I Hate My 4C Natural Hair #Letstalk

Desi F: This right here.... I'm going to start by stating the obvious (as evidenced by my profile pic) that I am not black. I do not have 4c natural hair and yet this video has had a profound impact on me. I have a mixed race daughter who has 4c natural hair and there is nothing that I can say to her that she views as substantial in regards to her hair since I have very long straight hair. Since I dont understand. Since society doesn't tell me my hair is unruly or out of control when I wear it natural. My heart is broken that she hates her 4c natural hair. I know its beauty. I kept it chemical free moisturized and in protective styles 12 years of her life and then I started letting her manage it on her own. Her father (who is African American) and the women in his family have been largely responsible for making her feel insecure about her hair. They would see her fro and say "What is your Mama doing with your hair? You look wild and crazy. Your mama needs to do something with that wig...its because she aint black she don't know how to take care of it." Last year she was with her dad's mother and they permed her without my permission. Needless to say I was furious. None of the women in his family have natural hair....it's all permed, short and unhealthy looking. Since then she has flat ironed it a few times and kept it in a tight ponytail and it is all but completely broken off. Her hair was soooo long. If not for the shrinkage it was to the middle of her back. We are now at the point where I have to get it cut into a very short style to be healthy and she is dreading it. We have to start all over with her hair. My biggest obstacle is trying to instill confidence in her. How can I teach her to love her hair for what it is, accept its appearance in its natural state and stop expecting it to look like the media portrays "mixed hair" should be. How do I counter her black family telling her she wasnt blessed with "good hair" . I love her hair more than she does. But again in her eyes since my hair is exactly what society says pretty hair is, I don't know the struggle, and my appreciation and pride for her hair doesn't mean anything. I guess it's just going to be work. But I'm going to let her watch this video and read the comments and I hope it impacts her as much as it has me. Additionally, going to subscribe and seek out advice on starting over with 4C natural hair. What products to use to promote growth and healthy hair etc. Thank you for this. You are absolutely stunning and I hope my daughter has the confidence you do in her hair one day soon.

Kam G: I currently hate my 4c hair because despite all my efforts, I can’t find styles with my 4c hair that make me feel beautiful. I’d be so willing to put in all the time and energy if I actually liked the outcome, but I don’t. I feel like it limits me in looking how I want. It’s a real conflict because I want to embrace my natural beauty but my natural hair also makes me feel deeply insecure.

E: I don't care if my hair is Beautiful at this point I just want to be able to put it in a ponytail! Comb it without it tangling right after. I'm desperate, don't want to put chemicals on it but...what else to do? Live a life of braids? I'm tired of never seeing my hair. Who relates?!

Haikupixie Wooz: For some people it's not that we hate our hair because we think 4c hair is ugly. Sometimes you just don't have the time, luxury, or attention span to deal with it! It's honestly depressing when I think it's about time to wash my 4c hair, because I know it will literally take ALL DAY LONG. And yes I do envy my fellow sistas with looser curl patterns because they can take a shower, wash their hair, blow-dry it or even just let it air dry AND GO! And they look perfectly fine. They don't have to worry about their hair shriveling up, drying out and breaking off. They don't have to spend hours detangling and then trying to style it so that it doesn't look like an unkempt mess! Not to mention they can just run a brush through their hair without worrying it's going to set their hair growth back 2 years! And yes I know you can just wear 4c hair in a fro, but that's not always acceptable in all work situations, and I don't always feel like being stared at or having people walk up to me with curiosity, wonder, and appreciation for the volume of my fro! I mean yes, it's nice, and I appreciate that you appreciate my boldness and my hair texture, but I don't want to hear it every time I walk into a room by EVERY PERSON IN THE DAMN ROOM! So yes I do hate my 4c hair and I'm unapologetic for it. That doesn't mean I love myself any less.

Isis Goodson: 4c hair is bougie, you can't treat her any kind of way. Be good to her and she'll be good to you. Patience and a good healthy routine is key for growth and health.

Nyantee A: I feel like If those of us with 4c hair weren’t always trying to make our hair fit western beauty standards, make it longer , make every curl defined, make it fall down instead of stuck out, the we would have an easier time with our hair. But ultimately I think we’re obsessed with making it so things that it was never meant to do

Raylaa Denisee: I don’t even wanna look at myself in the mirror when I wet my hair because of all the shrinkage .

