You Won'T Need Therapy After Watching This:Therapeutic Hair Salon Session=Bubblyasmr Convo #4

So you're back period yeah do I speak or might as well? Oh cool cool. It'S actually been a whole year. You know crazy, I'm sure it was. It was like around October yeah, oh, my God, 29th of October yeah. Obviously your clothes are still here. Yeah. Oh, my God, I don't know why people you know what I feel like for. Like the first time I washed my hair. It definitely felt different, but it made sense because yeah it was straight for a long time like I wore it for like a month yeah. So I feel like after it just it started to revert back slowly and if that's the thing, if you don't put heat on your hair a lot and then you do it once and then you just continue with your routine you'll, never return back all the time. Yeah, there's the people who go and do it back to back that that end up having heat trained here and also when it's been done. If the hair is pressed 50 times, you're definitely going to have yeah and that's the problem I have with my tapings now. Yeah, because you know you have to like go back in like my friend washed, her hair and tapings yeah, but like her hair about to be reverted back, but the tapings were straight, so she has to go back. She can get silky straight, or did she get it yeah it's better to get the texture. That'S close to your natural hair done so that yeah, so that when you wash it, you can just blow dry it like the pinkish yeah, even with a blow dryer. You still have to it's yeah. You have to go in yeah. That'S why a lot of the tapes I've been doing recently are on um texture released hair. I see because yeah, because by the time you do and I don't really recommend people washing their hair multiple times with tapes anyway, but if you wash it once with protection release, your hair doesn't reverse straight away because so yeah yeah. What is the texture release? I think I saw like when water touches it. It doesn't reverse. Literally, you see how you said: you can see water beads, that's what it does. Your hair, it repels. What makes your hair repair water crazy, so you'd have to like really put like water in your hair for a long time for it to start hurting yeah right, but the manageability is insane. It'S different. Your curls are a bit more stretched yeah when you put cream in your hair. It stays like. If you come with your struggles because water, one yeah yeah, it helps it's. It'S a good treatment, we're literally freestyling today. Isn'T it yeah um? I love you foreign. I feel like you'd be able to see it yourself do when you're going now yeah when I start blow drying it, I'm doing that I'll notice. I love that you literally made a way for yourself and because geology crater, because you really are one people like your name. First, I'm like no, because I don't show myself enough. I guess you know, but that's the thing. I love the fact that you don't have to yeah, because you know that your work is not contingent on you. That'S true. If I don't show my face, I can't get paid essentially I'll hear that in the beginning, when I first started making my YouTube videos, I am, I used to get ready and get dressed up for the past. I'Ve seen those videos yeah the old ones, and I do intros and stuff being in front of the camera used to make me feel anxious yeah, because I'm like, oh my God, how am I coming across? Am I speaking right? I just overflowed the whole thing. It'S part of the reason why they make content for a long time and then one day I decided I'm just not going to be in the videos. I mean now that I'm not in the videos I'm making more content, because I don't have to think about getting ready exactly and imagine even making content I'm not liking it. It'S also another thing. Sometimes I make videos and I'm like. I don't like how I look here yeah. What else are you having a bad day? Oh yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, it's content, creating this is work, but it's his work. I just it's a work that I enjoy yeah same. I can't explain it. I love being in front of a camera like yeah. I love recording, myself and yeah. I guess it makes it easier yeah. I love the editing, oh beautiful and then seeing it come together. It'S just yeah. I love everything and it's where the magic really does happen. Yeah yeah, definitely I'm going to add the music so yeah you get better and better all the time when, when you get into a frog, do you um? No, I use iMovie. I mean I feel, like you said this to me as well. I was so shocked. Yeah I use iMovie, so I bought a new laptop earlier this year decided to buy a Final Cut Pro, because I heard it's one of the best yeah um, editing, um, apps or whatever, to put on the laptop yeah. Can I have I even used the thing. I haven't even used it number one number two. I realized after buying it that I don't need it because I'm what I'm doing is not I'm not doing any like making a movie. I'M not making a movie, I'm not doing any special effects like so yeah yeah. It'S just sitting on my laptop and I've wasted money buying it so yeah, I'm using the Olympics one. So it's quite moisturizing your hair is quite naughty, though it is quite naughty. Is it yeah? It is I'm sorry when it's like this. How do you normally get through it just lose of conditioner and water, okay and sections okay? This is going to be the longest part of well session as well. Do you want the trim here? Okay, yeah you're way overdue. Yeah, you have a trip. This is also you have here and like cut big stuff right now. Okay, when I wash my hair, I have a scissors. You cut tangles out, yeah, okay, if it's Tangled I've cut it out like when I did you tell them, I'm a lazy natural. Like I mean it them once, you know after that day, when I came to you yeah like I was like, I need a new phone yeah like I just worked and I