My 4C Hair Is A Mess| How To Fix It
- Posted on 04 May, 2018
- Hair Care
- By Anonymous
**I am NOT an expert this is just what helps me. I'm still learning!**
I have not washed/moisturised/NOTHING for 2 months and have so many knots! This video shows you how to deal with it rather than panic and have a natural melt down! Did this help you at all ? Let us know!
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Hey guys so it's Lydia here from Lydia and Alma, I was annoying, so I got rid of her and it's just Lydia. Now it's just the News Channel. Ok, so my hair has not been touched for about two months now in terms of like I've not put any moisture I've barely put in the water, like, I think the worst natural feeling feeling you could ever think of, and I should go to natural hair prison. Something about wintertime, I always just don't feel like touching my hair. I don't know what it is like if it's summer, fine, but winter is the time the best time to actually take care of your hair cuz. Usually in the summer my hair grows in the winter. I lose the growth and then my hair, just kind of stays the same length, so I'm just gon na show you what I do to fix this mess. I'Ve created like I have signs basically to tell if your hair is damaged, you're, super dry or something's. Not right is when you get in like this, that are split, you'll, know, they're split just by the quality of them. They feel like light, and you can't loads of these knots. Your ends are splitting um and I just sectioned my hair off, like I didn't even braid it at night, y'all like I was sleeping without a scarf on my head, like I was full back so bad. It'S kind of hard to know where to start with your hair. So that's why I just thought you know I'll show what to do so. Don'T panic, you're not going to you know, lose too much hair. You just need to know how to kind of retouch it and give it a refresher. So I'm just gon na start by taking this out in the meantime, make sure you have a wide toothed comb, some coconut oil, gels and water spray bottle. So give you a bit of context what I've done is. Last night I sprayed my hair with some water, and then I put some Cantu and a bit of shea butter and braided it in four sections, and what this does is just help stretch out my hair and prepare it for the process. Tomorrow. You don't have to do it the night before, but my hand was just so dehydrated and so dry that I thought let me do something overnight so that I can prepare for tomorrow. But right now, I'm just scratching my scalp, like the dandruff. My scalp is just super super dry for the dead skin cells. I know it's nasty. What you should not do is take your comb and just start combing, your hair, that is just gon na yank your hair out mean, I must say you should fingers first and then, whatever you can't do with your fingers, then you bring in the comb. That'S where the hard workers - but this has aloe vera juice and like just a little bit of apple cider, vinegar, because I'm gon na be washing my hair I'll, probably add a bit more after cider vinegar, because I've not doubled my hair and so long um. You know me, and I would like to keep it simple. We don't like to add too many products to our list, cause it's complicated enough being a human being, so I'm just gon na keep spraying, and I got spray I'll rub it in and yeah that just prevents it from being. Like two drinks, you don't want your hair drink me. As you can see, my hair is not dripping. It'S just very moist. Oh, but yeah. I'M just gon na keep adding the moisture making sure it's in from the top to the bottom. This is gon na make it easier to come and also easier for your scalp pores to open up the bounce is starting to come in a bit. The shrinkage is starting to happen compared to this side, and shrinkage is always a good sign that your hair is still pretty healthy, but, as you can tell, the shrinkage is coming more from the top of my hair, which shows the ends are a bit dead. That not me chop it all off. That just means that I may need to give it a little cuts, just a little cut, and I have not mean all I have not cut our hair since the video we put up about cutting our hair just three months ago, which goes to show like you. Don'T need to do a ritual cutting your hair, especially if you're leaving your hair alone um, but yeah. You just want to cut when necessary, um and I think we'll make another video about hair cutting. Now my hair is wet and I don't have a bloody bubble. Already, I feel my hair getting a bit dry again. Look, I need it to be quite wet because I'm now I'm about to at the coconut oil and it needs to be wet enough to lubricate my strands and then add the oil on top of it like. If you put oil on dry hair, you might as well just forget it. It'S like it's like lotioning yourself before you get a shower. Now it's nice and pretty moist and it's easier to finger detangle when you've got some help so meet my helpers, coconut oil. We'Ll start from the bottom up, be gentle don't be pulling your hair just be gentle and already like. I can just feel my hair being easier to deal with and I'm not gon na put any on my scalp because, like I said, my hair is super dirty. So I'm gon na use my scalp cleanser. If you look in the description bar you'll see the scalp cleanse method that we do check that out, I'm going to just twist this section off and what the coconut oil will do is well with the water is like kind of seal that in so I won't Have to worry too much about wetting, my hair again, while I do the other sections and I'm just gon na go ahead and might add coconut oil to other sections, because it'd be quite cool to just let the oil start doing its work in my lubricating and Loosening my hair, while I'm working on the other section, the wise thing to probably do next time - is you just like put your coconut oil, this and hot water for a bit? I live in England and it's always bloody cold. Please note again the bounce that is coming from the top of my head versus here when your hair is dirty. It'S like weighty and um. You can just kind of you can kind of like tell how dry it is just for me doing that you can see by the ends also, if your braid outs are coming out like this or it just looks a bit like fried bacon. That means your hair needs a nice wash only wash my hair with necessaries. So, for example, last time I washed my hair was it two months ago and for like the whole first month of not washing my hair, I was wearing wigs, so my hair was just braided underneath wigs, like that. Was it and it was snowing, a lot as well so yeah? I was not touching my hair, I just make sure it was moist and I left it alone and then after that um I had an event that was going to and I took my hair out and um yeah. That'S when I just started um leaving my hair out and couldn't be bothered to bring it back, I'm also part of a drama program. So I'm doing like intense on sessions of drama and physicality and a lot of it's like laying on the floor and rolling and yeah it's kind of hard because I'm like don't want to wear it for