Something Grand: I hate my natural hair and I’m just being honest. ‍♀️

Élise Osafo: This topic is so important to talk about. I've been natural for 3 years and girl... OF COURSE there have been times where I got so annoyed with my hair and just wanted it gone, or wanted a different texture (who doesn't feel like that sometimes) but as I kept progressing through this hair journey I realized just how amazing 4c hair is. It's so liberating having 4c hair knowing that no one can even begin to emulate the same kinks and coils that we have. Our hair is SO unique it's almost unfair. And yes, 4c hair is difficult to take care of, but sis, would it really be a journey if it was easy? I hope that all the natural 4c girls, and all textures as well, grow to accept and love their hair. It takes WAY too much energy to hate the texture you were given, loving it is a much better option. Great video!

Nina Greatie: I'm 15 and I've been natural my whole life which is something I'm thankful for. When I got to middle school I didn't like my hair at all but then I just stopped caring what people thought and started to take care of my hair and it grew a lot :)

Dab Monta: I hated my hair so much I cut it. The maintenance and energy required just really got to me. I still hate it though. I just feel so helpless everytime my wash day is close

Your Boo's Boo: One of the previous commenters was comparing the natural hair movement of today to that of the 60s and 70s. She mentioned that nowadays there are far more styling options and products to experiment with. That much is completely true. I'm telling my age here, but what made the previous natural hair movement more positive, was that it wasn't about length-retention or "curls-a-poppin'" or reaching "hair goals" or any of that. It was simply about being BLACK. The movement came at the height of the Civil Rights era and being Black was IT. So, as she said, some people braided their hair at night and picked it out in the morning to have a looser afro, but most people just slept on theirs, applied a little AfroSheen, picked it, patted it, and rocked it in a completely natural state. Now THAT was a REAL "wash-n-go". Many women wore short afros and never looked sexier and more feminine and beautiful. It wasn't about getting one's hair to look or behave a certain way, or to be like so-and-so's hair, or reach a certain length. It was about letting your hair be and look like YOUR hair. Black women with loose curls were trying to make their hair curlier so they could rock an afro too. People whose hair hung down were mad about it!!! Even White people were getting perms so they could flaunt a gravity-defying "fro". Hopefully, with time and continued discussion we can have a natural hair movement that grows and evolves and is more than just a trend. A movement not so aimed at achieving a certain 'look' or length that, for many of us, may be unattainable, unrealistic and, ultimately, unimportant. Seeing 75-85% of Black women and girls in weaves and wigs is disturbing and disheartening. All that pulling, stitching and those heavy wefts of hair are killing our follicles AND our self-image! I miss the days when we rocked what GOD gave us, short or long. Keep the videos coming, +Chizi Duru, and the dialog going . . .

Talk That Talk With Lo: I'm still upset with my hair. I literally wake up sad because I'm not in love with my fro. I regret going natural its been over a year.

Personal Acc: when u hear families members say "oh she lucky she got that good hair" and apparently yours doesn't look like what they call "good hair", hearing the insult nappy headed, always seeing dry tangled 4c hair in slave movies (which can lead to a negative association), never seeing 4b/4c hair when curly hair is being talked about or shown...these things can influence a person to hate their 4c hair. glad there's more ppl showing the beauty of 4c hair like Chizi!

Thinamazulu Zulu: I've NEVER hated my 4c hair, I LOOOOVE it, I have had moments of immense frustration with all the work I have to put in. But all in all I LOVE MY FRO.

ToneeBonee Aphro: When you’re in your room, crying, trying to understand why you hate your hair so much. I could take care of it but for some reason dealing with my hair atm is super depressing. It’s not hair to maintain, or to manage... something in me right now can’t understand why but I just do. I’m actually crying right now because I don’t expect no one to understand but tbh I’m just wishing someone would say ok and they got me

Erica Roberson: I was so discouraged about my hair today. I actually typed 'hate my 4c hair' into the search box and was expecting a video full of venting. But I watched this and feel so much more empowered and hopeful! Thank you for sharing this!

ChiiBabyy _: Whenever I wet my 4c hair and stare at it, I think.. wow, how am I going to detangle this

cynthiana246: My hair ain't 4c this thing is 4e!

destined2bebossy: I love love love my 4c hair. I love the way it looks (i've gotten to the point where I prefer the way 4c hair looks over other textures). For me its easier to manage than my relaxed hair (but that could just be because I know more about taking care of my hair now than I did when I was relaxed). A big thing for me is I will go outside with a fro. I'll wake up, pull it out a bit and go (i'm known for not giving a f*ck what other think about my hair/clothes/etc choices tho lol). I've stopped caring too much about twist outs and trying to "define" it. The cotton look is SO PRETTY!

