Why You Are Frustrated With Your Afro Kinky (4C) Natural Hair || How You Can Start Loving It?

Um um there that that um, that can be that that can be a problem um um seven years ago, hello, everybody welcome to my youtube channel. It'S very good to have you here, please, if you are viewing or see me for the first time. Thank you very much for clicking that button. Please go one step further and click the subscribe button and subscribe to my channel and hit the notification bell so that i get notified anytime. I release my videos now if you have uh, if you're a returning subscriber. Thank you very much welcome. Today, i'm going to be talking about um natural hair and this um whole video is coming because recently i watched a video by a daisy spaces on youtube here where she talked about how she had relaxed her daughter's hair. She recently had a child um, a third baby and then up on to having the baby. She had been taking care of her daughter's hair. She has two daughters, she's been taking over that data exclusively and she talked about the length of time it would take for her to. You know, get them to do their hair and then sometimes because i don't have sensitive scalp, it would take quite a long. They it could be painful, so she had to do it carefully now when she had a baby. She couldn't continue with that care for obvious reasons, and so she had to she tried to maybe contract somebody or get somebody, oh or what's the word to sublet the job, somebody else and it just wasn't working so she had to you know retouch her daughter's hair. Oh and i heard it i didn't - i was quite sad. You know, because i'm always rooting for people who are trying to grow or take care of their natural hair. I think it's a it's a great thing, and so when i see people doing it, i'm like oh, yes, yes, yes, you can do it, so it was sad, but just watching it. I don't judge her, of course, because she has a challenge and she has her reasons for doing whatever she did. However, it made me just take a trip down memory lane and i just thought about it. You know, and i said to myself - you know there are actual. You know like valued reasons why people feel that natural hair care is just you know, a very tedious, something that you know. They'D rather not do, and i decided to come on here and just talk to you guys about it, so please you're welcome again and without further ado or without wasting too much of your time. Let'S jump right into it now, one of the reasons why people feel that natural hair care is a job, it's a very, very, very, very, very complicated. Something is um because of the overload of information. That'S available, there's just so much information out there in the internet everywhere you go social media people telling you how to take care of your natural hair, so that um, if you are an avid reader, if you are a seeker of knowledge, there is so much knowledge And sometimes it is hard for you to just sift down and get the whole meat of the thing you know like what does my hair truly actually need, apart from all the fluffs, apart from the diys, apart from all the um, you know routines. What exactly does my hair need? What do i need to know to take care of my hair for my hair to be healthy and grow it? It can be hard sometimes so, unless you are lucky enough at first to maybe just come in contact with people who have simplified their routines, you, you know you, could you could? You could be in for quite a you know, a journey um and then also realizing that some of that information doesn't quite apply to you uh something might apply to somebody else's hair, but um. My own journey has also led me to understand that your own particular hair has its own particular needs and that, with all that information, you use it, but you now trim it down as time goes on, depending on what your hair particularly means. Sorry about the noise. There'S an airplane circling, my house, so when you have so much information like that, you find out that you're doing too many things. You have too many steps in your routine and it's taking so much of your time and it's interfering with your normal life processes. You understand and if, for example, you're in a phase in of your life, where you don't need all that, you don't need your hair care to be too big a bother. That can be a problem. You know so um. The solution to that is just to realize that hair care really should not be very, very complicated. In fact it it's just it's not supposed to be complicated, trim it down the basic steps, one two three four - and do it and do it as regularly as possible. If you want me to talk about the routine that i follow presently, because i have a routine now that works fantastically for me completely different from the routine that i was using when i started wearing my hair and to be honest, the routine that i use now Has given me more and better results than anything i've ever done and it takes such a short time and i move on with my life. So if you want me to talk about my routine, please just make a comment in the in the comment section, and i will make a video on that anyway. So until you're able to simplify your routine down to very short steps, like i said that fit into your lifestyle, you will find natural hair care to be a chore number. Two reason why people find it to be: they need to be complicated