Why I Stop Talking To Non-Black People About Black Hair.

Ms Vixen: Thanks for the shout out boo!!!!!

theluigifan1: Nonblack POC/white people telling black people how to feel about issues that affect us directly is a thing that continuously bothers me. It’s never in good faith and just feels more like attempts to make us keep quiet and complacent. When we’re literally opening up about our experiences, we’re just invalidated or treated as if what were talking about isn’t a big deal or we’re straight up lying. It’s exhausting.

Syugi: The mention of racism in Winx club hurts so much nowadays that they even got worse ☠️ I just wanna say I love how informative you are about the black experience! One of my absolute favorites from you is the video about fetishization and Venus by Parks, thanks for your hard work

Amanda N: I know right I’ll be complaining about my hair then they will say “wow your soo lucky you just have to wake up and your hair is already done” wtf you literally don’t know anything about my hair

Julian Steve: I understand how you feel, Harriyanna. The gaslighting from non-black people on Black hair, especially 4c hair gets annoying to discuss. It’s annoying to repeat these conversations, especially when you provide the resources to inform them. P.S. - Ms Vixen’s content is good good. Go check it out y’all‼️

Jourdon Patron: I be confused whenever a non-black or black person brings up the fact that some black women straighten their hair when there are non-mixed BLACK WOMEN with naturally straight hair.

BB Dollies: I agree, like the society just want black women to have straight hair so it can be manageable, smh. It’s very sad unfortunately.

Sir Moony: Nothing wrong with black hair at all! It's just hair after all! I would never disrespect anybody all because of their hair type!

J V Ever: I'm Latine and my older sister would straighten out her curls because she wanted things to be more manageable and to get less rude comments over it, especially during highschool. It's only recently that she started to wear her hair naturally and feel proud of it. POC should be able to wear their hair however the hell they feel like without pressure from white people and white society to do this or that, but especially black women who keep being told their hair is 'unprofessional' unless straightened. ALSO other ethnicities don't have the hair texture for black hair styles anyways. That's why black people have black hairstyles, because it fits their hair texture and is made for them. It's not that hard of a concept but some non-black people are such clowns about it.

blush ꕥ: not saying I’m some bastion of anti-ignorance or whatever, but I feel so bad that you’ve had to explain a lot of this to non-Black people. A lot of this feels like common sense

Mojo97: Im done trying to have conversations about my hair with non Black people. When i went natural, I was met with so much anti blackness. Even from people who were trying to compliment me. It would always be come back handed shit or they would try to relate to me with stories about how their wavy hair was "SOOO NAPPY!" i used to rotisserie my hair all throughout high school to the point where my curls were gone. Had severe breakage but I just told people i liked having short bobs. I had really bad anxiety over my natural hair because while classmates would go out of their way to tell me how odd my hair was to them. I got myself out of P.E, stayed indoors so i wouldn't sweat, never went swimming with friends, and I NEVER went outside without my hair pressed. This limited me in so many ways and it took a lot of effort for me to unpack internalized anti-blackness from inside and outside the Black community. Folks who don't have type 4 hair WILL NEVER understand what it's like to under such ridicule for existing the way you are.

awesomedude 555: As a white person, sadly I can tell you that this is often due to the entitlement of ignorance. As a sort of "insider" of sorts, I've noticed that white people are often so entitled to themselves that many times they take their ignorance about a certain topic, specifically race, as fact. It's saddening, honestly, to see that white people would rather cover their ears as opposed to learn what Black people face and go through and how damaging the words of ignorance and hate truly are. All of this to say, when a Black person talks about racism, believe every word they say.

Sarana Tari: Hair used to be a huge bonding experience for white people. They used to sit around and brush, style and braid each other’s hair. If there was a wish that I had for childhood, I wish we could have just had a day where we could sit around, learn about each other’s hair, the different kinds, how to take care of it, and just do each other’s hair on a regular basis.

Black Rose: This rings true. I am still deprograming the toxic standards of beauty. And don't get me started on wanting to have short hair.

