Shanillia'S Hair & Self- Love Journey- From 4C Hair That Wouldn'T Grow To Tailbone Length
- Posted on 19 August, 2020
- Hair Care
- By Anonymous
In 2007, on the 26th of july, on a not so hot summer evening, i gave birth to my daughter shanidia little did. I know that this girl would change the direction of my life forever. Cheninia was born with a head full of little curls, and her hair grew like crazy. At two months old. My mom would finger cool of her hair at three months. I could already put her hair into ponytails and at six months i could already cornrow her hair. We would sit her down like this and before she was eight months old, she was used to sitting in a chair to do her hair on her first birthday. She wrecked her medium afro and everybody loved it after chanelia turned one. Her texture started to change slowly, but surely she went from type 3b, 3c to type 4 hair between the age of one and three and as her hair grew longer and curlier wash days and doing her, hair overall became more difficult. It involved a lot of cries and frustration from both sides. At the same time, chanelia's once so, driving hair started breaking off, and i remember so vividly that i taught ah well there you have it. This is her plateau like all black hair. It stops growing at some point, and - and this is where her hair stops growing and we're going to have to accept that this was also the period where chanelia first started to express the dislike of her hair and skin tone. I noticed that she was looking for representation of herself at the age of two and the first time i can remember her saying something about that was when we were at the doctor's office, and there was this little mixed girl that walked by with those puffy ponytails. That chanelia always rocks and she nelia literally jumps off her chair points at the girl and yells look mommy just like me as she touches her own hair, and i remember that i was completely in shock because i did not know that awareness about her looks started. That young and i was also somewhat ashamed - that the representation she was looking for did not come for me. However, i was not there mentally to give her uh the representation that she needed, so i let it continue hoping that it would just go away, but it did not, and at the age of five the condition of her hair was at its worst and uh. Her love for herself was at its worst as well, and every every wash day she would cry and tell me that she wanted hair like mine, which was relaxed at the time, or she would say she wanted her like her sister, which has a looser cold pattern And then she also tried to stay out of the sun as much as possible, and i recognize so much of the self-hate that i used to carry around until i was in my 20s and i did not want her to carry that weight around. So i needed to step in and change my parenting drastically and it all started with hair and education. So i did the big chop and i'm not gon na, tell you the whole story about my big child, because i already did it on my hair journey and this is shanilia's hair journey. But i just wanted to say that there were two events that really triggered me to focus on hair care and on self-love, and one was the video i did, which nelia the black doll test, um that i also talked about in my other, my own hair journey. Video and the other one was a moment when we were in the shower and as usual as usual, she was crying her eyes out, um screaming that she did not want her hair, that she hated her hair and why it had she was asking me: why does It hurt so much. Why does doing my hair hurts so much, and i remember screaming back at her because it just does it just hurts? That'S what it does. Black hair hurts - and i was just stuck with my own ignorance, and it made me think about like: why does it hurt and did i really did the proper research? Do i really even know how to take care of her hair, because all we've been taught is how to take care of relaxer. So what do i really know, and that triggered me to do my research and to focus on hair care and self-love? So i did the big job and i unleashed this propaganda of self-love boot camp on my girls. That was all about love for your hair representation of black power, black history, black excellence like pride, and it just it was a lot my family was like. You are really being extra, but it was definitely necessary and i did my research in how to take care of natural hair, which is what i'm sharing with you guys on my youtube page and on my instagram channel, and it was like this was all shamilia and Her hair was waiting for because they began driving um and you can see it and all the pictures and videos. I'M posting that me um, investing in her in such a way definitely had the effect i wanted and the effect that she needed. So it's been four years where, since we started our natural and fun hair journey and chanelia's hair has tripled in length and tripled in thickness as well and the way this journey brought us together. Um, i could have never imagined social media played a big part in uplifting her spirit and her confidence and seeing representation and to be able to give that back to other people is really major and we're really thankful for that. Looking back now and thinking about that, little beautiful black girl, five years old, that was hating, the color of her skin and hating, the texture of her hair and seeing the young woman that she's becoming and thinking that. If i stick, if i stuck with that mentality of black hair doesn't grow, and we just have to deal with that, instead of taking the time to invest in her um, we would not be here, but i did and now she's reaping the benefits of this. You
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John Richemond: It's time for us black people to leave the European standards of beauty behind embrace our beautiful black culture. Look how beautiful all this blackness is with no apology.❤️❤️❤️
little miss sunshine: Your daughter is gorgeous and has the most beautiful hair.
