All New Black Women With Weave Vs Natural Hair

Today we're talking about an issue, I know it's very near and dear to all of our hearts and our heads, because I'm talking about hair now personally, I've tried just about everything and anything over the years, and because of this I have had my own share of Highs lows and plenty of critics now, whether you have good hair bad hair, are on Team natural or are processed and proud of it. It consumes and divides us, and I wanted to get to the root of all the drama. So, let's start by checking this out: hair is a source of pride and at times prejudice. This is especially true to the african-american community, from early Egypt to tribal Africa. The significance of hair has always played a role in defining a woman's beauty and her work, but today something as simple as a hairstyle can ignite a firestorm of controversy. Your hair is nappy, they're, not happy. Chris Rock's documentary good hair tackled the issues head-on. What'S your definition of good hair, I'm not relaxed and right within the black community if you have good hair, you're, prettier or better there, the lighter the brighter the better recently Gabrielle Union dizer extensions blonde for an upcoming movie role, and this Instagram photo led to people Questioning my character and my blackness, but then can you be too black, Wendy Williamson, to think so, when Viola Davis wore her tiny afro to the 2012 Academy Awards, another comedian, Sheryl Underwood, shocked audiences. When she questioned why Heidi Klum would save her half black children's hair, you never see us at the hair place going. I need those curly nappy beads that just lose nasty press relax natural. Always somebody always has something to say and today so do we we sure, do we have for women with four different hair journey sitting before you. So on my left, I have representatives from team we, okay yeah. This is K. They love that long lock, they say they're more beautiful when they add on the extra over here we have team natural, McKenna and Nicole, say a black woman's god-given hair is something to embrace and they hate it when non Naturals rejected. So, let's listen to what these four ladies have to say: absolutely love, wigs and weaves. I collect them all like candies. My hair is my ultimate accessory and I just can't get enough. I call my hair pieces, my girls and I name each and every one of them based on how they make me feel very at Polina, this one's miss Leslie and over here we have the twins, my favorite, Yvonne and Yvette. Aren'T they gorgeous? No one has any right to tell me what to do to my child's hair or what I do to my own hair. I'M an all-natural girl and I feel like when I wear my puny afro. It'S a reflection of self love and beauty. Black women should ditch the creamy crack and the fake hair and focus on favor more of their hard-earned life, starting with everyone should feel this kind of freedom. So what if I spent over a thousand dollars a month on my weakness, I look fabulous. It makes me feel good about myself and I'm not hurting anyone, so all the haters and the naysayers zip it up, because I really don't care I'm having an awesome hair day every day, as you can see, when I'm rocking my loser, I've been natural for the Past ten years and that's way longer than these new Naturals even thought about rocking together, they have for me it's not a trend. It'S my lifestyle. I think that women should wear what God gave them. I don't understand why black women are hiding underneath another person there. Why do you want to look like something other than what you are you're beautiful? We are going to start with team weave when we're going to start with Arcadia. Why do you believe that weaves are the way to go well? For me, it started at age 16 and I was just fixated on it since then. I just love the options. I have the versatility, I have to commit it's an accessory. You don't leave home without your car keys, your cell phone okay, you agree with that. I'M guessing yes, I definitely agree. I'Ve been wearing we used to like the past five years, and it just gives me someone fertility like she said: I have the option to color my hair, I'm like addicted to it. I'Ve gone, I have a dog without a weave. I'Ve been like four or five days when I have to treat it and relax my hair, yet I don't take any pictures, I'm like I might wear a hat or a headband. It'S just you hi hi hi. I do hi because when I wear the way that makes my head, my hair looks so much fuller and I look better and I feel more confident on okay. Let me come back to you Acadia. You saw in that that bit of film there that how many hair pieces, usually I have over 60 hair pieces. I don't even answer my front door without one of them on how many six over six would you keep them? I have a closet and I I take care of them and they have name name. What are we rocking today? Dana here's, the thing truth? Okay, so this is the key, no obviously you're natural to me, natural and there's no such thing as us really hating each other. We'Re not different points of view. I think was missing. Here is the historical truth. Before I went natural, it was more of a spiritual thing. It was more so you need to wear weave, oh yeah and guess what I don't necessarily have a problem with us adorning our heads with different hair pieces. We'Ve been doing that historically, since Africa yeah. That'S not the problem. The problem is my sister just said that she cannot go out the house without her hair weaves, so she's hiding her. My sister here just said. She feels more beautiful when she puts that on her hair. I have a problem with that. What I would like to see is more black woman, being okay with when you're in between your weaves wearing what God and increase that to say right there. I