a week and it potentially falls off. Even if I like stupid good to my head, I always have my disability of my weight coming off or do I have my natural hair and I get it dirty and I just have to wash it every week so yeah I'm trying to like equates laziness, can't Be bothered miss with pride and pride, just keep spraying just keep spraying just keep spraying spraying spraying shout-out to spirit, though I love watching her videos, especially the Popeyes word. It makes me think I don't really want to be vegan yet now um I've sprayed it. Oh, you can see the ins like slipping off. Okay and now I'm just going to gently like work, the water and if you'll notice, my hair, it's gon na just start slowly shrinking it's just kind of like massaging your hair, any excess water that crews on your hand, just transfer that to the top of your Head, so you guys can see this. The hair is getting its bounce back. It has a mind of its own, see these like random clunks, that just thick hair and then you know you have clumps here right at the end, which shows my hair is tangled. Now, don't panic, there are ways to fix this with your fingers and, via this whole section of hair is just so messed up. I hope in this video you'll basically learn that you know you don't have to panic if you've not treated your hair. Well, it's not like, if you skip a few steps for a minute, that your hair is just gon na hate you and stop growing, or that you need to start all over again, just don't leave it for too long like if you went half a year six Months or so they might be like okay, I know um, but yeah, it's normal and life is life and you have moments where you're like really ecstatic, and you want to take care of your hair and they have moments where you feel. Like you know. I felt I cut my hair the other day. I really did um. I'Ve always wanted to try like the short hair style. So basically I didn't write. So I've got the coconut oil and now I'm sure you cannote. The first section I started with is a lot more shrunk, and this psyche has decided it's still absorbing all of that stuff that I've just put into the water in the oil. So now we're going to move to the next step, which is using your fingers to detangle your hair, most tremulous part of wash day or you know, rehab hairy half-day, but it pays off and you know once you've done a really nice thorough, detangle. Your hair will thank you and yeah. It'S gon na be awesome. I want to take this first section and I'm going to split it in half I like working by Hobbs Hobbs, I'm just gon na come to the top of my head and just take small sections and work through it. That'S one section down here's another one and if I feel any clumps like here and we see a clunk when I feel it, I just start to work my way through now. What what I like to do is tuck towards the end. So I can see the end of it and then I'm just gon na part, the strands just lightly lightly and I took at it don't yank it if you like, if it's a knot that is too stubborn, you just need to cut it off, but this is Just a lot of product build-up, I can see cause it's it's thick, it's thick! It'S dirty! That'S all! It is um, so yeah, I'm just tugging at it lightly and once you practice this, like you can do this very quickly. It'S just because I'm showing you don't pull too tight because then, when you're trying til, I pull the strands is gon na be kind of hard to. Let them come out gently. So I just pull or pull enough where you have a bit of Bounce and you'll see the hair will just come out of that very easily and look. I didn't have to cut anything so yeah once you master that skill of finger detangling and getting your knots out, yeah you'll be on a ball, so yeah, here's a quicker version of how I'm doing it yep. Sometimes the water and oil does so much for you that you have mules fine, you have less knots than you did when you started and it just needed some moisture, but yeah make sure it's well guys that you start from the root and work your way down, Because if you're, starting like from the bottom and detangling it you'll, find that the top, as you can see, it's like tangled see how you want to make sure you're keeping a straight. You know line straight path. It'S mainly the really big big knot, style work through or the problematic ones, but then I know I'm gon na use my comb soon. So that's the first half done once you to tackle your hair you'll notice. Your shrinkage has the freedom, because now it's free from those knots and your hair will just shrink up even more. That makes sense. Now. Look at that. Oh that's, a nice big old chunky, not a chain of months, I'm gon na see. If I can gently pull it off and I'm trying to find the origin of where it's coming from, yes, it's come off, which goes to show that the moisture allowed my hair to let go of that now after I have done a nice finger, detangle, I'm just Gon na inspect, as you can see, there's no clunky knots going on there's just a few single strands. If you still got thick layers of like clunky hair, that means that you need to add more moisture and just let your hair and loosen up before a finger. Detangle again now I'm going to take the comb. It is a great tool. You just need to know how to use it. So I just like stretch my hair, like don't hurt yourself but yeah. I just pull it close to the ends as possible, or I have enough room and I'm just gon na start see how it sounds just like me. I don't really go in in the middle. I start like at the top of the cone cuz. I can control it more if your hair is still doing this. While you call me that means you need to add some moisture and finger detangle it. The fact that it's going through my hair, gently and lightly goes to show it's just getting rid of um. You know some shedded hair or something like that and that I've got the main knots out. The most I'll go is uh. You know put my hand around here and ya. Go up to that level. Look at that shedding in all that stuff. Oh gosh! Something bad, and one thing to keep note of is the fact that um, it's the fact that I'm going to wash my hair after this. So I also don't make sure I get every single knot out, because when I'm washing my hair, the once I get the dirt and the product built up out, my hair is gon na be even more easier to detangle. But right now I'm just trying to make the wash process even easier, because I'm just by abusing my hair that badly I'm not gon na do a thorough. You know full-on haircut, I'm just getting rid of any bits that I feel need to go. You see that little dot, that is a shingle single strand knot and that's kind of just rude. I just cut my feels necessary, especially like the big knot. Here'S an example of some hair that needs to go. There'S no kind of coming back from this, but ya know I'm just gon na twist this off and I'll, basically repeat the same thing and I'll come back to you after I am done. Okay, guys, I'm just gon na be real! Look how bad this is like when the moisture with it - and you know, I'm going through the process of detangling. Look at this chain of knots - and