Reg rose: This girl is a STAR ⭐️ She is known all around the world!!! We are excited for both Shanillia and Janelle’s future!
Mys Tea: Its incredible that this journey started with Shanillia needing representation and to see herself. Now she is the representation my inner little black girl with 4c hair has always needed. Thank you for sharing your journey!
Faith: I have to say that I’m a grown woman, but Shanillia has seriously been hair goals for a few years now. It’s beautiful when we can show little black girls how beautiful their own hair is. All black mothers should instill such confidence and light inside their little black girls because this world will tell them otherwise. Once that light is in them, no one can dim it. You go mommy❤️❤️.
Kerry O: Self love is definitely the basic foundation for self confidence. Especially for black girls who don't often see representation in the media and are not taught self love at home.
erika brown: I went through the same thing starting kindergarten. My mom started putting that just for me relaxer in my hair for some reason. I’m 34 years old now and My hair has never been the same. And neither has my self esteem. I love that you caught this with your daughter and started fixing it early enough so it wouldn’t ruin her adult hood like it has mine. Good job! Keep it up!
kelly zavandro: It's awesome that you allowed your love for your daughters to change you in the best way possible!
a.d. W: She is now one of the little black girls on the internet I use to inspire my 3 year old black girl with the same skin complexion and 4a hair.
NovieZam: When I was 4 I told my mom I wanted to be white. I regret it so much. Society claims that straight hair is prettier and that is false. They just say that bc most of the society has straight hair. And they want to represent the standards. Your daughter is sooo pretty. And your hair is just wow
Nikki Lacroix: Your daughter is so beautiful! I am a foster mom, and I've heard the same negative self talk about hair and skin from my foster daughter, and I hate it so much. I tell her all the time how beautiful she is and how God made us all different and that's why some people have curly hair, some straight, some people have light skin, and some people have dark skin. And we're all beautiful. I still hear her say negative things sometimes, but I will never stop telling her how beautiful she is, and learning myself to better help her.
MargT: Thank you for making this video. I’m going through a similar journey with myself and my daughter who’s 5 years old. She has long thick 4c hair with a lot of shrinkage. She’s always looking up to me. So I’m keeping my own 4c hair natural so that she will see her hair as beautiful. She says “mommy you have fluffy hair just like me”, so I really have been trying hard to keep both of our hairstyles natural and beautiful. I really like your wash day routines too. I tried it and it has made washing and detangling so much easier. Thank you for sharing!
Ahone Ekesong: I love love this video. I'm 18 and I feel more inspired to grow my self confidence and self esteem and also not giving up on my hair journey. I only started keeping hair in 2018 because my school didn't allow girls to keep hair so we had to always shave our hair. I'm inspired
S StCatherine: Evidence that self love is amazing! You and your girl's journey.... so inspiring!
water love: This got me emotional. Thank you so much for stepping up & showing your baby the truth about herself ! She’s beautiful! She’s always been . ❤️❤️ your made the right choice .
shenequa reid: I showed this to my daughters, I have a 8 yr old and 1 year old twins. This was very deep and beautiful. We thank you for that. ✨
Sophie K Davis: I love that we are in a time now that our eyes are now being opened to loving and appreciating the beautiful hair we were born with. Having self love & just knowing we are worth it. You did a beautiful job for you and your daughter in setting the example of natural hair love. I'm so happy to have come across your channel xx
Ciel Baptiste: I am so proud of this mother for taking them time to recognize that the same inner enemies of insecurity she once battled with from childhood into her young adult years was evident in her daughter and said the buck stops here, faced her demons and did what it took to ensure her daughter didn't struggle the same way she did. This really encouraged me to do the internal work and face your giantd that the generations after me don't have to. Thanks for sharing this!