MAYDAY: I have so many textures of hair on my head from being multiracial, and white people always tell me it’s because I damaged it. Being younger whenever I thought it looked nice, it was still only referred to as crazy, and poofy. Non black people always UNDERESTIMATE the amount of EDUCATION and STUDYING it takes just to keep it healthy and manageable. I’ve been trying to embrace it natural this summer the way I did as a kid and i think I’m making progress.

Stephen: I cringe enough seeing other white people trying to touch black hair all the time. I can’t begin to imagine how annoyed I would be if i was black and people kept trying to touch my hair. It’s so juvenile.

Neo: you’re so right for this. im a brown (south asian) trans man but im closeted irl and everyone be comparing me and my hair to lighter skinner black women and i always feel so weird and uncomfortable about it... someone even told me i had “black person hair”... wtf.

Melanise: Thinking about how people with straight hair will be like "omg your so lucky you can just roll out of bed and ur hair is done" but if we actually did that then we would get BULLIED

Emerald Star Video Essays: Honestly yeah, I agree with this video 110%. It's only recently did I begin to realize that the writers of Total Drama chose to write in that Leshawna was laughed for her hair daring to be the way it was in humidity. I mean, that's just *one* of the many things the writers chose to demonize Leshawna for in TD Action but details. I had a similar revelation while working on black characters of my own series and thinking about the kind of hairstyles I chose to give them so this def struck a chord with me, even tho I'm a black man with short hair.

sweetsnap: The new rainbow high junior high krystal doll has afro puffs, but your point still stands

Kayla Haynes: I remember when I was a kid wash day was literally the bane of my existence when I was 6 it was so painful to have my head bent over the sink for hours my back hurting and my mom blow drying my hair and sitting on that hard chair being bored out of my mind. Now I go to the salon because it’s faster and luckily my stylist knows how to style my hair type but I remember when I would get my hair straightened and in elementary people would touch my hair I would tell them to stop but eventually I would let them touch it because I was tired of repeating myself. I remember one time I used scented shampoo and a girl in my class sniffed my hair another time when I was in middle school I wore my hair in it’s natural state I had puffs and the teacher touched my hair. In the same middle school I wore my natural hair again and I went to the bathroom and was drying my hands and a girl touched my hair and I told her not to touch it and she got mad

Nymphinia: I see a LOT of backlash from rainbow high from the lack of black hairstyles, franchise like LOL has a lot of characters with all types of braids and afros and people have compared how LOL is seen as more "childish" and rainbow high is seen as more "mature" but the black girls have mostly straight hair‍

dreamgrlarchive ♡: i was a hooters and twin peaks girl this year and they changed that rule. but this is very recent of a change because the rule itself was asinine.

nerdwriterfighter: Animating women is difficult because of hair. That is why so many cartoons lacked women back in the day. It is worse for women of color as they have even less representation. I believe part of the reason why they only have one hair style is because it is difficult to animate. But that is no excuse at all. There are things they can do to make animation easier. They could get workshops on animating hair, black hair especially and better making diverse characters.

Naomi Love: I'm not a black woman but I know what it's like having "black hair" and struggling to maintain it. I'm Italian but I have 4B hair, A common hairtype for most African descent women. It made people think that I was mixed and I would picked on a lot by kids in my school for my "nappy" hairtype. But I stopped trying to straighten it because I love my hair and learned to embrace it because it's beautiful, even it can be frustrating AF to handle sometimes.

NintenKnight: your braids are beautiful.

Cecilia Reads: I literally got fired from my job for refusing to straighten my hair and I had white people trying to tell me it’s my fault. HUH?!?!

AyameIris :): I'm desi and my mom's hair is slightly wavy and frizzy and she keeps saying how ugly it is and wants me to straighten my hair so I'm not not like her :(

Lady Honeybee: We take an entire day off just to do our hair. Also we have a infinite rolodex of hairstyles that go through. Of course one of them in having our hair straight.

Christopher Edwards: Off topic but I love my hair. My black hair. Glad you did this video. I understand. Black hair is so excellent. It's as good as any other hair in the world. Some would say it's nappy and I hate that.

