Why Cant Blk Women Have Long Hair!? #Chiomachats
Hey #QueenTeam, in this video I talk about #SupaPeach and her rant about having long black hair. What are your thoughts!?
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You are now watching the queen chama, so hey guys, i'm back with another video, so tonight's video is yet again another trauma chats video podcast edition. So tonight we're going to be talking about black women and their hair length. It'S actually kind of annoying that i have to make a video like this, because i thought that collectively black women, that we've gotten to a point where we've ridden ourselves from believing that our hair can't be long can't be healthy, can't be full and can't be any Of the things that are deemed european standards of beauty - and this is why, time and time again i say that the world isn't even operating on the european standards of beauty, they definitely operate with african and black standards of beauty. I think that there is an illusion to believe that people think that the european standard of beauty is what is supposed to be and what it is. But recent times as well as history has shown over and over again many examples of non-black people, stealing from black culture as well as trying to emulate features that actually occur in black people. So i came across this video on instagram and it shows this rapper super peach who was on the show the rap game in his first season. Back in 2015., the show showcased young rappers that had social media presence at the time in a competition of different activities. To prove themselves worthy of a contract by jermaine dupri's label, so-so deaf, so super peach was on the show and she was actually a character. She definitely stood out in her personality and i always thought she was super pretty when i watched the show and one of the things that definitely stuck out to me was her hair. I feel like back then as a kid and someone who wasn't aware of black beauty and what we can obtain if we would stop diluting our brains and mindsets with the idea that white beauty is the best that black women are beautiful and can reign supreme and Top contenders in the conversation of beauty, her hair was really long, very full and she always had so many different styles throughout the competition. So her mom is actually her manager and a hair stylist, which goes to show her mom's dedication to hair paid off and how her daughter has beautiful hair as a black woman. So super peach goes on a rant, basically talking about how there's always been controversy about her hair and in this instance, when she was out with her mom running errands. She encountered some fans who then had a private conversation about her hair, whether it was real or not. So she took to her instagram to describe her disgust and her distaste for how her hair was talked about by these girls and how some people fail to believe that her hair is real, let alone how this ties into how black woman's hair could never be perceived. As anything, but one way there are some customers in this video, so i didn't want to let you guys know that, but i'm going to go ahead and let it play yeah. I don't mind how i look right now, i'm i rushed out the house, you know how your mama just won't, want to have company, but she said you don't got to get out of the car. She just wants you to rob her and i like a junkie. So more of the story - [ __ ], i'm out right. These [ __ ], see me this time. I had to [ __ ], i said hey, but you know i'm not getting out of the car, because i like to jump like that's rude, not to call like that, like what the [ __ ], my momma teach me better than that. What the hell so murder story, these [ __ ], think i can't hear them. They whisper. These [ __ ] argue about my [ __ ] hair. Give me something she's gon na tell. First of all, i know when a [ __ ] got michael luke. That'S why they [ __ ]. Everyone should make videos. She don't park down the middle of her. I know when the [ __ ] got clippings that ain't no [ __ ] here [ __ ], really arguing about my [ __ ] hair like [ __, ], y'all, [, __, ] serious, like [ __, ] gon na get a bad hoe like i could Have been so much [, __ ] past time, so my mama do here. I could have been so much [ __ ] paid apart this [ __ ] down the middle right, but i feel, like i ain't got to prove no [ __ ] cause [ __ ], like what the [ __ ] y'all weirdest, [ __ ] like come On i could have been like i could have been like boom [ __ ], but i could have been so [ __, ], pity right so [, __, ], petty, but more of the story like what the [ __ ] is wrong with the world. Like that's. Why i get [ __ ], wigs, [, __ ], like that turn me off, like i'm gon na make you even [ __ ] mad. I don't even want to wear the [ __ ], that's yeah, that's yo! That'S the [ __ ] i'll be on. I [ __ ] weirded it like ew, so the reason why i wanted to make this video is because i feel like this topic has always been in the back of my head, especially as someone who enjoys doing hair, but i never really understood how to voice It and i wanted to use her video to kind of speak for itself, so i've broken this video down into two main talking points. So let's get right into this video, so point number one is questioning: why don't people believe black women can have beautiful hair? Now i know a lot of people find it very self-depreciating, self-hating and wrong for black women to wear weaves but, like i said in a lot of my videos, people are not mad that black women or any woman at that wear weaves people are mad: that black Women don't wear naturally textured hair as a weave, which i personally feel doesn't have any bearing on black women standing to appear black. I feel that, whether it's a straight wig or a curly wig or an afro kinky wig, i still look black regardless of what style. I put on i personally don't see how wearing a certain texture of wig as a black woman makes. You appear less black because you wouldn't doubt my race, regardless of what wig i had on my head. But some people feel that black women should only wear their hair in a natural texture at all times and shouldn't be able to explore with their versatility through texture and color. If you ask me, if you're still, relaxing your hair, that is more self-hating to me than wearing a wig, and i don't think relaxing your hair is so much self-hating at all. But in comparison to how people view wearing a wig versus that. I feel like, if you're still trying to chemically alter your hair to appear straight all the time and people correlating straight hair to whiteness, which isn't necessarily true, then that's more of a detriment to