Andraea _: Today I’m hating my hair I just wanna get up brush and go without having to go through a 4hr manipulation process

Free spirit: I hated my 4c until I got dreadlocks!!! Now I love it more than ever

L P: I used to hate my 4c hair, i dont hate it anymore but i get bothered by it sometimes because it doesnt grow fast at all. if it was long i wouldnt mind wearing it out, but my twist/braid outs never come out cute, it takes too long to dry, then when its dry its like desert dry. cant put too much oil in b/c its waaaayy to hot in houston! im sweating all day! so all i do to it is crochet braids and high puffs.... wash day i put in twists and a beany hat on top for like 2 days all i want is for it to grown past my damn shoulders :(

Zaniah Renae: I'm just tired of the fact that all these other people big chop and in a year their hair is at their shoulders I'm 2 years in and it's just now reaching my ears

mrsnatadair: I'm transitioning now for 7 months and I have 4C hair. It's getting harder and harder to manage and I have second guessed myself sometimes but this video just made me feel a lot better about things. Thank you!! More positivity for natural 4C hair!!

Adriene Liggins: I have a daughter with 4c hair, and Lord Jesus it’s hard for me to do! I wish I knew how to cornrow myself, cause it’s hard getting other people to do it on the regular. That’s what brought me to this video. Your hair is cute like that!

Ameera Hiro: It really upsets me that society and media have pushed people into needing to accept who they are. It pushed people so far that they aren't even content with themselves. Making people think or feel like they're 'wrong' .

ZBeauty: Black is beautiful. 4C hair is beautiful. I've learned to love and embrace my hair because it is so unique and versatile. ✨

Joyann B: This video is still helping 4c girlies 3 years later ❤️

Daija V: Don’t know what hair type mine is but ever since I did the chop I HATE my hair. Feel so lost not wanting to have to get it braided or deal with the embarrassment of wearing a wig... ‍♀️ the life of a black woman.

stan loona uglies: Respect to all 4c girlies out there❤️

Esther Udo: I'm actually really glad I decided to look up things on natural hair today and that I found your videos. I love that you brought this topic up because it's one that I really needed to feel free enough to talk about. I started my natural hair journey 2 years ago because my friends started it too and encouraged me to join. Now while some of my friends had it easier and had their hair growing quickly, I and some other friends had ours grow slowly. Right now I feel like I'm the only one still behind on this journey (although I started later I guess). I expected mine to grow as fast and full and thick and luscious as theirs but over the last 6 months, I feel like my hair has been stagnant and so stubborn. To me it looks so dry and scanty (although I've had random people tell me my hair looks beautiful) I just feel like it could be fuller and thicker. I feel like my hair isn't at the length it should be after 2 years. My shrinkage is just ridiculous. Like if I stretch my hair it's fairly below my shoulders but when it shrinks it look like I just had a fresh cut. Asides the length I feel like my hair doesn't curl beautifully like other peoples do even when I put all the products in. I've come to understand that part of it is that I am still learning about my hair, and what works for it and what doesn't. I truly do love my hair. I love it so much but I'm just trying to navigate ways to better help my hair grow and flourish so that it can reach that level of beauty that I know it has potential to have :) It's a matter of patience and care right now

Tara Quinch: I think having type 4 hair in a society where Type 1-3 hair is celebrated is the issue. I'm an older woman who grew up in the 60's and 70's and the natural movement was full force among women and men. Everyone was growing their natural hair. We didn't have all the products you have today and yet our hair kept growing. We did braid our hair mostly every night. That was just something you did, like brushing your teeth. We didn't consider it a chore because we were in love with our hair. We didn't have all the fancy styles they have now(I wish we had that would have been fly) but we enjoyed the freedom from the straightning comb. It's important to know who you are and not compare yourself to anyone else. Love the skin you're in and the hair you wear and keep it simple.

emmanuella moudie: This shrinkage, OMG!!! it's so amazing, it is magic. That's why i love my 4c natural hair

LaToya Boggans: On time video.... I was literally saying to myself this morning " I really just don't find myself sexy with my natural hair." It's cute I can make it stylish but I feel like I look older and I do not feel like I look sexy. But I know that this is a journey and in order to reach my destination as successful I have to keep walking my journey. #GOALS

Blk Rose: After watching, listening and reading. I have to say the only ppl that love 4c hair are ppl that do not have it...is there anyone like me with the 4c hair also tenderheaded as well, so much pain while combing. Thank you for the video.

