Natural Hair, Texurism, And Our Obsession With Length | Camryn Elyse

Moore Holistic: Probably, the reason they took her off tic tok; is they make billions of dollars off us hating our natural hair. For example, include overpriced products, weaves, wigs, extensions, hot comb, blow dryers, rollers, and salons. The entire beauty industry would crash if we accepted our hair without manipulation. Everybody has a stake in our insecurity, it is their security$$$$$$!

Eddiy: If we're going to be honest people (black men especially) were more upset at the "I can only pull white boys" comment than her talking about her experiences with colorism and texturism.

Nonjabulo Mangoro: Length isn't that deep, length is desirable no matter the hair type. It's the obsession with hating shrinkage, for me.

Coilylani: I also feel like a lot of black people are disconnected with the basic care of their hair. My mom doesn’t even like to wash her own hair by herself. We’ve been so programmed to hide the hair we naturally have that when we see it , it’s something like a freak show. Everyone wants to know how you did it , everyone wants to touch , everyone wants to double look everyone wants to compliment. We were never taught how to take care of it and live comfortably so it looks so foreign

🐞Ladybug: Protect Lipgloss at all costs!

Beautifully Kayla: I'm surprised you didn't go more into detail with the natural hair community's obsession with "defining" our hair. These girls will spend hundreds of dollars on products that with make their type 4 hair look like a looser texture. Even in these "big chop" videos the girls will chop off their relaxed hair and then immediately start defining their short twa. Like what's the point of doing the big chop and "embracing" your natural hair if you can't even walk out the house unless its defined.

Ädølphí: It's really heartbroken lipgloss had to go through that because she's trying to bring back natural community back from the old days from 2012-2014 where we didn't feel pressured to wear our hair as it should and it needs to continue also black men should accept the average black girl hair too instead of the weaves and straight iron hairs

Yonni: Yesssss!! The only black man to complement my natural 4th day Afro when it was super short was my now husband. Before I ran into him only white, mix and men of Spanish decent would approach me. Even my brothers would tell me to go get a blow out or go get some bundles… Over the years my hair has gotten really long and I prefer stretched updos. I was wearing one and had to inform a group of fools(bm) at a gas station that I wasn’t mix and it was in insult to say I must be mixed when im not. I told them the next time you see a women with nice hair simply tell her you like her hair. Black women don’t have to be mixed to have long beautiful hair, and all hair is good hair if you take care of it. Recently I wore my hair to work in a wash in go, and a coworker who im actually cool with laughed at me when I took off my hairnet saying his hair was longer than mine. He has locs that touch his shoulders. I didn’t even say a word to him I just reached back and pulled my hair down my back and watched his mouth fall open. I then explained to him that it doesn’t matter how long my hair get if I let it shrink up it always shrinks up above my shoulders… he was too stun to speak but pulled me aside outside before I got in my car and apologized… smh black men in 2022 still don’t understand how our hair works

Coilylani: A black man at my job told me when he saw my fro He thought I was wearing a wig . Then says “I saw your edges then realized You’re not full ni””a . That’s not ni””a hair “ when I tell you my jaw dropped LMFAOOOO. Because growing up my mom would call my hair nappy bc she didn’t know how to work with it, so I would’ve never thought someone would think I’m mixed . People are weird

kasooiiekat: i used to care so much about my hair length and try all these crazy methods to grow it faster and keep it stretched all the time. then a youtuber (i think GreenHairBeauty) kind of emphasised that health>length. good hair is healthy hair no matter what texture or length it is.

Vanessa Wilfrose: I stretch my hair with braid/twist outs simply because my shrinkage is so much, that if I let it dry with no manipulation, my hair tangles and it becomes a difficult task to manage later on in the week. If it wasn’t for the knots I get, I would love to just moisturize my hair, and be on my merrily way. (I have type 4 hair).

Event Planner: It's funny her page gets banned for uplifting black hair, but other TikTokers who make racist content against black women don't get banned. Funny, but not funny HAHA, funny weird!

Katelyn Caffey: I big chopped at age 12 (in 2012) and it hasn't been longer than a few inches in the last decade. It drives the older women in my family crazy how content I've been with my nappy twa.

Silver Milk...♡: as someone who doesn't want to wear weave or makeup i've come to realise that black women try extra hard in this department, white girls wake up and go out to proms looking all normal and it's ok but black women have been programmed that that isn't enough , i rmr as a little girl everytime we had to go to an occasion weave was put in my head subconsciously telling me that my hair isn't good enough to go out with and i was fine with that until now that i can't wear weave(also bc it pulls my hair out) when i see a BW at her prettiest at her most glammed up she's always wearing heavy insta makeup and a WIG/WEAVE. I am not hating on these women but lipgloss is bringing this to my attention. White women never have to put themselves through these hoops. Everyone is talking about body positivity but what about 4c hair. The hate against it is something deeply internalized among blacks , i myself whenever i'm fantasy i always picture myself with longer hair wishing it would be Camryn's length. If black woman collectively put less effort in like the white ppl then maybe we can normalize some things, just like how black ppl are always acting strong so now we're expeccted to be strong even when we're just any normal human.