the natural look of a black woman than me wearing a curly wig. That is not exactly my natural curl texture, but closer to it than it is straight hair, but that's just my opinion. People also believe that black women are the only women that wear extensions, which is so far from true white women. Wear hair extensions just as much as black women do, whether you believe it or not it's because they get their hair extensions that are closer to their natural texture or color that they don't receive as much flack for wearing hair extensions. I say this to say: people often question whether black women can have long hair because we protect our hair with extensions or enhancements. So often this doesn't just include wigs or weaves, but braids twists, micro links, tape, ins, clip-ins ponytail pieces and more, even though someone's going to doubt me in the comments. I wholeheartedly believe that protecting your hair with wigs and weaves does not do any detriment to your hair. If maintained and applied correctly, i promise you chemically altering your hair does more damage than putting any form of extensions. The reason why i don't believe black women should be relaxing their hair is because the natural ph of hair sits between a ph level of four and six. The relaxer has a ph level of like 14., so believe me when i say we probably shouldn't be relaxing our hair for that reason, but people are free to do whatever they want. In my experience, black women obviously have more textured hair, which means shrinkage different curl patterns through our heads, sometimes, and there's definitely a lot more tlc required to take care of it, and not every woman wants to dedicate time on a daily basis to do that. Hence why the simplicity of wigs is used to create an easier method for maintaining one's head, but it's like when you tell someone that you wear wigs and weaves to protect your hair. They always act well protect from what and when i tell them a lot of things such as manipulation, drying out your hair breakage, using it to regrow your hair that may have been cut or damaged. There are so many benefits to it, but some people will still call you a self-hater and call you lazy. Meanwhile, a lot of women who do use wigs and weaves as protective methods often have long hair or just healthy hair in general. I don't think the length of hair determines its beauty or its health whatsoever. The goal should always be healthy hair, regardless of what you do to it because of this perceived illusion that black women have short ugly, undesired textured, hair, often times people question when they see a black woman with long natural hair. People then ask questions about their race and what they may be mixed with, or they just question how real their hair is, and i find this to be a detriment because, for whatever reason, we, as black women are still in disbelief that we can't be seen as Beautiful or have certain qualities within our appearance that match up to what is deemed beautiful. I think this notion of many black women down talking hair is the reason why we never really believe our hair is beautiful, or has the ability to be long or healthy. If it's astonishing to you that a black woman can have long beautiful hair, then you need to take your head out of the clouds and start looking at yourself as beautiful and a top contender of beauty as a black woman, and that goes for non-black people too. I don't know why people look at black women to think that obtaining long hair is out of reach. Most black hair is textured and you usually never see the length until it's pressed out or flat ironed into a certain style. Shrinkage literally makes our hair look 50 or more shorter than what it is. There'S so many examples of black women that are in the media or that we see on social platforms that have natural long, thick, full black hair and some people may say well if black women stopped wearing wigs and weaves, we would believe that your natural hair can Be a certain way, but i don't think that's fair to say when no other race of woman who wears extensions, has to be faced with that same level of questionability. Why question someone's hair, even when it looks good and even when it looks natural, whether it is or not? I understand it naturally happens, because sometimes we come across people who have this beautiful hair and we're mesmerized by it, which is human to do. But no other race of women has to be questioned about their hair, whether it's natural, hair or weaves, wigs extensions, black women having long hair should not be a foreign concept. Now point number two is the whole back and forth between length and health. Like i said earlier, the only concern for anyone's hair should be about its health, never about its length. I'D rather have short, shorter length. Hair that is healthy, doesn't break, doesn't shed and has good volume then have long hair that is breaking split ends, and all of that health should always be the number one priority in all hair care. If your hair stylist is not putting hair care first, he or she should not be touching your hair, let alone their own head. As super peach said, her mother is a hair, stylist and i'm sure she's made hair care a priority when taking care of her daughter's hair and growing it, and it shows because she has long healthy, beautiful hair and super peach wears wigs and weaves as well. In between having her natural hair out, she even said in the video that she wears wigs and weaves, and if you look at her social media, you can see that i think, once you find a good balance in your hair care routine. As long as your natural hair is healthy and you like it, that's all that matters. I don't like when people down talk their own hair because i feel like you have to learn to accept what you have and then you can embrace it and work with what you have or then that's when you can add the extension. It took me some time through elementary middle school and high school, to learn about my hair and learn to like it and although i may not show it on youtube all the time, i don't hate my hair and i never will at this point i actually don't Like my natural hair, when it's straight or pressed, i like it in a nice afro puff bun and sometimes i try low ponytail or twist outs. In the meantime, i do get sponsorships to wear wigs and weaves and being able to change my hair so often and having attention to my natural hair in between has definitely paid off wearing wigs and weaves does not mean that you hate yourself and in most cases It doesn't make your hair unhealthy, but also wearing your natural hair and taking care of it is a key component