Pressed With Indiyah Polack - Black Hair, Acne And Love With Dami | Full Episode | Bbc Sounds

Foreign, you know the Vibes already hey guys. It'S me maramuso your un, problematic influencer and welcome back to the Press. Podcast guys we have a special guest in the building. Basically, what has me press is the fact that love Island isn't on, but the fact that it isn't on. We brought a bit of love Island here. So let's introduce Our Guest. You can introduce yourself go because you are that girl hi guys. It'S your girl, India. I'M gon na say the best Heartbreaker yeah yeah, because guys you could be the it girl. You are the it girl, because we're going to talk about how you are let it go, we'll talk about it we'll get into it. So hi guys Ichigo, India, the it girl and I'm here with the lovely adiola Patron and Maria Musa guys. We are so excited about this episode because we we loved you on love, Island, and I think you just paid so much Faith, because one thing is every single day. I just feel like ninja looked at all you slayed every time, and one thing I just had to say was: I can't lie you set the standard because I think there's always if we go into this conversation, there's always this pressure of okay represent. We want you, we want our yeah and we want our black girl to represent, and I think you did. Your hair was one thing. That was something that I didn't understand why I was a topic of conversation about the topic of conversation but babe. It was so positive, I don't know if you understand you looked so good. Oh, we just wanted to give you that little I mean I can tell you from the jump. It was not easy. Like it's hot out there, 40 degrees you're sweating. The edges are curling up so like everyone that is going on our violent in the future and in the past I understand like I understand, because it was so hard like. I was actually the last one down every day, so you know your thought process when he was going on the island. Was you thinking? Do I do your wigs? I have my hair out like what is your usual hairstyle? I mean I've checked your insta. The blonde is your thing: yeah in your thing very iconic, as well, for like a few years now, like the blonde strike, I bet you, you there's going to be girls that do the strip now, because I I'm gon na. Do it sorry? Yes, you know before, like I went in like I did a tick tock with my science and they literally went everywhere. So it's I feel, like it's been a thing for ages now, but like obviously now I kind of just wanted to do something. That was easy because I know like I've worn wigs before and they are very hard to maintain, especially when they're lifting and it's just very uncomfortable. So I was like what can I do with my natural hair that I can easily maintain, because I've been doing my own hair for years so like as much as everyone's like? Oh, how did you do it like? I just know how to do my hair because I've been doing it, but I got tapings, which was quite easy because it was just like your own hair, just a bit longer yeah. So for me it was taping slicking and a ponytail. I could put in a bun have it down and I think the main thing for me was make sure. You'Ve got a tough edges brush and a satin scarf and some good gummies honestly the harder the brush the better the slit. Because if you get the have you guys ever had the edge control, the gummy, where it's just oil, it doesn't even yeah, but you know what I do like. I literally would slick it with the gummy wax and then I would spray it and then I'd wrap it with a head scarf. So every night I'd be doing my hair, but my hair's wrapped. Whilst I'm doing my makeup yeah, so it can set. Take it off. Honestly, it's so crazy because I thought the ponytail was like a clip-on because I've had it just flicked, so nice, so for the first. So I chopped and changed so like the first two weeks I had tapes and then my tape started getting old, so I took them out and then I went to the hotel yeah I took them out, you didn't have any additional help or just just all you Lot with your hair in it because I always yeah, I always think when some there's some episodes where you look just look all freshened up so yeah. I only got my tapes done twice in the house in the house twice so every day I was doing my own hair, literally all like doing each other's hair, but um yeah. So I had my tapes when I first went in and then I took them out after like three weeks so I'll just get a monkey and then, after that I was slicking up my natural hair in a bun and using a clip-on ponytail. Okay. So that's why? My ponytail looked so perfect because it was clip on ponytail and then after like week, five they sent someone in to redo my tapes and then because they're taped. I could slick that in a ponytail by itself, but um yeah. I just felt natural hair. It'S just nothing's better than sometimes than just having you know it's just easier as well in the heat, if it wasn't, for the heat, I'd definitely be rocking the wigs wow because of the Heat, and I'm so like. I would have been walking around in my Prison Breaks honestly because I'd have been like. I can't get it all right. You know what I mean, but um. I just try to do something easy. I think I think, like a bun, we always say this thing that having your hair up in a bun is such a flex. It'S such an elite to look yeah. If you do it do it, it just brings out your face. Yeah it gives you like a cute snatch and a little lift and your natural face, and