or challenging. Is the mindset shift? I think this is very important, because the truth of the matter is that afro hair is different from every other kind of hair. Afro hair is not asian, hair or caucasian hair, and it has no particular needs. It has its own particular. You know it's just peculiar in its own way, there's a way to take care of it. The tools that you use to take care of it now, if you have not like rewired your mind from the day, because the truth advantage we've been doing some things for such a long time, we've been retouching, we've been we're used to retouching we're used to straightened Hair we're used to taking care of straight straightening hair, even though not even so much but let's just say you know, for the sake of um. This discuss that we're used to taking care of straight hair and when you decide to become you know, when you move into your own natural kinky, hair care, you cannot take the information and your practices from your diesel street hair into your practices. Of of your your presents curly hair because it just won't work, they're, just two different things, so you need to talk. You know it's just something like a a journey in itself. It'S just a process of you just knowing that i cannot do things the way i used to do them before there's a new system in this kingdom, and we have to find out what it is and we now have to add hair to it. If you're still trying to you, know use old tools, old practices you'll find that natural hair care would definitely definitely be a choke for you. Another reason why people find natural hair a chore is lack of supportive community. If you are surrounded by people who don't believe in natural hair care, oh boy, the inspiration will be lo. You'Ll find out that you're, not you know. There'S people around you care more about covering up the hair and this place no offense at all whatsoever. I have nothing whatsoever against wigs and weave on sampling hair, but the truth matter is that taking care of your natural hair requires you to commune. You understand to it. Requires you to commune with your natural hair. Sometimes it might require you to leave certain practices for a period of time, so i can understand the way your hair works. If you don't interact with your natural hair, you can, you won't understand how it works and if you are surrounded by people who don't really believe in growing your natural hair, for example, if they feel that it is um, it looks uncamped, it doesn't look sophisticated. It doesn't look classy you'll find i always try to hide it or that you're not inspired. You know to to take care of the hair or to learn anything about it. People are always speaking like negative words about your hair. You, probably not, you know, be too excited about taking care of your natural hair, so the solution i think to this is kind of surround yourself with people. If you cannot surround yourself physically with people who are into their natural hair, you have to surround yourself virtually with people who take care of their hair, who love their hair, who style their hair, nice or styling with hair, in a way that you want yours to Be styled uh, most importantly, i think it just takes you truly knowing yourself and knowing what you want and not being so interested in being, like everybody else, uh. If you're able to deal with all that and surround yourself with people virtually, you know connect with people who have similar similar mindset as you, then you will not you'll, find it not to be so much of a troll. Another reason why people find natural hair care to be a talked off. Something is lack of resolve now, if you have not made up your mind like your inner inner mind, not with your lips, if you're not saying to yourself i'm going on this journey and there's no going back. If you don't have your reasons, you know it's very cliche nowadays to say to know your wife, but that's the truth. If you don't know why you are growing your natural hair, if you're growing it out of some flimsy reason or just because you know you don't really know why you're doing it or um, it looks nice on people. If that's the only reason, it's a good reason, but i don't think it's reason enough, because there will be challenges and i don't think that reason is strong enough to like keep you going. So you have to find something deeper. You have to resolve in your mind that whatever but whatever, and i feel like when you've already, you know, set your eyes on the goal. Oh and your eyes are completely you just look there. All you'll be in search of will be information to help you get to where you need to go to so please we have to just make that resolve. You know like it's like you're about to build a house. You sit back, you make a plan, you have um the architect, you have the engineers, you have a drawing board and you have the plan for what you want to do and then you can move ahead. It helps when you can look and say: okay. Yes, this is this, is this is my goal. This is what i want to do. Unfortunately, i lost the end part of this video, but this is basically the gist of it. Thank you very much for watching. I hope you enjoyed it please, like drop me, a comment in the comment section subscribe. Please, if you haven't hit the notification bell, so you get notified when my next video comes and until next time bye, you