to having beautiful hair. You can use wigs and weaves to protect your hair. All you want, but when you're not attending to your natural hair, all that money and time and effort that you're, using with the wigs and weaves is actually going to waste, i think black women should be allowed to be versatile. I like the fact that i've walked into an office with a wig on for a week and the next week, i'm in there with a natural fro and people are like wow. How did you do that? The astonishment on, let's be real white people's faces when you show them that you can do both is actually self-rewarding to me as a black girl. Just remember you don't owe anybody [, __, ], okay, i understand super peach and her frustration because i'm sure her hair was questioned all her life because there's always been that one black girl with really long hair who people would talk about. But at the end of the day, when it comes to your own crown on your head as long as you're, protecting your hair to stay healthy and maintaining it, no one should feel that deeply invested to determine what a black woman's hair should look like. And i did want to add that i hate that there are black women who demonize other women for wearing wigs and weaves, mostly because i feel like there's this overcompensating effort to show blackness in every industry. I feel like it's necessary, but it kind of overcompensates when people think that black women have to only look one way in every industry. It'S great to be the naturalista with the big afro and the afrocentric aura, but remember, there's still black women who love their blackness, who wear wigs and weaves and give off a different look as still a black woman. We don't all have to look the same. Every time and there's not just one way, and it's definitely not being natural all the time, let's just be real. There are some black women who will still never touch a weave or a wig who just prefer their natural hair and that's fine and that black woman should be represented. But there are black women who, like the extensions and the different textures or colors, which doesn't erase their blackness and should not make you question if they're black just off at first glance and they should be represented as well. So that is it for this video. I hope you guys enjoyed what are your thoughts on my commentary and what are your thoughts on super peach and her rant. Don'T forget to follow me on all of my social media networks, and i will see you guys in my next video bye guys you
Comments
Name: I’m convinced black women’s hair is some type of weird fetish cause the way people stay talking about it...:
Cece P: Even with my short hair, I’m still asked if I have a wig on! It’s like people expect us to have absolutely NOTHING!!!
Christie Brooks: The only thing I think when I see a black girl with long hair "Wash day must be a struggle. Girl, I feel you!"
Yoon Ox Music: Just look at the bratz dolls. They blew up for their more “exotic” and “ethnic” features only to have women like Kylie Jenner be held up as the ideal after mimicking these aesthetics that some of us were made fun of for having. We literally can’t have anything.
🌸: People just like being ignorant and love staying in black women’s business
Ashareeunique: The “is your hair real” question from anyone has to be one of the weirdest most and entitled things that I’ve ever heard. Like first of all what does that have to do with you and why do people feel the need to ask. People treat you like a unicorn when you’re black and have long length of hair, and then after you tell them that it’s real they want to start touching it like umm. Aht aht. Anyways wishing every black girl to love their hair whether it’s long or short and for it to always be healthy.
Phoenix Shelton: I immediately rushed to the video, because I am a black girl with natural long hair. I hear so often "Is that your real hair?" I even once heard a teen walk by me and say to her friends "It's a weave!" Btw my profile picture is of me with my hair all out.
nicole7075: I work at a jail and the black male inmates are always talking about my hair. My hair is real, but I dyed it different shades of blonde. They always accuse me of wearing wigs or weaves when they get mad at me. Or, they say that I wear the same hairstyle. We can’t wear our hair past our collar. They’re more concerned about my hair than their damn release date. I just don’t get the obsession with hair
allofdestiny: Back with another banger spitting facts. I agree with your statements as well as SupaPeach. It's the entitlement for me. People got too much time on their hands. Lol. If its not on my head I don't care how anyone else wears their hair. Changing my hairstyle will never change the fact that I'm black. I like how she said should've could've proven them wrong but didn't owe them an explanation. Great vid.
Zeniah Wilburn: Y’all ever notice how they only question a black woman’s hair if she’s brown skin or dark skin?
Lynette: I never got bombarded with questions about my hair until I went to a predominately Black school. Our obsession with “good” hair is... weird. When people would ask me what I’m “mixed with” and I would say I’m just Black, the typical response was “Nuh uh, Black people don’t have good hair like that” like...??? Is it crack????
Night Shift: Our hair is just complicated, we all may have Hair that looks similar. But all of our hair is different and requires different things,That’s why it takes girls sometimes years to find out what their hair actually likes
Earthis4poorpeople: People think dark skinned black womens hair can’t be real.
Georgette W: People are obsessed with us and that will never change. We age slowly and are beautiful beyond words. We are also trendsetters, lately I have been seeing other races rocking colored wigs and box braids to emulate us. I noticed that people love to attack us because they are jealous of our confidence and grind. Nothing pisses haters off like a confident black woman.
A'miyah Little: What annoys me the most is as black women, we are ALWAYS judge by our hair! even to each other! which is sad!
Rhi-Rhi Cook: DON’T GET ME STARTED WHEN SOME BLACK WOMEN QUESTION MY MOM’S RACE BECAUSE SHE HAS LOOSE CURLS. I LOVE ALL BLACK PEOPLE HAIR FROM 4C ALL THE WAY TO 1A. IT KINDA BOTHERS ME WHEN BLACK WOMEN (NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN) QUESTION ANOTHER BLACK WOMEN RACE BASED ON HAIR TEXTURE.
Fallon: "good hair" is healthy hair .
Venice #PinkNSexy4SickleCell: Agreed 100% we as black women do and will continue to have it all.
Military Wife: The obsession with Black Women's hair is weird.
