10 Things I Wish I Knew Before My #Tummytuck | ** Explicit (18+) & Natural Ponytail W/ Side Bang

I don't know: what's up y'all [ __ ] girl blush and i'm back with another [ __ ], video, okay, so i'm in a different space. Clearly, normally i record my sit-down videos upstairs but um. My daughter is up there playing with some chemicals, so i'm gon na just do it down here. Okay, so today is gon na, be something a little bit different. You know i normally do the vlog. I know the girls love those books, but i get so many questions about my um, my surgery. You know i get a lot of questions about them, so obviously, girls, wan na know, what's teeth. The girls wanna know. What'S to this tummy tuck like honey. What happened like did it hurt? Did you i wanted to take you to heal, like what's good, and so i'm here to tell y'all right 10 things that i wish my doctor would have told me before i got the tummy tuck i mean being hungry. I was gon na get it anyway. You know what i'm saying, but um, it's just like stuff that i feel like i wanted to call him and ask like is this? Is this normal? Am i supposed to be doing this like? Should i call like? Am i overreacting? Am i under reacting? I just had so many different emotions around that time, and so so i was certainly scared um, you know, but knowing these things would have helped me to ease my mind. So if y'all want to know 10 things about tummy tuck that um that you should probably know stay tuned for this video, oh also sidebar, my hair is like i don't know what the [ __ ], so i'm gon na. So i think what i'm gon na do today is like a cute little updo. I don't know so. I'M gon na use my flat irons and it's gon na kind of be like a get ready with me, because y'all need to do my hair as well. So number one number one when it comes down to getting the surgery. This is a big surgery and if you was like me, i was a [ __ ] panicky ass mess. I was searching desks. I was searching. What could go wrong and granted? You need to educate yourself, but it got to be like an obsession with me, so you're gon na have them second thoughts. Number one baby tenth out of these ten things that i want y'all to know about this tummy tuck surgery, baby, you gon na, have some second thoughts, you're going to have some second thoughts, you're gon na be like. Why am i doing this? I could just do it the regular way. What if something goes wrong? What if i die like? Basically, i'm just partner bang out y'all, because i want to have like a um, the pinker updo with a bang, so i started obsessing over [ __ ]. I was obsessing over the again, the the wrists, the depths um. What all could go wrong: [, __, ], tummy, tucks, tummy tucks going wrong baby. Listen, you name it. I searched it. Okay. I already had some apprehension going into the surgery, but that is perfectly i'm here to tell you guys: that's perfectly normal, i'm just gon na roll this up into a little curl. While i do the rest of my hair, but it's perfectly normal to have those second thoughts, that's that's that if you don't have second thoughts, i'm starting to look at you like um, why are you waiting? I don't take your thoughts. Why are you just so confident? You know what i'm saying: that's a normal human occurrence so anyway, so i'm just going to take this edge style, booster and just and just like, hit my edges with it. I'M going to just parse some edges out over here, because this is going to be the side. That'S going to be kind of like out all right that and then my sideburns, all right, oh okay! So i'm gon na just put the edge booster! So then, as i get the surgery and everything i go home, you know i get home. I got all my family there with me. So of course i have plenty plenty of support, but you know how to use once you get surgery. Have your family there for that day and the next day everybody kind of disappear. So anyway, i'm like the next day. I tried to get up and get out of bed when i went to sit up. Oh my god, my my stomach was burning so bad. My stomach and my back, it was just horrible. That brings me to number two honey. You'Re gon na need some help. You'Re gon na need help. Now granny is different degrees of health. Some people may need more help than others. Obviously um i needed probably a moderate amount of health and i've had four c-sections and people like. Oh, if you have c-sections you'll, be able to do good with that which i didn't do bad, but it was definitely a difference from my c-section, so um you're gon na need some help, make sure somebody's there with you. There'S somebody there who can assist you um you're gon na need, help that's number two. So then moving forward um, as i was doing my day-to-day we talking a week after the tummy tuck we post up two weeks, post-op um. There were times that i swelled a lot like my damn stomach, looked like a little tire around it, because that little area of my stomach about this, this wide in diameter around my stomach, was just swollen. You know what i'm saying, so it would protrude just a little bit, not nothing crazy. I mean but enough for me to know like okay, something happened there. You know so again, i'm one year post-op and yeah. I do swell. I do swell it's not nearly as bad as it was before, but i definitely do swell um, especially if you're a wine drinker like me, especially when you drink wine, you're gon na really you're gon na really swell number three. I wish somebody told me that, like i'm a swell six, i'm gon na say six months to a year post-op, because i'm one year out and some days, i do swell yeah you're, going to swell there's going to be some days where you're going to swell some Days are going to be worse than others uh. The key to it is to know your triggers like what triggered me to swell was again um alcohol and eating salty food. That did it for me all right now, moving forward um, so some weeks have passed. Sex is a big deal like we have to know like um. When can i do that? When can i be active in that in that manner? What are my directions as far as that? So anyway, the doctor told me three to four weeks right off the bat he's like try not to be um intimate for three to four weeks because you're using those core muscles during sex, and you kind of want to just rest that area. You know what i'm saying and let it fuse let it do what