then, when you do bring out the wiggas like, oh because when you brought, I think I don't know the first time. I I remember her bringing out the wig. Was this? The sexy challenge - yeah yeah, oh okay - and you know I knew so. I brought that book with me and I was like I'm gon na wear it. When I have time yes because bear in mind, we only get like two hours to get ready exactly and there was like six of us and then we were like waiting for the shower. It'S like if you've not shotgun. First for the shower, remember it's cones! Yeah! Do I mean you're waiting? I hate the fact that it's like listen. I don't need to be. I don't want to be that person that takes the longest, but I actually take the longest. So you guys to let me shower. Oh, do you know what we would be doing? Shotgun first yeah, but it's like. Oh sorry, I'm getting in there I'll be like yeah, I'm shower first, but it's something, that's what I mean but um yeah. So it was tough. I'M not gon na lie. I was lost down every day. The channel is India like. Can we get downstairs yeah but um? Listen, it's not as easy as just looking up this humidity, the curls everything's against me everything more time and even like the way. I do my makeup. I feel like I'm a very like full coverage, heavy girl, so I view the foundation the concealer, the baking like. I don't just do a bronzer. There wasn't any acidics there's it's like. I need a full beat yeah, it looks great, but I feel like for me. So I used to suffer from really bad acne, so I have had pigmentations yeah yeah. So for me, I, like full coverage, yeah yeah. I want to ask you about Angela, you you suffered with acne our Point yeah and yeah. How did you guys find that, especially for you going into Villa yeah, I mean so, I've always had Acne from like the age of maybe 14. As long as I can remember, and I only really started like getting it on to wraps, maybe like a year ago. So, like a year ago, I was on rowakatane because that's how bad it got um - and I remember before I went into the Villa - I just finished my course, but I had a really bad acne breakout and I was thinking like I'm about to go on national Tv, my Skin's looking a mess like, and it really got me down, and I thought I don't want to go like what am I going to do because it wasn't just on my face, like I had on my chest on my back like scars on my chest Or my back from everything, and then it got to a point where I thought. Okay, I got to do this, I mean I just thought you know what nobody's perfect like I've done, my interviews and I'm more than my scars and my acne, you know what I mean and it's like they're interviewing me and they want me to go on not Because of my face, but because of who I am and as a person, I thought, if I can go on there, rock my skin, be my natural self and just sort of make people know and girls like it's okay to have acne. You know I mean everyone thinks everyone's always like oh drink water like, but you can't drink water, just thought, you're acne outage. I mean it's not something that you can just fix with a great skincare routine like you either have it or you don't. But for me I just didn't want that to be a reason why I didn't do something yeah, you know what I mean. No, I get it because I've had acne before and honestly it can literally cause you to be so down like even like. Sometimes you think even like makeup doesn't even help sometimes, so I feel like. Actually, I didn't even really notice that you felt like that towards your skin, but I feel like it's nice to see because it's like acne scars are normal and sometimes when you're, just seeing just clear skin, clear skin you make it it makes you feel like. Oh, my God, maybe I can't go on TV because that's not normal, so it's nice to see what you found it really like this anyways but like even be like in the Villa like during the day. I didn't wear makeup because I was like do you know what I'm gon na embrace my skin yeah? I'M not gon na wear makeup during the day I'm gon na embrace my skin you're gon na love me for me and I'm just going to be here and glow yeah. You know I was just doing me: people love realness, though not too real, but you was just what we needed yeah like I wouldn't want, obviously me and anyone else. I wouldn't want anyone else to feel like. Oh, you have to cover up what is you yeah? I mean my scars are me I would have been here without them. You know what I mean, so I'm not going to cover them up baby you're. Just gorgeous, though like no makeup gorgeous yeah, it was nice, no one's perfect at the end of the day. There'S no connection everywhere, but it's the realness that people love and I feel like that's gon na definitely like give some of our listeners as well a little bit of confidence. I feel like going on a show like love riding as well. People almost think, oh my God, you've got to be perfect for so many people just before they know they're going on a show, make so many changes like. Oh, my God. Okay, let me quickly get veneers. Let me quickly get fillers. I'D never had those thoughts, but I have had lip fillers before I had them once before, but then they naturally dissolved but like with me, they asked me: oh, have you changed any habits babe? I haven't been to the gym before after, like I was just me, you know what I mean like. I never felt that I needed to change myself yeah. You know, because you just got ta, be you exactly yeah. Well obviously, you're on this show because of you know, press