Shaniqua J: This literally reminds me of my daughter . When I wear my weave she constantly says mommy I want my hair like that. So we are definitely there examples
Lady Ama: I’m proud of you mom, she’s beautiful and I like the fact that she puts on African wear. By the way she was born a day after my daughter in the same yr
Kris Kirkpatrick: You both are so gorgeous, and I’m glad your daughter has more representation!! We all need to love the skin that we are in because we are truely beautiful!!!
Tell It Straight: Amazing ❤️ Look what patience, love and effort can do! You’re a wonderful mom. A great example for other African families, to embrace how they were created. We need to stop trying to have the character of black but the aspects of white we need to be 100% ourselves with joy! The more we grow in knowledge the better
Monika Bryant: She has grown from a pretty baby to a beautiful young lady. Her locks rock..
K Marie: Your little girl is STUNNING.
Vickie Spears: I love that you put so much effort and care into making sure that your daughter loved herself. Not just from the outside, but from the inside out. You can see in how she carries herself what an amazing roll model she has. Awesome job mama!
Marigold Phinx: I cried heavy tears watching this. I have no words other than "thank you", sincerly.
crysberries: Gosh! So proud of how you all turned this situation around! My three year old scared me recently bc she’s started pulling her hair in a downward motion and she used to always just love whatever hair style she got. We have just been very intentional about surrounding her with representation like you talked about and I am adjusting to her hair texture change. I told her we had to take good, gentle care of her shoe so it could grow longer for her. Thank you and beautiful Shanillia for sharing!
Christina L: Thats really all it takes "time" when we invest in our kids we see so much blessings ❤
Chemire M.: I think this is the most beautiful and touching mother daughter story I’ve ever heard. They say children change your life and I never really believed until now. You are also an incredible parent to have that kind of humility and love for your daughter. there is so much to celebrate in this!
Kirsty Hall: I absolutely love this! Especially how you've taught your daughter's to love and celebrate themselves and their beauty!
Naturally Nae-Nae: Wow. Just wow. Her hair is amaazzzing and so is yours. This video was so inspirational and exactly the type of videos we need in the black community. I'm so glad that u made the decision to promote self love and did NOT perm that lovely head of coils n kinks. Thanks for sharing.
Anima Agyeman: Literally in love with all of this, the transparency, trials and triumph! Keep shinning!
V4cash_L3: So important to teach about self love early in life. Glad you were able to see that’s what she needed! She is glowing in that beautiful skin!
Kiji: Your family's story reflects so many of us. I didn't even know I had curly hair til I was in college because I had been relaxing it for so long. I realized I didn't even have the proper language to describe my natural hair growth between relaxers. It was just a problem I had to fix. Now that I'm natural, I hope I can instill the black love into my future children that society took from me for so long, just like you did with your kids. Thank you!
curryuscook: This was beautiful and very much needed. I have been teaching my daughter about self love because I remember comments that were made about my skin color. I remember how that made me feel. But I’m also realizing that I can do so much more with her and building her self esteem. Representation starts at home as well. You are your daughters are beautiful and such a positive influence!
devilmecare: Black women's hair grows. It is retaining length that is the problem.
Gracefully Mell: This is so beautiful I didn’t love my hair neither growing up, but since I became natural in 2016 I’ve developed so much love for my hair and myself and my hair has really grown as you can see with my silk press profile pic
CEASH LENISH: This made my heart really happy. A year and a half ago I decided to go natural in order to provide representation for my daughter and assist her with self love
Ashata Shabazz: I’m so hay that you decided to love and embrace your texture and reset your mindset. Representation definitely starts at home. You’re an awesome mom!
Punky ReggaeParty: Absolutely beautiful! I've been watching all three of your journeys for a long time. It has been a tremendous resource on so many levels. Thank you so very much. You and your girls are amazing!