it's trying to do so, of course we waited, but then the first time we went into it, it felt different. So that brings me to number four surgery and again it's not gon na happen. Like that for everybody, but the surgery could very well change the location of your vagina hate to speak. I mean we grown. Everybody here is grown, so we all speaking like this, like whatever we grow so like the location of the vagina, might change, and so then that leads into like y'all sex being different um. It just takes you into a whole. Another setup, like you, know, um also your masturbation. I don't know what you guys as habits are, but but mass was different. What was different about? It was and okay. So let me address the location of my vagina first, what was different about it was he took um. He took the the top the bottom of my stomach. Okay, he took the bottom of my stomach and he pulled it down and then he took the top part of my vagina, the skin there. So basically he pulled there's my stomach. He cut off the excess, he pulled the stomach down. He pulled the vagina up and stitched the two together, so um, not the shape the location. It changed it from like really in the in the middle to like just a tiny bit anchored upward. So the first time i was we were intimate. I was like put it: what the [ __ ] just don't feel like. You normally feel you know, but um it wasn't a good or bad. It was just different. It was like. I don't remember this being like this. You know what i'm saying this is different. Masturbation change. Okay, let me address that during that time. Okay, you can't be active, i'm a woman i got needs like you know. I don't have to go into that, but what was happening to me was on orgasm. My stomach muscles were contracting. It was staying contracted for a long time and after a while it would release you know what i'm saying like, of course, during regular orgasm. You know you have some contractions, but this was causing them to stay contracted and then release so the first time i tried to to um participate in that i got nervous, i'm like what the [ __ ] is happening to me. Like i got i, i was scared that i wasn't so i don't know. I was scared that i wasn't supposed to do it or that i had messed something up or i don't know what the [ __ ]. I thought. So i immediately called him. You know what i did. I called him like um. Is this supposed to happen like this, and he didn't tell me no, but he didn't tell me yeah. He basically told me like it's a lot of stuff. That'S gon na be crazy right now, so this is my first time doing this hairstyle. I don't know what the [ __ ] i'm doing, but i'm just gon na kind of play it by ear and do what i feel like looks cute on me as time started to go on. I felt like i didn't know what my results. I knew what my results should look like, because i had been watching people that were post doc, tummy tuck a year two years five years, so i knew what the results would look like eventually, but going through that process. I didn't realize that i was still looking weird when i go back to pictures of myself um throughout the healing process. I felt good, but i still looked weird. I still had like a little like i don't know like a little pooch in the front kind of like i don't know how to explain it like. I still had some work to do on the healing side. I guess i'm gon na put it like that, like i wasn't all the way like a honey with the healing, but you can tell me [ __ ] baby soon, as my stomach was flat, i was i was out there in the streets. Okay, so it wasn't like i was missing and you know like [ __ ]. I was still doing what i was gon na. Do you know, but i was just still in the healing process. So, okay, so number six. You will look different as time when you first come out of surgery. You'Re gon na feel, like you look good and you are gon na look better, but you're still gon na be swollen. It'S still gon na be water weight on you. It'S still going to be just swelling of the tissues. Just all the extra fluid is just as time goes on, your results, settle the fluid dissipates and you just look even better than you did before it takes them months, sometimes years to heal, so you're gon na. Take you're gon na have to take a little while to heal and you have to be patient with your body like over time. Um. I listened to my body. I paid attention to my body and what is this [ __ ]? You know this is some sillier [ __ ], i'm probably just gone. I mean i'ma just kind of leave it like this honestly do my edges and keep it moving. It was a new process for me, so i didn't know what the [ __ ] to expect pay attention to your body. You'Re gon na look different, don't hit the panic button calm down most of the time, it's just our man playing with us. You know what i'm saying um, so i wish somebody told me that honey you're gon na look different afterwards. You may not look the same. You know you. You may not look exactly like how that picture. Your wish pick you're gon na look a little different and then all the time your body is gon na settle into what it's gon na be. So so, then, again as time went on, you know my body got better and everything my eating habits changed, because obviously you have a post diet, a post-surgery diet to follow. So i couldn't be eating all the same [ __ ] that i was eating before my appetite changed, so that turned into again me eating one meal a day or two meals. You know if i was lucky two meals a day and just having my little snacks - and i was okay with that i was full. I was full. You know. I wasn't like starving anything like that. So that's tip number seven, your appetite! Your appetite may change back. You know you may look at some [ __ ] that you looked at before, like oh, that looks so good. You may look at it now like. I don't want that. [ __ ] like it's too much, it's too much food. I don't want it! I'M good! Now i don't like being full like that. I hate it, like i hate being full. I like to be fed and satisfied, but like that full, like i ate too much filler, i can't stand it. So that's tip number, seven honey. Your appetite is bound to change. Like the way you eat what you crave, your appetite may decrease most people's decrease because obviously they're doing this to your stomach um or your or your abdominal space, i'm not gon na, say your