podcasts and agile, and I want to know: is there anything that actually has you pressed that we can understand yeah thinking of well? This was just random on my way here when I was in the car. It'S really stupid idea, talk about it, the driver's like, oh so, where are we going not being funny? You have this, I put it in the address. I don't even drive, I don't even know where I'm going. What do you mean? Where are we going? That is what, because it happened to me on the way here really and you're like oh, so where are we going? I was like: can you not see or how do we get there like what direction I was like it's in in this house? I think they get the thing later. You know, I think. Sometimes they accept booking, as in like is around the corner, and then they don't see where you're going and then that's why sometimes they cancel. But they call me fast because there's one driver, sometimes a black hole tunnel, is madness. This driver called me and I didn't want him to know I was going for. I was like I'm coming down to them coming downstairs yeah, but I think it's if it's Central, if it's traffic, they want to know beforehand and it's just like regardless you're getting paid to be my taxi driver. So why no big deal yeah, but I have had a situation one time the guy didn't complete the trip because where we were going, it was like congestion charge or something, and he didn't want to pay it. So he was like I'm not completing the trip. Like you have to get out of the car - and I was like I'm literally paying for this cab, what are you talking about and he was like yeah like it's congestion Zone I was like. Is this not what you get paid for honestly like? What'S your problem? They say that they don't I've asked the taxi services like yeah. They take out their own yeah like that stuff isn't covered. So for them. It'S like I don't wan na, but it's like respectfully when I booked that trip. You saw the address and you knew where you were going, so why did you accept it exactly? You know, but yeah that had me press on the way here, oh boy, on the way. Well, one thing that has me press well, man, it doesn't have Hannah, has been pressed because she was going to tell me the story, but you said she was going to save it. Oh okay, but um just people that just lie, so he was going to tell me a story about someone lying on your name: okay right. So this anyway, I don't even know where to start, but this has to do with when I was at University, is a shift in your life yeah yeah. No, I went to sixth War yeah and then, when I left sixth warm, I just went straight into working because it was like that toss-up between. I don't want to go pick a subject that my heart's not in and then I drop here and then it's just a waste of time, but I'm not against it. No, I always said like. If I found a subject, I loved I'd absolutely go to YouTube, but I just never found one yeah there's that debate in it like you need kind of like it's just you want to waste money or if you don't know yeah, like particular things like. If you want to be a doctor or a lawyer, I would guess you need unique exactly you know if you're just a lot of us, don't now have an option to make money a different way in the conventional way. So if you can, whilst you're young there's the only time you can make your mistakes, you know like aren't gon na, be imprinted in you forever yeah, so go with the phloem exactly. But basically, this situation had me really pressed because it kind of links to a novel situation. I'M guessing we're going to ask you about. So I Ado, you said you don't like people lying on your name. I understand that because I had that at Uni there was this guy. I didn't even guys I didn't even know the guy, like you know when you just know her name or someone, maybe they're a bit bait, but he went around and told everyone that he had slept with me. Oh no, but what really had me pressed was all right. You can chat like whatever I was just like you're doing a lot like it's fine, but the guy. What he said was so vulgar. He basically tried to. I found it. He was trying to stop guys from moving to him, because what he said was mad guess what he said. How can you lie about an experience with me and he said that oh yeah I had sex in Maryland. It was a bucket. What does that mean? What like you're gon na lose babe a wide vagina different, but I remember that situation because people were just saying things. I think that's not true yeah and that's why it's not true siding me. I'M such a it's not true, so I don't care yeah, but when I tell you every he blocked me for a good year at University, because everyone thought I had that money and men are just so childish, childish and I know his name. If I wanted to be bad mine, I'll just say his name right now and there's actually no such thing as a wide bucket by the way like the vagina, is a muscle it bounces back. Do you know what I mean when I was younger? I used to think, oh, my God, I don't want a bucket, not knowing that it's not even a thing. It'S a muscle like we have babies and go back to normal like so. The point is, I feel, like what does get me pressed is sometimes I feel like men exaggerate things to make them feel a bit better or brand new points, or it makes them feel like the man, and it's like it's not cool is a bit of like Where do you think the delusion comes from, though I feel like it's a bit of like an ego boost and like when their ego gets like crushed? Then they