Grwm Girl Talk | What Is A Soft Life ? | Dating In Your 20S | Single Life | Focusing On Goals

Hey guys welcome back to my channel, it's your girl, shannon renee, and we are back for another video, but before we get in today, but before we get into today's video. I'M going to start with this cute try on haul, and i got a few really cute items from this brand called dianu and i'm really excited to share everything that i got with them because they sent me some really cute pieces. So first things. First, i have on this super cute outfit, so it comes separately, but of course i haven't put it on as a set because it just matches perfectly. So this is a really cute crop top and i have the matching shorts um. I love the pink. I love the orange, i feel like it really pops on my skin, i'm wearing all items in a size, small for your reference. If there is a different size, i'll be sure to let you guys know, but you guys get all items on their site and save extra 15 off using the code shane of 15., we love to save when we can. So let me know what you guys think about this first outfit and of course thank you, diana for sponsoring this portion of today's video, and let me show you guys, the next outfit. I really just want to keep this one on because it's just like super super cute, it's giving all the summer vibes and we love that so, let's get into the next outfit okay guys next up, they sent me this really cute romper. I love the blue and white vibe. This is like a really cute outfit to wear in grease, if i do say so much so i really always just feel like blues and whites are like a grease side, but this is also on a size small. It'S really good material. The quality is 10 out of 10.. It'S a nice airy feel to it. It'S really lightweight, so you can definitely, you know not get too hot in this material. Um yeah, it's just a really cute basic romper. The print is super super cute. You know it has a nice traditional african prince and they are african brands. So if you guys want to tap in make sure you guys check the description box for all the information and the links to their website, so you guys can shop these books. If you got, if you guys, like rompers, i definitely suggest getting your hands on this. I haven't had a round for in so so long. So i'm really excited to have this in my closet for the summer really really cute. Okay. Last item is this really really long dress? This is definitely tall girl friendly. So for all the tall girls, i have been looking for a super long dress. This dress goes all the way down past my feet. I am 5-1 for anyone's reference. This is a size small, but this dress was like pretty big on me, so i had to tie it in a different way, but i'll leave a picture up on the screen for your reference on how it is supposed to be tied, but i definitely have to Play with it a little so that if they fit me for this video, this dress also comes in another color like a cream and green, which is also super pretty. But i will send the purple. I would have loved to get the green one as well, though, but this is the last item for this try on haul. Once again, thank you diana for sponsoring today's video, and i hope you guys get your pieces make sure you guys use my code shayna15 for 15 off your purchase. All links will be in my description box, so you guys can get your hands on these items as well. And, yes, i hope you guys enjoyed this portion of the video and let's get into today's video. I hope you guys enjoy bye, hey guys. Welcome back to my channel, it's your girl, shannon renee, and we are back for another video today. So today's video is going to be like a quick, get ready with me. I'M actually just getting ready to shoot content today, i'm not going anywhere, but i'm like. Why not just bring you guys at me, so i could just get ready to shoot this content. I have a video that i want to film today. So i'm like, why not just get some extra content and answer a few questions that have been posted on my instagram like about two three weeks ago. So let's get this content done today and i'll show you guys how i do my quick get ready with me. No, i'm going to show you guys how to do it. My quick get ready with me for a content day makeup, because it's super quick, like it's about like a 10 minute routine, because i don't do a full face and makeup when i shoot videos for the most part and how i just curl my hair, nice and Flowy and effortlessly and yeah so make sure you guys like comment and subscribe for the vibes and let's just get straight into this video, because it's about time i filmed this. So, let's go so today like as much as i want to just answer the questions that i was asked on my instagram page. I also just want to get into a few different topics as well that i've just been dying to kind of have like a conversation about, and i'm not really gon na, say dying. But it's just something that i'm really confused by. That has become like a normal thing, and i want to talk about how we are normalizing trends as lifestyles. So i know a lot of you guys probably have heard about the soft life era, the luxury girl era, the clean girl, aesthetic like what, like our lifestyle, should not your lifestyle, whatever lifestyle that you live and even if you don't live it, it should not be A trend, you know what i'm saying like, i don't understand why this soft life thing and that's honestly, the soft life era or soft life, aesthetic