Hair Bonnets Are A Big No| Women'S Talk Friday| Kevin Samuels

I am on my way to around the brim, but it's becoming a big thing, all of a sudden, because monique said: what's that her instagram after her going to the airport or something - and i think she was going to the airport - to go and do a show. So i just i had to touch on it because i know a lot of you always message me and are like crystal: when are you gon na bring bonnets? When are you gon na get hair bonnet? When are you gon na add hair bonnets to your site and all these different things right? So no one really understood why i did not do the hair bonnet thing. No one really understands why i'm as a elite, hair care and a hair care brand, why? I won't bring in hair bonnets on a permanent basis or as a permanent um item being sold at elite haircare and that's monique kind of summed it up for me um and then, if you guys follow a guy by the name of kevin samuels on instagram or Maybe you've seen him on tick, tock or maybe you've run across somebody reposting. His video on youtube, kevin samuels is what they call a misogynist me. Personally, women don't like to hear the hard-ass truth. Okay and i'm gon na talk about the bonnet thing and then i'll jump over to kevin samuels, because right this is women talk friday. So i'm really starting to get into naming the days of the week, because a lot of y'all are just kind of taking things. A little too far, so i said you know what friday is going to be the day where i have my discussions with my ladies apart from elite hair care, apart from talking about business all the time, but business is always still going to be a part of It because i'm a business woman, i'm an entrepreneur, so let's talk a little bit about the hair binding, while i'm okay with you wearing a bonnet in your house, i'm all right with that. I'M okay with you wanting to protect your hair, even though bonnets don't really protect you, i'm just going to say it blatantly bonnets, don't really protect anything! A bonnet actually matches the hair more than it protects the hair, but hey that's just my thought process on it, but a lot of you use a bonnet as a hairstyle. I follow women on on the internet that will literally walk around with the hermes bag of birkin. Okay, you will put on when it's time to get dressed. You will put on thirty thousand dollars worth of clothes. You'Ll buy a first class ticket and get on a flight and you're on the flight with a bonnet on, and then they wonder why we are treated like the lowest version of any person on the planet. Do you guys know if you guys remember back in the 90s and the early 2000s and the mid 2000s between 2000 and 2010 spanish women or not women, i'm not gon na, say women mexican spanish puerto rican? They were considered the minority. You do know this right. A lot of these things that were implemented no child left behind all of these different things. They were implemented for the minority and, while being african-american is we are a minority, and i am not taking away the fact that we are a minority. Do you know that we dropped lower on the totem pole than mexicans or anyone of latin or hispanic descent? Did you guys know that? Okay, we have literally dropped lower on the pyramid, okay, lower on the pyramid than they were and they were the minority we had. So much savings because now we are even lower on the totem pole and then we go and then we go and we do things that bring us even lower okay, things like not representing ourselves as as as um as queens that we are as the goddesses that We really are okay, we are not representing ourselves in that fashion, but hold on as soon as cardi b comes out as soon as as um any of these other little. I want to be so urban because being urban is in style, people come out and they mimic us, and then they look 10 times better than we do. They portray themselves better than we do with or without money. All of a sudden, it's, oh! We got to protect the black community, we got to protect black community, we got to do it, but then we first we your appearance is everything. So then we go ahead and we walk around with this damn bonnet on. Looking like yes, a massive dude through the public, we're in walmart we're in winn-dixie we're in the we're in the mall girl i got ta protect my hair. I got no sweetheart, you just nasty and lazy. I don't care who takes it personal? It'S a fact. I don't care who takes it personal. It is a fact i rather put on my elite hair care hat when my hair is messed up before i will walk my ass around in a bonnet okay. You are making or giving the perception that we don't give a damn, which is exactly why we do it. Oh, i don't care what they think. I don't care. What it is. I don't care what they thought. Well, you need to care. You need to care, you need to care, and now monique is getting all this backlash because she said what she said and what she said was a fact, and i, as a woman, have to also take my hand and say you know what she is right. I am guilty because, at the end of the day right, we want to be perceived as these high paid ass right. We want to be perceived as the royalty and the goddess that we are, but we're walking around here, looking like yes master, because god, if you guys think back at harriet tubman days and all these days, they used to cover their hair to go out in the Sun and pick cotton to work on the plantation they would cover their hair. Yet we do the same thing now and wonder why we are treated like we are, then hello, so i'm so over everybody with this well kristy. You know you're going to bring vinyl, i'm not going to bring any bonnets if i give a bonnet i'm giving a bonnet just because it's a it's something to give away, not because i really think that it's needed, i'm not i'm not. And then, what led me to kevin samuels is because i was listening to kevin samuels this morning i stumbled upon an ig video. I i stumbled upon him a while back and some of his topics are on point. Some of the things he says are on point. We as women just don't want to hear it, but some of the things he said is on point. You want to attract this high paid man who's going to give you this amazing life, but you don't even find the time to put yourself together like sweetheart. You want this high paid man, while you're on section 8. yo what what and he said something this morning and it kind of triggered me because yesterday i'll talk about yesterday