Yuki James: At the end of the day it’s just hair. We all need to stop obsessing over it and just let everyone do what they want with what grows out of their hair. If someone wants to relax it okay. They want to rock a fro also fine. Feeling a wig today? Do whatever. Though other races hold ignorant stereotypes I feel like the black community also upholds this ignorance by judging each other on who has “good hair” or who is self hating cuz they don’t rock their curls
Lesha Nicolee: Sick we have to always prove ourselves
Black Girl Lavish: My hair is to my armpit when flat ironed but it shrinks up above my shoulders. I remember when I got my hair flat ironed my family and my boyfriends family didn’t believe it was my hair. My boyfriends mom commented that my hair was a wig. My hair isn’t even that long yet if your a black girl whose hair is past your shoulders they automatically believe it’s a weave.
BUTLERU: When Beyonce's mother showed her real her, our folks claim that her hair cant grow that long. My hair is waist length, and people always questioned my race. Our hair can grow, and it's a mess on how our people can be our worse enemy at times. Just sad!!! WE still have a long ways to ago!!! I still wear relaxers, and never stopped. Im still Black all day. People shouldnt judge how people wear their hair, and it's nobody's business. Period! Do you!
astrosrage: a lot of black girl’s with the “i used to have long hair until my mom permed it when i was little”
Kadia2: Having 4c hair, I learned the hard way that my hair is healthiest when I’m not touching it and is more susceptible to breakage the longer I have it out. I think that is the epitome of why we call wearing extensions “protective” styling.
Shanya Pierre: And another weird part is the fact that if a black woman has shaven hair, the response is now "Well of course it's short. It's BECAUSE she's black" Like whether long or short there will be judgment/ridicule and it's draining having to constantly defend yourself against this obsession people have.
Dejia: People need to leave us alone, our own people included. Our hair doesn't even have to be long for authenticity to be questioned. I get questioned about my twist-outs, wash and go's, and afro. With black women, I figure they are interested in purchasing the wig they assume I'm wearing but come on. If that is the true intent, people need to learn better approaches. Ask instead "How did you get that look?". I have complimented women with textured hair plenty of times only to be told--on the hush, hush--where I can buy the same hair. And I have done the same when given compliments on my natural textured wig; sharing is caring! People need to grow up, appreciate one another and let the envy go. If you want those same inches, ask meaningful questions that will actually benefit you.
Day La'more: I have thick 4c shoulder length dyed natural hair and I get wild responses. Alot of people automatically assume when silk pressed, my hair isn't mine and will argue me down about a damn perm. Or Woke Men will come at me sideways, about the dye color or the fact its not a fro. Idk why people act Like black people hair don't grow.
PunkyGlam: I randomly came across this video tonight and, as a white woman, I have to agree with you. I personally believe that when we disgrace or demean a woc for wearing wigs or her natura hair, it’s just yet another way that the black culture is being suppressed. It’s not a question when a white woman wears wigs or extensions, so why is it for your culture? It’s completely irrational and I truly hate the systemic oppression that is put on you. If white women can have blue hair (such as myself) and not be questioned, why should it be any different for black women? It’s made even worse when it’s your own culture that pressures you to fit “societal norms”. Do you and be you queen, regardless of how you wear your hair!
MakeupArtistSociety: Our hair GROWS like everyone elses... beautifully! We often have UNHEALTHY HAIR HABITS that work against our hair growth ( heat /chemicals that cause damage and breakage) . Sounds like in this case with Super Peach, those ladies had deeper issues than hair ♀️
alyee j: I’m black and i have waist length hair, such a dumb stereotype
Momma Kong: Ppl need to mind their business. Why are people obsessed with black women's hair???
Marisa Kintu: Remember: *There is nothing wrong with short and kinky hair.*
Esthel La: Honestly, as long as I remember, since childhood, i had long hair but no edges and other black people have always been judgmental about it and made jokes about it. I was born like it, I'm perfectly healthy and fine. My mom has no edges too so that may explain why. All black women don't have to have a full head of hair with tail bone length, but it doesn't mean that this type of black women doesn't exist either
A.D. BaeBee: It’s so funny to me that you posted this video today. Today is the first day in over a year that I straightened my hair and this mostly 4B and some 4A is full and past my bra strap. My arms are killing me. I wear wigs too tho. I own blonde wigs, blue wigs, black wigs, straight wigs, curly wigs, etc. I have FULL edges and my hair is down my back. In about a week I’ll be braiding this stuff up and and throwing a hair hat on and wearing them throughout the winter because the cold gives my hair sever breakage.
Julia: When people ask me if it’s my real hair, whether I’m wearing a wig, my natural hair out, my hair is styled, the answer will always be the same: MIND YO DAMN BISCUIT Cause you already know the answer to that question
Angel BG: Black women are bald???? I think not. I have waist length RELAXED hair. Sounds unrealistic, right? Lol but it is possible! Hair care is important!
Chelsea Nugent: I don't think most ppl who relax their hair have any issue with self-hatred, the fact of the matter is that natural hair takes time to take care of. some wear wigs, some relax, some who have the time muscle through it. self-hatred is a non-issue most of the time. it's just hard having to set aside a whole day just to wash your hair.
