so much ali grace they sent me this hella sexy highlighted lace front unit. Now this is a pre-dyed wig. So if y'all are planning your trips to dubai, miami cancun, listen wherever y'all flying out to y'all can get this wig install it the night before and get on your plane. You don't have to spend no time and effort doing highlights. Coloring, hair messing with bleach, listen, calling your stylist is my wig ready. Yet we ain't got time for that. So modeling today we have our girl keisha in the building, and you know what's funny about this model. Is years years ago i used to do her daughter's hair like this must have been like six to eight years ago, so it's crazy how things turn around and what eight years later now, i'm doing her mom's hair on my youtube channel. So right now, i'm just applying my mega growth hair serum to her scalp before we put it on the stocking cap and basically this is a formula that i make right at home. It'S an olive oil, tea tree oil, rosemary hemp, seed, oil, black, castor oil. I mean it has so many amazing natural, essential oils in there that is stimulating to the scalp and that promotes hair growth and i've been using it on my locs really since day one. So i just thought you know why not bottle it up, so it will soon be on galaxygirlhair.com and y'all will love it alright. So, as i'm doing this install i'm gon na go ahead and get into this shop talk so sit back, relax grab your popcorn grab. Your leftovers from last night grab your bottle of wine. Let'S get into it all right. So in this shop talk, i want to talk about female companionship, okay and the difference between a toxic friendship and a healthy friendship, and also how female friendships can change and evolve over time. So you know some of us when we're younger, like elementary school middle school. High school, we find ourselves around our friends all the time like we be over our friend's house like three days a week, they're over our house, the next three days. You know we're always sneaking out together going to parties drinking going on sexcapades. I mean really just going through hell and back fighting i mean we experience so much with our friends that it feels like we have like an innate attachment to them. You know we get so used to these certain lifestyles with these people. You know drinking going out. You know the party life, the fast life you know stuff like that, that we kind of don't even realize that we're kind of like in a toxic relationship. Now that doesn't mean that we have to be arguing or beefing. That just means that we are going down a path in life that doesn't serve us later on so fast forward. Right, let's say you and your friends turn around 25 26 years old. Now, as women get older, of course, we start to value different things. You know we want to start taking our careers more serious, our stability, more serious. We want to start looking for a husband, we start thinking about kids, you know getting baby fever and we slowly start to grow apart from our friends that are still on that same old high school party life stuff. Now, even though back then you know that lifestyle was so fun and so exciting, you know you realize you're growing up and it's time to get responsible and start adulting. So we have to kind of change our perspective on what we think. A female friendship looks like. Instead of us being all up in each other's face multiple times a week, it begins to look like i'll, see my friends every week or every other week, or even once a month is normal or you know when you have those real busy friends that be traveling Or they be with their spouses, you see that person, maybe every other month or once every three months you know, but even that is okay, because as long as y'all know the vibes it doesn't matter how much time passes in between y'all linking up. You know the vibes, never change and y'all still have mad love for each other. Now, on the dark side of growing up having a lot of female friends, is some women mature, faster than others? You may be older than some of your friends, so you're naturally going to mature, faster and that's when things start to get a little bit rocky. Sometimes we start to experience envy and jealousy in our friendships right. You know not all friendships age, like fine wine. Some of them age like bananas, okay and it just gets uglier and uglier and more toxic over time. Now, with guys, it seems like the older, they get the more abundant their lives, get like they're, not under a time constraint to have kids like they can have kids until they're. What 50 years old and as long as a guy has money, he has options. But, on the other hand, it's like with women, the older we get, the more pressure is on us, like we keep hearing all these comments from other people. Oh, when is old boy going to put a ring on it when you are getting married, when you having kids when you're going to settle down it's like damn girl, like you really clocking my life, and even at that time we may not take it serious. But after you hear those same comments from different people over and over and over, you know, stuff like that, tends to wear on our subconscious and it changes the way we view things so, whereas before you know, when life was really easy going and you were just Going with the flow with your friends now that y'all are all over 25 now you feel pressure from your friends like oh girl, when are you getting married? When are you doing this? When are you doing that and it's like girl? When are you doing that? The and also because women want to be chose so bad, because kevin samuels is out here telling women. Oh once you reach age 35, you know you're low value or guys are not going to want to marry you. Women are a lot more competitive when it comes to men, so naturally you just start peeping, more sheisty, behavior, more envious, behavior and jealous behavior, and it's like damn like. I can't, even rock, with y'all the way i used to because you acting funny. Okay. So with me, for example, okay, i got my fat transfer and i think it was like 2018 or 19 or something like that after i got my surgery, you know my friends really weren't as supportive, as i thought they would be. My friends literally did not come over my house for like a whole three months, i'm like, if you knew your friend just got a serious surgery. You would think that they would call me and be like you know, do you need anything? Do you need me to get you anything, but it's like literally not one of my friends came to offer me help or even to give me company and months after that, as my body started, to really take shape. I started to work out and my body just started to you know like it started to look ham like i'm, not gon na lie. My body was looking really really nice like a year after my