or whatever it's called it's something. I really just don't understand. I just can't get with because to me. It honestly makes no sense like what is a soft life, like honestly growing up as a young black woman. We don't even know what a soft life is like we've been so like mentally accustomed to being, i don't want to say aggressive, but like kind of on edge and it's like people always see us as an aggressor, even if we're not and it causes us to Be in situations, so we do sometimes have to be aggressive, and it's not that we want to be aggressive, but it's like we've always had to fight for a voice that was taken from us. You know so i do understand what the girls mean by soft life, but i don't think it should be a trend, something that we're using as a hashtag. I think it's something that we should just be naturally in like something that is like a journey that you're on a personal journey to get to a certain mental state so that you could live a better life, but not oh, i'm living a south life you're. Not this is my self-life era, and then i know like no honey every day should be your soft life ever. This is this is something that you should want to do, not because tick, tock says it's acceptable and now it's a trend and now you're making it as your content for likes. Like i just don't like that. So one thing i would say too, i feel like tick-tock and i love tic-tac-toe, so you don't express yourself or whatever, but i feel like tick-tock makes people think that whatever is trending is just like a social norm. Like you know what i'm saying like it's, just even the that girl trend, like you know like, why is it a trend like i understand you want to say, hey i'm that girl, but it's like. Why is being that girl waking up at six a.m and having a coffee and like? Why can't your version of? Why can't everybody's version of being that girl be something different because me, i don't wake up at 6. Am i that's too early for me? I need to be up, at least by let's say nine o'clock. You know eight nine o'clock, i could do but six a.m. It'S like! I'M still on my third dream. You know what i'm saying. So it's like these norms. Well, these trends are starting to become norms where people feel like their regular. Day-To-Day life is like not good enough, you know, and it's like, i don't think it's cool and i don't know like. I don't think people are realizing how these trends could really possibly affect. Somebody'S mental state because, like i said like you, might think, okay, i'm waking up at 11. 11 p.m. In the day. When maybe that's what probably suits your lifestyle, you might have an overnight job. You know what i'm saying. So it's just different things. Everybody lives a very different life and everybody's version of a luxurious life or a soft life or the that girl era or whatever you want to call it. It'S always going to be different, so never think that you have to see a video on youtube or tic, tac or instagram and feel like you have to follow suit and live a life like what an influencer is promoting because, honestly, a lot of times. Things are just done for content purposes and, like i said, like a lot of things have become trends these days, so nothing is really like genuine, like people are just making content to get likes at this point - and i just realized like a lot of the girlies - Are just eating it up and thinking that this is what life is and in reality everybody has their own version of life. So that's something i just want to start the conversation off with, because i've been thinking about that. A lot like. Why is everything a trend like just live your life be? Who you are like? Don'T let these girls tell you that you got ta, eat, avocado, toast and green tea, matchas or whatever, like i mean, i love a matcha. I do love mashes, but i hate avocado sauce. I don't like it and it's also a part. It'S also because i'm partially like allergic to avocado like it's a mild allergy, but even when i tasted it i'm just like this has no taste like i don't get. The hype surrounding avocado toast, but to the girls that do like it, okay, great but don't make people make you think, like you're supposed to eat this. Because of the look you know what i'm saying like: don't ever have nobody thinking that you have to change? Who you are to fit a certain trend like never just do what you want to do. Do what makes you happy and just continue to do that i'm doing these curls like really um anyway, like because i just want it to be like soft and flowy. I don't want them to be tight, curls and i'm not i'm not curling the ends. I don't know if you guys haven't paying attention because i just went like on a little rant, but i'm not cutting the ends, i'm kind of just holding a hair and then twisting it out and then pulling it out at the bottom. So it's like straight at the bottom, but it's still like a wave so yeah this side is pretty much done getting curled and i'm. Actually. This is a u-part wig guys. I mentioned it in my last vlog um. Well, actually, two vlogs ago, by the time you guys watch this and i've really been enjoying the effortless curl type of look with. Like my leave out, i feel like it's way more natural. Like i haven't worn a wig in, i haven't worn a wig since like valentine's day, and i don't see myself going back to the wigs anytime soon, unless i have to like give my leave out a break and then the times that i give my leave out. A