in just a moment, he said something this morning. That was basically saying: how is it that we want to be treated with respect as women as black women? We want to be treated with respect. We believe that we deserve a good man. Okay. We also believe that we should be given everything under the sun, because we are women and we are the closest thing to god. You know that that's that's actually very true. Women are the closest thing to god. You know why they say that, because we can actually give life, we can give birth. So we are the closest thing to god. We are not god, i'm not well. I would never say we are anything of his substance, but we are the closest thing to god. Why? Because we can give a life he blessed us with that ability to bring a person into this world right. We are mothers. That is why we are deemed as the closest thing to god. Okay, so we want to perceive ourselves and carry ourselves in that fashion. We want to be so proud, we want to be so this we want to be so that and we deserve for our man to be such and such and such and he's supposed to take care of us, and we suppose he's supposed to worship the ground that We walk on, which is absolutely all true, but do we really live up to that standard and i can honestly say a lot of women. Don'T a lot of women don't and kevin samuel said that this morning he's like okay, we want to walk around in pajamas pajamas y'all, i literally was at louis vuitton or luis, okay or louie, or whatever, how y'all want to say it. Okay, i went there. I went to the burberry store and i went to the gucci store and do you know that every single store i went to there was at least one woman with either a bonnet on or you walking around with pajamas on and trying to make it like these Pajamas was an outfit or you're walking around in bedroom slippers, but be the same one hold on little ghetto. Dirty dude come try to talk to you all of a sudden. Your standards are so high ill sweetheart. Looking at you saying ill, you still got your pajamas on. Did you brush your teeth this morning cause? Typically, if you still got your amazon, you didn't brush your teeth. You didn't actually wake up. You not actually get out of the bed because you still have the hello, i'm just dropping the hard facts here. I'M just dropping the heart, so i like kevin samuels, but i don't like kevin samuels because i do feel like some of the things he says is a little harsh, but they are true. They are true and another reason why i like kevin simmons, because at the end of the day when he says something, he says something, that's very true. We as black women and i'm not saying man, here's why, okay yesterday - and this is like the perfect example well actually, the night before i did a live everybody on my live about my husband's new launch of his site, which was his basically like an online smoke Shop, okay and the message was perceived, of course by my life - are my people in my life, it was perceived very power today. My job as his woman to be his backbone, is to push him okay. That is my job as his woman to push him. Okay, that is my job. My job as his woman is to support him and his aspirations, no different from his job as a man is to be the protector the provider and to support my vision as his woman. Okay. So yesterday my lives were dedicated, of course, to elite here, because i'm an entrepreneur but my family, my home, my my spouse, my children. We are 100. Entrepreneurs he's an entrepreneur, and so am i so the the thing that african americans don't understand, and i say african-americans, because if you notice other cultures like chinese, they stick together. Chinese people build each other. They will literally sleep in one room for seven years and allow each one of those people in that one room to breed life to a business, and then they all become a empire of business. Yet us as african-americans, you can't put three of us in one room without one of us not liking, someone else in the room or being envious of the other person in the room. Okay. So yesterday i used my platform that i built from the ground. Up with my bare hands and my my bare hands, i'm a hair stylist. I use my bare hands and built my platform from the ground up. So if i built my platform, my job is to use my platform any way i see fit. If i want to use my platform and say guess what guys today, i'm opening a sex shop, that is my platform that i built with my two hands right. So yesterday i used my platform and i sent out an email to all of my clients that i've ever had before, whether it be you purchased whatever. Because it's my platform and i was introducing my husband's business and asking everyone to go and look at his business and support his business as another black man, okay ma. Why are we saying we don't have enough black businesses around here and our black man this and our black man that to go and support my husband's business, no different from when i tell people to announce their businesses on my life, because that is called showing support Of another person's business, no different from me buying from someone else's business, because i want to show support to the other person's business, no different, okay, no different. All of a sudden. Can you guys believe that i got? Maybe it wasn't a significant number, but it was enough for me to say this is a problem. I got at least five to six people responding back saying. Why is it that you're a haircare brand and you're talking about your husband's business? Why is it that you're, a haircare brand and you're and you're emailing me about about someone opening a smoke shop will sweetheart? I, i businesses don't thrive without another business, promoting it. You do know that or another person promoting it. You do know that and when i saw it i said you know what we are so delirious like. We are so confused. We are so confused as to what we really should be doing and i'm gon na break it down for every woman on my life right now: okay and i'm gon na break it down real good for y'all, and i hope that everybody on this live takes this Information in your head, whether you are young or older, because a lot of people's perceptions of life are so screwed up. Okay, if you have a man or a partner or a family member, that is blowing up of any nature of trying to build something, whether it be they are building something that they enjoy, or they are starting. A business that you may not even like your job