start saying certain things to like? Well, I have to get you back because you're not going to fob me off sort of thing. Yeah, it's true, so you know sometimes men just don't like the fact. They can't have you and it's like they can't accept that yeah I mean so they want to start. I don't find that mad though lying on sex or lying on intimacy or exaggerating. I was gon na. Ask you about that because I just wanted to know. Where did do you think in his head? Do you know what I had a conversation with him the other day wait? Can we have oh him as in? If you know you know, you know yeah I mean less. Even you know what Mr I don't want peace, our problems always do you know what I had a conversation with him the other day to sort of touch base, because obviously I've come up the villa and I'm seeing him it's the way he's been saying it on Certain chats that making out even lipsing off and I'm just sort of like well the only kiss I remember, is in bed when we came back and in casra Moore. So I spoke to him on the phone about it and he was like yeah. But you know there was a time where I made you peppermint tea and, like you, I gave him remember he said thank you. I was like. I gave you a oh thanks for the tea well and I was like respectfully. I didn't even count as anything because it was so insignificant, like I'm only talking about the intimate time that I absolutely and it meant something yeah, but it's like he was holding on to like every single thing, and it's like with that. Every single thing it was only the pepperminty kiss and probably that's it. You know what I mean and it's like. I will never deny anything if I'd done it, I'd done it with chat. You know what I mean, but the fact that I didn't even remember it is because it was so insignificant and it was like you bought me a cup of tea and I just gave you a thank you kiss, but you're going around doing Tour de France and Now you're doing it, you know if it was that important, I feel like he would have said just maybe straight after he would yeah. You know that kiss like for me it meant something, but why is it now that you're now everyone's out, you want to be bringing out something that you've never even spoke to me about anyways, and it's like it's the way you say things like even on like I think it was on Will's podcast, whatever the way he was like. Oh, let me not talk instead of you to just be like oh yeah like she did have like little. Thank you kiss like it wasn't really that deep. The way it was said it was said in a way that me and you were like little yeah, and you know it wasn't that yeah and it's like you know me, I'm never gon na lie about it. If I did it, I didn't even now and it's refreshing my memory, but it's like you know, don't try and make it look like me. You were more than what it was sort of thing. Yeah, it's the Indie outfit, though, isn't it? Oh no, if they're into your effects like something to you that was, it was significant when he was just thinking like that kiss that she gave me when I made her the peppermint, you guys slightly. Don'T you love that when you know you know when you have that effect on people yeah, you ever find it like. Sometimes, if you've been in situations where maybe you're the crazy one in a situation where a guy you're moving mad. But when you see the guy move a bit like like right, every little thing means something you feel right habit like that. It'S me, that's what you have India wow wow I've seen like you are stopping traffic someone's like. Oh, I saw India I'm like well today, because you do look really good on camera. I I will confirm every yeah. She does look even more in real life, no for real but yeah. It was just that, but we obviously hashed out to us yeah, but it's like when things are going around it's like also. What do you even gain from that because we're not even together yeah, I mean like I'm in a relationship now, I'm with dummy, so you going on? Was it official now? Oh, it's been yeah sure wait. Did I miss something girl? You missed the whole? No, but you know what I'm saying like as in for now: it's been official for some time, yeah, so for you to come out and be like. Oh, let me not talk it's like it's void. Yes, it's so voice, it's slightly. Ah, this is me being on me being problematic. I have my moments besides, I just think is I mean you missed out like what can you do like? I could only remember yes because I I think they're just so funny guys, but I think there's certain things where we say all right leave it now like not that he's trying, but it's like this is our situation. This is our time. Yeah like it's all right. That'S not this, let's not associate with like this anymore, because honestly he's a calm guy. You know what I mean like brought him back, not for like no reason like we get along. We click he's actually a genuine nice guy. I don't have like terrible word to say about him, but it's like leave it yeah and stop trying to look for something to hold on to, because there's actually nothing dating scene, though realistically you know when I was watching you in that situation, I was thinking realistically, Like she's, only just seen dummy like she needs to go see someone else find if there is that connection, because sometimes you know what they say. Sometimes you need to see what you're missing you'll never know unless you're really missing something that you know right, like you, guys, went official and now that's how you're so happy when