break, i think i'll just do like ponytails or like a half of half down or like some braids, because i don't know i just like the natural. You know messy kind of effortless look a little bit more. It'S just you know way, easier, less maintenance and one thing about awake: a weight only lasts a week like this in two days, it'll be like two weeks since i've had this installed and like it still looks so good, like especially after i finish, curling it. It'S gon na look like i just stepped out the salon. So let's get into a few questions that i've gotten from the questions that i posted on my instagram first question is advice on creating content for youtube. So this is something i've talked about previously with um, not within like previous question and answer videos or even just like throughout. Like my vlogs, i definitely sketch on this topic. Um. My advice when it comes to like creating content for youtube is just for one. Like kind of just finding your niche and if you're, not a niche based person, just yet just do your um content like on your lifestyle, like whatever you're doing your day-to-day record that like and i'm pretty sure, you're gon na, find some type of target audience that You know has similar interests, just like you. I know a lot of people feel like, and i struggled with this as well like. Oh, what i'm doing is not interesting enough that are, and the reason why you have that mindset is because of all the trending things that take place on social media. So you feel, like your lifestyle, is just not going to like generate an audience and that's not true like at first i didn't when i before i even started doing vlogs. I didn't want to do vlogs, because when i was living in new york every day in new york, i would just go to my office that i had out there. Ship orders um just work and i would go to work and like sweats every day. Just looking like, you know, ready for work, and i just didn't think anybody would want to see that and then one day like this is during the pandemic. I'M, like you know what i don't want to kind of record me being in the house all day during the pandemic, because at the time i was still living with my parents. So i'm, like you, know what i'm just going to um. Do a video of me. Shipping my orders in my office. I did two videos like that they both performed really well, and i was like oh wow. People actually are interested in seeing you like work so based on that. I just kind of made more videos like that and that's when i started getting into like my daily vlogs and whatever, and if you do watch my daily vlogs. I just kind of take you guys with me on whatever i'm doing and half the time. I'M not really even doing anything like honestly, i'm just you know, performing my day-to-day tasks, but don't ever think that nobody doesn't enjoy what you're putting out you're gon na find your audience, and one thing i would say, is in the beginning of your youtube content stages. Like where i'm at now, and possibly obviously, whoever asked this question, you probably are not creating it so in your very, very beginning, stages, just treat your youtube content, like your favorite netflix series, and i always tell people this like you know when you first start watching A show on netflix - and it's like you probably caught it, you know when they had all the episodes up or whatever and now, when the season's over it's like you're dying to get like another episode like you, don't want to wait. You wish, like the second season, was already posted, so basically like what i mean by that is treat your um content like an epic series that people love and keep putting out your content be consistent. Keep posting because people are awake, are waiting for you to drop your videos and that's something that i had to realize because even when i read my comments from you guys in my youtube comments - and i read all of my comments, i try to respond to all Of you guys, as often as i can, i normally respond as soon as i drop the video, because i just love reading the comments from you guys, so people are waiting for you to drop content. So when you drop your content, it really. I realized that my content really makes somebody's day and until you realize that people are actually very interested in what you're posting you're gon na just say, you know what let's create this content make a video like even this morning, like i didn't plan on making this Video, while i did my hair and my makeup, i was just gon na. Do my hair, my makeup and just you know, keep it pushing onto the next thing and create that other video, but i'm like you know i haven't, talked to you guys in a while and then it's gon na get ready with me in a few weeks. So why not just do it, so i'm actually happy that i ended up coming on camera today and speaking with you guys, so that's my advice. Just doing you and doing you best and just making content out of that and eventually you'll find your niche and then you can like kind of branch off and do something separately, okay, guys. So my second question is: what advice do you have for a newly single girl in her 20s? So i have a lot of advice for that um. So before the pen. Well, during the pandemic and everything i had a boyfriend and in 2020, like you know, we broke up or whatever, and then i just started like dating and because i was at a point where i felt like i just didn't date like i've always had a boyfriend. Since