surgery and my friends were not commenting on my body at all. They was not boosting me under my. You know, instagram comments. The way i do them, they wasn't really like encouraging me, and i mean at first. It didn't really occur to me that that wasn't happening, but when i would see them do it under other people's comments. In other people's pictures, i would be like wow like why them, and why not me and y'all listen. I cannot make this up okay, one time one of my friends was over my house and we were getting ready to go somewhere and i had this outfit on and my body was looking right. Okay, like it dude like it like it should, and i was just walking past you know i wasn't saying nothing and she was like. Oh damn, she was like your butt looks nice. It looks like it's getting bigger, but she was like oh but yeah. I forgot and i turned around and i'm like forgot. What did i go off the mountain like three times a week like i exercise like hello like, while i'm exercising making sure that i can maintain my shape you're at home drinking wine, like i didn't say that second part, but i was definitely thinking about it and I'M like how dare she try to discredit me? First of all, if i pick up pictures before my surgery, i still had a butt. So are you hating like i was so appalled by that statement like i could not stop thinking about it y'all. I was thinking about it for weeks afterwards because i'm just like for real, like i just kept on replaying, that one statement over and over oh yeah, but i forgot i'm just like wow it be your own friends yo for real it'd, be your own friends and The funny thing about it is right. This particular friend she was over my house a lot like at least two days a week, and she would ask me to help her with her hair help her with her makeup. She would come to my house and ask me for clothes like for instagram content when she was trying to do her music. She would get me to come to her video shoot, so i can give my input like. I would help her with her content. I would edit her videos. I would give her concepts. I would be so involved in her life and she depended on me for all my ideas, my sauce, my advice and it's just like girl, i'm doing so much for you and as a friend, you can't even just reciprocate good energy back to me, like i'm, not Even asking you to do my hair or come to my shoots or be my number one support system, but you can't even do something as simple as give me good energy compliment me like show me: love like you're, always trying to make me feel lesser of myself Or trying to downplay me it's just like girl like what's up with you, so i say all that to say that as you get older, sometimes it seems like women get more and more competitive. They get more competitive for attention for male attention for social media. Attention like women can really be attention to where they don't even see that they're being negative and sour to their own friends. So, as time goes by, i start to you know, be able to differentiate what our healthy female friends and what are unhealthy - toxic, female friends, my female friends where i feel like i have a healthy relationship with them. I don't see them every day. They don't call. My phone asking me for favors and ask me to do stuff for them every single day or every single week, like they're, independent, like they got their lives together. You know i have my life together. They have their life together. They don't envy me they don't try to compare us, they don't try to like abuse. My kindness, like we just have a mutual understanding that we are two independent women that love each other and support each other and when we see each other, we see each other. But, on the other hand, you know when you have females that are not as independent, they're very dependent on people around them. They need me to do their hair. They need me to do their makeup. They need me to give them clothes to wear to the club, because you can't even get your own like when girls depend on me too much. It'S almost like they start to hate me at the same time, but i don't even understand that ideology. It'S like how do you need someone and hate on them at the same damn time so in totality, you know, women that get older and don't truly mature or don't lean into their femininity, don't become independent, don't become whole within themselves. They just get old bitter, competitive and envious, and it's only going to be a matter of time before you start to see it spewing from their pores. So if you're a woman out there, that is longing for female companionship, you know, especially if you're over 25 years old, listen trust me! You do not want a female friend that has nothing to do that has too much time on her hands. You do not want a female friend that wants to be up under you all day every day you do not want a female friend that admires you so much to where she wants to come over and use your stuff wear your clothes. She wants you to cater to her all the time because she wants to literally be you. You do not want a friend that is not whole within herself, because you're going to realize that she's going to take more from you and not ever give to you when we get older, we have to change our perception on what we think a quote. Unquote. Friendship looks like and accept the fact that we are going to be busy we're not going to see each other every day and guess what that's fine, there's nothing wrong with not being with someone every single day, if anything, that's just distracting. Now, in my opinion, i feel like it's way better to have a handful of associates that are healthy, that are well-rounded, productive and supportive around you, rather than having maybe one or two clingy toxic ass friends that have too much time on a hand and they haters. So it's like listen i'd rather have the associates any day than the two toxic friends that can't get away from me, but want to treat me bad at the same time. So yes, you guys that was my opinion on healthy versus toxic female relationships and friendships. Let me know what y'all feel about that topic below in the comments: um leave your opinions and let's have a discussion about it in the meantime, let's look at this hair love it. My client loves it she's feeling herself. This is the first time we actually put color on her, so i am so happy for her right now, all right y'all. This is the official final result and y'all already know what i'm about to say. I'M in love love it. Okay, obsessed all that once again, thank you so much ali grace for sponsoring this wig. If you guys want this exact unit, you already know i'm going to put all the information in the description below if you're not subscribed to my channel already make sure you go ahead and do that turn on your notifications and i'll see y'all later you