Syene Ingram: That's amazing!!!! You guys are so inspiring! I'm still waiting for the day I can confidently say "I love my hair". I've been doing it by myself for maybe 4/5ish years now and I'm still learning how to keep it healthy and growing and it is sooooo hard one day I want to become well versed in my hair just like this❤️ many blessings upon you and your beautiful daughters ❤️
PrettyChocolateTrina: @Shanillia26 this is just the motivation I needed as a mother of 4 daughters and 2 boys. I'm sitting here in tears as I write this. The struggle and frustration I had with our hair was / is real. The exact thing you said to your girl in the shower about her hair hurting is exactly what I said to mine. And I have been on a quest to make doing their hair hurt less and be more enjoyable. Thank you for sharing this and now I know for a fact that my daughter's hair will thrive and their love for their hair will be stronger. You are a good mommy and I can be too!
Wow Okay: thank you for making this video❤️ I’m still working on self love for my hair but all I hear from my mom is that “black people cannot grow their hair long unless they have good genetics“ and I’ve given up at this point honestly but this video has gave me hope.
MY World MY Rules: I did the same for my children.. my Ex-husband married a white lady and my daughter was influenced by it
kkcamp02: I also follow you on Instagram and love what you do. You can tell your girls love the hair that grows out of their heads. I also have two girls and was determined to not let them grow up feeling the self-hate that I did about our hair. My oldest daughter is now seventeen and has never wanted to straighten her hair. I told her it is ok to get it pressed or flat-ironed just to rock a different look once in a while. She told me she did want to put her kinks at risk. And she has 4C hair! It actually brought a tear to my eye when she said that. I was so proud in that moment. People just don't understand! Keep doing what you do.
Odnasi Studio: This is such a beautiful story! Thank you for being so transparent as well. Not a lot of people will admit the tough parts of parenthood and raising young ones to love themselves. I use your videos to do my little sisters hair and she looooves Shanillia.
mai jennasis: This is so beautiful, I’ve been a supporter for a hot second now and seeing the GROWTH is absolutely stunning and inspiring. Much love to you and your baby girls!✨
T. Lea Bowers: This a beautiful story. I love that you were on a mission to help your daughter and its on going. Your story will help more mothers that want to teach their daughters self love.
LoveMyCurls: I can't even lie.. this made me tear up. I love you guys! She is such a special blessed child. It's nothing like seeing and feeling happiness from a child! ❤❤❤
its_ Vesha: I love this my daughter did have self hate about her hair. I went and bought plenty of books so she has representation of natural hair. My hair is a looser curl pattern and she would also say I wish I had hair like yours. I tell her no I wish my hair was like yours and explain to her all the reasons I love her natural hair.
Life is Aisha: That was beautiful! I watched this with my girls and they loved it. Thank you so much for this video!
Nikki Franklin: I've been following you and your beautiful family for years, I'm so proud every time I see ya'll. Thank you for sharing your life with us, it has been a wonderful contribution to the mental and emotional health of women in our community regarding self image. Keep up the good work #4thaculture
Mona Cartez: I love your story! I started following you on Instagram a while back because I was inspired by the beautiful and unique hairstyles you gave your daughters. But to see how her journey changed you and your perception of black hair is heartwarming My daughter is 20 now and has always been natural, so I know the struggle, but it was the beauty of her hair that inspired me to go natural 8 years ago. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
2001linique: Uuuugh, I'm so lame! Ya'll made me cry at the end! She so content with just being herself, beauty and confidence beaming from the inside out!