i was younger, like high school, i've had a boyfriend college, i had a boyfriend end of college. I had a boyfriend going into my adult year, so i just felt like i never had a moment of like getting to know people like and when i say getting to know people i got to know people in my younger stages, like i said, high school college. I need to know people and learn people where i am now as a woman, because the guys i probably would have picked or the guys that i picked back in the day might not be the same guys i'm interested in now. So i had to tell myself you know we have to take a moment to learn ourselves and what we want out of a relationship now in our 20s, and i feel like being single, is the perfect time to figure out what you want like what you're interested In what kind of music you like? What type of activities you like so like? If you meet a guy and he's not stepping to you with these things, that you want you're, not even gon na tolerate any of his crap you're gon na just say? Okay! Next, you're not really give you're not giving me what i want. I'M not gon na sit and settle in a situation where i know i can be getting more out of a situation. You know what i'm saying so i feel like if we don't take our time or take time to be single and learn ourselves. I feel like you're always going to settle for whatever a man gives you, because you don't know what you want yourself. So until you take that time to really learn yourself, you're never going to be the best possible version of yourself for anyone else. So that's my advice for being single in your 20s. Just learning yourself, taking yourself on solo, dates, figuring out what you want out of a relationship before you just settle for any relationship given to you and just growing, and you know i feel, like a lot of people. Don'T know how to be like by themselves like single or alone, like some people fear their own like their own. I don't want to say their own attention, but like being literally by themselves, and it's not that sure lonely, but some people just can't even sit in a room and just sit with themselves unless you, until you master that and that's something, i'm still learning, because i'm Not going to sit here and act like i'm, just i've mastered it all, because i'm still learning exactly what i want and exactly who. I am right now as well as just also learning how to be alone, because, like i told you guys, i've always had a boyfriend, so imagine like always having a boyfriend and then going into dating. It'S just like a whole separate thing like when you're in a relationship with somebody. Well, a good man, 19 out of 10 he's going to treat you right and do a b and c i'm not talking about a decent man. I'M talking about a good man right now, if you start dating a guy like he doesn't, owe you no loyalty. He doesn't owe you anything. You know what i'm saying so quick intermission. I just got it um email from my leasing office that i had a large party at my pool two days ago. I didn't even go to the pool two days ago, so i'm gon na have to go to um my building and talk about that. But let's continue with these questions because they kind of just threw me off like they saw me, have a lease violation for white. I didn't even go to the pool and i definitely didn't have no party so next question um. So i think this next question kind of goes really well with the first question i got, somebody asked me: what is it like dating as a girl, boss and um? I guess you guys are talking about like as me and who you guys perceive me to be um so so, for me, personally, i think dating for me is so much more challenging than how it was like when i was like younger i'm trying to bentley. Are you trying to get in here trying to like curve my hair in the front, so i could like you know, but yeah um, it's so much different. Now like when i was younger in college and stuff like that, like i didn't, have a girl. Everyone said i didn't have no standards, but if he was cute i would date you like. If he was cute, he was getting a little, you know a little coin and you could take me out to eat movies and stuff like that. I liked you, you know now as an adult where we have like real life problems, bills stuff, like that, it's not as easy, so i feel like my standards have became like so much higher. I want different stuff, like i'm more serious, i'm more intentional about what i want, and you know not every guy that i meet is gon na give me all the things that i require right now like they might give me a portion. They might give me like a little bit of everything a little bit of something, but not everything. They might not check all the boxes, because you know in your 20s, like guys, are just like trying to like live their best. Life have fun, and it's like the guys that do actually know what they want to do with you. They might not be able to afford moving to the next step or doing certain stuff because everybody in their 20s as much as nobody wants to talk about it. We'Re still trying to figure [ __ ] out. Nobody got this [ __ ] completely, like nobody has a cheat code of life. You know what i'm saying like everybody's still trying to figure out how to be an adult like we've. Never done this before, like being in your 20s you're, still learning like living alone, um dating paying bills cooking like all these things that stuff that we never had to do living with our parents or while being