Kaylaisalwaysright: When I was in middle school, I relaxed and straightened my hair every time I took out my protective styles. I would wear my hair straight for a couple weeks until I wanted to put it back in braids. This led to really damaged and dry hair, and I eventually had to cut my hair. After that, I started researching how to grow and moisturize my hair, which led me to finding a whole natural hair community. I learned that some black girls relaxed their hair because they hated their texture and wanted to fit the America standards of beauty, and I realized that my reasons for putting chemicals in my hair weren’t like that. For me, I thought it was just to show off my length. Having type 4 hair, makes it hard to wear it natural for the simple fact that it looks short due to shrinkage and being called “Bald-headed” for having short hair was a thing I’ve dealt with. I’m only 16, and I feel like I don’t have enough life experience to give advice, but I do have advice for anyone with type 4 hair that is struggling with loving their hair and managing it. PLEASE stop using that excuse “it’s hard to manage and keep up with my hair” because that sounds lazy, and that negative attitude is what’s probably keeping it dry and hard to manage. Also, STOP using hair products; use natural foods and plants like aloe Vera, honey, eggs, etc for moisture and deep conditioning treatments. Using natural shampoo products is okay though. I feel that after having a set regimen of water, Shea butter, and oils applied to my scalp and strands every other day has made my “unmanageable” hair more manageable and healthy and shiny, even though I was one of those girls who considered themselves to be 4e

Briana Janae: I JUST finished reading "The Bluest Eye" by my fairy Godmutha Toni Morrison and the overwhelming theme of the book coincides perfectly with what you're discussing. The disillusionment of beauty and beauty standards in America are especially poisonous to black women because we are at the opposite end of the spectrum. The negative feelings we have towards or hair and skin are not our own and because we live and participate in culture that glorifies ,what it seems to be, everything we are not we are constantly in a state of contentment and dissatisfaction with our physical selves. It does take a strong mind to break away from all the noise telling us that we are not good enough because there are so many voices that speak to the contrary. For me it was realizing that I saw beauty in my fellow black sister who had kinky, thick, coarse hair, no matter what anyone else said they were beautiful because they were who they are organically. There ain't nothing wrong with our beauty. The issue lies in people's reaction to it.

kwailcamp: I want to be rich just so that I can have someone on hand to take care of this head of 4e hair

Leine-Marie: I love my hair. If I want a diff look I can wear extentions, I can cut it, I can "scarf" it... been natural since I was 20. Now in my thirties, I've never "hated" it. I've had locks, pixie cuts, braids etc... yes sometimes you're void of ideas or tired of the regimen etc... but "hate"? Never ever. It's a mindset.

Enheritance: I absolutely love my 4C hair ! I always get complements on my hair and I love how versatile & big it gets ✨ yess the shrinkage is real! ❤️ but I’m embracing my natural hair journey 3 years.

Keesha Coleman: Thank you, again for your honesty and for having this conversation! There are many of us who feel or have felt this way and no one should be scrutinized for their feelings. Unless you have our hair...you don't know the struggle! lol The other side of this issue is something you've captioned and that's self acceptance. We have to know that even though we experience our own level of frustrations with managing our texture (as everyone does), proper care and truly embracing our mane gives our kinks and curl new life! I personally like a more controlled look and with my active lifestyle, I tire of trying to maintain the look that I want daily, so I have heavily relied on Senegalese twists. I stumbled upon your channel because tomorrow I will be getting a wash, treatment, and twist out--wearing my own hair (sans braids) for a while, which I haven't done in almost 5 years. Your channel is honest and informative. Keep it up!

Camaya Miller: Loved this video! I'm at a point as a young adult where I literally don't care Enough about what society or other people feel about how I should look and just work from within. So I totally resonated with the portion where you talk about finding and identifying your own beauty

Zinganeat Sr: For years, my hair has been a source of conflict between me and my family. Lazy hair styles were unacceptable, even when going to the grocery store. Even the hair styles I put a lot of effort into would get me lectured due to how it still looked “nappy”. I’ve received just cut all my hair off just to stop the fighting

it’s Cebo babe: I had the same problem until I realized I only struggle with my hair when I try changing how it is naturally. The fact that we are constantly told that our hair is untidy and too big is the main problem. I find peace knowing I can literally wash and go, if I have time I can twist out. As you say Chizi it is all about acceptance !!!!!!!!!

JuneBug: I’ve always hated my hair, and I still do. I just don’t know what to do with it. I’m so lost

belleandchic1: I totally understand this video. My frustration with my natural hair is how unpredictable it is. You can do a twist out on Monday and Wednesday and come out with 2 different looks.