I can tell a lot of this - is like the new growth and because I not nurtured it and just left it alone and not moistured it it's just slowly decayed and then once the water hit it it's like. Oh, I got ta go um, so yeah. This is one of the reasons why my hair kind of stays the same length because of this big boom. I mean, I guess I'll, show you how to kind of handle this with care, so something as big as this web. I just take well, doesn't look so bad when you bring it all together, yeah, I'm just gon na lightly comb the ends, and it's like bunching. Together on my comb and I'm going to take my scissors and just start somewhere in the middle and you're that looks a bit more normal see. I didn't treat you that bad, so I'm going ahead and start adding the cleansing scalp stuff and the shampoo to my hair so that it can start working I'd say like leave it for a good 15 to 20 minutes before you actually wash your hair, so that The shampoo can actually sit and start absorbing the dirt out of your hair science stuff, because you can find the info on our scalp cleanse in the description bar. Is my love's come along? Oh, it's already working yeah, I don't know yeah, I'm gon na add some to us go give it a nice crease, my scalp yep, and then I'm just going to massage that in get in there good girls thought up by gently rubbing her hair in circles. Massaging it and then afterwards you can get a bit more rougher with it so that he can start lifting those dead skin cells off of your scalp. I'M gon na use this for now. Cuz, I'm running out of you know Mike into my sulfate free shampoo, but yeah. My hair is just too dirty. I cannot wait any longer. Look at my hand. Just go spoon, see I'm just gon na start at the bottom and work my way up. One thing I will say like if your hair has been under a wig for like two months and you've not touched it, it's not hit and dirt. It'S not been on the floor. Your hair is basically still clean and you may not have to go as intense. Just a reminder: you know your hair just because it's time has passed, it doesn't mean your hair is dirty. It may just need moisture. You can go three months in your hair, still be clean. If it's been protected, you know just wash you'll feel it you'll feel. When you know you, okay, I need to just wash my hair, I'm not gon na put too much shampoo on my scalp until I like get in the shower, you actually wash my hair, because I want the scalp cleanser to do its job, but I won't get Just right up there, then I'm gon na twist it off and I won't do the same. So just so, you remember your finger. Detangle after your finger, detangle cut anything like big, big nuts that need to go, then you're going to add your scalp cleanser and after you have the scalp cleanser and your shampoo twist the section away and blahs it struggling to detangle. And I just want to remind you guys, use water. It is the key to everything, I'm just gon na spray it on here give it a nice rub, massage it back in and it's just instantly like coming off now. I'Ve got it down to just one strand on the hair, like literally, and I can just ah once and I can just cut it off and I save many other strands from being cut. Well, I've just done all the sections and I'm going to show you guys. The impact of detangling after I've added the shampoo so yeah, it's nice, it's bouncy! I can see my curl pattern starting to come in and it's going to be so much easier to to wash now. I'M just gon na leave this for about ten minutes. Really let the scalp stuff start working, let the shampoo you know, lift the dirt out cuz, I'm sure you notice like if you wash your hair and use just add soap straightaway and then wash it out. You still may feel your hair sticky or it's still like dirty, but when you let it sit just like if you're washing like a greasy pan - and you add soap - I don't know if you noticed the water and the oil of the three starts to separate like Right before your eyes, um so yeah, it's kind of like that was the hair. But imagine like we have like small follicles that are, you know, soaked in grease and dirt. So it needs a lot more time for the emulsification proclamation' blah blah blah to start happening. So that your hair can the dirt can lift off and then once it's time to wash it it's just gon na fall off. Yes, yes, yes, Joely Joely, no lean, Joey right guys, so you can just see here how I'm washing my hair in the shower and a downwards motion so that all the grease and stuff falls down. Also don't tell my mom was in shower. She'Ll kill me for the water bill, hey family, so just put the conditioner in my hair and my hair is still really Jax, like I said, you're not used it for so long. So what I need to do is right now. Basically my hair follicles. If this is the father kill it's like this and it's closed like all around. It'S just completely shut and I've put conditioner, and you know all that good stuff, like aloe vera and olive oil in the conditioner to penetrate it. But it's still like barely opened, the pores are still very closed, so I need to do is apply heat because I have low porosity, hair um, please, google, it or you know, watch a video on it. I'Ll probably mean I wan na make a video about it. Actually, because it's so important about in terms of understanding your hair, so yeah what the heat will do is um. Quite just imagine that little disgusting point. Okay, that's making me itchy! Just imagine you know the heat is opening up the follicle and then allowing the conditioner to enter and penetrate the hair shaft and then you'll see that it's more moist and stuff like that. So what I did is bought one of these hair up on it. This was six pounds, I'm sure you can get them quite cheap on eBay or your local shop. Well, I'm gon na put plastic bag over my head first or any sort of plastic cap. So I'm gon na do that for a good 20 minutes. My hair really needs it. Then I'll get back to you now. I'Ve taken my hair out after the deep conditioning and the heat process, and it looks amazing, it's so much more moist yeah. I'M happy now make sure you catch me in almost videos on how we stretch our hair with no heat, and we usually do this after washing her hair but yeah after cleaning my hair and everything. I just do my normal, moisture, routine and stretch the hair. This is the sea whistle it's a lot more healthier, as you can see from the braid out and stuff so yeah, as you can see there, it's just a little bit coming off, but my ends are nearly back to normal. You got it from the one. The only video make sure you follow me on instagram and me and Alma have a lot more coming in store for you. Thank you. So much for your patience is, we have you know a lot going on with life. Let me know how it goes post. Some pictures, if you tried this method and if it helps now, if you want to find out how it from a braid out to this, make sure you check out my video about this protective stylish. I love to do with my hair. You know I force the girls
Comments
jaz herself: “It’s complicated enough being a human being.” yes, girl, yes it is.
