Why I Let Myself Go... | Chit-Chat/Grwm | 4X4 Closure Bob Wig

Hey guys, how are you all doing so in today's video i'm going to just chit chat with you guys and talk to you guys about letting yourself go. You know, after you have kids or just letting yourself go in general, but basically letting yourself go as a mom. You know after you've had kids, and you know i'm also going to be showing you this hair, it's from larry, my hair. Do you like it? It looks beautiful, so i want to show you how i install a ladies wig. While i chat with you guys, okay. So if you would like to hear my gist, then just keep on watching, and this is the wig. It comes in this bag, so i'll just quickly remove this from the bag yeah. So that's the wig yep, so this is the inside. So this is the four by four closure, like i'm so excited about this. So this is the wig cap in place, and then let me just wear the wig on my hair before i you know, go ahead to style it and also flat iron, it okay, yeah, it's quite transparent. That means it's even easier than i thought. I thought it was going to be easy, but it's even easier than i thought anyway. So let me just remove it now, cut off the lace and also pluck this pattern a bit so that it will be a little bit more. I don't realistic why you're faking them don't understand why you're safe? Oh all, right guys, so this place is actually quite dark, so i took it to where you guys can see what i'm doing. Okay yeah! I also went ahead to bobbies with my straightener. So this is the hair. After you know doing that yeah, it looks really good, really really good. Anyway, i'm still going to straighten it more, but let me just quickly do my makeup. While i discuss with you guys the topic for today, which is why women let themselves go, why women let themselves go basically after they get married after they have kids, you know um yeah, so i'm going in with my colourpop foundation, i'm actually cleaning my face. So yeah, when you are first um, you know when you are single, it's easy to judge marriage, women and say what happens to this woman. When we saw her when we first knew her, she used to be very hot. You know she used to be a baby girl. What happened to her? She just let herself go. How could she let herself go, you know and then, when you're married - and you have wait, am i like you, don't have kids, okay you'll, be wondering why those who have kids have let themselves go when you have one child you'll, be wondering why the woman with Two children. Ah it's not the same. I have children, she has. I mean i have a child, she has children, so why is her own different? Why is she like this? You know um the one with two we judging the one with three. Basically, everybody judges, everybody. Okay, it's just human nature. It'S just the way human beings operate. Everybody judges, everybody, but one thing a lot of people don't know is that once you start having children, a lot of things become more difficult. Okay, actually, when your children are still very little, it becomes very difficult to keep up with appearances. Let me put it that way: it becomes very difficult like actually, when you don't have that much help. Those of us in the industry was even looking. We have you know: um, our mothers are around our in-laws are around. We have house helps we have family around, they can quickly drop your kids out. If you need to do something, you know we're actually lucky some of us in nigeria. Most of us usually have good support system here in nigeria, so it is easy to just be wondering. Ah, why is this woman? Why is this woman doing that? If her own is different like like? Are you the first to have children? You know so for a lot of women, it's not even about the physical stress, it's about the mental stress they are under. You know a lot of women just like they're, finding it hard to even survive the day. Not talk of you know actually trying to look good on top of all of that. So it's really not easy, and this thing happens gradually. It happens in such a way that you might not really know that you're letting yourself go until you look back at where you're coming from and just like, hey like what happened, you might think yeah. It'S not that bad. It'S not that bad! I don't really let myself go, i'm just you know, i'm just taking my time or i just don't like makeup the way i used to like it. I don't just like making my head really like my priorities have changed. You know yeah, that's what we all tell ourselves, but yeah, sometimes, actually you just letting yourself go like you can't really keep up with appearances while trying to take care of your home take care of your kids. It becomes a lot um, i'm using l.a girl yeah. I'M using elega for the longest time like if you follow social media. If you follow what society, how society looks, looks down on women who, let themselves go you're, going to feel depressed, okay, you're going to feel sad you're going to um you're going to have this pressure on you to always look a certain way, i'm so lucky that I don't really have that pressure on me, not because i i still look how i used to look but because the people around me they understand, like you know, but once in our ways, advice women is please take your time. Okay, do what you have to do to put you in the mental space to be able to look good for yourself? Okay, don't put looking good in the forefront like if you are not looking good because you are stressed out, you are going through. You know emotional and mental stress solve the emotional mental stress failures before you try and look good okay. If looking good is going to help you solve the because some people, when they you know, try and do their makeup and dress up, they feel better about themselves. If that's, what is going to help you feel better about yourself, then please go ahead, but if you're just doing to keep up with appearances, almost like you're putting plaster on a on your rotting wall or a rotten foundation, you can put plaster there, then you're just Doing yourself, you know so take your time like don't allow society to pressure you into feeling like, like my own worst past. Like ah, are you not seeing your mates? Are you not seeing your meat a lot of women that i know that after they had kids, they almost uh disappeared yeah, they almost disappeared, like you, won't see, pictures of them on social media. They hardly post two days to post a lot before they hardly post, and these are people that i even posted, even while my so it's not like. Oh that's, gon na stop them even more married. They are posting, but i thought they said having kids, you don't see their pictures anymore, um, you don't even see them. Some people even don't go out as much as they used to some. Just some just go back into their shell. You know go back into each other, you know the rather they'll rather be in that shell than actually you know, come out looking the way they look. So my sister trust me: the struggle is everywhere: it's not only you everybody's struggling that struggle and when i see women who every time they're looking prim and proper hair on point face on points, make-up, nails disappointing, just like sister. How is your all working for you? Like show us the way, now you guys i'm done with my makeup: okay, yeah so um as i was saying when some women actually are done with you know actively raising their kids when their kids are older, when their kids no longer need them. Two for seven, a lot of women actually bounce back a lot of women actually get their bodies back, get themselves back. You know get get back into. You know the game. I don't know what color is this? Let me just call it the game. A lot women actually get back into the game, seeing the changes that are happening to us as women, it's a little bit harder for us as youtubers, you know, or people in front of the camera. Anyway, when you see it's happening to you live, you know, even looking at old videos of yourself, you hey hey, you will just be like what what because sometimes i i even get recommended my old videos. You know i get recommended by. Obviously, when i see them, i'm just like eh, how did that change so much has that changed so much so yeah. My dear, is not easy on a motherhood. Okay, let's blame it on the motherhood but yeah. To be honest, it's mostly caused by motherhood uh. Let me just straighten this front party yeah. I think i'm done straightening this hair. You guys like. How do i look? How do i look? Do i look like a baby girl? Do i look like a baby girl yeah? I know i look good okay, baby girls for life, okay, um yeah, so like i was saying about letting yourself go and stuff like that is sometimes inevitable for some women, so women have to let themselves go so that they can. You know achieve some other things in their life. You know, while some others, you know they are able to balance it well, so any which any side you fall on the spectrum. Okay, just you know, embrace it and enjoy the journey and you know enjoy the process. While it lasts and yeah, if you are having emotional and physical stress that is causing it, then just try and eliminate some of those stresses and try - and you know make out time for yourself to actually do some things to make. You feel and look better because even as a mom, you know looking and feeling better actually helps us take care of your kids and your family better yeah. So that is just what i wanted to chat with you guys about why i laid this wig. Do you guys, like this hair, but look at me, look at me. How do i look anyway? Yeah! That'S it for this video. Thank you guys so much for watching. If you like this video, please give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel and i'll see you all in my next video bye, guys