is to push that business. The moment you have a voice the moment you have a platform. You are obligated to your mate in specific to make sure that they are just as successful on your part and that's one of the things that i learned yesterday by the response that i got in some of the emails, which was only about five okay, oh uh, Why are you a haircare brand pushing this well sweetheart? If you read the email to understand, instead of read the email to be ignorant, you would understand that. Listen. If my man is opening anything, i don't care if he's about to become the guy that weeds your yard. I am going to push it anyway. If he wants to be whomever whatever whether it be he's going to open anything of any sort, i will push the hell out of it. You know why, because that is what me, as his woman is supposed to do. That is what me, as his woman is supposed to do. My job is to build my man. My job is to have my man's back. My job is to teach anyone else around me that i have my man's back. So, at the end of the day, anybody that has anything to say, shame on you, hi, hey pop. I did not bring your ball because it's raining, oh we'll bring it next week. All right come on. That is your job as his woman and a lot of people. Okay, a lot of people do not understand that, and i saw that yesterday and and probably out of the everybody that responded, those five people that responded, i can guarantee you, those five people are single. As hell alex get out of the car get out get out of the car okay. Now, when you approach the car you're going to approach the car and say good morning first, because we have manas - and you are not going to get in here with that attitude - so get back out of the car step back again and start over good morning. Thank you. We have an issue this morning or something okay, absolutely catherine, behind every successful man is a good woman and i can guarantee you every woman that commented or emailed back yesterday wasn't a comment that emailed back yesterday are single and single and are going to remain single Because, at the end of the day, guess what happens? If you think that way? Now that means that your mate is going to amount to nothing, because you are a selfish individual. I respect you promoting your husband, i'm shocked. Someone would think that you shouldn't a lot of them, thought that i shouldn't because they're single - and that is another another reason why they won't have a partner because they don't know how to treat their partner, and they are the same ones that diminish and demean every Black man on the planet, they hate themselves. Apparently, but not me not me, not me, i'm gon na push mine to the. I can't push it. No more ignorance will get you nowhere. It is called selfishness absolutely good morning good morning. We have to learn that when you it's time for you to build someone, you build if you build from your house, first support absolutely so i i feel, like kevin samuels, said some really good things today. I don't agree with everything he says. I'M not gon na say that i agree with everything he says, because i don't. I do not agree with everything he says, but i agree with today's topic. I agreed with today's topic because we want so much. We think we deserve what happened. Oh, we believe we deserve so much, but we don't. We don't do the things that are required to get what we deserve, and you know what he did this morning. He actually went and googled asian women wearing bonnets, white women wearing bonnets. They have no pictures up and he said something that was very true. He said: listen, they don't wear that and one lady. What then he said that the women are like. Well, you know we like to compare that. Oh well, white women. Do it and he's like? Well we're beneath them, so we have to do 17 times more, which leads back to why i said what i said this morning about being the bottom of the totem pole. We literally have dropped the to the bottom because we have to do things 10 times harder. We got to go 20 times harder. We got to go 30 times harder, so just because barbara can do it doesn't mean that we can. We can't get away with it and you know what they don't do that do you ever see them walking nah, i'm not going to say all. But do you ever see a asian woman or a white lady walking down the street with a bonnet on and i'm not going to talk about the ones who want to be so urban, so african-american, i'm talking about the ones who are being themselves, the ones who Are being themselves adriana, do you think that me or your dad will allow you to walk out of the house with a bonnet on? No do we let you walk out of the house with your scarf on your head? No alex! Do i let you walk out of the house with a scarf on your head? No, is that appropriate to walk out of the house with the scarf on your head? No, you hesitated, you think it is yeah um, the bonnet that you see everybody wearing. Do you think that that's appropriate not all the time when is it appropriate um? Maybe when it's very late and uh people, a lot of people aren't around okay, if it's very late and people aren't around, that means that you probably are would be more at home. Anyway, right, yes, okay, so i would say like when you wake up like or like one o'clock in the morning, just like to go like on a flight or plane or go on a road trip. Your bonnet is fine because you're trying to like protect your hair yeah on a road trip, but i would not say on a plane. You know why i wouldn't say on the plane. Tell me tell me why you think i would say no not on a plane either, because there are people there. There are people there and they will do what alex they will judge you, and do you think that it would be something positive that they would say or negative negative positive huh i didn't mean to say positive. You said you think it would be a negative right. Okay, so how old are you alex 12.? How do you agenda okay? So if my 12 year old and my 13 year old can say no, it's not appropriate because they're gon na judge you we as big grown women. Don'T already know this. Let me ask you guys a question: do you guys see girls come to school with bonnets on sometimes do you see girls come to school with pajamas on no because they're gon na take it they're going to do this they'll tell you to go home, but have You seen them. Try yes, ma'am! Okay. So once again, if my 12 and 13 year old can say this, what's the question again: okay, there's