sethunya leepo: As a person from Southern Africa having your hair done whether is relaxed or natural is seen as a sign of caring for your hair. When i was in school, i remember even having it in the rules that you should have your hair styled. You have to have it braided... therefore seeing girls with Afros was rare. The natural hair movement has lead to us seeing people wearing out their hair even in commercials. Prior to that, we knew that older women had to have weaves, braids, wigs and some kept it short too. Even if your hair is short as long as you can have it plaited/braided that was okay and we rarely saw natural hair or people just stay with relaxed hair. Having your hair styled was the sign that you made effort. So with the rise of the natural hair movement, more women want to know how to take care of their hair, then how to wear it out naturally or relaxed and even braided too. In terms of hair, i remember that more women had their hair relaxed before having it braided but in the past few years, i've seen more women keeping their hair natural and staying that way too. The misconception i've had and some people had around me was that "hair needs to be braided to be long"... now it's not necessarily true which is liberating

Rayvonne Evans: Gosh Lipgloss looked absolutely gorgeous. I was literally gawking. Her skin, her hair, the body!! I love this for her and anyone who has the strength and the confidence to be their naturally beautiful self!!!! I wana join but I’m sisterlocd

Sarah Luv: I loved this video. I was watching Married at First Sight (the new San Diego season) and one of the black men on there was excited with who he was matched with for a wife. His wife is obviously biracial and has very long hair. He made a point to express that she was a dream wife because she was thin, beautiful, and HAD A BUNCH OF HAIR!! I swear no other race of men obsess over women's hair like BLACK MEN. Also, Lip Gloss is a beautiful girl and I think she pulls off the short 4C hair so well.

Deicka Jeancharles: One of my take aways is that it ok to want hair to be big and long. The problem stems from degrading ourselves and other black women/girls for not having the qualities we admire in other individuals. It's not a bad thing to wear wigs, braids, extentions. But the intention for wanting to wear it in a certain way may or may not be self destructive or toxic. It's a matter of having a better mind set, which is easier said than done.

Mani Talks Shit💋: The secret to long hair is loving your hair, which really isn’t a secret. I’m obsessed with long hair and having it but I definitely love my short hair because I know it’ll grow if I give it tlc. I can’t accept the false statement “hair not long, not meant to be long” why did she say it like it was true???

camiell albakari: I feel like her hair is very beautiful. People really need to stop hating, it’s weird asf. She’s a beautiful girl with beautiful hair period.

Jadaa Da Don: I have been wearing my hair out and I feel a little uncomfortable not going to lie but I’m trying accept that it will never reach the middle of my back naturally bc my texture is 4b/c which shrinkages up the most

only_jayleen.!: I agree with the whole video especially on the length part, but skin complexion can also play a part in how one is treated while having 4c hair. I am half white, my mom’s black my dad is white & my mom has spent most of her life trying to love her hair. Her entire life she’s been bullied for being the dark skinned “nappy headed” little girl. Yet her sister who has light skin and 4c hair is never called nappy headed, in fact people compliment her hair more when their hair is the same. My hair is like 3b/3c so ik it isnt my place to be here, but i just came to say yalls hair is absolutely gorgeous. That’s also one thing my dad is always complimenting my mom about is her hair and how versatile it is, she’s always doing something new with it that my hair can’t accomplish. I hope yall know you are all beautiful the way you are

glamforall: Yeah I notice the people usually “calling out” others for hating their shrinkage are people who don’t have dense 4C hair. It’s always the people who have looser texture (even 4b), use heat, have locks, or are able to actually comb their hair. I truly cannot use a comb. Nevermind acceptance, my hair BREAKS, and knots when it shrinks, and it is incredibly painful to even try and part so I can moisturize and do self care. At the end of the day it’s my body my hair, and even my damn shrinkage is political. I decided I don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks and as a black woman it’s my legacy and right to do what is best for me. If I want to stretch my hair so that I can spend more time during the week with family, working, socializing, RESTING, then that’s what I’m going to do. And woke YouTube is just going to have to deal with my “obsession” with living my life I guess. Almost all long 4C naturals wear there hair in a near constant stretched state either with twists braids or heat, and there’s a reason for that. It’s not obsession. I’ve found people don’t understand or even appreciate what it’s like because it’s not their head they have to deal with after they’re pleased seeing MY hair shrunk to their liking. And yes i have friends who always say “why don’t you wear your hair shrunk” and they’re either always wearing braids or a style, have 4b or less, or have a fade. It’s just rude at that point.