S.R.A: Thanks for this. I need more videos showing the "not so glamorous" side of 4c hair instead of always making it seem like a walk in a park. This is very relatable.
Nae West: I'm glad you neglected your hair in such a manner to show people what not to do no shade at you but I don't see many girls on here that post videos like this
Aisha: It's super reassuring to know that even you guys sometimes get lazy with your hair lol, but you still know how to bounce back!
shactrack: Lydia....GURLLLLLL!!!!! this is the 4C hair struggle!!! This is DEFINITELY my hair when I've been more of a LAZY natural! When I 1st saw the video was 28 min....I was like NAHHHHH SIS! But this has to be the most educational & THOROUGH 4C Detangling video ever! Detangling 4C hair especially can be the MOST FRUSTRATING thing on earth and at some points you feel hopeless, so this should be helpful especially for newbies. I was happy to see that the techniques I also use is used by others! Word to the wise 4C Hair types: YOU CANNOT RUSH THIS PROCESS!! PATIENCE IS KEY TO DETANGLING SUCCESS SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO LOSE SO MUCH LENGTH!! Thanks for being FABULOUSLY YOU LYDIA!!!
YesItsMeAgain: EXCELLENT representation and demonstration of TRUE 4c hair. Very rare on YT.
Or Selena Didi: " I should go natural hair prison "
Diva Den: I'm the same way in not wanting to touch my hair for weeks and weeks at a time. This was helpful
Jacqueline Carter: You were so patient with the detangling, I would have been bald. Good job.
Noelis Tovar: Thank you for being/ making relatable HELPFUL and HONEST natural hair videos. Its reassuring and encouraging. Especially for women with 4c hair!!
A: Her accent is so interesting lol. It’s a mix between American and UK.
punkbyproxy: Thanks for sharing this. I struggle with depression and often this leads to me neglecting my hair for months at a time. This is so helpful!
Baby Queen: It takes me about a week to detangle my hair after a 2 month braid rest. Single strands and balls be all over the house ok? Continue to KEEP IT REAL huni!
Gab S: I thought I was the only one that just don't feel like touching their natural hair... Sometimes I go weeks.. lol You gave me life this morning!!! Your video is so real without all the product. Subscribed
crankita97: I've clicked on your video because my mom has the problem of big knots with her long 4c hair and she struggles hard with it. And as I was watching I discovered your talent to explain things! You did a great job showing us step by step what to do and not to do! I can now teach her how to detangle efficiently thank you so much!
King Qat: Those knots are the reason why I NEVER wear my natural hair down. I've been natural for 7 years now.
LilMizzLae: I constantly go for 5-6 weeks without washing or touching my hair. I stretch my styles out till the wheels fall off lol ain't nobody got tiiiime for the high maintenance natural hair most ladies promote. Sure it's nice to always keep your crown clean each week or biweekly but ain't nobody got tiiiime for that over here Thanks so much for sharing this REAL video
cheshirecateyes: The 4c struggle is real! :)
Theodora Lindsay: you're so calm for someone who hasn't touched their hair in months. wish i could be so calm lool
C Ama: I love love LOVE how thorough and transparent you are with your detangling routine! Very educational, chica. Great job !
Rachel Marcelle: Omg I thought I was the only who loses what seems like a whole head of hair like this and then.....NOT...it's still a thick wild world in there afterwards.
Brittany: Love this video. I've let my hair get to this state before (going 2 weeks w/no styling or conditioning) and after dealing with the matted mess - I said never again.