Karen Louis: I didn't have a choice. I was getting my hair relaxed since 4th grade. My mom didn't know how to care for it and thought, just getting a perm is easier (and still does to this day but she starting to understand). They were some times where I enjoyed it but mostly I hated it especially during high school and college. I couldn't afford perms whenever I needed it but would always notice how dry, frizzy and brittle my hair got after some time. I could only put my hair in one decent style and I hated it. It wasn't until after college I found videos on YouTube about natural hair. I watched scientific videos on the damages done to relaxed hair. (I watched that Tina Turner movie when I was young and always feared that one day the perm would take out a huge portion of my hair.) So after watching those videos it was like I saw the light. So I decided to transition and then make the big chop and I was in love with my hair. I love my 4C hair and like all relationships there can be some things that annoy you but the pros outweigh the cons by infinity to me. I still am learning about my hair but I'm definitely going in the right direction.

T *: Thanks for talking about this! Wash days are the days where I HATE my hair the most. I just keep trying something new when needed and keep reminding myself that this is what I was given and to roll with it

RD Smith: I'm becoming aggravated with mine. It literally HURTS to comb my hair.. I have the wooliest of the wooliest hair and I'm tired of it now. I've worn it natural for several years but it's time to make a decision.

YourGirlVee: At first I worried about how I would be perceived. Especially by men! For some reason I thought I'd never be desired by a man if I rocked my 4C hair. But I took the plunge and it really was a freeing experience. In a world where women are constantly trying to alter their appearance I feel so bold to be able to embrace my looks in this way. I'm also the mom of two biracial boys with what people consider to be "good hair". But at my house, healthy hair is the only kind of good hair! They hear me speak positively about my hair. They see the pride I take in caring for it. They compliment it. They love to dig their little hands in my fro while telling me how soft it is. I'm realizing that I'm shaping their perception of beauty and I couldn't be more proud.

Nat lafleur: Girl you’re beautiful by the way !!! I love this video ! I’m a 4c and never took care of my hair till now ! I’m still having a hard time with just embracing my tight 4 c hair. Im wearing wigs while taking care of my natural hair ! It’s a process, but honestly media and social media have made us feel this way ! Brainwashing ! So it will take time to de-program!!! Great vid

Cassandra: I used to be so insecure . When I started loving myself was when I started to wear my hair natural. I hated it at first and have even cried about it but after 3 years of being natural and after these past 7 months of really going hard and trying different hair styles, I can say I'm comfortable with doing different styles, wearing my natural 4C hair and I feel beautiful which is something I wasn't feeling with all the weaves and whatnot

Nails Jackson: Such a great video!!! I'm sitting here having a conversation with my 14 year old daughter about accepting herself, hair etc. and we came across this video. I told her the thing that makes "you" so beautiful is your spirit. Very Positive!!! My daughter is relating to everything that you are saying. PLease make more videos!!

Arielle Fitzgerald: Perception is key. This is negative af. Loving my 4C/B hair and loving myself completely

FixedAlgorithm: If I had black daughters and they had 4c hair, I would make sure that the environment they grow up in *embraces* their hair type. 4a and 4b are also important (I have 4b), but I think 4c girls need sooo much love because of texture discrimination. Your hair is so gorgeous, Chizi. Keep up the good work.

Stae Hall: Thanks for sharing your struggle with your 4C hair and letting us other 4's know that we are not alone in this journey!!!

Nyantee A: i know my hair can be difficult to manage but only really when i am focused on it being long otherwise it's pretty fine. i think the complicated stuff comes in when i try to make my hair fit standards it wasn't meant for. also no one can deny that there's only one type of ppl on the planet with this sort of hair and we should be honored to be a part of this exclusive club :)))

Trisha Kuntz: Wow, this was amazing to watch and read other people's comments and struggles. I have been natural for about 5 years and hate my 4c hair, only because it's sooooo much work! I mostly put my hair in braids but decided to try leaving it out... I'm trying really, really hard and it's only been a week and I'm dying already. I keep looking for new styles to wear to work and different ways to take care of it. I'm almost ready to put the braids back in. But I don't want too because my hair doesn't seem to grow past a certain point. I also have to say the story about the lady with the daughter and the crappy in-law's made me cry too. I was adopted when I was 2yrs and my family was German and I grew up in a small town with only two other black families in my elementary school and no help for my hair. Let's just say, I just turn 41yrs last week and I'm still trying to learn about how to take care of my hair. That little girl is so lucky to have a mom who is trying so hard to do right by her and who loves her so much! T

Qυeeɴ Neѕѕqυιcĸ: This actually made me cry because I’m struggling so much with loving and caring for my hair. I constantly am bombarded with appreciation for 3B-4B hair; that 4B seems to be the most kinky “acceptable” grades. I’ve been asking a lot, why don’t women with 4C hair get the same amount of appreciation and recognition, and when we do, why is it only when we stretch and manipulate our hair? What’s wrong with our hair in it’s completely natural state? It’s gotten to the point where I look at my hair when the Bantu knots fade and when it shrinks back after I’ve picked and detangled and be so unhappy with it that I want to curl in a ball and cry. Hearing you speak so positive about our hair really made me feel not only guilty about how I felt (I don’t mean this in a negative way) but you made me feel like I actually could do this and start learning to appreciate my hair. You’re literally the voice I need.