Shay Barcellyia: Honestly i love my hair, the texture, the thickness. I want my hair to grow soo i can wear it long and curly. It’s not an obsession i just know my hair isn’t at its full potential. Wishing love and prosperity to you all

angel garcía: Sis omg I had my college graduation last month and I'd be damned if I didn't wear my natural hair. I remember within the first month of attending that school, multiple people would touch my hair and ask if it was real. Lord, the restraint I had to not flip out. So, I showed up to graduation rocking my 4a curls and wearing a "Black Grads Matter" stole. What made it even better and more important for me to do so is the fact that my school (*cough* SVA *cough*) is primarily Asian and White. There's little to no Black representation there and the few of us that there are, the school treated us like shit. When my name got called, I could feel the uneasiness from all the old White professors/administrators on stage. (For reference, my graduation was at Radio City Music Hall so there were screens everywhere and the camera zoomed in on each of us as we crossed the stage. When I tell you us Black people were showing up, showing out, and making others uncomfortable, I loved it ) Side note: You can't tell me grad caps weren't only meant for straight hair. I spent close to an hour trying to get it to stay on and look cute. Edit: I just thought of this but thank GOD I have a Black man who loves my hair at every stage. I met him right after I shaved my head and he loved it. Even when I had an awkward length, matted, or my hair was "undone", HE ATE THAT SHIT UP. Fast forward three years, now I have a fro and he has locs. "We're that Black couple" as my mom says

Colouredgal: This reminds me of the time when I was new at my current job and I had a wet blown out fro tucked back in a headband. This nurse has the audacity mind you that she is grown over 40 and only wears wigs teased me in front of the whole office saying my hair isn’t nice and that we work in front of white people. The anti blackness is strong with this community with both genders of black people. I was so embarrassed and mad when she did this. I still work there and ignore the eff out of her.

Xandy K: I love that shrinkage means my curls is healthy!! It reminds me that I actually want a healthy scalp and healthy hair over long hair bc I guess on wash days I can SEE that my hair is long and by shrinkage that's even better bc it's another progress of taking good care of my hair!

Patricia tha bibliophile 🎻: Whenever I wear my afro textured hair ( my hair is long I have Yara Shadidi type curls) I feel like a royal princess. My favorite hairstyle is a casual updo like the hairstyle that the actresses Queen Latifah wore in the film the secret life of bees. Whenever I wear my natural hair I always recieve tons of compliments from non black people.

No.: Long hair is considered more attractive on women across most cultures regardless of race, though. But that's no reason to hate shrinkage - our hair tends to grow up and out, and that's just as pretty to me. I love me some big hair. I'm obsessed with length regardless of texture because I think it looks better. I take more issue with the obsession with defining one's hair. Why does my type 4 hair have to be ultra curly for it to be 'presentable'??? I wish I could do the Lipgloss challenge, but I work in a really strict corporate job - I once got formally reprimanded for having my puff too big. And that's with my edges laid.

1922mistyblue: Lipglosses is beautiful and I hope she keeps going. I’ve been natural my whole life and it’s healthier for my body soul and mind.

AverageGirl: A lot of nails were hit in the video! There's a video of a specific Youtuber with short, naturally thin 4C hair explaining her journey on embracing her hair, especially since it's not favored in the natural hair community. People had the audacity to call her "negative" and "discouraging to black girls" for saying this. These people then turned around and said she didn't know how to style her hair because her twist-outs and Bantu knot-outs didn't come out like the usual natural hair gurus. Not long after, they suggested the Youtuber just keep her hair in braids or weave since they think she's insecure about her hair... the hypocrisy in the natural hair community is horrendous.

Lesego D: For me, it is a little weird that I’m proudly natural but only wear my natural hair 20% of the time. I struggle with the fact that my hair isn’t long and you said it. Subconsciously I felt less feminine and “messy” as opposed to my long sleek protective styles (esp after having to re-big chop recently). So I think imma start small and try wear out my shorter fro and get used to it.

S La: As far as the girl Lipgloss, I agreed with her commentary. When I wore my 4b-c twa out at work (didn’t feel comfortable btw) the only compliments I got were from my Asian and White male coworkers. Not a single Black male coworker said anything about it, either way. So that was telling. As far as my journey, it was 1.5 yrs, and it was…expensive, frustrating, confusing, time consuming. I never got the outcome I thought I would. I thought it would at least come to my shoulders and it never did, it stayed shrunk to me ears or shorter and I never felt comfortable at that length for me. The curl never looked the way I thought it would. It seemed like my hair was softer and coarse in certain sports. I got tired of keeping it in a wig or braids. What’s the point of being natural if you can’t wear it out or gotta wait 3yrs to wear it out. Im sorry but I got a relaxer back in June and Im happier, not cause I want straight hair but because I got tired of having a time consuming, frustrating, long, drawn out hair routine. Even now with a relaxer I don’t blow dry it out or press it all the time and let it look “natural” cause I do love the natural look

stringybeanss: Oh man...the "are you mixed" question is VERY REAL (and I look black). And when I say no, they say how they cant date black women...as if I asked? Also I want to say...I don't think wearing our hair in its natural state (freshly washed/conditioned and loose right out the shower) is neccesarily more normal...bc...it gets so tangled! Detangling is an all day affair. Ppl with other hair types brush and comb their hair everyday bc its fast and keeps their hair from tangles. Twisting and braiding is part of our culture and hair routines bc it makes life easier by keeping our hair from tangling...buttttt wearing our twists and braids in a shrunken state would be something new!