teenagers. So it's definitely like a big shift that everybody's trying to understand so, like i said like when i do date guys like well when i started my single journey or whatever my main goal was to kind of just date, guys for fun, and it was kind of Like no strings attached, you know: why is that me working like this anyway? It was like no strings attached during my dating stage because badly, it was like no shrinks attached during my dating stage, because i already had a boyfriend for like a certain amount of time. So it's like when i was trying to date. New guys was like i'm trying to settle down like let's have fun. Let'S go, take a trip. Let'S go explore. I want to live my best life right now. You know and of course, while you're dating people, you do catch feelings like this. I'M not a robot like i'm gon na catch, a feeling or two, but at the same time, unless you're like tied down and it's like you're, my man, i'm not gon na, give you certain privileges like. I would give somebody that i'm in a committed relationship. You know so i'm just going in with my um nars foundation, so i just feel like one that you're dating as somebody who you, i guess you could consider somebody that knows what they want like. Okay. How do i break this down? Guys know when a female has standards, okay and guys also know like when you're a female that they could play with versus a female that okay she's, not going for that, because guys know like listen. I have a lot of guy friends and they tell me like shayna, you intimidate. These guys, like i'd, be like what like i've, never thought. I was like an intimidating person because i don't see myself as that, but, like my goddess friend always tells me like girl. These naked - i don't use that word, these men are intimidated and this is like i'm just showing up as myself being who i am and honestly, if it intimidates a certain type of man, then honestly you're, just not for me, so i just say continue to be A girl boys continue to be who you are and don't dim your life for anybody, because the right person will attract to you and give you exactly what you want and we don't have time to be settling in this life, not at all. Okay, not at all. We don't have time to settle like if he's not going to give you what you want, then he don't want you, because a man that wants you is going to provide the best to the best of his ability, because i'm not saying he can do every single Thing but nobody's perfect, you can't give a man every single thing that you probably think that you know that he needs. This is a really good question. Somebody asked what's today's biggest turn off in men. Oh, i could give you guys a list. I feel like men. These days, don't really know how to court women and let a woman be a woman. You know i feel like this is why a lot of females end up in relationships where they feel like they still have to operate in their masculine energy, and i feel like that, sometimes are dating too, because, like a lot of guys, i don't know, i don't Want to say, like a lot of guys operate in feminine energy, but to an extent it's kind of just like these guys are like the new bad [ __ ], like i dated this one guy before. Oh, my god, where is like he was i'm into fashion right, but he was like super obsessed with it and i wouldn't say like obsessed with it in a passionate way. His approach was more like oh he's, trying to just be the star of the show and get complimented on an outfit, because his friends just know him for like dressing up and looking good or whatever right. So it's like, we would go shopping together and this man i swear to you guys. He would go straight to the men's section and that's something that i've never experienced before, because with the guys that i had as boyfriends, and this is when you know and how you can determine your you know your talking state to somebody versus somebody. You would take serious pay attention to the red flags. Please please pay attention. He would run straight to the men's section. Ask me, oh my god, like do you like this outfit, like basically asked me to style him in outfits or whatever, and it's like when. I wonder what kids go to the women's section. It will just be like he's not interested he's in his phone, like just doesn't care about, like the outfits that i like it's just more about him. So for me i was never used to that, because it's kind of just like what are you doing like most guys that i know they don't like shopping and if they do shop, it's like they know exactly what they're going in the store for and okay we're. Looking for this - and this is that we're out of here, but with him, it was like. Oh no, let's play dress-up, i'm not gon na put on any contour, because this is a lightweight, so we don't even need all that hold on. Let me clean my beautyblender and i'll be right back yeah. So, like that's something i was not used to. I was just like really like thrown off by the whole thing too, because it's just like did we really just come into a store, and he just ran straight to the men's section and as we just continue to like get to know each other and date, a Little more it's something that he would always do. So i'm like okay, it wasn't a first time thing. This is just his thing, you know, and it was just like really weird for me and it was also like times like if you guys are from new york, you guys know like all right during the