Jordy King: well some ppl don't have hair so I'm just grateful God gave me something

Arrice Bryant: Thank you for posting this... I was literally in tears this past Sunday because it was taking me so long to do my hair... I love my hair most days, but when I don't it's only because it takes sooooo much more work and time than other hair types... that's literally the only thing I wish I could change

Striking Wings64: Wow super late on this video but I can 100% relate to hating my 4c hair. I’m a senior in high school and I’m JUST NOW learning to love, appreciate, and flourish my natural hair but it wasn’t an easy ride to sit upon. When I was younger I had just long hair. Point blank. I loved it but, sadly because I did live in a major caucasian area, they would call my hair “untamed” or “nappy” and other black little girls didn’t have hair that was as kinky as mine so it would deeply hurt hearing comments like that. Fast forward to be being about 13. I was at the point that I was just extremely fed up with my hair that I asked my hairstylist to perm it for me against my mothers wishes. My mom was HIGHLY DISAPPOINTED in me, and looking back on it I am too. I was just so pressured into thinking “my hair needs to be straight so I can be pretty” or “if my hair was straight people might like me more”. It was sad, and that perm KILLED my hair. It used to be down to my butt crack, when that perm was done it hit my shoulders. BARELY. I hated my hair at that point, I was done, but I started getting protective styles after I had let the perm die out in my hair leaving it 100% natural again. Away from those deadly chemicals, away from anything that would further kill it. I’m telling you guys that box braids were my lifesaver to restoring my confidence in hair period. I loved how long they could be, the colors you could use, and it helped me come to the point where I’m at now where after I take out those braids, I fall in love with my hair. Yes it is hard to deal with. Yes it doesn’t look like the girls in the L’Oréal commercials. That’s perfectly fine because at the end of the day, my twists outs and wash & go are beautiful in all their glory and if I love it, that will definitely show when I walk past others. Thank you for sharing your story on YouTube. It helped open my eyes to a problem I thought I was alone in

CHRIZ: I remember my sophomore year of high school I cut my heat damaged hair off and I was so excited to see my new curls come in and have the hair that I saw these girls on YouTube. I remember trying styles and products that literally DID NOT WORK and my results were much different. I realize that my texture was not the same. I have kinky hair not curly. for years I wore braids and weaves and never left it out too long. My hair grew to a good length but i actually don’t know how to handle it when it’s out. Natural OR straightened.I’m still having a hard time embracing it. I don’t like the shrinkage at all and how it doesn’t lay down with any gel. I could never put chemicals in it so one of these days I will cut it again. Ion want to but it’s too much...

Thatsme: Yeah it's so "beautiful" until you've got to do that ish. I'm over it.

KemahW: OUR HAIR LITERALLY DEFIES GRAVITY. YOU CANNOT TELL ME WE AINT MAGICAL YALL!!!!

shanyha richardson: thanks for the video as a 4c girl I completely understand how it feels to be excluded from the natural hair community for having darker skin and "nappy" hair,my 4c hair is always looked down upon by others and I think that this topic is not talked about enough

Ellie Ameli: Be proud of your type 4 hair! Our hair defies gravity boo, name a texture more magical! I love how my fro moves with me when I do. I love how versatile it is, it’s perfect for cornrows, great for a full, voluminous blow out, looks absolutely amazing in braid outs, shall I go on? I used to hate my hair because my family members conditioned me to believe that “natural isn’t for everybody” or that my hair wasn’t professional or acceptable. Don’t let anyone tell you that the hair God put on YOUR head isn’t for YOU.

You in my Business: 4c hair is VERY VERY high maintenance.... I HATE DEALING WITH IT... My texture I love but the maintenance of I cant take

mariposa7ful: Love you girl! Thanks for making this video. It served as a reminder how proud we should be of our natural hair. It's amazingly beautiful, what makes us who we are. We should just embrace it.

Ashley Burton: I absolutely love my 4C hair!!! its a little high maintenance but I love doing it I appreciate you taking your time to talk about this more of us need show each other love and support during our journey and struggles. Side note I love your hair and the style that its in!!!!

Sipetile Sixishe: I lurv your chocolate skin, it's beautiful. Your whole coloring is beautiful. I hate colorism and pitting people against each other. We are beautiful in our diversity from lightest to darkest. I'm glad you've rejected the lies! Love you sis! Keep doing what you're doing.