Bria Price: She's so cute, and I love her crown. I'm so glad from mom to mom that you did the proper research and made the necessary changes in y'all daily lives to instill that representation of self first hand from you and that self love. Self love definitely starts at home and I'm so glad you acknowledged your ignorance, did a 180 turn and course correct.
z4C Natural: Love this Thank you for putting so much love into your daughter’s hair and sharing it with us. You have helped so many. I use your styles as inspo for my daughter
Adorned in Armor w/ Tarah-Lynn: *Wowww, she's so gorgeous!!! Love her beautiful brown skin and her glorious crown! I love when queens remind their precious girls that they are beautifully and wonderfully made!*
SweetGermanTurtle Akiode: I sware when I have a child I will make her love her hair, I know exactly what it's like to see girls w looser curls walking around me. And it sucks, no child shuld go through that, it's the 2020s its time that everyone raises their child telling them how lucky they are to have their curly head, using the right products to make it more manageable, and cute little hair styles I hope in the future if I have a little girl that she walks around like she a boss w the good hair, and i want every other little girl walking around like that with their heads held high✊ I find it sad that some parents perm their child's hair so young, I was one of those children permed at 10yo, I regret it so much now that I'm 18yo. I will not put any chemicals in my child's head untill their old enugh to understand exactly what it does to them. But so many people perm without knowing how to take care of permed hair. I wish people were more informed about it.
Dyamanti22: How was I not subscribed yet?, this is amazing and thank you for sharing we should invest in our children's hair and educate ourselves in order for them to grow as well as their hair. Let us indeed encourage, inspire one another. I am definitely inspired to invest in my little girl now. Looking forward for the tutorials. Love this
kharyzma4u: Happy Birthday Shanillia. This video nearly brought me to tears. You have done such a great job and you've inspired me on my natural hair journey. THANK YOU for sharing your natural hair lives with us. JOB WELL DONE!!!!!
Joan Chea: She is a beauty. I have been trying to keep up with caring for my daughter’s hair as well she is 6 with same texture hair. You’ve done a great job!
Lolo Future: Good job Mom very inspiring. My daughter isn’t 2 and her hair is a looser curl pattern so it’s been easy so far- but I want to be prepared for how she might feel being the dark girl with curly hair in her schools in the future since we’re in a white neighborhood. Anyway- beautiful hair, beautiful story
adorablebelle: Thank you for posting this! Shanilia is gorgeous. It is inspiring to see a younger girl embracing her 4c hair while still a child. I also went natural after my own mother did -- thank you for leading by example!
Racqs Real: Shanilia is absolutely beautiful and you’ve done such a great job of teaching her to love herself. Children are amazing. You’ve helped eachother in a wonderful way. Well done Mama ❤️
Sergia Starr: So happy for this. I have 2 girls both 13 years olds and when it's hair day I go through your list of hairstyles to do their hair. God Bless you and your girls thanks for the work you do Sister. We truly appreciate you.
Nadeja Nadeja: Ms. Mom, I just want to say you did an awesome job, well done! I wish back when my girls were kids we had this understanding and knowledge the way we do now. Thank you for sharing this journey. She is beautiful and her hair is gorgeous!
Pamela Perkinson: Very thankful for your videos they have helped make my daughter's hair maintenance more tolerable. Learning how to cate for her natural hair properly has saved us both! Thank you!
Bella Endale: You've changed the narrative for your future generations...great job mama..Go Ms Shanillia! Self love is an essential ingredient to thriving in life. You have all you need within you. The sky is your limit!
Christine Owori: I don't even have the words to express how beautiful this is! Well done Mama, you have instilled something in your daughter so rich and powerful that radiates outside of her. She knows who she is. When we know who we are, we are on the road to being the best versions of ourselves, and it will be hard for people to put us down and take advantage of us.❤❤❤
Adjelegan L: Mom, you are amazing for launching the self love crusade. You have to do it with boldness and the extraness because there are too many outside forces and experiences that reduce our confidence early in life -intentional or not. Thank you for sharing the journey, because the story of the journey is to me the most important. Many want to show us tutorials and products, but the story of the journey is the gem and is you what helps people and their percecptions. Her story and yours touched on my own childhood experiences with hair. But black girl confidence is such an important foundation for everything, excelling in school, relationships with people, speaking your mind, learning the power of saying YES and NO etc...All of those things start with confidence and feeling good about who we are and how we look is imperative. All the best to you and the girls.