MsDanDiamond♡: Thank you for this video sis the struggle is real
JC Majestic Journey: Thank you for your authentic realness young queen....I recently went through a similar situation...got through it thanks to young stars like you...
dimplez1ish: I've neverrrr thought of shrinkage as being a "good" thing...until you said it's a sign that your hair is still healthy! so much hope for the hopeless in one video lol
peepla7: No prison....I sentence you to natural hair parole.... moisture patrol daily.
Tyiece: 2 months? Girl I could barely get past a week without washing lol. Great video
F M: I've literally just spent the past two days detangling my hair and snipping off them notorious ends. I've just finished and I'm soaking in the tub gleefully enjoying watching someone else struggling with their 4c hair. Thank you so much girl for this realistically helpful and cheering video.
THE GREEDY COUPLE: I just had this Same issue a week ago. I did a protein treatment and then a deep conditioner treatment. Lets just say my detangling didn't go so well, there was a lot of crying, yelling, swearing and telling everyone in my house that I'm going to cut my hair off LMAOOOOO.
Uduak Nkanga: The length in your hair is beautiful girl
tes4747: This is so educating, I actually sat through the whole video lol. Everything you used was so affordable too. Thank you
digthewarmth: Yay moisturized results!! It's always a great feeling to show your hair some TLC after being neglectful. Thank you hair for making it through that. You the real MVP!
88Roshan: As an always lazy natural, this video was hella helpful in the middle of this 2020 hot mess pandemic. whew chile, you really helped me figure out why my hair hates me LMAO
BROWNBROWS: In my more than 20 years of being natural I have never come across someone’s hair that looks just like mine ( minus the length). When I saw your thumbnail I had to call my son in to see it. I no longer feel alone, thank you for sharing.
Katherine Miller: You had a lot of shed hair trapped in there because you didn’t remove it for a long time. Great job detangling, shampooing and conditioning your hair!
Mar Rich: Finally someone who's realistic. My hair get like this pretty often. As a result I have a lot of breakage all over my head which I never got as a child when my hair was natural. Normally I comb it out gently - starting from the end to the top. then clip the ends off.
MissChrissy: Do you know what? It gets like that some weeks I’ll take care of my hair other weeks when I’m extremely busy it can get neglected. I’ve been natural for 2 years and it’s been a learning process. Thanks for sharing x
w b: My hair is fine strand, lowpo, 4c, and I solved all my natural hair issues w/ this regimen below. I'm retaining length like crazy. I stopped getting matting or dreadloc hair completely. I learned it by finding a common link with a bunch of these type 4 long hair ytbers I've been case studying, including those butt length chebe women from chad. freely share this info. 1. Shampoo (I use v05). Its important to use a real shampoo, not cowash. cowash does not remove product build up, making it impossible to hydrate your hair(hydration is when the water gets inside the hair shaft) 2. Rinse out condition (also v05) 3. *L(liquid)* I use a spray bottle filled with either fermented almost boiled rice water (the rice is near boiling before I drain the water, then ferment for a few days), any herb powder(chebe, ayuvaderic, etc) mixed with warm water, regular warm water and a squirt of rinse out conditioner, or herb tea. *C (water based cream)* A water based thick moisturizer. Should not contain hydrolyzed protein, silicones, mineral oil or alcohol(which make the moisturizer evaporate quickly). You can use a leave in that contains mineral oil if it is exclusively for *remoisturizing* inbetween wash day. But directly after washing any leave in you are putting is meant to contribute to you hair's *hydration* (water gets into hair shaft). I recommend soft and beautiful botanicals deep conditioning hair masque. They also have an actual leave in that is good. I prefer their hair masque, as its thicker, which means more lubrication and protection. both are good and thick though. Blue magic has some leave in creams that contain mineral oil, that can be used *exclusively for remoisturizing* , like their argan oil one. *G(grease)* I recommend blue magic indian hemp. It has mineral oil/petroluem, Lanolin(sheep sebum), and a bunch of plant oils (castor, olive, coconut, etc). It also has herbs that help hair growth. 4. band/thread the hair with ribbon or hair tie elastic. I do 4 sections. If hair is short, a ouchless head band alone will do it. Then band hair or thread with ribbon. Keep ribbon a centimeter away from ends, then use hair tie elastic to tuck hair into a mini bun, tucking the ends. Make sure when you are wearing wig, that you either use an inside out dome cap, or you use a satin scarf under a wig cap. This is better for hair. 5. Remoisturize and relubricate hair biweekly between wash days, using LCG. Wash day should be no more often than every 14 days, and you can stretch out wash days for 1-2 months or more. If you do, its imperitive, not an option, that you take the bands/ribbons down to do LCG 1-2 times a week, preferrably 2. *This is because LCG itself is a protective style.* I recommend this regime below to train curls. Once curl starts to define from roots after step 3 is rinsed out, you don't need to do it, the above regimen will define your curls with less work. Your hair looks like it already is trained, but i'm posting this info here for others who may read this. Always work in sections: 1. *if Low porosity:* 1/2 to 1 teaspoon of bakingsoda, a good squirt of conditioner, a small squirt of shampoo, and fill w/ warm water in an 6-8 oz or more applicator bottle or old conditioner bottle. Shampoo is added because of grease, and to remove any product build up of oils. *if High porosity:* A small squirt of conditioner, a small squirt of shampoo, 50% ACV 50% water in an old conditioner bottle/ 6-8 oz applicator bottle 2. Let sit under cap for 15 minutes, rinse, then deep condition over night. 