you was ran past that corner with him. I was like. Yes, I don't think I've interacted with my TV as much as I did when you were there yeah, and it was just like just that whole. Oh, my God I mean it was. It was the words because I was feeling the same thing I was like. I hope this girl doesn't crack. Oh, no, absolutely not, and you did it and you stuck, and it was just like you just never lost eye contact. You didn't even crumble a little bit, but a little bit of you did. You feel like a little bit hurt inside. Oh, I don't even know if they add when I walk when I walked through and I was with deji I leech I was like you know what I mean so when I was like going back and forth with him. I didn't see no one else. I was saying you're not having the last words yeah like you're, not about to make me look yeah and I love you, but that's how I feel like when I was watching it because um it was when I was vlogging, like my whole reaction. For that episode was mad because it was like you know, they're months, where they always say that the way you argue with someone just shows how you guys are the way YouTube. There was no one else. There was like okay. If there was no cameras, let's just kiss on me kiss the cow is used there. You both cared. If you didn't care, neither of you would have given that yeah, but I think that's why it was just so enjoyable to watch, because it's like relatable yeah. Definitely, I think, that's what it was really. It was just sort of like we know that we had to do our thing yeah. We both know that we like each other. We want to beat each other, but it's like you have the audacity that will actually do it, because I know I said, do your thing, but you actually done it like you say no more literally, so I think that's what it was really but yeah guys we're Gon na move on to the hotline, so we're gon na hear what you guys are going through and we obviously have a special guest India that can add to the wonderful advice we give every week. So let's listen to the first hot liner. I actually have two things that impressed about today, but I only discuss one on my for you page on Tick. Tock. I'Ve been seeing a whole bunch of stories related to this, and I just wanted to hear what you guys have to say on this. So we all know how, like men, settle and a theory that has come to many other women around the world is the idea that a lot of men are genuinely just still in love with the first person they were ever ever in love with and they're. So in love to the point where they're not able to actually almost like, show the Same Love or show that same intensity of love to another woman, because they are still in love with their first love. Does that make any sense that may be love, but maybe they've been hurt by their first love? They carry it into not to be big headed, but I feel like my ex is still in love with me. I hear it. Those actions proved that slightly because some like it's still do you know what I mean yeah, but I think if you've found someone that's healed, then it's fine. If you're getting signs of someone that hasn't been healed, then just they did like yeah like respectfully. I don't know what goes through these men's heads, but if you can't like move on, but hopefully why are you talking to someone else like, don't come and bring your baggage to me? And now you can't give me 100 because you're thinking about your ex like stay over there, you know, I think love is such a nice experience right. So if you come out of something, that's that you were in love right, you know the good parts of life. Obviously, we've loved there's bad parts, but the good part. So I see it as why? Wouldn'T you wanna give that best part of you for someone? That'S even better. You know they say. Oh, you know they're, not out of love, but it's like get over it move on how? How are you ever gon na? Actually, if it's a selfish thing, where you're like thinking about yourself, how on Earth are you gon na, actually get the best version of your relationship if you're still Clinging On to someone else, be your best version for that new person that they're looking for that, like They want to be in love, but they haven't actually moved on and then, when you get with another person, then you actually realize. Actually I haven't moved online looking for a distraction, but then don't you feel like sometimes girls, we don't let go, but also. How do you know that a guy is not giving you 100 because he's thinking about his ex? What if he just doesn't like you that much, then you should know. Actually, I mean because I feel like if a guy's not giving me 100, I'm not even going to be thinking of things or maybe it's the X. Maybe it's this. If you're not giving me 100, you don't like me yeah. So what are all the contributing factors? Are avoid you just don't like me enough, but does that not just depend on you as an individual as well? What kind of love language and love expectations? How do you know when you're in love? How many times have you been in love, um, twice advice. I think twice like why. Okay, let me tell you guys a stop story really quickly. So my first love, I'm gon na, say his name, because it's just funny Lola. That was from, like you know, when you you know when you, oh no, no! No! No! I'M screaming no he's almost done. You know when you used to go to how you know at your um Family parties, and they were just that guy. That was always there and you guys used to just like each other