ID Citrine Tiger Eye: The only reason black girls think other black girls hair is fake is they aren’t taught how to retain hair length. On Chrissie channel she has a recommended product to grow and retain hair length. Also there’s this seller parinda-ra jaideep that has amazing results. Expensive but amazing results
Julia: To be honest I stopped caring about length. Like, if I’m wearing a bright ass pink Barbie wig, what do you gain from telling everyone that it’s not my real hair?
L W: Everyone wants long, beautiful hair. I’m indigenous and I still obsess over my hair, black women cannot win either way. Let them shine!
Gabe The Gemini: WE MISS YOUR FACE CHIOMA! Love the video btw. Black women can have long healthy beautiful hair too! Preach!
Jaunae' James: The same thing happened to me when I was in college. Two girls were staring at me walking pass until they finally stopped me asking if my hair was real. One said it was and the other said it wasn't. Needless to say one was proved wrong and the other told her I told you so. My hair wasn't even as long as it is now even though you can't tell because of the shrinkage.
Colouredgal: I love her hair color. We can grow long hair. I had bra strap length hair as a kid. My mistake was getting a relaxer at 15-26 yrs old killing my hair.
Alexis Bee: I wear my hair natural now, but the only place I hate wearing my natural hair out is at work. Mostly due to the unwarranted attention I get. I work in an office with majority of white people and it annoys the hell out of me when I get comments on how "big" my hair is or if I got a haircut (cause of shrinkage) or the stares I get from people like I'm some zoo animal I also am annoyed with people asking if I was "mixed" because of my hair. Like I know black girls darker than me with longer and loose texture hair. I literally want to snap and blow up on people. I just wish we leave black women alone when it comes to our hair. Whether you want to cut it, wear a wig/weave, dye it, wear it natural etc. I felt for Peaches when she said she "doesn't want to wear her hair out" cause that's how I feel going to work or just wearing my hair out in general
Tree So Reactionary: THANK YOU!!!! I am so glad made this video. I feel like the natural hair community shames those of that wear our hair straight that we are trying to be white. My hair is natural but I flatiron it. There is nothing wrong with wanting wear our hair straight. Just because I use heat doesn’t mean my hair is damaged. You do more damage to your hair manipulating it with wash and goes, gel, and ponytails and braids so miss me with all that ♀️
Aniya Marie: Black women can never win. Natural or not, we’ll always be criticized for how we maintain our hair into a healthy state. My race has always been questioned, as well as the authenticity of my hair. I will never forget this guy (mixed race) telling me that I’ll “seem fake” with a wig after I told him that I want a change in my look and that don’t want to cut my hair or constantly dye it.
NobleValkyrie: I recently just got made fun off by people because I have lupus and recently went through chemotherapy so my hair fell out and it was long thick and healthy. Some people decided to make fun of me and laugh stating that they knew it was wig and that their was no way I can have hair that long. I literally cried to my doctor and he just told me to get over it
Heyyybray: I went natural years ago and literally went on a rollercoaster. Ppl told me at first not to bc my hair would be dry and never grow. BS. My hair started to grow and is pretty long now. Now I get questions if my hair is real. And if I’m mixed. Like what??? No one ever thought I was mixed when I was relaxed. They just won’t let us live. We have beautiful hair, don’t let anyone tell you different.
LiveLoveLaugh BeFree: I hate when people don’t believe black girls can have healthy long bouncy hair. There has been so many times people asked me was I wearing a wig when I had my natural hair straightened or curly. I was pissed off when this dude in middle school straight up pulled a strand of my hair from my scalp because he thought I was wearing a wig. The disrespect is mind blowing. No matter the length or texture, black hair is beautiful and the range it has is amazing. Our hair is unique and needs to be cared for gently bc it’s precious and people wish they could have our volume and diversity of styles. All u gotta do is wear ur natural hair different every week and white women at ur job and school will flock to you to tell you how jealous they are.
Sistaslayage: Omg this hit me to the soul... I’ve always had long hair until I decided to keep it in a tapered cut. When my hair was relaxed people question my hair length, when I went natural and wore it long people questioned my length AND my texture. Low and behold now that I wear my hair short, people STILL question my hair but they accuse me of wearing a texturized. It’s so annoying arguing with people who about about my hair that grows out my head. I’ve literally had to part my hair and lean in to show a woman a curl growing from my scalp to prove to her that my hair and my texture are both natural just so she could stop bugging me and accusing me of wearing a “twist out.” I’ve learned to accept that no matter how I wear my hair; it’s going to FOREVER be a problem because black women are not “supposed” to have nice things, nice hair, a nice attitude and a good time according to society’s standards
BBi 2.0: Me with long hair and being black:
puppy princess: I agree with the whole ideology about ppl prefering BW to wear weaves/ wigs that are similar to our own hair texture. Lol imma get hate, but I am one of those. I find our natural hair to be prettier on us. I wish we would collectively wear our natural hair.
Lafaye: Omg when I tell you I am so tired of hearing people talk crap about our hair. I currently work at a factory and men constantly talk about my hair. When I wear it naturally curly they ask if im ever going to comb it, wash it or straighten it. If I wear weave they say I hate myself because I don't wear my real hair out. Even when I flat iron my real hair which is shoulder length they have a problem. Im so over it. Let black women be black damn! Other races wear their hair all types of ways with no discussion. I know so many white women with tracks in their head, but they never get questioned.