none! Okay! Okay! I got it! There'S none! There'S not! I think i'm gon na have to get you guys something to eat, because we're gon na be late today. Well, christian you're gon na be a little late. Today, son, okay, you want some mcdonald's. Yes, oh you'll smile for that, though okay we are considered. We are already the two times when the sense of enslave people residing in country that say: okay, i get that, but stating single moms, not a baby mom is the difference. I was married and got divorced. Okay, i don't know what you guys are talking about yeah. I don't know everything, there's like a mixed conversation, but again a certain woman wears bonnets and such in public. Okay, i'm just making sure that we clean - and i know not everybody's going to agree. But i have two daughters and they will definitely not ever walk out of the house with a bonnet on sometimes we'll forget and say: oh man, your scarf's, still on your head. Doesn'T that happen and they'll forget because it's second nature, but that does not mean we're. Leaving our home with it, we do as we are taught and shown. That'S absolutely a fact. We do as we are taught and shown i'm like glance reading, so you guys kind of just bear with it. We do, as we are taught. I do not wear bonnets. Do you guys be wearing a bonnet? No, i do not wear bonnets. The most i will put on my head is what a scarf a scarf or a wig a scarf a scarf or a wig. When you leave your house, you need to be presentable as presentable as you can possibly be like me. If i got ta go, do my hair at work, i'll, wear a hat all week! Okay, i will literally wear a hat all week, but you will never see me leave my house with a bonnet on. If i have a lace front on, i get so tired of seeing women with these lace fronts and they think that, because they have this lace front wig, they need to put a bonnet on to protect their hair. Well, sweetheart! If you were gon na wear the wig, then and you'd want it to have 97 inches, then why do you need to protect okay? I don't get it. This mcdonald's is always extremely packed and it's very aggravating adriana and alex. Do you think you guys can go inside the mcdonald's yourself? Yes, mom, you sure? Yes, ma'am do i need to come in and chopper on you? No, yes, ma'am alex. Did you say yes? Yes, i need to come and chop her on you. No! No! I'M not going to come and chaperone you you're big girls, you can hang out, you can handle it all right. Let'S see if you guys can handle this all on your own. You stand in the car with me, sir three orange juice and three chicken mcchicken yep. Three mcchicken hash brown. You want to draw now yep. It just so happens that i have a pack of white paper here. So yes, you can go here, you go, my parents would let you would not wouldn't let you go anywhere without getting ready. First, not even to breakfast absolutely when i was growing up my dad would not let us leave the house with the scarf rollers house, shoes or pajamas jamaicans crystal my granny would cuss if you go out looking untidy. This is what we've been taught, because there is, there is they're so into self-expression, and they feel it's acceptable to look, however, and it's it's very true and i think he said: don't don't whatever. I think some of the employers need to speak up and stop allowing employees from wearing it. Honestly, i feel like a lot of employers, don't speak up because there's a thin line between them being called racist or um being um i'll, just say racist, because they're saying oh well, you can't wear that and then we try to use this tactic like oh well, Are you trying to say that this this is my heritage, this it's my coach, no baby, that's not your heritage! That is not your culture. It'S actually a negative connotation of being an african-american woman. Okay, slaves used to wear things that represented somewhat of a bonnet to cover their hair when they were out picking cotton working for mass on the plantation being abused. If you paid attention, that's what they had on their head, the very very famous picture of harriet tubman that goes around harriet tubman. Had what on her head, something that looked of sort of a bonnet, then she had pictures where her hair was was out and combed, but best believe it's the same thing. So we now will follow through history and we want to be treated so equal. We need equality, we need to be treated as such as the goddesses and queens that we are yet we're walking around and making a mockery of ourselves. Let me find this very famous picture of harriet tubman. What is that on her head? A scarf slash, bonnet right? Okay hold on what is that on her head? Okay, i'm gon na put the slaves 1900 to see a picture. If i could, these are two little guys on their head born slaves. Okay, hold on what does every woman in this picture have on their head? Okay, so my point is at the end of the day: while we want to perceive ourselves as we can do, what we want - and you know i can do you got to accept it because hey make sure you don't draw on the window. Okay, you got here. You need something to press on, you can put, is a scarf, also bad to wear. I mean they have some styles, where you can wear a like a designer or decorative scarf. There are some styles that you can pull that off, but if this is a everyday look for you walking around looking like aunt jemima, that's a no self pride when you leave home, why wouldn't you want to look your best? The sad thing is, there are turbines and other head wraps that are made for outfitting, but they choose to wear the bonnets out of their house. They got girls that will literally have a bonnet to match the outfit they have on. You know even up to even and the shoe that i hate the most that that furry sandal that everybody's wearing now it's just a modern day house shoe furry fuzzy slippers were to be worn to bed furry fuzzy slippers were to be warned about even the fact That my daughter likes to like these uggs drives me nuts, because i hate them. I feel like they look like house shoes, but they've now made it into a style. I won't buy another pair. Did you guys survive ordering your own stuff? I'Ve always ordered my own stuff. Oh excuse me, you have it's mom. Okay, it is a how to the furry slippers are, are extremely ugly. I think so too alex the other thing. Would you like a pair of the ugg sandals they're so cute? They are not cute at all. There'S nothing cute about those sandwiches and then, when