yeah. He was my like when I was five and um. Let me finish: there's three acids. He was my young love and that I remember how I felt in that age yeah and then I had my when you're six there's this 15 to 16 year old love. You know your first puppy love where it's so far, you kiss for the first time you you like rebelly a little bit your parents think you're at obstacle Club but you're, really at the park with the guy. That was what that was my second love, and then my third real love, I would say, is what I'm in now. Would you say that the first two, though, wouldn't you count that as last more than yeah now that you're in this love that you are in love, obviously comparing it back to the two words, compare it to the. I only compare it as okay. Now I'm older, so certain things and certain levels of a relationship is easier to take, but when you're young but the same emotion the same, I would do anything for you. That'S enough for me babe. I would say up until now once because I'm very strict with it as in when I look at all the people I've been with it's like you realize, if I can sort of do certain things and chat, other people and sort of forget about yourself am I In love, or is it just deep blast yeah, I feel like there's, you can have love for someone, but being in love is a whole different ballgame. I still don't really know, but it's like, but what you're in now is kind of like depart compared to compared to everything else. You know what I mean and don't you feel like your journey has been at the end of day. It'S been transparent, you're here to find love, yeah, so realistic. The person you're meeting is exactly the same, use, agile, says really sick thing. She was watching, do you know Carla and oh, and they said this thing where it was like. We literally just gave it to all yeah and I feel, like I don't know just like in relating to me - that's what I've done, because I've been used to sort of like oh, not going the full way yeah, I'm not your girlfriend. So I can't do this, but it's like actually I'm gon na do it all cards cards on the table and I feel like when you give it your all and you let your guard down. It'S so easy for you to fall in love, because it's like, if we're both giving it 100, nothing can ruin it. Yeah I mean you're, just there's no way it is you're just enjoying it like there's no games, there's like nothing. It'S just us. Do you ever feel a pressure that, because, at the end of the day like we watch you guys on love Island, so we wan na? We genuinely want to see the journey it's nice. Do you feel now that maybe people want to see it way more and how are you now going to deal with that pressure, yeah yeah, or do you feel like you're gon na? I feel like I'm definitely gon na. Take you guys on a journey because you've seen it yeah, I mean you've been watching it so to not show you it's just sort of like well, what's happening, yeah yeah, but then I still don't feel that pressure with me. I do like my private and privacy. I mean so really with the whole social thing. The ball is in my core, like if I don't want to show you a lot something yeah I mean especially, I know, and it's so cringe for me, this uh black lab. I love who you are like just because I'm black does it mean I need to be another black man yeah. You know I mean I have a type, I know who I like, but I don't feel pressured to yeah. I mean just because you know a whole Community wants to see black love and everything it's like. It is what it is, what I've got yeah you could just watch. It'S not like this is my agenda. That happens to be my preference, but yeah. You know just literally, let me do me and I'm gon na enjoy it enjoy. My time without me enjoy our love, and just I love that I could get the Carefree vibe from you, and I just love that, like you're living in your moment and we're just seeing it you're not living for us to see the moment. My story, and you guys are characters. You know you guys characters in my story, exactly that's how it should be because at the end of the day, this is your real feelings. Exactly exactly and it's like the - and this is what I felt like in the Villa - is like as much as it's like a TV show. These are my real feelings: yeah, because you're pissing me about yeah, you don't want entertainment, but this is how I feel you know. I mean like you're making me feel this way. So I know it's nice for everybody to see, but I'm in relationship with dummy. This is us it's good, it looks good and whatever, but all I care about is how he makes me feel in our relationship. I mean one thing I just wanted to just jump in for you, because I was talking about this the other day right. You say how everything looks good babe, your pictures with dummies. I have to say it to you, I think for us there's. I have an expectation I can't like. I want to see like the content. You two are in the same industry. You guys get it and your pictures have they're my favorite they're the best, in my opinion, they're the best pictures, I'm waiting for someone to have sense and tell you lot to come and do a shoot on a magazine. