Why Black Women Don’T Wear Their Natural Hair

Hey guys, it's miss pretty and i'm back with talking about whatever god tells me to talk about so for today's video, as you can see by the title, we're going to be talking about why black women don't wear their natural hair or their own hair. Now i got a comment on i'm not even sure what video it was, but i think it was the kevin sammels video i don't know. I got like weird comments like weird little hate comments that i had to delete from that video, but i got a comment on that video and some guy was like one of the big reasons he finds black girls unattractive is because we wear weave and we don't Wear our own hair and da da da da now, as you can see my hair, it's in uh. I got like a bang situation with like a puff going on real hair um. I wear my hair. I wear uh twists braids wear twist, brace mainly for you know fun. I'M nigerian, i'm african. I grew up just doing that. That'S just what we do is cool um, but i feel like in the society in the society that we live in. I don't think black men should have to question why a black woman doesn't wear her natural hair, i'm not even gon na i'm, not even gon na hold you. There is a lot of discrimination on black hair now before i get into this to the the real issues, let me get into simple issues. If i go outside with my afro, do you know how many people will stare? Now, i'm not saying people can't look, because you know everybody's given eyes by god and everybody can stare, but i'm like not a shy person, but i'm like a introverted person kind of you don't know me. I don't really like people staring at me like that. It makes me very uncomfortable people, stare, random people will literally ask to touch it, not even kidding and that's like that's weird, i'm not an animal. Don'T don't ask to touch my hair. That'S weird um people question. If it's real people ask what do you use, and this is this? Isn'T people that you know i'm talking about going to the grocery store and a random person? You don't know and i feel like. Sometimes they think it's flattering, but it's like it. It could be depending on how they say it, but not really because, like you, don't know me and you're getting so close into my personal space and you don't even know if i you don't even know, if i want to give out hair tips right now, you Don'T even know if i'm having a good day, half of the time they don't even like, like ask like i'm not saying you got to be so concerned about me to ask: oh your hair's, so nice you're, so beautiful, that's cool, that's cute, but like it's not All the time that people want to be bothered, you know, and especially not every time they go out about the same [ __ ] about their hair like oh, it's so poofy, oh, it's so good! So it's so bad! It'S like it's annoying! Now, let's get into some of the bigger issues of why black women don't wear their natural hair corporate jobs? Now we know that corporate america froze and puffs and [ __ ] like that, is really not accepted. This is not a lot of people may think it is. Oh, it's accepted all they'll. Let you come in, i feel like looser. Hair types are accepted in corporate america. Maybe but if you got like type 4 hair, it's not really going to be accepted in corporate america unless you do slip back buns or slick up buns or unless you do some type of bun. That slick back. If you got a puff, if you try and do your afro they don't it don't really fly in corporate america, they look at you weird or they look at you as though you're one of those like hippie people or, like i don't know, you know what i Mean just you get you get stereotyped for actually wearing your own hair type, especially if they even do it with braids. Even protective styles. Aren'T cool in corporate america like you literally got to be relaxed straight hair like heat with heat straight hair, wherever, like you know, some naturals are just like heat trained, they don't really relax or you got to do the slick back buns every day, and sometimes people Are not trying to do that they trying to let their hair go free and if they can't do that, they get braids and stuff or they get wigs to compensate another place school. I know, there's been so many times in school. Oh my gosh, where i would do my hair and i would feel terrible literally terrible because someone's like, i can't see your puffs blocking or not even not even i can't see because i feel like that's that's a more valid reason. You know, or with some or the teacher the teacher will literally be like. Oh you did your edges like this today and it's like she's drawing hella attention to like my hair, and it's like. I don't want all that attention on my hair and it's like there will be white teachers saying this or like they always it's always about your hair, like for black girls. It'S always just about your hair. Everything'S led back to your hair, your hair, your this, their hair. This you hear that if your hair is long, it's like oh wow, how did you get it so long? Is that weave? If it's short, oh, my god, you ball headed hahaha like it's. Just always something negative with our hair like it's just always something so in order to have all of that, stop people just wear wigs, i mean. Why would i struggle to go through all the trauma, all the pain, all the unwanted hair, touching and hair pulling when i could just throw on a wig have that [ __ ] last for two months, maybe a month, two months? Why would i do that? Why would i go through all the struggle? If i could just get some braids and then nobody could talk about my hair? Well, braids is for school and you know for daily living, because i told you corporate america. They don't [ __ ] with braids either. It'S like to be a black woman with natural hair. You literally have to be only one way like if i, my hair, is type four okay. It looks big now kinda kinda, even kind of, even because my afro's not fully out kind of looks big. If i were to take this out, wet it and then come back on camera with my shrinkage, some of you would say i look