pandemic. It'S for my new york people, because i don't know what they were doing in your particular city, but for my new yorkers brooklyn queens, i don't know if there was one in the bronx, but i think they was winning the bronx harlem. I think all in new york, whatever everybody was like hiring photographers to take their pictures like everybody, was having professional shoots or whatever. That was like a big thing like it's still a big thing now, but the pandemic, everybody was having a photo shoot, like guys, was going to get fly, going to get outfits just to take pictures like and post it on instagram. So i would never forget it was one time i was living in atlanta already at the time and i went out to new york to like visit him and whatever it's like around easter time or whatever, and we hired well. He hired one of my friends which is a photographer to shoot and i'm really close on that guy, whatever not really close, but we're pretty cool whatever and before the shoot me and me, and the photographer like were like talking on instagram whatever, and he was like. Oh, like are you going to be shooting today, i'm like yeah, i think so, but it wasn't really in my head like that, because i didn't like i didn't really care to shoot, because i didn't have one like a particular outfit. But speaking of this, it's like the same scenario like we styled his outfit like i helped put his outfit together and now he went to take pictures that same weekend for the shoot. So we went to get the sneakers the shirt, the whole outfit put on the whole outfit, so you can get his picture on instagram right, so he takes the pictures and everything and at the end of the shoot it's like he's ready to go like it's. Not even like, oh you, shiny, you're gon na get some pictures, it's like okay, i'm done that's it and it's like boy like you think you were babbage. You know what i'm saying like so once again. Excuse me once again red flag. So that's like one of my biggest turn off women these days, like them, thinking that they're like the center of attention, when really in reality, guys you need to make your woman the center focus, because people you're a woman is a reflection of you. You get what i'm saying, and that brings me to this topic because i felt like a lot of guys would date me too, because i was kind of just like already put together like ain't. No guy gon na come around me and say they made me and i'm this and oh she got this because of me. No, that's not what it was ever give me. I come as i am it's either you're gon na add, but when you leave and nothing's ever going to subtract, things are still going to continue. So nobody could come around me and never say that. Oh, i did this for her and she only got this because of me. It was never given that. So. Like one thing, i would say, ladies when you are dating these guys, make sure you come correct in the situation and make sure whenever he leaves your situation. He can't flex on you because that's one thing like i said i have a lot of guy friends. That'S one thing that guys take pride in and it's so sad they really be like, oh well. I bought her that bag and since we broke up, she never got another bag or another. This or not that so make sure you about your [ __ ] and stay about your [ __ ] and make sure you flex on him because they can't wait to see you feel like these guys. Their ego is just like, so it's ridiculous! This is the mocha mommy bronzer that i always tell you guys about by fenty beauty. That'S what i'm going in with right now and let me look for another question for you guys. Okay, next question guys is: would you be with someone if they are not financially where you are, but everything else is there. So this is a really good question, because this is something i have been thinking about a lot recently like okay and let me break it down, because money is not everything because i've been in situations with dudes that have money, but they don't feed my soul. So what i mean by that is a lot of these guys could be eye candy, but not soul. Food like some of these guys, don't care or give a [ __ ] about nothing. You do because nine times out of ten they trying to flex for the next female or the next man, and that's just the honest truth about this [ __ ], like y'all, probably like girl. What are you talking about? No like these guys are really like putting on a show for other guys, like nine times out of ten. It doesn't matter. You don't matter like you, don't matter like to an extent like if you find a real, a real ninja with money. I really like you know, treats you like a princess, really care about you, but then it wouldn't even be about his money because it's like he really genuinely cares about you, but a lot of these guys with money like it's like they're, always looking for, like the Next best thing because it's like they feel like they have so many options and if you guys don't realize a lot of these guys honestly, but they end up very single wow once they get older, no real family, core values like it's just still trying to like Be young you know, so what i did a guy. That has everything else and i guess what you guys, which was what the person asked this question. I would assume, when you say everything else you mean like he's like a provider might not be financially, but he could be an emotional provider. He could probably cook. He could probably support you in many other ways. He