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Whilst you're here, maybe some watching, maybe like yeah, we won't do it. I can't I can't spill the beans, not the beans, but maybe the salt, the salt base, maybe just do a little. The Maggie I mean all I can say, is watch out. You know. Okay, just don't sleep enough! Oh okay, nice just don't sleep on us, but I feel like we're very. Like both picture guy picture girl yeah. I love it. You know I mean we love looking good. We love taking pictures outfits, so the pictures are going to serve every time. I do it so this is the segment called madness and mass India. So I love to look at what's going on on socials and the TL what's trending and there was something I saw that I'm going to talk to you and I do all about because I think it's such a good topic so I'll give you some subtext. Basically, there's this guy who he basically has his own business. He has a wife and his wife feels as if he doesn't spend enough time with him when it comes to going away on holiday. He has his own business, he's always going on business trips, so he eventually was like cool I'll get you a ticket. You can come with me to this business trip. She was very, very happy, organized the kids, so she's a mum as well to she organized her mum to watch the kids. So she then later found out that that her husband got himself a first class ticket and his friend, but he got her an economy ticket. So at the moment, obviously to stay at home mom and then it gets messy because later in a story, the girl basically makes a kind of an issue about it. She talks about it and then she ends up saying she doesn't want to go like if she's not going to be in first class, then what is this? She rearranged her region when she took the kids back whatever and then the friend texts, the wife basically saying like this - is why we don't go on these trips with you like she, he thinks he's the friend a girl. No, it's a guy but oh okay, cool to me because maybe he's texting us saying how she's entitled for the questions and before I even asked your opinions. I want to give you guys my perspective of it personally. For me, I slightly think the husband, the friend, are just doing the thing, because I don't understand how. First of all your friend is getting involved in our personal friend. Oh the friend, that's also on the first class, but it's the friend, that's going on. First Class part of like the business that he works with like. Why is the friend there so he's an employee, um yeah business partner, but he does go he's always part of the tricks, which is not a problem. My thing is right. The first thing for me is like he responded to her when she spoke to him about the situation, her husband saying how basic she's just a stay-at-home wife. She kind of doesn't really have a leg to stand on because you're not really working, he's gone on a work trip. My first, my first situation with that was you disregarded my work, which is raising the kids running around cleaning the house. That'S a job regardless. If it's not a corporate job, it's still a job racing kids is one of the hardest jobs. If no matter, if a guy's involved or not involved, if something goes way away with the kids, they will always say the mom we are. I personally have seen it. I believe it that the women always are held more accountable for the behavior of their child, so that is already a strain. So I'm doing this, I'm looking after your kids, I get it's a work business meeting, but if I'm married to someone half of what is mine is yours, I might not be doing the academic stuff or the financial stuff, but behind there's a foundation that I'm doing In the background, so if we are a team, I can't imagine me being on a trip with a brand me personally and I can have a plus one, but I bring my friend as a plus one, but I couldn't bring someone that he's explained to me. He'S explained to me that he he doesn't feel like he's involved or he wants to be involved you're my partner, you're my second hand. I want you to enjoy my baby. That'S my job though oh yeah, I'm looking at my job. So let me say my perspective. I get that, but I feel like brand trip bringing a plus one. The brand is praying for it. I feel like if it's a business trip and he's going with his business people and they're traveling business and you're saying you want to come along and then no babe. He said she can come. It wasn't yeah because you're complaining about not coming and but he says, come along but you're giving you an economy. Would you accept it? No, but that's diff. I wasn't personally. If you're going on business, I'm not going to force myself to come. That'S just me like. I will say: let's do our own thing, like our actual Vacation Club yeah, I'm not gon na force myself on a business trip, but it's like if you're forcing yourself on a business trip you're, not part of the business babe, but I feel like she wasn't from The sounds of it, it doesn't sound like she's forcing herself it's like. He she's made it clear that babe we don't go out and I'll fly out enough. She was like okay come with me on my business trip, yeah so and then he's putting her own economy. I think it's like the principal: why does your friend deserve to go because first class, but me as your wife he's an employee like if I was going on a business trip and then my man is in my ear, like oh dude, don't do this yeah yeah? Basically, because if you're going to put me on economy, I'd rather just go with capital, because that's the that's the main part, I think he does like he forced. If it was me, I'd be like we don't spend enough time together, but we need to spend more and if he says he'll come on my business trip. No, I'm not gon na come on your work trip, but do you not see? I want to have us time, but do you not see as her being a wife like