Shannon Armstrong: Self love one of the best things in life you could have ever taught her... both of you are absolutely beautiful inside and out and that includes your hair keep up the journey
Pretti Kitti: All young black naturals and girls go through the same thing. I pray that little girls like me and your daughter don't have to go through this society induced self-hate anymore because we truly are beautiful. We have to remember these beauty standards were made to infuriate and take adavantage of women's lack of the sense of their own femininity, especially black women or women of color! We wouldn't feel so insecure for the smallest things like not being able to put are hair in messy buns and long flowing pony tails because someone decided that would be feminine, and that pwrson most likely had that hair type and was surrounded by women who had that hair. If we were shone in the media girls with afros and bantu knots who were percieved as beautiful, valued, talented, feminine and wanted, are daughters won't care to look like white Barbie. I used to hate, hate, hate my hair, i used to beg my mom for a perm so badly! I'm so glad I'm at peace with this beauty of a fro now, and I'm so glad so many others are too. Love goes to you and your daughters!
Alvin Mitchell: Yeah both of my daughters have natural hair styles, and they both love their natural hair, and it keeps your hair falling out, from using straighten combs and relaxers, kudos to you for encouraging her, l wish more sisters would follow in her footsteps.
Emelia kpinpuo: Wow excellent job mom!! Very well done and much respect in taking the time and effort to have this all life changing journey with your daughter. One of the greatest gifts you can give a beautiful black queen.
Jevoir: This is the fruits of self love so glad she found it early in life kudos to you ❤️
Neo Mahlangu: Omg you could see the change of the light in your daughter's eyes once you started going on the self love journey ❤❤❤
Laura M: Your daughters' hair journeys as well as your hair journey are the best I've ever watched because they really inspire me. When I actually decided to grow my hair, it was just for the length so I wanted to try all kinds of treatments and oils just to grow my hair longer faster. But with time I realized that hair growth takes time...it takes years and so I decided to be patient. And you especially made me realize there was so much more to gain from taking care of your hair. So I decided not to stress over growing my hair fast and just focus on keeping it healthy and moisturized (plus it's much simpler this way xD). It's not yet at such an impressive length but I can see it's growing. And it's not that I hated my hair but I always envied people with straighter hair, but now I love my hair and my self-love is growing too. Thank you for inspiring me
ADivaAlways: Thank you for sharing your daughter’s hair journey. This was very inspiring. She is beautiful!
AnimalLover2400: Beautiful video, you are a great mom. Although I am much older than your daughter, representation on social media also helped me feel beautiful and accept myself when I was around 15-19 years old. Even more recently when black panther came out I was so excited to *finally* see a superhero movie with a majority black cast. Representation is so important growing up and with learning to love and accept oneself.
Mama Bear: Tears in my eyes! We are going through the same thing. This was beautiful! Thank you so much!!!
sheerlylavendar: I remember finding your channel by seeing your first post about your hair journey being inspired by Shanillia's need for a positive vision of self beauty. It's a universal story for so so so many chocolate toned girls/women and women with Type 4 hair. Still following you guys and so proud! You're still inspiring us! And those beautiful manes......Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
cecilia warden: You’re an awesome mom! Beautiful watching your natural hair journeys
JeniWoo: I’m so glad you and your babies have embraced how beautiful your hair is! Great job mama
Asa: Ma, your daughter is amazingly beautiful , her hair and her skin and her face are everything. I have been cutting my hair for a year now and I'm ready to start growing out my hair and y'all are my hair role model.
Nadege Armour: Bravo Mom, you have positively impacted generations to come! ❤️
Cheri Paris Edwards: Love that you are a role model and teaching her to care for her own hair. ❤️
Nats: Perfect , the love and attention of a mother, I like the way the mother educated herself and loved / taught her daughter that love ! It all starts with us as a people
Phyl Jones: This is one of the most beautiful stories I have hear/read on social media. I wish all little "black" girls could hear this story and learn that they are beautiful just the way they are. And, mothers, we ARE THEIR ROLE MODELS. What a great job you did in helping her to learn her self-worth at such an early age. Being a parent is not an easy job because it does not come with instructions. But you watched, as well as listened to your child and help her to overcome her negative feelings of herself. You get the BEST MOTHER award for being what your child needed you to be. May God continues to shine down on you and your family and I pray that you all continue to grow in grace...take care.