stomach because they don't touch your stomach, your actual stomach, but you may Not want as much food as you used to want before you may. You may opt for smaller portions, because you don't have that space now you know and it was a struggle. I had to learn how my body wanted me to eat after the surgery. I wanted to just scarf down everything, because that's what i was used to doing, but my body wanted me to take my time like okay, don't eat as much calm down. You know: don't eat crazy, that's number! Seven! Your appetite is gon na change, maybe more than likely it will not everybody disclaimer, not. Everybody is gon na experience every single thing on this list. Some people may experience one thing: some people may experience other things. This is me just giving the things that i personally experienced going through my post-op process um. That'S part of the reason why i lost some of the weight that i lost. Listen, my digestion, my body digesting what i've eaten was so loud like i will be sitting there and my stomach would be like it was to the point where um. If i was out, i could hear my own digestion, like sometimes my husband could hear it too. Like damn natural stomach doing that - and it wouldn't be because i was hungry, it would be more because my body was digesting the food, but i guess because there's not that that there covering that area, you can hear things better like. Obviously, you can also take through a small wall versus a really thick one. You know what i'm saying i'm trying to say so, i'm measuring myself every day, i'm making sure i'm i'm staying on top of like my progress so that when i go to the doctor, i can report my progress to him and he can tell me yeah you're Doing a great job, you know everything is doing what it's supposed to do, but the reality of it was um everything so unpredictable in that time, like any progress is good progress, but the progress you may think is progress. The doctor may be like you moving too fast. You know what i'm saying so when i went to the doctor for the first time afterward, i was 199 going into surgery when i went to the doctor for the first time after i was 197., i'm like honey. You cut seven pounds worth of fat off why the [ __ ]. Am i only two pounds less than what i went in there as but here's the thing after surgery, your body is healing. The water is chasing the salt. The swelling is happening. You know you just your body is trying to get regulated, so you may not lose as much weight as you think. You'Re gon na lose right in the beginning, like i was very disappointed because i'm like, why did i do this? If i'm not gon na lose weight or inches, but give yourself time over time, your body will contour more. If the surgeon is a good surgeon and he did his [ __ ] right, your body's gon na contour more at first, it feels like swollen thick tissue over time. The tissue is gon na thin out. It'S gon na just feel normal, like a normal stomach. I wish somebody would have told me, but they didn't, and so that's why i'm telling y'all, because these are things that i went through and nobody told me what was up so i'm going to um get a little um a little dolled up and then i'm gon Na come back with a whole finished, look and i'll give y'all my number 10 tip on what the [ __ ]. I wish them. Doctors would have told me that they didn't tell me okay, okay i'll, be back. So basically i did my makeup. I did my hair hair looks cute. It'S a cute little like one or two day style like it's getting very much natural effortless like stop playing with me luxury um. What you're trying to do you know what i'm saying. So this is the finish makeup. Look you guys so anyway, back to what i was saying cause my battery's gon na go dead on my camera, but listen i get out of first one through nine number. Two is in the end. If your doctor is good - and he did a good job, you're gon na feel so much better about yourself. Okay, you're gon na feel better about yourself. You'Re gon na feel better about yourself in clothes, you're, going to feel better about yourself in um in workout, where you're just going to feel better about yourself and lingerie you're, going to feel better about yourself and underwear. It'S just going to be a whole different vibe, because you don't have that blocking you. You don't have that thing. That'S subconsciously in your mind. That'S bothering you, even though you don't want to exhibit that it's bothering you. It really does bother you and, if anything like me, my stomach bothered the [ __ ] out of me, and i i played it good. You know, and i did what i needed to do. I was cute. I want my clothes regardless, but babe they're still me that stomach bother me for sure. So i hope this video helped somebody. Those are my top 10 tips that i wish that somebody would have told me before i got this [ __ ] surgery, so that i would know going into the surgery what i was dealing with. Also this is a learning space. We none of us have been through this before, except for those of us that are on the other side and it's up to us to teach and educate everybody coming up um on. You know what you might feel, what what is the possibility of you feeling, like it's very, very important that we educate each other. So again, this is a safe space with me um. I have lots, i'm an open book. If anybody has any questions comments, you know you can go ahead and comment below. You can ask me a question. You can follow. My instagram it'll probably be right here you can follow my twitter or you know you can just dm me wherever and ask me any type of questions as a pertaining citizen. I am an open book, baby. Okay, so i hope you all enjoyed this video um. Like comment and subscribe for more videos like this y'all, let me know what other type of videos y'all want to see, make sure y'all go check out. My tummy tuck vlog um video days, one through seven, make sure y'all take check out my one year: post-op um tummy, tuck vlog and then this from the top ten tips that i wish somebody would have told me before i got this tummy tuck i'll. Just wait. Y'All, but i got a little one-two number today. You know i'm saying a little yeah. I know your girl's trying to bring the content every single week, sometimes two times a week, depending on how i feel and yeah. Thank you for watching y'all