it's cold, when it's like cold outside your feet, don't get cold. Do you know that only african-americans buy those ugg sandals? It'S very rare that you will see any other race wear those sandals. My child likes that pair. That'S probably the only piece you're ever going to have. What let me see you have to give me the blue one, i'm not getting them. I don't want. I i just don't i don't like them and your dad hates them even more flip-flops. They are house. Shoes turned into flip-flops with a name brand on it. Okay, let's call it what it is. Please they are house shoes, okay, with a name added to them, to make them into somewhat of a name thread like like. Don'T just stop don't they resemble house shoes, okay, so the fuzzy sandals that we used to buy at walmart for your nighttime shoes that you want to wear in the house. Tell me they don't resemble that shoe. Ah, okay, okay, okay, they're, just a upgraded house shoe. Thank you. Anybody else alex i'm gon na, buy you a pair for christmas. Her face went, don't do that mom, it's two pairs. It'S one, there's like a actual sandal but and then there's the one. I have okay. Well, the one that's an actual sandal. Is it fuzzy um, okay, nope? But it's not easy. It'S like velcros. I don't like i, i know which one you're talking about and that shoe is ugly. I'M used to have the boots type like the boots. The ugg boots are okay, those are okay. Those keep your feet warm in the winter they are boots. Could i get a piece of somebody's hash brown, not adriana, because she gon na break off this baby piece and get me watch up. I'M sorry mommy! Is that big enough? No, no i'll give it a good peace. All i'm saying at the end of the day you guys self-representation is the biggest thing and when you walk into a place - and they see you have a bonnet on and how shoes on the first thing that they're gon na perceive, is that you have no care For life whatsoever, you care for nothing in regards to yourself, so they're gon na treat you just the same they're going to treat you just the same. Don'T wonder why we're automatically we're already stereotyped just by our color? That'S the first stereotype number one, because if you guys notice, when you go into a restaurant or something and when you go in and you can be speaking as as as um poised as possible - hey, how are you um? I wanted to order the chicken dinner um and i'll also take a sweet tea. Please and your waiter or your waitress is of another race. They automatically feel like. They need to be able to communicate with you, so they hey, girl, hey honey, child. You know well, um, no, that's number one! I don't! I don't need you to get down to what you think is my level um, because that's not my level, but do you notice that that's the first thing that happens if this is, if you understand what i just said, put a one in the chat put a One in the chat, if you understand what i just said, because it happens every time you go in as poised as poised you go in speaking the the standard, english, it's not even proper english, because there's no such thing standard english - you go in and say um. So i'd like to get um the steak and eggs um: if could you please just have them ensure that the steak is cooked? Well, please, um and then for the eggs. I'Ll definitely take a little slice of cheese, not too much, and the first thing they turn and say is okay, honey, no problem, because this is their perception of how we speak. They think that we all want to be down to earth laquita who stands on the corner in the hood? No, no, no, no, no, they feel like you got to get down to my level. What'S my level absolute, listen, i'm free to be me. They then they say, do you need hot sauce while i do eat hot sauce with everything the negative connotation is that they think that all black people like hot sauce, that is the negative connotation to it, not knowing why we think that being good, good servers or Servants they automatically assume that we need hot sauce people, don't see these stereotypes, dropping by just your skin color. So now add the bonnet. Add the house shoes and add the pajamas in public to it now you've literally gone to beneath the level of your dog. You get less respect than your dog does. Did you got excuse me? Did you guys know that you get the you get as an african-american? We get less respect than our pet. Your dog has more rights than you do. Did you know this and they come in all colors? If you didn't know that you are severely lost, severely lost, okay, okay, so one thing i'm definitely going to say: we definitely need to make sure that we are reinforcing and teaching our children that your appearance is everything you need to walk out of the house. Looking your best, you need to walk out of your house. Looking your absolute best. Okay, that doesn't mean you got to have a full face, beat yeah. It doesn't mean that it doesn't mean that you got to have on the most expensive clothing. That doesn't mean that either okay, it doesn't mean that either, but at least make sure that you are well put together, make sure that you are well put together. That'S very important make sure your children understand that they need to be well put together, that they need to make sure that they have their little baggie with their with their hygiene products, because a lot of parents don't even teach their children that my girls were taught That you never leave home without your purse, because women carry what a purse and what is the most important thing outside of your wallet that should be in your purse, your deodorant, your hygiene products. That is the only reason why i make sure that my girls either have a little baggie in their backpack okay or they have their little book bag that they put on there, but they don't have to be grown, but they can definitely understand that. Okay, we need to make sure that we have our little products that we need this. This topic made hold on. Let me let me stop. We got ta stop by the right. Thank you. Susie b, this topic made people so defensive to the point. The message got lost, no, i don't think anybody's, perceiving it with defense. People perceive things the way that they feel it needs to be perceived. Some people come with a thought process of understanding and some people come with the thought process of being defensive, and sometimes you got ta check yourself and say you know what let me go with the thought process of