could be a big support to you, like this person could probably be really good for your mental health. I don't think that somebody providing to you only has to be money, like people provide a lot of things to different peoples and people in many different ways. So it's something that i would definitely consider like. Obviously, eventually i would want the man that i'm dealing with to be. You know um financially there, because why not? But it really just depends on the relationship you have with this person because, like i said you could have somebody with so much money that you think you love this person could be cheating on you, stressing you out not making you feel loved, not making. You feel beautiful, not even complimenting you just making everything about themselves and you might think you're happy with like the gifts that they give you, but that only gives you temporary fulfillment and some person that might not have the financial things, but they could they cook. For you, they rub your feet. They compliment you, they make, you feel loved beautiful, like you feel safe with this person like, like, i said, there's eye candy and they're, so full there's soul, food like there's something that looks good and might make. Someone think that this is an amazing thing, and this person might think that they want this, but there's the other thing that actually feels good. It makes you feel happy. It makes you it makes you radiate being around good people like that love you, you radiate as a person like you feel that [ __ ] on the inside versus, like somebody that just gives you and treats you good, like not treats you good, but just gets You to shut you up, it's like you're, not really radiating, because on the inside, it's like you're stressed you're depressed you're like heartbroken like you're, not getting the fulfillment that you want gifts are not enough. Like gifts is great, don't get me wrong, like i love a gift like, i love a good good gift, i'm joking um, but at the same time make sure whatever you want in your relationship, because some people probably just want gifts. That might be your love, like your love language, but just make sure whoever you're dealing with suits your language, love language and, of course, finances are very important. Nobody wants to bump make sure the guy that you're dealing with if he is not financially stable, guy or girl, whatever make sure they're taking steps on a daily basis to get to where they need to be in life, because we don't want nobody around us. That'S lazy either! That'S just not what we want, so all these things are definitely taken into consideration as well, so date. What feels right be with somebody that you love and be with somebody that treats you right and that's really all that matters and you guys could build up to the next stage of your life together. So somebody asked me: what do you think about sex on the first night? So i've never done that before, and i've had conversations with guys about this actually recently like this one guy, i gave my number and i should have never gave him a number, but he was like texting me. No, we were on facetime, i think, and he was just like, oh, like you've like never had a one-night stand or sex with somebody on the first night that you just met, because he was basically telling me that his girlfriend his ex-girlfriend when he met her like He met her in the club and they had sex on the first night and i'm like oh wow, like she's, shout outs to her like she's dope for that. But it could never be me and he was like what like. What do you mean like? I thought that was cool, that she did that and i felt like he was trying to have this conversation with me to like try to convince me like that's what i should do with him and it's like that's not my personality, like i don't just give my Body to anyone, because i feel like soul ties are very real, like i don't care what nobody says that [ __ ] is real, so it's like. I have to really see something in you and i have to really like you to give you my body. You know what i'm saying: i'm not. I can't just do that like if i don't get wrong like there's guys that i've dated and it's like it didn't, probably take a really long time. You know, but not the first night like i got a first night and i'm not saying never, never say never, but i've never done that so um, i don't think anything's wrong with it because to each his own. But for me personally, that's just something: i've never done and never thought about doing because nine times out of ten when i first meet a guy, it's just like what you gon na do for me before. I do that for you like. That'S how i think i'm not gon na lie when it comes to dating guys. I wan na i wan na i wan na see how you coming you know cause my mom always told me like you got ta, make sure a guy likes you way more than you like him in order for the relationship to work like if a guy, if A guy, if you like, a guy more and he's not showing you the way you want to be treated just pack up the relationship now, because he don't like you like that when a guy really likes you like, he will do anything. When i tell you anything for you like a lot of y'all and a lot of females - and i see it happen, all the time stay in situations with guys, because it's like you're trying to make it work when the reality guys are so simple. And i'm saying this because i've had both i've had the guy