JessieBanana: Wow, she is exceptionally cute and her hair looks great. It's sad she's getting so much hate. I don't length check my hair. I don't straighten/stretch it (though I acknowledge the privilege I have with a 3c/4a pattern) and I let my stylist cut it for trims as much as she needs and how she thinks it needs to be to have a nice shape. It makes me really sad when people start their journey with, my goal is to have waist length hair. Your hair doesn't have to be long to be valued and frankly long hair is work no one should feel burdened to have if they don't want to.

IllustsByKay: I really loved watching this video! I am absolutely 100% obsessed with my length and shrinkage and that didn't really hit me until I heard you say that. I definitely feel like after hearing my older family members constantly ask "so when are you gonna get your hair done?" whenever I tried to wear my natural afro, i became really embarrassed. And the older I got, I realized that my old classmates didn't like the way natural looked either. But I would really love to learn to embrace my hair as it is and not feel the need that I have to stretch it or have weave EVERY time I'm seen. Yes, I love certain looks sometimes but I don't want to hide it as much as I do. I love your content so much and can't wait to see more future vids!

Merian Viegas: Girl, I love how much ur channel has grown :D I feel like a lot of black men are hypocritical like ur meant to be supporting us not making us hate it even more in my opinion love ur vids

California Doll: Although we don't like it, it's fact and it's reality. Some people literally look hot when they wake up and without having to do anything. I'm 1 of those people that DOESN'T look good unless I put in the effort and do a 1 hour beat, 1 hour hair style and a cute outfit. I worked at a bikini restaurant and some girl's would go in without putting in effort and they would look so pretty. Me? Hunty it my schedule said 4pm that meant I was getting ready by 2pm sometimes 1pm.

Mo George: I have never felt so heard in my life! I have had countless conversations with my mom about this and it just goes to show how deeply rooted the self-hate can be when it comes to natural hair and more specifically 4c hair. I just started embracing my 4c hair about a year and a half ago and all of a sudden I'm " going backwards" which is very aggravating to hear people, especially in the black community, say. Super disheartening that embracing the hair that comes out of MY head is " going backwards".

Mani Talks Shit💋: With 4c hair keeping it stretched is key, otherwise there’s knots/matts/tangles

imParisthoee: we need to get out of the habit of pathologizing black women and making their obsession with hair growth a specifically black women phenomenon when cross culturally, most women strive to achieve very long hair. the only difference is it’s easier for those women to retain length. but if you type in how to get long hair on youtube (i guess depending on your algorithm) you’ll see just as many videos of white women or south asian women talking about how to grow long thick hair. black women aren’t special in that regard. we just have specific needs for our hair. there’s no reason why black women shouldn’t also want long hair. our hair can grow long so why not grow it long and why not manipulate it to show off it’s true length? stretching our hair isn’t lying or denying our hair shrinks. i’m not ignoring that our preoccupation with our hair can be harmful. however, long hair is a sign of beauty for women in general so black women want long hair not because they’re black but because they’re still women.

Mani Talks Shit💋: Third comment; Shrinkage seems more of the problem in my opinion, a lot of black people have this prejudice against our own shrinkage in terms of appearance. If there was a way to keep our hair from tangling/matting and forming knots while shrunken having healthy hair wouldn’t be a problem for a lot of us, who love our hair regardless of how it looks(shrunken, stretched, or straightened).

Val H: From experience, I suspect most people only THINK they want/need length and definition. They really just want their hair to look GOOD. I think length is highly coveted because it has the easiest learning curve with regards to making it look flattering, and you can always tuck it away and up if all else fails. But once you see that you can frame your face shape with shorter hair in a way that looks nice, I've found that deep need for it to be super long goes away.

Ify Egwuenu: my mom has relaxed hair and has relaxed my hair for years until 2 years ago when i decided to go natural but i wore braids all the time at first i said it was because i wanted to protect my hair but in reality i believed i looked better with braids because some girl said my hair looked like a rats nest

wemdot O: People hate their texture. I don’t hate my frizzy hair and I don’t want to change it, I don’t care to have super defined hair. However it feels like everything is geared towards definition and making your hair look like something it isn’t.

Gibby Anon: I will say going through TSW (topical steroid withdrawal) has rendered me a deeper appreciation for my skin and hair. Losing my “long” hair concurrent to my body and skin being put through the ringer by this debilitating condition has allowed me created a different perspective. I’m grieving the beautiful rich radiant dark skin and type 4 shrunken hair I once possessed. My skin, my hair it was so beautiful, shrunken and all. I know once I make a full recover from this, I don’t think I will dye my hair again. Nor will I constantly over-manipulate my curls by stretching them all the time. I am eager to be comfortable, healed, and flourishing in my body and skin.