understanding. What'S being said before, i try to be defensive of, what's being said and 90 percent of the time, the person that's being defensive, it's about them. Ninety percent of the time, the person that's being defensive or coming with ignorance, is upset because the topic brings in home to them. When you and your mate have a disagreement, it's typically because the mate probably said something to you. That you know is true, but you disagree, and this is another reason why i wanted to introduce women talk friday, because there's so many different topics that we don't discuss and hair is cool. But hair is a part of what your image hair is. All a part of your hygiene hair is a part of your image, so whoever wants to perceive it is well. You know i just want to know about hair. Well, sweetheart, you gon na know about everything. Coming on this channel, so you might as well unsubscribe because you came to the wrong channel and i kind of took note of that yesterday by some of the responses that i got. I was like yeah you're, probably all alone. That'S probably why you're so bitter about it and probably why you can't understand the message behind it. What happened i mean it's raining. What do you mean? You have to go walking by the track two times when it rains it rains? Oh okay, are you guys done with your breakfast? I know a lot of people aren't going to agree with what i'm saying, because at the end of the day, that's people and they're going to use me as the scapegoat for their miserable lives. That'S okay! I'M here! For it, i have time, but at the end of the day i just want to make sure and reassure because a lot of a lot of my subscribers are young too, and a lot of times. They don't hear that hard fact. Like listen, you look dumb walking around with this bonnet on your head, walking around in house sandals walking around with your pajamas on. I don't care if you literally are running to the 7-eleven. Take the bonnet off before you get out the car, even if your lace is lifting take that bonnet off before you get out of the car, please, okay, we are already perceived in a negative way automatically. Lastly, because i saw somebody say something that i just don't agree with, who wear hold on here? Talk to your grandma, those of you who, like to wear, exercise clothes as outfits. They are not they're, they are exercise clothes. They are for working out. They are not for you to wear everywhere. I feel like a lot of people wear these exercise clothes because they want people to see their bodies. I don't know what kind of society we've gotten ourselves into today, but we feel like wearing exercise. Clothes is an outfit wearing exercise clothes as an outfit now i know this one is going to hurt a lot of feeling. Ah, a lot of you walking around like there's somebody in my building at the the place that i work where i do hair and she literally wears workout clothes every single day, and i can promise you that the person does not work out. You are doing people's hair with a sports bra and leggings on, like people are starting to make this a style walking around with a sports bra and leggings on, because they think you think it's cute, you think it's adult-like huh. I can't beat my house with no workout clothes on unless i'm going to the gym. If you have a real man like a real mate, a real man he's gon na look at you like. Where are you going in that girls? Did we wear leggings? The only time i was like dancing because you had to dance in them right do i allow you guys to walk out of the house with tights on or workout pants on and call it an outfit. Thank you. If you have leggings on what do you have over it, a dress and the main reason you'll wear the leggings under the dress. Is why? Because they're too short, thank you. If you don't teach them, while they're young as they get older, they're going to be raised like animals and wolves, if you don't teach your children while they're young, the standards of life and the things that they should and shouldn't do, they are going to be perceived In the wrong way, you know who i love, i love love, love her attitude and some of you might not agree. I love phaedra parks. You know why. I love phaedra parks because she has the true thoughts of a southern belle, but she does. She does get a little raunchy hair, but her thought process of a southern belle southern belles. Don'T do anything of what we're talking about right now. Southern belles are poised rich african-american women, middle-class african-american women. If you guys look at the older times of life and you guys pay attention to a lot of the photos and the videos, if you guys, even if you watch bridgeton how they dressed back, then they even made sure that they had on a girdle a garter. Something they had to look poised at all times, waste training at all times in their sunday's best. At all times, we have now gotten into the society with people where women don't even wear bras under their shirts like this is how low we've gotten. When is the only time we don't wear bra girls when we're going to bed? Is that true? Have you guys ever walked out of the house without a bra? Have i ever walked out of the house without a bra? Is it appropriate to leave the house without a bra on? No, it's not right, so i think i taught you guys well enough so far of how to carry yourselves right. Okay, just want to make sure we're all on the same page. That is all they don't and that the whole response at the end of the day is respect for yourself nowadays that women don't have respect for themselves. Yet you want, you want a bill gates, warren buffett. You deserve that much well sweetheart! You! Don'T you carry yourself like the the housekeeper yourself ready for for you to go? You got to love yourself. Whoever said that you have to love yourself, i saw it by glance is very true. You got to love yourself, you got to teach your girls, you have to keep teach your daughters carrying ourselves in certain lights. Don'T wonder why your child grows up be the same way. Don'T wonder why your child follows in your footsteps? Don'T wonder christian! You got ta put that stuff away. Okay, because we're almost at the school self-love respect for yourself is one of the highest things that you could ever have. If you walk into an environment where you are poised, okay, where you are you are put together, they're gon na perceive you as don't play with her. Sometimes the reaction