Sasha Amazeballs: I had a friend in high school who had long thick beautiful hair. People used to ask her all the time what she was mixed with... some folks are really ignorant like that.
K 25: I remember when I was younger , Seventeen magazine said something along the lines of only European hair tends to grow longer vs ethnic can . It mad me so sad but I remembered our hair can grow long . I believe it was deleted because I tried to find it but couldn’t
Hannah-Abby Simon: why is straight hair associated with whiteness when asain people have naturally staight hair, polynesians have straight hair even some black people have naturally straight hair. confused
Siobhan O'Connor: Urgh, I hate this. My hair is super long as well, down my back and I hear the same comments ALL the time. If I am in the shops or on the train, girls will come up to me and ask what weave/ wig I have. When I say it's natural, they go off. They call me a liar or give me a look and I am so sick and tired of it. When I was younger, I used to lie and say that it was a wig because I couldn't be bothered to argue.
Shy Dawson: I worked in a salon for years when I was younger. It kills me when people say Black women can’t grow long healthy hair. There were so many black women with WAIST length hair, healthy and beautiful. Even the salon owner!!! it’s ignorance. Also there were plenty of women of other races who had short hair and came in for wigs and extensions. Mainly white.
Anaka: Am I the only one why just likes nice looking hair ♀️ like I idgaf if it’s natural, relaxed, wig/weave or braids... I’m just here for the looks. I think beauty in this day and age should be removable and fun! Personally, my main concern is making sure my natural hair is healthy and a length I can manage. But I don’t walk around judging peoples heads. Cute is cute!
Sugar Skull Tarot: Hair is hair. Remember some people struggle with having hair. Realize your blessed with hair, rather short or long , curly or stright. Many people out there don't have hair. Take what you have ,and work with it. We all can lose hair at any mint. This hair comparison is toxic in the hair community. Especially, from what I have since in the mixed race and Afrocentric community. All I am saying is this type of toxicity, needs to end. I am not an expert in hair nor do I have a occupation for doing hair. Hair is something that should be cherished because it's a layer of protection that we need from bacteria that is harm full towards our scalp. Hair is temporary not forever. People who torture others, is just acting out of inferiority complex/entitlement. It's quite sad, this insidious, immature behavior became the norm in this society today.
Eternity’sAfro: I was just kinda talking about this with my mom while I was helping her part her natural hair for cornrows. She has 4A hair, but it is short because she started like 2 years ago. She started basically complaining about how her hair didn’t look “soft” or “loose” when it wasn’t defined with thick oils or gels. I had to break it down to her like you did in this video, I get so annoyed. I am darkskin, 4C, thick, high porosity, and long hair to my mid back. It’s as if she is saying my 4C hair is ugly. Because why is it so ugly to her when her hair looks more of an afro when not defined? Self hate boo boo. It took a long time for her to go natural, but she did it and still has problems with loving her hair just the way it is.
Lady Covid the 19th: Totally agree with you! Though there are some bw who wear weaves because they don’t like their natural hair or they believe that their hair isn’t “done” unless it’s in weaves or braids. Also, it makes me so mad when some bw spend so much money and energy on weaves and wigs but don’t do the same for their natural hair and then turn around and complain about how their hair isn’t growing or isn’t healthy lol
Golden Kenny: My hair has been healthier and longer since I started wearing wigs because I'm not manipulating my hair often and causing it to shed.
RighteousTruth: I don’t think it’s completely honest to say other races wear weaves as much as Black women. Yes they also wear weaves and wigs but these are protective styles so of course we wear them more because our hair needs to be protected. I also think it’s intellectually dishonest to pretend like women who only wear a straight wigs or weaves don’t have an issue with their natural hair texture. I completely understand why people say it’s better to wear weaves or wigs that are closer to your natural hair texture.
chelsie mccray: Yep yep. The story of my life. Before my big chop i was that girl with natural long hair and people would question my hair (real or not), my ethnicity (mixed?) And commit actions that left me sideways..its aggravating
Jimin you nice Keep going: Dude you don’t know how much this video helped me to appreciate my own hair and skin ever since I was young I used to hate my hair and that resulted in me always wearing hoodies or just anything that can cover my hair because I was honestly ashamed of it my mom is a hair dresser too and she is the main reason as to why my hair is where it is today and I appreciate her for it too all in all I just wanted to say thank you for motivating me to feel comfortable in my own skin
Lexx Pink: But it’s black women doing this to each other not other races of women, yes white women like to touch our hair because of fascination but they’re not implying or inferring whether our hair is real or not. It’s US judging each other out of hate or jealously.
Chi Denise: Hey sis. Igbo here as well. I have cut and grown my hair many times over. It’s back long again. I’m natural and I occasionally get it straightened to get trims. I don’t understand why people think our hair is short. It’s sickening and old.