Bee: Just from the clips shown....I'm inspired to just leave my hair alone. Thank you Lipgloss

Positively Purposeful: The crazy part is that I’ve lived all of these experiences . When I was a child, I had a disease that made my hair thin and short. I got made fun of constantly for it by black women and girls and even by black men. But, I found that the white boys were the ones who still found me attractive even with my hair. Fast forward to now. My natural hair is at about shoulder length in curls and it is thick. I get compliments all the time from everyone about how my hair is thick and beautiful and so pretty. I even have black men flirting with me. But it frustrates me because I don’t really love doing my natural hair. What a lot of people don’t realize is the time it takes to maintain my hair. And giving up things I want to do because I need to spend hours detangling. And making sure my hair is either ultra defined or super slick when I go outside. It’s exhausting. So I wanted to get LOCS and the first thing everyone tells me is that “no, don’t get them your hair is so pretty.” As if getting LOCS negates my beauty As a black people it would be so nice if we could take the pressure off of hair and become hair neutral. Which is where we stop trying to mold our hair into a box and love it for what it does for us. That’s why I love what lipgloss was doing Sorry this was such a long read. But I feel like this subject is never talked about and I feel the pressure. :)

Alejandro Bonilla Jr: Watched both your videos and I honestly appreciate your points. As a black man I’ve been on a hair journey myself for the past 6 years with my 4C hair out of self love and rediscovery. I noticed ever since I’ve started ,I’ve only been with black women. I’ve gotten so much closer with y’all and I truly do love and appreciate y’all. Y’all have the best hair in the world No matter how it looks to me.Our hair is so diverse and complexing. It sucks to hear black men are the biggest judges when it comes to hair smh cause we have the same hair and go through hair discrimination as well. I almost lost a job because my hair. So it’s just ironic that black men spit the most hate that hurts. It’s a product of self hate; us not learning to love ourselves. Hip-hop culture ;years of watching music videos and never seeing a beautiful black dark skin women in all her natural glory.Countless conversations about women with the bros or homies where black women are constantly put at the bottom and so much more. As black men we got so much we have to unlearn so much. Great video!

TheMeowizer: I think lipgloss looks lovely. On thumbnails ppl choose unflaterring photos of her, but when you see the whole vid she is so cute

Divine Creation : I feel like this is an American issue cause the natural hair movement in Brazil is awesome And i think there needs to be a healthy balance… if you have a hair type that defines easily when wet but frizzes out. I see nothing wrong with wanting to keep the definition. But if you are a 4c trying to look like a 3c then obviously that can be seen as an issue…

Berri pxp: Thank you for the part on the length obsession. I remember that when I was in grade school I would always be complimented on my hair because I have long natural hair. My mother only put my hair in braids which helped it grow, but I never understood why people would like my hair so much when I was jealous of all the afros and slick back puffs and all these styles with their free flying hair that I wished I could do.

Lucia Sonia: This is beautiful! My hair doesn’t like to be in it’s shrunken state tho. I like to put it in twists or stretch it with braids/ twists or a blowdryer. Because it will be 1 big knott in no time! I think everyone should just do what works fo them

lacey kanda: Such a great video!!!! Made it all the way to the end but I couldn't figure out how to get that emoji ‍♀️!! As a 4c girl myself with hair that tangles/shrinks like nobody's business and dries up even when it's super moisturized, I so appreciate Lipgloss' commentary !! Sis gets it!! The part about getting white boys is too funny because it's so terribly true. No one hates Black hair more than other Black people, argue wit yo mama about that one ‍♀️‍♀️!! She's beautiful though and I'm glad she's exposing the hypocrisy of the black community/white supremacy/texturism/colorism etc. Great video girl!

Molly wenken: Most of the white people I know always tell me I should perm my hair, so I would look more beautiful/ more feminine. I love my fro how it is.

shania a: I remember one time I was with boyfriend and I had my hair naturally shrunk, these boys passed by and said I thought those were two guys. They thought I was a male because my hairstyle, plus my boyfriend had a hairstyle close to mine

Chris I: Side note: mini twists tutorial ✨

Jam: I love this video and I love lip gloss. I went completely natural almost 9 months ago. The wigs were killing my edges (almost had a receding hairline), the braids always felt too heavy (thining my hair), and I was just getting annoyed with everything. So I said fk it, I'm going to get medium size twist( not willing to commit to locs). At first I was insecure, I was use to big puff styles and my natural hair barely reach my shoulders. Little by little I am getting use to it being natural and short and sometimes I feel cute.

Glixl: Even as someone with 3c hair I didn't know how to take care of it so I always had it short and for years I thought it was 4A or 4B until I started using hair products that were more healthy

XO Michon: Natural hair has definitely been a new route for capitalism. I’ve learned after all these years,the simpler the better and to choose health over any beauty standard. Just love your hair enough to take care of it. No matter what it looks like. This was such a good video.

xIKRx: Lip Gloss' YT channel came up in my suggestions recently and it's only because of YT that I know that this is even a conversation. I have no experience with type 4 hair or shrinkage so when I look at Lip Gloss, I just see an attractive, self confident young lady with a hair style that compliments her natural beauty to a T but I'm an older Wht British male (though I don't make it obvious) so what do I know? That Lip Gloss gets such negative treatment from the very men who should feel drawn to support and protect her is just crazy and speaks volumes regarding the environment over there. I love her message and hope that many follow her lead as this is the only way that her aesthetic stands any hope of becoming normalised any time soon. Why do I care? I'm a father of daughters, that's what we do.