was like yeah. I need to save up for you, then. Oh, my gosh, I'm so broken. I finished eating with them. I mean it's not like I'm a billionaire right now, but, and you know what it's you're going through life you're young. You guys put so much pressure on yourself to have everything and I remember being there as well like when I was in my early 20s. I used to feel like I hadn't achieved anything and I was getting older and I'm 34. Now I look back and I'm like, did you so um yeah? I look back and I'm thinking what, when I was your age, the pressure I would put on myself. I just feel like now. I look back and realize how young I was literally and how I should have just enjoyed just enjoying it. That'S you're going through your stage. I feel like now it's so much more like for me personally, like if there's one thing, I'm a bit delusional. I can't lie to you like. I don't know how it will work out, but it has to work out yeah, but that's that's the mentality to have. Is that sort of thing where you know what you want? You don't know how you're gon na get it, but you know you're gon na get it eventually yeah, because you you work on next time, yeah, it's nice, to write your vision and see and picture what you want. Literally, it's literally I used to be so scared, like I remember I was even going over it like two weeks ago or so yeah and I wrote like oh to be able to like afford to run in London, and I'm like here. I am literally living in affording around in London the amazing thing about writing down your vision. Is you start working towards it as well yeah, so you've written it down it's there and it kind of feels like it's impossible subconsciously, but your brain will look for ways to make it work, but um yeah, it's so important to like be intentional with the things That you want to achieve in life and not compare yourself to others. I just sort of like enjoy the process as well. Yeah we're always going to be learning. You think exactly it's a never-ending process. You think you've you've got it and then life brings another lesson for you to learn. I feel like yeah. I guess I'm definitely enjoying the process like there's no weekend. That goes by that. I don't do something like I treat myself and I need to treat myself money I spend I feel like I always I spend as much as I earn. Obviously I save as well yeah yeah yeah yeah, but you really enjoy. I really enjoy life. There'S no way like I don't enjoy yeah right here, that's important. It was officially a year since I made my first year of my video on Tick Tock, oh nice. I love that series and I was just like it's so crazy because it was something I need to be mocked for, even speaking Europe, but like wow, you know how English it is. I came in like 2011. people like an Auntie, you know how they are now who would mock you, though, if the black boys or freshy, you know how it goes now, yeah when you go to UK school as an African yeah, especially when you've just come from Africa as well like it was very character building, but it's so funny like. I think it's interesting now with the music scene um it's in afrobeats on the map. It'S now cool to be African yeah. But when I was in school we were called African Bobo um. So many names not bullied but teas. You know you just get a little tease from your friends for being African, you know and like people, everyone like there'll be Nigerian people pretending to be Jamaican Jamaican, you know, did you guys have that too? The thing as well? The center of your hair is a bit more cross than the back, a thousand yeah. Do your parents have to care, and not even my mom doesn't have thick hair at all. For my dad's family yeah, that's both okay. My sister has, like you know my cows. Now that's my sister's cows, so her hair is more fine. Yes, the texture, yeah yeah, she even shaved it during the pandemic. I have grown so much. Do you help her with her hair as well? Yeah she's, so much well versed. Now, that's good! Look! This is referring to the front tools, lashes and aesthetic that we present a black woman who's, actually very particular about how I self-present, I think, to some extent it can be damaged, and why do I say this frontals Nails, lashes and not inherently? You can choose to wear them, however, where the problem lies is the style set of this look and, let's not argue that it hasn't been standardized, because we know it has actually very precious, especially for younger girls who can afford or don't even like this aesthetic problem With standardizing a certain look is that it doesn't allow you to self-express in ways that you want to, and, of course some would argue just by what you want by whatever hairstyle you want. Sometimes you don't actually question. Am I wearing this hairstyle because I like it or because I've seen it enough to then wear it to some extent it actually homogenizes us crushes the room for self-expression and when things are standardized, you're, often not giving much Choice. Even though you think you have a choice, if that makes sense, this creates expectations that oftentimes, not everyone wants to live up to it, so the biggest takeaway is why you present a certain way. Do I like this? Look? What do I actually? Is there a problem with how I feel with or without this we're all natural, regardless of whatever, whatever we've done to our hair, if you even go relax, so if you're, not your hair will always grow out the way it's meant to grow out yeah, but, like I think what's what this conversation was, that I got cornrow is done yeah and my little cousin. She actually asked me, oh when I gon na get your install, and I was like this is my hairstyle. This is the hairstyle I'm gon na wear yeah and it shocked me because I was like this girl really thought that the corner that I had on wasn't the main hairstyle yeah, oh yeah, because