Natural Hair Vs Wigs, Weaves And Braids...

Hey guys, it's chigalty and welcome back to my channel. Thank you once again for tuning in so this video we're going to be talking about black women and our love-hate relationship with our natural hair. I am a 4c natural girl and yeah. I don't have any other mixes in me. I am fully african um, no soft, easy good hair. My hair is well all hair is good. Hair depends on how you maintain it. My hair is considered nappy or forcy or whatever you want to call it, but i absolutely love it. You know i can stretch it out further, a bit more. It'S really thick when it's in its natural state. I always get compliments every time i rock my natural hair growing up. I didn't feel like that. I grew up relaxing my hair and i think psychologically that did something to me and i'm not blaming my mum in her mind, she's doing what she thinks is best for me. Having relaxers put on my hair, it actually made me feel as though there was something wrong with my natural hair. There was something wrong with the way it looked. You know the fact that it was puffy and the fact that it stood out and whatnot. It just seemed like there was something wrong and it shouldn't be like that. I remember the first day when i came into school high school with or weave, and that was it from from the get-go. You know so that became my regular routine, relaxing my hair and then relaxing my hair and then putting a weave on, and that was it for a very, very long time and i felt great every time i'd have the weaving i'd feel absolutely it's like a heightened Confidence you know embedded in me. I even remember dreaming, like praying and dreaming that my hair would be straight and long so fast forward. I'M i'm in university right and i met this girl who was actually she was somalian and she had really really nice hair, and i remember me and her. We were just talking um about black women and our hair, and she said to me: oh you do realize that black women actually do have nice hair like she was saying to me. Why are you? Why do you wear fake hair like there's nothing wrong with your natural hair, and i was like really like. You have no idea like no one had ever ever. Complimented me on my natural hair in a sense of no one had ever said anything nice about wearing afro hair. So this was a really refreshing conversation to hear and from the moment she said that it really really sparked something off of me and actually tell a lie. I had a friend who actually went natural um and she cut her hair and she went natural and yeah. She was brave, but i still felt like it. I wasn't confident enough to be there. I wasn't confident enough to take the next step to you know, cut off the relaxer and go natural, so it was then, when i met this girl, the somalian girl um in university, that it kind of gave me the confidence to you know what let me take Off the weave - and i remember at that particular point - i felt like every time because i was so confident and so reliant on the weaves, and you know the lamps and the straight hair or the wavy hair it made me feel like the moment. I was removing the the weave or the wig from my head. I felt like a shred of confidence had been completely removed off me as well, so it was a really really weird position of feeling towards myself. You know it sounded like. I was relying on human hair, someone else's hair, to give me the confidence when that shouldn't have been the case so anywho. So i'm in university and the girls telling me, oh black women, have got really really nice hair. You know like, and i i would ask her: what are you talking about my type of hair, because your type of hair is nice like she had the 4a, like you know, to define long curls, you know it was super soft. It was really really nice and she was like no i'm talking about your type of hair, like your hair is super super nice and i'm like oh yeah, but it's so hard like you have no idea how difficult it is to maintain it, blah blah blah and She was like no, no, no, like you need to embrace it like more people need to see it, and i thought okay, i thought to myself. Okay, okay, let me give it a try, so i remember taking off the weave. I remember that my roots were really strong and, and it was just it was this texture - it was super defined super. You know curly and really defined and strong and nice and then the ends which were relaxed, which was relaxed hair. It was really dry, it was horrible, it was, it had no life in it. So i just thought to myself: you know what you know, what i'm just going to cut it off. I am going to do the big chop and i did it and i'm going to insert some pictures somewhere, so you can see, but i remember chopping off my hair and i'm thinking, oh my god after i cut off the relaxed hair. I remember looking in the mirror - and i was like like i need to go out of the house - oh my god, i'm so nervous and i was living in london at the time. So back then not a lot of black girls were wearing their natural hair. Not a lot of black girls, especially in my age range. You know how, like we can style up my natural hair to make it look on point. It wasn't even like that back then you know. So it was one of those things where, like i literally went proper, i had a really short small afro and i remember walking out the house and everybody i'm not even over exaggerating people would literally just staring at me literally staring at me. They were like. I remember getting on the bus people just stopping like, and i even to the point where i'm even turning around thinking. What is it is it? Is it me