that we get from other races is based on something that we've done. A lot of people can't admit that sometimes the reaction that we get from other races that we perceive to be negative, not all the time. Okay, because sometimes they do some really disturbing things, but sometimes the things that we do when we get into a place of business or around another race. We wonder why we are perceived the way that we are perceived, sometimes we're perceived as this angry person and or we're perceived as oh. We don't have any any level of class. You know why, because you walked in there with no care for yourself, so you are classless. You walked in classless. Take that from him alex. You walked in classless people with class, don't walk in a certain way. People with class, walk in poised and put together people with class, walk in and speak accordingly. People with class walk in looking a certain way have an amazing day. Okay i'll, be here too stay dry ring the bell. You got it see you later. Oh the garments under the clothes. What time is breakfast over at boston grocery crystal b? It doesn't all right, crystal b, just be a genuine and kind human, absolutely but you're you're. Listen first impression is the lasting impression, and i feel, like we've made a horrible first impression, and now that impression has been imposed on everyone. First impression is impression: impression is a lasting impression, but if we look like at the beginning, sometimes it's even before it's not even sometimes before our time. Our first impression has already been a negative impression, so we're already perceived in a negative way. So, just at the end of the day, the final part of the message is: have more self respect and class. Have a level of class have a level of at least i care somewhat about myself class. It'S important it's required. Somebody said the thing is, the bonus on their head is sometimes dirty. Oh, my gosh, all right, vanetta or vernetta class is the word c-l-a-s-s and anything less than that means nothing. That doesn't mean you have to have on the most expensive items. That doesn't mean you have to have on the best makeup. That doesn't mean that you even have to know how to do your makeup, even the people that look like chia pets when they walk around. They try to make a good impression, though, that is their thought process of what makes them look good. So even that is acceptable because they at least said i'm gon na put myself together, no matter good, bad or the ugly. It does not matter. Don'T try to walk around here and say that you are a luxury female. You are a luxury class, yet you are going into the luxury stores and doing luxury things. Looking like hood rat jaycorn, i'm gon na excuse, i'm gon na drop you all off because the two of you that wasn't her mommy. Yes, you, i could see it in your face, alex it's not funny all right! Anybody that laughs, i'm taking 20 bucks, any laughter. Okie doke, i'm just but, like i said, um women talk friday. I just really needed to home in on what i was hearing this morning about the bonnet thing and monique getting the backlash, and i don't know why she was always speaking facts and you know she came being nice she's, like you guys, always call me auntie. So i'm gon na treat you like my children and i'm gon na tell you this is not appropriate, but then the children who want to be rebellious and talk back from it. Oh, you know, there's nothing wrong with there's a lot wrong with it. You look like a slave, that's where it came from people, don't look into the history of things before they do things pay attention to history. A lot of people don't even know history because they don't pay attention. A lot of you probably didn't even pay attention in school to know that this is really how it was so while we're always talking about you know, we had we had 400 years of slavery and all this okay, exactly and guess what we fought and fought and Fought for you to now be able to walk around looking like into my mom, oh okay. Well, that was the definitely a slap in the face. Oh good wow, that was a big slap in the face. People are always mad at what monique says, because she says facts. She speaks with facts. Some people don't care at all. Do you guys care about how you look you guys care about making sure that you have? You know you're smelling nice and looking nice when you go to school, if you don't smell nice and look nice and you know, carry yourself with some class at school. What are people going to say about you, they're, going to talk they're going to talk about you? They'Re going to talk about you right. Is it good or bad that they're going to say about you, bad, bad, bad right? You guys go so deep with the conversation, so your image is everything right. Yes, if you walk around doing this all day, you love me. 20 bucks. What are they going to say about you? That'S not funny um they're going to say that you look ghetto doing it. You look yeah normal people. Do this. They just scratch, not beat your brain to kill you your brain cells, while you're doing it. How do you get your head if you breathe in? How do you eat your head? If you have braids, you scratch it with your finger, i i never. I don't have anything else and i can't reach it. I don't clap my head, but i have to go like that and it takes a long time to scratch. It i mean you can use like a rat tail comb, but that's something you do at home or behind closed doors, where no one can see you get. What i'm saying, if you don't teach your kids from a young age, they're gon na, go out into this world and act the way that people act now and majority of the people who act the way that they act now they weren't raised in the right way. They were raised in a way where they probably raised themselves slapping your head can be viewed as a sign of poor hygiene. Can you elaborate on that, like i'm, going to the salon as we speak after i drop the girls off? Actually, i got ta stop at the warehouse and then go to the salon and i'm gon na wash my hair and i'm going to curl my hair, because i need to look presentable as a hair stylist. Now i have my days, i'm not perfect, but you won't see me walking around with with dingy dirty clothes and and my hair out or bonded on or something like. No, no, no! No! No! No! I will throw on one of my old wigs. If i need to, i will i will with a straight face. I will like right now my hair's not done my hat is on, though