layla laney: This was great! I love videos like this because as someone with 4c natural hair, I had a relaxer for most of my life so when I transitioned to natural hair I didn't only transition physically but also mentally. I had to change the way I thought about what defined beautiful hair and at first I was always manipulating it and finding ways to slick it down or make it look a certain way. However I realized that my hair is beautiful the way it is and I started wearing it out in an afro and have fell in love with the way it makes me look and feel. I hope that more black women can learn to embrace their natural hair because it's a crown and should be loved

E G: Im mixed and I hate when people tell me that I just need to "put some stuff in it" my mom loves to say that. My hair always has products in it. Its frizzy no matter what and I dont care. So annoying that everyone assumes Im willing to do extra or that Im trying to fill some standard of beauty by wearing my hair the way it is naturally. I DONT CARE ABOUT HAIR I DONT NEED TO DO ANYTHING. Im happy there are other people that feel this way

sarah sic: I’m a jewish girl with really thick, coarse curls. Growing up around other white girls with pin straight thin hair always had me so confused. I started learning abt hair care from black women in the natural hair community and It was such a blessing. Although my texture wasn’t the same as most of them i learned the basics and from there i went completely natural and still am to this day. It makes me so sad that the community is so toxic to woc and they have to face so much hate based on texture … imo everyone should just do what they want w they own hair and keep it moving - great video !!

Jessica Rabbit: To be honest i like bigger more volume hair because my hair naturally grows up and out no matter how how much growth. Lenth should be for people who hair grown naturally downwards.

Mira M: Imagine reporting someone because they are embracing who they are. Anti blackness is worldwide and rampant. Begs to question... why is everyone so threatened?

GoldenBoyGlows: “The whites is getting up … splashing water on they face and leaving the house “ I have never laughed so hard in my life

Colouredgal: I’ve been wearing my hair out since quarantine. People ask me why it looks different every time (shrinkage) I just tell them to go to google. I’m not answering stupid questions.

Renee Mattier: Some people don't think about the fact that we Black folk are built the way we are for a reason. We are blessed. Coily hair that reaches for the sky keeps the brunt of the heat of the sun off our heads, keeping us cooler, making it harder for us to overheat. In this case, shrinkage is good. He he.

Esther T. Jones: I love styling my hair, and I love how long it is, but thank you for reminding me to try wearing it as shrunken as possible (I have to let it air dry and it takes forever) to be out here challenging the narrative ✊

Trenitee: 4c is only bad and nappy when it’s short! That’s so true! I have 4c hair and I wear it out all the time, however the only time I’ve ever received compliments about my hair have been when it was I had extensions, crochet, or clip ins in it. And my 4c hair isn’t even short I just don’t stretch it everyday.

IvyTeacher Wilson: I've done big chops many times in my adult life. One time, a few years ago when I cut if off, my mom, brother and uncle told me not to do that again. They didn't crack jokes or get disrespectful but that was the moment I really realized how important length is to Black people. I love my hair short and long. But I've been told by other Black women that I wouldn't cut it off at all if it didn't grow back so quickly. I understand them, but disagree. Great video once again!!⚜️

hudsonkorion: Dang…I’ve been watching all your videos during work today. New subbie! I just started a WHOLE channel on growing hair-relaxed and natural lol. Made me feel some type of way about why I think the way I do. This really spoke to me. I’m pretty sure I’m gonna mention you in one of our upcoming videos. When I do I’ll let you know. Very, very good content. Loved it so much!! Come by and check us out sometime too if you want @Naturally Relaxed ❤️❤️

ririartz: yesterday I decided I'm just not putting no more gel in my hair, not even gonna try to do my edges because my hair don't wanna stay in that. I'm just gonna be doing what she's doing .

K: ❤️ this video and I’m not even to the end yet! So many points here I agree with, the struggle is real! I believe we need to own our beauty as black women and not let society dictate it for us. With that comes a new level of freedom. As a locd natural, I have many moments where thoughts of feeling “unkempt” come up especially when I choose to wait a while to retwist. I do it for the health of my hair, but there’s so much pressure to make sure my hair looks “neat” to society. This is a WHOLE conversation and I’m glad we’re having it

Lae Parker: I agree I also go to a PWI, and I’ve been told that I always do something different to my hair! Lol I find it funny because I tell them it’s just a different hairstyle but it’s the same foundation it’s not like I dyed my hair or straightened it

Seles Says: Great video!! Loved it I want to be a free natural too I love natural hair it’s beautiful and healthy, but I have to be more secure with wearing it with shrinkage

AJ Live: Yes the obsession is REAL! Especially black women, look how that “ he’s a boy your daughter hair is just little got them in a clutch. It’s so said the the MAJORITY of the ones I see using it are black women. Smh it’s really sad.