Jaimee Nelson: You are a wonderful mother and the time and energy you put into your daughter is beautiful and shows that she is your everything and that the love you have for her is endless. I look up to you now. I have 2 daughter's and their hair textures are completely different. My 8year old Annora, has 4a and my 3 year old Zakirrah, has 3a. And for the first time my 8 year old said "I wish my hair was like Zakirrah's" I felt sad. Because she never wanted her hair straightened and has always had hair down her back and for the past 4 years of her life it has been past her butt. But she only gets to see the length when we wash it and i stretch a section to show her how long and beautiful her hair is and to embrace her natural beauty. Kirrah hated her curls and wanted hair like rapunzel. So I had to help her see the beauty in her hair and now she always wants me to put her hair into bantu knots AKA "ittle ponytails" as she calls them. Anyway it is a challenge to do Annora's hair for me because she hates her hair being combed. So to see you transform an unhappy little girl into a proud queen is absolutely encouraging for me. I also have 2 boys and 1 more on the way the boys hair textures are also different. Cutting their hair is like night and day. 11y/o has 3a, 3c, 4b, and some 4c... an absolute mess oh and he is blonde with grey eyes and very light skin. Trying to get his curls to act right is such a challenge. While the 2y/o has 4b-c it actuallyis the easiest for me to deal with. But finding the time for all 4 kids to get the attention they need is also a huge part of my challenge. Let alone on wash days... lol on wash days for Annora, the rest of em all get abandoned for about 3 hours. Then we finish the next day. And I have 4c hair with some 4b qualities on one side.
Taylor Rose: So amazing that you are sharing this private moment with your daughter ❤️ thank you.
Unique.Shannalee: Beautiful princess and lovely hair❤ great job mommy❤ it usually starts with self love and acceptance and its amazing that you were able to turn things around and show her how to love her skin and her hair ❤ new subbie here I'm also on my natural hair journey and growing my son's hair, it will be nice if we can support each other
Lucy: Your such a wonderful mother for noticing that your daughter was having issues accepting who she is, I hope other mothers are able to learn from your experience and I also plan to learn from what you've said and applying that to future parenting. Thanks for sharing the video, it was needed
Teacher Dee Dee's World: Love this! Wow, you are a wonderful role model to all of us. Blessings to you and your family. And...thank you :)
E A: Thank you! One of the reasons I decided to use natural textured extensions only ( if I was using any), was to normalise black hair for the children. It's fine wearing wigs etc, but when it's almost exclusively the opposite of your own texture- that sends a message ( unintentionally) that your texture is not to be desired or something is wrong with it. Both you and Shanillia's journey really touched me
triniredgal31: Your daughter is absolutely beautiful and her skin tone is so smooth and gorgeous! Wow! My black is beautiful!
LaShonna Marie: Wow. You ladies look lovely. I have a daughter who is 7. I've always told her she's beautiful and promoted black women as beautiful. I'm so proud of how you changed her view of herself. I'm in the process of learning to love myself and my hair. Thank you for the inspiration.
BrokeGirl Magic: I loved when you told this story on your channel, thanks for the update. I'm happy your daughters are thriving
Morgan Walker: It’s so heartbreaking that she felt the way she did at such a young age but we’ve all gone through it. I’m so happy to see her self love at such an early age. It took me far too long! I love watching your hair videos! Such a beautiful family!
Whitney Ayala: I loved this video...❤️❤️❤️ so sweet and full of mother daughter love!
Essence Na’cori Marie: This is inspiring. I am black girl struggling to love my natural hair. It’s my goal to grow to love my real 4c hair.