Breanna Joseph: Chizi, I cannot tell you enough how important you've been in my natural hair journey. You are MY saving grace when it comes to representation. Thank you for all you do.

Kaia Baee: I started my transition a year ago and my hair has already grown out my dead ends and I chopped two months ago. Relaxers literally killed my hair but aside from that taking my hair out of box braids and not having seen my hair since it was more towards the beginning of transition, was hell! I had no idea what to do and it always felt like it was breaking and I was just exhausted. I desperately wanted to cut my hair and just let it come back but The more I became familiar with what my hair needed and so on the less I felt helpless and annoyed by it and more like ayeee it's growing haha. But I loved this video!

Micah Harris: I swear I wet my hair and just stare at it in awe! I love my 4c hair (sometimes I can't keep my hands out of it) but it's so versatile. It just takes love and patience.

Rachel Ann Wells: I'm beginning to embrace my 4C hair. I always wear wigs and I want to break that habit!

Yolanda Hines: Going natural was a spiritual journey for me. I've had to learn to tame my hair. My only issue is moisturizing....

mkmgramirez: Thank you for sharing and being honest. I struggle with loving my hair from time to time when people say my hair is not done because it does not look like looser curly hair. I am learning to stand up for my hair and learn how to showcase its beauty. Which is rather hard for a lady who hates doing hair (if it takes longer than 15 minutes, I want to just put a baseball cap on it).

Michelle: Your videos are so helpful ! I'm on my natural hair journey and honestly the only thing that is standing in my way is my lack of knowledge. Thanks for educating me

LoGenesis: I LOVE this video! The content, the humor, and the realness is all on point

Vicky Nganga: I'd just like to take a minute and say thank you so much for posting this video. EVERYTHING you said I could totally relate to. My mom and sister have looser curl patterns than me and I've always wished I had their hair and wondered why I was the oddball. I used to always hide my hair under "protective styles". If I had to take it out, I would only do so over the weekend and come in with a brand new "protective style on Monday. I never saw my hair as beautiful because I could never find someone around me with my hair texture. I just learned to let my hair do its own thing and to love it even when I wanted to pull it all out. This video was a reminder of where I was during that time and how far I've come. Though it may not always cooperate, I love my 4C hair.

Shenique E: I've only started to be appreciative of my hair about 2 years ago. I always associated my 4c hair with pain from the detangling and blowdrying process and not being able to do this hairstyle or that one since "your hair can't do that". I cut a good 4 inches of my hair off with some bathroom scissors in a fit, I just hated it so much. And after that, my family was on me for cutting my hair off when they didn't even know how to take care of it. I've never stopped to stare at my hair coiling up when it's wet or how beautiful they look when moisturized until I saw a video of another black woman with my hair type doing her hair with ease. It just really amazed me and from there I went on a binge of learning how to do the most basic things like detangling and etc. Honestly, it's exhausting at times but I'm glad for my head of hair.

Antoinette Daniels: I just think that some people just won't accept their texture and they can't let go of social conditioning. Just the other day....my 4-year old niece told my daughter (6 years old) that her hair was nappy.... My daughter didn't even know what she was saying. That's how much of a difference it makes. Proof that hair hatred is taught. I think you get over it by accepting it and living with it all the time.

Nyaf Gurl: I feel you ! all you need to do is learn how to love your 4C hair, i spent so much time in school comparing my hair to other girls'. Thank you sister

Yana Meo: During our whole life we've experienced different hair styles and different ways to deal with hair. We wear wigs, do braids, wear extensions, ... There are advantages and inconveniences that come with all the different styles. We are flexible on that point and are developing preferences. But the damage of suffocating our natural hair is big. At the beginning I haven't wanted to deal with my natural hair. But now I know how important that is. I feel the need to treat my hair correctly. So I'm going natural

Caribbean Gyal: I remember when I was about 12 years old, this girl in my class came up to me and said "You have such lovely,straight, neat eyebrows, it's a shame the hair on your head doesn't look like that." I was transitioning (8 months post relaxer at the time with ALOT of new growth) and I swear her words just crushed me especially seeing that I was very insecure about my 4c new growth and trying to embrace it as I've been getting relaxers since the age of six. Unfortunately, I got a relaxer a week after she made her snarky comment. Five years later and I'm still getting relaxers, I know we shouldn't listen to what people say, but words do hurt especially at such a young age and coming from a black girl.