Jade 100: These twist half up half down is so cute !! Need to do this style with my hair.

beeanca: i’m not gonna lie, it’s been so much easier in the morning just slapping on my wigs and going to work, but i rarely wear my natural hair out anymore. but i am also aware that i “hide” behind that because of my insecurity about its length. about a year ago, i had to trim off a good 3 inches of my ends. they were so damaged because i didn’t get them trimmed in between my crochet braids. my hair went from touching my shoulders to not knowing whether it wanted to be long or short some days, if that makes any sense. i was uncomfortable. it has sense grown of course, but it’s not yet back to the same length pre-3inch-trim, and i fear i won’t really wear it out until it gets to that length again. p.s. i LooOooOoooVe your eyebrows omgggg ✨

PhillyRoja: Gr8 follow up video Sis I wanted to comment, Lipgloss is adorable as well her lovely hair. I started wearing my natural texture in 2002 with my first of many big chops, I rocked moisturized TWA’s until it grew back and then wore mostly two strand twist for maintenance. I absolutely LOVE my hair, it’s texture, density, thickness, versatility and shrinkage (which is a great sign of hair health). I even shaved my hair twice and honestly, it was the most freeing and feminine, I felt. I agree that we have to set the standards for our hair, BLACK WOMEN, no one else, just US ✊ once we embrace and love ourselves, it won’t be anything, anyone can tell us

JA NEYAH: All I ever do know is wear my natural hair in a twist out. I genuinely love have so much I can't fathom wearing another hairstyle. Of course sometimes I'll have an ignorant comment from older black people congratulating me on “how brave I am” to make a difference and embrace my natural hair. Like why is my fro political???? This ain't a charity case I just love my fro. Idky thats so hard for people to comprehend.

The Work From Home Wife of Atlanta: I love your content! Your points are right on!! I am about to wash my hair in the shower with a good smelling/Fancy shampoo and Moroccan oil conditioner and then I'm gonna do a twist out with ONLY smooth shea butter with a strawberry shortcake scent since I ran out of Argan oil and that is it . No wash day/headache!! And I'm gonna go have a Fancy Girl Summer!

Paris Ortiz: When you mentioned that in the Bible it says that a women hair is her glory it reminded me of how my aunt ( I live with my aunt) never lets my cousin cut her hair because she would say that long hair is a woman’s beauty. Now imagine how 8 year old me with my short damaged curls felt hearing that

Sara: We as BP need to accept that our hair is evolutionary and is the way it is bc it protects our head from the harsh sun and doesn't require too much product. It doesn't get thin/fall out naturally with age like the other greasy haired texture. BP's ingrained self hatred with our hair makes companies BILLIONS. We also would embrace our own hair and view it over all other types because non-bw thrive off of beauty supremacy. Hatred of our natural image has single-handedly done more damage to the BC. Lack of pride in ourselves is dangerous and WILL lead to our eventual extinction like the Moors bc we worship non-black beauty standards too much. IN general long hair is seen as more feminine and when I observe old African tribal women's hair it is always braided/threaded/locc'ed/ twisted/ or stretched. The pressure for neatness is a colonial era - current fear. However I notice in ancient styles, Africans have long used beeswax to keep the style looking neat, so maybe it is cultural. Frizzy 4c hair is like having unkempt frizzy wavy hair. It is a question of presentation. Yes, one texture is reprimanded more because of society but I've come to realize as BW life is catch 22 where people put all these stipulations on BW to look more mixed but then we are shamed for following suit. If only we subvert the dominant paradigm and just accept that no will accept us because they have to please non-bw and make them happy with beauty supremacy, then we can truly be free to do whatever. We should just do whatever we want to our hair without scrutiny. BW: Whenever cringe rapidly aging non-blacks tell you negative things about your hair, my favorite go-to is to remind them that we don't want their thin, limp, greasy, wet-dog smelling, lice infested, rapidly aging hair. We shouldn't let the world push us around this way. Accept that people are going to hate on us because they're basic have terrible genes and age poorly ‍♀