FrenchFry Frenchie: People question my race just on my hair alone . I've gotten biracial mixed with hispanic /white/ asain. As if my beauty HAS to be attributed to another race
DePiscean1: I have locs and I still get this. People asking if my hair is real. People asking my ethnicity because my hair is long (you must be mixed/where are your parents from). It used to annoy me, not really overly upset me. But especially now that I've learned and grown more myself I acknowledge that is a lot more about that person than it is about me. Many black people not being able to accept their own beauty, or nonblack people thinking so lowly of themselves that they need to think of us as the bottom of the totem pole for them to even begin thinking positively of themselves. And its really is funny how people just harbor negativity any way they can, saying things like locs are a cop-out as opposed to growing out loose hair long. I'm like you clearly have clearly never had locs before if you think they're a cop-out! ROFL. I mean they do very much appeal to my inner lazy girl in terms of just being able to keep them clean and moisturized and moving about my life without having to put that much effort into keeping my hair * healthy * not long. Because regardless of the state most black people need low manipulation styles to retain length and that's what locs are. But it took what, at least three years to get to a point where I could really be comfortable with a get-up and go state. On the other hand, don't talk to me about lazy unless you've spent 5 to 8 hours retwisting your own locs! lol As I said it does so well to just be happy you don't have the ignorant mindsets of these people and you can love yourself and appreciate your hair, whether it's long, short, or in between. That's what I'm thankful for.
nykesia Jones: The 2 most annoying questions I heard growing up. “Is that your real hair”? Followed by “oh, what you mixed with”? Both of my parents are African American. People don’t even realize how blatant anti blackness is. I tell them it’s my hair and they immediately give credit to a non existent part of me. I don’t even look mixed in person.
JUST TEE: It’s coming to a point where I believe ANYTHING we do in the black community is going to be shamed. I hope we all embrace this instead of hiding and becoming AShamed about our personal decisions. There are so many black women I know with long thick beautiful hair... and I know a lot of black women who choose to remain short haired for various reasons. Love yourself black women... let’s embrace each other.... it’s enough hate among us from other communities.... let’s stick together for our daughters sake!!!
Denise: I think that new Hulu movie “Bad Hair” highlights the constant conversation about Black women’s hair. My sister and I debated the entire time about “hair” it was hard to enjoy the movie. I wish what we do with our hair not always have to be so political or seen as a form of “self hatred”. She also recently joked around and called me sell out bc I wanted to press my natural hair for a video interview. I’m like, “girl I’m not out trying to start a movement. I’m simply styling my hair ” I’m over it already...
ActNatural UnderPressure: I feel her and you on this... I wear wigs to grow mines long. Even when I wear my hair kinky people believe it’s weave so Sistahs don’t get into anyone’s hair hang ups especially from men.....live your life
Yessenia Chalas: This is so funny because I had a similar experience at work this week. I was a bit upset about it but at the same time I didn't entertain it.
Bibata Sankara: So people forgot so quickly that when you straighten natural hair it's longer than in its natural curly state. I have a friend who wears beautiful wigs and she has thick, long,beautiful hair. If we can change our hair, why not if we want to? It's apart of style. Long hair doesn't make you beautiful at all. Society lied! Worried about if a black woman's hair is hers is so pathetic. That's what people are worried about??? Sorry for people like that. Hair is hair.
Sweetandy: We can have long hair and we do!☺️All curly, coily, and kinky can grow long. From the loosest curl to the tightest coil. Thank you Chioma
kxlot79: As a “regular” person, it is MAD weird when you overhear people arguing about whether your hair is “really yours.” I can’t begin to explain how much you have to disengage when those same people arguing will stop arguing to ask you pointedly, “Is that your real hair?” And then continue to argue after you’ve answered yes.
A'Vion Morse: I didn't even fully watch the video and I already know imma feel this in my soul. I can't tell you how many times I've walked the hallway in school and had some put their hands in my hair just to say "Oh I just want to know if your is real" just to proceed and ask me if I'm mixed because of my hair. And when I tell them "No" they just reply and say "Nah you gotta be mixed with something cause you got some good hair" *Sorry I had to get that out, I've been holding it in for so long♀️♀️
Simply Shar: I where my hair all different ways. From my curls, braid outs, straightened, wigs and box braids. I work at a corporate office and ppl are always amazed at the versatility. I take it as a compliment because I love switching it up. We have different moods so why not express it with your hair like you would with your clothes.
Jiro: I’m black wit a mixed background. We’ve been conditioned to believe that hair can only be long if it is straight and that blacks cannot grow their hair long. She pretty much explained it all in the video. The truth is you need to just let your hair grow and do it’s thing. What is influencing the belief that we cannot grow it long is because it’s so thick and coarse and it’s just “so stubborn to grow”, which is absolutely ignorant. Black hair just doesn’t grow like white hair. Do people forget about the huge afros back in the day? It grows. it just doesn’t grow in straight hairs like we want it to. It grows in its natural texture. But there are very valid points. Manipulating your hair so much does interfere with growth. Applying heat and chemicals MOST DEFINITELY interferes with growth. Putting it in protective styles that is not suitable for your hair and leaving them in too tight and way too long also interferes with growth. But despite all this your hair indeed does grow back. Especially ours. They say white hair is extra resilient and strong but ours is as well no matter how much we fuck it up. I’ve been through it all. Bleached my hair, messed with it way too much, applied way too much product to get it looking a certain way, even got a relaxer... and despite all that I will never forget a year later when I went natural and stretched my hair to see it down to my ears after all the massive damage I’ve done to it. My hair was GROWING during all that damage. That is truly amazing. Now my hair is down to my shoulders. I put it in cornrows every year and apply growth oils on my scalp and wash it once a week. Then do nothing to it for a whole week, repeat. My hair flourishes. When my hair is free I apply a hair mask, fermented rice water and chebe powder on my ends to retain length. Shampoo and condition. Moisturize it once or twice a week. My hair flourishes. Find a routine that works for your hair and it will grow like you want it to... but most importantly, change your mindset and leave your hair alone. Those are the key.