Devonta Mosley: Hey Harri, this is off-topic but I just wanna point out that you misspelled the word talking by leaving out the "l" where the title of the video is a bit confusing. No disrespect or anything, just a polite correction. Back on-topic, I agree with you 100%. Hearing a non-black person saying, "It's just hair" is equivalent to a racist making a racist comment then get defensive when you call them out for being racist and resort to those same old excuses, "I'm not racist, it's just my opinion" or "My friend is a POC (person of color), so I can't be racist". It's very frustrating, but I digressed. Anyways, once again great video, Harri. Peace. ✌

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Averyuncreativeusername: I just took out my braids, so when i came to school with my natural afro and some white guy had the nerve to come up to me and say “DID YOU CUT YOUR HAIR” and when i told him that this is my natural hair he told me “ so that isn’t a bald cap right” like what the actual hell. Then he preceded to ask me about the realness of my hair and braids. I let my friend tell him about all of that bc i’m tired of educating white people about my hair bc like you said they don’t care and they have no sympathy at all, and I am not willing to explain my hair to anyone.

Oblivion: Not comparing my hair situation because it’s not remotely the same, but given how so many people dismiss how difficult it is to style my hair (which looks only somewhat wavy but is also very heavy and thick), I can only imagine the amount of stupid comments and other bs black people get for their hair Like if you don’t have the same hair type, don’t make comments about it

sushiwolf: I was recently watching a RWBY ice queendom review from judgemental critter and i saw a screencap from the show where the characters got presumably zapped by electric and they all had afro looking hair and it was kinda ngl

Nuesh B: The discussion of the cul appropriation of black hair braiding styles with non black people that got their fingers in their ears makes me want to dip and hope for the best when they get traction alopecia and allergic reactions.

Bobby Booshay: reminds me of the time the totally reasonable request Eldenring, a game that has some silly AF hairstyles, add in a few more black hairstyles that aren't afros or that 90s tube head cut was met with inexplicable frothing rage.

Matxalen C: I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed the wet hair and bed head. We'll be discriminated against (not bullied like people like to claim - those are two different things), for the braids and texture, even when the braids and texture is in a professional hairstyle, but that gets a pass. Then we'll get mocked for straightening our hair just trying to survive. And then to see people wear our hairstyles (and in some cases literally doing techniques to create hair that looks like 4c hair), while ignoring the fact that we can't wear our own - and claiming we're being unreasonable! The ish is bonkers and it's gaslighting at it's finest. And you're right - most times it doesn't even look good. Either it's not done well, or the hairstyle is extremely afro-centric and just doesn't look right on someone who's not Black. I'm glad The Crown Act was passed, and I hope it gets passed in all 50 states.

Jacques hardin: I remember a John Oliver segment on black hair and it ended with black guests just telling us whites to just Google about it. I did not, because it felt like none of my business. By the way, have you ever heard of Producing Parker. It is a show that is an edgy satire of the daytime talk show part of the entertainment industry. I also think you would have some thoughts on the characters Dee and her nemesis Victoria Lafayette. Edit: I hust remembered that episode from Jimmy Neutron where they go to Egypt, run from mummies and Libby got a new hairdo. A style I think was distinctly black. Do you think you should do a video on Libby, Harri?

lovelyte: I have natural hair and it doesn't take me that long to do. Every 2 days I oil it and wrap it up. Once a week I put leave conditioner and re braid it. Every 2-3 weeks I wash it. Every 2 months I get my ends trimmed. My hair has been growing since I did this and I love it. Also if you keep getting hate for your natural hair from other black people show them online images of beautiful black hair styles. If they have never seen beautiful black hairstyles before it might change their mind. PS I'm wearing corn row hearts right now.

zheahra: They ain't got "kitchens" either. LOL!

Bias Wrecker98: I would love for us to talk more about how with the media the black girl always has to have the shortest hair do/cut. Even if it's "manageable"

kordeliiius: Thought I’d let you know that your shop’s checkout page is currently having issues, an error pops up whenever I click “check out”. Hope this gets resolved soon, I really wanna make this sale!!