that i liked more. He liked me, but i liked him more. It didn't work out and i've had a situation with guys that just like me so much and it's like i like them too, but they - i know they like me more and i could get this man to do anything for me. So guys are very simple. You just got ta find the right guy, so my makeup is basically done, but i see that a lot of you guys asked me during for this questions like how to make friends as an adult and honestly. That is a very good question because, honestly, making friends as an adult is not like making friends like when we were younger in high school and stuff, like that, i don't work a job. Well, i, this is a job. What i'm doing is a job so, but when i did work jobs, i used to make friends for my work, so i feel like whatever, wherever you are at work. I know some people don't like making friends with their um co-workers, but i feel like if this is a place that you're going to on a daily basis. It'S kind of like why not make friends with some of the people there [ __ ], when i was working at certain jobs i used to have my friends over and like. Can you clock in for me like what like y'all, are crazy? Y'All need to make friends with these people at your job like now. Okay, when i first moved to atlanta like two years ago, that's crazy july 2020 is when i moved to atlanta it's about to be july. 2022., that's crazy! When i first moved to atlanta, i didn't have no friends like that out here. Like i had a, i did have a friend that already lived in atlanta and um. You know we were. We were friends for a little while we aren't really close now, because she's just a weirdo but um. Now i, after two years of being here, i've been making friends meeting people and they are like you know within. We all do like similar things. As far as like making content - and i also have friends that don't make content but like we have a good time when we go out like you know what i'm saying like you have to have friends for every vibe, of course, but um. My advice for making friends hold on, i need to answer the question. Just be you be yourself and attract the people that you would want in your life like be a good person to attract good people. I think that's like the number one thing about friendships. For me, at least like when i made friends when i was in new york, it was kind of just like okay, we all went to the same school or we worked the same job or we all had mutual friends. So we went like at a party like we kind of all, grew up in like the same hood. You know what i'm saying so it's like it was easier like, but now being an adult on a day-to-day basis. It'S like you might meet a girl at a somebody's birthday dinner or you might meet a girl in the club that you just happen to click really well with, and my hair looks so bomb right now like. I can't stop looking like what but um link beauty here by the way links will be in the description box um, but just merge with people that go with your vibe. You know like i never try to please anybody for a friendship i show up. So i show up as myself i be myself as either you attract to it and you like it or you don't, and if you don't that's fine, that's meant that just means that you're, not the person for me and that's totally. Fine like it's. Okay, to have hiccups and friendships - i don't want everybody to feel like friendships are just supposed to be, especially when you're making friends like you might meet. Somebody and you guys might be good for a few weeks and after a few weeks you guys might not be as cool because it's like, maybe you realize, okay. This is not the friend that i want. I don't really relate to this person and that's totally fine. Um so yeah, i just feel like make friends at work. Just to start they'll invite you out, then you could probably meet a friend from them. That might be a better friend for you. That'S just my advice because i don't know y'all. I don't go out. Looking for friends like i just go out shop as myself, i'm honestly what i consider to be a pretty funny person like, and it's not, and i don't know if that sounds weird, but i'd be funny like i really be having people weak. So i make little jokes and i make people laugh and i feel like people like being around me because i make them laugh like i don't know um so just be yourself show up as yourself, and hopefully you guys find the tribe that you need. But this is all for today's get ready with me. I hope i wish i could have answered more questions, but your girl has to go film. Another video, but i hope you guys enjoyed this video. I hope you guys, like my final look. This is my quick beat um for when i'm creating content. I don't know if you guys pay attention, but i did not do my eyebrows. I just doing some foundation doing some concealer. I did not even do a cream contour, just powder contour and some bottom mascara with some very light. Lipstick, and this is just my clean, fresh look and i just um did soft waves on my hair. The ends are like pretty straight, and this is my hair for today and yes, we're going to create some content today, and hopefully i get some pictures other than this video that i'm recording and hopefully um. You guys see it on this on my instagram, so make sure you guys follow me on all my social platforms as well, which will be also linked in my description box. So i hope you guys enjoyed today's video and i'll see you guys in the next. One think