Cindi Rella: Thanks for doing this video ... You did an outstanding job in composing this... Im a woman, mom whom had to deal with this same issue growing up with family first an then other kids.. My hair is like the girl you spoke about... My grandma would say those are ignorant uneducated people... I never like hair periodt I would cut it off and be happy... I am one of those people who like it in a ponytail...lol ! I passed the great hair to one of my sons and the other one is like what happened to me I said take care of it and it will get back to how it was as a baby lol ... We just have to appreciate whom we are as a person...
Hamstersaver03: My hair is 25.5 inches. It is tailbone length, side hip length. Each long strand ranges from 18-20 inches. I have 4a4b fine high-density hair, high porosity(recipe for tangles). it takes me 8 hours to do half of my head if I'm rushing. 2 days per side if I'm going through thoroughly trying to find any single strand knots. I love my hair a lot so I make sure it's healthy. I'm in college now though and yesterday I've decided to become a lazy natural! All I did was stand at my bathroom sink, untwisted, lightly detangled, and then I twisted. I tend to twist while detangling every time I do a twirl or overlap. Because my hair was already detangled beforehand, I said I'm not going to do that anymore(tends to snap hair). I just twisted from beginning to end, redid is frizz, and flat bantuknotted them. My hair looks so neat and hydrated since I had tested LCO for a few months, it dried out my hair, now I went back to loc. IT ONLY TOOK ME 7.5 HOURS!!!! I was very happy. My goal is knee length hair <3
Marilyn Levi: I remember in middle school and early high school ppl would question my hair all the time that was when I was relaxed now I’m natural and growing my hair back to the way it was before
Chanelly: Lol I let folks believe what they want about MY hair. You got me fawked up to think I'm about to prove something to you
Jackie R: Because it serves everyone else’s self image to pretend we are less than them.
Haleema Yousif: I don’t think relaxers equate to self hatred. There are straight hair naturals who get the same results as women who use relaxers they both alter their hair, they just used different methods to get the same result. I don’t think wigs/weaves are a protective style. You can protect your hair by simply taking care of it. The wigs/weaves are just used to cut down time/work of doing you’re real hair. It doesn’t protect it. I’ve had long natural hair my whole life. I don’t really get offended when I’m asked if it’s real. Most Bw are capable of growing long hair, but we’re not going to act like we see Bw with hair down their back everyday. You might see it online, but real life it’s not common. I have noticed in real life there are more bw who are natural.
Claire Haire: I'm going to speak from my own experience(major key). I feel like this question is also routed in colorism, my older sister is Cardi B's complexion and when she wears weaves no one says anything but, when they see me with my hair down my back, there is always an inquisition.
Maria Jones: Hair relaxer goes have a ph of 14, but after the rinsing, neutralizing and conditioning processes ,the the hair and scalp returns to the healthy ph scale of 4.5.
Sillywatch: Who else claps along with queen chioma intro
Maria Caos: How about you do a segment on skin care ... particularly black skin care of course . That’s just as important if not more important.! Looking forward , love your channel !
Laylay Love: I get the “is that your real hair?” “Do you have a curly perm?” Blah blah. And don’t let me break out the straightener every couple years...”damn I can’t believe your hair is that long!” All while touching my scalp to find the braids. Nah I just take really good care of my hair, no chemicals and rarely ever any heat. And my motivation is the fact that I only ever wear my hair out natural. To maintain the look I want I have to take care of my hair. ♀️
Sarah S: we shouldn’t thrive to have long hair. We can just thrive to be healthy and have healthy hair...
Just Here Watching: After I saw the documentary “Good hair” and saw what relaxers does to your hair I stopped relaxing my hair. And that was in 2011
The Adviser: Yeah, this happen to me in my freshman year of high school.I remember that I had put my natural hair in a ponytail and my hair is very thick and was fizzy.One black girl in my class told me that"ohh you have alot of hair,are you mixed?,Have you ever heard of a perm?
S.S. Cicely: I remember growing up people always questioned wether my hair was real because of the length. It was always weird to me that they wouldn’t believe me when I said it was my actual hair. These days I keep my hair pretty short because that’s what I prefer but I never forgot about being questioned about my hair length.
Nevaeh Akers: I can proudly say as a black girl. I have long, NATURAL, and full curly hair that goes down to the middle of my back just because I take care of it❤️ there is no such thing as a black woman not being able to have long healthy hair
Jazzy: I remember watching a video from this girl on YouTube and she was talking about why we could never have Beyoncé’s hair because she’s is clearly mixed lol She is black too.
TheMotherland: Thank you for this! Video well done Chioma!