3. The next day, or after you've deepconditioned, greenhouse effect, or steam for at least 30 mintues, do either a bentonite clay rinse, a clay wash, or blend an extremely overripe advocado in a blender and wear on the hair for 30 minutes. 4. Then, do LCG. Sometimes you can put aloe juice after the grease. Then band hair or thread with ribbon. Keep ribbon a centimeter away from ends, then use hair band to tuck hair into a mini bun, tucking the ends. 5. Take out bands and LCG biweekly until next wash day. No sooner than 1 week, should your wash day be. The reason is with fine 4c hair strands, they really cannot stand that frequency of manipulation if you want significant visible growth consistently. Ideally, no more often than 7-14 days, preferably 14. You can stretch your wash day to 1-2 months, or even longer. *The key is BIWEEKLY remoisturizing with PROPER LCG, inbetween wash days.* Otherwise you are going to stunt potential growth. Not just slapping on some oil on dry hair, not just spraying hair with water, that ends up evaporating in 40 minutes. Use LCG, because it isn't just remoisturizing, it is also Re-LUBRICATING, and reapplying the protective barrier the cream and grease give your hair. Lubricated hair means hair that doesn't mat, hair that doesn't break when detangled, and it is also pretty much a protective style, especially when using grease. Grease is better than plant oil is alone. It completely prevent matting, where as plant oil alone does not, nor does it lubricate as effectively. cream with grease is better than grease by itself. Everything I use is extremely cheap but I know how to use it, and it works. I never get matting, no single strand knots, shed hair slides out.I retain max length potential. *ppl that do biweekly or weekly LCO btwn wash days:* Naturally_Nica, 22nd century natural hair woman, what lies beneath the weave, Craving Curly Kinks, Fusion of Cultures, the Chebe women in Chad, Africa(they never wash, they just do unbraid their hair and LCO over and over every 5 days). Dephne Madyara uses LCG. All extremely long hair. *The key is they LCO or LCG weekly or biweekly* in between wash days, some using herb or tea as the L step. spray hair with water, or herb tea/rice water, use a cream and seal with a thick grease or butter. It is super effective. And yes the chebe women do use leave in, I watched the interveiwer's second video where she expanded on it. Threading and banding is better than braid/cornroll/twist. You dont worry about takedown causing needless manipulation. That Is why I band my hair. Its easy to remove. Also a seamless comb is great for dry detangling on washday. Only detangle on wash day.
LQL: After shampooing the hair, then adding conditioner, I find that is the best time to pull off or clip the knotted ends. That way the dry detangling and dry knot removal are not necessary.
alldatzyall: My hair was like this again. But after doing a trim, a light protein/ strenghtening treatment followed up with a moisturizing conditioner, my hair got back to normal. I think the problem was removing shed hairs after doing a protective style.
megan kiplimo: Oh my god my hair is full of knots and I thought it was normal. I’m currently getting ready to go natural for probably ever and have brought so many products and new things. I’ve been doing protective style after style and barely give my hair to breathe but this video helped me so much I thought I would have to chop it all off! Thank you so much queens like you deserve everything.
BklynBabe: I could never have time for this, so I'mma just stick with my every 1-3 days 15 min wngs. Keeping my hair tangle free and moisturized and my scalp clean is imperative to my sanity
Chenal J: your hair is my hair, my hair is your hair. FINALLY someone I can relate too!
dm81: I know that as naturals we love to DIY, but I’m extreme cases like this there’s nothing wrong with going to a professional and getting a good deep treatment and TRIM/CUT with hair cutting shears and not paper cutting scissors
starzzzy: Definitely get regular trims, trust me it HELPS! I have thick dense 4c hair and when I got it trimmed, I noticed a huge difference in maintaining it! It was so much easier!
Ms Lulu: Love this! Real and practical tutorial for 4c naturals. Thanks for the advice
Efia B.: This is the funniest hair video I’ve ever seen! I admire how gentle you are with your hair and how real you are! My hair is relaxed and I was just contemplating whether to change it to natural. Definitely gonna subscribe!
jazinegrrrl: I can tell you that you don't have to neglect your hair and it can still have this amount of meshing and tangling. 4c hair that is extremely tightly curled is doing what it naturally wants to do - it wants to curl up and hook up with its fellow curly strands. I am seeing for the first time on YT a woman who has hair like me with the same knots. Even when I take care of it it can shed and knot, not at such a degree that she showed but I have been there even if I neglect it for a few days. This is the biggest reason why I do not have waist length hair. I retain length on my thick 4c hair at a snail's pace because of the meshing and knotting after it grows a certain length. Thank you so much for this video. I am not alone!
Kelisha Daley: OMG! WHEN YOU SAID, you were in a drama program, I said...FINALLY someone who understands. I was in a three year theatre program and my hair was the BIGGEST dilemma. Do I do a protective hair? and have my hair easily ruined...rolling on the ground? Do I do a wig? BUT what about half the activities where my ensemble members will be touching me or my hair? Do I do braids? ugh the stress was REAL! so glad that season of my life is over ONLY because theatre program and their activities are natural hair friendly. lmao
arsp0etica03: I just found this video and I love it! I am grateful for this video cause when real life hits, I gotta know how to get myself through it without beating myself up (or my hair) and how to earn my hair's forgiveness after I've neglected it.