okey-dokey you guys, you guys don't have to go outside in the rain right now, so you guys stay in the cafeteria all day there um we go to the gym or the art room. Oh, what's your favorite place so far, so you guys split up. Are you guys in the same group you guys have to do everything together we can pick the groups you want to go to what we stay in the same room. Oh, but you guys don't do everything together. Why is that? Why don't you do everything together? You guys are twins, so do people still call well, they call adriana twin right. Yes, i think it's me they think adrian did somebody confused you guys already? Who did she confuse the two of you and said what she called her twin and said you guys look so much the same. You don't remember when alex was going to boys and girls club as a fifth grader, and nobody knew she was fifth grader. Did you remember that they really thought you guys were twins, so alex could get away with a sixth grader and a fifth grader for the whole summer? The whole summer they thought alex was a sixth grader until it came time to sign her up for boys and girls club as a sixth grader, you must get out of my car all right. You guys get yourselves together, i'm about to drop you guys off, and i will see you guys around 2 30 ish okey dokey, so you guys have a good day today. Dry, okay, stay very dry, look out for each other. Don'T let anyone push you around. You know all right see you later they check your temperatures in there i'll see you guys later adriana. I need you to throw this away for me. Please thank you, see you later baby. No, they don't pay attention because they say it's in the past, but you know i'm gon na i'm gon na kind of leave that topic alone for a second, because i know you guys understand my point. I know you guys get what i'm trying to say. So i don't have to keep repeating that point, but you see this point about the the black man and knowing how to treat your man as being your mind and your mind, knowing how to treat you as being his woman. That'S very important and a lot of people neglect that and then they wonder why a lot of times we push our own men to another race because they're not getting the treatment that they're supposed to be. I mean when you pay attention to older times where they were kings and queens, and even currently, where they're, kings and queens. Okay, if you ever notice, the king is the king period. The king is the king. Okay, when i dish dinner out or share dinner out at home, i shared the man's food first because he is the king. He is the leader of our home. He is the castle, he is it, regardless of what your man does and doesn't do. He is still the man he is still the man we are created from his. What? Let'S see, who knows how how creation and evolution works? Women were created from what parts of the man the loin the rib men have one less rib than women. Why? Because we were created from his rib, so he is the head, no matter how much we don't like it, no matter how much they put it in our heads that we are above the man. That is a misconception. You know black people, black african-american race is the only race where they demean the men. Did you know that african-american women demean their men more than any other race? We are the only ones that say ain't. Did you know that you ever heard a spanish woman said make my goal he's like he's? Not no baby, you only see the spanish ones who want to be interpreted as black. All of a sudden, you ever hear a white woman, say tom you're, not no baby. We don't okay, so for those of you that have this perception that you are every woman, um, every woman, everyone! Absolutely you are, but don't forget that your man is the man. He bulls, you you don't bull him. You cannot bully a man, your man bulls, you and, if you don't know what bull mean think about what i just said: okay he's the dominant you're, the subordinate you're, the submissive. Now am i saying you are supposed to kiss his feet? No, i'm not going that far, but you are the submissive he's the dominant, but we like to turn it around and be the dominant and want them to be submissive. That'S not how it works. When i was a kid my mother made my father a whole separate dinner, we thought it was cool um. When i was a kid my mother shared my father's food in a glass dish. He never ate out of a paper plate. He never drank out of a plastic cup. His food got shared first and put in the microwave before she gave us our food. That'S how it goes. Thank you. Crystal b, it was ingrained in black people's mind. Don'T respect your guide to keep us divided. It was ingrained for us to not respect our guy, because guess what there is a race that is dying, i'm about to get real deep, with y'all real, fast, real, real, quick, okay, there is a race that is dying and that race has to be repopulated. So, instead of them populating in the race itself, they are literally pushing us to demean our men to send them to the race, that's dying. That is why we have so many gerber babies running around here, because we created this problem. We pushed them to the other race, it was all a it's. A plan like y'all got ta be be wise. Please be wise, i'm not gon na go too too deep, but be wise in what you do. What you say how you say it don't get me wrong. I have my days where i get into it with my own man, because he'll say something or he'll do something. I look at him like bruh and then i got ta snap back and say um crystal you are a woman and he is your man back the hell up. Yes, we are the closest thing to god, but we are not god. Let me see what's happening here and whoever drives this. This car right here is gon na piss me off all right. You guys hold that thought, i'm about to give y'all a little sneak, peek of something just a tiny peek, just a tiny peek, i'm about to open a door. Oh, it's already open welcome to the nude hello. How are you good our new elite hair care warehouse? Really really excited: are you doing the sprinklers today? Yes, awesome. I am it's a hair care manufacturing. Thank you. I just came to show it off and then go uh, my manufacturing equipment. Oh, you manufacture your hair products, yeah yeah, so this is. These. Are the offices here and then everything happens out there yeah well, thank you so much. I appreciate it. I'M ready! I'M excited yeah. Thank you all right, so office. One office two we're in build out right now, so you guys can see office three office four.