LadyQueen BBG: Watching these kind of videos are so uplifting and inspiring thanks for uploading.. I am falling in love with my 4c texture.. I have felt so much more confidence ever since I went natural.. I'm not opposed to wigs/weaves pressing combs/hot curlers or relaxers/ texturizers bleaches' and dyes...(oh my) Because I've tried them all.. But I have found a new love for my natural 4c hair and color and I have embraced her beauty and glory.. I did a big chop in Feb 2016 .. And I almost gave up last month June 2017.. And I bought a pressing comb.. A waste of money... I used it once.. I burnt my hair.. Ever since then.. I have been babying and nurturing her back to her luster and she finally flowing and soft again. It could have been worse.. It chin length now.. But my 4c ladies know how the shrinkage does. When I get upset with my hair I come back to videos like this to inspire me.

Abby: I LOVE MY 4C NATURAL HAIR

Jazzy P.: 4c hair is hardee than people realize.I always wanted to wash my hair in the shower, but cant do that cuz it is going to fall out if you wash it eveyday. 2b hair people always say to me, their hair is so hard to do, and im like, my hair can literally snap a comp in half. I have always wanted hair other than 4c hair, mainly like 3b hair. I cant get my hair wet in water, or it will just shrink. While other types mainly 2a hair can get their hair wet ane it just gets longer. If i only had 3b hair for 1 day It would be the happiest day of my life.

Barbara Marbell: I come from Africa and in there most girls relax their hair because they want it to be straight. Growing up I started perming my hair when I was younger. I didn't hate my natural hair, I just didn't know about it because most girls straightened it. My mom and sister growing up had huge Afro,'s and Afro's were a thing in the 70's in Ghana but they straightened it not cause they hate it. I started doing natural because I just wanted to have the hair I was born with. Some children in Africa see straighter hair as better. And they grow up seeing white dolls (not hating on any race) instead of themselves so they feel self conscious about their skin and hair. And result to bleaching hitch leads to skin damage and over relaxing which damages the scalp. I wish people struggling can see this because I love my hair.

Tamara: Ahhh ! This video makes me wanna take my weave out & I just got it put in ❤️ #4cHair

Tajae: I remember up until I was 11 I used to beg my mom to relax my hair. Ending up transitioning and big chopping my hair at 16 because I missed my natural hair. Now I'm 18 and I find it hard to find time to take care of my hair. This video was a great reminder for times when I get stressed out.❤️ 4c hair is truly beautiful.

Oretha Sekyere: Before I met you at Curl fest, I was hating the way my hair looked. To me, it wasn't flourishing. It looked dull and when i compared it to other naturals I saw, I felt even worse. When I met you and you said "I love your hair" I felt a little better about it because you have the same hair texture as me which meant even more to me since you know the exact struggles. That simple compliment you gave really reassured me that my hair is beautiful and I should learn to embrace it even more. Thank you so much :)

Patience: Wow! Such an amazing video. After watching this, I feel so inspired to start loving my hair. I began my natural hair journey around 2 years ago and since then I've struggled with accepting my hair texture. I often compare myself to my friends who have looser curl patterns, but your video has given me so much hope! Thank you!

Vivian Dixon: Yass!!! Positive affirmations are a must!! I have my children put positive notes to themselves on their bathroom mirror.

Neicey Stanford: You are speaking to us all girl! I appreciate your video. I don’t have such thick hair like you but i am definitely kinky...tbh tho now that I have overcome my doubts and have grown to love my natural hair I WISH I had 4c hair! I think the texture is so beautiful and unique and you are soooo right about twist outs looking so much better on thicker hair. My hair come out nice in its own way and I love it but girl and anybody else with thick thick hair, please embrace and love it! All the work involved is certainly worth it! Again love this video and keep being great Queen

Kay Robinson: When I went natural, I cut everything off, as they say. When it started to grow I thought how could I not have known how beautiful my hair is . I would tell my sister I love my hair ! I'm glad I love my hair however it is hard to keep up with the maintenance sometimes. It's been 2 years and I am loving it !!! I am in love with my 4c hair !!!

Imani_fromNY: My daughter had a visitation with her dad. She's 11 and does her own bomb Bantu knots. She said her dad asked her what was wrong with her hair? My girl told him nothing. SMH Be careful who you pick as a mate and educate your daughters. They are in for a ride this new generation. 3c, b, d, 4a, 4b, 4c still .......(insert JayZ line)

Natural Gal Nichol: I can definitely understand this person and her 4c hair. I gave up on the "what's you hair type", because it kept me from focusing on my catering to nurture my hair needs. I am still in the "what works for my hair", because all products don't work for all hair types, even if you share the same hair type. Trial and error, more error than trial. My hair needs, water, creams, deep conditioner, light oils, and my go to styles are just two strand twists and just afros. Again I'm still working on it. So be patient.

Afrochick: Just took my Wig off after a long day of work. The positive affirmations couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you!