Crystal B: Nice topic, but I must weigh in. I have 4C hair & I love my hair blown out. I/Me this is what I love, not based on no1 else's opinion. It's not a bad thing to have preferences just like we have a favorite color, food, clothes, etc. It's just like saying wear your natural nails with it's natural length, with no polish, filing, tips, shape, pedi, or mani. It's a desireable thing. It's also not solely a black thing but a womens thing because I worked at a diverse hair salon & other women of different races are huge on hair color, blow outs, & cuts which is opposite of their natural hair color, texture, & lengths as well. With me, I'm all about manageability with my hair, anything that will make combing & styling easier, I'm for it. When it comes to long & short hair, I see it as what goes best with a person's face. I have a round face so length goes best with my facial shape, but I've always seen women with smaller or slimmer faces rock short hair styles with no problem as I did with no problem in my late teens & early 20s. I also love wigs, weaves, & straight styles. I'm a creative person whose also a hair stylist so I love hair color & wigs & weaves gives me that advantage to wear hair color without damaging my hair natural hair. I also know that my hair grows faster & healthier when I leave it alone, in protective styles. I let it down to breath & give it some TLC with wash, condition, & to clip my ends. When it comes to mens opinions, they're allowed to have opinions the same as women. It's how you receive it, we can either reject or accept it. We shouldn't get offended so easily. Though you received it negatively, he probably meant it as a compliment. They have preferences too & it's not their fault if they've never had the opportunity to be exposed to different looking black women other than what they've seen in their communities. Also the truth is most of us are mixed with different ethnicities including native American Indians. Whether it's from recent generations or 5 or 6 generations back, at the end of the day we're all human. On the other end some women desire bald men with beards, men with locs, etc. I mean you're not gonna want your man to walk around with a bald face & shaved beard are you? It's because it's your preference, which may or may not be his. My husband & I have been together for 23 years & I put him onto beards & he haven't looked back since. My husband's texture is loose wavy as with most of the women in his family. Long before marriage he has saw my hair in every way possible the desired & undesirable looks including shrinkage short, natural, broken, & thin edges. He has had a couple preferences with my hair as well, but it's never been his main focus. He's even saw my hair shaved with clippers, so I know what he sees in me has nothing to do with my hair but everything to do with my heart. So, I say however you choose to style your hair, for whatever reasons, is your choice. Who cares what others think or say or whether it's trend or not. Also most men that I've seen, known, family, friends, etc. they're more simpler than you think. Sure they have their preferences but if they sense a deeper than surface connection, they're rolling with whatever makes you happy.

sunnc: Ngl though most black ppl have 4c "nappy" hair so I don't think its bad that ppl think you're mixed if you have a looser curl pattern. Some white ppl have hair similar to us but that doesnt become their image yknow.

sunnc: 9:23 idk girl its easier said than done. In certain ways in this world you have to assimilate to survive. Ppl judge you based off of your image its not something to play with they will hurt your feelings.

Yanniee♡: Okay this statement can be a bit of stretch but hear me out : In section 22:26 you mentioned how Black women are very obsessed with their hair in a way I feel like this can all be tied back to slavery due to the fact that during slavery they would cut our hair and now that we’re not in the “slavery era” we feel it’s all that we have; it’s an identity that was taking a way from us. Now again this is a stretch and I could possibly be overthinking on something that is so small

Pikachu: Women every in the world are "obsessed" with long hair. What does it need to sound so bad when black women want it? I'm not saying lipgloss is wrong at all btw

niya: the way people are trying to say *her experience* is wrong?? like no way. i’ll pay for your therapy if you think like this.

Molly wenken: Great video, I love the topics you talk about on your channel.

Samuel Yeboah: Really sumptuous and simple, sumptuous video from a very special woman This is absolutely breathtaking, really impeccable video ,infact you did extremely well in this video That was splendid work

Natalie Walker: i agree with all the comments and the commentary. i just wanna say though that is my first time hearing of lipgloss and she is absolutely hilarious omg but she’s speaking truth at the same tome

Sunflower 1234: I have big chopped and rocked a buzz cut for about a year or so and two year later it is fully grown out my hair is at a pretty good length and it's full everybody likes my hair but not when it short like the amount of person asked me about my hair care because they see length but when it was short and growing out of the buzz cut only a few person would show my hair some love the long and short of the story is that if they don't see length you don't have good hair

Takke: Just hearing about this struggle from all these black women and fem creators I watched is just mindblowingly sad. But yeah as a white fem i can‘t ever fully get that struggle but watching yall talk about this is hella eye opening i feel and i wish more ppl would watch this cause it is so important. Lip gloss especially has been one of my new favorite creators for her confidence and really dope takes on so many things. I just love her! But I love you too! The stuff u talk about is just really informative and I do appreciate it a LOT!

Naiya Nicole: I have 3c4a hair and I noticed other ppl have more of an attachment to my hair than me. Like I’m the only child of my father’s who has a texture that isn’t tight( both my parents have curls. My mom is 3c/3b and dad 4a) and my grandmother his mom literally obsessed over my hair. I’m almost waist length and she says things she hopes I never cut it…THE GAG IS IVE CUT IT 3 times within 6 yrs. No issue growing it . And I noticed black men do look at me as baby mom material because they want the possibility of having a baby with curly hair without having to mix with another race. Like they get too excited for my liking whenever I switch it up to straight if they net me with curls or vice versa…ITS WEEIIRRRDDDD. And I wear my hair curly 95% of the time so when I do straighten it in the cooler months ppl whisper wondering if I’ve got a weave in. Like I remember working in McDonald’s 2 yrs ago and my coworkers were literally gossiping if it was my hair because I always wear it curly. Until someone finally asked and I answered. To make matters worse I live in the south. Atl to be exact so my whole life I’ve been questioned on the validity of my hair when I was relaxed and now natural

Sloowgaiiinss: What do you have to say about the issue of afro hair being otherised in the natural hair community? I've noticed afro hair is being distanced from the fact that it is curly. People with hair that just isn't genuine, are typically considered in this 'natural movement' to have a hair type that is pushed to be aspirational. What do you have to say about that?

Ameera Bartholomew: I feel so called out rn. So good!

LAR Kovac: I love the tight shrink 4c. She looks pretty. Let’s love our hair.