don't understand why they feel like we don't think we're beautiful with it. Well I want you go out. Is one without you? That'S just not how I want to present myself to people. Tell me what you wouldn't put it with you've got a wig on now I have a wig on. It would never just pull that off. No, no! I'M not going to take over to show cuz. I could not you just in general, because it's this subject is not going to be covered in an hour. Okay. The point here is: what did you just say? You said it's not presentable enough. I didn't say it wasn't presentable and now that I have it myself anytime, you are aware what you're born as and it's seen as not presentable enough and not pretty enough or not fancy enough. I'Ve been asked what we're going out tonight. What are you going to do to your hair, I'm going to wear my hair? Yes, I'm just as pretty with it in mine, I freaking, let me bring in. I want to bring in Nicole because Nicole, you wouldn't not true how long ago why I heard the very first time I ever cut all my hair about 16, but I've been I've been Kim well relaxed or chemical free for about ten years now, every one of My form braids I've, never one like so names, are ways right, but I've worn braids before so. What point did you want to make? Well, first, I wanted to ask when you say that it's you feel more beautiful, I'm serious as to when did this concept come into your mind that this straight texture was better or more beautiful on you than what you came up with what I was born with. I can wear that any day of the year. Okay, so I just am fascinated about how I can change my look. I can wear a texture. Look if I want to. I can be straight today I can be curly tomorrow. I don't have to commit, and the next day I can wear what I was weren't. You say: what do you think it's all about options? I just want to come back. I'M too Sakina. She was saying that you know where we got what you were born with. You weren't born with that color here right. So that's not natural right. Are you saying here's the thing me wearing my makeup? I can take this off yeah, but what about half done? I can't the problem. Is you don't? Let'S talk about children because you've got little girls, you, you all, have your own mouths all right! You have sons! Okay! Now let me ask you with your daughters: how are they about their own hair? I think they're fine within my oldest she's 10, and actually she she didn't like her natural state of hair. She I'm writing it about the age of seven. So you know she, so you straighten your daughter, you have a three-year-old sure you wouldn't straighten her. I'Ve straightened her OH relax, stresskind jumping we have your mother is not celebrated what she was born as the child is not going to do that. I drink that because my mother wore her natural hair right. My mother, I met O'Hara plan. I'M still me, so I disagree with you just what I'm having other, never wore extensions but beautiful, hair, natural hair. It'S just a personal choice. Now Athena, I should say sakinah's hairstylist, is actually here in the audience with us today. She went wanted in on this discussion. Queenie hi Wow. This is Green sign up for me, Queeny, you look out this akina's natural hair and you have extension so which team are you on? Well, I'm a salon owner, so I'm definitely team weave. Okay, I do have a lot of clients that I make money from it. Absolutely I do have a lot of clients that opted for the week. I believe it's a lifestyle thing. Everybody should have an option. I have a lot of busy clients, people that work out. All the time, the reason is easier to maintain easier, the natural, absolutely black, hair stylists were not trained to do black hair. Let'S get it straight. They were trying to do straight. Hair. That'S not true. The mannequin was black. She actually had wool. Okay, I was like whoa, it's not black hair, so we did get a mannequin was one mannequin that was on kinky, hair, yeah and you're. Absolutely right. They trained us to blow it out and to relax and to hide it's not to hide why all the dancers were trained to hide our hair and they've been doing it for a long time. The blood I got ta tell you that. That'S not the truth. You didn't go to hairdressers you're right, I don't own a salon right. We know that I'm going to cut back too, but just but now let me come to Arcadia. Now, Arcadia we've heard that you've taken your good hair obsession to another shocking extreme. It involves, as I said before, your three-year-old daughter. No, I want to talk more about what we're teaching young girls as well as to hear what men really think about our hair. That'S when we come back today we're talking about the controversial topic of good hair, what it is, what it isn't and women joining me today, like much of the country, are divided on this hot-button issue. Now Arcadia admits she's a hair, a holic and has taken her obsession to new lengths when it comes to her own children. You see Arcadia has gone as far as to chemically straighten her three year old, daughter's hair. Why it Chris looks nicer and if you can see her in the video, it's not just bone straight, it just kind of pains it to where it's more manageable. So you take to ride a texture, softener, that's for chemical fishy, or else she did not. She did not ask for I make that decision on my own new hardrive and I chose to do that. Her texture is different from my oldest and it was a little bit more for me to manage and that just saves time and it's less painful for her. I do know that when we're we doing this blood on your hands, there's a bloody lawyer in listen. Well, you she is now taking this to the level where you're teaching a three-year-old that what she is born as is not good enough for the world. You need to be dancing. No, I don't see you