Afro Lens: Only to make Bumbleebee’s hair turn into looser curls in the Superhero Girls show. Along with other things like lightwashing and giving her green eyes. Cuz of course throughout the many adaptations and comics featuring her, she only changes to this extent when a show depicts her as timid and quiet

Marina D: I totally agree, it's so weird to me that people's actual natural hair gets a bad reputation for the styles being "ugly" or "gross", and how they can get in trouble or fired for it. That treatment is what's actually gross. I also agree that there should be more natural black hair representation in animation. Thanks for your video Harriyanna

Priscilla's Galaxy Realm: All FACTS in this video!!!

Chiara Gagliardi: nothing. I just love your content.

Thatlittlesharkgorl: Fr. I still haven't ever tried braids cuz I'm afraid I going to be judged for it. Not even to mention they kinda just expect to "oh ur hair is done , u just wake up and go" UH NO?? IT'S A LOT HARDER THAN IT IS and when they touch it without permission....

Top Quality: All hair is beautiful

Jayyquez: All of a sudden, i saw textured hair become a trend recently..? I straightened my hair until I started Highschool because I wanted to “fit in”. Plus I’m Hispanic and I’m trying to get my curls, but my hair has frizz and might shave my hair off and is ONLY WAVY & CURLY WHEN ITS WET When I was younger I’ve gotten some rude comments about how my hair looks messy.. I want my bab sis to be proud of her curls now!!

Starwarsdude: Okay so as a want to be writer can I get some help when it comes to other kinds of hair. I feel uncomfortable asking people like about anything close to this

Sp[iced] Coffee: Oh this is gonna be good.

ArtsyAlbert: Not trying to come off as rude ,but there’s a typo instead of talking it says taking.

Gerald Washington: Hey you can you please do a video on black people in power rangers to My love

MelloDees: My dad at least learned how to do 2strand twists and snap a barret at the ends. He still does it for his grandkids if he's the one taking care of them.

Alias Fakename: People think afros are so easy but you gotta tie that thing down at night and untie in the morning. My twists and cornrows are easier.

zheahra: Hey, Harriana. Do your ladybug slides run true to size? They're too cute and I want to buy a pair.

Gerald Washington: Also can you please do a video on black people in Hi 5

Samlosophy: It's showtime folks

womp womp: on the point of rainbow high barely using their only black characters with non-straight hair , i really wish they would make more characters with hairstyles like that . i have both vanessa and carmen and they're gorgeous dolls , and i think they're definitely important for any young black kids who might watch the show . they added delilah who has curly hair , but with her albinism , a lot of people just see her as white , so her having curls might not feel as special to those young kids because she doesn't look like them . i really hope they introduce more characters with those hairstyles because all kids should be able to see someone who is like them be treated as someone who is just as beautiful as someone who isn't like them .

Domii: The intro is forever litty

Foxalot: Does the title have a spelling mistake

Gerald Washington: Hey you how about Hi 5 and why the show have no idea about black people in the show Hi 5

Jessica Victoria Carrillo: Ever seen the John Oliver video on Hair?

Ryzn Z: Typo in the title? Or you meant Taking

Jay The Writer: Honey Swamp is a character from Monster High with an afro, and is Black-coded. Obvs all the characters are monsters, but she is one of the main characters in the movie and actual effort was put into giving her 4c hair

Ameera Abubakr: I strongly disagree about straight hair being easier to take care of. It is just not...having natural hair requires a routine and finding what works for you. Straight hair always has the risk of giving you cancer, unstraightening itself because of water and humidity, and most relaxed hair that I've seen looks thin and stiff. With the straight hair you have to do so much to keep it that way-hair is just not simple to take care of in general. Me personally, having natural hair is way easier than when I had straight hair. It also just made me happier because I was being myself for once. I just feel like it's an excuse to say this stuff. Just say you like straight hair more and go. A lot of black people prefer straight and looser textures compared to kinky and tight textures so... it is what it is. They may not wanna be "white" but they damn sure don't wanna be themselves.