she had never. I mean she has two corners out, but she hadn't seen cornrows done with natural hair. That was, you know, short yeah as the main hairstyle yeah. How old is your cousin she's, like 10. wow, and then I also saw this video on Tick Tock. It was this girl in 89. She was going to school for the first time you know back to school and she got like a frontal insole. Whilst there is no problem, I'm getting that one to install, I really do feel like we need to afford young girls. Freedom yeah. Definitely I don't. I don't feel like it's freedom, because especially for young boys, for example, boys, which you want in the shower water, run down through their hair and they literally pop up to school after yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah and like, and you literally have an airline and a frontal. I think yeah, I don't know I'm very tall about this. I believe it's a form of expression, it's a form of choice, but it shouldn't be a look that become standard. Like you know, yeah as black women, our beauty is variety like we exist in different forms. Yeah yeah, and especially, if there's a unit the UK black they'll, look, it really is a look. It really is a look and a lot of black women that I've I've known a lot of parents. Some of them do not feel comfortable um if they don't have that. Look to the extent where I'll do a silk press here and you know how to do the edges with the hot comb. Yeah I'll do that and then they still want to come and do this baby hair thing on the side and I'm like that's not how your hair is sitting. Naturally, why are you trying to create that when you've just had your hair pressed - and it looks good, it looks good? It'S like the fact that they feel the need to do that like they can't just let their hairline just be the way it is. They want to knock on, I stick it down and make it look like a frontal yeah, and I just feel like for me personally. It'S why I chose, I think I told you I stopped using gel yeah yeah, not because, like you know, apart from like the the fact that gel usage over time is on great for your hair yeah, it's the fact that, like my hair, doesn't have to be Sleep or it's representable yeah, you have to have thick edges to be presented yeah. I am the fact that I turned up. I wake up from my bed is presentable, yeah. If I even like white girls, for example, you know they just put their messy bun on and they call it a day. They call it a day and I want black women to be afforded the same Freedom yeah present in any way we want to yeah and still be okay, yeah, like my my thoughts on that - and I completely hear you out but remember what we were talking about Talking about before, where I said that there's levels to what is acceptable in the black community yeah, so the kind of afro hair that is acceptable in the African Community is the afro hair that has different defined curls. Very basically, you'll have a hair defines those that big bouncy. You can't see the scalp it's, it has lymph yeah and I think that that's a privilege, you have yeah and you're. Not obviously you love it as well, which is why you're able to create content - and you know you can run with the with the wind with it and that's great for you and I think, there's that argument so where people may have counseled you. You said people people where they had an issue. I guess yeah. I think the issue they may have had is because it's coming from you, but I also think it needs to come from someone like you yeah, because, because you're embracing your natural hair, so you kind of have a leg to stand on yeah but yeah. I feel like the fact that it's the fact that, when something is done often enough, even forget my hair type. If someone is tied to curls like if more people did it, because there's power in numbers as well 100 people get it, then it would be normal. We can wear cornrows and it can be stylish and it can be glamorous like it doesn't have to be a hairstyle that we have for under the wig or as a like quote-unquote protective style. Let'S just make that the hairstyle, because it is because it is a hairstyle, it literally is a hairstyle, so yeah and I feel like for me. I think choice is also important because people are like, but I chose to wear this hairstyle and I'm like. Sometimes our choices aren't always informed. If you know what I mean, yeah they're very influenced, influenced yeah, I've been influencers, I mean I wear wash and goes and it's because I've seen it enough times and I like how the curls look yeah. So I wear wash and goes and because you cannot - because I can do that exactly you sound like, but now that it's it's an informed Choice, yeah! It'S because I know you know after my wash and go I'm gon na get cornrows in I'm Gon na Get You know a ponytail and I'm gon na get something else. Yes, yeah yeah yeah, I think yeah. Of course you have Choice. Everyone has choice to do whatever the hell they want to do with their hair, like that's the beauty of just being a human and a black woman, yeah yeah. So our very good Advantage by the way and transformed like us, yeah yeah, but just at the same time. I just want our choices to be more informed, especially for young girls. I think yeah. My focus are always when the younger girls but yeah. What are they going into yeah and what what do you see is, after they internalize very impressionable yeah yeah yeah? Definitely, and that's how, when I was younger, we all had relaxers, because that's what we saw literally everybody's hair was relaxed. Everybody'S hair was slow questions and no one questioned it. It was the norm exactly um and, as I always say that we have to be the ones that make that change. So if we want to see more natural hair, we've got to be natural and the variety of within natural hair, like natural hair, isn't just you know, having a big