unkept some of you would say: oh she doesn't know how to take care of her hair, just because it's in its fully natural State i have very coily curls people. Don'T take the time to understand this with black women they just throw it as you're unkept you're dirty in order to make my hair presentable for the masses. Do you know what i'm about to do after i filmed this video? I'M about to sit down with my shea butter, leave-in conditioner, cocoa, cream and oil just to twist it up so that it can stretch for the masses - and i know someone's gon na say well sweetheart, no one's telling you to do that. I know you're not telling me to do that, but society has already showed me that that's the only way they will accept my hair. So that's what i'm gon na do like you can't tell me you're not telling me to do that. Society has already put it in my head that that's what i got ta do that's what i got ta do and i know a lot of y'all natural girls can feel me. You feel like it's. What you got ta do to be presentable. It'S just what you got ta do and if you don't do it you're unkept literally. Let me tell you guys when i first went natural, i'm in i'm in a nigerian household right. I had long um relaxed hair, like my hair was really long and because my mom she had long relaxed hair too, and she was from nigeria. Her was relaxed. Then too um when i went natural in 2010, i had found natural 85. It was her. I have found natural 85 around the time she was blowing up. I don't know what possessed me literally. I took scissors, and i was like my hair is not curling. Up. Must be heat damage, or i said i think i said - must be relaxer damage. Let me cut half of it off on some [ __ ], like i just wanted to be natural. I just wanted to be like natural 85. I cut half of my hair off that [ __ ] was right here. When i tell you, i tried to do like bantu knots and little shits to make my hair like curly. When i tell you how much my mom used to fade me and i'm not even gon na blame my mom, because i know she was just - she knew how society would view me, because the way they faded me in school was worse. The way they faded me in church was worse just for me trying to live in my natural state, and i wasn't even fully natural. The pieces were still loose. They was just like. Oh, why are you trying to do that? You look like da da da da looks like a bird's nest, woman in my church asking my mom if something's wrong with me, because i want to be natural because i don't want to have a perm. This is our society. This is why black women don't wear their natural hair and yeah people may say it's changed much from that. It'S changed a lot from those times in like 2010 and [, __, ] and yeah. It has even my mom. She went natural now she natural we both natural. Now she hopped on she realized nah. She went natural because she started losing. She started losing her her edges, her edges started coming off with the relaxing. She knew she had to stop and i told her i said mom she should have hopped on a wave. She said you know what elbow i got. I'Ma hop on the wave, i'm hopping away with you, but before she hopped on a wave she she was. She was a relaxed, she was a relaxed shorty. She she wanted to be that that type of girl, you get what i'm saying, because she knew how society looks at you when you're natural, she told me, people are gon na, think you're crazy and they did. But now everybody's, like, oh, my god, your hair, it's society, man, it's society, man, i don't know the way, y'all view black woman's hair is crazy. It'S crazy, like it's crazy and now that i'm thinking about it, i don't even know how i did it. I don't even know why i wanted to be natural, knowing that the world was like this did. I know i feel like i knew because i had seen youtube. I had seen youtube vloggers talk about it, but i still just wanted to. I was like nah. I want to live in my natural self, like i feel like this relaxer [ __ ] is wrong, like i would say at a young age like this [ __ ] is wrong. I don't want it, i don't want it. I don't want it anymore like and i i never really liked straight hair like i feel like that's another reason why i wear like i've, worn sew-ins and i wore like a curly wig on my my last 21st birthday and stuff, but straight hair. I don't really. I don't really vibe with it. Maybe it's because that's not what i naturally have. I don't. I don't really [ __ ] with it kind of like i really don't [ __ ] with it. I don't know, but being natural all the time it comes with. So much like it really do come with so much the stress that if your style don't come out good in the morning people gon na look at you like you, crazy. If you have shrinkage, people won't look at you, like you, crazy. If your curls not like this people, won't look at you like you crazy, like i don't know, hey guys, i don't know. What'S going on my own phone today, it's not trying to. Let me finish this video, but anyway black man. If you want to see your woman start wearing their hair start, uplifting type 4, hair start uplifting type, 4a type, 4b and type 4c hair. That'S the hair that most black women that you guys say you need to wear their natural hair, that's the type of hair! They have the reason why they're not wearing it is because y'all uplift looser curl textures. You could say you don't you could say. Oh, i love a girl with naps. You may be the exception, but tell your friends. They need to start loving girls with naps too spread. The word spread. The message promise you. If y'all uplifted us, we will wear it more more. Girls will wear it a lot of girls, they say they don't do it for guys. Sometimes they really do. Sometimes they do it for the job. Sometimes they do it for men. You know everybody wants to feel attractive. Everybody wants to feel loved. Everybody wants to feel like they're, beautiful so start making your woman feel beautiful with their natural hair and they'll. Wear it more. Don'T just complain but yeah, that's all i had to say hope you guys like comment and subscribe and miss pretty out.