see with beautiful beer or, if she's beautiful. Now you that's what you say with your mouth, but your axes are saying otherwise you're older you're, to where she went sport, fake ponytail time she does allow her to wear them. Would she ever wear any of your weave? So at her slumber party we had a pink carpet event and for all the girls wore my hair pieces and they strutted them down the carpet. Let'S get this tree, I hear a lot about hair trends and well. It just makes me beautiful when you go back in the history of black hair and I think that's what's missing what my sisters when you go back into the history of black hair, you realize that we as a people did not choose to do this because of A trend, our ancestors to assimilate in a society that was not theirs. This is me I don't like that. I don't that's not true, but once again reading I am yes. Reboot is what I'm study not a lot of times. We stray in the hair because it's manageable American Journal of Epidemiology has done studies and it has correlated early puberty and relaxers to young black girls. Okay, we know they also. They have made correlations between relaxers and fibroids and blocking the PCB jumps in that just a minute. Let me give me just hold onto me: I want to jump in there because, as a journalist, I always go behind source. I did go back to the original Boston University study and they put out a statement. They never did that there was misreporting you'll never ever made that correlation. So I need to say that that perfect metro, I need to say that I need to say that legally for the Boston and everything like that, I don't mention the boss favors, but that's where it came. But let me come back to Arcadia, because I'm interested her sister is in the audience. Tracy Tracy start up. You have natural airhead. What do you think your niece is having their hair straightened and seeing mom with all these hair pieces? What do you think it's doing to that? My niece's are beautiful. My sis is beautiful, she's beautiful arcaders has worn natural, hair and she's beautiful with it. I found out that she bad and I tell her I'm gon na, do what you described and I know nobody boring. I know I knew that we don't give me problems yeah, you tell anybody I'll, just say: they'll see it and then I'll hear all that this ginger who get up in the morning it has to be to work at 8:30 and called young man with a daughter With alright it's old Bank, I want to just mom, you put your hand up you pressing your pressure. I do my own behavior, but I don't want to say Chris. I do want to say that my arm granddaughter, who is 10 years old - and I got a problem with you - know - good a girl should have ponytails and they should dirty should be like little girl. Yes, my granddaughter wants her here. Downer back shaking and bouncing and behaving is because her mother here is, but you know it, sir, you do send bad messages. You got to be real body, not a bad message for her here, so be comfortable herself a her here. Look, let me wait for it. Thank you. We, my daughter, has long here a minute, just listen to me for one minute. This is the deal. We don't need here bouncing and behaving to be company crazy. So you know more about it being natural. That'S right! The the topic of wearing a different texture, hair versus wearing your own temperature - that's not what we're getting is not about it being enhancement, it's about how you and you allow your children to view themselves. I feel like they are. They are paying you all good. I am black enough, we're not wearing nappy hair. I know I'm black with weed without it's not thank you all have an issue with owning your ethnicity like this is the only way to die? No, I don't think it is you're, a black woman. That'S what our blonde hair, I'm still a black, how them in there are women, and I'm not saying it's you there are women, that's honestly, so their core beliefs, this! This is absolutely the ugliest thing. We'Ve got to create their problem. Okay, shame! That'S extreme! Once a extra not an extreme it, I told you Santa Maria, where now I want to come back to Tracy's music, to make some remarks in say. You thought your system was very beautiful with her hair natural, yes, and you would like. Would you like they're? Not even answer? Yes? Well, wait through answering on a challenge to you Arcadia today we have our dream team stylist team here and they are willing to give you a natural hair makeover. Are you I'm not wearing my own hair in about eight year? Hey it's been about eight years since I actually openly warned my own hair. Are you willing to give Dana Rodale? They have to work hard, but you know I'm willing to because even at work the students I work at a hair school, they ask me: when am I going to ever wear my own hair, so I'd be willing to get your head on back and you know Our dream team are going to make your natural dreams come true and we're going to see the results at the end of the show that should so be my guest coming up coming up. We take the black hair debate to the barbershop. What do men really think about your hair Robbie like that today we're talking about the highly debatable issue of good hair? In fact, our panelists have been discussing this route right throughout the commercial break and everyone in the audience. Now we've heard from team natural and we've heard from team weave, they both had a lot to say, but my next guest opinions may shock you all. This is fairness 2005, as he's known on YouTube by his audience, and he believes weave is leading to the degradation of the black race. Listen to this, there are so many Negro pa black females out there I get tired of looking in the heads. You can talk to them without them twirling their hair in a shed and it's licking all over. They handed it