Esther Jewel: The most realistic 4c hair video on YouTube! I had all of these knots today in washday and they left me traumatised . I put my hair in braids straight away
Shon9tilR: Nothings wrong with washing your hair weekly. I always pre poo with evoo before I shampoo it to prevent dryness and shedding. Then I deep condition after. I like to add castor oil to my conditioner. My hair has grown so much.
KnowMoreBeMore: This is the realist hair video on YouTube. I respect you so much for this, thank you ♥️
Rehanna: This was very helpful because I just gave up on my hair a minute ago. But now I'm doing my hair along with this video. Thank you for this video.
Joanne Assez: Oh my gosh, where have you ladies been all my life. This video is so helpful. I could have saved myself so much pain and suffering and ripping off of hair. Thank you so much!!
Kall Me Kassi: I feel you on the neglect at times I have sickle cell and sometimes I can go three weeks to a month without being able to do my hair and my hair will look just the way your hair did in this video and I go through the similar steps to s.o.s my hair lol #thestrugglegetsreal
Harriet Hann Adokoh: I needed to see this... I've been freaking out for days cos my hair keeps falling off cos of the knots. Gurllll God bless you for this video. I legit thought there was something wrong with my hair . Thank God I'm not alone in this.
Shiquetta Williams: Lolol, siiiissss, the natural struggle is TOO REAL!! I took down my box braids on Wednesday. I'm just now detangling because I had knots and matted hair. I have to wash it and everything! This is a real job!
KeShana: So happy to see this. REAL ISSUES with hair thats totally relatable. Thank you.
Shishawna Moore: Thank you so much for this video! The honesty about the natural hair life is appreciated
Ayauna W: You made me feel so much better I neglected my hair for only a week and my hair was so tangled up that I had to cut some pieces off thanks for this video
Jaime Newsome: I appreciate this video! Subscribed because of it haha. Thanks for being real! I get lazy in the winter b/c it's darker and cold and I just can't be bothered when all I want to do is eat and sleep. A beanie or a hoodie is my best friend. I wish more people would be honest about the maintenance our hair takes.
Naturally High: Those knots look familiar.
Rachael Nalumu: “We don’t like to add to many products to our routine because it’s complicated enough being a human being”. I felt that with my soul LOL
Chioma Otuonye: Ohh girl, these knots remind me of dark times with my natural hair. But, I think what you hair needs is a proper trim with correct scissors!!! I realised it is why my hair was stuck at the same length for ages, because the hair was breaking off so much because there were so many single strand knots that would eventually break off all that I grew.
FavorgivenbyYAH: Thank you for creating a Detangle With Me Video. I can make it through these tangles for the next few hours because I know I'm not alone! This too shall pass and I shall have detangled hair again and will not attempt wash n go's again.
RhoDen4: This reminds me of a relative who I attempted to do the same for her hair. Very impatient and pain ridden about the time I just did half in one day the other half the next day. You are my "coif aide" thanks for the reviving of my tress learning.
Tshegofatso Marumo: My hair tangles up like this in just 3 days after stretching it ... I sometimes even feel like my hair is being disrespectful honestly. Thanks for the video ❤
Keli E: my hair is exactly like this right now thank you for posting this omg!
Dana Warfield: I am soooooo happy I found this !!! This is soooo me and I thought I had to chop my hair and I don’t! Thank you sooo much !!
Janay Dixon: With my daughter's 4c hair I learned that keeping her hair stretched helps limit knots like that. When I donwash and goes and twist outs she gets the most knots. Braid outs are best for her type and braided up do's.
Renee Simpson: Yess!! Same with me..the shrinkage is real! And the whole detangling process even after 12 yrs of being natural can be daunting!
Chala Brooks: Thank you so much for this video. You just gave me some good pointers on how to prep my hair better the night before and day of my wash day even if I don’t feel like it. Just a quick prep before bed makes a difference in the time it takes to finger detangle or wide comb detangle the next day. I used to make a detangler with warm water, coconut oil, and Apple Cider Vinegar that works very well but I used it on each section of dry hair which seem to slow me down and the more time it takes the more reasons we make issues to avoid next time right. I should do like you apply my detangler on all my hair and let it soak in to loosen my hair strands for a while then start from there especially if it’s dry and tangled. Can make a world of difference and help with my patience and speed. I don’t like like long wash days anymore so Prep time is a must from now on. I currently use the Naturalicious product line and the Moroccan Rhassoul 5-in-1 Clay treatment eliminates a lot of these steps for me plus I can just get in the shower even with really tangled hair. Totally worth the money. The clay with those oils is a miracle worker and will always be a part of my main products. However, I want to be realistic that sometimes I might not have those products available or just don’t want to spend the money and need to learn to manage my hair from scratch whether it’s detangling it, prepping it before detangling to cut time, moisturizing it daily, have a real wash routine, and so on. I appreciate you doing this video to show just that. Your voice is very beautiful too when you sing while doing your hair. I love to sing too. Be blessed.