you're, looking at like bro people will pop up staring people were complimenting me. You know black people, white people, all all kinds of people were watching like looking thinking - oh my god - oh my god, oh my god hair's natural, and i made sure that i looked on point on top of that. Yet because i'm not going to be um representing an afro hair and i'm not looking on point no, i had to make sure my face was on beat was i was on fleek i looked nice. Everything was on point even to the point where people thought that my natural weight, my natural hair, was a wick. I had people coming up to me like black women. Asking me is that your natural hair and i'm thinking, of course it is it's not even that long for it to even look like it could be artificial. So what makes you think that i'm going to wear really short afro as a wig? Like no that's my natural hair, i really gave wearing wigs or weaves a massive break and really focused on embracing my natural hair, and i started to explore the different type of styles of my natural hair and i really really enjoyed it and the compliments just kept Flowing and flowing and flowing now, where i am right now i am someone where i still wear i've only recently i'd say within the last year. I have really got back on my wig game. I'M not gon na lie to you, especially my synthetic wigs. I have not been playing around with them; they are my go-to. I love them. I love wigs. I think it really really makes a huge difference. It just got me to think what is it about our hair? You know because i feel like i've for me personally. I feel like i've been in two different spectrums, like i know how it feels like to be all natural being all natural pro blackness like embrace your beauty, embrace your natural. You know hair your african roots, embrace your full sea hair or your forehead hair, or just your black hair, and then i've been in the other spectrum. Where, like i really love my wig, i have to have it super long super straight or super wavy or you know, have it up, like whatever style. I want to do so, i'm in in the middle. Basically, i think we should really finally take care of our natural hair, because you know it's our crown. It is our beauty personally, i feel like we stand out a lot more when we wear our natural hair, because it's that's who we are, especially when we start up in a really nice way that stands out, but at the same time i feel like there's nothing Wrong with wearing a wig, i feel like there's nothing wrong with having a weave. I live here in the uk, the weather's really rubbish, the water's really crap. It'S a lot more harder to maintain our natural hair, not say that it's impossible. No, but it's just a lot more harder to maintain our hair than if we were you know, living back home in africa or living somewhere. I remember i thought i thought that's my little boy. Sorry, i thought that was my little son. I remember when i went to nigeria and boy boy boy. I tell you now because i went to the village right. I tell you now. I didn't need to condition i could. I didn't need to put conditioner on my hair or oil on my hair. My hair was super soft. It was so soft, it was so it literally i felt like this was this was heaven, like my my hair needed to be in africa, for my hair to grow as and for my hair to feel super comfortable, but because i live here in the uk, there's Absolutely no sun and you know it's - the water is really harsh, so it only makes sense for me to be putting my hair in protective styling. You know, so i really want people to remove the narrative that first of all, black women, don't grow hair. No there are, there are plenty of black women with my hair type, who have ridiculously long hair, and it's beautiful. The only thing is that our hair shrinks a lot. You know. Sometimes, when i wash my hair and i'll come out of the shower. My hair will literally come out here where my hair is like down here. You understand so it's like we, our hair is so versatile and i think it's important that yeah like if you are a big person or your weave person or you don't really feel comfortable with wearing your natural hair or you feel, like your hair, is too difficult To maintain, i would still say balance yourself out like really really try to explore your natural hair, because at the end of the day, it's your natural hair and it's growing out of your scalp, and i think it's our hair is our crown and we really do Stand out when we are rocking our 4c hair or 4b or 4a or 3a, whichever hair type you are your natural hair will always i don't know it's just so. I feel like it's such a it's such a breath of fresh air. When i see people with that wearing their natural hair, but at the same time, i personally don't believe, there's anything wrong with rocking. You know: gray hair, you know or or lace frontal as long as you're taking care of your natural hair. As long as you know that, with with or without the wigs you have on your head, you still feel sexy. You still feel confident and you still love your natural hair when we wear our wigs or weaves or braids, it's a form of protective styling. You know what i'm saying so, why not protect our hair and look on point at the same time, i don't think there's anything wrong with that. Thank you so much for watching my video. If you liked it please comment down below. If there's anything you can relate in relation to your natural hair, your love hate relationship with your hair. If you love it, if you hate it comment down below, let me know, and let's get talking and i shall see you in my next video - take care guys bye. You