donate hair. All around you don't have to impersonate a European a white female many black women are going to start losing their men because of that weed, because they're just tired and sick of looking at that fake head some dead folk hair on the head, their animal hair on Their head he's tired of looking at it. This is about that reversal. Out of the blocks is Queenie because she's joining us on stage of Arcadia's getting her makeover now fearless 2005. This is the name you go to to protect your anonymity, so that means you're not really that fearless. But I like this go on about that. Do you really believe the things that you're saying exactly exactly and that's a good example of Negro peeing women? I lift them in the background. Did you call them Negroes, pee yeah, a Negro pen, black woman is a woman that feel now always completely over standing that there's women that where we for different reasons, sickness cancer, their hair, thinning, they're getting older every now and then they may want to switch up On their hairstyle, okay, but then there's the peon women that feel that the only way they can show their true beauty is the wear a weave to look like a European. I would never say that, because I look good with or without my weed, let's be clear. Okay reasons why people do wear extensions? Like you said, I have alopecia clients, I have clients that are suffering from cancer that are going through chemotherapy on clients that are thinning. Like yourself, men, clients, I have men when I want more of what fearless 2005 has to say about this now. Do you think women with weaves look beautiful a lot of women that wear weave now? Look like 1970 prostitutes, 375 say I'm standing a lot of them. Look like 1970 okay stand now. You call me an extreme, not you yo! Are you married? Are you do you have a partner, because I want to know what your pen lateral or not no way well, first of all, cuz that it goes back to nitpicking regardless if a person is married and not married, that still does not change no, but to be Your partner, like yes, I'm with somebody, been together for quad 24 years. Naturally, since you got natural hair, how does she wears a relaxed in the collar? No, no. Actually, she goes to a older hairdresser that does it here. What are they straighten it? Okay, that's not necessarily true, I'm a totally what what is her hair one of me, but now one of the things when we were talking about doing this show. I pointed out that coming from Britain, the first thing the people learnt about extensions, was a story actually on Victoria Beckham. Having extensions in England, expansions weaves were seen as a white woman thing. It'S only recently become a bat woman's thing, so there you go and to prove it. I have ya, see I'm teaching you a little bit. Alright, I've a procrastinator to you from England, Yan from Wakefield yeah and I've got human hair extensions in I've been having them in for like over a year and it boosts my confidence and to do my hairstyles and stuff like that. I don't think there's a problem if you're, black or white, you can have extensions this. It makes you feel better inside either. A lot of girls follow the girls in England also best friends of hair extensions. All the smart British white stars have hair experiences. I don't have my hair extensions in for a night out feel half dressed. I feel like half ready for the night out. That'S how I feel so. Does she look like a 70 took her as well? I was gon na come already. This was between her and her wearing the hair cuz. Look at her hair. Her hair looks like her hair. That'S the texture of her hair. They look alike because she's wearing she when she's wearing her own style of there. You don't see any of your appearance when they're sure you don't see any European women putting on African wigs do get hair curly. I never seen it. I actually asked this gentleman. What is view was the Nikki. What do you think so? I want to hear from a guy from you my view on it is own. I'M team natural currently right now to weave is in you know, weave is the new thing yeah it's a fashion. I feel like I'm in I'm in I'm in I'm a model, I'm an actor I'm in for the entertainment business. I come across a whole bunch of different beautiful women and I think that weave is just a um. It'S a facade, but at the end of the day, if it builds your confidence up as a woman, then go work for you. You know then very, but but I'm I'm all for team natural, I'm all for tuned. That'S where I got three beautiful daughters. My daughter wanted, my oldest daughter, has dreads my two young ones. As natural hair. It'S never been relaxed, it's never been texturizer, there's never been anything and I'll i'ma leave that option upset them when they get older. I make that decision. What I'm gon na say is. I feel like black women are often demonized for wearing wigs and extensions and so forth, and the young lady down there I was going to say, like black women are the only one wearing them white women are wearing them all different cultures, they're buying it from India. Whatever doesn't matter like it's not necessarily a form of self hate, and you know you see white people tanning. Does that mean they hate their skin new digit out dancing there, okay, we'll be right back. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and we know fearless 2005. Does not speak for every man, so we decided to go to our local barber shop and hear what some average men really think about black hair watch. This button here is anything: that's not nappy. If I could touch my answer, you hear and they just stop. Oh, like a net is not good here. I think natural hair is the way to go for most women, but um seems like we've is an epidemic right now. I think the most odd thing that happened to me was a fight outside the barber shop and I went outside and there was a bunch of weave blowing down like tumbleweed down the street very odd. After a fight you sleep in and you think it's a spider web on your neck and you realize it's a weave on your hair and then once you've been weed. It'S like a horror flick after that you're maintaining here it should be no problem. I think girls, if we were really hiding, go to looks I'll, have no problems, a girl with a little after long as I look good like currently, the best shows out everything so the north nori night. My wife has long beautiful here, but when she wants to where we I'm good with it, but longer back and foolish we're good. Okay, we'll be right back. Welcome back welcome back earlier in the show we met Arkadia, who was all about the weave and the wig. Now remember: she owns over 60 hair pieces, she gives them names and she refuses to be seen with her natural hair. We gave her a challenge so now we're about to see with natural hair, assist the Tracy's with me. So let's see how you ready for this. Come on out, Arcadia Wow was that we like it. Why did I love it now? My hairstylist David was the one who created this look for you he's in the in the audience, David's panda. You did this in about 20 minutes. What did you do? What we colored it, we are saved it and we also start down. We talked, and I told her not to lose herself in her wigs who weaves her braids whatever, and I wanted her to embrace her own hair. Now I want to come to you fearless. What do you think that's the worst of all the big? Now she looks beautiful. She looks like an African Queen. I are you beautiful before? Are you gon na try this out, keep this for a lotta wear to wear. I promised the students. I will come back with my hair, so I'm gon na go and let them great. I came back eliminated, but you know yeah. I like it you're like. Let me thank all of our guests for sharing their stories and their spirited opinions today. We'Ll be right back. Welcome back we're talking about hair and at the beginning of the show I had hinted at my own hair history, so I'm doing something! I'Ve never done before. I'M pulling out some old photos per share with you. So be nice, everybody! Ok! So my hair journey started like many of you. There was that Sunday ritual of having my hair yeah. You thought it was hot combed. Every Sunday I used to be terrified of the rain. My mother gave me a little rain hat if it rained put that rain hat on, because you don't want your hair going all frizzy. That was my fear, so one of my most mortifying memories once my mother punished me because I was messing around and she made me go to my piano lesson with nappy hair and I cried and I cried, and I cried, and all I was doing was playing The piano, but because I was sitting there with my natural hair that was the worst punishment, so I'm talking about in the 70s early 70s. Now I I never saw my mum without her wig. I think we've got a picture never ever ever ever. I had to knock on her bedroom door and she just a minute just a minute and she would come out with her wig now. I think I've got another picture here where I went to dreadlocks. I had dreadlocks for many years my mother hated it. She told me I look like a drug dealer because only drug dealers wear locks they're dirty okay, so I had my talk show and later on. I was on air every single day and that's actually when I was going through chemotherapy and I wore a wig when I did my talk show and I had a short wig. I absolutely hated wearing that wig because my head was so sensitive. Here'S another hairstyle and people went crazy when I had that on TV it was seen as being too black. You like that. That'S a weave that is a week. There was pressure. There was pressure to clean the afro. Let me tell you: if you on television, every single day and you're having your hair start, any female on television, black white asian will tell you your own hair cannot stand the styling every single day we nearly all wear, weaves or extensions or something. So let me tell you my husband's been incredibly supportive. He doesn't care about my hair choice, thick and and in fact I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2008 and it was my husband who said to me cut it all up and I used to joke when I'm going to cut off all my hair and dye. It blonde and it really easier to look after so he said. Do that and I did it was devastating. I cried I had to get drunk. My stylist came to my house. This was the day it was done and I'm there with my daughter. It was my way of saying you know to cancer. Now somebody said about influencing our daughters. Yes, we do influence our children's perceptions. There are my two little girls when they were little with their natural hair they've got gorgeous gorgeous curls. I love their curls. I was a single mom for a while and guess what, when they grew up, they restarted relaxing their hair. There they're my two daughters once got a foster four ponytail, the other one has a weave in, and I say to them leave why don't you have your natural curls? Why don't you leave your hair out and they say: oh look at you mother, so I've got to tell you I'm one of my favorite songs. Is India Ahri's? I am NOT my hair, because that is something that I think we all as women need to. Remember. India Arie says I am NOT my hair, I am NOT this skin. I am the soul that lives within we'll be right back. Thank you. I want to thank you for watching. Just before we go. I just have a personal note. I got a text from my my kid sisters going through breast cancer at the moment and she had to have have her husband cut her hair off last night, so Paul, I'm thinking of you remember. We are not our hair and you can always get another wish fast. All right to Paula, we'll see you tomorrow,