Holistic: I’m getting fairy knots too! What helps me is keeping my hair stretched and fulling detangling with a comb and conditioner because fingers won’t get out every knot.
Ladyuko: My hair was like this the day I went to a stylist for the time in 7 years. They just raked through my mostly dry, bra-strap-length hair. It was so traumatic! I've went through too much that day to let my hair get like that again.
shay mcghee: I feel less bad about seeing these broken hairs every time I comb or run my finder across the end of my braids and I just got a trim. Idk what else to do but I’ve been babying my hair . I’m hoping that an extreme moisture deep conditioner can help me .
Hope G.: Great video & I appreciate the honesty because it's really real out here for a naturalista
Natasha Knight: I stretch my hair by blowdrying with the tension method. IT HAS BEEN A BLESSING!!! I used to hate messing with it and dealing with all the knots.
rosebudds81: I just found your channel, and I have to say I enjoyed your detangling session. It was similar to how mine goes. I've watched many YouTube videos about finger detangling and they say, "Oh my hair is so tangled, blah, blah, blah", but there aren't many knots! You've got "real life" knots, not "YouTube-video perfect" knots
LittleBabyBug Jones: i love the look and feel of 4c hair. my daughter has 4c and i cannot keep my hands out of it. it's so easy to take care of and fun to work with for styles. rock on! Your hair is lovely!
Destiny Milan: I had neglected my hair so much and just throw it up in a puff but when I play in my hair I noticed almost every strand I play with is in a knot (like she did in the video ) but pieces be breaking off ♀️ Destiny get it together!!!!
Holistically.healed: This was fantastic! This is my life, everyday. I pick my knots for habit. Smh. Can't wait to try your process! Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
taexi: Your hair is LITERALLY MINE! I use to neglect it so much because I knew nothing about my natural hair but it's still thriving and growing so long. I was confused on why but now I'm better informed of my hair and can better take care of it!
Lola: I always do this forget about my hair for weeks then cry and promise I will never do this to it again , then shamelessly doing it again lol thanks for sharining your method
Tina Field: I just love the way you have patients with detangling your hair.You are hilarious too, soo nice to sit and watch you do your best for your hair.
Nontobeko Mhlanga: Thank you so much I have been feeling really insecure about my hair for the past few weeks. I have 4c hair, thyroid issue (some cases hair loss), and over did a protein conditioner. So alot of hair came out. I was crying feeling so insecure about. This help me feel understood and feel so much better. So thank you for being honest. Not like this others.
IAmNoa: I’m so glad I found this video! I felt this video all the way! I wanted to just chop my hair after I seen all the little balls to. But you really Walked me through it. Keep up the good work!
Latoya Rouse: Actually oil on dry hair works amazing for me as a detangler. For some of us adding water before makes the knots worse.
Ka’Mya Nickson: Finally! Someone with actual 4c hair.
Janice Cleary: OMG. This was so helpful. You invested a lot of time and it clearly paid off. My TWA is crispy dry but I am going to try the prep steps and see if it works for me. Thank you.
GeminiLotus♊️: Girl I love wigs and lacefronts but they will make me lazy as hell! No washing, no water moisture or anything and my hair did the same thing your hair did. I had to do a self intervention and backed away from the wigs for a bit and had show my hair some love again. So me and my hair got that good vibe going again for now but knowing me, that lacefront will be back on my head once we have a "fallout" with each other Great video you gained a new subbie:)
abolts2020: Thanks for posting. Good to know I'm not the only one dealing with those end knots and how to deal with it from a different perspective
Jacqueline: Thank you for making this video ❤ this is literally me right now. I've been so busy over a month has gone by without me washing my hair and now I'm searching YouTube for videos to help me. Your video is the best. It's what i need ❤
Cibeles Rivas: Omg this is the realist detangle session I have ever seen...I'm 5 years natural and your realness is beautiful...many thanx sis
KaTrinika Dixon: Girl my hair looks like this now! Great video. I was about to cut it and start ova. Glad to know I'm not thee only one tht goes... well I went months... along time without touching their hair
alldatzyall: My hair is sort of the same right now. Everything snags on my hair. I even tried doing it in small sections, like perm rod small. To be honest, the wide tooth comb have always rip my hair out since the beginning of my natural hair journey.
Anna: My hair is always like this sadly I’m praying it’s just shed hair and not my ends breaking. I’m scared to have my stylist straighten for my trim next time
LittleNavajo: Girlfriend... You weren’t lying, it was indeed a MESS! I know what you mean about not wanting to do it at times, but when I know I won’t have time - I keep my hair in semi-mini-twist. That way I can periodically, spray my Water/LOC on it and keep it movin’! Then, as it’s growing, I’ll untwist them individually, get the debris/shed hair out retwist and clip the end!
Divine Akiela: Omg I Thought I Was The Only One To Do This Thank God You Werent Afraid To Be Honest And Show How You Get Your Moisture Back Stay Blessed Natural Beauty ✊ Edited And Your Voice Is Soothing You Singing Voice Is Beautiful And Your Personality Is Giving Me Life Guh ✊
San Ten: Lmao at least you admit your own neglect caused it. I've seen plenty that blame everything but their own actions for their damaged hair. Plus yours still looks good.