I want to support you like I'm at home, it's not on that business world if I'm at home, if I'm at home all right? No, no but babe! That'S a Dynamics! No, but I'm just saying, though, like some people want to do that. No, but I'm just saying, though you know some people, some men say to their wives, that I just want you to be a stay-at-home wife. You just look after the kids. I will take care of the finances in that case, I will have an issue with it, because it's like you told me to be a stay-at-home wife. You told me to look after the kids. Therefore, if I'm asking for this, I shouldn't stop people wanting to support your party, but then, if I'm, if I'm choosing to be a stay-at-home wife and I'm forcing myself not forcing myself, but is that a business trip I'll just be like okay, whatever, but if it's Like I want vacation, then I would expect well, I feel like regardless yeah, regardless. Okay, I'm a stay-at-home mom, but I'm your wife yeah baby, yes, but then why you got it on the business trip, then he's going to be doing business right, but it's not even the fact that I'm going on the business yeah, okay, you've said it's okay! For me to be around you, why am I not getting the same treatment as your business is that you complaint I'm your wife yeah, but you're, not a business Expert, but can I give you guys this idea? Okay, let me tell you something: you know how you said: oh, but you're, not part of that business thing right, so you know how, for example, you can say to your partner. I don't feel like you buy me flowers right. Let me just say one thing. I know you I know you're capable of including them in your business or including me of like buying me. These things must you now just because no, you know I'm kind of talk about the spelling thing, because if you can put it like that cool, if you're, if you've, given a paint to your partner, say this is I'm feeling like this about the situation? Must you now give me the bare minimum, I'm still out of style? Why are you going? My problem is, why are you going on the business trip? Why is he not talking about? Why is he not working out your holiday for you? My problem is, is that you can afford to get me, but how do you know that? Because your friend is part of the business, that's like me flying my assistant who's. Also, my friend like yeah she's, my friend, however she's part of the business. So she will also fly business because when I'm doing my accounts on my taxes coming on it, if I want to go on holiday with my man I'll do a vacation and let's both do five things. That'S definitely the principle because it's like, if you're putting your friend on business cards at Mutual, but it's not your friend, it's his employee, but it's his friends. But he said it's his friend if it's actually, if he's in my life, someone that works part of the business, then I like their friends, that's what people you work with, though, if he's part of, what's making him money, you had a husband yeah and he was Going on a trip and you're like oh babe, I just want to come for the cracks. You know I mean I feel like we don't spend enough time together, but he's like oh just come along. Just come along come along and then he's booked his friend a business class and he's like yeah, so like I'm, seeing that as a person that he works with that's also supposed to be on the business trip regardless. It'S still somebody that he has a relationship with friends, though, like there's rappers that have girls, they will fly with their people. That'S part of their crew yeah on their business trip on the Jet, and then the girls that are like thing will go on a plane because it's like you're, not part of you're, not part of what I'm doing to be there. I highly well, I don't know I can't speak, but I highly doubt that say, for example, if these rappers were going on jet that they're all day to go on, but Travis Scott to go on economy flight. When you know Kylie has a jet she's, not that's what I'm saying she's, not a stay at home. I feel like just because she says stay at home doesn't mean she doesn't deserve. It depends how the stay at home came about, though, like if she said she wants to be a stay-at-home mom. That'S my business, I'm just saying if it's a business trip and I'm complaining about spending like I'm complaining about spending time with you personally, I'm just gon na be like okay. Let'S just do our own vacation. If I'm campaigning campaigning campaign and you're like okay cool, come on the business trip with me and then you're flying everyone business and then I'm going to economy personally, I just would personally, I just wouldn't go because I wouldn't go on the business exactly, but it's the Fact that he hasn't fought that far ahead to be like babe come on like first class with me exactly if you're not gon na, do it and you're not going to do business like how you are with everyone else, don't bother doing it or just do it Separate yeah, I just yeah. I agree it's the principle, it's a principle for me as well yeah, because I would feel a little bit like if my man's gone on business flight he's like yeah baby get an economy, I'm like um yeah Jacob. Are you mad? Okay, yeah so guys hashtag, prep podcast. Let us know what you think subscribe to BBC sounds make sure you keep your eyes peeled because there's something to look out for, and you know, um we'll see you next week. Absolutely it's been a pleasure girls. It'S been a pleasure bye guys on