curly, throw out yeah. It'S your twist. It'S your twist! It'S your your braids! It'S your threading! Everything is the the pilani braces everything and it shouldn't take a white girl or a celebrity white person to have that hairstyle for us to be like okay, this is not fashionable. We should make that fashionable for ourselves exactly and not wait for people to appropriate what they call it appropriation yeah, I feel like, especially when it comes to black hair, because our hair has been so politicized yeah yeah over the years over, like from slavery, colonization yeah. It'S always going to be a tough, a touchy issue. Yeah. I understand that yeah, like black hair, is a touchy issue. Hair means something different to all of us. Yeah. We have different emotional responses to our hair, like people, some people literally, are so tight to hair. So it's just like understanding that as well and also like affording ourselves freedom of expression as well 100, in the same like just in the same tone yeah. I love that yeah and it's just like just the freedom to choose freedom to express and not feel like. I'M doing this because I have to because I know other people would think it doesn't look good yeah like. Why does what senses even makes it important to be neat like what is that? What difference does it make? It doesn't protect your hair anymore yeah? Why do we need to put half a tub of gummy wax into our hair yeah yeah yeah, for it to look clean yeah, because the gummy wax be really blocking them? That'S so true the thing I don't mind it but, like I feel, like generally, I feel like new age braiders like some new age. Without it, I love how you said new age braiders, because of me, when I was growing up, you just had oil on your scalp. Only in the hand that was there and they ordered them with the extension and your hair was neat as ever literally like you. Don'T have to have got me in there yeah or even if you do like in in moderation yeah I mean some of the hairstyles look great. When the gummy is used, you can see it, but I don't think it's necessary. My my scalp reacts to that stuff. Anyway, even though I love it, I don't really like that it makes my braids um flake flake yeah, so I don't. I prefer I'd rather not look as neat than to have to go through yeah and even like neatness like what the previous one classes wasn't me and what's the matter, yeah yeah neatness is just, I guess I'd say it's a structure like yeah hmm. Here we go. You know what, though the conversations have to be heard. I don't really care that much, I'm more about the health of the hair, so yeah and whatever you do to your hair. So long as your hair is looks after yeah. That'S my thing because yeah you know my thing with frontals is the gluing on the hairline is not the best thing over time over time, so I'm not even against the hairstyle itself. It'S not what it's doing to the hair. Very much like Pro hairstyle Choice, yeah! Exactly just make sure like it's damaging and there's that 100 yeah. So you know where it's like someone has a front one, because they have a frontal. They won't be friends with someone who wears their hair in that afro or they'll, be telling their friend that they shouldn't wear afro, because they don't some of their stuff are not even loudly spoken about yeah. But I think that's what it's conversation about. A girl saying that she doesn't have like non-body friends like what does that even mean? I think I came across it sometimes because again it's that standardized. Look, if you don't have that look you're, not my friend. Basically, like learn body look and it's not like said outwardly, you have an afro, so let's not be friends yeah, it's very, very much that yeah you might. You might not fit into the. I guess the genre friendship genre. That'S funny! I am very much my choice. I was even thinking after that video, If you see me, walk on a free, 6. 13. Middle part. 6. 13. Middle part, blonde wig, it's this is me expressing my choices. It'S true, because people can't see you when you now decide to go and do the hairstyle. You want that's, my point is just exploring yeah. Definitely like there's one. Only one look, you can describe yeah yeah, you wear whatever look. You want just make sure you're not doing that because it's the following the crowd. Yeah. Essentially, even though there is a level of following the crowd we all, we all need to do without realizing that's true, but yeah. That was the main point I wanted to get up. But again, like I said, with hair, it's a triggering things: black hair always triggers yeah yeah, no matter what angle you come from, there will always be someone who's, not happy yeah. No, that's! Okay, too, we're all learning and unlearning yep foreign. It'S just a lot more thorough yeah. I think you may see my scalp from the from the world. Can you see my Scarborough? No it's on the camera. It'S not! That close! No! No, not even I mean like with my hair. Okay, because sometimes I can't see myself - oh yeah yeah, because you can't even see the Scout chocolate stuff get in there get in there, they bring it hit the right button. Just I'm trying my best not to get your too close to your eyebrows. Well, my brother. Oh, they love. Okay, I'm just very pushy. It'S so nice lip liner powder literally the foundation. I just find it so ick. Sometimes it's been a while now foreign. Thank you it's also available. I think this would be my first time of doing my hair, like a style without like Herring without extensions yeah, foreign foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign foreign. Thank you, foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign, okay, it's a lot: foreign foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign foreign. Thank you, foreign foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign, foreign,